Woman Asks Neighbor To Not Use Her Power Tools After 8PM As It’s Her Kids’ Bedtime, She Refuses
Crafty people are some of the best gift-givers out there. They often surprise you with thoughtful, personalized items that show a deeper level of care and creativity.
While Reddit user EnsnaredAngel was working on a birthday present for her brother, she needed to use a chop saw for a few minutes. However, one of her neighbors immediately had a problem with the noise from the tool.
The two of them got into a heated exchange, and now tension lingers in the otherwise peaceful area.
This woman was contacted by her neighbor about the noise she was making at 9 PM
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But she didn’t think that she was doing anything wrong
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People are quite forgiving to their neighbors, but eventually, they do reach a breaking point
When SafeHome.org, a resource and research firm on safety and security, surveyed over 1,000 Americans, they discovered that nearly one in five respondents admitted to illegal activity of some kind within their residence or the surrounding area.
20% said they had been drinking in public, 18% reported they were speeding, and 17% confessed to smoking cannabis. However, most of them found a way to do these things without anyone noticing, with 9%, 6%, and 4% respectively adding that they were called out for these behaviors.
Even though violating noise ordinances came in the 7th place of the most popular offenses with 11%, it was the one people were the most frequently confronted by their neighbors for (26%).
“Evidence shows that most neighbors are relatively forgiving when it comes to committing crimes, but they do have a line that can be crossed,” SafeHome.org noted in its survey. “While most will forgive things like drinking and smoking in the vicinity, property theft and damage will likely have you dealing with concerned neighbors or even the police.”
Even if you don’t want more friends in your life, it is much better if you get along with your neighbors. You never know when you might need their help.
Plus, according to research from The Australian National University, a tight-knit, supportive community does wonders for our mental health; people are generally much less likely to report symptoms of depression, anxiety, and loneliness if they have positive perceptions of their neighborhood social environments.
Of course, when our neighbors accuse us of creating a problem that is impacting their quality of life, our natural response might be to go on the defensive and insist that it’s actually them in the wrong. Especially when technically we aren’t violating any laws. However, this approach often only creates more conflict. Instead, we should try, whenever possible, to consider their point of view.
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The woman received a lot of support after sharing her story
However, not everyone was on her side
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They both seem like a******s. Yes, I get it, people don’t have to cater to other people’s children, and the mother in question sounds entitled and rude, at least from OP‘s side of the story. Still I don’t agree with the "The law says I can make noise till 11:30 pm so I can do whatever I want until then" mentality OP has. If my neighbour started using a power tool at 9:15 pm, it would very much annoy me, kids or no kids.
legally I can make noise from 8 AM to 10 PM where I live but that doesn't mean I'm gonna jump on my drum kit at 8:01 and start playing Slayer. I'm with you, they both seem like jerks.
Load More Replies...Yeah, OP is TA. no matter what local laws say, it´s about common courtesy towards your neighbors.
Yup. Local law says 10pm but I would never use anything loud after 8 pm latest without at least asking if it's ok.
Load More Replies...How on earth did someone think this coud be an "interesting" read?
Wait until you read about the boy who "vanished" but was found two years later, miraculously! It was a parental kidnapping, spoilers, not a lost kid in the wilderness or something
Load More Replies...7pm is the cutoff for loud noises in my part of Australia; be it tools, music, movies/tv or kids. Breaches get you fined, and the fines go up the more you breach.
You are much further south. For you, it gets dark closer to 6PM, so 7PM cutoff makes sense. For OP, it is getting dark at 10:30.
Load More Replies...I once drilled holes in my garage door after 10pm on a weeknight. I had gotten off work (closing), had to work mid-shift the next day and the bottom panel of the garage door needed to be bolted back together. I drilled my holes, popped the bolts in and secured them. Done in 20 min. The ONLY reason I was ok doing this - it was 4th of July week and with all the illegal fireworks my neighborhood was setting off, nobody could hear my drill.
