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She’s the girl who believes she’s the best choice and who is never in the wrong. She sees herself as a delicate flower whose heart often gets broken by vicious, toxic men. She’s also convinced that all the male population cares about is how to take advantage of women’s bodies and throws passive-aggressive fits on social media when she gets rejected.  

Sounds familiar? If so, chances are you have encountered at least one ‘nice girl’ in your lifetime. She’s the male equivalent of a ‘nice guy’ and can be equally as toxic and frustrating a persona as these knights in digital armor. 

Luckily, the ‘Nice Girls’ subreddit is set on calling out such behavior in hopes that it helps men and women distinguish fake nice behavior from the real thing. Scroll down to find their most cringeworthy posts, and be sure to share your own ‘nice girl’ encounters below.

While you’re at it, don’t forget to check out a conversation with a women's transformologist, Carolina Stukenberg, who kindly agreed to tell us more about how seeking validation from men can contribute to women becoming ‘nice girls.’

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What I Love About This Tiktok Generation Is Them Publishing Their Worst Deeds With Full Hd Selfie, So The Rest Of The World Can Stay Away Lol

What I Love About This Tiktok Generation Is Them Publishing Their Worst Deeds With Full Hd Selfie, So The Rest Of The World Can Stay Away Lol

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    #2

    Manipulation To "Humble" Him

    Manipulation To "Humble" Him

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    StarCrossedFriday
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Do I think she’ll realise she’s the hateful one? Probably not.

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    #3

    Manipulation 101 : Guy Becomes A Backup Plan

    Manipulation 101 : Guy Becomes A Backup Plan

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    Alexia
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's just... disgusting. But hey, karma happens, someday you may be someone's back-up plan too. See if you like it.

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    In a previous interview for Bored Panda, the moderators of the ‘Nice Girls’ subreddit explained that women who embody this term tend to be jealous and lack maturity and experience. 

    In their ‘About’ section, they additionally write that 'nice girls' are the women who complain guys are only interested in ‘females of easy virtue.’ They also are the “women who complain that men are shallow for not dating overweight women, while also demanding that their man have washboard abs. The women who hold others to the highest possible standard but have no standards for themselves.” 

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    However, they note that ‘nice girls’ shouldn’t be confused with ‘female incels,’ ‘crazy girls,’ ‘nice guys,’ or women who believe 'men are trash.’

    #4

    Guy Politely Acknowledges Break Up Message And She Gets Mad At Him For It

    Guy Politely Acknowledges Break Up Message And She Gets Mad At Him For It

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    Virgil Blue
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "I had hoped for better from you" Looks like she was baiting for some heartbroken "please, we can work it out" style texts. Sorry girl, your private role-playing session got cancelled.

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    #5

    Nice Girl Setting Standards

    Nice Girl Setting Standards

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    Doctor Strange
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You are not an amusement park ride, you don't need a "you must be this tall sign". God, I hate how short men get dismissed. I have so many guy friends who are absolutely fantastic, but get rejected out of hand because they don't meet some arbitrary height standard.

    LizzieBoredom
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Short men are closer to the ground, and thus understand the gravity of the situation.

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    Tiny Dancer
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had a 6-footer for 24 years (I'm around 5'7"). After five years together, he got hit by a car and was a bit stooped for a while until endless physiotherapy fixed that. Then he got hit by cancer. Chemo and radiation took him down a few more notches until we were almost nose-to-nose when he passed last year. He was still a bigger man than most at the end. Height means nothing. It's the character of a man that makes him "big" and my guy was a freakin' giant (saved two people on his way out by donating his kidneys).

    Panda McPandaface
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I just don't get this 6 foot and over thing, I really don't.

    Helena
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    BoyGanesh is right, otherwise there wouldn't be as many couples simply because 6' and over is a statistically small percentage. So guys below must be getting laid. I imagine it is more difficult for those like 5'3 and under, but that is also a statically small percentage.

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    Connie Hirsch
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There are plenty of 5' girls who will be happy to look up to a 5' 7" man.

    Vasana Phong
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’m 4’9, so every guy is a perfect height 😅

    Glen Ellyn
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My sister was only 4'10" and twice dated guys over six feet tall. She eventually married a guy who was about 5'8" I think.

