It’s no secret that the trope of creepiness is usually assigned to men. Catcalling on the streets, unsolicited touching at bars, not taking no for an answer—women indeed had their fair share of uncomfortable encounters with the opposite sex.
However, to be truly equal, we have to admit that women can be scary too. Recently, men proved this by sharing the creepy things ladies have done or said to them. From proudly declaring they’re crazy to showcasing their stalking abilities, scroll down to find the most bizarre stories where women frightened men and not vice versa.
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I don’t get creeped out, because I’m not overly sensitive and not much worries me in general.
That said, the thing that annoys me lately is more about word choice. It seems lately that (mostly women) are using (or misusing) quasi technical terms related to psychological or social issues in order to lend a bit more authority to whatever it is they’re saying.
So instead of “my colleague acted like a douchebag and she left me feeling annoyed” they’ll offer “my colleague is a toxic narcissist and her abuse has left me with trauma”.
On the one hand it’s just a dumb trend, but on the other hand those words actually do have real use for people experiencing actual (diagnosed) psychological issues or abuse, and throwing the terms around devalues the currency of the words for people who might really need them.
Bunch of moms staring at highschool boys swimming and comment on how hot they are. Non stop leering. I can't imagine how they would have acted if there were dads looking at girls that way.
When they say “I have no filter.” - this always translates to me, I’m a cow and arrogant. Everyone has a filter, you’re just an a*sehole.
It's up there with 'I'm only being honest' as an excuse to say mean things to people. You're not being honest, you're just being a d**k. Also, I hate when people claim to be 'only joking' when they get called out for their bad behaviour like that makes it OK and the person who is offended is the problem because they didn't find it funny.
Even though we've been describing people as creepy for some time, there was no science to help us understand it—that is, until 2016, when Francis McAndrew and Sara Koehnke of Knox College in Illinois published the first empirical study on the subject, wanting to better understand this difficult concept.
"Creepiness is all about not being able to figure out whether there is a threat,” explained McAndrew, professor of psychology and author of the study.
When I was an Uber driver, I’d sometimes get a car full of girls say something like “You’re not gonna k*ll us, are you?”. I started replying with “Nah. When you’re as good at it as I am - you don’t do it for free.”
I got approached by a woman at my friend’s birthday party. This woman was mid 50’s and I was 40 at the time. She is married with an adult daughter who was there. She approached me and said I was attractive and I thanked her. She proceeded to continue to hit on me and then commented on my pecs and grabbed them. I took a step back and she saw the disgust in my face. She was offended I didn’t want her touching me. She then got loud and made a scene making me look like the a*****e, all I wanted was to hang out with my friends and not be harassed. Women think they can get away with it because all guys want sex, but when they get denied it’s our fault.
I’ve actually heard a couple women say, “If you can’t take me at my worst, you don’t deserve me at my best.”
Thanks for making the red flag so obvious, much appreciated.
Honestly, that started with the meaning of: if you don't want me when I'm unhappy or upset like every Human is now and then, you don't deserve me when I'm happy and enertaining", and that's totally correct. Yes, it was used in the wrong way, but now everyone seems to pretend that it means "if you don't like me while I torture your puppy...".
The research concluded that people 'detect' creepiness when they encounter something unpredictable or outside the norm, like a person acting strangely, having an unusual physical appearance, or over- or under-expressing their emotions.
The most common characteristics of a creepy person as rated by the participants in the study were:
- The person stood too close to your friend.
- The person was dressed oddly.
- The person licked his or her lips frequently.
- The person laughed at unpredictable times.
- The person steered the conversation towards one topic.
They also indicated certain professions they deemed more offsetting than others. A clown, taxidermist, sex shop owner, and funeral director were rated highest on the creepiness scale. Meanwhile, the meteorologist's occupation evoked the most positive associations.
A woman I dated not only said but also had a fridge magnet with the phrase:
"If I'm not happy, no one else will be."
I first thought it was a darkly humorous little trinket.
Dear reader, it really, really wasn't.
A girl once tried to seduce me with the immortal words "I'm as smooth down there as a 4-year-old". This was almost 20 years ago and to this day I just can't even.
Some lady I worked with once touched my stomach and asked me when I’m due. If the situation would have been reversed, I would have been fired.
