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Sometimes, if you want to date someone, you’ve got to “shoot your shot,” as the saying goes. However, the distance and lack of accountability of things like text messages and DMs mean that some of the most unhinged folks out there are willing to just try anything, no matter how dumb.

We’ve gathered screenshots of some of the worst, cringiest and most clueless attempts at hitting on women some men have ever attempted. So get comfortable as you scroll through, upvote the most horrendous examples and be sure to share your own thoughts and stories in the comments down below.

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#1

Text message screenshot showing a cringy man insisting on correcting and mentally preparing a woman.

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UKDeek
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3 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Brilliant - The only way to deal with such an absolute nugget like that...

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    #2

    Cringy men hitting on women with dramatic and desperate messages in late-night text conversations.

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    The Other Guest
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well, now we know the dude's lying because I very much doubt it would be St Peter who greets him in the afterlife

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    Boredest Panda
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Bud really thought he’d get a response at 3 IN THE MORNING.

    Hmmm hmmmm
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well he was in hospital in fairness , maybe he couldn't see a clock.

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    Jaya
    Community Member
    3 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Threatening self-hárm is a form of psychological abúse. If someone you're dating does that to you, you are in an abusíve relationship. You deserve better than that, and you should really try to get out of that relationship. And if you yourself are threatening people with self-hárm, you should talk to your doctor to get a referral to a therapist, they can teach you how to deal with your emotions in a healthy way.

    StarCrossedFriday
    Community Member
    3 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’m genuinely wondering what ‘s*******m’ is. But if it’s ‘süïcide’, agreed - I had a friend who used to make her ex come round constantly by threatening the same, and she’d complain to me that his new gf didn’t like this habit, as if my friend was the only one who wasn’t in the wrong. That’s how we gradually stopped being friends.

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    UKDeek
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So, apparently jumped at 02:57hrs and was in the hospital at 03:11hrs, that's 14 minutes for EMS to respond, assess, package and transport... either the hospital is really close to the bridge, or I suspect someone is not telling the truth...

    SheHulk
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    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think this one was clearly joking; it's just not funny.

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    Jaya
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would respond: "Dude, you really need a better password on your phone!"

    Riley Quinn
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My ex was a coward who would threaten süicide if I left. Stopped me the first couple of times, but I got tired of his BS and said go ahead, it will would improve the marriage.

    Hmmm hmmmm
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wanna know what the surgeon said now

    Tara L.
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wow, he jumped, died, was brought back, had life saving surgery, & was recovered enough to text her all in just 21 minutes 🤣.

    Nova Rook
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This feels like he did a bit for laughs, because if not this is insane.

    SheHulk
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    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Shoebill stork faking it! https://www.youtube.com/shorts/seskqQWU99U

    AC
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yo Gaby he at the gates, should I let him in or you gonna call him

    Billo66
    Community Member
    Premium
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What , you need me to butter the rail homie? wtf.

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    #3

    Screenshot of a cringy conversation showing men hitting on women with awkward and controlling messages.

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    Ellinor she/they/elle
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh, if only you could slap people through a screen... One can only hope I guess !

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    There's a very specific kind of interaction that a great many women are all too familiar with: a guy approaches, flirts, and when she sends out signals of disinterest, either overt or subtle, he just flat-out refuses to notice. Instead of gracefully stepping back, he keeps pushing on, piling her up with groan-inducing remarks, unasked-for compliments, or persistence that quickly glides from mildly annoying to full-on awkward.

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    The result is usually cringe-worthy, both for the woman who is rejected and for any onlookers to the embarrassment. So why do some men so completely misunderstand rejection, and why does it look so painfully awkward?

    #4

    Text message exchange showing a cringy man hitting on a woman with insecure and lowkey girl comments.

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    Ellinor she/they/elle
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well at least he announce his red flags right away, I'll give him that...

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    #6

    Screenshot of a cringy man expressing frustration about females listening to Radiohead and being social rejects.

