50 Non-Sexual Traits And Habits That Women Find Incredibly Attractive In Men
Interview With ExpertIf you ask someone what they find attractive in the opposite s*x, chances are, the answer won’t just be about looks. Let’s be honest—attraction isn’t just about a sharp jawline or great hair (though, sure, those don’t hurt). Sometimes, the most swoon-worthy qualities come from the little things people do every day.
When someone online asked, “Ladies, what are some non-sexual things men do that are a mega turn-on?” the responses came pouring in. Women are sharing the small but meaningful actions that make a man stand out—from simple acts of kindness to being a great listener. Keep reading to see what really makes hearts flutter beyond physical appearance. Who knows? You might just pick up a tip or two to impress your special someone!
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People like to talk about, how ‘women love bad boys’ etc, but honestly, there’s nothing sexier than a guy who is a genuinely good person.
Not someone who is trying to appear like a ‘nice guy’ or someone who is worried about being perceived as good, but someone who genuinely cares deeply about doing the right thing.
If you intersperse humor in your conversation, it's easier to hold someone's attention. If they're listening for the next joke, they're listening.
Bad boys make really exciting boyfriends, but they usually make really p**s-poor husbands. Because that bad boy horseshit is a mask for extreme selfishness and emotional immaturity. A good, kind, gentle man is a way more preferable partner for a long term, committed relationship. Same goes for the bad girls, for that matter. You’re simply deluding yourself if you think you are going to successfully domesticate someone wild. The only one who has a snowball’s chance in hell of doing that is the wild person themself.
I agree! Look at the wonderful sparkle in his eyes. He's quite lovely.
Load More Replies...Yep, been married to a nice guy for almost 25 years. Love him to bits!
I hope you mean someone that is genuinely good. Not a NiceGuy™? 👍 https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Nice%20Guy
Load More Replies...I have no opinion on “bad boys” because I’ve never had one, but the man in this photo has eyes I could get lost in. I guess while I’m lost, he can do all kindsa bad things and I won’t notice. They are amazing, and they look so kind, too!
Remember random stories I tell and/or notice things about me (what I like/don’t like, etc) without my directly telling you the info.
On my first date with the man who became my husband, I told some random stories from my childhood. On our second date, he brought up one of them and asked a follow-up question.
I was blown away. He listened AND thought about it? Made me feel valued and heard.
Women LOVE when you pay attention to who they are as a person.
On the flip side, I did the same to a guy I was seeing, and he was honestly shocked because he looked at me and said, "You listen".
My wife said to me "You haven't heard a word I said!" I thought, what a funny way to start a conversation...
We do it to get into your pants. Now you sre married, ask him if he remembers what the question was related to
Awareness combined with handling things without being asked. A guy that can see what needs done & just does it w/o complaining makes me want to give him all the things.
You mean someone who can be an adult and assume responsibility for something?
One step further. It's that one person that grabs the broom after that neighborhood party at the neighbours garden to help clean up
Load More Replies...Take out the trash, clean the dishes, tidy up the living room…if the place looks clean and smells clean, then it’s clean :)
It’s only natural to wonder what catches someone’s eye when it comes to love and relationships.
And while everyone has their own preferences, today we’re diving into what women generally look for in a guy. Spoiler alert: it’s not just about looks!
Show a little vulnerability without being embarrassed.
Showing vulnerability is NOT the same as admitting faults :)
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Laughter is the best medicine. A man who can make you laugh until your sides hurt is a keeper.
Ok hear me out. Why didn't the skeleton climb the mountain? It didn't have the guts…
I made my partner cry with laughter while driving. Cop pulled up next to me and was about to kick my a*s until she explained the situation. The cops high-fived HER!
1. Gentle
Admittedly men are quite strong and can sometimes come off as a bull in a China shop. When a man is considerate and gentle, it genuinely makes my heart melt. Like men being very careful with delicate beings and objects like babies and kittens. Gentle affection from a man is god-tier. Combing your hair, caressing of the face, massages, helping you button something, hugs. Love itt
2. Hobby
When a man has hobbies he takes pride in, especially a bit niche ones, I find him so so attractive. When they explain their hobby or show me their crafts- omggg. I get to see how passionate they are about it it gives me butterflies. Seeing a guy so excited is so precious.
The hobby thing reminded me of a documentary about Iceland… They showed a knitting group for men and I really loved it.
