30 Times Women Didn’t Get Away With Their ‘Nice Girl’ Act And Got Shamed For It Online (New Pics)
Interview With ExpertShe’s the girl who believes she’s the best choice and who is never in the wrong. She sees herself as a delicate flower whose heart often gets broken by vicious, toxic men. She’s also convinced that all the male population cares about is how to take advantage of women’s bodies and throws passive-aggressive fits on social media when she gets rejected.
Sounds familiar? If so, chances are you have encountered at least one ‘nice girl’ in your lifetime. She’s the male equivalent of a ‘nice guy’ and can be equally as toxic and frustrating a persona as these knights in digital armor.
Luckily, the ‘Nice Girls’ subreddit is set on calling out such behavior in hopes that it helps men and women distinguish fake nice behavior from the real thing. Scroll down to find their most cringeworthy posts, and be sure to share your own ‘nice girl’ encounters below.
While you’re at it, don’t forget to check out a conversation with a women's transformologist, Carolina Stukenberg, who kindly agreed to tell us more about how seeking validation from men can contribute to women becoming ‘nice girls.’
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Manipulation To "Humble" Him
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In a previous interview for Bored Panda, the moderators of the ‘Nice Girls’ subreddit explained that women who embody this term tend to be jealous and lack maturity and experience.
In their ‘About’ section, they additionally write that 'nice girls' are the women who complain guys are only interested in ‘females of easy virtue.’ They also are the “women who complain that men are shallow for not dating overweight women, while also demanding that their man have washboard abs. The women who hold others to the highest possible standard but have no standards for themselves.”
However, they note that ‘nice girls’ shouldn’t be confused with ‘female incels,’ ‘crazy girls,’ ‘nice guys,’ or women who believe 'men are trash.’
Guy Politely Acknowledges Break Up Message And She Gets Mad At Him For It
"I had hoped for better from you" Looks like she was baiting for some heartbroken "please, we can work it out" style texts. Sorry girl, your private role-playing session got cancelled.
Nice Girl Setting Standards
You are not an amusement park ride, you don't need a "you must be this tall sign". God, I hate how short men get dismissed. I have so many guy friends who are absolutely fantastic, but get rejected out of hand because they don't meet some arbitrary height standard.
Short men are closer to the ground, and thus understand the gravity of the situation.
Load More Replies...I had a 6-footer for 24 years (I'm around 5'7"). After five years together, he got hit by a car and was a bit stooped for a while until endless physiotherapy fixed that. Then he got hit by cancer. Chemo and radiation took him down a few more notches until we were almost nose-to-nose when he passed last year. He was still a bigger man than most at the end. Height means nothing. It's the character of a man that makes him "big" and my guy was a freakin' giant (saved two people on his way out by donating his kidneys).
BoyGanesh is right, otherwise there wouldn't be as many couples simply because 6' and over is a statistically small percentage. So guys below must be getting laid. I imagine it is more difficult for those like 5'3 and under, but that is also a statically small percentage.
Load More Replies...There are plenty of 5' girls who will be happy to look up to a 5' 7" man.
My sister was only 4'10" and twice dated guys over six feet tall. She eventually married a guy who was about 5'8" I think.
Load More Replies...Shorter men, relax, I'm 5ft nothing and tall men always freaked me out, all my partners have been well under 6ft, I like to hug and kiss without straining my arms and neck thank you very much. I'm past it all now but I am absolutely positive there are millions of lovely women out there for you who feel the same.
I'll never understand the rejecting of short men. It is nice to have someone who can reach the top shelf but step stools are a thing.
That's ok, men don't like bitches and you're going to wonder why you keep getting dumped.
Nah, they just settle for very old women, like 24 and over, or women above 120 pounds, i.e. fat ones. /s
i.e. they don't end up with complete turds like this one.
Load More Replies...So, women 200 lb and over...so you just end up dating women? Cause you know men don't like fat chicks
I've been walking around this planet for really close to half a century, and this mentality is one of the dumbest things I've ever encountered. ...and I've met $cientologists.
