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Imagine discovering that your grandfather abducted your grandmother when she was 12. He got her pregnant, married her, and they later had another two dozen babies.
It might sound like something from a Netflix horror or drama. But it's actually a deep and dark family secret that someone found out long after their grandparents had died.
Many families have skeletons in the closet. Buried beneath the surface of happy photos, summer holidays, and long-held traditions are lies and secrets that could be turned into best sellers. Sometimes, they come tumbling out - often by sheer chance. Extra-marital affairs, criminal activity, people living entire double lives - it's the stuff that can make or break a family.
Someone recently asked, "What's the worst family secret you've accidentally found out?" And netizens didn't hold back. From eternity collars to eternal regrets, some of the replies might leave you wondering what your own family is hiding. Bored Panda has put together a list of the top stories shared by people who found out things they were never meant to know.
We also explore how common secrets are, and what harm they can do to individuals and families. You'll find that info between the images.
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#1
my mom wanted to abort me but my grandmother stopped her then my grandmother proceeded not to help me when i was homeless to escape my mom’s abuse (don’t make people who don’t want kids have kids if ur not gonna step up)
Alexandra 4 months ago
Yes, well, this is more or less the conservative's view on abortion: a child's life is sacred until it is born. Then it can be a****d by it's parents, it's foster family and face a life-time of misery because no provisions are made for these unwanted children.
Razill 4 months ago
Personally, i think if u force someone to have a baby (yes political people/religious people) then u should be required to raise it. U wanted it so badly, here ya go.
GlitterPanda 4 months ago
AND you should be required to cover all medical costs incurred during the pregnancy
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KrazyChiMama 4 months ago
Please speak into the microphone so the MAGA’s and Pro-Lifers in the back can hear you!!!
BeesEelsAndPups 4 months ago
So @Crystalwitch, "murder" is okay if the person is conceived due to r**e or the person has a disability. So by your own logic, we should be allowed to k**l people who are severely disabled, or adults whose parents were r***d. Your "logic" is highly inconsistent here. Here's a wacky idea. What about we just recognize that a foetus is not a human being, it is a collection of developing cells. By your same logic, we should be locking up women who have miscarriages.
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Tropical Tarot 4 months ago
But she's not in the US. Give her a minute, she'll tell you.
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azubi 4 months ago
I remember seeing a video where someone asked "pro-life" protesters if they were willing to adopt a child. They weren't.
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Oops 4 months ago
Absolutely the most horrible idea to force pregnancy to a unwilling woman!!! But nearly all people do this - you are unnatural, you are no real woman, you have to want this by nature, you have to pay back cause you were born (didnt order it]. If a women doesnt want children, she is hunted down like a fox with foxhounds.
Anyone who says their family doesn't have a secret might just not know about it yet. Or, maybe they're lying.
In fact, people keep about 13 secrets at any one time on average, five of which they've never told anyone. That's according to research by Michael Slepian, one of the leading experts on the psychology of secrets and author of The Secret Life of Secrets.
Some secrets are kept strictly confidential while others are revealed to a few select souls. Slepian says there are 38 common categories our secrets fall into. They include beliefs, family, finances, ambitions, habits, hobbies, substance use, mental health struggles, cheating, work, relationships, bedroom shenanigans and more.
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#2
my dad is bisexual and had multiple secret boyfriends in my childhood even tho he was a homophobic republican. 😇 I tell everyone I can bc I know he wouldn't want it that way
WindySwede 4 months ago
that's why I think those who hate the most are the one who would say "everyone have those thought, you just have to pray them away" ??? ❓
G A 4 months ago
Says a lot about MAGA and the GOP plus all the US megachurches.
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Laserleader 4 months ago
My father was a homophobic republican Christian with 7 children to prove to his parents he was straight and keep his wife occupied raising them. Who cares that every one of us was molested, the boys were molested by my father, and at least three others were swexually a****d and he was CONVICTED but only got a few weekend jails and then moved to Alaska where he was give CUSTODY over my mom by a "progressive" judge who refused to listen to his kids about his past since the sexual a*****t record didn't cross state lines. He was constantly REWARDED for being a predator.
#3
My grand uncle died of Covid, and his eldest son went to get his house ready, and found his sister’s body in a rug in the garage. She was thought to be couch surfing on the west coast for three years.
Crystalwitch60 4 months ago
I kinda did didn’t it ,I wanna know how he kept the poor lass hidden for well a bloody long time 🤔
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Apparently, the most common secrets people keep are related to having told a significant lie (without revealing it), having a romantic desire whilst single; and issues about money and personal finances.
People are more likely to share their experiences with substance use or hating their job than they are to reveal secrets about romantic desires or their behavior in the bedroom. These, says Slepian, are "consistently the top secrets shared with no one".
#4
😤 my mother hadnt heard from her brother since 2002 and asked me if I'd help her find him. I couldn't find him online, no fb, no social media, it was like he didn't exist. so because the Internet was pretty new when he went missing I assumed he had died and that's why I couldn't find him. so for about 8 years off and on I'd look up John Doe pictures trying to help identify bodies...but none with pictures were him. so, one day I asked her what the police had told her or her sister when she had reported him as missing. apparently she had never talked to the police.
so to save a lot of boring details the local PD contacted him after talking to me and gave him my number, we reconnected. I found out why he went "missing" and it was because both sisters essentially took the jewelry off my dying grandmother when she was in hospice and made her cry. after the funeral he cut them out and they still don't know I found him.
KrazyChiMama 4 months ago
Oh my stars I was not expecting that! How very sad…making a dying woman cry takes a special kind of evil :((‘’’
patricia patricia 4 months ago
My mother's brother did that to my grandmother. She was dying of cancer. I'll never, ever, ever forgive him, even if I lived one thousand lives.
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My mom never let me spend the night at my (step) grandparents my entire childhood! My uncle lived with them. I used to throw a damn fit! When I got older I found out my uncle had been convicted of m*******g a little girl (I think around 4-6yrs old) In a horrible way, i resembled the little girl a lot honestly. He was a teenager and only served until he was 21. I cried and apologized to my mom, she was just trying to make sure I was safe. 😭
KrazyChiMama 4 months ago
Uh, yeah I’d be going NC in that case…especially if my child resembled his victim! :0
#6
My grandparents passed years ago but I recently found out that my Grandma was kidnapped by my Grandpa in Mexico. I'm not talking Romeo and Juliet story. She was just 12. He saw her walking home from school with her books, decided he wanted her, grabbed her, and threw her in his truck. She tried to escape for days but couldn’t. Eventually, he got her pregnant, and because of the fear of gossip in the town and judgment from the Catholic church, she stayed and married him. Over time, she learned how to be his wife, and together they had 13 children. Growing up, I only knew them as a couple deeply in love who grew old side by side. I was often left alone in their care, and I thought of my Grandpa as a sweet, hardworking man who respected his wife. Learning the truth completely shattered the way I saw them and left me really confused.....so yes I did spill it, I called my bestfriend and we stayed on the phone for hours and now im here telling you. They say not to speak ill of the dead or they will come back to haunt you. I wish he would 🤨 I wish he would.
Lynchamigsakta 4 months ago
Oh I'll definitely speak ill of your dead grandpa, f**k that man straight to hell
Billo66 4 months ago (edited)
No thought about the poor family that lost a Daughter. Mine is 12. I would beyond devastated, she's my heart.
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웅장한 거북이 🇰🇷🇰🇭 4 months ago
I could never understand this "do not speak ill of the dead" thing. Why not? If the person was a vile human being, why make him look better?
