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We all have small habits, pet peeves, and moments that feel completely justified - until someone else rolls their eyes. 

This poll will give you scenarios that’ll make you question whether you’re the type to block someone for replying to everyone else but you… or if that approach is a little extreme. For each situation below, decide whether it’s reasonable or overreacting. Cast your vote and see how your reactions compare to everyone else’s.

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#1

There’s clearly enough space in line - yet they’re practically breathing down your neck at the checkout.

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Alexia
Community Member
3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

More than reasonable. Especially if it's a man (but applicable for everyone). I once took my backpack off and accidentally hit the person behind me - who was way too close, despite of the large space around. They learned the concept of "social distancing" the hard way 🤭

Emilu
Community Member
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3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

@Jeffrey (Sorry Alexia) Judging by your comment, you're a moron and quite possibly also an incel, as I don't see any sane woman wanting to put up with that attitude. Women don't want men breathing down their neck unless they know that their intention is not to be a creeper, which you don't know of some rando in a queue somewhere. Male privilege. You've never had to pretend to be on the phone to someone as you're walking home because you're afraid someone will harm you (protip: It doesn't always work. Google Jill Maegher as an example). It's not about 'being special'; it's about being safe. And if you don't think women deserve that then you are literal scum of the earth.

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8Yorkies-and-33cats
Community Member
3 weeks ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Especially after the 2020's and the COVID era? If we don't say anything or somehow show them they're too close we are under-reacting.

Nikole
Community Member
3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I once had a woman standing RIGHT BEHIND ME at the self-checkout (people are supposed to stay in the line until a cashier or machine is free). I was getting my bags when she started scanning her things. Me: "Can you fúcking wait??". Oh, and I'm super fast so it's not like I was confused and/or lingering. This was years ago and it still písses me off.

Little Bit
Community Member
3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Practically sitting on my shoulder at the checkout isn't going to make me go any faster. Personal space.

GalPalAl
Community Member
3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Happened more than once. Standing in line with a cart waiting to check out. Line inches up and person behind me tells me to move up. Stay in your own lane and back off overstepper

Subaru645
Community Member
3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This happened to me recently, the young man at the register did not know how to process a rain check ticket, cashier apologized and handled it fine. The older man behind me starts tapping his car key on the metal repeatedly…so, I decide to engage the cashier even more about the FNAF Tshirt my son had gifted me years ago…safe to say, the jèrköff realized I was not going to rush the kid and stopped.

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    #2

    Your close friend shows up at your place unannounced.

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    Lotekguy
    Community Member
    Premium
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Strange question, since a close friend would know my aversion to such surprises.

    Nikole
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Very true. Mine would never, and I'd never do that to her.

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    LilliVB
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It really depends. Not everyone has the same boundaries with friends, and not all the boundaries are the same with every friend. It depends also on the reason why the friend show up unannounced. I wouldn't mind in an emergency for sure, for example. If it's an habit and a frequent one, it would bother me. If it happens once in a long while, not that much.

    Little Bit
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I remember the days when you could just pop round to visit a friend without having to make an appointment.

    Ellinor she/they/elle
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's just basic decency to warn people that you're going to come to their house.

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    Heffalump
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Depends if it's a regular thing, doesn't it? If it happens _very_ occasionally when they happen to be nearby, and they leave an opening for you to say it's not a good time, OK.

    FreeTheUnicorn
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have a key safe so my close friends can let themselves in if even I'm not home.

    Nikole
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why would they need to be in your place when you aren't there? Genuinely curious.

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    Beak Hookage
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd be initially surprised and possibly have an initial "W*F?!" reaction (I get zero visitors, so when my sister unexpectedly appeared on my doorstep waving through the screen at me I screamed and thought she was an intruder for a moment or two!) but then I'd be really pleased and start offering drinks and such.

    Mark Childers
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I just wouldn't open the door. I hate surprises and unwanted guests because I've had enough of both for a lifetime. Everyone has a phone. Send a text.