Does this extend to sports? There are just so many people who really hate how much their partner is into their sports. I love playing golf, but while I have a bit of obsession with it, I temper it. She knows how much I love it, and will suggest I go play sometimes, when she thinks it'll help me or if it's been a while. I explain things to her and talk to her about golf, but I always *try* to keep an eye on how much she's actually interested. Sometimes I get carried away, though...
Science has some interesting takes on attraction. According to studies, men who can crack a good joke come across as more intelligent.
A great sense of humor doesn’t just make conversations fun—it can also be a major green flag for women. After all, who wouldn’t want a partner they can laugh with?
Looking after me while I was sick with a fever and fussing over me until I was well again.
Going through that now with the Mrs and our little one. Im sick too but I’ll be damned if they don’t get the treatment they deserve. We all have the flu :p
I wish you all a full recovery. Take care of eachother!
Load More Replies...Me too. All I want is to be reminded to take my medication, if my doctor prescribed any. Otherwise, be let me be miserable by myself. Thankfully, that's an easy preference for me to communicate and for him to do. :)
Load More Replies...I'm the opposite. The closest to "fussing" I'll accept is you running to the store for meds or Pedialyte or something. Otherwise, let me sleep. And definitely don't f.ucking touch me.
Isn't that normal though? My partner sneezed twice and i was all over her!
Why go straight to divorce? So many people think this way and I don't get it. If you like being left alone when sick, just tell your partner. Explain it to them and ask them to leave you alone during those times. Tell them that leaving you alone IS an act of love, in your eyes. If you never tell your spouse what you do/don't like and go straight to divorce when they accidentally do something you don't like, then you'll never be married very long...
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"I just saw that in a store and thought you might like it so i got it for you".
It's not the $$, it's the thought. It can be something small and seemingly insignificant- like a Hello Kitty keychain! So, not the $$, just being thought of, with love.
Yes! It’s the little things that mean so much more
Load More Replies...This! I don't believe in Valentine's Day. I think it's b******t and honestly, I loath it. The pressure men are under, in so many different ways. But the thing I hate about it the most is that if you are only compelled to buy me a gift, or flowers, or take me out to eat, or a romantic anything because of societal pressure... I don't want it. I'd rather have nothing than something you only gave me because a card company and a diamond company wanted more money.
The spontaneous kiss on the neck without the implication that they are fishing for more.
Any physical touch that isn't initiating sex is great; if you hug your woman, don't start groping her a*s - just let it be a hug
Not doing that is usually the death of all physical contact in the relationship. It's wild how many times my friends and I have just stopped touching boyfriends/husbands because they try to turn every touch into sex.
Load More Replies...While she was chatting with her colleague, i kissed her neck - she just blushed and laughed.
Kanan Gupta, an up-and-coming stand-up comedian from India, agrees. “Women love funny men. If you can make a girl laugh, you’re halfway there,” he says.
And honestly, he might be onto something. Being funny isn’t just entertaining—it also shows confidence and quick thinking, both attractive qualities.
Not adding more mental load to me. If they see something needing done they don't ask me if it needs to be done, they just do it.
Would your other half mind sharing? I had a right go at mine and said I qoute I'm sick of having to spoon feed you on sh# t that needs doing like you're a f#cking baby. If it needs doing just f#cking do it.
Load More Replies...If I promise to do something, I'll do it. There's no need to keep reminding me every six months.
eh.... it depends on the context. if it looks messy, ill just ask before dealing with it. chances are, thats how the other likes it. never assume anything. always ask.
I have such mixed feelings about this. I understand that many men don't contribute to the household nearly as much as they should. My ex-husband did contribute. But he's a "see it, do it" type and I'm a "I have a routine, please don't mess with it type." I would've preferred if he'd asked if I was planning to do something at a certain time or if I wanted him to do it.
This doesn't always work if you're married to a control freak perfectionist who'd rather do some things themselves.
I was safe there. By definition, no perfectionist would ever have even considered marrying me.
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My ex boyfriend/childhood sweetheart snuck out of his house, and walked 3 miles to the local science museum, bought a ticket with half his 3rd grade life savings, attempted to purchase the *pink prince Rupert glass droplet earrings with the other half of his savings for the year, found out they ran out of the pink ones, karen-ed his way to the equivalent of the CEO of the museum to demand they restock the pink ones ASAP because my birthday was in a month, and ended up, of course, having his parents called on him to pick him up after getting a glassworking lesson and making a custom, barbie pink set for me instead of the normal hot pink.
This stunt was entirely because my mom insisted I get the orange earrings to match my complexion, but he knew that I needed the pink for my personality at the end of a nerdy kid science playdate. Mind you, this is a 10yo boy who is disgusted by romance at this point. He did this all in the name of autistic rules of friendship.
