MIL Decided To Wear White To Son’s Wedding, So The Bride Made Every Bridesmaid Wear White While She Wore Pink
Deciding on a wedding dress can be a difficult task for a bride. Most try on between four and seven gowns before they decide on the perfect one, but in some cases, it can take dozens before a bride is satisfied. They usually have an idea of what they’re looking for though: the style, the shape, the length of the sleeves, how much lace and how many sequins they can handle, how long the train is, and oh yeah, the color. In many western countries, brides choose to wear white on their special day, but who says that’s a requirement?
One bride shared on Reddit that she actually decided to mix up the color palette at her wedding after her soon to be mother-in-law insisted on wearing white. Below, you can read the full story featuring the demanding mother-in-law, and let us know in the comments how you would have reacted in this situation. Then if you’re interested in another Bored Panda story featuring wedding dress drama, be sure to check out this article next.
One bride is wondering if she was wrong for getting creative with the color scheme at her wedding
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A pink dress sounds absolutely beautiful for a wedding, but I have to admit, I’ve never seen it done before. White dresses have just become the expectation in many western countries, and many women don’t even question it. In the United States, for example, about 83% of brides wore white on their special day in 2018. However, more and more women are becoming creative and deciding they don’t have to go along with tradition, as that number had dropped down from a whopping 92% of American brides in 2017. Whether it was simply due to a preference or a choice to honor their culture, brides are feeling less pressure to wear white just because it’s expected.
A bride should have the choice to wear whatever she wants at her wedding: white, black, pink, gold, red, etc. But the issue in this story is not at all what the bride decided to wear or have her bridal party wear, it is the fact that her mother-in-law demanded on wearing white. If it had been the plan for the bride to wear pink from the get-go, and there had been a conversation about what the mother of the groom was allowed to wear, that would be different. But the groom’s mother insisted on choosing her outfit first, and the bride was expected to simply accommodate her.
It also does not make sense for the mother of the groom to choose her attire first, because, traditionally, she could wear a wide variety of looks. The bride is the one person who has specific expectations of what she will be wearing, and the day is all about her and her partner, so she should set the tone for what everyone will be wearing. Then the mother of the groom could choose an appropriate formal dress or outfit that does not take away from the bride but still looks lovely. There are not strict guidelines on what the mother of the groom can wear, but as The Knot explains on their site, “It’s encouraged to steer clear of wearing white, blush or neutral hues that can look white on camera unless specifically approved by the bride.”
What do you think about this situation? If you are married, we would love to hear what you and/or your lovely bride chose to wear for the occasion and if any drama ensued between family members about what they were allowed to wear as well. Feel free to share your personal wedding stories below, and remember, a wedding is all about celebrating one couple. The rest of us can take a back seat, at least for one day!
Readers have unanimously sided with the bride, saying that the mother-in-law got what she deserved
The MIL needs a lot of therapy. Also, a sense of humor. And, y'know, a restraining order maybe.
Definitely get the restraining order first!
😅 funny but scary true.
OP s a genius. Love this, and would really love to see MIL's surprised Pikachu face lol.
This is absolutely LEGENDARY. OP is a legend. Unique wedding on so many levels, I would love to see pics (sounds beautiful and hilarious at the same time with MIL's face 😂)
I was thinking the exact same. I would love to see the pictures. Bride is a freaking genius! And I bet it was beautiful. Hubby tried to reason with his mother but as some know it doesn't matter for some theyb will what they want damn the consequences. And boy oh boy how I love the consequences this MIL got. Aunt needs to pipe down and take MIL on a month long vacation and see what they deal with.
I would love to see the pictures, too. It sounds stunningly beautiful.
I'd wear a firetruck red dress just to stand out like a flippin beacon! MIL can do one!
Well since most women look absolutely fabulous in red that's not a bad idea for a wedding.
I LOVE red!! It's a POWERFUL, ASSERTIVE color!!
I believe that in some cultures red is the traditional color for the bride's dress. :D
Yes. White is the color of mourning in some of those cultures.
SHADOWHUNTERSSSS
Red is used in India as well as in China - Indian wedding saris can have white, but red and gold, lots of gold, are more important.
A lot of bride's are wearing red now.
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A lot of brides are sluts now
I can't remember for sure now, but I'm pretty sure my cousin wore a red dress (could have been black..... it's been over 20yrs lol). It was her second marriage so she didn't want to stay "traditional"
I believe many Polish girls have been known to wear red, depending on their fathers "standing" in society.
It was 1840 when Queen Victoria made white wedding dresses popular fashion. Bring back colorful wedding dresses. I don't even look good in all white, dark colors suit me better.
Before that women often were married in black ;) as they just used their best Sunday dress, and that was often black. White was to show you can afford a dress just for the day.
Kinda off topic but, It's funny that I just learned about that a few days ago for my fashion class :)
I've heard that red is the traditional bridal color in China, because red represents energy/happiness. No idea if that's actually true, though.