    Roxy222uk
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What? I’d be over the moon! But I’m that generation.

    David Beth
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is just how it was back before cell phones.

    Roxy222uk
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Exactly. And it was lovely when a close friend suddenly was at the door. If you’re busy then you both work around it.

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    Just_for_this
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As a friend generally our social interactions are organised, If they've showed up unannounced they need something which im happy to help with.

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    #3

    You just mopped, and your floors are spotless, but your guest walks straight in with outdoor shoes.

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    Ikstobaksals
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    WHY would you wear shoes inside????

    Hugo
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Most people do, in my experience, unless asked to take them off.

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    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's strict policy in my home, all my family's homes and most people's homes I've been to. It's never been a big deal, nor a problem, with anyone.

    Roxy222uk
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Eh? Just ask them to take their shoes off at the door. It’s your house, you set the rules, they don’t know.

    BewilderedBanana
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    it would be unreasonable because i would have mentioned it BEFORE they walked in. and if they're the kind of person to just barge in then they wouldn't have been invited in the first place :)

    Michael Largey
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ask them to wait until you get the floor dry - since they obviously didn't think to call in advance.

    arthbach
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If I've justmopped, then the floor is going to be wet. Its unreasonable to ask a person to remove their shoes and walk on wet floors.

    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How saturated are you getting your floors if they're still wet by the time guests arrive?

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    Geobugi🇰🇷🇰🇭
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    3 weeks ago

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    What is reasonable in this case? Hit him on the head with a newspaper i consider perfectly reasonable here

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    #4

    You’re in public and don’t want to listen to audio messages, but your mother only communicates through long voice notes.

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    Shark Lady
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A message of any type doesn't mean you have to respond right away.

    Chris Jones
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People shouldn't assume that a message sent is a message received anyway - it sometimes isn't.

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    Angela B
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't want to listen to you talking loudly and the person who is talking to you loudly on speaker, like EVER! There! I've said it, and I will die, on this hill, in peace and quiet.

    zatrisha
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don’t answer Audio messages at all but everybody in my contact list knows that and everybody else will learn.

    Nikole
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I even have an app on my phone that converts voicemails to text...

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    Heffalump
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's always reasonable to respond at your convenience. No-one has the right to demand that you drop whatever you are doing and reply immediately.

    Alexia
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There's a miraculous thing called "headphones" 🤭

    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You're not obligated to answer to any communications immediately.

    WubiDubi
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    An actual valid use for AI would be transcribing and summarising this.

    Roxy222uk
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Then it doesn’t get listened to, unless I have my earbuds.

    neil jagurdo
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She's your mother, get over it!

    Michael Largey
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How often does mom have an emergency?

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    #5

    You planned your day around the launch of a new restaurant. Everyone is excited, dressed to the nines for it. Suddenly, the launch date was changed & cancelled an hour before.

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    MoMcB
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don’t get how it’s reasonable to lodge a complaint- disappointment, yes, but you’ve no idea why- the equipment may not be working properly, so this is not enough information.

    UnclePanda
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wait a month or two on new restaurants anyway.

    8Yorkies-and-33cats
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So, I've noticed that in these questions there's one - this one, actually - that serves PR agencies and we are the test audience.

    Roxy222uk
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago

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    FreeTheUnicorn
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Where are you lodging the complaint?

    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    S**t happens. It's out of your control.

    DeoManus Argentem
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why complain? The restaurant didn't want it to happen either, just like airlines don't want cancelations/delays.

    Little Bit
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's no big deal. Thsse things happen. In my experience it's more of a surprise when things actually happen when they're supposed to.

    Nizumi
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you think you're disappointed, imagine what stress the restaurant folks are feeling!

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    #6

    You’re trying to get somewhere on time, but a group is strolling slowly across the entire walkway like they own the city.

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    Lotekguy
    Community Member
    Premium
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why do that instead of just asking if you can go through them since you're in a hurry?