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    Libstak
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Shorter men, relax, I'm 5ft nothing and tall men always freaked me out, all my partners have been well under 6ft, I like to hug and kiss without straining my arms and neck thank you very much. I'm past it all now but I am absolutely positive there are millions of lovely women out there for you who feel the same.

    Angrykitten
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'll never understand the rejecting of short men. It is nice to have someone who can reach the top shelf but step stools are a thing.

    KatSaidWhat
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's ok, men don't like bitches and you're going to wonder why you keep getting dumped.

    Jrog
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nah, they just settle for very old women, like 24 and over, or women above 120 pounds, i.e. fat ones. /s

    Ripley
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    i.e. they don't end up with complete turds like this one.

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    Shawn Barry
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So, women 200 lb and over...so you just end up dating women? Cause you know men don't like fat chicks

    Doc “Dr Rotwang” Rotwang
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've been walking around this planet for really close to half a century, and this mentality is one of the dumbest things I've ever encountered. ...and I've met $cientologists.

    Tim Richards
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Imagine this starting with "So, women 200 pounds or more..." Quit being so superficial and you might make a relationship work.

    SuperChicken
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And, these people wonder why nobody wants them.

    Benoît Rainville
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How can someone this shallow not find 5'7 tall?!

    Pansexual-Kat
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I actually have a short BF, and it kinda makes him cuter. So not sure why this girl thought that...

    lakitha tolbert
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm pretty sure I'm a woman and that this loud and shallow hussy does NOT speak for me!

    Lea S.
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If I saw this I would've reminded her she doesn't speak for all women. Short men are just as dateable as tall men.

    Lene
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have never had a problem being with men that were shorter than me. I do understand that the whole "man must be tallest!"-thing is somehow deeply rooted in the human brain as a thing from caveman-times. But I do not understand why people are so obsessed with looks. Perhaps I'm just too old (40) and/or too ugly to understand? But it's never been a problem to me whatever height a guy had.

    Lester the Space Duck
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I can't remember the amount of times I've been told I'm "not tall enough", mostly by women shorter than myself. I'm 5'6”.

    Stephanie Cunningham
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Actually, some of us love short men--with one exception, every man I've dated was under 5'9". My current boyfriend is 5'5" and WONDERFUL. Limiting your dating pool that way is just shallow and silly.

    Curtis Harvey
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They date women who don't believe all Beauty is physical and end up happily married and appreciated. Girls like you end up reeking of loneliness and despair.

    XanthippeⓐWulf🇨🇦️️🇬🇧
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Short guys don't worry there are plenty of women out there for you. I'm 5'9" and one of the hottest guys I dated (aside from my SO) was like 5'6". And I'm a tall girl who used to love me some high heels! Super sweet, confident, funny guy, not a serial killer, and honestly that's all that matters 🤷‍♀️

    Weaponized Beef
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No, this is the trash taking itself out.

    Janis McClure
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    With your attitude im amazed any man, short or tall, would date you at all! Geesh...oooooh Karma, got one for you

    Limey Cheesehead
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Anyone who turns down getting to know a man simply because he is short...you could be throwing away the love of your life because of silly reasons.

    justanotherweirdo
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    “We definitely don’t end up dating you, that’s for sure”

    Leticia Ramirez
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Gosh......people people......it doesnt matter what height you are.....you just gotta find the girl who is right for you and love you just the way you are. And guys who are looking at this....dont take this to far ignore her she is just talking sh!t and besides yall men who are short will find a girl right for you......just wait till the moment comes by.

    Börje Strömming
    Community Member
    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So, girls at 100 kilo and over.. Do you guys just end up dating women? Cause you know men don’t like fat women.. 🤔😏

    Jane L
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Some of the best dates I ever had were with shorter men.

    Rosecat
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Speak for yourself lol, my husband is shorter than me and he's the best.

    Red Skye
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    While the very small number of men I dated were tall, I didn't pick them JUST because they were tall, but because they were nice guys, for the most part who I had something in common to talk about for starters, also I'm not short myself

    GeoMcC
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm 5'7, and my fiancée is 4'9, so to her I am almost a giant!

