“Sets Timers Instead Of Alarms”: 30 People Share Hilarious And Sometimes Cringe “Beige Flags”
We've seen people on the internet talking about red and green flags in romantic relationships, but lately, there has been a lot of fuss about another color.
TikToker Caito (@itscaito) coined the term "beige flag" in one of her videos from a year ago, where she explained that it's a sign that someone's really, really boring to date.
@itscaito beige is the new red and in other news dating apps are a wasteland 🚩 #hinge #redflags #datingredflags #hingedating ♬ original sound - Caito
However, since then, folks have evolved it, making the beige flag something in between the red and green ones. Now, this sign is understood to be more like a personal quirk that catches your attention, a mannerism that makes you pause and think, "Hmmm... that's a bit odd" without fully understanding if it's good or bad.
(For reference, think of when Anatoly Dyatlov in HBO's Chernobyl heard the radiation reading and said: "3.6 [Roentgen] — not great, not terrible.")
So to give you a better understanding of the latest online dating slang, we compiled some of the most popular beige flags that we've seen.
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How do you carry on a conversation with him ? I have so many questions.
Asking all the questions on people who do this is amazing, because they answer. Not sure if always honest or true.
I loved how he finds it endearing instead of annoying.
As someone with high-functioning autism, this sounds like it might be Autism Spectrum Disorder. Many High Functioning Autistic people have trouble with chatting and casual conversation. The fact he has to google topics for conversation hints he might be having trouble with casual social skills and is making an effort to compensate. Likewise, the fact he asks intimate questions in a room full of people suggests he has trouble understanding social propriety and boundaries, another thing difficult for people with autism.
Put him in front of a mirror and tell him that he is cute and a keeper, because he is actually listening to you. My one, I could tell him 200 times how a watch is beautiful and he would still show up on valentines or birthdays with something else but the watch.
I've often said that it's as selfish to refuse to receive as it is to refuse to give, because in refusing to receive we are denying other people the opportunity to be generous and we are refusing to be grateful to other, instead insisting they always be indebted to us. Generosity sometimes means allowing others to be generous too.
100% me. Not hypochondria or attention seeking, my body is just a POS. I either try not to comment on it because I can absolutely see how this would be annoying, or I make it a joke, like, ugh, what's broken on me now?
Not trying to be a jerk, but I used to have something very similar before I found out I had a hormone disorder and several food sensitivities. I remember there was a time in my life I thought always having either a stomach ache, a headache, or just feeling off was normal. I assumed everybody felt this way. Not trying to belittle your life experience, but if you're bad feelings are less repeated injuries and more What I described above, it is worth getting checked ❤️
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Hello, fellow Panda with fibromyalgia. Glad to see I'm not alone.
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Maybe she just problems with inflammation or an allergy and doesn’t know it? OP seems a bit judged IMO but then again I was like his girlfriend until I figured out my own dietary and environmental triggers then it was like I had a new body
He didn't say he dismisses it though...it's just a neutral thing she does that he's aware of
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I have fibromyalgia and other chronic conditions so yeah… same. And I honestly can’t imagine what 100% health even feels like. It’s a wild concept to me.
I love your username. And I'm in the same boat. Haven't had 100% health since I was a tiny tot, I don't think.
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Some people are just physically weaker all around. eg. Me. I sprain my thumb on one day(it takes forever to heal). I stub my toe so badly it hurts 2 months in. Different parts of the body hurts relating to monthly female probs. Back aching for sitting down too long. Fingers hurt for typing too much. After a couple of kids and getting older, minor issues like these are just a given...
As someone with a family full of people with a lot of health issues and chronic pain (as well as many autistic people with sensory issues) this is my life. I have fibromyalga, severe asthma, rheumatoid arthritis, I get cluster migraines and suffer from depression, anxiety and PTSD, every day is a battle. I never know how I'll feel from day to day and can't make plans more than a few days ahead. Most of my family have similar health issues, (some have things way worse) loads of us have sensory issues too so we're hyper aware of every twinge or muscle cramp and even if it's not very painful it feels unbearable to us and we often have to tell people around us as we may become distracted and may struggle to focus on our surroundings. I can't even imagine living life without constant health issues/aches and pains, the mental health issues don't help either as I sometimes struggle to do simple things, like get out of bed or shower, for days on end.