    Kelly Scott
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Because people that do this would just tell you to f**k off and they still wouldn't move or let you through.

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    Little Bit
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's not difficult just to say, "Excuse me please."

    FreeTheUnicorn
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Everyone who blocks walkways should be told off.

    B.F. Gibb
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Excuse me!" Is a complete sentence.

    Roxy222uk
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don’t own it anymore than they do. I would never be as arrogant as to tell them off, come on. It’s perfectly possible to just say ‘excuse me, guys’ and get them to let you past. What is the matter with people?

    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People are just so rude these days. Even when they use polite words, they still act rude, pushing past people, not being patient. Those are the people I tell off. You're totally right that public space is not owned by anyone.

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    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Either say excuse me I need to pass through, or go around.

    Starbug
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "A lack of planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on mine."

    Phantom Phoenix
    Community Member
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    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It shouldn't need to be an emergency on anyone's part for you to have the common decency to not hog the path

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    #7

    You’re on the train, and it’s very quiet. Someone starts blasting TikToks, voice notes, and game sounds on full volume.

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    Savannah greenleaf
    Community Member
    Premium
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh the things we should not have to ask in the first place.

    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    i wouldn't ask in Winnipeg. A mother and her young children got beaten up by a group of thugs just as they got off the bus, all for her asking them to turn down their music. That video is burned into my brain.

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    Angela B
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Headphones. I use them. If I want to listen to something and not disturb others, I use headphones.

    Beak Hookage
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Of course if you do there's a decent chance they'll get all pissy like you're the jerk (that happened the one time I asked some a*****e to put their phone away at the movies) and a fairly decent chance they'll also pull out a knife.

    Nicely
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Some a****t shouted at me and my friend for talking on a train the other day as he couldn't hear the announcement, and then proceeded to watch vids at full volume on his phone.

    Nicely
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's donkey hat for anyone wondering

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    BewilderedBanana
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    even defenestration would be reasonable :)

    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I just put on my earbuds and listen to my own thing. Eventually I can tune out any background sounds.

    justanotherweirdo
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    EITHER USE SOME FREAKING HEADPHONES OR TURN THE VOLUME OFF!!!!!

    Emilu
    Community Member
    Premium
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh... those people pi‍ss me off. In a perfect world I'd get away with kicking them in the face. As I'd probably get stabbed, though, I stick with moving as far away as I can and changing carriages if necessary.

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    #8

    You’re on a date, the food looks really good, when suddenly, mid-bite, your date says, “Wow, you’re really hungry today.”

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    Shark Lady
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It could just be first date nerves. Let's face it, we've all let our mouths run before engaging brain.

    Lotekguy
    Community Member
    Premium
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Finish the meal before walking away, especially if you actually are as hungry as the date was rude enough to say you were.

    Janissary35680
    Community Member
    Premium
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Immediately is probably overreacting but it would be "Strike One".

    Roxy222uk
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Eh? Maybe I am really hungry today. Wouldn’t bother me that my date noticed. If I was just eating normally and they said that I’d be confused and ask ‘what do you mean?’ and see where we went from there.

    Nizumi
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd stay and finish the meal, order dessert if I felt like it, pay my bill, and leave. Buddy would be lucky to get a handshake from me.

    GalPalAl
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is touchy because it depends on the person and their track record. But for someone to try and shame you for eating is a no go

    Beak Hookage
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd just laugh and say yeah, and anyway this food is really good, what d'you think? Want to try a bite off my plate?

    Emilu
    Community Member
    Premium
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Assuming it's a nice restaurant, no way; I'd be eating that food before I left. It's a nice way for the trash to take itself out, though. (And yes, I would pay for myself on a first date, if it was that.)

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    #9

    Your partner said they’d clean the kitchen, but by bedtime, the sink’s full, the counters are sticky, and they’re asleep on the couch.

