Some see weddings as a wonderful union between two loving parties. Others see it as a literal party, one of those ever-rarer opportunities as an adult to just let loose. These are not necessarily mutually exclusive goals and desires, but drama can arise when wedding guests don’t have their expectations met.
A woman decided to get worked up over her brother’s dry wedding, calling it tacky and “rude” only to end up being called out online. We reached out to the sister in the story via direct message and will update the article when she gets back to us.
Every wedding ends up looking a bit different
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But one woman decided that her brother’s decision to have a dry wedding was, somehow, offensive to her
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Despite some folks opinion, drinking isn’t a prerequisite for fun

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First and foremost, it basically should go without saying, the bride and groom are the only ones who get to make decisions about what their wedding will look like. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but let’s face reality, you can’t just go to another person’s wedding and start making demands. There are already enough “happy couples” who have a dream wedding so ridiculous that it has become completely disconnected from reality.
Thinking there absolutely has to be a bar or drinks available is about the same as disregarding their catering and instead yelling at them for not getting your favorite comfort food. For some reason, there is a subset of people online who think that alcohol is simply a must and the entire thing won’t make sense otherwise.
Setting aside the fact that this sounds like a case of developed alcoholism, the sister also seems to be confused about what will and won’t be provided at the wedding. She herself states that she and the other folks in the pro-alcohol crowd would only want a glass of wine or two, not to get completely wasted. Overlooking the bride and groom’s particular rules is a lot more tacky than any random decision they may have made.
So why the sparkling wine that would be provided isn’t enough is beyond comprehension. The fact that she went online to “vent” about this would indicate that she truly believes she is in the right. This suggests that she and the “others” she mentions really do believe that to enjoy a social event, one must be able to drink. This is equal parts sad, as it is concerning.
There are good reasons to have dry events

