Kathy
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Kathy • upvoted an item 1 month ago
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I always pay attention to what people do when they are trying to do something nice for someone else and do it back to them. For example, one of my friends and one of my sisters are constantly sending people cards in the mail. For all sorts of occasions. Whenever these ladies are trying to do something nice, they do it via cards. What I realized is that they, themselves, SUPER enjoy receiving cards and mail. That is why they think it's such a nice gesture and do it for other people. I don't usually send anybody cards myself, but on occasion I will make a point to send those two ladies cards, and the payoff is always HUGE. They both get so excited and text me extensively about how much they loved their card. It's extremely cute. Another example is my mom always goes out of her way to set the table in a fancy way for someone's birthday dinner. My mom loooooves fancy table settings, so to her that is a really great gesture that makes things feel very special. One year I was dropping off a birthday cake for her while she was out, and my husband and I stayed an extra 10 minutes to set the table for her too. We didn't do much beyond putting down a table cloth and matching plates with the cake sort of artfully placed in the center, but holy cow the payoff was HUGE. Apparently my mom was so touched when she came home and saw the table that she burst into tears. This isn't a trick if you're thinking psychological manipulation. It's more if you are trying to think of the most impactful way to show someone your love, your best bet is to mirror that person's methods of being loving back to them. . Kathy • commented on 10 posts 2 months ago
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when a guy treats their mom or their sister(s) like s**t. i’m looking at our future boy, and you aint it.sqwidsqwad reply
The obligatory corset lacing scene in any period piece, particularly if the woman has to hold a bed post while she's being tight laced, PARTICULARLY if she's not wearing anything under the corset. These scenes are media shorthand for 'look how oppressed women were back back then' and perpetuate a lot of myths. For one, very few women tight-laced their corsets, only those who were extremely fashionable (on this note, you also shouldn't believe every antique photo of wasp-waisted women you come across - folks edited their photos back then too). For another, tight-lacing only even became possible part way thru the 1800's when metal grommets started being used for eyelets - in previous decades and centuries, these would be hand-stitched, and would rip if you even tried to tight-lace (here's looking at you, Pirates of the Caribbean). For a third, ALL women wore these garments for back and bust support, stomach support (when you spend a lifetime bearing kids, this comes in clutch), and garment support (wearing layers of petticoats, skirts, etc. would be extremely uncomfortable if hung directly off your waist). And finally, they were NEVER worn directly against your skin! They'd have been worn over a chemise, which would protect your skin from rubbing, and protect the corset from your body oils since it's a difficult item to wash.Kiyohara reply
Swords do not cut through armor like butter. There's a reason why people wore armor. Even arrows *designed* to penetrate armor are more likely to bounce off or get stuck in armor. It still hits like a strong punch or fist and can wear you down if a hundred arrows nail your a*s. But heroes do not carve their way through armored warriors. You basically had to catch them where they had no armor: eye holes, arm pits, groin, that sort of thing. Armor was also fairly easy to move in and trained knights could run, jump, vault onto horses, and do kip ups from lying flat on their backs. The idea you'd get knocked over and lie there like a turtle sadly awaiting death did not happen unless ten peasants were straddling you and pulling daggers out to cut your throat. Which did happen.anitabelle reply
Thinking I needed a romantic partner to be happy. I stayed in an abusive marriage for so long because I couldn’t imagine doing things alone. It is infinitely better to be alone than in a bad relationship. When I choose to be in a relationship again, it will be because I’m happy and compatible with the person, not because I don’t want to be alone.Show All 8 Upvotes
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I always pay attention to what people do when they are trying to do something nice for someone else and do it back to them. For example, one of my friends and one of my sisters are constantly sending people cards in the mail. For all sorts of occasions. Whenever these ladies are trying to do something nice, they do it via cards. What I realized is that they, themselves, SUPER enjoy receiving cards and mail. That is why they think it's such a nice gesture and do it for other people. I don't usually send anybody cards myself, but on occasion I will make a point to send those two ladies cards, and the payoff is always HUGE. They both get so excited and text me extensively about how much they loved their card. It's extremely cute. Another example is my mom always goes out of her way to set the table in a fancy way for someone's birthday dinner. My mom loooooves fancy table settings, so to her that is a really great gesture that makes things feel very special. One year I was dropping off a birthday cake for her while she was out, and my husband and I stayed an extra 10 minutes to set the table for her too. We didn't do much beyond putting down a table cloth and matching plates with the cake sort of artfully placed in the center, but holy cow the payoff was HUGE. Apparently my mom was so touched when she came home and saw the table that she burst into tears. This isn't a trick if you're thinking psychological manipulation. It's more if you are trying to think of the most impactful way to show someone your love, your best bet is to mirror that person's methods of being loving back to them. . Kathy • upvoted 17 items 2 months ago
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when a guy treats their mom or their sister(s) like s**t. i’m looking at our future boy, and you aint it. Kathy • upvoted an item 3 months ago
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Swords do not cut through armor like butter. There's a reason why people wore armor. Even arrows *designed* to penetrate armor are more likely to bounce off or get stuck in armor. It still hits like a strong punch or fist and can wear you down if a hundred arrows nail your a*s. But heroes do not carve their way through armored warriors. You basically had to catch them where they had no armor: eye holes, arm pits, groin, that sort of thing. Armor was also fairly easy to move in and trained knights could run, jump, vault onto horses, and do kip ups from lying flat on their backs. The idea you'd get knocked over and lie there like a turtle sadly awaiting death did not happen unless ten peasants were straddling you and pulling daggers out to cut your throat. Which did happen.This Panda hasn't followed anyone yet
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