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If you ask someone what they find attractive in the opposite s*x, chances are, the answer won’t just be about looks. Let’s be honest—attraction isn’t just about a sharp jawline or great hair (though, sure, those don’t hurt). Sometimes, the most swoon-worthy qualities come from the little things people do every day.

When someone online asked, Ladies, what are some non-sexual things men do that are a mega turn-on? the responses came pouring in. Women are sharing the small but meaningful actions that make a man stand out—from simple acts of kindness to being a great listener. Keep reading to see what really makes hearts flutter beyond physical appearance. Who knows? You might just pick up a tip or two to impress your special someone!

#1

Bearded man in a black hoodie smiling, representing things men do that attract women. People like to talk about, how ‘women love bad boys’ etc, but honestly, there’s nothing sexier than a guy who is a genuinely good person.

Not someone who is trying to appear like a ‘nice guy’ or someone who is worried about being perceived as good, but someone who genuinely cares deeply about doing the right thing.

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Michael Largey
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10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you intersperse humor in your conversation, it's easier to hold someone's attention. If they're listening for the next joke, they're listening.

Tabitha
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10 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Bad boys make really exciting boyfriends, but they usually make really p**s-poor husbands. Because that bad boy horseshit is a mask for extreme selfishness and emotional immaturity. A good, kind, gentle man is a way more preferable partner for a long term, committed relationship. Same goes for the bad girls, for that matter. You’re simply deluding yourself if you think you are going to successfully domesticate someone wild. The only one who has a snowball’s chance in hell of doing that is the wild person themself.

Jules
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10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Absolutely. And apropos of nothing, the guy in the photo is gorgeous!!

Betsy S
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10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree! Look at the wonderful sparkle in his eyes. He's quite lovely.

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BlahBlobLa
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10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yep, been married to a nice guy for almost 25 years. Love him to bits!

WindySwede
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10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hope you mean someone that is genuinely good. Not a NiceGuy™? 👍 https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Nice%20Guy

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Binky Melnik
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9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have no opinion on “bad boys” because I’ve never had one, but the man in this photo has eyes I could get lost in. I guess while I’m lost, he can do all kindsa bad things and I won’t notice. They are amazing, and they look so kind, too!

Sylvia Baker
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10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

what a handsome man Lance Reis is!

Julie S
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10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The number of times I've read letters to agony aunts from guys saying they can't get a girlfriend because they go out with women and get told they are just too nice for them. And I think what is wrong with these women.

Karina
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10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am to recently sexually harrazed by a guy I knew, liked and trusted to make it through this list. But I love this subject <3

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    #2

    Man and woman sharing a coffee shop moment, illustrating non-s****l things men do that attract women. Remember random stories I tell and/or notice things about me (what I like/don’t like, etc) without my directly telling you the info.

    On my first date with the man who became my husband, I told some random stories from my childhood. On our second date, he brought up one of them and asked a follow-up question.

    I was blown away. He listened AND thought about it? Made me feel valued and heard.

    Women LOVE when you pay attention to who they are as a person.

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    TheGoodBoi
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Louder for the bros in the back!

    Dog Mom to Zoe
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    On the flip side, I did the same to a guy I was seeing, and he was honestly shocked because he looked at me and said, "You listen".

    Jayjay
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Same otherway around :)

    Apatheist Account2
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My wife said to me "You haven't heard a word I said!" I thought, what a funny way to start a conversation...

    PenguinEmp
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We do it to get into your pants. Now you sre married, ask him if he remembers what the question was related to

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    #3

    Man doing dishes in a modern kitchen, a non-s****l action that turns women on. Awareness combined with handling things without being asked. A guy that can see what needs done & just does it w/o complaining makes me want to give him all the things.

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    Black Cat
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You mean someone who can be an adult and assume responsibility for something?

    Tamara
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    One step further. It's that one person that grabs the broom after that neighborhood party at the neighbours garden to help clean up

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    Mimi M
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    10 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Exactly this. And with a humble attitude.