I Know how you feel; it being dismissed as "hypochondria" is insulting to anyone going thru this. This person needs to be more supportive to their g.f.; this could be frequent injuries due to adhd, neuropathy, autoimmune disorders, etc. Not being understood or heard by someone you trust, can lead to justifiable depression.
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I loathe it when someone that matters to me dismisses chronic illness. A dear friend just told me if her "91 year old mother can walk 2 blocks, so can you". I stopped answering her calls.
Me lmao I'm like always injured in some way. I complain constantly but I don't particularly want attention as I'm never badly injured, it's just a way to release frustration
Don’t worry. Once you get older, you’ll start chiming in with your own aches and pains. She’s just got a good lead on you. But you’ll catch up and pass her in a few years.
This feels like a bright red "I have to be the center of attention at all times" flag... buts that any opinion and if OP loves her, and sees the flag as beige, that's all good too. I'm not about to pass judgement on someone I don't know.
Very, very, very mild case of Munchausen's syndrome? Does she come from a very large, very busy family? I've known some people either from very large families or with parents who are otherwise preoccupied, and the parents kind of took the attitude that as long as the child wasn't hurt or sick, the parents didn't need to pay attention to them. So whenever the child wanted attention, they'd suddenly be hurt or sick. This can get to be a habit.
Sometimes people are very acutely aware that something is decidedly not right with their bodies.
yep my ex permanently had headaches and the new one has random s**t happen as well. Meantime I haven't been sick since like 2019.
"I have a bump!" Classic one from my unable-to-go-to-sleep younger daughter, back when she was 6-8. Some of the others? "My toenails are rubbing on the sheet, my sister's hair is making too much noise (huh?), my hip just started hurting from where I got hit with a ball during recess 2 days ago" and others. The family favorite is still "the bump" though.
We should note at least in passing that depression exacerbates pain, and thus there may indeed be a health issue present, just not where you're looking.
Ehlers Danlos Syndrome - when all your connective tissue is messed up. Can dislocate a finger by trying to write a letter.
I would call that a red flag. This will only get worse and seems to maybe be hypochondria?
This is my mother in law. The woman has had thousands of ailments over 30 years..her doctors are rich af
this is me, but to be fair.. when you have Fibromyalgia, autism, schizophrenia, DID, gallstones and Porphyria, it's hard to feel 100% , but I try :') xD
This is a red flag on you, not your girlfriend. You need to believe her and support a solution. Pain is real, and if you don't listen, you will demolish your relationship, trustworthiness, hurt her, and never grow as a person. ADHD and other issues can cause frequent injuries (too focused on succeeding at a task to realize you may get hurt, esp in an emergency); she could also have an autoimmune disorder like fibromyalgia. Take it seriously. Don't p**n it off to being all in her head. It could be depression, but I feel like there is often more going on that may lead to depression without proper support. Be supportive. Depression isn't always a chronic diagnosis; it's frequently a justified emotional outcome.
I get hurt all the time (thanks ADHD). I'm not being a hypochondriac, but I'm sure my employer and ex believed that. I literally crushed my patella running with my dog and tore a meniscus (this can relapse into being re-aggravated), have had broken and dislocated fingers before,from a wet nylon leash while dealing with the dog at bath time (he's not bad, he just pulls or leans and weighs 125 lbs and it was my mistake); then broke a pinky toe on a baby gate running after my toddler bc I was afraid she was going to hurt herself. That pinky toe was the worst bc I reset it, but it didn't heal quite right. I couldn't afford to take time off of work for a freaking toe. The crazy thing is, I have had horses my entire life; I joke about my current horse has given me fewer injuries than my dog and daughter in the last 4 years. I have still have had many broken bones in the past, and puncture wounds from working at my barn. Lesser known ADHD hallmark: Frequent injuries due to hypervigilence.
I went through that for years before being diagnosed with fibromyalgia. Even now more than 20 years after being diagnosed every thing that comes up is attributed to my fibro. I've had years of problems with my right hip. Fibromyalgia. One time I asked an er doc for an x-ray on my hip without mentioning fibro and it was done. Basically my hip is crumbling and because of my problems with anaesthetic they refuse to replace it. Leaving me in a wheelchair. Sucks
My M was like that. She was ~never~ healthy. She once tried telling me she broke her leg but didn't go to the doctor because it would heal on its own. Amazingly, she was healed the next day!!! What a miracle! She also broke her ankle once. That too was healed the next day. Another miracle! Lol. Love and miss you Mom!
