Geminigirl999
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Hey Pandas, What Is The Biggest Red Flag In A Friendship?
*these are all real life examples Friend 1: talking over me, only texting occasionally, joking around in a really insensitive way, pushing her beliefs onto me bc im a year younger than her. Friend 1 conversation example: Me: hi (s)! I brought the book you wanted to read! S: thanks! M: *talks about my babysitting for three mins* S: fun! *glazes over* S: *talks about a boy for a hour * M: *pays absolute attention, doesn’t waver from the convo* Idk about this friendship but I always feel when I complain about her I always wind up being a better friend to her when she’s trashier to me. Advice?Hey Pandas, What Is The Biggest Red Flag In A Friendship?
Narcissistic behaviour. Lack of give and take. Being treated differently if you aren’t at the same “life stage”.Hey Pandas, What Is The Biggest Red Flag In A Friendship?
they always talk about themselves, but never ask you anything. it's a one way directionHey Pandas, What Is The Biggest Red Flag In A Friendship?
1. Manipulation or gaslighting 2. Guilt tripping 3. Feel like you can’t even mention other friends let alone talk to them bc they’ll be mad or sad 4. Feeling like you can’t end the friendship bc your nice and it’ll hurt there feelings or they’ll be mad 5. Constantly walking on eggshells around them 6. Dreading seeing them or being emotionally drained after 7. Always having to do what they want, no compromising, and no balancing time with other friends 8. they get upset about everything and you always have to help and they never care if your upset 9. You make a playlist about them containing the songs “mean” “your not sorry” “this is why we can’t have nice things” and “the devil doesn’t bargain” among others 10. Googling the cycle of abuse, or quizzes about being manipulated/gaslit/emotionally or mentally abused with them in mind 11. When you are nice and always there for them but then you prioritize your suicidal friend (that they used to be friends with and pushed away like everyone else) over there tiny bit of drama and they call you a jerk and bad friend 12. When friends again they deny they ever said that 13. A rocky or unstable or on-and-off relationship 14. They are controlling or mean 15. You attempt suicide and relapse self harm bc of them Sorry these are all so specific I’ve recently experienced them with someone hope they help, I’m also clueless and too forgiving and generous, and I’m a people pleaser due to trauma. I really hope this helps anyone out there going through similar thingsHey Pandas, What Is The Biggest Red Flag In A Friendship?
1) They leave you mid-conversation to hang with other people 2) They say something is "a joke" when really its hurtful and insensitive 3) They tell someone a secret they'd promised that they'd keep to themselves Theres plenty more but these are the ones that happened to me personallyHey Pandas, What Is The Biggest Red Flag In A Friendship?
A few red flags for me are: 1) They only come to me if they want something 2) hanging out with them drains me more than hanging out with others 3) they turn their backs when I need them 4) they never consider my input 5) they talk over me all the time so I never get to take part in any conversationShow All 18 Upvotes
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Hey Pandas, What Is The Biggest Red Flag In A Friendship?
*these are all real life examples Friend 1: talking over me, only texting occasionally, joking around in a really insensitive way, pushing her beliefs onto me bc im a year younger than her. Friend 1 conversation example: Me: hi (s)! I brought the book you wanted to read! S: thanks! M: *talks about my babysitting for three mins* S: fun! *glazes over* S: *talks about a boy for a hour * M: *pays absolute attention, doesn’t waver from the convo* Idk about this friendship but I always feel when I complain about her I always wind up being a better friend to her when she’s trashier to me. Advice?Hey Pandas, What Is The Biggest Red Flag In A Friendship?
Narcissistic behaviour. Lack of give and take. Being treated differently if you aren’t at the same “life stage”.Hey Pandas, What Is The Biggest Red Flag In A Friendship?
they always talk about themselves, but never ask you anything. it's a one way directionHey Pandas, What Is The Biggest Red Flag In A Friendship?
1. Manipulation or gaslighting 2. Guilt tripping 3. Feel like you can’t even mention other friends let alone talk to them bc they’ll be mad or sad 4. Feeling like you can’t end the friendship bc your nice and it’ll hurt there feelings or they’ll be mad 5. Constantly walking on eggshells around them 6. Dreading seeing them or being emotionally drained after 7. Always having to do what they want, no compromising, and no balancing time with other friends 8. they get upset about everything and you always have to help and they never care if your upset 9. You make a playlist about them containing the songs “mean” “your not sorry” “this is why we can’t have nice things” and “the devil doesn’t bargain” among others 10. Googling the cycle of abuse, or quizzes about being manipulated/gaslit/emotionally or mentally abused with them in mind 11. When you are nice and always there for them but then you prioritize your suicidal friend (that they used to be friends with and pushed away like everyone else) over there tiny bit of drama and they call you a jerk and bad friend 12. When friends again they deny they ever said that 13. A rocky or unstable or on-and-off relationship 14. They are controlling or mean 15. You attempt suicide and relapse self harm bc of them Sorry these are all so specific I’ve recently experienced them with someone hope they help, I’m also clueless and too forgiving and generous, and I’m a people pleaser due to trauma. I really hope this helps anyone out there going through similar thingsHey Pandas, What Is The Biggest Red Flag In A Friendship?
1) They leave you mid-conversation to hang with other people 2) They say something is "a joke" when really its hurtful and insensitive 3) They tell someone a secret they'd promised that they'd keep to themselves Theres plenty more but these are the ones that happened to me personally Geminigirl999 • is following 3 people
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