    TheGoodBoi
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Take out the trash, clean the dishes, tidy up the living room…if the place looks clean and smells clean, then it’s clean :)

    UKGrandad
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When did 'needs to be done' lose 'to be'?

    Mimi M
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    'All the things' - hahaha - love this. And btw, I feel the same way!

    It’s only natural to wonder what catches someone’s eye when it comes to love and relationships.

    And while everyone has their own preferences, today we’re diving into what women generally look for in a guy. Spoiler alert: it’s not just about looks!

    #4

    A man comforted by a hand on his shoulder, showing empathy as a non-s****l thing that turns women on. Show a little vulnerability without being embarrassed.

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    TheGoodBoi
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nothing wrong with it! Admit your faults and go on with it.

    Jayjay
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Showing vulnerability is NOT the same as admitting faults :)

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    #5

    Man and woman smiling at each other outdoors, highlighting non-s****l attraction. Laughter is the best medicine. A man who can make you laugh until your sides hurt is a keeper.

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    TheGoodBoi
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ok hear me out. Why didn't the skeleton climb the mountain? It didn't have the guts…

    Emie N.
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This makes me roll my eyes because I never hear men admit that they love women who make them laugh. Even though just as many funny women exist as funny men. Are men attracted to women who make them laugh until their sides hurt too?

    Mari
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Laughing and joking a lot is nice but it can be someones mask.

    Roshan Kassan
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I made my partner cry with laughter while driving. Cop pulled up next to me and was about to kick my a*s until she explained the situation. The cops high-fived HER!

    UKGrandad
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I once did my 'dubbed movie' impression (speaking with my mouth moving totally out of sync with the words) that made a woman laugh so hard she suddenly vomited on the restaurant floor.

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    #6

    Man holding a cat and using a phone, showcasing non-s****l things to turn women on. 1. Gentle

    Admittedly men are quite strong and can sometimes come off as a bull in a China shop. When a man is considerate and gentle, it genuinely makes my heart melt. Like men being very careful with delicate beings and objects like babies and kittens. Gentle affection from a man is god-tier. Combing your hair, caressing of the face, massages, helping you button something, hugs. Love itt

    2. Hobby

    When a man has hobbies he takes pride in, especially a bit niche ones, I find him so so attractive. When they explain their hobby or show me their crafts- omggg. I get to see how passionate they are about it it gives me butterflies. Seeing a guy so excited is so precious.

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    Jules
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Being kind to animals

    fb2mytcqkc
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The hobby thing reminded me of a documentary about Iceland… They showed a knitting group for men and I really loved it.

    TheGoodBoi
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is so true.

    DrBronxx
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Does this extend to sports? There are just so many people who really hate how much their partner is into their sports. I love playing golf, but while I have a bit of obsession with it, I temper it. She knows how much I love it, and will suggest I go play sometimes, when she thinks it'll help me or if it's been a while. I explain things to her and talk to her about golf, but I always *try* to keep an eye on how much she's actually interested. Sometimes I get carried away, though...

    Science has some interesting takes on attraction. According to studies, men who can crack a good joke come across as more intelligent.

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    A great sense of humor doesn’t just make conversations fun—it can also be a major green flag for women. After all, who wouldn’t want a partner they can laugh with? 

    #7

    Handing a mug of lemon tea, showcasing non-s****l gestures that can turn women on. Looking after me while I was sick with a fever and fussing over me until I was well again.

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    TheGoodBoi
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Going through that now with the Mrs and our little one. Im sick too but I’ll be damned if they don’t get the treatment they deserve. We all have the flu :p

    Mari
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wish you all a full recovery. Take care of eachother!

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    cerinamroth
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am someone who needs to be alone when I'm ill (or having a baby).

    Petra
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Me too. All I want is to be reminded to take my medication, if my doctor prescribed any. Otherwise, be let me be miserable by myself. Thankfully, that's an easy preference for me to communicate and for him to do. :)

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    Child of the Stars
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm the opposite. The closest to "fussing" I'll accept is you running to the store for meds or Pedialyte or something. Otherwise, let me sleep. And definitely don't f.ucking touch me.

