Anyone who is currently dating knows how difficult and confusing the process can be. On the one hand, you’re excited to meet new people! On the other hand, some of those people turn out to be so cringy, creepy, or clingy that you can’t wait to vent about them.
Bored Panda has curated this list of the biggest dating disasters and awkward fails to show you just how bad things can get. Scroll down to check out these people’s stories, but be warned, some of them come with a big side-order of secondhand embarrassment. It’s enough to make you glad that you’re already in a relationship or to swear off dating altogether.
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That's Wild
This Waiter Is My Hero
What you (think you) know about dating, successful relationships, and ‘perfect’ partners might just be wrong.
Based on the findings of a study published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, your own judgment of your relationship reveals more about its quality and success than your or your significant other’s personality.
Who Only Eats One Slice?
The Bro Code Kicked In
Cool Ok Bye
In a nutshell, how appreciative you are of your partner, and how satisfied you feel your partner is with you, are more important than who you both are as individuals.
The vital things are the effort you both put in, your commitment, appreciation, satisfaction with your intimate life, perceived satisfaction, and how you handle conflict.
So, instead of obsessing over whether your significant other checks all or most of your boxes, you should focus on engaging with them.
And That's How I Met Your Mother
This Is Actually Hilarious
Had To Pay To Give Legal Advice
“When it comes to a satisfying relationship, the partnership you build is more important than the partner you pick,” the study’s lead author and an assistant professor at Western University in London, Ontario, Samantha Joel, told CNN.
“It seems to me that the relationship is more than the sum of its parts. It’s that relationship dynamic itself, rather than the individuals who make up the relationship, that seems to be most important for relationship quality.”
Suggested A Date, Got A Lecture
Any place that a) you can talk without disturbing others and b) has things there that you can talk about, is a great place for a first date. Museum, arboretum, zoo, aquarium, county fair, etc etc. are all good choices.
He Started Crying
Sounds pushy and unbalanced. OP dodged a bullet. I've seen that kind of manipulation before. From the man who r@ped me.
Many people try to come across as better than they really are on first dates. It’s natural. Most of us want to leave a positive first impression on the strangers we meet.
And yet, this means that you might not get to grips with someone’s real character, quirks, and flaws until much later into dating them, because they’re actively trying to hide them.
Happy Ending
At Least You Realized Before It Got Too Far
Luckily, some people are so awful at leaving good first impressions that you can instantly recognize their red flags and problematic behavior patterns.
Though this leads to awkward and embarrassing encounters, this is actually a good thing. Why? Because you instantly realize these individuals are worth avoiding. And so, you won’t waste any more of your precious time dating them.
Like How Does That Happen
Amicable with his ex-wife. Green flag. Don't know the circumstances around getting OP involved on their first date. Can't determine that flag's colour.
Mistakes Were Made
Man Found Exactly What He Wanted. Talking Stage Is Not Necessary
You know that everyone who's asked about the tattoo is told that she's his crazy ex girlfriend
The Guardian notes that some of the worst things people can do to leave a bad impression on a first date include things like arriving late, canceling the date on short notice, or even not bothering to turn up with no warning.
Other things that might push your potential partner away are things like looking wildly different from your dating profile photo, complaining a lot, and whining about being exhausted.
People Do Weird Things
Ohh
Not The Paper
Other alarm-worthy first-date behaviors are things like criticizing your food, insisting on ordering for your date, constantly talking about yourself, whining about your ex-partners, and being overly sarcastic.
You also won’t leave a good impression on your date if you are too self-deprecating, boast about not being like other people, are not curious about them at all, or agree with absolutely everything they say.
Sounds Like He Was Desperate Not To Let An Expensive Trip Go To Waste
🎶Oi got a brand new combine harvester, an oi'll give you the key... 🎶
Some relationship red flags indicate that your date might be a truly toxic individual. WebMD warns that some of these toxic personality traits include controlling behavior, causing drama, behaving inconsistently, craving attention, and not being able to be happy for you.
A good rule of thumb is to avoid people who confuse you with their behavior, make you feel uncomfortable, and who you feel are manipulating you.
Probably Works There Now
The username has reminded me that I have a fresh pack of strawberries and a fresh jar of Nutella in the kitchen... it may soon be Nutella time for me... 🍓
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Which of these posts about dating fails made you wince and cringe the most? What is absolutely the worst date that you’ve ever been on? Have you ever embarrassed yourself on a first date? What are your top relationship red flags?
On the flip side, what’s the best date you’ve ever had? If you’d like to share some of your experiences, we’ll be waiting to read them in the comments at the bottom of this list.