Jeremy James 4 months ago
"Death makes Angels of us all and gives us wings where we had shoulders, smooth as ravens' claws." --Jim Morrison
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KnightOwl86 4 months ago (edited)
I hate that phrase. If someone is an awful person, people should acknowledge that, being dead changes nothing. My grandad was awful, my entire family hated him despite his reputation as a devoted family man to outsiders. As soon as he died they wouldn't stop talking about how amazing he was, it drove me crazy. He was an ab*sive a**hole who cared more about what 'people (aka random strangers) would think than what actually made his 'loved ones' happy. Everything about his life revolved around outward appearances including his death.
David 4 months ago
when I saw this "she learned how to be his wife, and together they had 13 children. Growing up, I only knew them as a couple deeply in love who grew old side by side." I was thinking stockholm syndrome, that wasnt love, that was brainwashing
Day Andie 4 months ago
"she learned how to...'' I'm sure anybody who kidnaps a 12yo "taught' her how to be a wife with both physical and emotional a***e and t*****e. What an evil p***k.
Load More Replies... Laserleader 4 months ago (edited)
I'll speak ill of my own father any day... im just not allowed to tell his 2nd wife and now widow the truth, because her adult daughter didn't trust him and found out he was a s*x offender, and asked all of us to let her elderly mother die thinking he was a nice man who loved to garden... it stresses me sometimes.
Joe Reaves 4 months ago
That poor woman. She was trapped by society and religion and once she had a child she knew that she had no way out ever, because she was kidnapped at 12 so she stopped her education at that point and was totally dependent on him.
Earonn - 3 months ago
Yeah, let's never forget how the Christian churches helped child ra/pists like that grandfather by blaming rap/ed women for the ra/pe. And even "blessing" such 'marriages'. That's way more blood and tears than they can ever wash off.
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Beak Hookage 4 months ago
Don't speak ill of the dead my sweet booty. My grandfather was an awful person too and you bet we didn't bother to lie about the fact that we really didn't care all that much when he passed away. (Alone, just as he deserved).
Nils Skirnir 4 months ago
It was an accepted method of acquiring a bride in much of Europe until the 20th Century and still is an accepted means of acquiring a bride in much of the world.
Not surprisingly, experts say secrets can be harmful. But not in the way you might think.
"The idea that our secrets hurt us mostly because hiding them is difficult and stressful turns out to be wrong," explains Slepian. "Our secrets do hurt us, but often for other reasons associated with feelings of shame, isolation, and inauthenticity."
The expert adds that these experiences can leave us feeling helpless. And that holding a secret back in conversation is just a small slice of the pain and stress caused by secrets.
#7
The kid who lived next door to my mom & her siblings turned out to be their biological brother. My grandparents had 7 kids back to back, meanwhile the neighbors couldn’t conceive so my grandparents just gave them one of their kids. He didn’t find out until he was 18.
Phill Healey 4 months ago
Wow. Ever thought how much this f***s up a person's sense of the density and how badly that will affect them for their whole lives?
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Bored Sailor 4 months ago
Reading these comments and feel people are not making the connection, this is no different from any other surrogacy, just they were neighbors.
KrazyChiMama 4 months ago
How do you “give” someone one of your children?!? Like how do you choose? Do you have a least favorite and just say here you go? WTH?
Laserleader 4 months ago (edited)
Yup. That's what my parents did. With 7 of us, the most troublesome kid was easy to give away to creepy old men without kids for an afternoon, and then when we were sexuaIIy assaulted, no one would belive the kid.
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Uncle Panda 4 months ago
There was always this odd guy sort of hanging around my grandparents and their siblings. I asked repeatedly growing up if he was a relative but the answer was always no. I asked again last year and found out we were probably cousins.
Midoribird Aoi 4 months ago
If all four individuals were in agreement and made the adoption legal, then I see no problem with this.
#8
My grandpa was a polygamist and had 3 wives. my grandma gave him 4 kids, his other wives gave him 5 kids. none of the kids belong to my grandpa and when he found out at 75, he died of a heart attack within 12 hours. A hoe got played by hoes😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Ace 4 months ago
I'm a little confused by the use of terms like "gave him" kids and "belong to". Are they suggesting that he thought he was the father of 9kids through 3 mothers but then later found out that all of them were a resut of the various wives cheating on him?
Earonn - 3 months ago
Yes, exactly that. He was a fvck who cheated on each of the women who thought to be his only wife but got played himself. Karma.
Load More Replies... G A 4 months ago (edited)
He was clearly deficient in the bedroom dept if not the marriage dept. Bit of a whiff of BS though-why would he suddenly find out in one go that ALL his kids weren't his? And that it would shock him to death? Sounds like a sitcom plot.
Tropical Tarot 4 months ago
Could have been an argument. I found that's when a lot of family secrets are exposed.
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nicholas nolan 4 months ago
Was he a polygamist or a bigamist? World of difference for this story.
#9
When my dad passed away, some of his siblings thought they won the inheritance lottery. They scoured our house for his will and brought our insurance guy over to discuss god knows what less than 24 hours after his passing. They thought the businesses were under his name but were shocked to find out that they were under my moms. We still don’t talk to most of them till this day.
Francois 4 months ago
This requires probably a bit more explanation because normally inheritance goes to wife and the children. Normally siblings don't get anything.
Panda-sized Potato 4 months ago
Different places have different rules. Nothing is normal.
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KrazyChiMama 4 months ago
It’s really disgusting the “family” that seemingly comes out of the woodwork when someone passes away…
Tabitha 4 months ago
Like vultures picking the bones clean when the body is hardly even cold yet.
Load More Replies... Fat Harry (Oi / You) 4 months ago
I wonder where this was. In the UK it's normal that the spouse is next of kin unless a will specifies otherwise.
arthbach 4 months ago
The UK has several different sets of laws. In Scotland, you can't disinherit children. They have an automatic right to part of their parent's estate.
Load More Replies...Evan Imber-Black, a professor of marriage and family therapy at Mercy College in New York, agrees. "People keep secrets for all kinds of reasons but mainly to protect relationships, themselves or others," he says. "Secrets become harmful when a relationship is injured, or when it haunts the secret holder."
And according to Slepian, keeping a secret has been associated with a lower life satisfaction, lower quality relationships, and symptoms of poor psychological and physical health.
#10
My grandpa was sick and thought he was dying so he confessed to having another family, he didnt die btw 😂
Susan 4 months ago
It's only a b*tch when you are! (Not you specifically, just a saying)
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Crystalwitch60 4 months ago
😂😂😂😂😂😂note to anyone making deathbed confessions , do it with your actual LAST BREATH 🤦♀️😂busted dude ,be he wishes he had died to lol
#11
my grandma is a die hard christian and is against abortions but I later found out she had one herself cause she didn’t know who the daddy was 💀
Harry Gondalf 4 months ago
love your handle "The Magnificent Turtle." Thank you, google-translate
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Mabelbabel 4 months ago
There's a very famous article by Joyce Arthur called "The only moral abòrtion is my abòrtion" where she discusses experiences of healthcare providers dealing with anti-abòrtion protesters who end up wanting one for themselves. The protesters still attack other women seeking help, viewing them as múrderers, despite doing exactly the same thing. “The Only Moral Abortion is My Abortion” – Joyce Arthur's page https://share.google/y98J3S7FQnWT2GU7y
T'Mar of Vulcan 4 months ago
I've read it before. Very good article. It's legal in my country thank goodness.