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    Danni
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If my partner is so exhausted that they're collapsed on the couch. I'd at most make sure he's comfortable because I love him. If I still have energy I'd clean up, if not it'll wait untill tomorrow. Spite doesn't add anything to a relationship. And if you have so much anger over a messy kitchen, you are not in a good place and you should check the state of the relationship and work on yourself. But that's just my opinion.

    Roxy222uk
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’ve been married for over 30 years. These things happen. I’d probably be mildly annoyed, but at the end of the day it’ll all get cleared up and we’ll still be happily married.

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    zatrisha
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Who ever is on that couch can do it tomorrow I think.

    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Lived through this. It's not like I wasn't dead tired, physically exhausted, and he was already asleep for a few hours after playing video games and getting high.

    Mark Childers
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The only reason I chose "overreacting" because the only thing she'll get him to do is move from the couch to the bed if she wakes him up. Keeping in mind that the mess will be so much worse after sitting overnight, having him clean up next day might be worth it.

    Laserleader
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Depends on if it is a normal tired, or a fake tired. Normal tired totally can wait. Fake tired to get out of doing a known chore, especially if it's a habit, is a get their a*s up.

    April Pickett
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They will do it when they wake up, or continue sleeping on the couch.

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    #10

    You’re waiting in line, you spot the last item you need, and the manager confirms there aren’t any more. Before you can reach for it, the person in front of you picks up that exact last item.

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    Angarade
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As long as you keep your frustration for yourself.

    Janissary35680
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    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Grabbing it out of their hands is overreacting. Feeling frustrated is not so long as it's not indicated with more than a resigned sigh.

    Beak Hookage
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd be ticked off and probably grumble under my breath, but that's normal. Making an issue of it would be unacceptable. My next step would be mentally laying out how I'm going to go and look for one somewhere else.

    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's okay to be frustrated, but until you pay for your items, it belongs to the store.

    Laserleader
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If they were in line first, the rules of the que wins first come first served. Doesn't matter if you take to someone else about it.

    Michael Largey
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You should have picked it up first and then spent time asking the manager.

    justanotherweirdo
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It’s reasonable to be frustrated, just don’t say anything about it

    Emilu
    Community Member
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    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's reasonable to be frustrated, absolutely. As others have said, it's how/if you show that frustration that determines if you're over-reacting.

    meow point1
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's kind of a weird question. Being frustrated is an emotion, and we can't decide which emotions we *feel*, only how we *respond* to the feelings.

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    #11

    Your coworker leaves the office kitchen messy for the third time this week. You’ve addressed this before, and they don’t seem to care.

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    Lotekguy
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    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Put the messy stuff on the co-worker's desk.

    Miss_H84
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's what my dad used to do 😆🤦‍♀️. I would come home from school and find the toaster, plate, glass, knife etc I used for breakfast on my bedroom floor. I understand him now lol.

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    Heffalump
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just report them. Notes aren't going to make a difference.

    Beak Hookage
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I went with overreacting largely because I hate workplace drama and (when I had a workplace, sigh) I'd just shrug and take care of it myself.

    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That will backfire onto you. HR actually resents having petty issues being brought to them. You're all adults. Just tell the person they need to make sure they clean up. Perhaps that coworker is in a rush to get back and forgets, like it's a time management. ... Actually, if you state it in a cleaver way that makes the issue of interest to the company, you could report it to HR without emotion and making it personally about you. "I have to bring this up to you. I've noticed people are not cleaning up the kitchen, leaving a big mess. This is a safety and health problem, and could potentially end up being a pest problem, too. I just wanted to bring you aware to this ongoing issue of the past 3 weeks." Then if they ask who, you can say " It's one person that I've witnessed, but there could be others who are doing the same thing." Not calling out a name will make it sound like you're not just trying to get one person in trouble for your personal gains. You gotta think in HR mode.

    Michael Largey
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Go to the manager about it. Don't be afraid of interrupting - they won't be doing anything important.

    David Beth
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The only people who have a right to complain to HR are the cleaning people in this situation.

    Roxy222uk
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    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A lot of work situations don’t have cleaners. The staff themselves are required to keep the place clean.