    Bryan Wright
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe short men at least have more than one brain cell.

    Marie BellaDonna
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Once again, some women absolutely DO like short men. In fact, some of us love them. Sincerely, the wife of an adorable human teddy bear sized ex jockey. ❤️

    Kelley Baltierra
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If they do, they're probably better off than being judged by women like you

    Little Bad Wolf
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    1 year ago

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    James Anthony
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As a short king, I have dated a ton of taller women. And I mean tall taller, not just "taller than me" which is everyone over 5'8" lol

    Richienotsorich
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You see these awful dating profiles of women with 3 baby daddies who insist on having a man over 6ft tall. It seems the tall guys are the problems as that's the common denominator. I mean, it can't be vain women who pick men just for their height can it?!

    That_One_Harry_Potter_Nerd
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    honestly, as a short person, i'd prefer someone closer to my height

    Lee Banks
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My guy happens to be tall, but some of my best were of the shorter variety. Do not disregard.

    Helena
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am 5'4, any more than a few inches taller than me, feels like making out with my dad. No one wants that.

    Natalie Kelsey
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm taller than my 5'7" husband. He's so fun, smart and kind I didn't even notice that he was shorter until we'd been dating for months. We've been married for 24 years. He's faithful, funny, and supports our family. You don't have to be a certain height to be attractive and a good person. So weird to dismiss people because of height.

    Carol Lock
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My most AMAZING boyfriend ever ... was 5'4" tall. He was also an Army Ranger, a WestPoint grad, a fully thoughtful evolved human being, and the ABSOLUTE S**T ON WHEELS! We broke up for good reasons ... but his height was NO PART OF IT!!!

    Becca not Becky
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have one, and we've been married 8 years :)

    Susie
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I love when people think their taste/preferences are universal. I couldn't possibly care less about the height of a potential partner.

    Anne Roberts
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't mind short men. I'm only 5 feet tall myself.

    Andy Frobig
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm short, but I'm alone because I'm nasty

    Toasted Applesauce
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm a 5'8 girl and I'll happily take a shorter man. It makes for easy forehead kisses!

    tracy black
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    she dont know what shes missing my wonderfully fantastic amazing loving boyfriend is only 5'5" which is fine cause im only 5'1" i love this man with everything in me

    SAF saf
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know plenty of shorter guys that are married or have GF's. The trick is to avoid unpleasant, toxic women. Here's the thing, not every short women want's to date a super tall guy.

    Brian Droste
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am short and at times I notice females looking at me.

    Julie S
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm 5'3" I like short men.

    Michael Largey
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Of course women date short men. How else does the OP think short men get born in the first place?

    Max Fox
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The great advantage of single men 5' 7" and under is that garbage like this takes itself out. Imagine discovering that this is what you're dating after actually wasting time and emotional effort.

    David Beaulieu
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Imagine saying the same thing but inserting "heavy women"...

    Pablo Ramos
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't know. I've seen short guys that say: "Wait until she sees the size of my... Bank account

    Aranora
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am 5'1" I like short men... I don't want to have to stand on a step ladder

    Steve Robert
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm 5'7", and I've had more pretty girls than I could have ever imagined. But if I had to date you, I'd rather date other guys, and I'm straight!

    David
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I mean I met a couple once, the husband had dwarfism and about 4'3, the wife was 6'2. Love is love, and not all women care about height

    Ge Po
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I love my short man and have done so for 25 years plus. I tell you, it's mostly attitude and attention that counts, not size, especially in the bed-room.

    devotedtodreams
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm not sayin I would never date short men - my ex was my height (168 cm). But after the experience with him, I'd have to make sure they don't have a Napoleon complex next time.

    Igor914624
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Height discrimination is the last acceptable prejudice. Society is just fine with short jokes, lower pay for shorter people, and physical abuse. Heightism also affects income. Research shows that on a professional level, stature affects both men and women in tangible, albeit slightly different, ways. Studies show height correlates with higher income: recruiters favor taller candidates and height influences promotion opportunities. Research demonstrates we perceive taller men and women as more 'leader-like', deeming them more dominant, intelligent and healthier; tall men are more likely to attain managerial positions. It really sucks. I can't call someone fat. That is offensive. So why is it not offensive to call someone short, midget, or smurf?? It hurts just the same. And the fat person can diet. All I can do is have very expensive surgery to lengthen my leg bones. And I would be in a wheelchair for 6 to 8 weeks while this was going on. Fight heightism!