Chinese hold red as auspicious color, hence a lot red color items during CNY and wedding. The traditional Chinese wedding gown is actually red and is pretty, you can google it.
My daughter and SIL had a City Hall (legal bits) ceremony for 12 people in 2021 and she wore a red 50s retro dress, and carried a blue and yellow origami bouquet which she made during lockdowns. This was going to be followed the next day by an all out humanist ceremony. Covid meant that the humanist ceremony was this year and they went with the white dress, bridesmaids, flower girl thing.
Actually a friend of mine decided that since she + her then fiance had been living together for over 3 years prior to getting married, that a white wedding dress didn't feel right. She decided to have the most amazing gown ever designed. It was a brilliant red colour, with delicate threads of gold strands embossed on the bodice + with a few symbolic designs sprinkled here + there on the back of the gown - on the fall of the skirt part of the gown. Her bridesmaids wore gold dresses with black accessories. The groom wore a black tuxedo with a vest made from the red material + with some specially designed symbols on the front of the vest in gold threads. The men's party wore black with red vests + gold bow ties + cumbersome's. It was truly enriching to watch them all together. Vibrant. Elegant. Stunning. Daring. Yet still very traditional. I've never forgotten her gown. That was back in 1997. When I married in 1990, I wore white + my bridesmaids all wore long red gowns
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I've heard that wearing red on a wedding means that you've slept with the groom so a great choice for a brides dress. Obviously it's all a load of nonsense, but still a bit funny.
The MIL needs a lot of therapy. Also, a sense of humor. And, y'know, a restraining order maybe.
Definitely get the restraining order first!
😅 funny but scary true.
OP s a genius. Love this, and would really love to see MIL's surprised Pikachu face lol.
This is absolutely LEGENDARY. OP is a legend. Unique wedding on so many levels, I would love to see pics (sounds beautiful and hilarious at the same time with MIL's face 😂)
I was thinking the exact same. I would love to see the pictures. Bride is a freaking genius! And I bet it was beautiful. Hubby tried to reason with his mother but as some know it doesn't matter for some theyb will what they want damn the consequences. And boy oh boy how I love the consequences this MIL got. Aunt needs to pipe down and take MIL on a month long vacation and see what they deal with.
I would love to see the pictures, too. It sounds stunningly beautiful.
I'd wear a firetruck red dress just to stand out like a flippin beacon! MIL can do one!
Well since most women look absolutely fabulous in red that's not a bad idea for a wedding.
I LOVE red!! It's a POWERFUL, ASSERTIVE color!!
I believe that in some cultures red is the traditional color for the bride's dress. :D
Yes. White is the color of mourning in some of those cultures.
SHADOWHUNTERSSSS
Red is used in India as well as in China - Indian wedding saris can have white, but red and gold, lots of gold, are more important.
A lot of bride's are wearing red now.
This comment is hidden. Click here to view.
A lot of brides are sluts now
I can't remember for sure now, but I'm pretty sure my cousin wore a red dress (could have been black..... it's been over 20yrs lol). It was her second marriage so she didn't want to stay "traditional"
I believe many Polish girls have been known to wear red, depending on their fathers "standing" in society.
It was 1840 when Queen Victoria made white wedding dresses popular fashion. Bring back colorful wedding dresses. I don't even look good in all white, dark colors suit me better.
Before that women often were married in black ;) as they just used their best Sunday dress, and that was often black. White was to show you can afford a dress just for the day.
Kinda off topic but, It's funny that I just learned about that a few days ago for my fashion class :)
I've heard that red is the traditional bridal color in China, because red represents energy/happiness. No idea if that's actually true, though.
Chinese hold red as auspicious color, hence a lot red color items during CNY and wedding. The traditional Chinese wedding gown is actually red and is pretty, you can google it.
My daughter and SIL had a City Hall (legal bits) ceremony for 12 people in 2021 and she wore a red 50s retro dress, and carried a blue and yellow origami bouquet which she made during lockdowns. This was going to be followed the next day by an all out humanist ceremony. Covid meant that the humanist ceremony was this year and they went with the white dress, bridesmaids, flower girl thing.
Actually a friend of mine decided that since she + her then fiance had been living together for over 3 years prior to getting married, that a white wedding dress didn't feel right. She decided to have the most amazing gown ever designed. It was a brilliant red colour, with delicate threads of gold strands embossed on the bodice + with a few symbolic designs sprinkled here + there on the back of the gown - on the fall of the skirt part of the gown. Her bridesmaids wore gold dresses with black accessories. The groom wore a black tuxedo with a vest made from the red material + with some specially designed symbols on the front of the vest in gold threads. The men's party wore black with red vests + gold bow ties + cumbersome's. It was truly enriching to watch them all together. Vibrant. Elegant. Stunning. Daring. Yet still very traditional. I've never forgotten her gown. That was back in 1997. When I married in 1990, I wore white + my bridesmaids all wore long red gowns
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I've heard that wearing red on a wedding means that you've slept with the groom so a great choice for a brides dress. Obviously it's all a load of nonsense, but still a bit funny.