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    Nizumi
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Anything left in the sink or on the counter at end of day gets put on to of the garbage bin box. So not IN the bin, but close enough to indicate displeasure.

    #12

    You’re having a tough day and text your partner for some advice to get you through the rest of it. They reply with a joke instead of a serious or reassuring answer.

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    Danni
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If that's how they are responding, that is probably part of the nature of your relationship, they might be trying to lighten your mood. All you have to do is ask for serious help getting offended would be ridiculous in this scenario as there's nothing offensive happening.

    Emilu
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    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This! No point in making mountains out of molehills.

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    Cla Ida
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    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If they would be super dramatic for themselves and expecting you to be serious for them, then yeah it's flippant. If not it can be a very welcome comic relief.

    Phil
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Text is notoriously bad at conveying tone, even between people who know each other really well. A simple response like "No, seriously" would probably get a more appropriate response.

    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He could be just trying to brighten your day.

    Laserleader
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Only an issue if they turn it around and get mad at you for even mentioning it and make it worse. Otherwise they were probably just trying to cheer you up.

    Roxy222uk
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Then they didn’t understand first time. I’d explain again. If I need support they’ll give it.

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    #13

    At the end of a friend’s birthday party, you’re tired and socially drained. Saying goodbye to everyone feels exhausting.

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    Kim Karlotta
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd probably just say goodbye to the person who invited me and/or I was coming to the party with, instead of every single one I know.

    Emilu
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    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    ^ This, and the person whose birthday it is (if that's different to the person that invited me, eg: it was a surprise birthday party or something).

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    Mike F
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    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Irish goodbye always works for me.

    Ace
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    3 weeks ago

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    A lot ruder to simply leave without anything anything though.

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    Roxy222uk
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    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Stand at the door and shout "bye everyone!” Job done.

    Heffalump
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Leaving without saying goodbye is just plain rude.

    Phil
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I get socially drained really quickly. I say good bye to the host, and whomever I come across on the way out of the door.

    Michael Largey
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't tell the other guests that I'm leaving. I'm so tired of them not even trying to hide that sigh of relief

    David Beth
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They'd be lucky to even get the text. I usually just leave.

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    #14

    Someone “helps” by loading the dishwasher… but nothing fits properly, and half the dishes won’t get clean unless you fix it.

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    RAVEN Howard
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    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thank them for them the help graciously and redo as needed

    LilliVB
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    3 weeks ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Exactly. It's my kid and he's still learning, no problem, I keep him there and show him how to do it better next time while thanking him anyway for helping me. It's a guest, I just thank them and I fix it. It's my husband, I tell him to fix it while complaining that he knows he didn't do a good enough job and can he please do it right without me checking it.

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    meow point1
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    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd just presume they don't know how to properly help and explain to them how to do it properly next time.

    Scott Rackley
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    NOR, it's why I cook and do the dishes. Plus I've found things in the dishwasher that do not belong in the dishwasher, like my really good knives.

    Phil
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Is nothing "fitting properly" or did they just load the dishwasher differently?

    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Bring them to the dishwasher and explain how the dishwasher needs to be loaded.

    Roxy222uk
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If it’s just a guest then it would be very rude to expect them to redo it!

    Michael Largey
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Give them something else help with. Maybe stand outside and feed the unicorn.

    #15

    You finally sit down to watch something you’ve been excited about, but someone keeps commenting, explaining, or asking questions. They do this all the time.

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    RAVEN Howard
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you know this is normal behavior for this person, don't watch something that is so important with them. Wait and watch it alone

    Hugo
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh yes? Try asking the television company to delay the broadcast!

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    Laserleader
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    3 weeks ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am the commentator, so as soon as I realize I cant keep my mouth shut I leave the room. If its in the bedroom, my husband just changes it and watches it later... unless it's something we are analyzing together.