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    Niki
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    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Today I learned women can't be Italian.

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    Social conditioning is part of the reason. Men have been trained for decades that persistence is a good thing when it comes to charming women. Movies, TV shows, and even "how to date" books have a tendency to reinforce the idea that "if you stick it out long enough, she'll eventually agree." This myth makes some men believe that a woman's hesitation is just a challenge to be overcome, rather than a clear boundary to be respected.

    #8

    Screenshot of cringy men hitting on women with misleading and outdated comments on a dating app conversation.

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    Deborah B
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Because men were trying to sneak looks at our arses?

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    #9

    Screenshot of cringy men hitting on women with awkward and polite but ineffective pickup messages in a chat conversation.

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    Jaya
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's his mindset/behavior that is the problem, not the name. People don't choose their name (well, not most people anyway), no need to shame people over that.

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    A second reason is ego. Rejection is painful, and to some men, it is painful like a blow to their ego. Instead of taking "no" for an answer, they try to save face by doubling back, cracking jokes, or playing dumb about the signals. The result, ironically, makes them seem even more desperate and cringeworthy. What could have been a moment of maturity, taking the lack of interest and moving on, becomes an act that screams insecurity.

    #10

    Screenshot of a cringy message from a man nervously asking a woman out on a date, showing awkward flirting.

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    Ellinor she/they/elle
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    *Look around while embarrassed* Can someone come save me please ? *she thinks while smiling awkwardly to the strange man*

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    There's also the issue of reading between the lines. Some men literally struggle with reading between the lines, either because of poor social intuition or just desire masquerading as obstacles. If a woman is polite but direct, they'll misinterpret her being nice as a sign that she wants them to continue approaching rather than a signal that they need to back off. This miscommunication creates a dynamic where one believes they're being kind and the other thinks that it's an invite to continue approaching.

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    #14

    Screenshot of a cringy chat message showing emotional text from a man hitting on a woman, highlighting awkward interactions.

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    Nathaniel He/Him Cis-Het
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hi this is Ian's nigerian uncle who happens to be a general.

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    #15

    Text message exchange showing cringy men hitting on women with awkward and humorous responses in a dark chat interface.

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    Riley Quinn
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not understanding basic social decorum is beyond weird. You don't bring up your crazy thoughts until the 3rd date.

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    The cringe factor is the product of this disconnect between what he tries to do and what actually occurs. When a man ignores obvious cues, his advances are no longer playful but awkward. The flattery is insincere, the jokes fall flat, and the assertiveness seems arrogant. The irony of the moment, for a bystander, is the way painfully clueless he seems, but for the woman, it's never funny. It's exhausting, infuriating, and sometimes even threatening.

    #16

    Tattooed man’s dating profile with a creepy message, part of cringy men hitting on women screenshots collection.

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    Nathaniel He/Him Cis-Het
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Pity it spends all its time bashing the Bishop. Just saying.

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    #17

    Text message conversation showing a man awkwardly asking about favorite Wes Anderson films, part of cringy men hitting on women.

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    Ellinor she/they/elle
    Community Member
    3 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nope ! He's going to be one of those "cinema lover" that only gives credit to obscure Siberian movies with Russian subtitles in black and white made in the 18th century.

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    Screenshot of a cringy text message from a man hitting on a woman with awkward emotional comments.

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    Ellinor she/they/elle
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And now ladies and gentlemen, if you look to your right you can see the very rare specie called "Alpha Males". No flashes with the pictures please, they are VERY sensitive.

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    What is worse is that this type of behavior underestimates women altogether. It assumes they're being games or that their "no" isn't a real one. It removes their agency and treats them like puzzles to be solved rather than human beings who are very capable of knowing, and expressing, what they want. That lack of respect isn't just cringeworthy, it's disrespectful.