    Lizzy Lizzard
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's exactly how I knew my husband was the one

    Roshan Kassan
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Isn't that normal though? My partner sneezed twice and i was all over her!

    Simon Chen
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    Nah, instant divorce 🤣

    Petra
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    10 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why go straight to divorce? So many people think this way and I don't get it. If you like being left alone when sick, just tell your partner. Explain it to them and ask them to leave you alone during those times. Tell them that leaving you alone IS an act of love, in your eyes. If you never tell your spouse what you do/don't like and go straight to divorce when they accidentally do something you don't like, then you'll never be married very long...

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    #8

    Man giving a gift to a woman in a floral dress, illustrating non-s****l gestures that attract women. "I just saw that in a store and thought you might like it so i got it for you".

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    Llee Stone
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's not the $$, it's the thought. It can be something small and seemingly insignificant- like a Hello Kitty keychain! So, not the $$, just being thought of, with love.

    TheGoodBoi
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes! It’s the little things that mean so much more

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    painttheyellowsubgreen
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This! I don't believe in Valentine's Day. I think it's b******t and honestly, I loath it. The pressure men are under, in so many different ways. But the thing I hate about it the most is that if you are only compelled to buy me a gift, or flowers, or take me out to eat, or a romantic anything because of societal pressure... I don't want it. I'd rather have nothing than something you only gave me because a card company and a diamond company wanted more money.

    #9

    A man kisses a woman's cheek in a wooded area, both wearing hats, illustrating non-s****l acts that turn women on. The spontaneous kiss on the neck without the implication that they are fishing for more.

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    Mimi M
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There's something about being sensuous in the moment and allowing the moment to be just that, nothing more.

    Jac Carr
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Any physical touch that isn't initiating sex is great; if you hug your woman, don't start groping her a*s - just let it be a hug

    meeeeeeeeeeee
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not doing that is usually the death of all physical contact in the relationship. It's wild how many times my friends and I have just stopped touching boyfriends/husbands because they try to turn every touch into sex.

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    TheGoodBoi
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just a peck, nothing more

    Roshan Kassan
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    While she was chatting with her colleague, i kissed her neck - she just blushed and laughed.

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    Kanan Gupta, an up-and-coming stand-up comedian from India, agrees. “Women love funny men. If you can make a girl laugh, you’re halfway there,” he says.

    And honestly, he might be onto something. Being funny isn’t just entertaining—it also shows confidence and quick thinking, both attractive qualities.

    #10

    Man cleaning glass window outdoors, surrounded by plants; showing non-s****l things men do. Not adding more mental load to me. If they see something needing done they don't ask me if it needs to be done, they just do it.

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    TheGoodBoi
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This SHOULD be a given. Tidy up the house fellas

    Clown fish
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Would your other half mind sharing? I had a right go at mine and said I qoute I'm sick of having to spoon feed you on sh# t that needs doing like you're a f#cking baby. If it needs doing just f#cking do it.

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    Michael Largey
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    10 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If I promise to do something, I'll do it. There's no need to keep reminding me every six months.

    Matthew Barabas
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    eh.... it depends on the context. if it looks messy, ill just ask before dealing with it. chances are, thats how the other likes it. never assume anything. always ask.

    MeMosabe
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And when the guy does the thing, just be grateful that it's done, don't critique the WAY he did it. Thank him with a smile and a little kiss and move on.

    Child of the Stars
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have such mixed feelings about this. I understand that many men don't contribute to the household nearly as much as they should. My ex-husband did contribute. But he's a "see it, do it" type and I'm a "I have a routine, please don't mess with it type." I would've preferred if he'd asked if I was planning to do something at a certain time or if I wanted him to do it.

    UKGrandad
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Again! It's either 'needing to be done' or 'needing doing'.