    Stardust she/her
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    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Every bloody time I try to spend time with family by watching a movie with them I get so many fricking comments either about me or the movie that I end up leaving the room within the first quarter. I was excited to watch this movie I’ve watched a thousand times but still love (the movie was about a mission to Mars) and my family basically told me that I’m not capable of doing astronomy as a job 🫠

    Gail Lott
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    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Pause button

    Starbug
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    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I live with this person that won't shut up. If I press pause it's "oh no need to be rude, ok I get the message and shut up" and start talking again the second I press play again. I just watch stuff I like on my own.

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    Cla Ida
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    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm the speaker and I just check with people beforehand if I need to shut up or not, but if I don't and i'm told to stop running my mouth it's totally fair game. Recently though i was alone with my best friend at the movie theatre, we were chatting a lot and it was a perfect movie experience.

    Roxy222uk
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    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ha ha ha. That someone would be me

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    #16

    A close colleague casually picks up your phone to “quickly Google something” without checking if it’s okay to do so.

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    Judes
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's OK because they wouldn't be able to open it.

    Nikole
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or if you're like my mom, you leave your phone unlocked.

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    zatrisha
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    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I really don’t care, just leave my tabs open.

    Beak Hookage
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Good luck with that when you don't have the exact same fingerprint as me!

    Michael Largey
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Try googling 'Things that will get your hand smacked next time.' I'll wait."

    Mike F
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My sister doesn't just grab my phone.

    Robert Trebor
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    same as when you show a pic and they scroll through others.

    Ronja Oksanen
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    3 weeks ago

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    Well you shouldn't have anything personal in your work phone so it's ok.

    Chris Jones
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We don't know if it is a work phone or not - and companies have different rules about phone usage while working.

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    #17

    You notice your friend does the same thing every time you eat together - the way they chew. It’s loud, open-mouthed, and full of slurps and crunches.

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    SouthernGal
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No way I could eat with that person.

    Janissary35680
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    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not after the third time anyhow.

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    Lotekguy
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    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You'd be doing that person a favor, since you're certainly not the only one who's bothered by it.

    Kristy Marion
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not if this is occurring some place like Japan or China. Loud eating is a sign of appreciation

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    FreeTheUnicorn
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Do you think no one has said anything before? They know and they can't help it. Don't pile on

    Michael Largey
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If I'm picking up on stuff like that, it probably means their conversation isn't holding my attention all that well.

    Stardust she/her
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    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I usually avoid eating with people or even being in the same room with people for this reason. Plus, I find the sound of someone breathing to be extremely annoying so I’d rather not spend time with anyone

    Mike F
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had a housemate once that sounded like some kind of animal when he ate. I just learned to tune it out.

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    #18

    You see them posting stories, liking posts, and replying to others - but your message stays unanswered for hours.

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    zatrisha
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Another reason to avoid Social Media.

    Shanaaia
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    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Bored Panda is sorta Social Media, too

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    David Beth
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    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    why would you bother blocking them if they never respond to you?

    Emilu
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    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've been the person who ignores some forms of SM and responds to others quite often. Typically it's because the stuff I'm ignoring are things like personal messages where I need to reply thoroughly, as opposed to just dropping a like or whatever. I call it a measurement of 'spoons'. I only have a certain amount of spoons to do XYZ, and when they've been used, they're gone. Sometimes I'm only up for liking etc posts whereas an actual reply is beyond me at that time.

    Beak Hookage
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I always figure they're just not in the headspace for messaging me back right now so don't worry about it, they'll get back to me when they're ready. It probably wasn't anything important anyway.

    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They could be seeing your posts and having a genuine reaction that they feel they don't need to prove it with reaction emoji or comment.

    Roxy222uk
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don’t even understand this question. How do I know one specific person is responding to other people’s posts but not mine? I think this is BP’s way of telling me to get off my laptop and read a chapter of ‘The Last Voice You Hear’ (follow up to Down Cemetery Road) by Mick Herron. Bye.