Imagine this starting with "So, women 200 pounds or more..." Quit being so superficial and you might make a relationship work.
I actually have a short BF, and it kinda makes him cuter. So not sure why this girl thought that...
I'm pretty sure I'm a woman and that this loud and shallow hussy does NOT speak for me!
I have never had a problem being with men that were shorter than me. I do understand that the whole "man must be tallest!"-thing is somehow deeply rooted in the human brain as a thing from caveman-times. But I do not understand why people are so obsessed with looks. Perhaps I'm just too old (40) and/or too ugly to understand? But it's never been a problem to me whatever height a guy had.
I can't remember the amount of times I've been told I'm "not tall enough", mostly by women shorter than myself. I'm 5'6”.
Actually, some of us love short men--with one exception, every man I've dated was under 5'9". My current boyfriend is 5'5" and WONDERFUL. Limiting your dating pool that way is just shallow and silly.
They date women who don't believe all Beauty is physical and end up happily married and appreciated. Girls like you end up reeking of loneliness and despair.
Short guys don't worry there are plenty of women out there for you. I'm 5'9" and one of the hottest guys I dated (aside from my SO) was like 5'6". And I'm a tall girl who used to love me some high heels! Super sweet, confident, funny guy, not a serial killer, and honestly that's all that matters 🤷♀️
With your attitude im amazed any man, short or tall, would date you at all! Geesh...oooooh Karma, got one for you
Anyone who turns down getting to know a man simply because he is short...you could be throwing away the love of your life because of silly reasons.
Gosh......people people......it doesnt matter what height you are.....you just gotta find the girl who is right for you and love you just the way you are. And guys who are looking at this....dont take this to far ignore her she is just talking sh!t and besides yall men who are short will find a girl right for you......just wait till the moment comes by.
So, girls at 100 kilo and over.. Do you guys just end up dating women? Cause you know men don’t like fat women.. 🤔😏
Once again, some women absolutely DO like short men. In fact, some of us love them. Sincerely, the wife of an adorable human teddy bear sized ex jockey. ❤️
If they do, they're probably better off than being judged by women like you
As a short king, I have dated a ton of taller women. And I mean tall taller, not just "taller than me" which is everyone over 5'8" lol
You see these awful dating profiles of women with 3 baby daddies who insist on having a man over 6ft tall. It seems the tall guys are the problems as that's the common denominator. I mean, it can't be vain women who pick men just for their height can it?!
honestly, as a short person, i'd prefer someone closer to my height
I'm taller than my 5'7" husband. He's so fun, smart and kind I didn't even notice that he was shorter until we'd been dating for months. We've been married for 24 years. He's faithful, funny, and supports our family. You don't have to be a certain height to be attractive and a good person. So weird to dismiss people because of height.
My most AMAZING boyfriend ever ... was 5'4" tall. He was also an Army Ranger, a WestPoint grad, a fully thoughtful evolved human being, and the ABSOLUTE S**T ON WHEELS! We broke up for good reasons ... but his height was NO PART OF IT!!!
I'm a 5'8 girl and I'll happily take a shorter man. It makes for easy forehead kisses!
she dont know what shes missing my wonderfully fantastic amazing loving boyfriend is only 5'5" which is fine cause im only 5'1" i love this man with everything in me
Of course women date short men. How else does the OP think short men get born in the first place?
I don't know. I've seen short guys that say: "Wait until she sees the size of my... Bank account
I'm 5'7", and I've had more pretty girls than I could have ever imagined. But if I had to date you, I'd rather date other guys, and I'm straight!
I'm not sayin I would never date short men - my ex was my height (168 cm). But after the experience with him, I'd have to make sure they don't have a Napoleon complex next time.