    Apatheist Account2
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This doesn't always work if you're married to a control freak perfectionist who'd rather do some things themselves.

    Michael Largey
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was safe there. By definition, no perfectionist would ever have even considered marrying me.

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    50 Non-Sexual Traits And Habits That Women Find Incredibly Attractive In Men My ex boyfriend/childhood sweetheart snuck out of his house, and walked 3 miles to the local science museum, bought a ticket with half his 3rd grade life savings, attempted to purchase the *pink prince Rupert glass droplet earrings with the other half of his savings for the year, found out they ran out of the pink ones, karen-ed his way to the equivalent of the CEO of the museum to demand they restock the pink ones ASAP because my birthday was in a month, and ended up, of course, having his parents called on him to pick him up after getting a glassworking lesson and making a custom, barbie pink set for me instead of the normal hot pink. 
    This stunt was entirely because my mom insisted I get the orange earrings to match my complexion, but he knew that I needed the pink for my personality at the end of a nerdy kid science playdate. Mind you, this is a 10yo boy who is disgusted by romance at this point. He did this all in the name of autistic rules of friendship.
    He dumped me in highschool after his dad took away his autism & PTSD meds, in which he decided to self medicate with m**h as a last resort and not involve me. 
    When he had $10 to his name, he figured out how to give me $20.
    Dude, if you see this, I still wear those earrings. I hope, wherever you are, that you are loved.

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    Dog Mom to Zoe
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How lovely was that last comment.

    Betsy S
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Screw his dad for taking away the meds he needed to be able to have a less stressful life.

    Forrest Hobbs
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I want the poor chap looked after.Terribly sad.

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    Mimi M
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Now we are all hoping that he is.

    Petra
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes, for sure. Hopefully, he was able to get his meds again once he became an adult.

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    #12

    Man holding jacket over woman's head in a field, illustrating a non-s****l gesture that appeals to women. Being considerate and thoughtful.

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    TheGoodBoi
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This should be a given. This should be a class taught in all schools around the globe.

    Ms.GB
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A lot of these things are a given but they are still rare enough for someone to practice long term that you notice them.

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    He adds, “It’s not about cracking the perfect joke, it’s about making her smile even on a bad day. If you can do that, you’re golden.”

    Kanan also points out, “The best part about being funny? It breaks the ice. Even if you don’t look like a movie star, a good sense of humor can make you unforgettable.”

    #13

    50 Non-Sexual Traits And Habits That Women Find Incredibly Attractive In Men Intelligence.

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    #14

    Man playing guitar, wearing a plaid shirt and jeans, smiling indoors; a non-s****l thing men do that attracts women. Being enthusiastic about a favorite thing or hobby. It's cute when you guys light up and are genuinely happy and enjoying yourself.

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    Luke Branwen
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Careful what you wish for, you might receive an endless ramble about my writing 😆

    Ms.GB
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I love the way my husbands face lights up when it's Christmas or his birthday. He's still a child at heart when it comes to presents!

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    #15

    Man holding flowers behind his back, surprising woman, showcasing non-s****l gestures that attract women. My bf literally was cleaning up the yard and brought me some of the wildflowers from around the yard. It was just a sweet simple gesture. It was thoughtful.

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    10 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I tried this once and she got mad. How was I supposed to know she was allergic to poison ivy :( /J

    When it comes to physical appearance, things can get interesting. Research suggests that women tend to pick good-looking guys for short-term fun rather than long-term relationships.

    So, while abs might get attention, they don’t necessarily seal the deal in the long run.

    #16

    Man in a red shirt making a funny expression, illustrating one of the non-s****l things men do that attract women. When they take a break from acting stoic and are silly and playful instead.

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    Betsy S
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My dad was a proper businessman. And on Saturday mornings, he'd put on his "project work" jeans, wouldn't shave and would chase us around the house to give us beard rub rashes. He was the best "dad-joke" teller. That non-self-conscious sense of the ludicrous is wonderful. This should never be confused with someone who thinks "pranks (bullying) are funny. He had an innocent and kind sense of humour.

