Someone Asked Women How They’ve Destroyed A Man’s Confidence, And 41 Savage Ladies Didn’t Hold Back
Confidence is a fragile thing... It can take years to build yet mere seconds to completely obliterate. Sometimes, it's a major social or work failure that destroys your confidence. But other times, it's a single sentence, delivered with the weight of a wrecking ball wearing a dash of red lipstick. Especially if your ego was stitched together by vibes, delusion and one solid compliment you received back in 2013.
Someone recently asked women, "What’s the one thing you did that DESTROYED a man’s confidence?" And "savage" doesn't even begin to describe some of the responses. From plain and deliberately cruel to accidental psychological warfare, these girls have tongues that could cut through cold steel. It's possible they didn't just hurt feelings but triggered full personality reboots, and left men staring at a blank wall for 30 minutes while their souls tried to buffer.
Buckle up, take a deep breath and prepare for a bumpy ride of emotional damage. Bored Panda has put together a list of the most brutal answers for you to scroll through while you hug your own fragile ego. Whether these guys deserved it or not, we may never know. But if not, we hope the girls go to the naughty corner to think long and hard about what they've done.
We also unpack the results of a few surveys that revealed surprising rates of overconfidence in some men. Hint: 13% of those polled believed they could land a plane without any prior experience. Yes, really, Susan! You'll find all that info between the images.
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Are men becoming too confident for their own good? Some people seem to think so, thanks to the results of a 2024 Continental Tyres survey that revealed "alarming" levels of overconfidence in Australian men.
To put it into perspective, 13% of the guys polled believed they could land an airplane with no previous experience. Yes, really... And the same percentage said they could take on an elite athlete in their professional sport and come out with a pretty good chance of defeating them.
77% of men surveyed think they are better drivers than women. No surprises there... But here's a kicker: 27% of guys genuinely believe they could fight a horse and come out the champion. 5% said they'd win against a crocodile, while 4% were confident enough to take on a gorilla.
He said "you act like a man" I said " then watch and learn maybe you'll become one too."
My favourite line in Aliens: "Vasquez, have you ever been mistaken for a man?"asked by a male soldier. Reply:" No. Have you?" instant burn!
Of the 3,005 males surveyed, 77% said they were above-average drivers, with only 22% claiming to be average, and just 1% admitting they were bad drivers. But wait, there's more... 44% of those polled suggested that they could drive a semi-trailer truck if necessary.
Speaking to Australia's Channel 9, advertising executive Dee Madigan called the Continental Tyres Australia report "the least surprising survey result" she's ever seen.
When he told me “you have no taste“ and I said “that explains how I ended up with you.“
“Men can score higher in the illusion of control bias, which is when we overestimate our ability to control outcomes that are largely determined by external factors or chance,” said Blokes Psychology men’s psychologist Craig Hyde-Smith.
“Research has also shown that testosterone can be linked to increased risk-taking behavior," he added. "Finally, social norms and expectations can increase pressure on men to appear confident and competent, and this can translate into overconfidence.”
When I got cheated on I said "when you admitted to sleeping with someone else- I was genuinely surprised it was a woman" he did not appreciate that.
He told me my breasts were too small one time, I said I know right! They're smaller than yours.
A separate 2025 YouGov survey found that men are more likely to say they're above average in dozens of areas, compared to women. The company focused on 60 areas when conducting the poll... It included things like time management, athletic ability, nurturing, tidiness, cooking, courage and more.
"Men are more likely than women to say they are above average in most of the 60 areas, but the differences generally are small," notes the YouGov site. "On average, 2 percentage points more men than women rate themselves as above average."
For someone who sleeps around a lot, I thought you'd be better in bed.
No, it's just that he can't keep a partner because he's shît in bed....
The YouGov poll revealed that among the biggest differences between men and women were that 36% of men say their mechanical ability is far above average or somewhat above average, while only 17% of women said the same. 30% of men believe their athletic ability is above average and only 14% of women ticked this box.
Men also appeared more confident when it came to mathematical abilities (40% vs. 25%), self-discipline (52% vs. 37%), and intelligence (63% vs. 49%).
