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Lady Expects Sis To Babysit 4 Kids For Free, Uses The ‘Family Card’ After She Demands £120 For It
If a relative asks you to babysit for them, would you charge money for it? Okay, but what if it’s regular babysitting? In fact, many people do believe that any work in this world should be paid for – even when it comes to your siblings.
Well, the user u/Meeky_Geeky, the narrator of our story today, has recently been preferring to charge their older sister for babysitting her five kids – and thinks it’s a fairly reasonable fee. However, as it recently turned out, the sister actually has a completely different point of view…
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The author of the post has an elder sister, a mom of 5, and babysits for her regularly but usually charges her something for this
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The kids usually come to the author’s home, since their parents throw a huge, loud party with buds at home, so it’s an additional load on the electric bills and food
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Recently, the sis asked the sibling to babysit once more and offered around $160 overall – but then said she can’t afford it
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When the author said they wouldn’t babysit for free, the sister attempted to guilt trip them into free babysitting – and got mad as she didn’t succeed
The Original poster (OP) says their older sister has five kids, and from time to time, she brings them to her sibling for babysitting. They charge money, because having extra guests with all their tablets and consoles increases their electric bills dramatically. The sis can’t invite the author to her place, because any evening without kids for them actually results in a noisy party with booze and loud friends.
This time, the sister offered the OP and their partner £120 (~$160), which they readily accepted. Then, a few days later, she called again and said the offer was rescinded because they couldn’t afford that amount of money. However, on the day she was supposed to go partying with her husband, the sis reached out to the author again and literally demanded they babysit for free.
The original poster declined the idea because they and their partner already had other plans for the day – and because they knew perfectly well that if they gave in to the persuasion once, it would become their “immediate responsibility” in the sister’s eyes. The sis, however, declared that “they’re all family,” and that relatives should support each other.
The author frankly explained that if the sister really needed babysitting that day, she should try to hire a professional babysitter and compare their rates. These arguments had no effect on the outraged woman, and the original poster simply decided to take this online seeking support from netizens.
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The question of whether babysitting for relatives should be free is actually as old as time, and many people have different answers here. However, experts today note that it’s in fact highly acceptable to demand money for regular babysitting, especially if you’re truly strapped for cash.
“Providing relief by taking care of someone’s children for free can be monumental for young families, but the reality is that some people can’t afford it,” Scary Mommy quotes Lizzie Post, co-president at the Emily Post Institute. “It’s fine to negotiate and talk about it.” But if we’re actually talking about negotiating, how low or high is the price the OP is asking?
Well, according to Childcare.co.uk, the average babysitting rate in the UK today is between £6 and £10 per hour ($8-$13). So, even if we ignore the fact that the original poster was asking for 4 kids to be babysat and fed, that’s at least twice the daily rate the sister originally offered. In other words, the author is 100% right. Period.
According to the overwhelming majority of commenters, the OP did everything correctly, and if their sis truly wanted to have some free time with her spouse, she should’ve either forked out for a professional babysitter or changed her weekend plans completely. Manipulating relatives is completely unacceptable, the responders are pretty much sure. So do you, our dear readers, also agree with this?
Most commenters also claimed that the author did everything right – and urged them to not give in to any sister’s manipulations
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KatSaidThat 2 hours ago
If you can't afford to get a sitter, you can't afford to drink and do d***s. The end.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 2 hours ago (edited)
OP's sister could avoid one trip to the bars/clubs and thus "save up" enough money to pay OP to babysit for the sister's NEXT trip out to go clubbing. (partial /s but also not really /s.) In reality, OP's sister needs to realize that the clubbing "drink yourself into a blackout" lifestyle is NO LONGER ACCEPTABLE once you have ONE child, let alone FIVE. Sorry, sis, but you're not 21 and unencumbered any more - you are responsible for the children YOU had. It sounds stupid, but back when I struggled with addíction, I got clean/sober for my cat. I realized I can't take care of my helpless dependent - my cat - who I am entirely responsible for - if I'm high or drunk. So yep, I got clean for my cat (coming up on six years clean!) OP's sister infuriates me for the fact that she can't get clean/sober for her FIVE CHILDREN. Bruh, if I could do it for a cat, a parent can do it for their human children. (Caveat: yes, I got professional help. Addícts need professional help. Most can't get clean/sober on their own. I'm not saying sister should just magically get sober.)
James016 2 hours ago
You are right to say no. Regarding the pre payment meters, the unit charges on these are a LOT higher than if paying by Direct Debit for example and someone on a pre payment meter will go through their credit a lot quicker with 4 kids there.
arthbach 2 hours ago
Sadly, those pre-payment meters are popular amongst landlords who rent to people who earn the lowest amount of money. I can understand why they, and the electricity companies do this, but it is at its core an exploitation of the poor. - - - There was one such meter installed in our house when we bought it. Changing it over to one where we receive a bill made it quite a bit cheaper.
Load More Replies... KatSaidThat 2 hours ago
If you can't afford to get a sitter, you can't afford to drink and do d***s. The end.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 2 hours ago (edited)
OP's sister could avoid one trip to the bars/clubs and thus "save up" enough money to pay OP to babysit for the sister's NEXT trip out to go clubbing. (partial /s but also not really /s.) In reality, OP's sister needs to realize that the clubbing "drink yourself into a blackout" lifestyle is NO LONGER ACCEPTABLE once you have ONE child, let alone FIVE. Sorry, sis, but you're not 21 and unencumbered any more - you are responsible for the children YOU had. It sounds stupid, but back when I struggled with addíction, I got clean/sober for my cat. I realized I can't take care of my helpless dependent - my cat - who I am entirely responsible for - if I'm high or drunk. So yep, I got clean for my cat (coming up on six years clean!) OP's sister infuriates me for the fact that she can't get clean/sober for her FIVE CHILDREN. Bruh, if I could do it for a cat, a parent can do it for their human children. (Caveat: yes, I got professional help. Addícts need professional help. Most can't get clean/sober on their own. I'm not saying sister should just magically get sober.)
James016 2 hours ago
You are right to say no. Regarding the pre payment meters, the unit charges on these are a LOT higher than if paying by Direct Debit for example and someone on a pre payment meter will go through their credit a lot quicker with 4 kids there.
arthbach 2 hours ago
Sadly, those pre-payment meters are popular amongst landlords who rent to people who earn the lowest amount of money. I can understand why they, and the electricity companies do this, but it is at its core an exploitation of the poor. - - - There was one such meter installed in our house when we bought it. Changing it over to one where we receive a bill made it quite a bit cheaper.
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