Skilled Cook Tired Of Wife’s Insults, She’s Furious When He Finally Stops Making Meals For Her

Imagine you’re a master in the kitchen—we’re talking flipping steaks and tossing veggies with the kind of flair that would make Gordon Ramsay nod in approval—but instead of applause from the whole family, your wife is your biggest critic.

Today’s Original Poster (OP) usually does the cooking at his home, but after years of relentless criticism from his wife, he decided to stop cooking for her. Plot twist—this made her super mad instead.

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Applause is always nice and can be validating, but there will always be that one person who doesn’t think you’re worthy of one

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The author’s wife stays at home, but he does the cooking despite his full-time job—because he loves cooking and she doesn’t

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Everyone loves his cooking, and he receives a lot of praise for it, except for his wife, who always has something to say about his meals

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After throwing her fork on the table and pretending to throw up his most recent meal, he decided he was done cooking for her

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When he didn’t serve his wife food the next day, she got very angry and asked him to do better when cooking

The OP has a full-time job, while his wife is a stay-at-home mom. However, she doesn’t like to cook. The OP, on the other hand, is amazing in the kitchen. No, really. He has been crafting delicious meals since he was ten. With a chef father and years of experience as a line cook, he’s honed his skills to perfection.

While their two kids eagerly gobble up his meals and guests heap on the praise, his wife isn’t a fan. Her critiques range from “too salty” to “this is undercooked,” often followed by her retreat to microwaving a frozen burrito or digging out a Hot Pocket.

For eight years, he’s taken this criticism in stride, continuing to cook for his family. However, a few weeks ago, when the OP made dinner, she poked at the steak and took a very tiny bite of it before making a gagging sound and dramatically throwing the fork on the table.

This was the last straw for the OP. The next day, when he made dinner, he made sure not to include his wife’s portion. So when she asked for her plate of food, he calmly told her that he was done cooking for her because it was a waste. He suggested she resorted to her usual—frozen food—Hot Pocket. She became livid and argued that he should “try harder” rather than give up.

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According to Choosing Therapy, there’s a huge difference between criticism and valid complaints. While complaints address specific, factual issues, criticism is more rooted in personal opinions. They explain that criticism is often acted out of defense as it aims to make the other partner look bad at something. Over time, this can harm communication and make conflict resolution harder.

Relationship therapist Kyle Benson warns that constant criticism can damage a relationship because it erodes self-esteem, trust, and intimacy. He goes further to explain on his website that constant criticism does nothing to change a situation. Instead, it triggers defensiveness and, over time, may even become emotionally abusive.

On handling constant criticism from a partner, Only You Forever emphasizes the link between self-esteem and the support we receive. While a spouse is often a primary source of support, friends and family can help fill this role if needed. Their encouragement can boost self-esteem, even when a partner’s actions are hurtful.

Additionally, building self-worth comes from within. Focusing on personal satisfaction and pursuing meaningful goals, rather than relying on external validation, strengthens confidence and identity.

Netizens noted that the OP’s wife is immature and disrespectful. Others stressed that her actions would set a poor example for their children, teaching them impoliteness and entitlement. They also suggested that the issue might be deeper than the food itself. They speculate that his wife might be jealous or insecure.

What do you think about this situation? Do you think the OP’s decision to stop cooking for his wife was fair, or should he have handled it differently? We would love to hear your thoughts!

Netizens believe the author’s wife is insecure and jealous of his cooking skills

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