    Papa
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    1 year ago

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    martin734
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In my case this is half true. I am 5'6" and I do date men as well as women.

    Bret Sander
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We'll take him. Everyone likes a pocket gay.

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    This Is A Perfect Example Of Someone Being Overly Dramatic. It's Amusing How Some People Think So Highly Of Themselves

    This Is A Perfect Example Of Someone Being Overly Dramatic. It's Amusing How Some People Think So Highly Of Themselves

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    Adam Chang
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nah real man would know you are not worth the trouble.

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    In another interview for Bored Panda, the moderators distinguished ‘nice girls’ from ‘nice guys,’ saying that the latter tend to be more intense than the former.

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    "As a woman, I've never heard of a self-proclaimed nice girl turning violent," one team member said. "However, most women I've known have met at least one self-proclaimed nice guy that made them genuinely fear for their safety. Which is not to say that women don't have the potential to be dangerous, or aren't dangerous-but I personally have not heard of a woman stalking a man and committing acts of violence because he spurned her advances."

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    Guys, I Think I’m In Love

    Guys, I Think I’m In Love

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    #8

    Am I In The Wrong Here Because She Withheld That She Had Children?

    Am I In The Wrong Here Because She Withheld That She Had Children?

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    Kalikima
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't put in my profile that I have a kid. I don't want to attract any weirdos that are looking for single moms with kids, either to take advantage of me or him. I always make sure to mention it pretty quickly, usually by asking them if they have any..

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    #9

    Compliments Are Insulting

    Compliments Are Insulting

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    The moderators also emphasize that the purpose of the subreddit is not to hate on women. Therefore, they kindly ask their members to refrain from making sexist comments. Their actual aim is to educate women on their internalized sexism and prevent them from becoming the ‘nice girls.’ "We like to believe that female visitors to our subreddit have been pointed in the right direction," they shared.

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    This Just Happened On My Alt Account Lol (Now With Less Username)

    This Just Happened On My Alt Account Lol (Now With Less Username)

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    Donkey boi
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The source post has been removed, so I cannot tell if there was more to this post.

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    #11

    Nice Girl Has Trouble With Her Spelling (Xpost From R/Boneappletea)

    Nice Girl Has Trouble With Her Spelling (Xpost From R/Boneappletea)

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    Couldn’t Be Bothered To Wait When Told He Was On His Way

    Couldn’t Be Bothered To Wait When Told He Was On His Way

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    Skogsrået
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Why can't i find a decent guy?" Maybe when you start acting like a decent person yourself, you get what you give.

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    The issue of ‘nice girls’ seems to arise from women’s hard-wired need for validation from men. This means that females often seek the approval of males, whether it’s received in the form of compliments, praise, affirmations, or sexual attention. The tendency to seek such validation stems from our patriarchal society, where men’s opinions and perspectives are valued more than those of women. 

    “Many women find themselves seeking validation from others, particularly men, as a way to feel good about themselves,” further explains women's transformologist, Carolina Stukenberg. She notes that such behavior can also derive from deeper issues, such as dysfunctional family dynamics or childhood adversity, which can result in low self-worth and self-esteem in women. 

    “In such environments, love and affection may have been conditional, leading to the belief that these must be earned through pleasing others,” says Stukenberg. 

    #13

    Girlfriend Cheated On Me. Broke Up With Her Then She Sent This

    Girlfriend Cheated On Me. Broke Up With Her Then She Sent This

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    #14

    How Insecure Do You Have To Be To Say This

    How Insecure Do You Have To Be To Say This

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    #15

    I Get What I Want, Always!

    I Get What I Want, Always!

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    Jihana
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Being an entitled brat is definitely not a fantastic personality.

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    She adds, “Another aspect that creates the need for seeking validation is that from a young age, women may learn to prioritize the needs and expectations of those around them, often at the expense of their own authentic selves. This "good girl syndrome," rooted in the desire to be loved and accepted, can lead to a pattern of self-abandonment. Women may mold themselves to fit the projections of others, masking their true essence in the process.”