    Emilu
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    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I guess if you stalk them on Facebook or something, perhaps? I dunno, never been that invested. Enjoy your book though (genuinely, just in case it doesn't come across that way). A good book fixes most things 😊

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    #19

    The long-awaited film that you’ve been really excited about just got released, but you haven’t found the time to go watch it yet. Your friend (who has), casually drops a major plot twist mid-conversation.

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    LilliVB
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Again it depends. Does the friend know about everything listed, or not? It would change a lot my reaction.

    meow point1
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Depends what you mean by "be upset". If you mean "feel a bit bummed", that's reasonable, if you mean "yell at them", it's not.

    Phil
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I get why people get upset with spoilers, but in the end they aren't a major life event.

    Beak Hookage
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm not all that fussed about spoilers, but I would probably say something like "dude, no, I haven't seen that movie yet! No more spoilers!"

    Nikole
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My dad does this, but not in a malicious way.

    Michael Largey
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Did the friend know of your situation?

    Stardust she/her
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    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Honestly speaking I prefer being given spoilers as I haven’t ever consumed any media without recieving spoilers and it helps me mentally when there’s no sudden surprise in the middle

    David Beth
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "spoilers" are made up outrage.

    Beak Hookage
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I was in highschool and everyone was breathlessly anticipating the next Harry Potter book, one of my sister's classmates maliciously went and told her that "hey, so Sirius Black dies in this book", knowing she hadn't had the chance to read it yet. My sister came to me asking was that true, and you bet there was nothing made up about how furious she was.

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    #20

    You lent someone your charger in good condition, and it comes back damaged - barely working.

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    SouthernGal
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    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You shouldn’t have to ask them. They should’ve automatically bought you a new one.

    LilliVB
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    3 weeks ago

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    Nicely
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    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Further question - if you lend someone a branded item and they damage it, then offer to buy a generic replacement not a like for like, is it reasonable to ask them to buy a direct replacement?

    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Tbh, those things get damaged so easily and have to be replaced every so often, anyways.

    Mike F
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have a half dozen chargers, they can have one.

    #21

    Your neighbour’s been blasting the same song for hours. You didn’t mind it the first few times, but now it’s getting annoying.

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    Mike F
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    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Years ago I lived in a duplex of sorts. At the time Cher's "Turn Back Time" was popular and this guy had just gone through a breakup. That SOB played that d@mned song on repeat for well over an hour until I went to the basement and pulled the fuse to his living room. He wasn't happy. I told him if he played that d@mned song again I would throw the fuse away entirely. Fvck you Shawn.

    Vanessa Panerosa
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    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Similar experience - lived in Chicago in my 20’s and our crabby downstairs neighbor was going through a divorce so decided to played “viva la vida” by Coldplay for HOURS one night. I still get ptsd from those opening strings. . . F u Marsha

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    StrangeOne
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    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If I have to be serenated by the music of my neighbours while trying to live peacefully in my own home, then they have their music on so ridiculously loud they should have to turn it down no matter what they're playing.

    Janissary35680
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    3 weeks ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In some cases (breakup for example) I might make an exception but otherwise I don't need to ask. I have a very capable Technics audio system of my own. I have weaponized it more than once before and will gladly do so again if provoked.

    Emilu
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    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Unless it's past hours when you can play music, I think it's unreasonable.

    David Beth
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    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That depends on your living situation. Apartment with thin walls? No, you're overreacting. House in the country? Yeah, that's way too loud.

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    #22

    Your friend is always excited to make plans and set dates, but when it’s time to follow through, they go ghost.

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    Kim Karlotta
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    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I do have some friends like that (because of mental health stuff they have going on) and I mostly make plans with others first, then invite them to come along once I know someone more reliable will be there as well.

    arthbach
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That the sensible, adult way to handle the situation. They are included (if the wish, or if their health allows) but you are not left hanging.

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    David Beth
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    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Extreme words like "never" are an automatic overreaction.

    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have a cousin like this. I hardly talk to her anymore. For years she kept saying we should meet up, go do this and that, plan a game night. We've gotten together only 2 times in the 7 years. I don't understand why people play games like that.

