At this point, is there such a thing as a perfectly executed wedding? Sure, there’s the perfect wedding within the minds and aspirations of brides (and some grooms). But once the plan is put into motion, does it turn out perfect?
The answer is no (or it depends, but it’s ultimately still a no). Nothing’s perfect. And judging by the stories circulating online, it’s probably not gonna get any better any time soon.
You can see for yourself by reading on, but Reddit’s r/weddingshaming community has ample reason to believe that weddings just don’t come in the perfect variety. And that’s fine. The key here is to brace for impact and make the best of it because you can still have a blast. Also, humor helps.
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A Guest Filled 7 Tupperware Containers With Food From The Wedding Reception And Gave The Couple 5 USD As A Gift
Oh MAN I would have been SO PISSED no one stopped her. I would have had her charged with theft. Greedy a*****e
4 Weddings And A Cat Party
The more I read this, the larger the group of cats becomes in my mind 😅
Seen On Socials… I Can’t Believe How Entitled People Can Be! Sorry If Already Posted
For a little bit of context, r/weddingshaming is a dedicated subreddit that’s all about shaming wedding themes, brides and grooms, wedding parties, in-laws (and outlaws), guests, vendors, and everyone in-between.
The community is home to over 584,000 members who feel no shame in shaming that which is shame-worthy. It’s important to note that this sub isn’t for asking for advice or judgment calls, so be warned.
Kid Wants To Dress Up As A Lion To Their Wedding. Also Told To Change Their Centrepieces As Kid Doesn’t Like Balloons. Kid Is Op’s Mother’s Best Friend’s Child
With Friends Like These Who Needs Enemies
What a horrible, jealous friend. Tried to destroy your wedding and entire relationship in one go and something bad could have happened to you
Inviting 20 Extra People To A Wedding
Much of the subreddit’s content revolves around a number of main topics that can mostly be categorized under entitlement and family drama. Most days, it’s people disregarding certain dress code taboos, guests getting out of line, or mothers-in-law doing their thing. Other themes include alcohol, cringe, greed, and, of course, memes and satire.
She Looks Absolutely Gorgeous.... Except She’s Not The Bride
Selfish Guests To A Bride With Cancer
"I decline. I would do so respectfully, but as you've made it clear your airfare is more of a priority than my having cancer, I do so gleefully instead. I hope you stub your toe in perpetuity."
The Audacity Of This Wedding Guest And Their Mum! Plan Your Own Special Moment, Cheapskates!
So, why are weddings so difficult to pull off? Same reason why there’s a law of sorts in engineering that dictates the more moving parts you have in a machine, the more likely it is to break. Sure, weddings can range from simple to over-elaborate depending on the imagination of the newlyweds-to-be. But even the basics require a lot of time, energy, and, you guessed it, money.
Wow.. Just Wow
"I Just Thought Your Wedding Was The Perfect Place For My Child's Birthday Party"
You haven't seen them because they are the family members that mean absolutely nothing...2nd andv3rd cousins you see sometimes at random gatherings and barely know by name. The audacity is insane
Motb In White! It Literally Looks Like A Double Wedding To Me
Weddings are so problematic that there’s this thing called wedding stress. Just think about it: creating guest lists, finding venues, sending invites, coordinating with vendors, managing budgets, creating your looks, organizing a wedding party, deciding on seating, planning a honeymoon and a million billion other things—can it be anything other than stressful at this point?
Idk How I Would Even Respond To This
"men and girls" Ugh, personal pet peeve is calling women girls. Blech.
What Was The Tought Process Behind This
From Casual UK, An Interesting End To The Night!
Wedding stress involves a number of symptoms, everything from exhaustion to high blood pressure to irritability and depression. But they are all there to tell you to plan, stay organized, set boundaries, anticipate stressors, and, above all else, practice self-care and positivity. At the end of the (wedding) day, it’s a celebration, and you, of all people, should have fun.
Bride Trusts The Wrong Friend And Is Robbed Of Her Wedding
If it's the same med I took for nausea during chemo, I'd say that the so-called friend had an ulterior motive.
Quirky “Girl Best Friend” Ruins Wedding
Lady In The Fur Stole Is The Brides Mum. She Could Have Worn Literally Any Other Colour
Apparently a lot of mothers with sons suffer from a Jocasta complex. These women need therapy.