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    The truth is that rejection is just a part of life, and the most attractive response is to accept it like a pro. A gentleman who takes a clue, gives a classy smile, and walks out makes a much better impression than a dude who clings for dear life to the instant in a desperate bid for validation. Ironically, confidence is demonstrated not by holding out in the face of rejection, but by the ability to take it in stride.

    #22

    Cringy men sending messages denying misogyny and demanding nudes, shared by women in screenshots.

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    Nathaniel He/Him Cis-Het
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes feminism is about providing spank bank material for immature men. This is what Emily Pankhurst campaigned for!

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    In the end, men who are unable to take a hint are cringeworthy for the simple fact that they bring attention to a lack of self-awareness, respect, and confidence all at once. Not being able to let go isn't charming, it's being clingy. And while they may think persistence is complimentary, what women most want is someone who understands when to back down, honor boundaries, and move along without it getting awkward.

    #25

    Screenshot of cringy men hitting on women with awkward and toxic messages in a late-night texting conversation.

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    Cheese
    Community Member
    3 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How does he pick which letters to capitalize?

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    #26

    Screenshot of a cringy men hitting on women message with disrespectful and defensive tone in a text conversation.

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    #28

    Text message exchange showing a cringy man awkwardly hitting on a woman with a confusing comment about the fallopian tube.

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    Ellinor she/they/elle
    Community Member
    3 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As a fallopian tube owner, that's really really not s3xy.

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    #29

    Screenshot of a cringy message from a man hitting on a woman with a sarcastic response about reading the Odyssey.

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    Ellinor she/they/elle
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, because no one can be smart if they don't read ancient books every second of the day, that's a well known fact ! /s

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    #31

    Screenshot of a cringy man hitting on a woman with mixed messages in a text conversation.

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    Nathaniel He/Him Cis-Het
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh no! A woman replied! How do I respond? Red alert! Battle stations! Let's try not to panic!

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    #34

    Muscular man taking a mirror selfie with a humorous caption about women facing oppression in the workforce and cringy men hitting on them.

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    Ellinor she/they/elle
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, sexism is so sad (by the way I'm 6'2, I go to the gym everyday and get paid 12 millons a month ladies 😉)

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    #35

    Screenshot of a cringy message from a man hitting on a woman with desperate and awkward lines.

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    Dolevaal
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sure, bc emotional pressure always work 🙄

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    #37

    Screenshot of a debate post saying astrology is just racism for girls shared by women in cringy men hitting on them thread

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    Ellinor she/they/elle
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    HOW ??? Like genuinely HOW do you make that connection ?

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    #38

    Screenshot of a cringy message from a man apologizing after hitting on a woman, shared in a collection of awkward texts.

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    Screenshot of a cringy message from a man expressing emotional feelings, shared in women’s cringe hits collection.

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    Mreoww
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    3 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Edit: r/im14andthisisdeep.

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    #40

    Screenshot of a cringy text conversation showing a man’s awkward response about sharing an std, highlighting cringe men hitting on women.

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    Nathaniel He/Him Cis-Het
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    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That is.... One way to look at it. Definitely the wrong way to look at it though.

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    #41

    Screenshot of cringy men hitting on women with awkward messages shared on Messenger conversations.

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    StarCrossedFriday
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe don’t send messages in the middle of the night and draw conclusions from a lack of reply within an hour?

    #42

    Screenshot of a cringy message from a man hitting on a woman, part of women sharing cringy men hitting on them.

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    Screenshot of a cringy text message from a man apologizing, shared by women highlighting awkward online interactions.

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    Dolevaal
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Atleast he saw that was inappropriate and rude. A (small) step forward.

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    #44

    Cringy men hitting on women with awkward breakup texts and humorous responses in screenshots shared by women online.

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    Dolevaal
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Good point. Why would you think a completely stranger would have to make time for you? You dont even know each other.

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    #45

    Screenshot of a cringy men hitting on women direct message with a dog emoji and awkward compliment.

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    Jaya
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think that's kind of a cute opening line. Assuming it's on a dating site.

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    #46

    Cringy men hitting on women with awkward crypto-themed pickup lines in text message screenshots.