Load More Replies... David 4 months ago
was she a die hard christian and anti abortion before the abortion or after? When you meet the pro-lifers, a lot of women there are born agains and similar who had abortions, went through some trauma related to it, and came out Christian and anti-abortion
Papa 4 months ago
I gave you an up vote because you're absolutely correct. I've known several women who had abortions and deeply regretted it. I would like to make it clear that while they felt abortion is wrong, they were not judgmental toward women who had them, but sympathetic because of the circumstances that led them to make that decision.
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Littlemiss 4 months ago
The hypocrisy remains today. Had a great great grandmother who used to count the days between marriage and birth. But it was fine she had multiple 9 pound 'tumors' as it was described.
nicholas nolan 4 months ago
It's the whole "but my abortion" thing. I would bet every clinic worker in the world has at least a handful of stories.
#12
My dad got remarried and they were trying for a kid, but never told her he had a vasectomy. They were trying for about 8 years. One night she was venting to me and I said maybe it’s cause he had a snip snip… she had no idea 💀
BeesEelsAndPups 4 months ago
Is it possible he had it reversed, and it the reversal failed? That can happen. The failure rate is about 5-15%
MAKtheknife 4 months ago
An acquaintance of ours had a vasectomy while he was married to his first wife. He later married a friend of mine. She ended up getting pregnant and they had three children! Yes, they were his, and yes the snip grew back together,
Psychologist Maria Mifsud says there are three types of family secrets. Individual secrets are the ones only one member of the family knows. For example, only a father knows that he has an affair baby, or only a mother knows that she once had an abortion.
Internal family secrets are shared by two or more family members, who keep at least one other person in the dark. "For example, only the parents know that their daughter was conceived out of wedlock," writes Mifsud. "An especially complex situation arises when a son or daughter is the only one to share a secret with one of his or her parents, as this entails a serious conflict of loyalties."
#13
My grandpas a pastor (83) and was having an affair with like 15 of my grandmas caregivers all ranging from 19-60…. Stole my grandmas money to pay for women… I hacked all his accounts when I was suspicious… he literally spent hundreds of thousands that she inherited… so I sent out a mass email to all his pastor friends… exposed him to everyone in the family… he ended up Married one of the caregivers right after and tried suing us for defamation lmaooo
G A 4 months ago (edited)
Yeah I somehow feel this was made up. The detail and the sign off just scream fake to me.
Anthony Elmore 4 months ago
For me it's the usage of the term 'hacked'. When likely all they did was find out what the password was because grandpa had it saved or written down. They're not wrong: stealing someone's password that they wrote down IS considered hacking (the social-engineering end of it), but it's mostly only referred to as hacking from a security standpoint. The person stealing the password usually just refers to it as stealing the password and would only call it hacking to make themselves feel cooler.
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Crystalwitch60 4 months ago
N there we have it AGAIN , religious lunatics all freaking mental n hypocritical,point in case proven here lol
#14
I caught my grandma's brother (a self proclaimed homophobic womanizer) having seggs with his life long MALE FRIEND, and told me to keep quiet or else, so of course I WENT BACK TO MY GRANDMA'S HOUSE AND TOLD EVERYONE WHAT I'VE SEEN!!! He tried denying it, but his "friend" came out and told everyone it was true, slapped the ish off his face in front of everyone and walked out. after that he went out with multiple women, and got 💀 by one of the woman's husband. when his children were cleaning up his belongings, they found many love letters he wrote to his "friend".
The Other Guest 4 months ago
To all those saying "It's OK to out someone if they are (insert bad thing here)" - do you know what queer people hear when you say that? You're proclaiming loud and clear that we cannot trust you, that you would throw us to the wolves if we did something you considered to be "bad." Also a reminder: Privacy is a human right, and when you say a certain group doesn't deserve privacy, you're saying they aren't human. If rights can be taken from us, they can be taken from you, too.
Dragons Exist 4 months ago
Homophobes absolutely deserve to be outed if they're actually gay
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Lavender Myst 4 months ago
Gets around censors and is the common repacement word on other forms of social media. Its stupid though, because those supposedly being protected from the 'scary bad words' know what the cencored versions mean or can google them.
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Jeremy James 4 months ago (edited)
In general, I don't support outing anyone against their will, but we make exceptions for homophobes and DL right-wingers, especially after this last election.
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my family urgently and very quickly moved from MA to NY in like 2012. never knew why until a year or two ago when I found out my mother wrote an extremely homophobic article and was getting TORREE up online real bad. reddit doxxed her and people made threats and sent death wishes, which is why we moved. people made comments about me and my siblings like "I hope they turn out gay" 4/5 of us are in fact, LGBT 😭
Two Cat Studio 4 months ago
Will someone tell me what "TORREE" means in text? Google isn't clear. Thanks!
Jude Corrigan 3 months ago
I think they meant verbally tore up online. But the way they wrote it means they were stretching out the word for effect. For example, he got SLAPPEEDD! To say someone got slapped but drags out the word.
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Carrie B 4 months ago
You are not needed or wanted here, but here you are.
Load More Replies...Then you get shared family secrets: those known by the whole nuclear family. "These are secrets the family will keep within the family walls and never disclose to an outsider; for instance, no one apart from the nuclear family knows that the father was in prison," Mifsud explains.
Like the other experts, Mifsud warns that secrets can have a negative impact. "Family secrets have consequences beyond what the secret keepers ever imagined," she says. "I have met individuals that were afraid that their partners would get to know their secret (a traumatic episode for example). Thus, they unconsciously avoided forming intimate relationships out of fear that if their partners were to discover this secret, they would reject them."
#16
I always thought I was special having a video of my birth when we didn’t have one of my sister’s……. Only when I was pregnant with my own child and mentioned having a birth video for my child too, did my mom tell me that the only reason we had a video of my birth was because my dad was in federal prison at the time of her delivery. 💀
Papa 4 months ago
Yes it was. I expected the secret to be that there wasn't a video of the sister's birth because she was adopted.
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My great grandmother wasn’t actually my great grandmother. She kidnapped my grandmother when she was younger and just made everyone think she was her daughter. So I have a secret family somewhere
Tropical Tarot 4 months ago
My wife was adopted as a child with her younger brother. He died of leukemia when he was 13. Her parents are excrement. My family got all the tests for the holidays and I asked my mom to get her one. She had to redo it and she found out she had an older sister on our one year wedding anniversary. They met a couple of times and things are going great.
Load More Replies... Earonn - 3 months ago
What a fvcking cvnt. Poor grandma, being ripped from her family just so a selfish b/tch could get what she wanted.
#18
My grandpa paid for his girlfriend before my grandmas ab*rtion and then never spoke to her again…. The man now votes against women’s rights… I told the whole fam.
michael Chock 4 months ago (edited)
Most abortions are among those who vote against women's rights, because they also demand s*x is (only) a woman's duty to her husband and need to hide the evidence when they do it for fun.
Joe Reaves 4 months ago
A huge number of the men in Congress who are loudly anti-abortion would (or have) pay for their mistress to have abortions. They can vote against abortion easily because they know they can afford to send the mistress to somewhere where abortion is illegal (or pay for an expensive illegal abortion from a good doctor) unlike the majority of the women affected by those bans who will either be forced to bear children they do not want and/or cannot support or get cheap backstreet abortions that could k**l them or make them infertile. But as far as they're concerned that's fine because that's not their problem.
CartoonCasey 4 months ago
Write that on a big bass marching drum, get a gazoo or a tambourine, and follow him from place to place until everybody knows it.
Misfud warns that the secret-keeping culture can be carried on from one generation to another. "During my line of work, I became aware of many cases where children were raised in an atmosphere of secrecy," she revealed. "These children in return grew up with a sense that something is wrong, and were afraid to discuss their intuitions with their parents."