So, what does the average wedding look like these days? According to the National Wedding Survey that surveyed nearly 2,500 individuals in the UK in 2022, it’s a number of things.
Turns out, today’s average wedding is a $22,382 (£18,400) hit in the wallet. Consider that half(ish), i.e. 47%, of all couples decided to go over their budget, and 63% of them got financial aid from friends, family, and other funders.
Wasn’t Invited But You Meant To Invite Me So I’ll Be There Anyway For Sure
Poor Photographer.. That Said I'd Be Interested To See The Pictures That They Had To Capture While This All Went Down
A Guest Shows Up Drunk (Maybe More) And Grinds On The Groom, Motorboats The Bride
The average wedding is between millennials aged 25 through 34, who likely got engaged in December, and were set to get married in August or September. 26% of them met on online dating apps and 3 in 5 of them bragged about their engagement on social media. A lot of these couples prompted for a first date (86%) and a cake cutting ceremony (79%), but very little went with an alcohol-free wedding (11%).
No, No That's Not The Bride
That Woman On The Left Is Not The Bride
Bride Asks Mil Not To Wear A White Dress, Mil Does Anyways
Their wedding includes 81 guests, 10 vendors, and a honeymoon. Speaking of which, half of them will most definitely be on the beach with a 23% chance of spending more during the honeymoon than previous generations of newlyweds.
Lastly, 1 in 10 couples never lived together before marriage, 1 in 3 were saving for their wedding (as well as house), the same number also had children before marriage, and 1 in 5 went with an eco-friendly wedding option.
“Close Friend” Of The Bride Came Dressed Like This
"Thank You Sooooo Much For Sharing Your Special Day With Us"
Friends Wedding Photos That Will Never See The Light Of Day. She Asked Everyone Not To Wear Cream, White, Or Black. Sadly She Forgot To Mention You Also Couldn’t Wear A Wedding Dress. Sil Showed Up In A ‘Yellow’ Dress….with A Train!! Bride Is On The Left In The Bottom Photo
That is definitely not yellow. It looks more like a 10 year old not taken care of white dress.
For context, the average wedding in the US is pricier by about 20% (i.e. $28,000). Besides that, cakes aren’t a huge priority (sub-$100 in a 3rd of all cases), and wedding trends are a bit different. The most popular one (91%) was the first dance, followed by 79% of couples color-coordinating floral arrangements and wedding colors. Another popular tradition was the flower girl and ring bearer, with nearly 2/3 of couples prompting for it.
Mil In A Lovely “Taupe” Dress (She’d Be Leaving My Wedding In A Hearse)
I Look Good In White, And That’s What Matters At Someone Else’s Wedding
Girl I Rarely Speak To Anymore Asks If She's Invited To Our Wedding. After Telling Her That She Isn't She Tells Me I Should Rethink Marrying My Fiancé
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Wedding Guests, Please Don't Do This. It's Not Funny, And Putting "Just Kidding" Doesn't Make It Better
Step-Mother Of The Groom
Does she want to marry her step-son or something? I'm 75% confident this is some sort of kink... EDIT: It's a kink. Don't ask me how I found out.
My Sister Is Getting Married.. This Is The Dress One Of Her Bridesmaids Bought
Went To A Wedding And The Mil Wore This... Would You Be Okay With It?
I Just Think The Whole “Marriage Is A Trap” Thing Is Tacky And Not Funny
Friend Gave Me Permission To Post This Letter They Received A Few Weeks After Their Wedding
I would like to say what a lot of nerve you have for sending this cowardly a*s note that you typed up and left anonymous. You want to be this ballsy? Sign your damn name or it just makes you a coward
Groomsmen Plans To Propose At Bachelor/Ette Party. Group Is Split On Whether Or Not It's Okay. Comments Are All Bashing The Bride For Not Being Completely On Board. I Don't Think She's Wrong To Feel A Little Upset Though. What's Supposed To Be A Bach Party Is Going To Turn Into An Engagement Party!
I totally don't understand why people ask to do this - you are literally hijacking someone else's important event, that they planned and paid for. Just no. Plan your own event and stop stealing other people's moments.
Rude Guest Insults Bride Because He Doesn’t Know How To Use The Online Rsvp System And She Didn’t Respond To His Message Instantly
Copy Cat Friend
Oh Dear, Oh Dear! Seen On Facebook!