Height discrimination is the last acceptable prejudice. Society is just fine with short jokes, lower pay for shorter people, and physical abuse. Heightism also affects income. Research shows that on a professional level, stature affects both men and women in tangible, albeit slightly different, ways. Studies show height correlates with higher income: recruiters favor taller candidates and height influences promotion opportunities. Research demonstrates we perceive taller men and women as more 'leader-like', deeming them more dominant, intelligent and healthier; tall men are more likely to attain managerial positions. It really sucks. I can't call someone fat. That is offensive. So why is it not offensive to call someone short, midget, or smurf?? It hurts just the same. And the fat person can diet. All I can do is have very expensive surgery to lengthen my leg bones. And I would be in a wheelchair for 6 to 8 weeks while this was going on. Fight heightism!
This Is A Perfect Example Of Someone Being Overly Dramatic. It's Amusing How Some People Think So Highly Of Themselves
In another interview for Bored Panda, the moderators distinguished ‘nice girls’ from ‘nice guys,’ saying that the latter tend to be more intense than the former.
"As a woman, I've never heard of a self-proclaimed nice girl turning violent," one team member said. "However, most women I've known have met at least one self-proclaimed nice guy that made them genuinely fear for their safety. Which is not to say that women don't have the potential to be dangerous, or aren't dangerous-but I personally have not heard of a woman stalking a man and committing acts of violence because he spurned her advances."
Guys, I Think I’m In Love
Am I In The Wrong Here Because She Withheld That She Had Children?
Compliments Are Insulting
The moderators also emphasize that the purpose of the subreddit is not to hate on women. Therefore, they kindly ask their members to refrain from making sexist comments. Their actual aim is to educate women on their internalized sexism and prevent them from becoming the ‘nice girls.’ "We like to believe that female visitors to our subreddit have been pointed in the right direction," they shared.
This Just Happened On My Alt Account Lol (Now With Less Username)
The source post has been removed, so I cannot tell if there was more to this post.
Nice Girl Has Trouble With Her Spelling (Xpost From R/Boneappletea)
Couldn’t Be Bothered To Wait When Told He Was On His Way
The issue of ‘nice girls’ seems to arise from women’s hard-wired need for validation from men. This means that females often seek the approval of males, whether it’s received in the form of compliments, praise, affirmations, or sexual attention. The tendency to seek such validation stems from our patriarchal society, where men’s opinions and perspectives are valued more than those of women.
“Many women find themselves seeking validation from others, particularly men, as a way to feel good about themselves,” further explains women's transformologist, Carolina Stukenberg. She notes that such behavior can also derive from deeper issues, such as dysfunctional family dynamics or childhood adversity, which can result in low self-worth and self-esteem in women.
“In such environments, love and affection may have been conditional, leading to the belief that these must be earned through pleasing others,” says Stukenberg.
Girlfriend Cheated On Me. Broke Up With Her Then She Sent This
How Insecure Do You Have To Be To Say This
I Get What I Want, Always!
She adds, “Another aspect that creates the need for seeking validation is that from a young age, women may learn to prioritize the needs and expectations of those around them, often at the expense of their own authentic selves. This "good girl syndrome," rooted in the desire to be loved and accepted, can lead to a pattern of self-abandonment. Women may mold themselves to fit the projections of others, masking their true essence in the process.”
I Too, Love Being A Trashy Person
She's Mad The Man She Rejected Moved On
So Thomas and Emily have to ask for permission to date?! (great job censoring) :))
Easly Satisfied With The Best
The missing space after every punctuation just rubs me the wrong way.
Constantly being conscious of how a man sees you over focusing on how you feel about yourself can greatly damage a person’s self-esteem and result in emotional dependency and unhealthy relationships in which deeper emotional needs are unmet.
Research from the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology also suggests that individuals who thrive on external validation tend to experience higher levels of stress and have a lower overall well-being.
Stukenberg additionally notes, “Women who constantly seek validation from others may experience self-doubt, negative self-talk, burnout from prioritizing others, and a tendency to people-please. These behaviors not only diminish a woman's sense of self but also create a cycle of dependency on others for approval and worth."
Imagine Being This Self Absorbed
Happened A While Back, But Being Threatened Still Cracks Me Up
Next Week She’ll Be Asking “Why Am I Single?”
