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Wanting to take me somewhere isolated to be just the two of us on the first date. Itās okay if weāve been hanging out for a while, but not if itās the first time I see you in person. Whenever this happens I come up with an excuse not to go. I just donāt feel safe since I barely know the other person, but the worst part is when they try so hard to convince me to go with them. This makes me feel more and more uncomfortable. Edit: ooookay Iāve read some of your comments and I think I have to clarify some things. What I intended was that I make up an excuse not to go to THAT specific isolated place, which means that I actually go to dates and propose to go to public places instead. Iāve never ghosted anyone and Iāve tried to tell truth and make the other person understand that I didnāt feel comfortable. Something Iāve been told many times is: āWhat do you mean by "I don't feel comfortable"? Do you think I'm a crazy psychopath who rapes or kills people? Come on don't say nonsense, let's go, get in the car.ā I mean, is this supposed to make me feel safe? By the way they react it seems like Iām offending them, which is clearly not my intention. Thatās why I started making up excuses, because they stop insisting only when they know that something bigger is preventing me from going. Iām fully aware of the fact that not everyone has bad intentions, but itās not something I can understand immediately the first time I hang out with someone. Besides I donāt blame those who are simply clueless. My comment was just sharing a personal experience, not a general attack on men, and you can tell by the fact that I used ātheyā and āthe other personā instead of āheā. Both men and women can experience this kind of things, and I welcome everyoneās story. For those who commented using not very kind words, please stop trying to make me look like Iām just a paranoid woman who canāt tell the truth. And thanks to those who shared their experiences and opinions under what is one of my first comments here, I really appreciated all these interactions! Stay safe yāall!Show All 8 Upvotes
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