The expert adds that in these families, once secrecy becomes the norm, there is no end to the ways in which information is blocked from flowing. Children learn to keep secrets from parents, and parents keep secrets from children and from one another. "This learning process can be carried over into generations as the children marry and keep secrets from their spouses," she says.
#19
My great grandfather left one of his kids out of his will. The siblings and children all divided their portions of the inheritance so their other sibling wouldn’t know they were deliberately left out.
Gracie Mae 4 months ago
In the US, my mother's attorney told her she would be wise to leave her estranged child $1 in her will. Less contestable because, technically, she wasn't "left out."
Celtic Pirate Queen 4 months ago
The bottom line is that no one is actually entitled to your money.
WubiDubi 4 months ago (edited)
The will was enacted. The family acted after that and it sounds like they didn't think the person deserved it. It was their money to do as they wished. You can get off the fence now.
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#20
When I was little my dad hid in the crawlspace under our house after my mom got a restraining order against him and he was plotting to unalive us all
Uncle Panda 4 months ago (edited)
I never knew the story but I finally figured out how to access the crawl space under my back porch and found a tiny tableau of an empty sardine can, an empty Rainier beer can, one cigarette butt, and a crushed empty pack of cheap cigarettes. Somebody had a long sad night.
Celtic Pirate Queen 4 months ago
My ex did the same thing, only it was the attic. I hope he enjoyed his time in prison.
#21
my cousin was kidnapped by his father after his parents divorce. The dad took him from Russia to Spain and my aunt hasn’t seen or heard from her son in 30 years
Ellinor she/they/elle 4 months ago (edited)
Until my 18th birthday I had to have papers signed by both my parents with a time limit and approved by my local police and a prosecutor to get out of my country. My mother put that in place when my father came to live in our country to prevent him from ever taking me to his birth country and making me disappear.
Paul C 4 months ago
I seem to remember back in the early 90s, they had similar laws in Italy. A British friend of mine had to have a letter signed by his wife to take their daughter out of Italy to visit his family. Might just have been for a foreign parent of an Italian child, I wasn't that close to the law.
Load More Replies... Anthony Elmore 4 months ago
Ugh. I know this pain. Well, a similar pain. Had a cousin growing up named Carrie. She was older than me by a decent number of years, I'm not sure how much. Sweet and bright girl, always had fun when she came over for family events... but the pair of drunks she had for parents were a*****e. I'm told she eventually spiraled pretty hard into d***s and other stuff. Lost contact with her long before the family considered it appropriate to talk about this kind of thing around me. Don't even know if she's alive at this point. More than a little spiteful to my aunt and uncle, but also fairly spiteful that none of the other adults intervened growing up.
marcelo D. 4 months ago
for 30 years? After he was an adult, he chose not to look for his mother.
Dilly Millandry 4 months ago
He may well have been lied to - told that she was dead, or that she didn't want him. Children get lied to by their parents and they generally believe them. So sad though.
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The psychologist says family secrets often create barriers and affect family communication.
Family members may experience tension, anxiety, loneliness, and stress-related symptoms like sleeplessness and headaches, she warns. "Furthermore, secrets can lead to a developmental deep freeze, which means that when secrets are made between a parent and a child at key points in time during a family’s development, they hinder the child’s natural growth of individuation and independence."
#22
i have precious family heirlooms that my grandma gave me while fighting cancer and everyone thinks they’re missing…. it’s been 8 years…
KrazyChiMama 4 months ago
Grandma was smart! If they’re simply missing no one can fight over them! My grandma had everything separated, and in boxes with our names on them.
Billo66 4 months ago
If I had been older , I would too. My Great Granpa died at 84 when I was 11. My mom was a single mom so he was basically my Pop. Everything we didi together my whole up to then was "watch how I do this because you will have to it one day when I'm gone" Lawnmower, Vacuum cleaner,. just all little stuff we had done together. After he died the family swooped in like vultures so fast they took every scrap of everything. That's ok I have pictures, memories, and his voice on a cassette :)
Just stopping by 4 months ago
I'm sorry they did that to you! At the same time I wish so much that I had a tape or any type of recording with my great grandma's voice on it😭.
Load More Replies... Leslie B 4 months ago
When my FIL was preparing to go into an assisted living facility, he gave my husband several items and my SIL got pissed about it. I pointed out to husband, it's his to do what he wants. No other opinions are needed. Husband got items, SIL didn't but got over it. FIL passed a few years after that.
Chris the Bobcat 4 months ago
My best friend's father gave away her mother's ashes to her maternal aunt without telling her. She has them now, and she hides them from her father on the rare events he shows up at her apartment. It makes me sad knowing that he basically erased my friend's mother after he got remarried
Michael Largey 4 months ago
Gifts given shortly before death can be considered part of the estate for Federal tax purposes. But both the estate and the gifts would both have to involve a great deal of money for the rules to kick in. But either way, the recipient's legal ownership is not at issue.
Beak Hookage 4 months ago
God, the way people get when someone dies. With all the bickering over my grandfather's car, it's no wonder I didn't choose to go up to my grandma's place when she passed as well because I just knew it would happen all over again. At least I got to keep some nice ornaments from her house.
ILoveMySon 4 months ago
Exactly. My mother didn't talk to my wonderful aunt for a few years because aunt got grandfather's tractor when he died. Aunt lived on a farm and mother in a condo. I have a picture of my son on the tractor that I refer to when mother is acting out. It makes me laugh.
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When I was 7ish My mom brought me to Kentucky to meet her friends daughter. Once we landed she gave me Benedryl for “allergies” and I literally slept into the next morning. I woke up in a random room and started crying because I didn’t know where I was or where my mom was so I sat there for a few hours until my mom came back and we immediately flew back home. When I was 17 I asked my dad about it he said “ I was deployed and she cheated that weekend while she was supposed to be watching you” 🙂
Niki 4 months ago
I read that as public ice and now I have an image that won't go away....
Load More Replies... Uncle Panda 4 months ago
I've never understood why we don't transfer dangerous criminals under sedation. They'd just go to sleep in one cell and wake up in another, no chance for escape or other shenanigans.
Joe Reaves 4 months ago
Because sedation carries a risk of complications (up to and including death) and so you'd need qualified medical staff on hand at all times (which is expensive) and even then it might be ruled as against their human rights as once incarcerated the authorities have a duty of care and unless there are really exceptional circumstances risking someone's life for what ultimately boils down to convenience would be illegal. But mostly probably the cost thing because human rights don't seem to be a consideration for a lot of countries.
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#24
Took a 23andme DNA test… turns out our grandpa was indeed not our grandpa. The way my family found out was me h**h-fiving my cousin yelling “what’s up half-cuz”. They didn’t talk to me for three years after that. 💀😂
michael Chock 4 months ago (edited)
High fiving leads to drunk fiving. Don't five drunk people.
Load More Replies... Bored Sailor 4 months ago
I did not find 23andMe that useful. The other people need to have done the swab and loaded their profile.
MAKtheknife 4 months ago
I also found out the my "grandfather" was not my biological grandfather through Ancestry.com when my roommate bought us DNA test kits for Christmas. I never knew my biological grandfather, and my mother never knew she had half siblings.
KrazyChiMama 4 months ago
I did the ancestry one…there’s nothing special about me and I have nothing to hide and no money lying around to steal…so unless you’re a celebrity, rich, or a criminal, what do you have to hide?
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#25
My dad drunk told me i was named after his first love and my mom doesnt know 😭😭
BeesEelsAndPups 4 months ago
I named my daughter after my first love. She's not a huge fan of the name "Tostino's Pizza Rolls", but I think she'll grow to love it.