"I want a gay best friend"
No, I'm not a f*****g accessory.
"Can I touch your beard" and proceeding to do so without waiting for an answer. Unless you're my wife or one of my kid nieces the answer is no by the way.
“You’re well trained” whenever they see me do dishes, vacuum or laundy. Like I‘ve been trained as some manservant or they just expect husbands to be another child.
Mr Auntriarch says "well I wasn't useless before I met Auntriarch, and I'm not useless now"
Here's a tip: Asking a man what he has under his kilt is just as bad as asking a woman if she's wearing anything under her skirt. Even worse are the women who feel entitled to *check*. Hasn't happened to me, thankfully, but fellow kilt wearers have had pretty bad encounters before.
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Women asking me "ohh what's under your kilt?" to which I reply "my wifey's best friend" or "a perch for 8 golden eagles". it usually ends there.
honestly tho its mostly dudes who ask to which i say: "why is it always men who wanna know" and it usually ends there.
There is a good reason why many Highland Games have a 'no selfie-sticks' rule these days. I have been connected with the pipeband world since 1990, and it's disturbing just how many people think it's hilarious (har har ...) to find out what is worn under the kilt. And if it's a gaggle of women in their 40s with too many cavas in them, the 17-20-year-old guys are basically fair game. It's absolutely disgusting.
This is kinda specific to me and those in my situation, but I share the last name of a famous serial killer (VERY distantly related). some women get waaaaay to excited when they find out. The amount of true crime fans who ask me on a date/said yes when I asked because of that has meant I literally have taken it off facebook and don't tell people at first. Even a few months in Ive gotten 'haha lol I only dated you cause it would be wild to be Mrs serial killer'. Its creepy, it makes me feel worthless and yes, I know EVERY DETAIL of what he did, because of course I do everyone sends me the link anytime there is a new doco out. Please don't add my last name to your FB just cause we are dating. No I wont f**k you while we watch a doco on him. Special shout out to women in psych 101.
I don’t know about “women” but I had a female manager interviewing me for a job telling me they were PRO sexual harassment at the workplace, wink wink, nudge nudge. I was…22? She was 50, easily.
That f*****g sucked.
"Thanks for the warning, grandma. Give me back my resume, and please lose my contact information - NOW!"
I’m bald, and was the only man who worked a front facing position at a local clinic in a town with an aging population. The older/elderly women constantly wanted to rub my head, or be very inappropriate in general when speaking to me. The women in the office laughed about it until I pointed out how I would always step in and cover for them or drive off the creepy guys for them, and this was no different. Don’t get me wrong, the creepy men said and did far worse things to those women than the old women ever did/said to me, but they still made me uncomfortable. Last year or so I was there they started helping me hide from the worst of the harassment. That was nice.
Me and a date making out in a dark parking lot at night. Girl - starts laughing Me - what's funny? Girl - It's just that, if I were to call the police and tell them you sexually assaulted me right now, there's not much you can do to prove you're innocent. I'm a cute, white, tiny German girl, and you are a big, mean looking, medium dark skinned American man. You'd be screwed. Me - huh, yeah... Guess you're right.
Using the word "Daddy", or "Baby".
I get that some people like it, but man.. not everyone does.
Bragging about how proficient they are at stalking people on social media. It’s creepy af.
When they proudly say they are crazy and want a guy who can handle that.
Yeah, there is nothing okay about being proud of that and they should seriously consider getting help if they legitimately think they are unstable. There is too much liability being affiliated with a woman like this.
"Can you still get it up" like f**k you! This is the equivalent of a man asking a woman if she is tight or still gets wet.
Talking about how a young or infant boy is gonna be sexy or a ladies man. Like you seriously sound like a creep and I’m being polite by using creep. Once while waiting tables, another server wrapped her arms around my neck, stared into my eyes, and said, “is it bad that I want to f**k someone besides my boyfriend?” Like what in every hell.
Best comeback I heard from a four year old boy when asked if he was going to be a ladykiller when he grew up - "Nope, I'm gonna be a MAN!"
“You should smile more” followed by a touch, wink or giggle. Yes females do that s**t too and yes it’s just as creepy.