Personally, I'd find it charming to spend a relatively unimportant anniversary at an event like that. Not doing anything publicly, of course, just toasting to each other, knowing that might be our path as well. Two years isn't that much, honestly.
Anniversary of when they met? What, do they do anniversaries for each minor milestone in their relationship?
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Time to cut her loose. No one cares about when she met her boyfriend. It's a non-issue
What?? I have no idea what day I met my husband. One year we both forgot our wedding anniversary. He said, “Wasn’t our anniversary last week?” I said, “You’re right, it was!” We both laughed and did a toast to each other then and there, amongst our romping kids, and proceeded to have a wonderful evening. It’s day to day life that makes a relationship special, not an anniversary date.
I had a friend who did something similar, only she wouldn’t tell me exactly what terrible thing I had done. In hindsight I wish I’d just said the same thing I’d recommend here: ‘look, you obviously need time, and I’m planning a wedding so I’m short on time myself, so how about we check back in after the wedding. If you want, of course.’
Another lucky group of people without real problems in life. Do people seriously worry about this kind of s**t?
So celebrates the day they met their boyfriend!? Weddings, sure. Proposal, first date even. No prob. But the day they met?
There's no need to go to that extreme yet. Often the direct 'cause' of someone's feelings isn't the real reason behind their feelings. We've all had painful stuff happen in our pasts that we haven't really processed yet, and those feelings sometimes get triggered by something small that happens now. She might have felt in the past that people don't care about her feelings, like maybe her siblings needs always came before her own. She might have had people around her forgetting important dates like her birthday as a kid, or maybe she had a mean sibling who actively tried to sabotage her birthdays by creating an emergency on that day. Maybe those feelings got retriggered by OPs wedding date planning, and this makes her fall back into that old thought of "See, I don't matter to people, other people will always come before me". She may be genuinely thinking that that is true, and not realize that her previous experiences are totally clouding her judgment. So instead of caring about who's ...
... right and who's wrong, (in which case: she's wrong and you are right). Instead, think more about 'how can I help the situation now? What can I do to let this situation make us closer instead of it tearing us apart?' If I was in this situation, I would visit her and say "I can see that you're in pain over this, and I really don't want to see you hurt. I care so much about you, you are so important to me. I really care about how you're feeling. Will you please tell me what you're feeling and thinking? What is it that makes this so painful to you? Does it make you feel that I don't really care about you or your feelings? Do you have painful experiences about having to share the spotlight? Does it make you feel like I'm disrespecting your relationship? I would really like it if you can tell me about what makes you feel this way." This might make her open up, and if you can then assure her that her assumption is really not true, she might be able to get over that feeling.
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I think you're doing her boyfriend a big favor by inviting him to an event which will distract him from remembering that horrible day just two years ago.
Guest Texts Bride Day Off For Address & Ride 2 Hours Before The Wedding
And this is exactly why we got pushed to have a Master of Ceremony (we had two, my mum and DH’s dad), so people would go to them with this kind of question and not the bride or groom themselves. We mentioned it three times on the invite. Twice on the website. People still missed it 😁
A little red wine and a clumsy friend ensures all the MILs and moms in white get their just reward. And you get pictures to use as a reminder.
When everyone knows it is taboo to wear white, why do so many people still do it? I don't understand.
Yes.. usually the bride not the guests lol. Glad there are at least 40 exceptions
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At our wedding, we had a coloured theme, pinks, purples and lilacs. My wife wanted the bridesmaids to wear lilac dresses. Nothing more than that, didn't have to match. Her sister in law then went off on one saying we should change the dresses to pink as her daughter wants to wear a pink dress. My wife explained very simply that bridesmaids' dresses are lilac and if SIL's daughter wants to wear a pink dress she is more them welcome to but she will not be a bridesmaid. She wore lilac. Same woman also told us she knew 10 people that wanted to come to the wedding and was it OK to bring them. It was not.
Apparently it’s just me, but I honestly wouldn’t care if others wore a white dress to my wedding. Everyone knows who the bride is, and to me, a wedding is a celebration of love, not the color of someone’s dress. Wear your wedding dress to my wedding, and we’ll do a conga line of brides, past & present 🥳
I wore white to my cousins wedding. I was 13 or 14 and no one told me I shouldn't. I cringe now to think about it, why didn't my mom or older sister tell me to change!!