He dumped me in highschool after his dad took away his autism & PTSD meds, in which he decided to self medicate with m**h as a last resort and not involve me.
When he had $10 to his name, he figured out how to give me $20.
Dude, if you see this, I still wear those earrings. I hope, wherever you are, that you are loved.
I want the poor chap looked after.Terribly sad.
Load More Replies...Yes, for sure. Hopefully, he was able to get his meds again once he became an adult.
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Being considerate and thoughtful.
This should be a given. This should be a class taught in all schools around the globe.
A lot of these things are a given but they are still rare enough for someone to practice long term that you notice them.
Load More Replies...He adds, “It’s not about cracking the perfect joke, it’s about making her smile even on a bad day. If you can do that, you’re golden.”
Kanan also points out, “The best part about being funny? It breaks the ice. Even if you don’t look like a movie star, a good sense of humor can make you unforgettable.”
Being enthusiastic about a favorite thing or hobby. It's cute when you guys light up and are genuinely happy and enjoying yourself.
Careful what you wish for, you might receive an endless ramble about my writing 😆
My bf literally was cleaning up the yard and brought me some of the wildflowers from around the yard. It was just a sweet simple gesture. It was thoughtful.
I tried this once and she got mad. How was I supposed to know she was allergic to poison ivy :( /J
When it comes to physical appearance, things can get interesting. Research suggests that women tend to pick good-looking guys for short-term fun rather than long-term relationships.
So, while abs might get attention, they don’t necessarily seal the deal in the long run.
When they take a break from acting stoic and are silly and playful instead.
My dad was a proper businessman. And on Saturday mornings, he'd put on his "project work" jeans, wouldn't shave and would chase us around the house to give us beard rub rashes. He was the best "dad-joke" teller. That non-self-conscious sense of the ludicrous is wonderful. This should never be confused with someone who thinks "pranks (bullying) are funny. He had an innocent and kind sense of humour.
Reading books for pleasure!
I have always found people who read come across as smarter and just way more interesting. A lot of people don't read these days and it shows.
I think they just have more to talk about. I love talking to people who are reading the same genre of books and finding out what they thought, getting recommendations etc. I should join a book club.
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Quiet confidence.
Real confidence is not knowing things will work out the way you want. It's knowing you'll be all right even if they don't.
Yes, quiet, I get the creeps when a guy compliments himself... (Or when a woman does it for that matter)
For long-term commitment, kindness seems to be the real winner. Studies show that women are more drawn to men who are thoughtful, compassionate, and willing to help others.
A guy who is generous with his time and emotions? That’s the kind of energy many women are looking for.
Being gentle. Truly wants me to be fine and not to hurt my Feelings. Helping Others. Standing up for those less privileged, speaking up, being a true ally ❤️.
When he pays attention and puts in effort.
When they’re gentle. Gentle-men.
And it’s not just a small trend. A massive global survey from 2019, which included 68,000 people from 180 countries, revealed that nearly 89% of women ranked kindness as one of the most important traits in a partner. Basically, being a good human never goes out of style.
TAKE CARE OF THEMSELVES. and putting the socks in the hamper.
Yes, just keep looking nice. Be active and brush your hair. Not stop it the day you marry or something.
Loving his kids/pets dearly. Emotional intelligence. Talking about our future together and looking forward to it (once we’re committed to each other, not in the beginning). Wanting to cuddle without the expectation of s*x. Speaking out about social injustices. A straight man that defends another man who is being picked on (like gay men/trans people) is just… wow. What a man.
Being thoughtful / caring, like putting their hands on corners when we pass by to make sure we don't get hurt, noticing things, making sure we are, and feel safe all the time (not just texting but also like offering to order a taxi or give us a ride).
Sharp cornered tables or something, so you don't twat your knee or hip on it accidentally.
Load More Replies...I love the protective hand on the small of the back thing but only if done unconsciously
So you don't like it when they're purposefully protective? Or am I just misunderstanding what you're trying to say?
Load More Replies...So, while charm and looks might get initial attention, kindness and humor seem to be the real deal-breakers. Being genuinely caring and knowing how to lighten the mood go a long way in impressing someone.
The waist grab never ever ever gets old.
Being a good dancer, playing a musical instrument.
I don't care if he can dance or not; if he's willing to go on the dance floor, I'm good. I dated a guy in my late 20's that was a terrible dancer but he was so much fun it didn't bother me one bit.