That's Actually Kind Of Cute
Sorry What?
When They Say Men Are Blunt
Oh No
$5 Uber Request For First Date
I'm "Trying" To Date And I Encounter This Constantly. Why Is It Such A Big Deal That I Choose Not To Drink Alcohol?
I can never understand people who can't understand people who don't drink. I mean, I don't do crack, but nobody finds it weird. What's with the need for people to drink? (I drink, but don't care if others don't)
It Was A Gas Station Near Her So She Could Easily Walk Home
A Real One
Super Disrespectful And Flakey
"Here For A Good Time Not Long Time"
I Asked If She Would Split The $350 Sushi Dinner She Wanted For The First Date
Wow, best of luck to the "successful man" who gets cleaned out by her.
She Really Didn't Want To Go On That Date
That's Just Heartless
At Least He Tried To Be Funny
Safe To Say The Date Will Not Happen
I'm gonna say that to my boss next time they ask me for anything, should be fun
A Surprise Double Date
Crazy Thing Is All Week We Were Vibing So Good On The Phone I Was So Excited For This Date
She Will Always Love Him
Interesting Question
She Sounds Fun
I actually had to interrupt a making out session, to run for the bushes in a restaurants parking lot.... (the restaurant was closed by then). Not drunk (dont drink alcohol) but when Im nervous, I keep sipping water. The waiter had to bring at least 2 extra jugs. And yeah... On my way back back to the car I noticed the "No peeing", "Video surveillance" signs....
I Would Of Face Palmed So Hard
"Throw another shrimp on the barbie." "Sir, this is Red Lobster, and stop calling me Barbie."
She Got The Ick
Oh My
It's Something I Haven't Thought About In Years So Was Fun To Remember And Share
He Didn’t Market Himself Very Well. Did He?
Only Three Haircuts
That's unfortunate but understandable. Even with modern translation software/hardware language barriers are still very difficult.
Ouch
Aww man, nothing seemed too bad here except for the humidity and poor timing
She Definitely Needed That Foot Rub
I Just Messed Up Big Time
Needless To Say, There Was No Second Date
After reading most of these, I'm even happier than I already was to have been out of the dating pool for the last 30 years. Finding Mrs Lotekguy was a stroke of luck that I still appreciate every day.
You have no idea. Thanks to internet dating, everyone (and especially anyone who is "attractive") thinks they can always do better. Like they'll like a guy/person, but think they can find something just like them who just makes more money, or is a little taller/skinnier/buffer. Technically there is always someone "better", but they don't seem to realize it cuts both ways. People will ditch them for their own version of "better".
Load More Replies...First date with my wife was her and two of her friends. I knew that before, she was cambodian and there was no way she would go anywhere with a man, even worse, a foreigner, alone. It was very nice, we went to a nice boat restaurant and it was of course expected that i pay for her and her friends too. Following dates allways included some colleague, relative or at least one friend. My point is, it depends on the culture, i believe that would not work in the US because the culture is different. I still have pictures of our first dates 🥰
I went on a date with a guy I had been talking to for a few weeks on a dating app. We hit it off while talking online, but when in person ALL he would talk about was how many buildings in town his family owned, how rich they were, and just ALL about himself and his family. I barely got a word in. AND he tried ordering for me cause he "knew what was good there". That is a HUGE pet peeve of mine. Did not go back out with him.
After reading most of these, I'm even happier than I already was to have been out of the dating pool for the last 30 years. Finding Mrs Lotekguy was a stroke of luck that I still appreciate every day.
You have no idea. Thanks to internet dating, everyone (and especially anyone who is "attractive") thinks they can always do better. Like they'll like a guy/person, but think they can find something just like them who just makes more money, or is a little taller/skinnier/buffer. Technically there is always someone "better", but they don't seem to realize it cuts both ways. People will ditch them for their own version of "better".
Load More Replies...First date with my wife was her and two of her friends. I knew that before, she was cambodian and there was no way she would go anywhere with a man, even worse, a foreigner, alone. It was very nice, we went to a nice boat restaurant and it was of course expected that i pay for her and her friends too. Following dates allways included some colleague, relative or at least one friend. My point is, it depends on the culture, i believe that would not work in the US because the culture is different. I still have pictures of our first dates 🥰
I went on a date with a guy I had been talking to for a few weeks on a dating app. We hit it off while talking online, but when in person ALL he would talk about was how many buildings in town his family owned, how rich they were, and just ALL about himself and his family. I barely got a word in. AND he tried ordering for me cause he "knew what was good there". That is a HUGE pet peeve of mine. Did not go back out with him.
