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Once upon a time, several years or even decades ago, articles like "Advice I'd Give My Teenage Self Today" were quite popular. The selections varied wildly - instead of practical tips like “Buy bitcoin while it’s cheap" or "Buy Apple stock now!" we got moral lessons such as “Do the right things, and don’t do the wrong things"

In fact, any advice, practical or theoretical, is relevant for its time, and if my younger self had followed any of my older self's advice, I wouldn't actually be me now. But various "adult cheat codes," based on universal life experience, are a completely different matter!

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#1

Two young women sharing a secret while enjoying coffee, illustrating small tricks that make being a grown-up easier. Stay away from people who speak poorly about others behind their backs. They will do the exact same thing to you.

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Crystalwitch60
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1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Truth , people need to detox their lives ! Ie get rid of toxic people ,don’t half make for a much nicer happier chilled life ❤️

ShutUpGrumpy
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1 day ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You could also do the reasonable thing and detox other people's lives by removing yourself from the comments 👌cheers!

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Kid Murray
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2 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm 6'4" so I don't think any of these cheats will work for me.

Diogenes
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4 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes, this is true. It goes the same way as: If they cheat with you, they cheat on you.

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    #2

    Man smiling and leaning back at desk using laptop, illustrating small tricks that make being a grown-up easier. Doing favors for my future self as if they are a completely separate person who I love and appreciate and want to succeed.

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    The Other Guest
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    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ha - not 5 minutes ago I told Mr Other Guest, "Today Me is very annoyed with Yesterday Me for not washing the dishes & vacuuming the rug." I knew I was going to regret it, and I did.

    Multa Nocte
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Tell Mr. Other Guest that Mr. Multa Nocte says hi!

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    Nova Rook
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Told my wife "I did this awesome thing and helped someone out - I was playing my game last night and the stopped and saved it at the best part so that I could play it today - friday!", Wife says "You helped yourself?" Me "Past me helped out present me! That was awesome of past me!"

    Ali
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    3 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Told an overwhelmed and struggling boy today, that future you might seem very demanding, but all he really needs is for you to stay safe. For anyone else who might need to hear that today.

    #3

    Green frog sitting on mossy ground in a forest, illustrating small tricks that make being a grown-up easier. Eat the frog. If you know the worst part of your day is going to be, say, eating a frog, it's best to get that out of the way early and have a whole day of clarity instead of having that weigh on you until it gets done.

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    Michael Largey
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    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The frog has a completely different take on the situation, however.

    Anonymouse
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    unless it is a poisonous frog, in which case you should not eat it at all. Get someone else to do it, lol.

    Chich the witch
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Look on the positive side. if you do eat it you can avoid all the other things you have to do that day.

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    Robert Millar
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well this whooshed over a lot of heads.

    Val
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I could never eat a frog!

    Crystalwitch60
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah no let’s leave the poor ikkle frog out the equation, unless your French of course ! N it’ only tastes like chicken , so just eat a chicken 🤷‍♀️

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    It takes a truly special occasion nowadays for a thread that starts with a question for netizens to skyrocket instantly, but this one, created by the user u/massCMP on AskReddit, has gone truly viral. In just two days, the thread has already received over 10K upvotes and around 4,1K different comments, all of which are being lively discussed.

    The question that sparked such heated debate is actually quite simple: "What's one 'small adult cheat code' you wish you'd learned earlier?" So today, we, Bored Panda, offer you a selection of just over thirty of the most interesting and sometimes downright unexpected pieces of advice and worldly wisdom from random peeps from across the globe, based on this thread.

    #4

    Young woman washing dishes in a bright kitchen demonstrating small tricks that make being a grown-up easier. Clean.
    As.
    You.
    Cook.