A few cuts over fifteen minutes is going to be less disruptive than dogs barking outside or kids crying inside or a loud TV (all sounds I can hear right now from inside my place). Sometimes this can't be helped. If it was a regular thing, that would be diffierent, but stop making drama when your neighbours have to listen to your kids all the time. I understand that kids make noise, and they can't help it, which is why people don't complain. But don't pretend it's not grating on your neighbours. My neighbour has a 3 yo who throws a tantrum every day he has to leave for preschool. I don't write to my neighbours to say how $hitty they are, even though it's going to happen every day during my work hours. If you want quiet, move to the country.
Yta. Using tools after 9 is obnoxious, and they’re dismissive of the amount of work the mother is doing to care for a family of 7 (“has all day to do whatever” my ärse).
power tools after9pm no. Parties going on till 11 if not too noisy. Having said that, the local police had a call about a party going on until 12:30 am. Police told complainer that it was New Years Eve.
I would like to know which country this is in as DIY noise has to stop by 8 pm where I live (UK), music and that type of thing is tolerated until 11 pm.
They both seem like a******s. Yes, I get it, people don’t have to cater to other people’s children, and the mother in question sounds entitled and rude, at least from OP‘s side of the story. Still I don’t agree with the "The law says I can make noise till 11:30 pm so I can do whatever I want until then" mentality OP has. If my neighbour started using a power tool at 9:15 pm, it would very much annoy me, kids or no kids.
legally I can make noise from 8 AM to 10 PM where I live but that doesn't mean I'm gonna jump on my drum kit at 8:01 and start playing Slayer. I'm with you, they both seem like jerks.
Load More Replies...Yeah, OP is TA. no matter what local laws say, it´s about common courtesy towards your neighbors.
Yup. Local law says 10pm but I would never use anything loud after 8 pm latest without at least asking if it's ok.
Load More Replies...How on earth did someone think this coud be an "interesting" read?
Wait until you read about the boy who "vanished" but was found two years later, miraculously! It was a parental kidnapping, spoilers, not a lost kid in the wilderness or something
Load More Replies...7pm is the cutoff for loud noises in my part of Australia; be it tools, music, movies/tv or kids. Breaches get you fined, and the fines go up the more you breach.
You are much further south. For you, it gets dark closer to 6PM, so 7PM cutoff makes sense. For OP, it is getting dark at 10:30.
Load More Replies...I once drilled holes in my garage door after 10pm on a weeknight. I had gotten off work (closing), had to work mid-shift the next day and the bottom panel of the garage door needed to be bolted back together. I drilled my holes, popped the bolts in and secured them. Done in 20 min. The ONLY reason I was ok doing this - it was 4th of July week and with all the illegal fireworks my neighborhood was setting off, nobody could hear my drill.
A few cuts over fifteen minutes is going to be less disruptive than dogs barking outside or kids crying inside or a loud TV (all sounds I can hear right now from inside my place). Sometimes this can't be helped. If it was a regular thing, that would be diffierent, but stop making drama when your neighbours have to listen to your kids all the time. I understand that kids make noise, and they can't help it, which is why people don't complain. But don't pretend it's not grating on your neighbours. My neighbour has a 3 yo who throws a tantrum every day he has to leave for preschool. I don't write to my neighbours to say how $hitty they are, even though it's going to happen every day during my work hours. If you want quiet, move to the country.
Yta. Using tools after 9 is obnoxious, and they’re dismissive of the amount of work the mother is doing to care for a family of 7 (“has all day to do whatever” my ärse).
power tools after9pm no. Parties going on till 11 if not too noisy. Having said that, the local police had a call about a party going on until 12:30 am. Police told complainer that it was New Years Eve.
I would like to know which country this is in as DIY noise has to stop by 8 pm where I live (UK), music and that type of thing is tolerated until 11 pm.


























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