    #17

    50 Non-Sexual Traits And Habits That Women Find Incredibly Attractive In Men Reading books for pleasure!

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    Black Cat
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have always found people who read come across as smarter and just way more interesting. A lot of people don't read these days and it shows.

    Ms.GB
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think they just have more to talk about. I love talking to people who are reading the same genre of books and finding out what they thought, getting recommendations etc. I should join a book club.

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    Rafael
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Like what you are doing right now, but longer and (hopefully) less dumb!

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    #18

    Man sitting on a rock, smiling while wearing casual clothes and a backpack, outdoors under clear skies. Quiet confidence.

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    Michael Largey
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Real confidence is not knowing things will work out the way you want. It's knowing you'll be all right even if they don't.

    The Big Bad
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes, quiet, I get the creeps when a guy compliments himself... (Or when a woman does it for that matter)

    For long-term commitment, kindness seems to be the real winner. Studies show that women are more drawn to men who are thoughtful, compassionate, and willing to help others.

    A guy who is generous with his time and emotions? That’s the kind of energy many women are looking for.

    #19

    50 Non-Sexual Traits And Habits That Women Find Incredibly Attractive In Men Being gentle. Truly wants me to be fine and not to hurt my Feelings. Helping Others. Standing up for those less privileged, speaking up, being a true ally ❤️.

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    #20

    50 Non-Sexual Traits And Habits That Women Find Incredibly Attractive In Men When he pays attention and puts in effort.

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    MeMosabe
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That goes for the other partner, too. It's part of building a relationship.

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    #21

    50 Non-Sexual Traits And Habits That Women Find Incredibly Attractive In Men When they’re gentle. Gentle-men.

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    Black Cat
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And considerate, show empathy.

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    And it’s not just a small trend. A massive global survey from 2019, which included 68,000 people from 180 countries, revealed that nearly 89% of women ranked kindness as one of the most important traits in a partner. Basically, being a good human never goes out of style.

    #22

    Man in white shirt grooming in front of mirror, emphasizing personal care, one of the non-s****l things that turn women on. TAKE CARE OF THEMSELVES. and putting the socks in the hamper.

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    The Big Bad
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes, just keep looking nice. Be active and brush your hair. Not stop it the day you marry or something.

    TheGoodBoi
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hey I wear them once a week! /JJJ

    #23

    50 Non-Sexual Traits And Habits That Women Find Incredibly Attractive In Men Loving his kids/pets dearly. Emotional intelligence. Talking about our future together and looking forward to it (once we’re committed to each other, not in the beginning). Wanting to cuddle without the expectation of s*x. Speaking out about social injustices. A straight man that defends another man who is being picked on (like gay men/trans people) is just… wow. What a man.

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    #24

    Couple holding hands, showcasing intimate connection, highlighting non-s****l attraction in relationships. Being thoughtful / caring, like putting their hands on corners when we pass by to make sure we don't get hurt, noticing things, making sure we are, and feel safe all the time (not just texting but also like offering to order a taxi or give us a ride).

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    Ms.GB
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Giving me his jacket or sweater even though I look like a child playing dress up.

    The Big Bad
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Putting their hands on corners, what?

    cerinamroth
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sharp cornered tables or something, so you don't twat your knee or hip on it accidentally.

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    Jules
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I love the protective hand on the small of the back thing but only if done unconsciously

    Petra
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So you don't like it when they're purposefully protective? Or am I just misunderstanding what you're trying to say?

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    So, while charm and looks might get initial attention, kindness and humor seem to be the real deal-breakers. Being genuinely caring and knowing how to lighten the mood go a long way in impressing someone.

    #25

    Man writing in a notebook, illustrating things men do that can turn women on. Thinking ahead and planning in anticipation of something.

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    #26

    A man gently embraces a woman in a serene setting, highlighting affection and connection. The waist grab never ever ever gets old.