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    Tabitha
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I was first on my own, I didn’t have an abundance of cooking supplies, so I had to get used to cleaning as I cook so I’d have a bowl/pan/casserole dish/etc to use for the next step in the recipe. Yeah, being poor and struggling to stretch your paycheck when you’re in your late teens/early twenties and in your own place for the first time can actually help you develop some pretty good habits it’s for later in life. I’m 65 now, and have A LOT of cooking supplies, with plenty of repeats, and I STILL wash them all between steps in a recipe, or when cooking a full meal. Keeps me from ending up with a mountain of dishes to wash when I’m done.

    Upstaged75
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wish someone would convince my mother of this! She's the worst about it.

    Jaya
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If. Multitasking. Is. Your. Thing. If you're one of those people who's bad at multitasking or gets stressed out by it, it's totally fine to have a more relaxing time while cooking and to just clean afterwards.

    Sofia
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I eat while I cook. Counts?

    David
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    6 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    also keep a scraps bowl where you work to put all the food scraps in to throw out at the end

    Crystalwitch60
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Always do that. NEXT 🤷‍♀️

    Rick Murray
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    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Uh-huh. [side-eyes the mess in the kitchen]

    Dorothy Smith
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've been trying to do this for many years now and still haven't mastered it. LOL

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    Mari
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    5 hours ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am always cleaning as I cook. Even when my son cooks, I am cleaning as well. Sometimes he is looking for a kitchen utensil that he was using and then he finds it already cleaned and returned into the drawer. He calls me the cleaning ninja.

    Shrek73
    Community Member
    23 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The wife taught me this as I was the kinda bloke who used every pot and pan just to make beans on toast however after getting a 1 way convo from the missus I changed my ways.

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    #5

    Young woman sitting on a couch looking puzzled while holding a notebook and pen capturing small tricks for easier grown-up life. Don't put it down, put it away. Saying it to myself helps curb my ADHD habit of leaving things laying around everywhere.

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    Rick Murray
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    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm trying so SO hard but it's difficult to change a lifetime of habits. I am proud of myself for fixing a screwdriver holder to the wall and replacing the screwdrivers in their correct places at the end of each day. Small steps...

    Apatheist Account2
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Unless you're a vet and it's an old dog, in which case putting it down is probably kind.

    Sara
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    3 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I say this to my husband so much he says he hears my voice in his head when he's about to leave something on the counter, WIN!

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    #6

    Professional woman outdoors checking watch, illustrating small tricks that make being a grown-up easier. Try to be early to most things, with a few exceptions. Life happens, and lateness can cause all kinds of issues and leave lasting impressions. Backwards plan whenever you can and leave buffer room all over the place. Life happens.

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    Lee Gilliland
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    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Being on time is the cheapest and easiest of the great politenesses.

    Janissary35680
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Agreed but not so much "being on time" as "not being late".

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    Apatheist Account2
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Woody Allen: "80% of success is showing up". I would add "on time" to that.

    Michael Largey
    Community Member
    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Being early gives you time to spot the red flags (and conceal yours).

    Among the advice and opinions expressed in our selection, there are points of view that touch on both the physical and mental aspects of our lives. For example, the advice to always stay in good physical shape - simply because it's much easier to get in shape when you're young than a couple of decades later (I've personally verified this, I can confirm).

    Or, perhaps, a strong recommendation not to take everything that happens around you too seriously. Otherwise, as many netizens rightly point out, you simply won't have the emotional resources to withstand the constant pressure from your external environment. Well, and this external environment can sometimes be incredibly toxic...

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    However, we receive advice like "Take it easy" at almost every turn, and sometimes from the most unexpected sources - at least, I can think of a dozen well-known songs with that title off the top of my head. The problem is, we don't always follow this wise advice. But that's another matter, isn't it?

    #7

    Young woman looking confused at her smartphone while sitting on an orange couch illustrating small tricks for being a grown-up easier. When you decline an invite, it’s ok to just say “Thanks for the invite, I can’t make it.” No need for any explanations.

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    Marissa Voleta
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Normalize my polite invite decline w/o explanation. There's too much explanation everywhere. Normalize the minimize.

    Hugo
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In one of his books, Bill Bryson lists his dozen or so pet hates, including the use of 'invite' to mean invitation. One of my pet hates, too.