    MalayDragon
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had a friend exactly like this, when we were 18 we'd be out every weekend playing Pool and drinking beers, Those weekends started occurring less and less until it got to the point we'd make plans they'd be confirmed and then he would ghost me the night of. I just stopped organizing things, left it up to him to make the plans. I would confirm that I was available and still he would ghost me, eventually just went no contact and haven't spoken to him since.

    Stardust she/her
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    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hate, genuinely loathe people who can never follow through with plans. Those scum always talk about hanging out with me (even though I’d rather not) and then once I’ve prepped everything & psyched myself up they give me a lame reason they didn’t show up. They don’t even invite me anywhere but expect me to accomodate them and be fine with cancelling plan after plan based on their whims and fancies. Maybe it’s for the best they rarely invited me as the only time they did, I had my boundaries crossed because I guess they expected me to live around their lives and as a result had to suffer. No more, I’m blocking them all

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    #23

    You notice that your siblings borrow your things and either don’t bother to return them or return them damaged.

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    Danni
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Communication can solve a lot of things. Of you are all adults. Which seems to be the case, sit down for a coffee and have an .adult conversation. Going ballistic and cutting people out of your life over materialistic things is just so bizarre. There are boundaries, sure, but what start with a reactionary action and not try peaceful meditation.

    Lotekguy
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    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Give them a list of the things you want back and let them know they won't be welcome until they return them.

    meow point1
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd still invite them over, but disallow them from borrowing my things.

    #24

    You scheduled your laptop to update automatically, but it decides to do so while you’re working - forcing a restart.

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    Robert Trebor
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Like selecting a route on Google maps and having the program reroute you without warning. Thére are same roads which I just don't want to go on at times.

    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I was working from home, the managers told us all updates had to be done off work times. But some of the updates were aggressive and I felt my computer's operating performance was compromised (laggy, glitchy, freezing, slow) until I updated.

    B.F. Gibb
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    HATE these updates with the intensity of a thousand suns.

    Nikki Sevven
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My computer doesn't require a restart after backing up, and will back up while I'm actively using it.

    #25

    There’s only one table left at your favorite cafe, but a jacket is draped over the chair, and the barista tells you the owner hasn’t returned to the seat for more than 15 minutes. The table still has its unfinished coffee and meal.

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    Nikki Sevven
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    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Totally unreasonable. You have no idea why they're not at their table. It's still their table and I'd be pissed if you touched my things while I was in the rest room or whatever.

    MalayDragon
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    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Exactly, just because they have not returned to the table doesn't mean they have left. Until that has been confirmed i would just either go somewhere else or wait for another table.

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    FreeTheUnicorn
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    3 weeks ago

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    arthbach
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    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hand the ja kettle into the batista as l'lost prooerty' and take the space.

    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They could be in the washroom for all you know.

    April Pickett
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    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The absentee customer just decided to share his table.

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    #26

    You invite a group of friends over for a themed dinner party. One friend RSVPs then cancels at the last minute without a reason, despite you calling and texting to ask ‘why’.

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    Robert Trebor
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    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Reinvite if the offender explains the issue.

    Danni
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you are truly friends, you would want their company and understand sometimes people don't owe you an explanation.. they have their own issues. You could ask if they're ok and if you could help seeing as they are your friend and you probably care for them?! It's like the word friend means nothing to whomever wrote these questions (hopefully it's AI ,that would explain the lack of understanding of human relationships)

    MoMcB
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Depends on the reason.

    Heffalump
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Stuff happens at the last minute. No point in asking for an explanation. If they don't have a good excuse, they'll just make one up.

    Janissary35680
    Community Member
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    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If first time, it's overreacting. It also depends on the reason.

    Phil
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No one owes anyone an explanation for canceling social plans. Is it reasonable to expect one from a close friend? Sure. But maybe be concerned or worried and ask if they need help before cutting them off.

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