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Guy Tells Coworker She Should Stay Home And “Birth Babies,” She Is Conflicted About Reporting Him
Navigating a male-dominated workplace often requires a thick skin, yet there is a distinct line between harmless banter and genuine disrespect. While much of the world has embraced gender equality, some professional environments still harbor archaic views about a woman’s role in society.
It becomes particularly complicated when people hide behind “cultural differences” to justify misogynistic behavior, forcing women to choose between maintaining peace or reporting the harassment. These situations can leave employees questioning their own reactions and wondering if they are being too sensitive. This is precisely the conflict one woman faced after a shocking interaction with a male coworker.
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Working in a field dominated by the opposite gender often requires patience, yet some interactions cross the line from simple annoyance to genuine harassment
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The situation unfolded when a male colleague approached the narrator in the kitchen and mockingly called her “wifey” just for emptying the dishwasher
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His joke quickly turned into a disturbing declaration that women are solely meant for birthing babies, while men are built for work
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When she argued that they live in a progressive society, he dismissed her rights by claiming “culture” dictates she should be a stay-at-home mother
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The discussion ended awkwardly when he told her not to take his misogyny personally, despite admitting he would never tolerate that role himself
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She is now struggling with whether to report him to her boss as previously agreed or to excuse his behavior as simple ignorance
Working in a male-dominated field is tough enough without a trip to the staff kitchen turning into a lecture on gender roles. While emptying the dishwasher, a young coworker decided to call OP “wifey,” seemingly unaware that doing basic chores isn’t a genetic trait found strictly in women.
It got worse when he declared women are only good for “birthing children and washing,” while men are meant for work. When OP pushed back against this archaic mindset, he shrugged it off as “just his culture,” claiming she would happily quit her job if a boyfriend told her to stay home.
The logic crumbled when he admitted he’d never be a stay-at-home dad because he’s a man, yet insisted OP was wrong for valuing her career. Despite a calm debate where she defended her rights, he ended the chat by telling her not to take his dismissal of her entire existence “personally.”
Now she’s stuck in a bind: report him to her boss, who previously promised to crush any sexism, or let it slide because the guy is young and new to the country? She worries customers might hear his hot takes, but she’s conflicted about getting him in trouble for his worldview.
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While the coworker’s comments about women belonging in the kitchen might sound like something out of a 1950s sitcom, they point to a very modern workplace issue known as “benevolent sexism.” Research by Sian Beilock highlights that this type of sexism often flies under the radar because it can be disguised as “friendly” or “cultural.”
However, Beilock warns that this “subtle” sexism can be just as damaging as overt hostility. She notes that comments framing women as “delicate” or “better suited” for domestic roles can zap a woman’s enthusiasm and cause her to disengage altogether. The OP’s instinct to feel conflicted is backed by science: ignoring these comments can lead to “rumination” that drains mental energy better spent on actual work.
Beilock advises that the best approach is exactly what the OP began to do: keep the tone calm and professional, but call it out. She suggests explaining why the comment is troubling and how it reinforces harmful stereotypes, rather than just letting it slide to “keep the peace.”
The coworker’s defense that “it’s just my culture” crashes headfirst into the specific history of the country he now calls home. According to Dr. Alice Evans’ research, Scandinavia didn’t become a bastion of equality by accident. It was a deliberate century-long project driven by “weak ideals of seclusion” and a massive push for women to seize all types of jobs, not just domestic ones.
Evans notes that Scandinavian equality is built on a cultural rejection of hierarchy. In these societies, the idea that a boss is “just two steps up from the janitor” creates an environment where everyone is respected equally. When a coworker insists on a hierarchy, he is challenging the fundamental economic and social contract of the region.
How have you dealt with office sexism before? Share some tips in the comments!
People in the comments stood behind her, saying these comments are unacceptable and worthy of an escalation
What do you think ?
Earonn - 1 hour ago
This is *not* about cultural differences. I know that because I'm an immigrant, too, and when people explain British cultural details to me that I didn't observe because things were handled differently in Germany, I *thank* them and do my best not to forget. NEVER would I discuss with them why they should adhere to my standards.
Apatheist Account2 1 hour ago
This is the big fear with uncontrolled immigration - people (specifically Middle Eastern men) trying to impose their culture on a country that move on from that approach decades, if not centuries, ago. You can observe your own culture if you want to, but don't try to take freedoms away from others. Turn up in a bikini and start drinking, see if his head explodes :)
Michael Largey 1 hour ago
Does he expect it to stop snowing in Sweden because there's no snow in his home country? Management needs to help him - ah - acclimate to his new environment. He may be even reasonable enough to get it.
Earonn - 1 hour ago
This is *not* about cultural differences. I know that because I'm an immigrant, too, and when people explain British cultural details to me that I didn't observe because things were handled differently in Germany, I *thank* them and do my best not to forget. NEVER would I discuss with them why they should adhere to my standards.
Apatheist Account2 1 hour ago
This is the big fear with uncontrolled immigration - people (specifically Middle Eastern men) trying to impose their culture on a country that move on from that approach decades, if not centuries, ago. You can observe your own culture if you want to, but don't try to take freedoms away from others. Turn up in a bikini and start drinking, see if his head explodes :)
Michael Largey 1 hour ago
Does he expect it to stop snowing in Sweden because there's no snow in his home country? Management needs to help him - ah - acclimate to his new environment. He may be even reasonable enough to get it.
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