I was bartending and there was a hen party who's challenge in their game was to kiss the bartender. I said ok as long as it was on the cheek and turn my head, but she woman grabbed my face and tried to kiss me on the lips.
Had to walk away and tell them I wouldn't be serving them and all they could say was "aww come on don't be frigid, you know you want to"
Happy wife, happy life. No b***h it’s not only about you.
My arms are heavily tattooed. Women will often say, “can I see your tattoos?” and then immediately start touching them. I have some pretty obvious self-harm scars on my forearms, so it’s super embarrassing and always makes me really uncomfortable. I know I have my own blame in the situation, but yeah— not a fan.
My aunt kissed me on the lips when I was a teenager. I said no. She didn't care I hated it then. I still hate it now.
“Don’t throw the condom in the toilet. Don't worry I won’t go fish it out of the trash hahaha.” I get from a plumbing standpoint why you want it in the trash, but once you add the second part…
I worked in an elementary school for many years and the amount of female teachers who openly talk about how "cute" the boys are or how they will be "total heartbreakers" was foul.
As a boy who looked 19 at the age of 14, the number of women who have casually laughed off hitting on me and turned it into “come see me when you turn 18” (again while I’m 14) is a bit much.
Remember in blank check when they had that whole grown woman kiss that 10 year old child seductively. Blurgh.
Is it true what they say about Mexican d**k?
Thay we don't give it to ugly bitches? Sure is. Sorry.
That's a type of duck I've never heard about. Does anyone has info or a duckpic to show me?
Not something said, but when I worked at a cafe for a bit, the accountant for the cafe pat me on the a*s and called me cutie. None of the owners saw, but customers and co workers saw.
When I talked to the owners, the accountant was told to apologize and instead she said it was meant to be endearing and tbh how quickly it was let slide was 100% disturbing
I've had women in the workplace (I was 21, they were 23-33) very openly speculate about my sex life in front of me or comment about my (visible and clothed, or hypothesized) anatomy. I'm comfortable with my body because it does look good and I'm very nicely endowed, what I'm really not comfortable with is people I'm not f*****g trying to discuss it with me or other people especially while I'm in the room.
That was the first time I was sexually harassed in the workplace. The second time was when I was working at a summer camp. I usually took my hour long break in my on-site dorm room because it was a 3 minute walk, I could sit on my bed and listen to a podcast, get some nicotine in my system, and walk back refreshed. Woman who was my supervisor was randomly showering around noonish (very, very weird for her, I hadn't bumped into her or anyone else there ever before during the day, and she was on the wrong floor for the women's showers). Saw her walking around the corner in a towel and to be polite and let there not be any room for misunderstanding, I covered my eyes completely and averted my head toward the ceiling. As I walked past her she kept telling me to "take a look" and taunting with "I know you want to", and as much as I said "No thanks, I'm good!", she kept pushing the issue and I finally let out a "I'm REALLY, REALLY not interested in looking at you" and made a bee-line back to my room to attempt to enjoy the remaining part of my break. I reported it to her supervisor and his supervisor, and essentially nothing happened but she repeatedly spent that summer and the following summer trying to retaliate against me. I loved that job but never worked there again and never will because they let her stay on payroll.
I've had similar things happen outside the workplace. I'm happily married, I don't watch porn, never have watched porn, I've got a healthy sex drive that I laser focus onto the love of my life. The insistence (often communicated in an angry and accusatory way) that I'm simultaneously, just because I'm a man, some kind of endlessly horny animal (and if I'm not I'm somehow lesser of a man or sexual being) f*****g sucks. I love looking at, loving, and f*****g my sexy wife, it's not that weird.
Not that all women are like this, but I’m concerned for the women that talk about the healing powers of crystals bought from Esty.
If only I were 20 years younger...
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I got this all the time when I worked food service at a hospital. It was really creepy when it was said in an elevator that was notorious for getting stuck for long periods of time.
I only I were 20 years younger, then i'd climb trees, go party all night without being tired for days after and feeling sore when waking up. If only my body was 20 years younger, I'd keep it in better shape and sport more. I actually don't want to BE younger, though won't mind a more fit less aching body!
I have large hands ring finger size is 16 and I had a lady tell me once that I had sausage fingers and that she wanted to sit on them.