Why not? My husband plays guitar and I'm not musically gifted or anything but I like to accompany him on the bongos or mess around on the bass. Even if you have no formal training as long as you can hold a beat it's a lot of fun.
Load More Replies...If a guy can lead during a dance, that's sexy as hell. I dance as well as a tree with a spasm, but I once had a guy lead me in the tango and suddenly I could dance!
My husband is a great salsa dancer. But he also plays grade 1 Shetland fiddle, so that sort of cancels it out ;-)
At the end of the day, attraction is complex, and everyone has their own unique preferences. But these studies give us a fun insight into what women tend to appreciate in a partner.
Which one of these qualities do you think is the most attractive? Share this with a guy friend who might need a little insight into what really makes a lasting impression!
Reverse parking with one arm.
I can do this and drive a stick shift, does this "turn on" men? I have been told it does.
Anyone, male or female, who can back up with a trailer attached puts me in awe! There's guy across the street from me who does it every day when he comes home: amazing! :D
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Get me food after a long day without me asking for it or drive to wherever I am simply because 'he wants to see me' or 'misses me'. Another thing I love is the fact that my boyfriend will send me pictures of random things he does/saw throughout the day. Like how heartwarming that you thought of me throughout the day 😭 COME HEREE!!
Said this many times before. Cooking real food. I dont care about instant ramen or a boiled egg. But if i see a guy cooking a proper dish and knows what hes doing, its very hot.
I tried to find "My boyfriend can cook" by Hollie McNish on YouTube, but it doesn't seem to be there. I've got the CD it's on, Touch. Here's the Spotify link: https://open.spotify.com/track/5tiwjho95V3w6uvDRBFsFC
I have an ex who could call any customer service line usually about extra fees/messed up charges and calmly tell them exactly what he wanted done and usually got additional services/perks too. It was hot.
Got an apartment to completely resurface the bathtub/shower in on of our bathrooms because it was slightly discolored when we moved in. Cable installation fees waved and a free month when they still charged it, etc.
Oo Oo I can do that! Thanks to all the bad people in the world, I can make these people’s life easier. I call it “Be a GoodBoi”
Dont talk about s*x.
Tbh i think it is a big turn on when he is just able to wait until i am ready to get intimate without talking about it beforehand all the time.
Dont talk about sex. Dont talk about sex. Dont talk about sex… My dudes, dont talk about sex. Use your damn hand if you need to but give women the respect they deserve, I promise you’ll have more happiness than any sex gives you
I'd like to turn this into a plaque and put it up on the wall. I don't know about other women, but this is a HUGE turnoff for me. Talking about sex when we are just getting to know one another makes me feel pressured and like you don't want to get to know me as a person, much less on an emotional basis. Argh.
And yet, asking for each step of further intimacy is SO hot! "I'd like to kiss you. Would that be ok?" OMG! Kiss me RIGHT NOW! "Do you mind if I (X)"? "would you like me to (Z)?" Hot, Hot, Hot! Why do so many people think that asking for consent makes it feel like a business transaction? If so, you're not asking properly. Ask as part of the seduction! Work it! Asking is VERY SEXY!
Load More Replies...It's all about building tension, of you talk about it too direct, all the tension is gone...
People, particularly young men, are way too obsessed with sex. It's what society (and hormones) has done. Sure, it's an important *part* of a relationship, but there are SO many more important things. Self-control is one of those things. It took me too many years to learn this.
But do, in any relationship regardless of gender, have a talk about sex. Please, when ever possible ,try to be clear with each other about desires, expectations, and boundaries. Not letting the other party know when you're interested is going to lead to miscommunication and frustration regardless if you are a man or woman. That being said don't harp on it. If you're partner is not up for it then bringing it up over and over is not going to help the situation.
Do the dishes .
My dudes, rinse your plates when you’re done with them…not hard…then put them in the dish washer
When a guy told me he had a Goodreads account I immediately texted two of my closest friends that I thought I found my soulmate
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1). By intelligence of course I mean, quantifiably and demonstrably so. None of the red-pill, low-quality discourse nonsense. Being articulate in thought and expression is a rarity these days which is to be expected given the visual media slops being forcefed to us in the name of short form content. So, yeah.. And not just in men but people generally.
2). I love laughing and rarely, if ever, do I take myself so seriously. I love to laugh. I will find the humour in any and every single thing... It is what it is. People who can find the humour in life's many MANY absurdities have my heart.
3). I am in awe of people who are capable of whipping up greatness in the kitchen. They're nothing short of alchemists I tell ya!