Undercover 4 months ago
I'm named after a professional ski racer and I don't know how to ski 😁🙈
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We ride at dawn biatches 4 months ago
When I asked my mum how I got my name, she started telling her version of how they came up with the name. Then my dad walks in and is like, oh I named you after this female singer I used to be in a band with! My mum's eyes got on fire, she was NOT aware lol
#26
My uncle, a full blooded indigenous man, tried to join the Kkk 3 seperate times and was upset that they rejected him AND that we weren’t supportive. His mom was on the tribal council and we lived on the Rez.
Yrral Spavit 4 months ago
Worked and lived on a rez for a few years. Great folks but tbh there were a few who would make that maga uncle you don't invite to get-togethers blush.
KrazyChiMama 4 months ago
Smh…2025 and racism,sexism, ect still exists….i do wish we as a society would evolve past such nonsense. Human beings are human beings and deserve the same rights.
#27
I was almost aborted but when my mom went to the clinic and they did an ultrasound and saw that there was two of us she decided not to go through with it simply because she thought it would make her popular to have twin babies 😭
#28
My mom was murdered when I was 7. Two men did it. One got life the other got 7 years. When I was 14 I met my “long lost uncle” and spent three years with my moms killer with out knowing. 😳
Yvonne Dauwalder Balsiger 4 months ago
So sorry, your surviving family are a deplorable waste of space, why did no one tell you
G A 4 months ago
How did OP have anything to with him? Didn't their relatives or authorities keep them away? Need more data!
Tropical Tarot 4 months ago
I would wager that the long lost uncle was his father's side of the family and they didn't like his mom. Seen it first hand with abúse victims.
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my dad got his step daughter pregnant she kept the baby.... my steps sisters kid is also my sister.... to make it all even more ... 😬 ... she is now dating my step brother from my mother's side of the family
to top it all off, my step sisters mother murdered her husband back in the 90s, his name was Doug gardner.... she buried him in the flower garden... Doug got Doug into the garden....
I swear I need to write a book or make a movie lmfao
KnightOwl86 4 months ago
Technically it's not incest as none of them are biologically related. The dad impregnating his stepdaughter is disgusting but not incest. The stepsister from dad's side dating stepbrother from mum's side is not that unusual, they're not related in any way. The only person who this would be strange for is the person writing this who is the only link between them, and even then it's only through marriage(s)
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Barrie Verdin 4 months ago
Find this a little hard to believe. It does make an entertaining yarn tho'.
Jerusalem Cat Syndrome 4 months ago
You'll probably be more successful after you learn English. My dad impregnated his step-daughter (my step-sister). She kept the baby so my step-sister's child is also my sister. It make it even odder, my step-sister is now dating my step-brother from my mother's previous marriage. To top it all off, my step-sister's mother m******d her husband back in the 90s; his name was Doug Gardner. She buried him in the flower garden, so Doug was dug into the garden (NOTE: one can't be dug).
#30
I just found out my grandpa married my grandma when she was 14 years old and he was 28 years old 🙃 they ended up having 8 kids together
Kitty 🥀 4 months ago (edited)
This was possible in EVERY country that long ago when it happened, dumba$$. And no, not now, it’s quite literally a federal crime. Get your head out of your a$$. I’m so sick of the anti-American hatred on here. We get it, we have a bunch of naive idiots who got duped into voting for a clown dictator. It sucks enough already. Leave us the fu¢k alone.
Load More Replies... tori Ohno 4 months ago
My great grandmother was married off when she was about 11 and had her first child at 12. Why? Because her period had started. The saying was "If it can bleed, it can breed" That's just what you did with little girls back then. Yes, in America
Earonn - 3 months ago
I think we can safely remove the "back then". That's the USA today, and it's either cheered for or quietly tolerated, except for some performative complaining online.
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tracy black 4 months ago
not uncommon years ago my mil was 15 when she married her 1st husband my fil he was 32
Huddo's sister 3 months ago
I thought it weird when I was a kid that my dad was 7 years older than my mum. My stepdad is 9 years older than her, and though it is not such a big deal when you are older there is still plenty of generation gap. When they and my uncle and his wife (she is about 7 years older than him) get chatting, often my aunt and stepdad get enthusiastic about tv or music they liked when they were younger, which often passed my mum and her brother by.
nicholas nolan 4 months ago (edited)
You're a walking example of the need for a mute button in comment sections everywhere. Your favorite scapegoat is carrying a fuckton of weight here.
Load More Replies... #31
My dad had an affair with his brothers wife while his brother was dying of brain cancer, he moved into their home within months after his death
KrazyChiMama 4 months ago
In my experience (not me but many friends) if a person cheats WITH you, they’ll cheat ON you!!!
Paul C 4 months ago
Does seem to be mostly true - once a cheat, always a cheat. I've only known one person who deeply regretted cheating and never strayed again.
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NoRestfortheQWERTY 4 months ago (edited)
I'm sure. Survival s*x is, unfortunately, a thing, and high-stress situations often bring about just this sort of event. I can't say I'm a fan of this, but there are decisions that I'd judge much more harshly than this one.
Load More Replies... Michael Largey 4 months ago
Then the brother was suffering from three cancers instead of just one.
#32
My father told me he was an only child and that his parents were dead. 2 years after he passed away I got a call from his sister.
So she was looking for her brother for over 20 years unfortunately she found his obituary (he passed away in 2020) and that’s where she found out about me and it’s crazy we were secretly looking for his family my whole life. My mom hired private investigators and everything. My dad was essentially a ghost. There’s only 5 ppl that knew my dad which is me, my mom and 3 other friends of his and they said they don’t know where he’s from or who he’s related to and my father NEVER talked about family. He didn’t even have his parents name on his birth certificate and when he died they said they have no records of anybody that’s connected to him. So when she called she put the pieces together for me. They were really really close. They lived together in their 20’s and after an argument with their mom one day he woke up and left and she never seen him alive again. She showed me pictures of him at her wedding, holding her first son, their baby pictures together, and both my dad’s parents who lived longer than he did. My aunt is amazing we talk every week. She told me why he left, thats a crazy story in itself. 😂😂😂
Cheryl May 4 months ago
I wanna know what the argument was about that was so bad, he never felt he could reconnect?
Still Going 4 months ago
Sometimes it's not about the one thing that was so terrible, it's a slow burn of build-up. Then an argument occurs, and the main thought is, "I gotta get out of here, I can't take another day". Time goes on, and they realize that life is better, more enjoyable, and they stay gone.
Load More Replies... Papa 4 months ago
Am I the only one puzzled about how he had a birth certificate without at least one parent named on it?
Dilly Millandry 4 months ago
In the UK you can have 'short' birth certificates which doesn't include parents names... maybe other countries have that as well? 🤷
Load More Replies... #33
My great grandpa lied to the whole family abt what he did during ww2 until his death and we found out what he rlly did 4 yrs when i came across an article. Turns out he was building the fxcking atomic b**b 😭
BeesEelsAndPups 4 months ago
I lie to people about what I did in the Army too. I tell them I was just a pencil pusher. But we mostly computers, very little pencil work involved. Shhh.. don't tell anyone.
Joe Reaves 4 months ago
Not that surprising. Only a few years ago there was a reunion at Bletchley Park, where the codebreakers worked. One couple discovered that they had both worked there when they both turned up to the reunion.
Zig Zag Wanderer 4 months ago
Also, the other side was definitely working on one too.
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Lee Gilliland 4 months ago
I still can't talk about some stuff because I took an oath. that's understandable.
Helena 4 months ago
I would've lied to if I realized the devastation I had helped bring about.