She wants attention all the time and she gets it by being hurt/sick. Maybe that was when she felt most loved and cared for when growing up
Looking for attention maybe ? I meet a person like this that grow up with a sick sibling having all the attentions, he then started doing the "never 100% health to have the attention of his friends.
She could be, or become, a hypochondriac. Not necessarily a beige flag imo
When my children went through this phase I'd pretend to not know what they wanted until they spoke properly. (And, yes, they were fully able to articulate clearly.)
I don't understand why that would make the waiter embarrassed - he'll either have an actual favorite that he'll recommend, if not then he'll pick something at random from the menu (or something expensive)... or maybe the manager said "hey, we've got too much fish, so push the fish!" and recommend that. Not sure where the discomfort would come from unless the waiter was so unfamiliar with the menu that he couldnt think of a single dish to recommend.
Maybe he thinks it’s a beige flag that you call yourself a scheduled girly.
This is me, and this is apparently very common in people who have ADHD (not saying she does). I hate having notifications hanging over me, so I open the message, and if I'm in the right mood I'll respond. But sometimes I think "I'll get back to it later" and then totally forget the message ever existed until the next time I think to text that person.
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Im prob gonna get downvoted into oblivion for saying this but some people are reading wayyy too much into this
Yep. A few are real "flags" but to call quirky behavior a flag is just silly. My husband and I were together for 35 years, and we both had our odd little things. If one was bothered we would do the chu sound and move on.
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Wish the text was on a plain background, it’s kind of hard to read off people’s foreheads
Speaking as a person on the ASD spectrum, a number of these might be cases of undiagnosed high-functioning autism spectrum disorder.
Aw, come on Pandas. No need to downvote similarly !
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My husband's beige flag is that he has an eidetic memory for movies. He can tell you exactly when a line was said or which minor side character was in the background at the time. Consequently, he never wants to rewatch movies. Guardians of the Galaxy? The Super Mario Movie? Lord of the Rings!? Nope. already seen 'em, got them memorized.
I don't have an eidetic memory for anything, but I love rewatching movies, even movies I've seen so many times I almost know it by heart. However, my problem is with overly predictable movies. I don't mind movies that are SUPPOSED to be predictable (like action movies: I mean, we KNOW the hero's going to win, right?), but for example, mystery movies. I like movies that surprise me. My wife finds it hilarious, though, when I catch her watching a police drama (or similar "mystery" kind of show) and watch for 5 minutes, and then predict the ending ... only to be TOTALLY wrong.
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My Fellow BP Commentor's Beige Flag are all the people reading into the cute quirks shared by others about their S/O s and trying to re-label the (in their opinion) as a red flag! Lighten up; or, MYOB.
I'm single rn but I'd say my beige flag would be how excited I get about stuff. Like you mention plants I'm gonna be talking about plants for the next hour no seriously I love plants plants are amazing I won't stop talking ever. You mention my writing and seem genuinely interested? I'm gonna be super awkward about it but if you get me going I don't stop my writing is something I'm super proud of and I love it when people are interested in it. I seriously just don't stop talking when I'm really excited about something
If I can see anywhere in my field of vision a dog, cat, sheep, cow, ferret, chicken, rabbit, or pig, I will not be speaking to other human beings.
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I know these articles aren't really meant for reading, but it does explain that at the beginning
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So basically people are confusing beige flags with red/green flags? Like these srories they share are either green or red flag. Also,everyone has their quirks. As long as it's harmless, wouldn't be a problem
This whole beige flat thing is b******t, that's just normal people behavior
TL;DR: Everything unique about you is a red flag now because being unique is a crime
Beige flags are not red flags. You should at least read the intro and learn what a beige flag is
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It never takes many repetitions for an annoying habit to become a "you always".