    #8

    Young woman with braces driving a car with an older woman as passenger, showing small tricks that make being a grown-up easier. A good driver never misses a turn. A great driver does.

    It’s always safer to go to the next exit or find somewhere safe to turn around than slam breaks, make tight turns, and potentially get injured in the panic of trying to make a turn at the last second.

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    Tabitha
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    1 day ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or do like the idiots I have seen on the free backing up in the shoulder because they missed the exit. I clearly remember my driver ed and driver training classes in high school—-in 1977!—-drilling it into our heads to go to the next exit and turn around because it’s d****d dangerous and foolhardy to use the shoulder to back up, ffs! Of course, I was in high school in SoCal (SGV, to be precise), so freeway driving was high on their list of important skills to teach students about.

    Nicole Weymann
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm happy to say that in 25+ years of driving I've never seen anyone trying to turn around on a highway (or autobahn, rather). Then again our driving intructions are quite extensive (and expensive, too), with at least twelve required practical lessons of 45 minutes each on top of regular training: five of them overland, four on the autobahn, and three at night, all of it in the company of a professional instructor.

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    GalPalAl
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is what should be taught when taking a driving test

    Sofia
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    if you go the next exit you lose time. if you slam the brakes you can lose life (yours and other's peoples)

    Rick Murray
    Community Member
    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The best driver knows where the turns are so doesn't need to "slam breaks" or anything like that.

    Cathy Jo Baker
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    1 day ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Even the "best" driver can get distracted and miss a turn. Nobody's perfect, Mr. Best Driver. And it's brakes, not breaks.

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    Jaya
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    21 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That´s just basic stuff that everybody learns during driving lessons, isn't it?

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    #9

    Young girl sitting on bed with laptop and notebook, using small tricks to make being a grown-up easier Never underestimate the power of what you can get done in 10 minutes.

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    Rick Murray
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    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I did about two hours of coding today. It took eight hours and included repairing a clock, walking around in the rain with my cat, and baking a cake. Never underestimate how easily an ADHD mind can be distracted by almost anything. Ten minutes? That's long enough to lose the plot several times over.

    Tabitha
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thing is, the extra work you got done just about makes up the extra six hours, so you technically had a very productive day.

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    Mari
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    5 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Cleaning up on a normal day takes time. Cleaning up when visitors are almost there: 10min chrono to clean the whole house.

    What I personally really liked from these nearly four dozen pieces of advice was the idea of ​​having three hobbies: one for yourself, one for your friends, and one for your significant other. I think the idea certainly has a grain of truth to it - the key is to find enough time in your life for these three hobbies.

    Incidentally, this idea, as I understand it, is a development of the three hobbies concept, expressed several years ago from a slightly different angle: one to make money, one to keep you in shape, and one just to stay creative.

    "Everyone is going to have hobbies throughout their life. If you are able to align your hobbies with money, staying in shape, and being creative, you will have built a foundation for greater growth and set yourself up for success in life," this dedicated post at The Public Health Millennial says. So having 3 hobbies could really be a nice idea.

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    #10

    Person wearing yellow sweater holding a small wrapped gift box, illustrating small tricks for easier grown-up life. Every time your spouse mentions something they like, make a note of it (I keep a document just for this in the Notes app on my phone). Then you won’t have to scramble to think of presents when Christmas arrives.

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    Otto Katz
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    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My spouse NEVER mentions anything he'd like, EVER. HE'S horrible to shop for

    S Bow
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Same with Mr. Sbow, I've given up buying him gifts, I just take him to the store of his choice and tell him to get what he really wants. He's happy and the pressure is off me. What he gets isn't something I'd ever have gotten him anyway, it's usually something extremely high tech and project specific.

