Something we all have in common is that we've all been single at one or many points in our lives. And yes, views are evolving, but being single is still stigmatized. Just think about it, how many times have you heard "When are you going to settle down and get married?" or "When are you going to make me a grandmother?" However, if someone ends up single, it might not be the end of the world for them. Shocking, I know.
Singlehood has its ups and downs. For example, there's the sweet, sweet freedom, but you also have to suffer through the perils of online dating. It's not perfect. But then again, is anything? In an attempt to stop their relationship-flaunting friends from asking "How are you?" in a condescending tone, single people have been describing their everyday life in memes. Maybe if they make enough of these, their relatives will also get the message?
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Bella DePaulo, Ph.D., is a project scientist and social psychologist at the University of California, Santa Barbara. While speaking to the American Psychological Association, she pointed out an interesting fact: with all of the celebration of marriage and coupling and weddings, you'd think that married people would be happier. But if you were to follow the same people over the course of their lives and ask them over and over again, "Are you happy? Are you happy? Are you happy? How happy are you?", you'd see that when people get married, they end up no happier than they were when they were single.
So if someone is a really happy single person, they'll probably be a happily married person and if they were not so happy as a single person, they probably will not be so happy as a married person.
"Sometimes, people get a little bump in happiness [at the time when they tie the knot], but then they go back to being as happy or as unhappy as they were when they were single," DePaulo said.
"And here's something else about that newlywed effect – that little increase in happiness around the wedding – it only happens for the married people who get married and stay married. If you're one of those married couples who's going to end up divorced, as your wedding is approaching you're already getting a tiny bit less happy."
So there you have it: happiness starts from within. And getting a partner isn't going to change that. Consciously or not, people are probably realizing that. The number of single-person households in the United States has been growing steadily since 1960.
DePaulo has been studying people who she calls "single at heart." They're the ones who live their best, most authentic, most meaningful lives by staying single. "When you ask [these people] ... what they think when they know they're going to have some time alone coming up, overwhelmingly, more than 95 percent say they look forward to it, they really savor their solitude. And they don't worry – or they very rarely worry that if they have time to themselves, they're going to feel lonely."
According to her, loneliness is a really important thing to study. We need to be more aware of what people can get out of solitude rather than just worrying about people who are going to be lonely.
Of course I solved it before scrolling on, what kind of psychopath do you think I am?
That's the first condition. Then you can go further with your love life.
A.K.A. "half price chocolates at the grocery store" day.
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Isn't that Veteran's day in the US?
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the girl with flowers be like "wut single people don't be needin a holiday they should be as miserable as possible" (and before i get downvoted into oblivion, this is a joke)
There is a holiday...Feb 15. National Singles Awareness Day. Look it up!
The day after Valentines day... Its the day the valentines chocolates go on sale...
In Korea, Feb 14 is Valentines (one person gives a gift to partner), March 14 is White Day (reciprocation of gift giving), April 14 is Black Day (those who did not receive gifts on the other days. . i.e. single). They gather together, wearing black, typically eat Jajangmyeon and bitch about their single status.
China has Singles' Day 11/11. It's a shopping holiday that rivals Black Friday
My mom recently told me that if I started dating a man, she would be happy that I found someone to share my life with and I was like "That's cool, but I'm happy being single and please stop talking."
It's a good idea to have added the "Me/Me" caption, as the concept of mirror is something few people know or understand.
I want this shirt! And this cacatoes! And this mans fabulous vibe!
There's also being able to say "Hey, could you scoop out the litterbox?" on your way out the door even though it's your turn.
Just read that in Elizabeth Bennett's voice. I've never even heard her voice.
*starts praying to God in Latin, a language I don't even know*
"They were just being polite, they pity you, you annoy them, they don't really want you to come." That's what I always tell myself, and I'm almost sure I'm right.
In my opinion you shouldn't have to shave your legs for anyone, except yourself if you feel like it.
You talk to them and try to be their friend, but then you get insecure and wonder if they know you like them and think you're weird, so you cut them out of your life to avoid possible embarrassment. ONE DAY THIS WILL BE THE CORRECT DECISION, I SWEAR!
....then you clean it, repair it and then all your friends ask where you have found such a treasure.
I saw a trash can with a sign "No Loose Trash" and I wanted to steal it and put it on my bedroom door, but I didn't because my kid would see it and I'd have to explain that it's a joke about her mom.
Yesssss, single yes, spider building nets inside panties no..
It's funny because if you stop dating completely, you can just leave your trauma out in the middle of the livingroom and nobody will mention it. I'm using mine as a coffeetable.
My advice : when you are in such a situation, just assume they are not into you. It is always the right answer.
Me at blood donation when they ask me when my last same-sex intercourse was "Hmm... Monday... Tuesday... Plus five... Minus seven... Never."
Jesus doesn't complain if I don't shave for three days, so I'm sticking with Him.
If you don't pick up yourself, no one else will. That's also completely true when you are in a relationship, trust me on this.
*Peloton. If anyone doesn’t know, Peloton makes exercise bikes and had a rather creepy commercial where someone’s spouse received it as a gift.
I don't think I've laughed so hard at a bp post for a while😂
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What I want in a partner is someone who smiles occasionally, and brings me broken things, which I will then go to unreasonable lengths to fix. Then they thank me. Also, there is a ≠0 chance of sex.
Every choice you ever make has consequences. When I was single I was mainly pretty happy, but occasionally would feel lonely and wish I had someone to come home to. Now that I've been in a long term relationship for years, I sometimes wish he'd go away for the weekend so I can have the house to myself for a few days.
the last time my momma asked me why I was still single, I said, "Mom, I am praying the Lord will send me a filthy rich white woman who is obsessively in love with me, wears a 39D bra, and will put up with my crap". She thought about it a minute & then said, "Son, you are gonna have a long wait. The good book says you shall not put the Lord to the foolish test!"
I'm married 14 years, and I still think "incel" is the cruelest word ever invented by the internet, and of course that's saying a lot. Being involuntarily single is the absolute worst.
There's a lot of things worse than wanting a partner and not having one. And most people are able to fill their lives with healthy or even just time-passing pursuits until that is no longer the case. Incels get their name and reputation because they cannot deal with a normal part of being human in a healthy way.
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I don't think I've laughed so hard at a bp post for a while😂
Load More Replies... What I want in a partner is someone who smiles occasionally, and brings me broken things, which I will then go to unreasonable lengths to fix. Then they thank me. Also, there is a ≠0 chance of sex.
Every choice you ever make has consequences. When I was single I was mainly pretty happy, but occasionally would feel lonely and wish I had someone to come home to. Now that I've been in a long term relationship for years, I sometimes wish he'd go away for the weekend so I can have the house to myself for a few days.
the last time my momma asked me why I was still single, I said, "Mom, I am praying the Lord will send me a filthy rich white woman who is obsessively in love with me, wears a 39D bra, and will put up with my crap". She thought about it a minute & then said, "Son, you are gonna have a long wait. The good book says you shall not put the Lord to the foolish test!"
I'm married 14 years, and I still think "incel" is the cruelest word ever invented by the internet, and of course that's saying a lot. Being involuntarily single is the absolute worst.
There's a lot of things worse than wanting a partner and not having one. And most people are able to fill their lives with healthy or even just time-passing pursuits until that is no longer the case. Incels get their name and reputation because they cannot deal with a normal part of being human in a healthy way.
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