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    #27

    A man playfully dancing with a woman on a city street, showcasing non-s****l things men do that attract women. Being a good dancer, playing a musical instrument.

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    Dog Mom to Zoe
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't care if he can dance or not; if he's willing to go on the dance floor, I'm good. I dated a guy in my late 20's that was a terrible dancer but he was so much fun it didn't bother me one bit.

    Tamra
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Eh, my husband can't dance, doesn't play an instrument and I'm fine with that. It's not a deal breaker for me. He has many, many other wonderful qualities.

    Betsy S
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh yes! Maybe unwisely, but I'm a sucker for a man with a good sense of rhythm and appreciation for music. If he can dance and enjoys the same music as me, that will remove most of my concerns right there.

    TheGoodBoi
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I can beatbox a little, does that count?

    Ms.GB
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why not? My husband plays guitar and I'm not musically gifted or anything but I like to accompany him on the bongos or mess around on the bass. Even if you have no formal training as long as you can hold a beat it's a lot of fun.

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    The Big Bad
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If a guy can lead during a dance, that's sexy as hell. I dance as well as a tree with a spasm, but I once had a guy lead me in the tango and suddenly I could dance!

    cerinamroth
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My husband is a great salsa dancer. But he also plays grade 1 Shetland fiddle, so that sort of cancels it out ;-)

    At the end of the day, attraction is complex, and everyone has their own unique preferences. But these studies give us a fun insight into what women tend to appreciate in a partner.  

    Which one of these qualities do you think is the most attractive? Share this with a guy friend who might need a little insight into what really makes a lasting impression!

    #28

    Man in white shirt, driving, looking back. Engaging non-s****l action. Reverse parking with one arm.

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    HardBoiledBlonde
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I can do this and drive a stick shift, does this "turn on" men? I have been told it does.

    MeMosabe
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Anyone, male or female, who can back up with a trailer attached puts me in awe! There's guy across the street from me who does it every day when he comes home: amazing! :D

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    chicken soup
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    10 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes, the way one drives in general is a game changer

    Duh
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Real pros use side mirrors

    O. Puntia
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    WRX 6-speed manual, here. "Her Nibs" demanded it.

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    #29

    Man preparing a meal in a modern kitchen, showcasing one of the non-s****l things that turn women on. Get me food after a long day without me asking for it or drive to wherever I am simply because 'he wants to see me' or 'misses me'. Another thing I love is the fact that my boyfriend will send me pictures of random things he does/saw throughout the day. Like how heartwarming that you thought of me throughout the day 😭 COME HEREE!!

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    #30

    50 Non-Sexual Traits And Habits That Women Find Incredibly Attractive In Men Said this many times before. Cooking real food. I dont care about instant ramen or a boiled egg. But if i see a guy cooking a proper dish and knows what hes doing, its very hot.

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    O. Puntia
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am THE COOK ... Gorgonzola, Anjou, Papardelle, walnuts, white wine, pepper

    Forrest Hobbs
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    10 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I tried to find "My boyfriend can cook" by Hollie McNish on YouTube, but it doesn't seem to be there. I've got the CD it's on, Touch. Here's the Spotify link: https://open.spotify.com/track/5tiwjho95V3w6uvDRBFsFC

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    #31

    Man in suit using a smartphone and laptop at a desk, illustrating non-s****l things men do that turn women on. I have an ex who could call any customer service line usually about extra fees/messed up charges and calmly tell them exactly what he wanted done and usually got additional services/perks too. It was hot.

    Got an apartment to completely resurface the bathtub/shower in on of our bathrooms because it was slightly discolored when we moved in. Cable installation fees waved and a free month when they still charged it, etc.

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    Papa
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I can't help it. The fees were waived, not waved.

    TheGoodBoi
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oo Oo I can do that! Thanks to all the bad people in the world, I can make these people’s life easier. I call it “Be a GoodBoi”

    #32

    Man and woman sitting on a bed in conversation, focusing on connection and understanding, highlighting non-s****l attraction. Dont talk about s*x.

