Men are afraid women will laugh at them, women are afraid men will end them.

Apparently women run a background threat-assessment app 24/7… meanwhile men are out here wondering if milk expires today or tomorrow.

Being constantly interrupted, dismissed, underestimated. You’re treated as less than and generally incapable as a default, and you have to prove you’re capable. I don’t see this happening to men.

Creepy old men commenting on your body and touching it from a very young age. I developed curves very quickly (around 13), and since then I haven’t known peace from men over 30 (I’m 19 now).

For example, a month ago I was in the middle of getting my driver’s license and had to drive with an instructor. I wore a lower-cut top that one time (I usually wore sweats) because I was going out with a friend afterward. Guess how many comments there were about my breasts? Five. This guy is 40, has a wife, and a son my age.

Recently, a man grabbed my thigh on a bus. Random men have grabbed me by the waist in stores to move me. A teacher touched my butt “by accident” at 14. These are just some examples, I could write a whole essay. Not that guys my age are any better, but the older men are worse.

For a woman to be called dumb, she must be dumb once, about one thing. For a man to be called dumb, he must be dumb about absolutely everything all the time.

The constant 'safety GPS' running in the back of our minds. It’s not just walking with keys between our knuckles. It’s choosing a longer route because one street has better lighting, scanning a parking lot before getting out of the car, or pretending to be on the phone so we don't look like an 'easy target.' Men see a walk home; we see a tactical maneuver.

Taking care not to get in a situation where you could be attacked. Keep the windows closed especially at night, check the back seat of the car before you get in, all of that.

Medical suffering that is brushed off as hysteria, even if you shove your diagnosis up their throat.

Being LOOKED AT. From a young age as a girl you are being observed, watched, judged, approached, etc. It would be so nice to just be a body once in a while. To move through the world unnoticed.

I hear men complain about that sometimes, how the world isn´t nice to them or how they don´t receive compliments, but I would trade the compliments for the calm of just not being observed.

The hikes and treks I dream of, the late night walks, the bus rides full of men that would just become simple bus rides, it would all be so peaceful. To walk out of the door and not have to think about safety. The way men scan your body up and down (yes we notice) always puts me on high alert.

Dave Chapelle put it best once: he described the experience of having a load of cash with you on a NYC subway, knowing certain people would end you if they knew you had that cash. That is how it feels to be a woman, only the cash is your body and you can never leave it at home.

I had a boss who mentioned he liked to ask people curveball interview questions to see how they respond. One of the questions was, “what’s the first thing you do when you get in your car?” I said, “lock the doors.” He looked confused and asked why. I was taught that from a young age. And there have been 2 occasions when a stranger male has tugged at my locked car door. He was shocked. Must be nice!!!

Medical gaslighting and neglect. Vast majority of issues are boiled down to weight, anxiety, stress or hormones. Anxiety is the new hysteria. If you have a severe period pain, irregular cycles, severe moodswings, youre told its normal. If you have endo or PCOS or any other issues with your reproductive organs, good luck getting taking seriously. The average time it takes for someone to get diagnosed with endometriosis is seven years. There's more studies on male baldness than there are on reproductive issues. If all else, they recommended the pill.

And don't even get me started on hormonal contraception. They work great with no issues for some women, sure, but informed consent is basically non existent. The list of risks and side effects that comes with is never ending. When i was a teen I went on the pill and was asked if I wanted the combined pill or mini pill, and I opted for mini pill because I'm forgetful and didn't want to bother going a week without every month. It made me feel crappy asf so I went off but some years later I wanted to go on again and try the combined pill and was asked if I frequently have migraines which I do. She told me I can't take it as it can cause blood clots in the brain?!?!? No one had warned me this the first time around. I'm lucky I didn't opt for the combined pill when I first went on it. There was a 19 year old here in the UK that recently died from this. There's so many risks to hormonal contraceptives and doctors dish them out like their sweets without telling girls and women the full risks.

Also, whenever you go to the doctors or hospital they ask if you could be pregnant. When you tell them you're definitely not they still make you do a test. I can understand why they do it but I find the way they go about it can be humiliating at times. I once told them I haven't done the deed in over a year and they STILL made me do a test but they didn't have any cups so they made me do it in one of those cardboard vomit bowls hospitals have, carry it back through the waiting room and leave it in the room I was in for over half an hour.

And on the topic of pregnancy, only recently have they discovered how much the male impacts the health of the mother. Like morning sickness and pre eclampsia is due to the health of the male impacting the foetus and mother. Yet it all gets put on the mother as if it's all entirely down to her.

Some time in the 90s did they make it a legal requirement for women to be a part of medical studies. Before then we weren't even considered, because "our hormones make us too complicated to study on". Toothpaste is also engineered towards men's health. Women have either a higher or lower pH balance in our saliva (can't remember which one sorry) so we're more likely to suffer gum and teeth issues as a result. Seat belts are mostly designed for men (may have changed in recent years) as the crash test dummies are based on male anatomy and don't take into account our chests or height. Women are more likely to die or have severe injuries as a result.