Alexandra 4 months ago
Well, let me trot out this. If the USA had to invade Japan in order to bring about the end of the war, the damage to both Japan and the US in terms of lives lost and cities destroyed would have been far worse. This was an impossible choice which was, don't forget, caused by the unwillingness of the Japanese to protect their own cities and citizens by capitulation in the face of defeat.
Load More Replies... #34
my "uncle" is not my uncle but my grandpa boyfriend
#35
I took an Ancestry DNA test. I found out that my grandpa had an affair 60 years ago and got another woman pregnant. The other woman was also married, and she raised the kid as her husbands. We all only found out when we the Ancestry results came back. Surprise half uncle and cousins!
Zig Zag Wanderer 4 months ago
We found out the same, without any DNA test. Was a bit of a surprise, but it happened before my parents got together.
BeesEelsAndPups 4 months ago
I found a missing cousin because of a DNA test, although infidelity wasn't involved. My father always believed his uncle had died childless in Dachau. And that his father was the only surviving member of the family, as he fled Poland in 1927. But turns out that while his uncle did indeed die there, he met a woman at the camp who gave birth to a daughter. While my father's father fled to Brazil before the war. This woman and her child went first to the Soviet Union when she was liberated, then later to Israel, and finally to the United States. So I have a cousin living in Minnesota.
Gracie Mae 4 months ago
found out the same way that the children my estranged "father" had/raised with his 2nd wife weren't even his--she took it to her grave. Also found out that while he was busy impregnating his wife (at least he thought), he was also busy impregnating one of his side pieces...yep, Peyton Place or Harper Valley PTA stuff, right there!
Seadog 4 months ago
Most of those ancestry tests are very unreliable. They're mostly just generalities and very inconclusive. The only truly reliable DNA tests are done by hospitals and law enforcement. Neither of which are interested in your relatives unless you're either in trouble or trying to avoid trouble.
Tropical Tarot 4 months ago
My wife is adopted and found an older sister she didn't know about.
#36
my great grandmas family was in the KKK….. they are all full blooded cherokee
Alexandra 4 months ago
Well, this is like African-Americans being antisemitic. In general, you would expect people who have experienced persecution and prejudice to feel sympathetic towards others who have experienced the same, but that is simply not the case.
Ace 4 months ago
Not really comparable, as the K*K is anti pretty much everyone who's not white and protestant.
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David 4 months ago
Cherokee were well integrated with Whites during the civil war era, thousands fought for the Confedacy and many owned slaves. Until the 1930s some chapters of the K*K allowed the Chickasaw and Chocktow members to join bc they didnt free their slaves until december 1866 and were part of the confederacy (the K*K paid for a giant statue in Oklahoma to General Stand Watie, a Native-American general who commanded a mix of Chickasaw, Choctaw, and Creek soldiers and later took White texas troops under his command. He was the last confederate general to surrender, and was regarded as a hero by the K*K)
Chrystina Sumpter 4 months ago
My husband’s grandmother joined the K*K—not because she had any interest in advancing the K*K’s principles but because in Depression era Texas, if you wanted to work you had to be a member of the K*K. She had young child and a sick husband so she did what she had to do.
CartoonCasey 4 months ago
This is the 2nd entry featuring K*K love? What the f**k? Do they have a great dental plan? Free Costco membership? Half-off all-you-can-eat buffet at the local diner? All the ones I've met have been deplorable bigots that hated everyone. Even each other.
G A 4 months ago
The day to day racism I encounter is between Eastern Europeans and Black people. The Eastern Europeans who do a lot of the local taxi driving, make the most horrendous comments. Even worse than your average Nigel Farage supporter.
Rick Murray 4 months ago
Thank you. I have caught parts of that but since it's in accented French and we're all foreigners, I was "nah, they can't have said that". But, I guess maybe they did. Sheesh. But, then, the locals aren't exactly complimentary about the "thieves and criminals from the east" either. So, what's that song about everybody hates everybody else?
Load More Replies... #37
Someone who is super conservative in my family had an abortion when she was a teenager and NONE of her children or family knows. Same person who would blast me for being pro choice
Helena 4 months ago
One of my uber conservative catholic aunts had an abortion at 15. Only 2 people knew, then an aunt told her daughter who told me. So now I guess there are 4 of us. She'd be mortified if she knew we knew. I know what the circumstances were, it was probably the right call.
amy lee 4 months ago
It's always the right call. No one knows what the personal circumstances are that go into making that call other than that person... It's never an easy decision and no one wants an abortion.
Load More Replies... Michael Largey 4 months ago
The conservatives who want the government to prohibit abortion are the same conservatives who complain about the government reaching into people's private lives.
Tina Girard 4 months ago
My understanding is that it is not uncommon for abortion clinic protesters to avail themselves of the services of said clinic.
Ace 4 months ago
This is not quite as contradictory as it may at first seem. Many pregnant teenagers were (and still are) pressured into terminating the pregnancy, and a significant number of them develop trauma symptoms as a result, so it's not surprising if some of them go on to be very anti-abortion.
Michael Largey 4 months ago
And many pregnant teenagers were (and still are) pressured into carrying their pregnancy to term, and a significant number of them develop trauma symptoms as a result, so it's not surprising if some of them go on to be very pro-choice.
Load More Replies... #38
My dad tried to kill my mum before they got married like full on murder attempt and she still decided to marry him cause she felt so trapped
LuckyL 4 months ago
Easy to say. There are so many people stuck in a*****e relationships - and it's always easy to judge from the outside
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Tabitha 4 months ago (edited)
And that her husband died young, so she could have more happy years without him. Remember, a******s like that don’t usually ingratiate themselves with everyone else, so he could easily have pissed off the wrong person at any time, to his detriment (death), thereby freeing OP’s mom earlier than expected.
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Two of my cousins can’t be left alone when they drink because they are kissing cousins 😭
BeesEelsAndPups 4 months ago
Hmm. I don't know if the law forbids first cousins from making out. They're just not allowed to get married.
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Chris the Bobcat 4 months ago
Oh Lord, who art on H!gh, please give me Deliverance from these sorts of posts. Oh thou who hast seen the family trees that do not fork, and had compassion on those unfortunate to witness, hear now my prayers for mercy and mild amnesia that I may not remember this. For thou art merciful and hear my prayers, Amen.
KrazyChiMama 4 months ago
Actually laughed out loud at this! :D Brilliant comment!
Load More Replies... Jerusalem Cat Syndrome 4 months ago
"Kissing cousins" means that they are familiar enough with each other to be greeted with a kiss, not that they are cousins who kiss (otherwise).
#40
Not a secret but on one of my relatives wedding the brides mother ran off with the grooms father on the wedding day
Michael Largey 4 months ago
Perhaps the ultimate in stealing the day from the bride and groom.
Brian Droste 4 months ago
If they were single, I don't see no problem with that, but if one or both ofvthem were married, then there would be a problem.
#41
2 sets of my grandparents met through being swingers then two of them fell in love so they divorced their original partners and got married
#42
My coworker asked me to stay for a while after closing because her ride didn't arrive yet and her rideeee was.....my uncle. 🫠
G A 4 months ago
Well, ride in the UK can mean a lift, not necessarily a ride as in a se xual partner....
Michael Largey 4 months ago
Being taken for a ride can also mean something else in the US, particularly if you live in Chicago.
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I found out my uncle was having an affair with my coworker when she asked if I wanted to see a picture of her new man.
#44
I was only born to save my sister that had cancer
Panda Kicki 4 months ago
TBF, a big chunks of all babies (20-50%) are born totally unplanned. I dont know if being born due to broken condome, like one of my firends, had diarrhea so pills didnt work or similar is better. Babies are born for many reasons but almost all of them end up loved. I hope OP could feel love for her own sake as well.