A 3rd survey conducted in Britain recently yielded similar results... The research from Ipsos revealed distinct gender differences in self-perceived abilities, with men coming out more confident than their female counterparts across various tasks.
All respondents were given a series of potential scenarios and were asked whether they could or could not perform certain tasks. Get this: More than a third of men believe that they could land a passenger plane if guided by air traffic control in an emergency, compared to 24% of women.
A dude sent a [revealing pic], I asked "is it supposed to look like that?" He deleted it immediately.
Better to accuse him of sending a pic of a boy, and you'll report him for child pōrn....
Half of the men polled believe that they could score a goal against a Premier League goalkeeper, compared to 10% of women. 37% of men said they could referee a Premier League football game, but only 10% of women said the same.
The survey also found that 16% of men believe that they could complete a marathon without training, compared to 9% of women. 22% of men were confident they could compete in a Formula 1 Grand Prix without crashing, and 36% said they could get elected as an MP in their local area.
Him: "You'd look prettier if you smiled" Me"You first" (He smiles) Me: "Good boy" (walks away without smiling).
Were you this angry before you started losing your hair?
You talkin a lot for an unsaved number ...
Arcady Royzen getting mighty upset at every post. Must have had his confidence destroyed by a woman at some point, too.
26% of the guys considered themselves good enough to land a leading role in a Hollywood film, compared to 18% of women. And 24% of men firmly believed that they could record a number-one hit song, compared to 14% of women.
A total of 1,028 adults aged 18-75 from across Great Britain took part in the online survey, which was conducted from November 13 to 14, 2025.
You have really big feelings! Let's use our inside voice.
I'm not interested in being disrespected by someone that I already lowered my standards for.
"What stands out in our latest research is that men consistently exhibit higher confidence in their capabilities, which raises questions about the underlying factors contributing to this disparity. Are societal norms and traditional gender roles continuing to influence self-perception?" pondered Peter Cooper, Research Director at Ipsos in the UK.
"It's intriguing to note how even in tasks traditionally perceived as gender-neutral, these differences persist," he added.
We both need to date other men.
Men's overconfidence is a global phenomenon, it would seem... A few years ago, a researcher called Kayla Jordan at the University of Waikato in New Zealand asked men whether they could land a plane in an emergency without crashing it.
"Again, the levels of over-confidence were striking," reported the BBC. "Half of the people she asked thought they had a one-in-five-chance of landing the plane successfully. And when those questioned were shown a three-minute video of a trained pilot landing a plane, they became even more confident, rating their chances at 30%. A quarter of respondents went even further saying they put their chances at 60%."
If you're gonna scream in my face at least brush your teeth first.
When asked, "what that mouth do?" I said, "hurt your feelings."
"If you have to keep telling yourself you're a good man, you're probably not a good man."
You're here because I want you here, not because I need you here. You need me way more than I need you.
Him: "Will you fix your problem"
Me: "absolutely" *blocked him.
He said "it's over" and I replied with "it never started."
Your chin is not strong enough to speak to me in that tone
Have to say, I don't like any of these. Stand up to rudeness and aggression, sure. But trying to put down men because they're short or going bald, or accusing them of being unattractive in some way ... I don't like body shaming when it's done to women or to men
You argue longer than you last
"There's no need for me to wish you any bad luck, you are who you are and that's more than enough ". He got mad.
"So what do you bring to the table?" Me: "... listen, what are you lacking that you need from a woman..?"
If ya'll want to see an immature grown man throw a larger fit than a 2 year old who wasn't allowed to eat a random chicken nugget from under a restaurants table say this: "i lowered my standards for you, and you still couldn't reach the bar"
For your own safety you should act like your hairline and take a few steps back...
When he said he wasn't ready for anything serious I said, "oh thank God, I didn't know how I was going to tell you that!"
I'm not offended. I'm just really embarrassed for you.
"You keep coming back obviously I'm not the problem."
"Was the barber rushing?"
A dude said: You have to listen and respect me! Me: You have never successfully achieved or accomplished anything in your life I don't listen to pigeons!
It's hard to think your mom took 9 months to make a joke.
"Look I've left better men for less" he was trying to get back together.
