30 Stories Of Kids Doing Something So Unhinged, It Freaked Out Everyone Around Them

Some things children do might seem unusual or dangerous, but imagine yourself in their shoes—the world was your oyster when you were a little troublemaker yourself. (I sure remember being shouted at for constantly climbing the trees as a kid.) That’s because their behavior is often influenced by experience (or lack of) that we gain over the years.

When we’re little, we don’t have a lot of practice or know-how we can base our actions on. For instance, we might not know that a burn hurts until the first time we touch something hot. Or we might not understand that our feet will get wet if we jump into a puddle before we make a huge splash.

Dr. Victoria Talwar, a Canada Research Chair (II) and a professor at McGill University, told Bored Panda: “Children (and this depends on the child) do not always perceive the risks with some behavior. So they are more fearless when it comes to doing things like climbing high. Adults, on the other hand, have more experience and are more likely to understand the risks.”

In her speech at the MEAB School Leaders’ conference, the course leader on Montessori Education courses at Anglia Ruskin University, Michelle Wisbey, pointed out that a child’s first instinct is to experience everything firsthand. They are believed to have an innate desire to take certain risks in order to challenge themselves and weigh the level of danger against the benefit. That allows them to develop certain skills and make life interesting and fulfilling, according to Dr. Wisbey.

Professor at McGill University, Victoria Talwar, opened up to Bored Panda about her own experience when it comes to this: “When my son was small, when he wanted to climb, I stood close by and was there to help him or to hold him if he fumbled. However, as he grew and gained competence in climbing I stepped back and just watched. I was close enough to come to his aid if needed but I let him climb without my help or hovering right under him.

“As he grew he became very adept at climbing and I was relaxed enough to let him climb large structures or trees with me standing/sitting further away. We need to allow children autonomy and scaffold that as they get older and gain competence/skills at different activities. Of course, there was still risk—he could still fall, but he also had gained ability of climbing and was very skilled at it,” the professor told Bored Panda.

That’s why some argue that it’s important to allow children to face risks to a certain extent. It can help them learn how to properly evaluate such risks and teach them a thing or two about consequences. 

Be that as it may, grown-ups should be aware of when to enable the kids’ sense of adventure or when to stop them engaging in certain activities. “We want children to have curiosity and a sense of adventure,” says Dr. Victoria Talwar. “However, we have to offer guidance and limits to prevent harm. Parents/adults need to assess the degree of harm that is likely to occur.

“Some types of activities have a high likelihood of there being harm to the child or another child—running around with a sharp stick. Others may have some degree of risk but we have to manage that—i.e. climbing a medium-size tree.”

Dr. Victoria Talwar emphasized that “there are individual differences for both children and adults. Some people are more fearful and cautious, and others are less so. Also importantly, risk-taking behavior increases in adolescence as a result of changes in the brain (i.e., prefrontal cortex) around the time of puberty which leads to more reward-seeking behavior. It declines in late adolescence and early adulthood as the brain systems mature and develop, and individuals self-regulation improves.”

Making life interesting is one of the many possible explanations for children’s peculiar activities. They might take action to make it even more fascinating or to attain something that causes joy. Enjoyment falls among the three main driving forces for their behavior distinguished by Joel L. Young, the medical director of the Rochester Center for Behavioral Medicine outside of Detroit. The two remaining ones are acting a certain way to communicate something or to cope with children’s own emotions, such as anger or fear.

Other incentives behind children’s (and others’, despite their age, as a matter of fact) actions are often based on one of the five levels of human needs. Developed by Maslow, these levels include physiological, safety, love and belonging, esteem, and self-actualization needs.

The latter is at the very top of Maslow’s pyramid-like hierarchy. Kids and adults have the same innate desires, which is why it’s important to understand them and how they can affect a child’s development or behavior.