Through a series of a randomly connected events, I found out about a couple I know where the husband is cheating on his wife. The thing is, the wife has been going through cancer treatments and the husband is ALWAYS there for her, always by her side, every appointment. And she had disclosed to another mutual friend that they hadn’t been intimate in years, since before the cancer diagnosis. She also doesn’t work and I know is pretty financially dependent on him. From the outside, we only know them as a pretty loving doting couple. He very much has that “wife guy” persona, the “I will drop everything and run an errand for you” kind of behavior. 

Now I know everyone will say that I’m probably a [bad] person for not telling his wife, but I truly cannot think of a worse time to tell her. And to what benefit? She relies on him and he seems to always show up and support her. Takes her to every chemo appointment, she updates about her cancer journey on CaringBridge and one of the single most common things she talks about is how she can’t do any of this without his love and support, how he has been the best person getting her through this. 

One of the biggest evils of cheating imho is the emotional betrayal, yes, but it’s the physical danger you put your partner in by sleeping with other people. From what she’s told a mutual girlfriend of our’s, they haven’t been intimate in years. That would have been my biggest incentive to warn her, but that doesn’t seem to be an issue. I know it might make ME a [bad] person for keeping my mouth shut, but I can’t imagine going through cancer and finding out my husband is cheating on me. 

I’m just keeping my mouth shut and staying out of it. I found out by random fluke anyway. I think it would destroy so many lives if I said anything, and not improve ONE thing for anyone.