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Similarly, she is very quick to disregard the happy couple’s intentions, as she thinks drunk driving is something that happens to other people. To put this into perspective, around 37 people die from driving under the influence every single day in the United States. While it’s possible to argue that everyone can choose what risks they will subject themselves to, drunk drivers don’t just kill or injure themselves, they can cause all sorts of collateral damage.
Similarly, she seems to be fully overlooking the sparkling wine which isn’t exactly the same as a few cocktails, but is still noticeably alcoholic. The sister seems to have an extra large dose of entitlement without any imagination. If she wanted to drink a little more, she could have perhaps asked her brother for more sparkling wine. Similarly, there would no doubt be at least one person at the event who wouldn’t want their wine and could share with her.
So if you were inspired by the brother and, hopefully, not the sister, one alternative to a “wet” wedding would be to serve mocktails. If you have the budget for it, hiring a bartender to make the drinks could add that festive feeling, without the risks of alcohol. Entitled brides and grooms are bad enough, but entitled guests are even worse.
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So ... Not worth driving to a wedding if there is no alcohol? What about going just because you love the people getting married and want to support them? OP sounds self centered. Of you can't enjoy being with people you CARE about and it's not worth it unless there is alcohol you may have a problem.
And the fact that the brother said no gifts were necessary adds to your point. A wedding celebration shouldn't be so transactional anyway, but the brother really just cared about the celebration and wellbeing of others. He showed no entitlement while the guests showed a lot. So sad
Load More Replies...Why do people feel so entitled to d**g themselves at someone else's wedding? Do we need to specify on invitations that hard drúgs are not going to be served. Honestly, if you can't enjoy yourself for an evening without drinking then you need to look at yourself, not point fingers in blame.
How is it “tacky and rude” to not serve alcohol. OP might have preferred alcohol but they are definitely TA for telling their brother that. It’s their wedding and their choice. I’d be upset (but not mention it) if there was just water to drink, but there was plenty of choices of drinks.
Load More Replies...If you're this upset about not being able to have a few glasses of wine, then I have some hard truths for you, and the number one is that you need to seek therapy. There is nothing tacky or rude about a dry wedding except for the way you were acting. Like an entitled Karen.
My wedding had a cash bar only, the reception started at 2 pm. My parents were raging alcoholics at the time and broke so I knew they couldn’t afford to buy drinks. Their alcoholism was well known, but never called out. My brother had a dry wedding, and my parents went out in the pouring rain to drink the booze they had in their car. It’s hard to call out people you love. I have a feeling OP is the one with the problem.
Load More Replies...Please correct me if I'm wrong, but is it usual to send everyone a menu of the food and drink that will be served at a wedding? So that they can opt out if they don't like the food? Seriously though, I always thought you went to someone's wedding because you wanted to share in their joy, but now I see you just attend a wedding for the free booze afterwards. Apparently no one is capable of having a good time without alcohol and no, I'm not a recovering alcoholic. I do like the occasional glass of wine, but people come before alcohol.
Oh, and spare me your saying that 'others thought so too'. It just means that there were a lot of people wanting free booze, that's all.
Load More Replies...Seriously, OP should really ask themselves, "how important is it?". If the alcohol is so important that they're talking to other guests, complaining to the host, calling the host names (tacky and rude), and then taking the time to post about it on the Internet and talk to strangers about it....if the alcohol is really that important, they have a problem. Alcoholism is not about how many drinks or how often. It's about the obsession and needing to have that drink. Edit to Add: and if the alcohol truly isn't that important, then move on with your life. It was one dry wedding. It's in the past. Let it go.
And if they want alcohol SO BADLY, they can just do their own after party at a local bar after the send off.
Load More Replies...>thinking about a recent wedding which was completely kick a$$ and off the hook with pyrotechnics and live drummers and everyone dancing even some suit pants getting split with over-enthusiastic jumping around and not a. single. drop. of. alcohol. on. the. premises.< If you can't celebrate without alcohol, the lack of alcohol isn't the problem, you are.
YTA. A BIG one. Did you forget that this was not YOUR wedding, but your brother and hid fiancé's wedding? Just wondering.
I don't like alcohol and I can't stand drunk people. I would love a dry wedding.
Sounds like the people invited to this wedding were the a$$holes. I mean, c'mon. It's someone's special day. Celebrate with them and go to the bar on your own dime. What a bunch of weirdos.
You are overreacting and making too big of a deal of it. They did not want to spend money for people to get drunk. The last dry wedding I was at was because the bride’s cousin had gotten married the previous year and some guys got into a fight. The police were called and it was a mess. She decided no booze at the wedding and told me it was a much happier occasion than her cousin’s wedding.
So ... Not worth driving to a wedding if there is no alcohol? What about going just because you love the people getting married and want to support them? OP sounds self centered. Of you can't enjoy being with people you CARE about and it's not worth it unless there is alcohol you may have a problem.
And the fact that the brother said no gifts were necessary adds to your point. A wedding celebration shouldn't be so transactional anyway, but the brother really just cared about the celebration and wellbeing of others. He showed no entitlement while the guests showed a lot. So sad
Load More Replies...Why do people feel so entitled to d**g themselves at someone else's wedding? Do we need to specify on invitations that hard drúgs are not going to be served. Honestly, if you can't enjoy yourself for an evening without drinking then you need to look at yourself, not point fingers in blame.
How is it “tacky and rude” to not serve alcohol. OP might have preferred alcohol but they are definitely TA for telling their brother that. It’s their wedding and their choice. I’d be upset (but not mention it) if there was just water to drink, but there was plenty of choices of drinks.
Load More Replies...If you're this upset about not being able to have a few glasses of wine, then I have some hard truths for you, and the number one is that you need to seek therapy. There is nothing tacky or rude about a dry wedding except for the way you were acting. Like an entitled Karen.
My wedding had a cash bar only, the reception started at 2 pm. My parents were raging alcoholics at the time and broke so I knew they couldn’t afford to buy drinks. Their alcoholism was well known, but never called out. My brother had a dry wedding, and my parents went out in the pouring rain to drink the booze they had in their car. It’s hard to call out people you love. I have a feeling OP is the one with the problem.
Load More Replies...Please correct me if I'm wrong, but is it usual to send everyone a menu of the food and drink that will be served at a wedding? So that they can opt out if they don't like the food? Seriously though, I always thought you went to someone's wedding because you wanted to share in their joy, but now I see you just attend a wedding for the free booze afterwards. Apparently no one is capable of having a good time without alcohol and no, I'm not a recovering alcoholic. I do like the occasional glass of wine, but people come before alcohol.
Oh, and spare me your saying that 'others thought so too'. It just means that there were a lot of people wanting free booze, that's all.
Load More Replies...Seriously, OP should really ask themselves, "how important is it?". If the alcohol is so important that they're talking to other guests, complaining to the host, calling the host names (tacky and rude), and then taking the time to post about it on the Internet and talk to strangers about it....if the alcohol is really that important, they have a problem. Alcoholism is not about how many drinks or how often. It's about the obsession and needing to have that drink. Edit to Add: and if the alcohol truly isn't that important, then move on with your life. It was one dry wedding. It's in the past. Let it go.
And if they want alcohol SO BADLY, they can just do their own after party at a local bar after the send off.
Load More Replies...>thinking about a recent wedding which was completely kick a$$ and off the hook with pyrotechnics and live drummers and everyone dancing even some suit pants getting split with over-enthusiastic jumping around and not a. single. drop. of. alcohol. on. the. premises.< If you can't celebrate without alcohol, the lack of alcohol isn't the problem, you are.
YTA. A BIG one. Did you forget that this was not YOUR wedding, but your brother and hid fiancé's wedding? Just wondering.
I don't like alcohol and I can't stand drunk people. I would love a dry wedding.
Sounds like the people invited to this wedding were the a$$holes. I mean, c'mon. It's someone's special day. Celebrate with them and go to the bar on your own dime. What a bunch of weirdos.
You are overreacting and making too big of a deal of it. They did not want to spend money for people to get drunk. The last dry wedding I was at was because the bride’s cousin had gotten married the previous year and some guys got into a fight. The police were called and it was a mess. She decided no booze at the wedding and told me it was a much happier occasion than her cousin’s wedding.




































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