Alexandra 4 months ago
It's more important that she can feel love for herself, that she does not see herself as a drawer full of spare parts for her sister. Personally I think it's wrong to place the burden of your child's sickness on another child. Even if one child can cure the other, you will inflict damage on both.
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KrazyChiMama 4 months ago
There’s a really good movie about this scenario…it’s called My Sister’s Keeper. Have tissues nearby…
Major Harris 4 months ago
there is a horror movie with this plot! forget the name. but, a girl is called to meet her bio father. she meets him. she finds out that she is supposed to be sacrificed so that her organs can be transplanted into ANOTHER sister that she never knew she had so that sister can live!
#45
I found a Polaroid of my dad and his mistress as a two year old and gave it to my mom
#46
my aunt's twin sister was stolen by the doctor. no one knew she had a twin until she was in her 40s and my grandma casually said she wondered what it'd been like to raise both
Ace 4 months ago
Baby was taken away for adoption? And mother knew and was complicit with it? So not 'stolen' at all.
Huddo's sister 3 months ago
It's possible the mother was told the baby died and they didn't find out otherwise until later. This happened quite a bit during the 'stolen generations' in Australia. It was also how many members of the Australian cult 'The Family' were brought in.
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Caught my uncle meeting up at a hotel with my BEST FRIENDS MOM in high school. Yes I did introduce her mom to my fam. Yes I take full responsibility for BOTH of their divorces. I told my mom and let her handle the adult side of it 🤣
tori Ohno 4 months ago
A emale child?. We're conditioned from birth to take the blame for everything family oriented.
Load More Replies... #48
Not mine, but my husband’s 🥲 We moved into my MIL old house and while we were cleaning an old cabinet, I found paternity papers. It had the paperwork, polaroid of my MIL, alleged father and my husband (he was about 8 months old and this was the early 90’s). The results you may ask? 0.00% probability that the alleged father was biological 😭😭😭 BUT THERE’S MORE!!!! I also found adoption papers in that same cabinet. After she gave birth to my husband, she gave him up for adoption bc he was biracial and she lived in a white town (who basically outcasted her bc of his skin color). The agreement stated that he had to be placed in a foster home out of state and nowhere close to where she lived. She went on with life for a few months, started to feel awful about it and reached out to the agency. She found out he was placed 30 minutes from where she lived and she got him back through breech of contract. Finding those documents was WILD, to say the least lol
#49
My mum found out her dad wasn’t her dad at 45. She was not quiet about it. Told everyone. She found court documents with her father’s side trying to fight to just be able to see her when she was growing up. They fought for her when her mums side abu$3d her. Her biodad also had died a year before she found out. She was devastated.
#50
We found out that my great great uncle fathered 17 illegitimate children in our small town of 1000 people
#51
I found out my mom was cheating and sat on it for weeks. I finally told my dad. They divorced, my mom blamed me, and I chose to live with him. 32 now and have no idea what shes up to besides knowing shes divorced again and living with my sister. I dont talk to anyone in my family anymore 👍🏼
Paul C 4 months ago
Why do people blame others for their poor choices? The blame is purely on the person who cheated, not on the person who told the truth.
Dilly Millandry 4 months ago
Because they don't want to take responsibility or be accountable for their actions. It's a form of cowardice. Can't face up to harm they do others.
Load More Replies... Joanne Long 4 months ago
I would not have told my father. I would have a serious talk with my mother. There are some situations where divorce is not the immediate result of adultery. They may have worked it out. Or not. There may have been difficulties in the marriage that you knew nothing about. Women have affairs for many reasons, but most of the time it is some pretty serious emotional neglect. And possibly your father was cheating as well, you just didn't "catch" him. Your judgement has cost you your family. Possibly learn to forgive ?
#52
My cousin is actually my brother… My uncle and dad both mingled with the same woman at the same time but my dad could not claim him because he was MARRIED! So my uncle took one for the team and we later found out because he looks EXACTLY like my dad 😂😂😂
Susan 4 months ago (edited)
So no DNA test? If your dad and uncle are brothers then a child looking similar to one of them could still be inherited DNA from the other because certain features sometimes jump over generations.
Gracie Mae 4 months ago
totally agree--you can't go by looks AT ALL, and a dna test would definitely settle it.
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#53
my great grandmother was married off at 9yo to her 25 yo cousin bec she was an orphan and needed to be spoken for or she would be "up for grabs". this was yemen in the early 1900s. he was widowed with a daughter. they consummated their marriage when she got her period at 13. she had my grandmother at 14. so sad.
alchemilla vulgaris 4 months ago
Christianity no different. And probably other religions too.
Load More Replies... Huddo's sister 3 months ago
There was a program on the 'One child policy' in China on the tv recently in Australia. There are a lot of girls who were given up because they were girls and parents wanted a son. These girls became 'foster brides', adopted by a family to become the wife of their son.
#54
I was adopted by a lovely white couple and when my grandmother on my dads found out I was black she offered my parents 1500$ in cash to take me back to my birth mom because she didn’t want me “blackening” the family line 😳.
#55
found out super late but my aunt and uncle had a kid. yes full blood brother and sister
nicholas nolan 4 months ago
The aunt and uncle, who were brother and sister, had a child together.
Load More Replies... Earonn - 3 months ago
Tbh, as long as it's consensual, I don't mind at all. Today we have means to check for any medical issues, or treat them, so why shouldn't two people in love be together? Would I do it? Hell no, but there's a lot of stuff I wouldn't do. I wouldn't fvck that swine Charlie Kirk, for example.
#56
I was a donor baby. They still think I don’t know.
Huddo's sister 3 months ago
There is no need for this to really be a secret. In fact the IVF counsellors you have to see twice before getting fertility treatment where I live, encourages everyone to tell their children right from the start. They suggest writing a picture book or something to introduce the child to the concept early.
#57
my grandpa was a college professor and CHEATED on my grandma with one of his STUDENTS. that student has been my other grandma my entire life. nobody bothered to tell me any of this, i just pieced it together one day at 17
#58
I was born in a prison. Didn’t know till adulthood but when i was a child my uncle would sing Akon’s “Convict music” adlib at me.
Michael Largey 4 months ago
But playing Johnny Cash's "Folsom Prison" instead of "Happy Birthday" at every birthday party kind of spoiled things a bit.
#59
my dad has a child with his uncle's wife...she's 20 years old now and I call her sis all the time bc she's ...my cousin/sister
Michael Largey 4 months ago
The star of Chinatown, had a simillar experience. The woman he was told was his older sister was actually his mother. He found this out, not from his family, but from a reporter in an interview.
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my “cousin” is an offspring of my aunt’s daughter and son 😭 she doesn’t know about it
Susan 4 months ago
I'm confused. Your aunt's daughter and son would be your cousins. And how would she not know? She wouldn't just be randomly raising a kid she didn't give birth to without knowing how they showed up.
Neb 4 months ago
She (aunt) might not know who is the father of her grandkid. Or "she" might be cousin.
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My grandfather would sexually assault my mom and my father(his son) knew and didn’t cut off his father, or family. All of my grandfathers family said my mom was lying, and my dad NEVER defended her to them.
#62
my dad is not my biological dad & my biological dad died years ago. my mother had an affair on my “dad” and i was the one who discovered it through an ancestry dna test. 2/3 kids are not his biological children. 😭
#63
I’m adopted and most people in my biological family didn’t know I existed until I got back in contact with them at 21 years old…,I am the family secret
#64
im only alive bc my mom needed an anchor baby to stay in the the states 😭🙏
Jnausicaa 4 months ago
Maybe they can start with Ivanka, Don jr,, Eric or Barron. All were born before their mothers became citizens.