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    Upstaged75
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have Amazon wish lists for every person in my family. I put things in them year round. It makes buying gifts incredibly easy.

    sturmwesen
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    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I already know, what my BF bought me (couldn't stay silent). He noted I kept looking at those book nook models (no idea what they are called in English). I wonder which model he bought🤔

    Stephen Wilson
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    6 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It only works for guys and their wives!😆

    Crystalwitch60
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Phew don’t got one of them 😂but I do listen to my two kids ,who both work and are the worst to buy for , cos they get everything themselves lol , so I listen to n make notes on paper !

    #11

    Person wearing apron serving soup from pot into bowl, demonstrating small tricks that make being a grown-up easier. When making something like soups, stews, chilis or sauces do a bigger batch and freeze the rest. You’ll thank yourself later.

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    sturmwesen
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    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    always...but everything that takes effort but is freezable. I made chocolate salted caramel sauce yesterday and froze some. I think I will make something tiramisu style with it christmas

    Auntriarch
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm going to make that for Christmas, and ice cream. I bought a goose this morning, and I've got jerk pork and Christmas pudding in the freezer. Christmas is going to be lush!

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    Michael Largey
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    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We cook and freeze entrees as well for months in advance.

    Sofia
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    better: use seasonal ingredients to make your food (like idk pomarola) and freeze for the winter. It is tastier, healtier, and also cost less

    Crystalwitch60
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Always do ,do people as write these really think they invented something new 🙄I’ve been doing this for decades 😂

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    #12

    If your boss talks to you in person about something, immediately send them an email confirming everything they said/agreed. It helps to a) nip any misunderstandings in the bud, and b) deters them from just straight up lying about what was said later because they know there's a paper trail.

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    Gregory W
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Only works in an office setting. Anyone in a blue collar job knows that is nearly impossible.

    Nicole Weymann
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Depends on the kind of cráp you expect your superiors to pull. Asking for anything against regulations: only in writing, especially where health and safety issues are concerned.

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    Papa
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I do that, but it's because there's a good chance I won't remember what was said later, so I can go back to the email.

    Mari
    Community Member
    5 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But my cat can't read emails...

    Michael Largey
    Community Member
    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If possible, take someone with you. Preferably someone the boss fears.

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    In terms of advice on physical well-being, I think the most important and most useful is a whole collection of recommendations regarding sleep quality. However, it's very difficult to follow the advice to sleep at least eight hours a night in early youth - when even after a sleepless night we sometimes look fresh.

    Unfortunately, even in middle age and closer to old age, we sometimes find it difficult to overcome bad sleep habits. For example, we all know perfectly well that it's best not to look at our smartphones or tablets before bed, that we should avoid watching TV late at night...

    But how can we do this when the entire powerful modern entertainment industry is literally doing everything possible to prevent us from doing so? Unfortunately, our collection of tips and helpful opinions doesn't include ideas on how to combat the negative aspects of the modern world... Perhaps they will appear over time, but certainly not now.

    #13

    Young woman relaxing on a bed hugging a pillow, illustrating small tricks that make being a grown-up easier. Sleep is a magic problem solver. I most often did this with coding problems, but it works with anything. If you're stuck on a complex problem and feel like you're getting nowhere, sleep on it. I don't know if your brain works on it while you sleep, but you will find solution very quickly the next day.

    Edit: I remembered this also works for learning practical skills, like learning an instrument. Quite often I'd struggle for hours to play a song well, only to nail it on 2 or 3 attempts after a night's sleep.

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    Tabitha
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Your mind can become clearer the closer you get to being asleep, especially if you’re able to relax and put most of your thoughts out of your mind so you can sleep, like powering down before shutting off. That can often allow you to concentrate on one thing, and if that thing is something you have been trying to solve, that clarity and (metaphorical) extra space in your head can help you think it through and see the solution.

    Laszlo Larthlanc
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    23 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You're an organic computer. Turn yourself off, and then back on again. It helps with so many issues.

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    #14

    Woman helping two children with painting and drawing at a wooden table using small tricks that make being a grown-up easier. I am teaching my children that they will unlock a cheat code if they can do three things:

    (1) Show up on time.
    (2) Be Polite.
    (3) Do what you say you are going to do.