    #16

    I Too, Love Being A Trashy Person

    I Too, Love Being A Trashy Person

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    #17

    She's Mad The Man She Rejected Moved On

    She's Mad The Man She Rejected Moved On

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    BROmanicus85
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So Thomas and Emily have to ask for permission to date?! (great job censoring) :))

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    #18

    Easly Satisfied With The Best

    Easly Satisfied With The Best

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    BoredHouseKitty
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The missing space after every punctuation just rubs me the wrong way.

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    Constantly being conscious of how a man sees you over focusing on how you feel about yourself can greatly damage a person’s self-esteem and result in emotional dependency and unhealthy relationships in which deeper emotional needs are unmet.

    Research from the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology also suggests that individuals who thrive on external validation tend to experience higher levels of stress and have a lower overall well-being.

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    Stukenberg additionally notes, “Women who constantly seek validation from others may experience self-doubt, negative self-talk, burnout from prioritizing others, and a tendency to people-please. These behaviors not only diminish a woman's sense of self but also create a cycle of dependency on others for approval and worth."

    #19

    Imagine Being This Self Absorbed

    Imagine Being This Self Absorbed

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    #20

    Happened A While Back, But Being Threatened Still Cracks Me Up

    Happened A While Back, But Being Threatened Still Cracks Me Up

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    #21

    Next Week She’ll Be Asking “Why Am I Single?”

    Next Week She’ll Be Asking “Why Am I Single?”

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    However, an individual's need for approval can be so deeply rooted in them that they don’t realize that they’re seeking it. “The first step is to break free from the need for "external" validation, women must first become aware of the patterns that hold them back,” says Stukenberg. “Recognizing these behaviors is a crucial step toward healing and liberation. Women need to understand that self-worth and self-esteem are not fixed; they can be transformed.”

    #22

    Me Too Sis, Me Too

    Me Too Sis, Me Too

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    Panda McPandaface
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think this is a really badly stated example of a real situation though - too much time being a doormat is not good but a complete 180 degree turn is not the solution.

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    #23

    I’m Very Confused

    I’m Very Confused

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    #24

    Ex Girlfriend Showed Up To My Apartment Uninvited

    Ex Girlfriend Showed Up To My Apartment Uninvited

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    Dillon Sizemore
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    100% the breaks more then 5 min where her calling someone else to complain about her ex not answering the phone or door.

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    When the pattern of external validation is recognized, then the person can start working on addressing it. To combat seeking approval from men, women should find ways to seek out self-validation by focusing on their strengths and accomplishments and spending time with people who build them up and make them feel better about themselves. 

    #25

    Apparently This Man Isn't A "True Gentleman" Because He Wants Her To Feel Safe

    Apparently This Man Isn't A "True Gentleman" Because He Wants Her To Feel Safe

    outcastreturns Report

    #26

    She Seems Nice

    She Seems Nice

    agni07 Report

    rmandevi831
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Hiring"? That word, I don't think it means..what you think it means...

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    #27

    Don’t Date Witches. She Cheated On Me 2 Years Ago. I Have Blocked Her On Everything And She Still Sends Me Spells

    Don’t Date Witches. She Cheated On Me 2 Years Ago. I Have Blocked Her On Everything And She Still Sends Me Spells

    MysteriisDomSatan Report

    SassyFrassy
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That is so embarrassing. Like it hurt to read that

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    “Women need to prioritize their own needs, set healthy boundaries, and raise their emotional intelligence. This involves learning to say "no" without guilt and communicating their needs and opinions in a healthy and assertive way.

    Women should also take time to establish their own values and affirm their self-worth. If breaking these patterns feels challenging, seeking support from a professional or a proven method can be transformative. Healing these wounds and building confidence doesn’t have to take years; it can be achieved through focused work that brings about lasting change,” concludes Stukenberg.

    #28

    My Cousin Posts This Nonsense, But Then Goes And Hits Her Ex-Boyfriend With A Car

    My Cousin Posts This Nonsense, But Then Goes And Hits Her Ex-Boyfriend With A Car

    ilikebgirlstx Report

    InoueAmani
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    One thing social media has taught me is that ppl who post this c**p and lots of quotes about being strong and a fighter and everything of that nature are varying degrees on the hot mess -to- dumpster fire spectrum.