My husband's beige flag is that he takes literal hours to make a decision. I think it's why he married me lol. When we had to decide between a Playstation or XBox a few years back it took him months to decide.
my beige flag is that i consider myself to be one of those people who is just like an amazing texter, so i always think of the funniest/most relevant thing to say because everyone hates awkward texting spirals, but sometimes i have to go somewhere or do something and a text catches me off guard so i feel obligated to reply to it with something creative and interesting so people don't think i'm boring but i can think of anything so i just send "PLEASE" in all caps or the crying emoji or "jealousy jealousy😞" and then i feel guilty because it was not creative/interesting enough and vow to circle back to that text later. thanks for coming to my ted talk :D
i'm also really into eurovision, to the point where i've memorized tons of ridiculously specific facts about it, and also learned the cyrillic alphabet so i could read lyrics, and have picked up many words in ukrainian because of my love for go_a and kalush, and sometimes i'll be out in public and i'll hear a eurovision song and i'll get really excited about it and start gushing about it to whoever i'm with at the time. my neurodivergent friend keeps trying to convince me i'm on the spectrum because of my fixations (among other reasons) lol
Load More Replies... Im prob gonna get downvoted into oblivion for saying this but some people are reading wayyy too much into this
Yep. A few are real "flags" but to call quirky behavior a flag is just silly. My husband and I were together for 35 years, and we both had our odd little things. If one was bothered we would do the chu sound and move on.
Load More Replies... Wish the text was on a plain background, it’s kind of hard to read off people’s foreheads
Speaking as a person on the ASD spectrum, a number of these might be cases of undiagnosed high-functioning autism spectrum disorder.
Aw, come on Pandas. No need to downvote similarly !
Load More Replies... My husband's beige flag is that he has an eidetic memory for movies. He can tell you exactly when a line was said or which minor side character was in the background at the time. Consequently, he never wants to rewatch movies. Guardians of the Galaxy? The Super Mario Movie? Lord of the Rings!? Nope. already seen 'em, got them memorized.
I don't have an eidetic memory for anything, but I love rewatching movies, even movies I've seen so many times I almost know it by heart. However, my problem is with overly predictable movies. I don't mind movies that are SUPPOSED to be predictable (like action movies: I mean, we KNOW the hero's going to win, right?), but for example, mystery movies. I like movies that surprise me. My wife finds it hilarious, though, when I catch her watching a police drama (or similar "mystery" kind of show) and watch for 5 minutes, and then predict the ending ... only to be TOTALLY wrong.
Load More Replies... My Fellow BP Commentor's Beige Flag are all the people reading into the cute quirks shared by others about their S/O s and trying to re-label the (in their opinion) as a red flag! Lighten up; or, MYOB.
I'm single rn but I'd say my beige flag would be how excited I get about stuff. Like you mention plants I'm gonna be talking about plants for the next hour no seriously I love plants plants are amazing I won't stop talking ever. You mention my writing and seem genuinely interested? I'm gonna be super awkward about it but if you get me going I don't stop my writing is something I'm super proud of and I love it when people are interested in it. I seriously just don't stop talking when I'm really excited about something
If I can see anywhere in my field of vision a dog, cat, sheep, cow, ferret, chicken, rabbit, or pig, I will not be speaking to other human beings.
Load More Replies... I know these articles aren't really meant for reading, but it does explain that at the beginning
Load More Replies... So basically people are confusing beige flags with red/green flags? Like these srories they share are either green or red flag. Also,everyone has their quirks. As long as it's harmless, wouldn't be a problem
This whole beige flat thing is b******t, that's just normal people behavior
TL;DR: Everything unique about you is a red flag now because being unique is a crime
Beige flags are not red flags. You should at least read the intro and learn what a beige flag is
Load More Replies... It never takes many repetitions for an annoying habit to become a "you always".
My husband's beige flag is that he takes literal hours to make a decision. I think it's why he married me lol. When we had to decide between a Playstation or XBox a few years back it took him months to decide.
my beige flag is that i consider myself to be one of those people who is just like an amazing texter, so i always think of the funniest/most relevant thing to say because everyone hates awkward texting spirals, but sometimes i have to go somewhere or do something and a text catches me off guard so i feel obligated to reply to it with something creative and interesting so people don't think i'm boring but i can think of anything so i just send "PLEASE" in all caps or the crying emoji or "jealousy jealousy😞" and then i feel guilty because it was not creative/interesting enough and vow to circle back to that text later. thanks for coming to my ted talk :D
i'm also really into eurovision, to the point where i've memorized tons of ridiculously specific facts about it, and also learned the cyrillic alphabet so i could read lyrics, and have picked up many words in ukrainian because of my love for go_a and kalush, and sometimes i'll be out in public and i'll hear a eurovision song and i'll get really excited about it and start gushing about it to whoever i'm with at the time. my neurodivergent friend keeps trying to convince me i'm on the spectrum because of my fixations (among other reasons) lol
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