    I tell them if they consistently do these three things, they will establish a reputation for being trustworthy, and that will mean they will be on better footing than 95% of other people and they will never have to worry about having a job. Even if they're not necessarily the *best* at doing the work, someone will always want to employ a worker they can trust.

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    Michael Largey
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    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe "cheat code" isn't the best term here.

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    #15

    Young woman using a dishwasher in a modern kitchen, demonstrating small tricks that make being a grown-up easier. Mine: if something takes less than 2 minutes — do it immediately. Changed my life.

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    Apatheist Account2
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My wife didn't always agree to this approach...

    Nicole Weymann
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe she's more into the "do it properly or don't do it at all" approach? 😏

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    Michael Largey
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    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Making a schedule, remembering the schedule, and then carrying out the schedule adds too much work to the job.

    Tabitha
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe not making tasks into a schedule is the key. Making a list of tasks that need to be done, and checking them off the list as you finish them can be really satisfying, plus you don’t end up forgetting to do something. It’s kind of like making a grocery list before you go to the store. You won’t forget anything, and you won’t end up being tempted by stuff you really don’t need, so it can save you not only time but also money.

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    By the way, perhaps you can share something useful from your life experience, too? For example, what exactly do you do in a certain difficult situation, and what pieces of advice have helped you live better? If so, please feel free to share your thoughts in the comments below. If not, well, just read this selection, and maybe it could be truly wholesome for you.

    #16

    Man relaxing in a hammock outdoors using a laptop, illustrating small tricks that make being a grown-up easier. Don’t tell anyone when you have a day off.

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    JL
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    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well, you might want to tell your boss. They might get peeved if you're a no-show without warning.

    Little Bit
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I never ever tell my mother when i have a day off because if I do she can always find a million jobs for me to do.

    Spittnimage
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I learned if I took an extra day off not to tell my daughter because she'd come and spend the whole day at my house when the reason I took the day off was to relax and have time to myself.

    Chich the witch
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is going to sound weird but even when retired you have to occasionally have a day off. No chores, no bill paying, no errands, no phone calls, no family drama etc. Life can quickly get frittered away with little details if you don't.

    NapQueen
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    5 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I love this - when people know you're not doing something on certain days, they'll think you're available and will want to do something. However, we all need days off to do nothing!

    Michael Largey
    Community Member
    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Especially that entitled boss of yours.

    #17

    Two coworkers talking and using laptops in an office, sharing small tricks that make being a grown-up easier When someone complains about something, don't offer a solution at first, say you understand that must be frustrating.

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    murmelinpaiva
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People don't always want a suggestion, they want validation.

    Apatheist Account2
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As it says in the Mars and Venus books: women want understanding or an apology, then a solution; for men, it's the other way round. It's not sexist, it's just the way our minds process things.

    Janissary35680
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    One National Lampoon writer on the difference between men and women put it this way (speaking as a male, naturally): "Don't tell us about problems unless you want us to solve them. If you're looking for sympathy, talk to your girl friends."

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    Michael Largey
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    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No, when I bring up a problem I am not necessarily frustrated since it may not affect me. But I am seeking a solution if you have one. Save the "Poor baby" for those who are looking for it.

    The Other Guest
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    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I find "Are you looking for sympathy or a solution?" to be a very handy phrase in this scenario.

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    Westend Girl
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    4 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Do you need advice or a hug?" What we do in our marriage. Works really good

    Jesse
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    9 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Do you want emotional support or constructive advice?"

    Sofia
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    when someone asks for a solution let them wait a little. If they solve themselves they didn't really need your help. They needed someone doing for them.

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    #18

    Man focused on weightlifting in gym, demonstrating strength and small tricks that make being a grown-up easier. Never stop working out. It takes FOREVER to get back in shape when you are older. Also everything hurts more.