Was in a bar. A girl comes up to me and asks if she could feel the size of my penis; I'm pretty tall so I get it a lot.
What confuses me to this day is that it was in front of her boyfriend.
"I'm on birth control, we don't need to use condoms."
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What I find ironic is if you were to tell these stories to the women who committed them (i.e., the hens trying to kiss the bartender or the HR lady) but reverse the genders, they would probably be "call the cops!" or "I hope she pressed charges!" The double standards are horrible and need to vanish.
"Keep your hands and comments to yourself" is a very simple rule to follow.
I really feel that the world is seeing a rapid increase in all sorts of inappropriate behavior, from people in general, these days. So sorry to anyone, male, female or other, who has been on the receiving end of any abuse! Abuse of privacy, abuse of peace, abuse of personal space, abuse of property (theft, damage, etc.) or any other kind! People are losing their minds!
I honestly did not know a lot of women are like this. I'm ashamed of them, it is bs & they should be treated like a male would if they were to act like that. It's called respect
There was a video going around a couple of years ago, of a woman casually walking down the sidewalk and grabbing every guys d!ck as she passed. The guys were all too shocked to respond. The comments on the video were all people thinking it was funny or commenting on how pretty the girl was. I was in shock! This was clearly SA and if the genders were reversed, that guy would be in prison for the rest of his life!
Yes, there is a double-standard for behavior in men and women. It's considered normal if a man has many sex partners, but a woman would be called a whore or s**t and shamed. Actually, "s**t shaming" is something both men and women do to women to humiliate them.
Load More Replies... I have really nice Ginger hair, women over 40 have always loved it even when I was little. The amount of times I've had women play with my hair without asking, let alone the "can I touch it?" as they're already touching it is staggering. Its not the end of the world on my end, but I barely like people I know and love touching me. Its a sure fire way for me to avoid you like the plague forever.
I couldn't get through the whole list, but scrolled to the comments just to reiterate the point that any gender can be sexually harassed or assaulted, and by any gender. It's no different and should be prosecuted as seriously regardless.
One of the benefits of not being attractive: No unwanted attention! I can do things in peace because nobody pays attention to me 😁
I'm so happy for you!? ... (No one is 'not 'attractive'' because 'attractive' is not a property of matter [*]. Some people are attracted sexually to roller coasters!) *[Except in magnets.]
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Had a girl develop an obssession on myself and a friend. He lived closer, so she started stalking him. Threatened to accuse him of rape if he didn't sleep with her. I also had another girl decide to grab my @ss, despite my attempts to fend her off (without hurting her), in front of my (at the time) girlfriend, because she liked the character I was dressed as.
this was interesting to read, And I took a while to reflect my behaviour,cause I am very openminded about sexuality. But I don't sexualize the bodies of strangers like some kind of meat or posession, and never touch without consent But I stay aware, like everyone should
Society in general is getting very self-centered. In my opinion, our capitalist system (America especially) is making us only care about our needs and wants. On top of that, there seems to be a push to counter the misogyny and abuse done by men by "getting even" (in my opinion, I could be wrong). That combined allows people to do whatever they want and just think that it's fine to hurt others.
My hubby got my hours at a bar when I got pregnant with our second child. Everyone in the pub knew this. But one night he was closing the windows (which even at his 6'2" height he needed to standon a table. While he was there a woman grabbed a handful....she was out with her DAUGHTER and her daughter was shocked. The next day I walked with him to school and passed the same woman who completely blanked us yet she spoke to him every morning. Think the sober up must have had an effect!
I'm officially horrified! I'm so sorry for all of these men and young men who were just trying to live their lives and go about their day in peace.I wholly understand how they feel because I feel it everytime that I go out into the population too. I'm a woman.
If the double standard ever really ends and we are all equal, we can then punch people in the mouth to shut them up.
I have encouraged women friends to be outrageously unsubtle when they needed to make sure a guy didn't presume he had been friend-zoned. These are not OK.
My high school gf would close the door and whipser "No one will hear your screams for help." She was really shy and sweet... but so creepy too! I think I miss her ;)
Lol I used to put a rag in my boyfriends mouth when we were at my house and tell him "stfu or my mom will hear us!"
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I agree that these are problematic when they happen often, but not gonna lie, some people would very much enjoy being l attractive to warrant some of this attention. To me it feels a bit like rich people complaining about rich problems.