You were young, and I should h o p e they wouldn’t confuse you with the bride!
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You're allowed to have that opinion. I don't know why you're downvoted. Some of us just come here to be entertained. Fake posts or not.
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Beyond the "red wine" option, you can get your photographer to photoshop a colour onto the offenders' dress.
All the women showing up in white give me an idea for a Hallmark Channel Movies & John Kramer Saw crossover event.
Gosh what is it with people wearing white when its not their day? Like i personally wouldn´t care much if it was my wedding, but they know they shouldn´t do that sh*t. Even if i don´t see the point of gate keeping white, i know not to wear it at someone else ´ s wedding.
I'm female, married, and I truly, truly, have never understood the whole "only the bride can wear white on the big day!" thing. The bride's the one with the veil and the bouquet, and it's a pretty safe bet hers is the only dress with a train, and it'll be more ornate than anything any of the other female guests will be wearing, so who cares if anyone else wants to wear white? There were only a couple of the above pics where I cringed because it actually *did* look like mother/stepmother was trying to upstage the bride, but the vast majority of the "gasp! someone else wore white! how dare they!" pics didn't even remotely resemble what the bride was wearing, so why does the mere color of the dress matter?!
These MILs wearing white, is it bc they lament not having a big wedding when they wed, or are they just a******s?
I'd be more than happy to lend my Photoshop coloring skills to many of these photos. I could easily turn that MIL's white dress into a shade of mauve or puce.
you could make quite the side hustle like this, and it sounds fun
Load More Replies... A little red wine and a clumsy friend ensures all the MILs and moms in white get their just reward. And you get pictures to use as a reminder.
When everyone knows it is taboo to wear white, why do so many people still do it? I don't understand.
Yes.. usually the bride not the guests lol. Glad there are at least 40 exceptions
Load More Replies... At our wedding, we had a coloured theme, pinks, purples and lilacs. My wife wanted the bridesmaids to wear lilac dresses. Nothing more than that, didn't have to match. Her sister in law then went off on one saying we should change the dresses to pink as her daughter wants to wear a pink dress. My wife explained very simply that bridesmaids' dresses are lilac and if SIL's daughter wants to wear a pink dress she is more them welcome to but she will not be a bridesmaid. She wore lilac. Same woman also told us she knew 10 people that wanted to come to the wedding and was it OK to bring them. It was not.
Apparently it’s just me, but I honestly wouldn’t care if others wore a white dress to my wedding. Everyone knows who the bride is, and to me, a wedding is a celebration of love, not the color of someone’s dress. Wear your wedding dress to my wedding, and we’ll do a conga line of brides, past & present 🥳
I wore white to my cousins wedding. I was 13 or 14 and no one told me I shouldn't. I cringe now to think about it, why didn't my mom or older sister tell me to change!!
You were young, and I should h o p e they wouldn’t confuse you with the bride!
Load More Replies... You're allowed to have that opinion. I don't know why you're downvoted. Some of us just come here to be entertained. Fake posts or not.
Load More Replies... Beyond the "red wine" option, you can get your photographer to photoshop a colour onto the offenders' dress.
All the women showing up in white give me an idea for a Hallmark Channel Movies & John Kramer Saw crossover event.
Gosh what is it with people wearing white when its not their day? Like i personally wouldn´t care much if it was my wedding, but they know they shouldn´t do that sh*t. Even if i don´t see the point of gate keeping white, i know not to wear it at someone else ´ s wedding.
I'm female, married, and I truly, truly, have never understood the whole "only the bride can wear white on the big day!" thing. The bride's the one with the veil and the bouquet, and it's a pretty safe bet hers is the only dress with a train, and it'll be more ornate than anything any of the other female guests will be wearing, so who cares if anyone else wants to wear white? There were only a couple of the above pics where I cringed because it actually *did* look like mother/stepmother was trying to upstage the bride, but the vast majority of the "gasp! someone else wore white! how dare they!" pics didn't even remotely resemble what the bride was wearing, so why does the mere color of the dress matter?!
These MILs wearing white, is it bc they lament not having a big wedding when they wed, or are they just a******s?
I'd be more than happy to lend my Photoshop coloring skills to many of these photos. I could easily turn that MIL's white dress into a shade of mauve or puce.
you could make quite the side hustle like this, and it sounds fun
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