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    HolyGuacamole🥑🥑
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If we were to make a list of things that are a complete and utter turnoff, anything to do with crypto would be very near the top.

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    #48

    Screenshot of a cringy text message from a man hitting on a woman during late night, shared by women online.

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    HistoryNerd
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've though about it and I'd rather have COVID

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    Screenshot of cringy men hitting on women with awkward and inappropriate messages shared online.

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    Ellinor she/they/elle
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well, well, well... If those aren't the consequences of your own actions ?

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    #50

    Screenshot of a cringy man hitting on a woman, showing awkward messages from a dating app conversation.

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    Deborah B
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Really. You're going to lead with "I'm h***y" and then complain that women are assuming you are looking for a hook up? She clocked you on word four.

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    #51

    Screenshot of a cringy man’s direct message using a Kafka quote to manipulate bisexual women in awkward flirting attempt.

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    Jaya
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    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't get the logic at all, but I can't stop laughing at this one.

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    #53

    Screenshot of a cringy men hitting on women conversation showing awkward and defensive messages in a dating app chat.

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    #56

    Screenshot of a cringy man hitting on a woman with awkward messages in a chat conversation.

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    Power puff scientist
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why ask random strangers on Internet for this. just visit Google or a pornsite and you could see plenty. Corey could reply here : you would know.

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    #59

    Text message conversation screenshot showing cringy men hitting on women with awkward pickup lines and responses.

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    Annik Perrot
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    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Pipe" in French means à blôw-job. I guess that's not the meaning here?

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    #62

    Screenshot of a cringy message from a man hitting on a woman, questioning her eyeliner and declaring love awkwardly.

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    Screenshot of a cringy message from a man hitting on a woman at Trader Joe’s shared by women online

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    Ellinor she/they/elle
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Now is the perfect time for finding his wife and sending her that screenshot.

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    #66

    Screenshot of a cringy man messaging about good taste in music, shared by women who experienced awkward online interactions.

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    Screenshot of a cringy text message exchange showing awkward flirting from a man after sad news about Prince Phil's death.

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    #69

    Screenshot of cringy men hitting on women with awkward historical references and awkward apologies in messages.

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    Jaya
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This one is quite funny. It's kinda like "I love true crime" and then realizing that you technically said you like people getting m******d and stuff, instead of liking podcasts/tv shows about it.

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    #70

    Screenshot of a cringy man messaging an insult to a woman with a photo of a dog in a social media reply.

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    Boredest Panda
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You could’ve stopped an insulting the lips. Then everyone would’ve walked away only feeling mildly uncomfortable. But the dog? He should make sure to lock all of his doors tonight.

    #71

    Screenshot of a cringy message from a man hitting on a woman, showcasing awkward and unsolicited flirting.

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    StarCrossedFriday
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Was this an opening message? What possible response could they have expected?

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    #73

    Text message screenshot showing a cringy conversation with men hitting on women, illustrating awkward online flirting.

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    Ellinor she/they/elle
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    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And then he say something very popular like Queen or The Beatles.

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    #75

    Screenshot of a cringy online conversation showing a man awkwardly hitting on a woman discussing what it means to be normal.

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    HistoryNerd
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Unpopular opinion, but this is kind of funny

    #76

    Text message screenshot showing a cringy man sending a Spotify link to the song Mr. Brightside, hitting on a woman.

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    #77

    Screenshot of a cringy man hitting on a woman with an awkward and over-the-top message on social media.

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    Jaya
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    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Telling a person it's weird that you like them because they're not conventionally attractive... yeah, that's really how you win someone's heart 🙄

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    #78

    Screenshot of a woman’s blunt reply to cringy men hitting on her, expressing no interest and setting clear boundaries.

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    Berblogs
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    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The sent from my iPhone really ties the whole thing together

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    #79

    Screenshot of cringy men hitting on women with awkward and blunt messages about hookups and honesty.

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