What I find ironic is if you were to tell these stories to the women who committed them (i.e., the hens trying to kiss the bartender or the HR lady) but reverse the genders, they would probably be "call the cops!" or "I hope she pressed charges!" The double standards are horrible and need to vanish.
"Keep your hands and comments to yourself" is a very simple rule to follow.
I really feel that the world is seeing a rapid increase in all sorts of inappropriate behavior, from people in general, these days. So sorry to anyone, male, female or other, who has been on the receiving end of any abuse! Abuse of privacy, abuse of peace, abuse of personal space, abuse of property (theft, damage, etc.) or any other kind! People are losing their minds!
I honestly did not know a lot of women are like this. I'm ashamed of them, it is bs & they should be treated like a male would if they were to act like that. It's called respect
There was a video going around a couple of years ago, of a woman casually walking down the sidewalk and grabbing every guys d!ck as she passed. The guys were all too shocked to respond. The comments on the video were all people thinking it was funny or commenting on how pretty the girl was. I was in shock! This was clearly SA and if the genders were reversed, that guy would be in prison for the rest of his life!
Yes, there is a double-standard for behavior in men and women. It's considered normal if a man has many sex partners, but a woman would be called a whore or s**t and shamed. Actually, "s**t shaming" is something both men and women do to women to humiliate them.
Load More Replies... I have really nice Ginger hair, women over 40 have always loved it even when I was little. The amount of times I've had women play with my hair without asking, let alone the "can I touch it?" as they're already touching it is staggering. Its not the end of the world on my end, but I barely like people I know and love touching me. Its a sure fire way for me to avoid you like the plague forever.
I couldn't get through the whole list, but scrolled to the comments just to reiterate the point that any gender can be sexually harassed or assaulted, and by any gender. It's no different and should be prosecuted as seriously regardless.
One of the benefits of not being attractive: No unwanted attention! I can do things in peace because nobody pays attention to me 😁
I'm so happy for you!? ... (No one is 'not 'attractive'' because 'attractive' is not a property of matter [*]. Some people are attracted sexually to roller coasters!) *[Except in magnets.]
Load More Replies... Had a girl develop an obssession on myself and a friend. He lived closer, so she started stalking him. Threatened to accuse him of rape if he didn't sleep with her. I also had another girl decide to grab my @ss, despite my attempts to fend her off (without hurting her), in front of my (at the time) girlfriend, because she liked the character I was dressed as.
this was interesting to read, And I took a while to reflect my behaviour,cause I am very openminded about sexuality. But I don't sexualize the bodies of strangers like some kind of meat or posession, and never touch without consent But I stay aware, like everyone should
Society in general is getting very self-centered. In my opinion, our capitalist system (America especially) is making us only care about our needs and wants. On top of that, there seems to be a push to counter the misogyny and abuse done by men by "getting even" (in my opinion, I could be wrong). That combined allows people to do whatever they want and just think that it's fine to hurt others.
My hubby got my hours at a bar when I got pregnant with our second child. Everyone in the pub knew this. But one night he was closing the windows (which even at his 6'2" height he needed to standon a table. While he was there a woman grabbed a handful....she was out with her DAUGHTER and her daughter was shocked. The next day I walked with him to school and passed the same woman who completely blanked us yet she spoke to him every morning. Think the sober up must have had an effect!
I'm officially horrified! I'm so sorry for all of these men and young men who were just trying to live their lives and go about their day in peace.I wholly understand how they feel because I feel it everytime that I go out into the population too. I'm a woman.
If the double standard ever really ends and we are all equal, we can then punch people in the mouth to shut them up.
I have encouraged women friends to be outrageously unsubtle when they needed to make sure a guy didn't presume he had been friend-zoned. These are not OK.
My high school gf would close the door and whipser "No one will hear your screams for help." She was really shy and sweet... but so creepy too! I think I miss her ;)
Lol I used to put a rag in my boyfriends mouth when we were at my house and tell him "stfu or my mom will hear us!"
Load More Replies... I agree that these are problematic when they happen often, but not gonna lie, some people would very much enjoy being l attractive to warrant some of this attention. To me it feels a bit like rich people complaining about rich problems.