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    #29

    I Don't Think This Is The Flex You Thought It Was

    I Don't Think This Is The Flex You Thought It Was

    cafejocky93 Report

    Panda Kicki
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I need a translation on this post. I can read the words but no idea what they say.

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    #30

    Alpha Man Raised By Queen, Please Apply!

    Alpha Man Raised By Queen, Please Apply!

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    Skogsrået
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Alpha male contradicts romantic, generous, loving and caring so wtaf do you really want lady? Do you even know?

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    The scrutiny and challenges some women face today in advocating for themselves—whether in personal relationships or social situations—can be stark. In scenarios where they're met with prejudice or bias, it becomes apparent just how essential it is to navigate such encounters effectively. The story of a man facing racist assumptions when trying to enter his own home is a compelling testament to the tenacity required in such situations.

    For anyone seeking guidance on handling unjust confrontation, exploring the incident at this tense interaction can offer valuable insights.

    #31

    Dating Apps Are Scary

    Dating Apps Are Scary

    mildlyaverageguy Report

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    #32

    Picky Eater And Couldn't Cook

    Picky Eater And Couldn't Cook

    Mission83 Report

    #33

    Nice Girl Gets Mad After A Bald And A "Manlet" Reject Her (She Was Making Them A Favor By Trying To Date Them) [translated From Spanish]

    Nice Girl Gets Mad After A Bald And A "Manlet" Reject Her (She Was Making Them A Favor By Trying To Date Them) [translated From Spanish]

    dariemf1998 Report

    #34

    My Friend’s (M) Ex GF Did Anything For Her And She Shares This

    My Friend’s (M) Ex GF Did Anything For Her And She Shares This

    Espanico5 Report

    Ripley
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why would anyone, regardless of their gender, think that anyone other than them is responsible for "building their dream life?"

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    #35

    Spoiler Alert I’m Not Gay

    Spoiler Alert I’m Not Gay

    Middle-Lychee-7707 Report

    Aroace tiger (she/they/he)
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Yes im gay, thats why, as a man im WAS trying to date you, a woman"

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    #36

    Found In The Wild Lol

    Found In The Wild Lol

    Medium_Listen_9004 Report

    Crash1985
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Love it. I'm a guy and this hits in the feels. Ladies stand up for your beliefs and never drop your standards. You ARE worth it!

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    #37

    I've Been Invited To Apply!

    I've Been Invited To Apply!

    Zeebuss Report

    Peet
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Pfff...amateur. A booking tool would be easier 🙄😅 No sorry, I'm ashamed for women when I see such things...and I'm a woman myself

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    #38

    Nicegirl In The Very Sub

    Nicegirl In The Very Sub

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    #39

    Found This Interaction On Twitter

    Found This Interaction On Twitter

    Delicious_Delilah Report

    StarCrossedFriday
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well, their agreeing to ‘not being weird’ didn’t last long.

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    #40

    Girl I Met Gets Upset After Finding Out My Ex Did Of Too, Tells Me I Gaslit Her After Accusing Me Of “Collecting Trophies”

    Girl I Met Gets Upset After Finding Out My Ex Did Of Too, Tells Me I Gaslit Her After Accusing Me Of “Collecting Trophies”

    A_sexy_black_man Report

    StarCrossedFriday
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She clearly needs to read the other BP page explaining what gaslighting is.

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    #41

    All I Said Im Not Interested

    All I Said Im Not Interested

    NUPEWilson Report

    Aroace tiger (she/they/he)
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Babes you need to have your standards HIGHER if ur bragging thst he doesn't try to rape you

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    #42

    Women Can Be Incels Too

    Women Can Be Incels Too

    Unique-Fig-4300 Report

    #43

    Reasons Why You're Not A Real Femcel

    Reasons Why You're Not A Real Femcel

    millkey420 Report

    #44

    Interesting Introductory Statement On A Dating App!

    Interesting Introductory Statement On A Dating App!