However, an individual's need for approval can be so deeply rooted in them that they don’t realize that they’re seeking it. “The first step is to break free from the need for "external" validation, women must first become aware of the patterns that hold them back,” says Stukenberg. “Recognizing these behaviors is a crucial step toward healing and liberation. Women need to understand that self-worth and self-esteem are not fixed; they can be transformed.”
Me Too Sis, Me Too
I think this is a really badly stated example of a real situation though - too much time being a doormat is not good but a complete 180 degree turn is not the solution.
I’m Very Confused
Ex Girlfriend Showed Up To My Apartment Uninvited
100% the breaks more then 5 min where her calling someone else to complain about her ex not answering the phone or door.
When the pattern of external validation is recognized, then the person can start working on addressing it. To combat seeking approval from men, women should find ways to seek out self-validation by focusing on their strengths and accomplishments and spending time with people who build them up and make them feel better about themselves.
Apparently This Man Isn't A "True Gentleman" Because He Wants Her To Feel Safe
She Seems Nice
"Hiring"? That word, I don't think it means..what you think it means...
Don’t Date Witches. She Cheated On Me 2 Years Ago. I Have Blocked Her On Everything And She Still Sends Me Spells
“Women need to prioritize their own needs, set healthy boundaries, and raise their emotional intelligence. This involves learning to say "no" without guilt and communicating their needs and opinions in a healthy and assertive way.
Women should also take time to establish their own values and affirm their self-worth. If breaking these patterns feels challenging, seeking support from a professional or a proven method can be transformative. Healing these wounds and building confidence doesn’t have to take years; it can be achieved through focused work that brings about lasting change,” concludes Stukenberg.
My Cousin Posts This Nonsense, But Then Goes And Hits Her Ex-Boyfriend With A Car
One thing social media has taught me is that ppl who post this c**p and lots of quotes about being strong and a fighter and everything of that nature are varying degrees on the hot mess -to- dumpster fire spectrum.
I Don't Think This Is The Flex You Thought It Was
I need a translation on this post. I can read the words but no idea what they say.
Alpha Man Raised By Queen, Please Apply!
The scrutiny and challenges some women face today in advocating for themselves—whether in personal relationships or social situations—can be stark. In scenarios where they're met with prejudice or bias, it becomes apparent just how essential it is to navigate such encounters effectively. The story of a man facing racist assumptions when trying to enter his own home is a compelling testament to the tenacity required in such situations.
For anyone seeking guidance on handling unjust confrontation, exploring the incident at this tense interaction can offer valuable insights.
Dating Apps Are Scary
Picky Eater And Couldn't Cook
Nice Girl Gets Mad After A Bald And A "Manlet" Reject Her (She Was Making Them A Favor By Trying To Date Them) [translated From Spanish]
My Friend’s (M) Ex GF Did Anything For Her And She Shares This
Spoiler Alert I’m Not Gay
"Yes im gay, thats why, as a man im WAS trying to date you, a woman"
Found In The Wild Lol
I've Been Invited To Apply!
Nicegirl In The Very Sub
Found This Interaction On Twitter
Girl I Met Gets Upset After Finding Out My Ex Did Of Too, Tells Me I Gaslit Her After Accusing Me Of “Collecting Trophies”
She clearly needs to read the other BP page explaining what gaslighting is.
All I Said Im Not Interested
Babes you need to have your standards HIGHER if ur bragging thst he doesn't try to rape you
Women Can Be Incels Too
Reasons Why You're Not A Real Femcel
Interesting Introductory Statement On A Dating App!
In Blast Right Off The Bat
25 and "figuring it out" is normal nowadays, unless you had a highschool sweetheart you married and are having a dream life with. If you have kids at 25 you are almost certainly still "figuring it out". I don't think most people "figure it out till thier late 30s early 40s, if they ever manage to "figure it out"
Apparently I’m A Loser Because Our Interests Aren’t Mutual??
BP, what is the point of these entries if the screenshot doesn’t cover the actual relevant part of the story?