4). Being responsible.
Doing things without having to be asked. Simple mundane house chores. No one wants to be with an adult child. Mummy isn’t here to pick up your s**t and I shouldn’t have to ask you. Sweeping once in a while, help clean the dishes, cook. Stuff like that, it really makes a huge difference and mentally just lifts a load off.
A good friend sneaked out of his job at 5AM to change my tire on the side of the road but he had just looked up a quick tutorial for the first time and finished the job in 10 minutes. he was dressed formally and when he rolled up his sleeves to get to work i just goddddd.
This will probably sound a bit weird, if not immature, but I love just listening to him talk. Talk about so much stuff. The majority of what he talks about is interesting to me, and it involves everything from music to d***s to religion to other ancient cultures who inadvertently contributed to the bible as we know it today, etc. and I’m not a religious person. But our nights together generally consist of sitting on the patio talking for hours while smoking w**d, followed by laying in bed watching music videos and playing around with each others bodies. It all leads to mind-blowing s*x, and the reminder that it’s even better in your 40’s than it was in your 20’s!
Rolling their sleeves up to their elbows when they're wearing a dress shirt.
Manual labor 😩 working on a car, building something, etc.
Yeah, I do all that in our relationship. Our house and garden are a higgeldy-piggeldy mess (neither of us had father figures to show us those sorts of things) but it is full of love, dancing, kids' toys and silliness.
He buys me choclate EVERY PERIOD he hasn't missed one and has memorized my schedule.
This may sound stupid, but when they're good at catching. You throw something at them, and they catch it so casually, with minimal effort.😅.
When a man smiles or laughs.
For me, it's when a man is dumbfounded our chuckling about something, then looks at me and winks. I'm his, that's it. He can be young, old, handsome, hideous, whatever. A wink and a quick smile melt my heart and soul.
My husband can't whistle. When he's working in our upstairs office and has his music on (usually some dreadful turn-of-the-millennium power popstrels), he whistles along to it and it just makes my heart melt! I can't help but smile while I'm making the dinner or whatever, just knowing he's happy working away up there with Leann Rimes or whatever.
When they put one arm behind the passenger seat and reverse the car omg.
The goofy grin my husband gets on his face when he looks at me, and doesn't always know I see it. Listening to him talk to our animals in a soft tone. Like the cats meow and he'll have a full on conversation with them and then play dumb when I walk into the room. Hearing him call our son by his nickname, how he plays and interacts with him. I absolutely adore my husband.
When we're just snuggling and watching tv and he kisses me on the head. I melt every time.
If he's actively working to better himself. I don't mean he's always taking a college class or something. But like if he has depression, for example, he's aware and practicing coping skills instead of blaming the condition for thoughtless or poor behavior.
I have one that no one seems to think of but everyone agrees is important. Thinking things through to their logical conclusion. So many of them never stop to think to themselves, "What's the plan here?" Once I've leapt off this cliff, how will I get back to shore? Once I've shouted at my boss and gotten fired, what's my next step in getting things back on track? They often react (but we're the emotional ones, right?) and then realize they've painted themselves into a corner because they just didn't think it through.
Many people have this issue, of not thinking things through before it's too late. It's not just a guy thing or a girl thing. It's a people thing. Hopefully, we'll do a better job of raising the next generation and help them avoid this common issue.
Load More Replies...The goofy grin my husband gets on his face when he looks at me, and doesn't always know I see it. Listening to him talk to our animals in a soft tone. Like the cats meow and he'll have a full on conversation with them and then play dumb when I walk into the room. Hearing him call our son by his nickname, how he plays and interacts with him. I absolutely adore my husband.
When we're just snuggling and watching tv and he kisses me on the head. I melt every time.
If he's actively working to better himself. I don't mean he's always taking a college class or something. But like if he has depression, for example, he's aware and practicing coping skills instead of blaming the condition for thoughtless or poor behavior.
I have one that no one seems to think of but everyone agrees is important. Thinking things through to their logical conclusion. So many of them never stop to think to themselves, "What's the plan here?" Once I've leapt off this cliff, how will I get back to shore? Once I've shouted at my boss and gotten fired, what's my next step in getting things back on track? They often react (but we're the emotional ones, right?) and then realize they've painted themselves into a corner because they just didn't think it through.
Many people have this issue, of not thinking things through before it's too late. It's not just a guy thing or a girl thing. It's a people thing. Hopefully, we'll do a better job of raising the next generation and help them avoid this common issue.
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