I could insult you but Mother Nature beat me to it.
"Why should I lower my standards so you can have a chance " also "for someone with your stature you shouldn't be so comfortable talking down to others." Not mine but favorites.
Him: we should stop seeing each other Me: when did we start?
"You're balding" ends the convo really quick.
"you're not husband material"
8 seconds don’t make you a cowboy
Confident for a man that can't reach the top shelf.
My mustache and beard are better than yours, so no, i'll not be taking your opinion.
I hear you saying you're looking for less and I wish you well in finding that.
Told him that his tampon string was hanging out.
Some of these insults or burns are equating having a quality of feminity or being a female as bad. It's weird to insult a man with this. Goes too far, I guess I'm saying
"Omg totally fine you forgot to text me back. Your competition didn't."
"Do you need googly eyes for your receding hairline?"
A guy asked me don't you like anybody here (cause he liked me)" I told him "no because everybody here is just like you neither have a face and nor a personality."
These are horrible and cruel, mostly. If you don't like a bloke, walk away. I don't see anything funny or clever about being unkind. Would we think these sorts of comments were so smart if they were addressed to women?
They are clearly meant for horrible men - unless you think that an actually good person would require a reply to an unsolicited d/ck pic.
Load More Replies...Could you imagine half of this language under any other context on this site? Or the intent redirected at women? If men are so cruel by the judgement of this site; shouldn't the women be teaching us to be better? Men go bald, it's a very masculine process and look. And what exactly is wrong with men sleeping with men? This post is exactly the reason BP has become a cesspool of non cohesive ideals simply aimed at shaming anyone and everyone that may read it. But no profanity! You're all unique and beautiful; have you considered cosmetic surgery in Turkey? All men are a homogeneous train-wreck of damaging personality traits, let's use verbal and emotional abüse to drive the point home. Obtuse Panda. Robyn, I'm so sorry that you're such an exceedingly poor content producer.
About half of the posts are the kind of things people say in bars when giving rejections, or when there's a bad breakup. The other half had comments from men refuting the insults as if they themselves were the recipients. If you come into a post that stings, you can ignore it and move on. You're gonna be ok.
Bleugh - these are just plain juvenile. It's not male v female or vice versa, it's toddlers hurling insults.
Well, I haven't had a huge number of partners, but none have insulted me on parting, however difficult it may have been. I guess I can be happy about that, reading some of these devastating insults!
I have two big sisters, so I had no confidence to destroy by the time I hit kindergarten
After reading your multiple comments I agree, what DO you know?
Load More Replies...These are horrible and cruel, mostly. If you don't like a bloke, walk away. I don't see anything funny or clever about being unkind. Would we think these sorts of comments were so smart if they were addressed to women?
They are clearly meant for horrible men - unless you think that an actually good person would require a reply to an unsolicited d/ck pic.
Load More Replies...Could you imagine half of this language under any other context on this site? Or the intent redirected at women? If men are so cruel by the judgement of this site; shouldn't the women be teaching us to be better? Men go bald, it's a very masculine process and look. And what exactly is wrong with men sleeping with men? This post is exactly the reason BP has become a cesspool of non cohesive ideals simply aimed at shaming anyone and everyone that may read it. But no profanity! You're all unique and beautiful; have you considered cosmetic surgery in Turkey? All men are a homogeneous train-wreck of damaging personality traits, let's use verbal and emotional abüse to drive the point home. Obtuse Panda. Robyn, I'm so sorry that you're such an exceedingly poor content producer.
About half of the posts are the kind of things people say in bars when giving rejections, or when there's a bad breakup. The other half had comments from men refuting the insults as if they themselves were the recipients. If you come into a post that stings, you can ignore it and move on. You're gonna be ok.
Bleugh - these are just plain juvenile. It's not male v female or vice versa, it's toddlers hurling insults.
Well, I haven't had a huge number of partners, but none have insulted me on parting, however difficult it may have been. I guess I can be happy about that, reading some of these devastating insults!
I have two big sisters, so I had no confidence to destroy by the time I hit kindergarten
After reading your multiple comments I agree, what DO you know?
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