    Tbh i think it is a big turn on when he is just able to wait until i am ready to get intimate without talking about it beforehand all the time.

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    TheGoodBoi
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Dont talk about sex. Dont talk about sex. Dont talk about sex… My dudes, dont talk about sex. Use your damn hand if you need to but give women the respect they deserve, I promise you’ll have more happiness than any sex gives you

    Nina
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Will add that it's important to be able to have conversations about sex, likes/disliked etc. But that's without initiating it, just talking about it. (And not as a topic when you just met)

    Mimi M
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    10 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd like to turn this into a plaque and put it up on the wall. I don't know about other women, but this is a HUGE turnoff for me. Talking about sex when we are just getting to know one another makes me feel pressured and like you don't want to get to know me as a person, much less on an emotional basis. Argh.

    Betsy S
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And yet, asking for each step of further intimacy is SO hot! "I'd like to kiss you. Would that be ok?" OMG! Kiss me RIGHT NOW! "Do you mind if I (X)"? "would you like me to (Z)?" Hot, Hot, Hot! Why do so many people think that asking for consent makes it feel like a business transaction? If so, you're not asking properly. Ask as part of the seduction! Work it! Asking is VERY SEXY!

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    Rafael
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Let's learn about sex and relationships beforehand, and you will know when to talk (or not) about it. Reading the room is halfway there.

    The Big Bad
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's all about building tension, of you talk about it too direct, all the tension is gone...

    MeMosabe
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    10 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People, particularly young men, are way too obsessed with sex. It's what society (and hormones) has done. Sure, it's an important *part* of a relationship, but there are SO many more important things. Self-control is one of those things. It took me too many years to learn this.

    Graham Berry
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But do, in any relationship regardless of gender, have a talk about sex. Please, when ever possible ,try to be clear with each other about desires, expectations, and boundaries. Not letting the other party know when you're interested is going to lead to miscommunication and frustration regardless if you are a man or woman. That being said don't harp on it. If you're partner is not up for it then bringing it up over and over is not going to help the situation.

    Julie S
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    🎶 Let's talk about sex baby, let's talk about you and me, let's talk about all the good things and the bad things that may be, Let's talk about sex 🎶

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    #33

    50 Non-Sexual Traits And Habits That Women Find Incredibly Attractive In Men Do the dishes .

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    MeMosabe
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hate doing dishes, but I hate being separated from my wife more. [Honey, I WILL do our dishes!, if you'll let me.]

    TheGoodBoi
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My dudes, rinse your plates when you’re done with them…not hard…then put them in the dish washer

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    #35

    Man reading on smartphone, demonstrating one of the things that turn women on, while sitting on a green carpet. When a guy told me he had a Goodreads account I immediately texted two of my closest friends that I thought I found my soulmate

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    Black Cat
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes, a man who reads and can spell and has an intellect but doesn't come across as a pompous, condescending not it all.

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    #36

    Man lying in bed, casually holding a smartphone, exhibiting non-s****l behavior that attracts women. When my man talks to me in his I-just-woke-up, deep, raspy voice ♥️.

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    #37

    50 Non-Sexual Traits And Habits That Women Find Incredibly Attractive In Men ...
    1). By intelligence of course I mean, quantifiably and demonstrably so. None of the red-pill, low-quality discourse nonsense. Being articulate in thought and expression is a rarity these days which is to be expected given the visual media slops being forcefed to us in the name of short form content. So, yeah.. And not just in men but people generally.


    2). I love laughing and rarely, if ever, do I take myself so seriously. I love to laugh. I will find the humour in any and every single thing... It is what it is. People who can find the humour in life's many MANY absurdities have my heart.

    3). I am in awe of people who are capable of whipping up greatness in the kitchen. They're nothing short of alchemists I tell ya!

    4). Being responsible.

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    MeMosabe
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This sounds like a delightful, interesting person.

    O. Puntia
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I met "Her Nibs" when I took my BSME and MSci Geology diplomas to be framed ....