Must’ve Been Why You Got Mad About It
Posted By My Extremely Verbally/Emotionally Abusive Ex (Who Also Apparently Became A Femaledatingstrategy User Post-Breakup). The Lack Of Self-Awareness Is Nauseating, Yet Perfectly On-Brand
Not sure that this is a "nice girl" story. She's not talking about all the men, just all the men _around her_. Maybe she looks like an easy mark to all the jerks?
Recieved Some Lovely Racism Today
Wow First Messages Also Does This Count?
Ive never read the word blokes so much and i haven't even read the whole conversation
I Just Wanna Know What She Was Trying To Set On Fire
That's Some Serious Dedication!
Quite A Bold Statement!
A Day After Cheating On Me, My (Now Ex) GF Posted This On Her Social Media
I love it when new age spirituality speak is used to avoid personal accountability.
What Do I Even Say?
Homophobic Woman Loses Her Mind Realizing Not Every Man Is The Same As She Wants
'separates The Boys From The Men' Lol
I Talked To This Girl For One Day The Week Before
BP, f**k off with your censorship. I really can't believe someone gets paid to steal pics off reddit and pretend it is original content and not even bother their holes to check if they make sense with only half the images or if they're full of words that will be censored. Give me a job, I will actually check my work.
Total Mystery Why Her Dates Nope The Hell Out
Most Men Are Weak And Can’t Handle Her Kind Of Love
3 pics to this one. Click the link below the pic. But you still won't find out who "she" is.
Speaking as a straight guy, I'm sure that this kind of c**p is pulled by plenty of dudes as well. I can understand anybody who is frustrated/annoyed/ticked off with the whole dating scene.
Speaking as a gay man, it's the same for everyone I reckon. So many POS out there.
Load More Replies...A very annoying set of posts copied from Reddit, many without the full story or context in which they were originally posted. Please make a better effort next time, Austeja.
Context isn't going to make this any better. And the full story is going to make it worse.
Load More Replies...I am utterly appalled. Like, embarrassed to be the same gender as these women.
Is this what dating is like for men most of the time? Or are these just some super unhinged women found in the wild?
Why say dululu and not delusional. One sound is an adult sound and the other is a 3 year old.
Absolutely ridiculous. BP a lot of these are missing context/information.
Ok, who the heck raised this latest generation to have the same requirements as a pampered pet from the 50's? What is with all the provider talk? Like, you are a grown a*s human being. Provide for yourself, what are you doing? Why would you put yourself in a dependent position like that??
Just a heads up that anyone can create fake text exchanges, tweets, screenshots, etc via a quick Google search and app download. Many of these are created by incel types for the sole purpose of sharing them with each other. Also the one with weird grammar and punctuation seems like a bot. many of these aren't real.
Speaking as a straight guy, I'm sure that this kind of c**p is pulled by plenty of dudes as well. I can understand anybody who is frustrated/annoyed/ticked off with the whole dating scene.
Speaking as a gay man, it's the same for everyone I reckon. So many POS out there.
Load More Replies...A very annoying set of posts copied from Reddit, many without the full story or context in which they were originally posted. Please make a better effort next time, Austeja.
Context isn't going to make this any better. And the full story is going to make it worse.
Load More Replies...I am utterly appalled. Like, embarrassed to be the same gender as these women.
Is this what dating is like for men most of the time? Or are these just some super unhinged women found in the wild?
Why say dululu and not delusional. One sound is an adult sound and the other is a 3 year old.
Absolutely ridiculous. BP a lot of these are missing context/information.
Ok, who the heck raised this latest generation to have the same requirements as a pampered pet from the 50's? What is with all the provider talk? Like, you are a grown a*s human being. Provide for yourself, what are you doing? Why would you put yourself in a dependent position like that??
Just a heads up that anyone can create fake text exchanges, tweets, screenshots, etc via a quick Google search and app download. Many of these are created by incel types for the sole purpose of sharing them with each other. Also the one with weird grammar and punctuation seems like a bot. many of these aren't real.