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    Chich the witch
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Missed getting to the gym again this morning. That makes 4 years, 3 months and 8 days :p

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    #19

    Young woman in a casual outfit smiling and gesturing outdoors, illustrating small tricks to make being a grown-up easier. You can just say what you want and then ask for it. As long as you do it politely, most people will give you an up or down answer. It's also okay to say "no" to almost anything. There may be consequences, but you don't have to do anything just because social pressure suggests you should.

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    Westend Girl
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    4 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    To quote Phoebe: "Oh, I wish I could, but I don’t want to."

    Serena Myers
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And never forget, people, the word No is a complete sentence. If you say "No" it means just that. No.

    #20

    Woman shopping for fresh produce with a basket in hand, demonstrating small tricks that make being a grown-up easier “Stocking”, or what I call pre-buy; if I see something that I WILL use in the future and it’s on sale/good deal, I go ahead and purchase it even though I don’t need it then. Stuff like medicine, paper goods, coffee, etc. When you NEED those things, you can’t wait to get a good deal, so get it on the deal when you can.

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    Tabitha
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just keep a sharp eye out for expiration or sell by dates, depending on what it is and how it’s to be stored. I mean, why buy ten extra loaves of bread that you’re not going to freeze or use in the next few days, so they get moldy before you even reach for them? Now, most stuff you freeze can go months past that date, though not everything can so do a little research first, and if you’re not freezing it, there’s no point stocking up if it’s going to be long past that date when you finally need to use it. Medicines don’t go bad, necessarily, but can lose efficacy so not work the way they should. It’s just my husband and I, but we do go through certain items regularly, so buying extra when they’re on sale makes sense. Of course, we don’t buy out the store—-ffs, leave some for someone else to get a good deal on—-we just buy a few extra at the discounted price.

    Serena Myers
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    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's better to have something you don't need (at that specific time,) than to need something you don't have.

    Papa
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    i did that last week. There was a box of kitchen garbage bags on the markdown aisle because the box was torn. The bags inside were fine. We didn't need trash bags, but I bought them anyway. We'll use them eventually.

    Chich the witch
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There are several items that we stock up. Never wait until it is out which saves a lot of angst like waking up and finding that last of the coffee was yesterday. On the other hand I'm surprised at how many friends shop almost day to day.

    Apatheist Account2
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As long as it's not going to go beyond its expiry date before you use it.

    Hugo
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    10 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nearly everything keeps beyond its 'use by' date, and certainly beyond a 'best before' date. Use your eyes and nose!

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    #21

    Young woman smiling outdoors with wind blowing through her hair, illustrating small tricks that make being a grown-up easier. Being kind and a smile cost you nothing, but they sometimes go a long way - worked in my favour when I was applying for a visa lol.

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    S Bow
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    1 day ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Whenever I go out into the peopley public I smile at anyone I make eye contact with. Not a creepy toothy grin, just a kind, crinkly eyed smile. I find that I get one of three reactions: either a happy return smile, a look of startlement or a look of mild suspicion. I've found it makes my day a little brighter if someone randomly smiles at me so I do it to others. It's a small kindness.

    #22

    Young woman relaxing with eyes closed in armchair, illustrating small tricks for easier grown-up life. Live beneath your means, ignore what other people do.

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    Chich the witch
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Learned this from the bad example my parents provided. They would buy things none of us wanted or used just because the neighbours had one.

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    #23

    Have 3 hobbies. Something for you. Something with your friends. Something with your spouse. For me, it’s guitar, golf and bird watching.

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    Dirk Daring
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You mean, the people I know at work who I'd actually want to see outside of work?

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    #24

    Young woman looking tired while sitting with a laptop and tea, illustrating small tricks for easier grown-up life. Having a boring “life admin” routine once a week. I sit down for 30 minutes to pay bills, reply to emails, clean a bit, plan meals and budget. It sounds dull, but it stops 90 percent of the stress from “adulting emergencies” before they even start.

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    Tabitha
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    1 day ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And it’s so incredibly satisfying to have that “boring” stuff all done for the month or week or whatever. It can be off your mind for a while, until it’s due again.