    Petra
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Being responsible is a huge one.

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    #38

    Doing things without having to be asked. Simple mundane house chores. No one wants to be with an adult child. Mummy isn’t here to pick up your s**t and I shouldn’t have to ask you. Sweeping once in a while, help clean the dishes, cook. Stuff like that, it really makes a huge difference and mentally just lifts a load off.

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    Black Cat
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There is no bigger turn off than a man with the mental age of a teenager and expects to be waited on.

    #39

    A man cleaning a car tire with a cloth, showcasing attention to detail. A good friend sneaked out of his job at 5AM to change my tire on the side of the road but he had just looked up a quick tutorial for the first time and finished the job in 10 minutes. he was dressed formally and when he rolled up his sleeves to get to work i just goddddd.

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    Petra
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hope you asked him out! It seems like too many good men are left in the friendzone these days.

    Mimi M
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    You can look up the same vid and change yer own damn tire.

    Duh
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thanks, when that's the theme of the post we'll do it.

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    #40

    50 Non-Sexual Traits And Habits That Women Find Incredibly Attractive In Men This will probably sound a bit weird, if not immature, but I love just listening to him talk. Talk about so much stuff. The majority of what he talks about is interesting to me, and it involves everything from music to d***s to religion to other ancient cultures who inadvertently contributed to the bible as we know it today, etc. and I’m not a religious person. But our nights together generally consist of sitting on the patio talking for hours while smoking w**d, followed by laying in bed watching music videos and playing around with each others bodies. It all leads to mind-blowing s*x, and the reminder that it’s even better in your 40’s than it was in your 20’s!

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    Rafael
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wait, talking about d***s, d***s, dongs or ducks?

    MeMosabe
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why, ducks, of course. They're fascinating! ;) :D

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    #41

    Man in a green shirt and beige pants leans casually, showcasing non-s****l charm. Rolling their sleeves up to their elbows when they're wearing a dress shirt.

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    #42

    Mechanic working on a car in a garage, showcasing non-s****l skills that can be attractive to women. Manual labor 😩 working on a car, building something, etc.

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    cerinamroth
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, I do all that in our relationship. Our house and garden are a higgeldy-piggeldy mess (neither of us had father figures to show us those sorts of things) but it is full of love, dancing, kids' toys and silliness.

    #43

    A person in a plaid shirt placing a chocolate in a gift bag with heart designs, illustrating non-s****l things that turn women on. He buys me choclate EVERY PERIOD he hasn't missed one and has memorized my schedule.

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    Apatheist Account2
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    10 months ago

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    Fine until you get diabetes.

    Julie S
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Im sure eating chocolate once a month is fine

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    #44

    This may sound stupid, but when they're good at catching. You throw something at them, and they catch it so casually, with minimal effort.😅.

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    #45

    When a man smiles or laughs.

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    Kim Landfather
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    For me, it's when a man is dumbfounded our chuckling about something, then looks at me and winks. I'm his, that's it. He can be young, old, handsome, hideous, whatever. A wink and a quick smile melt my heart and soul.

    cerinamroth
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My husband can't whistle. When he's working in our upstairs office and has his music on (usually some dreadful turn-of-the-millennium power popstrels), he whistles along to it and it just makes my heart melt! I can't help but smile while I'm making the dinner or whatever, just knowing he's happy working away up there with Leann Rimes or whatever.

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    #46

    When they put one arm behind the passenger seat and reverse the car omg.

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    Papa
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Do people not use mirrors?

    MeMosabe
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's how it's supposed to be done. That's what my driving instructor taught me. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

    O. Puntia
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    ours has three (3) mirrors and a back-up diply ... all OEM

    #47

    When they look after their bodies.

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    #48

    Cooking.

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    #49

    Man enjoying a refreshing shower surrounded by greenery, exemplifying non-s****l attraction. After shower - when they run their fingers through their wet/damp hair.

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    #50

    When talks about his passions and when he solves math problems like they’re nothing.

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