Theres probably so many more examples I could give, but I don't think men could ever understand how this world has not been built for us. It's all these inconsiderations in medicine and science that consistently hold us back a bit from the men or at it's worst end us.

Tldr - a fat rant about medical neglect and how medicine and scientific studies don't care about women.

My husband loves being outdoors. If he could he'd spend his whole life up a mountain. One day he and his walking partner met two women on a walk in to a climb. They were obviously planning to camp while husband and his friend were just out for the day and they got chatting about what the various plans were and what they each hoped to cover.

As they got ready to go their separate ways one of the men asked the women where they were planning to camp and what the route for the rest of the day was. The women clammed up and were uncomfortable sharing that information.

My husband came home very confused and a bit offended after having such a nice conversation that these women suddenly changed and became seemingly rude.

I told him that I wouldn't have told an unknown man where I plan to sleep either and it was ridiculous of him and his partner to expect the women to give up that information. Lessons were learned that day.

I’m a male teacher. A good one, but probably a few steps from being a great one.

The amount of times that parents and administrators will listen to me over my women colleagues is ridiculous. Friends, I’m just some jagoff that just wants your kid to listen and succeed. So does she.

Being gaslit when dealing with peri-menopause symptoms. Women are often told (including by their OB/GYNs) that severe pain and bleeding are normal and just deal with it. I nearly lost my wife because of this and her doctor completely missed a serious condition. Currently in the process of filing an official complaint.

The audacity of some men to think that just because I'm a woman means I don't know anything.

Go into a mechanic shop for a tire rotation... Try and upsell you on all kinds of stuff that you don't need.

As a trucker it's even worse.

I've had highway patrolman absolutely NOT believe that I was driving an 80,000lb semi truck *all by myself*. That one officer continued to ask me where my codriver was, and why HE wasn't coming to the front. I not only had to get my dispatcher involved but I also had to ask for a supervisor.

I've had diesel mechanics tell me I didn't know what I was talking about when it came to my truck. I even had one mechanic tell me that some truck models just lean to one direction... *completely ignoring the fact that all of the air bags on the passenger side of the cab were broken*.

I've been trespassed off of one property. The MHC Kenworth dealership in Oklahoma City OK. Why? Because the guy kept interrupting me, said I was stupid, called me the b word, and then in a cutesy baby voice asked me if I was on my pewiod because I was SO hormonal. I swiped everything off that freaking counter and told him if he talked to me like that again I was coming over the counter and we were BOTH going to the hospital.

I told my ex once that he [soiled] himself and I had to wipe his [behind] when he drank too much and he didn’t drink the rest of our relationship lmao

A coworker said her screens weren’t working. She has dual monitors and couldn’t get her mouse to go from one to the other. I sat at her desk... same issue.
Just before I get into her display settings, she bursts out “Oh wait! Maybe my monitors aren’t close enough” and proceeds to close the 3/4 inch gap between the screens. She is very blonde (blonde is a personality, not a hair color) so I didn’t laugh in her face.
As God as my witness, it immediately started working.
This was 5 years ago and still haunts me and everything I know about computers.

When I was at Disney Land With my ex and one of her friends it was getting late in the sun was going down and we are going to watch with color. the right before the show started her friend decided that grizzly River rapids would be awesome to go on right now. -_- it was cold and I have no idea why people wanna go on water rides at night.

Anyways I worked at world of Disney at the time and had a early shift in the morning. The problem was I only owned one pair of black canvas vans that I could wear to work. If they got wet through took at least two days to dry. I tried to convince them that it would be more fun watching world of color and we already had fast passes, but no they wanted grizzly River rapids.

Right before we got on the ride though I had a brilliant idea induct into the store right next to the right entrance. I ran up to the counter and asked for two bags just to have. The cast member kindly obliged in which I proceeded to tie of each bag around my feet. The cast member looked on in awe and said "that's brilliant" my ex said was the dumbest thing she ever seen.

When we got off the ride we were pretty much soaked lucky I got the least amount of water but the raft did fill up with a lot of water. After we got off the cast member offering the ride ask me how my shoes were. I took the bags off and they were bone dry. My ex said "that's stupid" I said "it's not stupid if it works" :).

In the florida keys, they have old cop cars on the side of the road to prevent speeding. Most of them don't have cops inside them, or engines for that matter. One of them actually had a mannequin dressed as a cop inside.

Eating Cheetos/Takis with chopsticks to avoid Cheeto fingers.

I once used one of those drinking bird toys to keep a motion detector from turning the office lights off.

A friend of mine was about to move to a new apartment. Neither new nor old apartment had a washing machine and it was a trek to the coin-op laundry.

They called up a local laundry service. The service came to the old apartment and picked up almost every bit of clothing, bedding, towels, etc they owned. The service washed, dried and folded it all. And delivered it back again.... **To the NEW address!!!**

Friend saved a bunch of effort moving it all, a ton of time doing the laundry and the total cost of the service wasn't much more than the cost of all the quarters for the coin-op machines and the detergent. And it made moving so much less stressful too.

This was in a big city with a lot of these laundry services. So YMMV. But it was beautiful and brilliant.

Only being able to spell beautiful by saying "be a u tiful". Same with Wednesday as "Wed nes day".