    Rich-Gloves Report

    #45

    In Blast Right Off The Bat

    In Blast Right Off The Bat

    Interesting-Impact17 Report

    Dillon Sizemore
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    25 and "figuring it out" is normal nowadays, unless you had a highschool sweetheart you married and are having a dream life with. If you have kids at 25 you are almost certainly still "figuring it out". I don't think most people "figure it out till thier late 30s early 40s, if they ever manage to "figure it out"

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    #46

    Apparently I’m A Loser Because Our Interests Aren’t Mutual??

    Apparently I’m A Loser Because Our Interests Aren’t Mutual??

    Madara1493 Report

    StarCrossedFriday
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    BP, what is the point of these entries if the screenshot doesn’t cover the actual relevant part of the story?

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    #47

    Must’ve Been Why You Got Mad About It

    Must’ve Been Why You Got Mad About It

    MisterGBJ Report

    #48

    Posted By My Extremely Verbally/Emotionally Abusive Ex (Who Also Apparently Became A Femaledatingstrategy User Post-Breakup). The Lack Of Self-Awareness Is Nauseating, Yet Perfectly On-Brand

    Posted By My Extremely Verbally/Emotionally Abusive Ex (Who Also Apparently Became A Femaledatingstrategy User Post-Breakup). The Lack Of Self-Awareness Is Nauseating, Yet Perfectly On-Brand

    FRC_GOAT Report

    rmandevi831
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not sure that this is a "nice girl" story. She's not talking about all the men, just all the men _around her_. Maybe she looks like an easy mark to all the jerks?

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    #49

    Recieved Some Lovely Racism Today

    Recieved Some Lovely Racism Today

    TheGrandTriangle Report

    Toxic
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I could be wrong but how is this racist?

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    #50

    Wow First Messages Also Does This Count?

    Wow First Messages Also Does This Count?

    Old_Telephone_7587 Report

    Aroace tiger (she/they/he)
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ive never read the word blokes so much and i haven't even read the whole conversation

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    #51

    I Just Wanna Know What She Was Trying To Set On Fire

    I Just Wanna Know What She Was Trying To Set On Fire

    breakingxbarriers Report

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    #52

    That's Some Serious Dedication!

    That's Some Serious Dedication!

    Capable-Turn1039 Report

    Donkey boi
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    FFS! Now it's gay to... *checks notes*... Eat and See.

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    #53

    Quite A Bold Statement!

    Quite A Bold Statement!

    Ornery-Shopping5504 Report

    #54

    A Day After Cheating On Me, My (Now Ex) GF Posted This On Her Social Media

    A Day After Cheating On Me, My (Now Ex) GF Posted This On Her Social Media

    Throwaway050220192 Report

    Goose of the Ahonkalypse
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I love it when new age spirituality speak is used to avoid personal accountability.

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    #55

    What Do I Even Say?

    What Do I Even Say?

    Blue_Birds1 Report

    #56

    Homophobic Woman Loses Her Mind Realizing Not Every Man Is The Same As She Wants

    Homophobic Woman Loses Her Mind Realizing Not Every Man Is The Same As She Wants

    Bendodge13 Report

    #57

    'separates The Boys From The Men' Lol

    'separates The Boys From The Men' Lol

    RemindTree Report

    Donkey boi
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    2 pics to this one. Click the link below the pic.

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    #58

    I Talked To This Girl For One Day The Week Before

    I Talked To This Girl For One Day The Week Before

    OfficeMobile249 Report

    meeeeeeeeeeee
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    BP, f**k off with your censorship. I really can't believe someone gets paid to steal pics off reddit and pretend it is original content and not even bother their holes to check if they make sense with only half the images or if they're full of words that will be censored. Give me a job, I will actually check my work.

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    #59

    Total Mystery Why Her Dates Nope The Hell Out

    Total Mystery Why Her Dates Nope The Hell Out

    21nundispute Report

    Donkey boi
    Community Member
    1 year ago

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    #60

    Most Men Are Weak And Can’t Handle Her Kind Of Love

    Most Men Are Weak And Can’t Handle Her Kind Of Love

    Playful-Arm-8590 Report

    Donkey boi
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    3 pics to this one. Click the link below the pic. But you still won't find out who "she" is.

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