Load More Replies... #65
I took an ancestry dna test and had a match for a first cousin I’ve never heard of. Turns out my uncle had a kid with another woman that his family doesn’t know about. I met up with my long lost cousin around Christmas
#66
My grandma stole my moms wedding ring when my mom died and my dad didnt find out until my cousin got married 6 years later
#67
Uncle had two women pregnant at the same time.. took care of one but not the other. The story was, he ignored one bc the mom was underage.
#68
My great-grandmother moved to the US to avoid taxes she & her brother owed to the Ottoman Empire before WWI, after it was defeated she decided to stay in the US and get married and start a family. However, she already had a husband and kids living in Poland. It was kept a secret. My dad only learned of this when his cousin from Poland visited and he talked about letters he found from great-grandma and her kids.
#69
Found out my uncle cheated on his wife of 30+ years because my cousin posted on here looking for her dad and it was a picture of him from the 90s 😮💨
#70
My brother told me my dad wasn’t my real dad during a casual conversation at Walmart and when I told our sister she said she knew years earlier because she overheard our mom talking about it and pretended to listen to music while her iPod was paused 💀
#71
My uncle is married to his cousin. Oh I spilled. ☕️
Huddo's sister 3 months ago
So? My parents are cousins, but got genetic counselling beforehand and were told that because there weren't other cousin marriages in their direct line it was pretty safe. I really hate that the stigma makes me feel like I should be ashamed of them or being born. It is 100% legal where I live too.
Brian Droste 4 months ago
A while a ago I found out one of my uncles married his second cousin. My aunt. But not sure if it was second cousin or first cousin.
#72
My dad got his side pregnant while my mom was pregnant... the kids are exactly 7 days apart. We've never met the other bro, They'll be 13 this year
#73
I’m about 80% sure my mom and aunt unalived their dad bc he was sick and they both needed his money BAD (mom was in legal trouble for stealing and aunts house was gonna be foreclosed, and all of a sudden my grandpa was 💀). And when I brought it up to them, they beat me and broke my foot 😭😂
adi cosmin 3 months ago
OP dumb as wood. Why would you bring that up? That's like inviting Hannibal over for dinner?
#74
Did a DNA test to find my bio dad. Everyone cheered me on. Got my result back and was excited only to find out he assaulted my mom and that how I was made. Everyone knew but still let me do the test. Then I found his obituary he had passed 2 weeks before I got my results back. So gain a dad and lost him in multiple ways ✨trauma✨
Gracie Mae 4 months ago (edited)
speaking from experience, sometimes you're better off leaving well enough alone. it sucks, but not every dna test/search is going to end as a fairytale
#75
My gpa passed away, my GMA started dating this guys she went to hs with. Then told my mom that was her real dad. Did ancestry and found out that wasn’t her dad either 😅
#76
One of my daughters wears a eternity collar and she thinks I dont know but her cousin told me
Ann Jeppesen 4 months ago
I googled it and it’s: A collar worn by a submissive as a sign of devotion and never taken off
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Zig Zag Wanderer 4 months ago
My SIL came to a family gathering with full-on handcuff scars. Not small ones, big scabbed sores. I know what they look like from an arrest in my very misspent youth. She didn't try to hide them at all. I knew they were kinky, but really?
Joe Reaves 4 months ago
Your SIL needs to look into safe restraint methods. Nothing wrong with kink, but it shouldn't be leaving injuries (beyond the odd scratch or welt)
Load More Replies... mria alternativa 3 months ago
How hard is it to NOT involve unconsenting people in your kink?!
Adreana Julander 3 months ago
Usually a lot more sexual and a lot more domination than a promise ring.
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My parents are cousins 💀
Joanne Long 4 months ago
There isn't a high risk of genetic issues due to cousins having a child unless there are some health issues in the bloodline. It isn't that uncommon in many other countries and cultures.
adi cosmin 3 months ago
True, it's just illegal because it's a slippery slope and 2-3 generations of such offspring WILL result in issues.
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In high school my brother was grounded and took my step moms phone when she was asleep to text someone and saw messages of her cheating on our dad 😳
#79
One of my grandmother’s sisters killed her husband and got away with it. No one really knew how he died
#80
I’m related to OJ Simpson. My grandma told me when he died 😅
Michael Largey 4 months ago
Then now that OJ's dead, the OP inherits the responsibility of finding the real killers.
#81
My uncle went on the view in the 90s because he was a founder of a Christian swingers group
Anthony Elmore 4 months ago
Can't covet something that you already have access to, I guess. Or maybe the trick is that it was actually the wife coveting thy neighbor's husband, so it doesn't technically count.
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Found out that my grandpa was dying because of cancer but my family was keeping it as a secret so that he doesn't get stressed out. I was too young by that time and told him "grandpa you're gonna die soon" 🤷♀️
#83
My mum tried everything to abort me. Drank concussion and she bled for a whole month and thought I was gone. Her tummy was still small. Guess who showed up 8 months after. 💅. Turns out im the only girl she had. I have three brothers.
#84
Me and my ex ran into his male cousin and his bf, so when I met aunty and he said, this is my cousin’s mom I said, oh yeah , and aunty said, you met my son? So I said: yeah I met him and his bf while at the Raleys by my house, they live by me”. MY EX NEVER TOLD ME HIS COUSIN WAS DEEP IN THE CLOSET TO HIS FAM AND I OUTTED HIM AND IT HAUNTS ME FROM TIME TO TIME
ArchangelLoki 4 months ago
Good rule of thumb: if you don't know for absolutely certain that someone is out, just don't mention anything.
Michael Largey 4 months ago
It's like knowing their shoe size. Relatively few other people have an actual use for that info.
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I found out my half brother was having an affair with my full blood brother wife on a family trip 💀
#86
That I was admitted into a Mental institution as a child and my family never told me.
#88
my brother cheated on his husband like at 2 pm and made me promise not to tell anyone and everyone knew by like .... 3 pm
#89
My mom confessed she’s always been attracted to women but has “turned away from that life of sin”
Michael Largey 4 months ago
Well, if that attraction necessitated committing adultery, you might say that.
#90
im sadly related to Ben Shapiro 😔
#91
my mom wears an eternity collar, i found out pic searching it bc her last one was even more sus
Mabelbabel 4 months ago (edited)
Its a symbol that you're in a committed B D S M type relationship (the sub partner wears it)
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I found a marriage certificate with a woman that has my mothers name, same exact signature and she married someone with a very similar name to my grandfather - her dad 👀 no clue what that’s about but very sus
Cheryl May 4 months ago
I really hope the mom was named after HER mom (OP's grandmother), and they just happened to have similar handwriting...
#93
My mom tried to do Brujeria on my father, it back fired. She cursed us instead.
Susan 4 months ago
Isn't there some saying relating to dark witchcraft, like you get back what you dish out three fold. I think I remember something like that from a movie.
crashthegreenhat 3 months ago
It is a Wiccan thing, not necessary a witchcraft thing
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Melanie Filmer 4 months ago
Recently discovered that my blind great grandma had a daughter (my grandma) with her father. He and his wife (my great great grandma) raised the baby (my grandma) as their own. They all passed before this came to light so no idea if my GG-GM knew the baby was her husband's and daughters.
Melanie Filmer 4 months ago
Recently discovered that my blind great grandma had a daughter (my grandma) with her father. He and his wife (my great great grandma) raised the baby (my grandma) as their own. They all passed before this came to light so no idea if my GG-GM knew the baby was her husband's and daughters.
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