    Rick Murray
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    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Most bills are automatic. The pay-online ones get dealt with when the email arrives. Meals aren't planned, I make what I'm feeling at any given evening. I don't socialise, have vices, or buy loads of unnecessary things so my budget is fine. Every so often I sweep the excess in my current account into savings where it earns a pathetic amount of interest. And I sweep the living room every other day. It only takes a few minutes so I can do it while waiting for the kettle to boil.

    Tabitha
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    1 day ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You’re single, aren’t you? I did the same when I was single. It’s when you have a number of other people and their schedules to keep up with that time for those tasks becomes a precious commodity—-even if you have a lot of it automated, because you still have to set up all those automations in first place.

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    Apatheist Account2
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sunday morning is generally my admin time.

    #25

    Young woman in casual clothes sitting on a couch, focused and engaged, illustrating small tricks for easier grown-up life. Not everyone is asking you to help solve their problem. A lot of people just need to vent and for someone else to hear them.

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    Jeff White
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am, at my very core, a problem solver. How do I politely communicate that?

    Octopus Lasers
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    22 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You ask. Are you looking for solutions or to be heard? Then follow through.

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    Chich the witch
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It does help to get the thoughts out from banging around in your head and into the open where you can really look at them.

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    #26

    Pad your time.

    For example: if you need to be somewhere at 6, and it takes you 30 minutes to get there, plan to leave at 5 so you have 15 minutes before hand for traffic, lost keys,etc, and 15 minutes when you get there to find parking, get where you're going, use the bathroom, take a deep breath, etc before it starts.

    If you have a deadline of Friday, plan to be completely done by Thursday.

    Planning for a few minutes before and between each thing you're going to be doing, gives your schedule breathing room, instead of always being rushed.

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    Tabitha
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I always scramble to get everything done early so I have time to relax afterwards, especially of that time is my weekend. Do all your homework Friday after school, so you can relax all weekend. Do your housework after work, so you can relax all weekend. Besides, if you have it all done and in the bag early, then you won’t be caught short trying to finish it when some unforeseen emergency or earlier than usual business comes up.

    Spittnimage
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I leave extra early when I have an appointment so I'll get there 20-30 minutes early. I have anxiety and it helps keep me calm. On the plus side, sometimes I get called back before my appointment time.

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    #27

    Young woman sitting on a couch looking thoughtful, illustrating small tricks that make being a grown-up easier. Don’t fight about hypothetical situations.

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    Rick Murray
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    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My mind insists of a Plan B and a Plan C in case the original plan blows up. 99% of the time it's a waste of time getting in knots of something that won't happen. But that remaining 1%... that's when you'll be glad you planned options.

    Otto Katz
    Community Member
    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I always need solutions in case A, or B, or C happens. I need to know all my bases are covered.

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    Michael Largey
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    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Suppose there were no hypothetical situations.

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    #28

    Show up. Show up for people when they need it. You'll have to rationalize how many you can show up for.

    I don't mean get played or manipulated.

    A friend's starting a new business? Show up as a customer or find a suitable customer. Or put them in touch with an investor/peer/supplier/evangelist,...
    Your kid's nth school recital. Show up and cheer them on still like it's the first one.
    A colleague is going through a tough time in their personal life. Show up with whatever support is appropriate.
    Someone is moving houses. Yes they paid for movers, but still show up and help where you can.

    I don't mean spend all your life doing thing for others. You define your limits.

    You give to get. This is networking.

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    Michael Largey
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    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Being there" for other people didn't get called that by accident.

    Tabitha
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Even if you just give them the number of a reliable mover, or cleaner, or mechanic, or whatever/whoever, or make a suggestion for how to get a huge task done better or more quickly, you’re still “being there” for them even if not physically. Your suggestion/recommendation could be the best thing to help them or get them out of that jam, and they’ll think very highly of you for it—-well, at least most people will. There are those who never thank anyone for anything. Better leave that kind of person to their own devices.

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    #29

    Young woman looking thoughtfully out the window, reflecting on small tricks that make being a grown-up easier. Not caring about the opinions of strangers.

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    Michael Largey
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    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not caring about the opinions of most people you know.

    #30

    Woman wearing yellow gloves cleaning bathtub in modern bathroom using small tricks to make being a grown-up easier “No wasted motion” but my mom has been trying to teach me it for years.

    If I’m on the couch and need to go to the bathroom, I’ll tidy up the bathroom counter while I’m there and bring something out that’s meant for the living room. I struggle with cleaning (depression and cptsd) so this has really helped me stay on top of it.

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    Janissary35680
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    For a long time, I needed at least two reasons for getting up and moving from where I am. I upped that to three a couple of years ago. 😄🦥

    Gregory W
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    1 day ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Random things in the bathroom?

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    #31

    Young man and woman having an intense conversation on couch illustrating small tricks that make being a grown-up easier. Decide in advance if something actually matters enough to have an argument about it. Many of my friends disagree with me about a lot of things and almost none of them are worth the friction of an actual argument .

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    Michael Largey
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    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Also if the other person matters enough.

    #32

    Two women chatting and drinking coffee in an office, illustrating small tricks that make being a grown-up easier. Always ask how to spell someone's name when you first meet them. Oh, your name is Mara?  Is the M-a-r-a or M-a-u-r-a. It forces your brain to encode their name rather than immediately forgetting it. .

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    Apatheist Account2
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    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Had an office manager ask someone to spell their name to cover up the fact that she'd forgotten it. He said, very slowly, "P.A.T.E.L", then smiled.

    Michael Largey
    Community Member
    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'll use this in Washington if I ever meet OAC or MTG.

    #33

    Two adults stretching on yoga mats indoors demonstrating small tricks that make being a grown-up easier. Wake up and do what's most important for you. IE. Exercise because when you get home from work, you'll be tired and push it off.


    PS. I just used exercise as an example. It works for me for most things, such as catching up on house chores, studying another language, etc. It motivates me for the rest of the day. Of course, it's not going to work for everyone or every thing you do.

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    Michael Largey
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    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If I wake up and do what's most important to me, I will immediately roll over and go back to sleep. Then rinse and repeat.

    Rick Murray
    Community Member
    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The period betwixt wakefulness and my third cuppa is a time when I'm neither fully in the sleep realm nor in this one.

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    #34

    Holiday Christmas stockings hanging on a fireplace mantel with greenery and decorative letters, small tricks for easier grown-up life. When you buy your child a Christmas stocking for Santa to fill - buy an extra identical one.

    Have one pre-filled with the goodies then swap it for the empty one - it’s so much easier than trying to fill it quietly at some ungodly hour on Christmas Eve.

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    Michael Largey
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    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You mean we're allowed to shop for presents before Christmas eve? Seems like cheating.

    Otto Katz
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    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You mean people can buy stockings?

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    #35

    If you have to wonder if they like you, they don't like you.

    This would have saved me from many pointless and harmful relationships with men who didnt really care for me.

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    Michael Largey
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    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hasn't the OP ever met an insecure person? Or even a modest one?

    Malor Brycington
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    21 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm in agreement with Michael here. Try and read the room, yes, but just because you wonder if someone likes you doesn't mean they don't. Introverts are quiet and maybe don't want to talk as much, some people get socially awkward and have a hard time socializing. There are a many number of reasons you may perceive someone doesn't like you and maybe they don't, but there's probably a greater chance you're interpreting things differently than what they actually are. But also, sometimes it is just that straight forward.

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    Andrea Bonamico
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    3 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    For me, it's exactly the opposite: I've always told myself: if you can't tell if she's into it or not, then she is. In fact, if she wasn't into it, she'd definitely let you know. The perception of the negative is definitely stronger than the positive. But I'm Italian...

    M B
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    14 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Horrible advice. "Don't care what others think" was another great example...typical things someone annoying would think or ask themselves

    Auntriarch
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    4 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Though there is a difference between don't care and don't worry

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