Not being afraid of saying “I don’t know”, asking really good questions, being able to admit mistakes—these are just a few examples of what people think is characteristic of an intelligent person. And while signs that indicate that someone is highly intelligent might differ from person to person, you’ll know one when you meet them by the way they carry themselves.
Members of the ‘Ask Reddit’ community have recently discussed such signs after the user ‘Occyz’ started a thread about it. If you’re curious about what kind of person might make you feel like Pinky next to The Brain, scroll down to find the redditors' thoughts on the list below and feel free to upvote the signs you believe are indicative of intelligence as well.
Below you will also find Bored Panda’s interview with a professor of psychology in the College of Human Ecology at Cornell University, author of Adaptive Intelligence, Dr. Robert J. Sternberg, who was kind enough to answer a few of our questions about perception of intelligence.
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I have met several off the charts intelligent people. One thing I noticed that they have in common was low self esteem. They had an actual low self esteem club at the science fiction club I belonged to. The guy who did a lot of the calculations that allowed the Voyager probes to make the Grand Tour of our solar system was a member of the club. All he could think about were what he didn’t know or what he physically couldn’t do. The common issue I observed from these bright folks was relentless school bullying. We lose so many of these geniuses to depression, suicide, self medication, or just flat out self inflicted mediocrity—society in the US does a s****y job of nurturing intelligence, it makes me incredibly angry how many of these people’s potential were wasted. (I don’t include myself in that club—My intelligence is dead average.) Frank Zappa said it best when he said that intelligence is treated like a hideous deformity by American society.
My wife is so damn smart and has lived and amazing life and yet insists she's nothing special.
Because truly intelligent people know there are always people that are more intelligent than they are. This keeps them grounded and allows them to really appreciate the people they meet who they consider more intelligent than themselves. Flipside of this if anyone tells you they're smart, they aren't.
Load More Replies...The other side of the coin seems to be that we glorify stupidity. See virtually any "realty" program from the last 25 years. Most specifically MTV and and show with the word "Jersey" in it, but also Real Housewives of Anywhere, etc. Ignorance should not be treated as a virtue, and intelligence should not be something to be ashamed of.
The fact that you don't think you are more intelligent than the people you are talking about shows incredible maturity and intelligence right there.
When I was growing up, it was definitely something you didn't want to draw attention to. It was safer to keep my mouth shut and my head down.
No one treats me badly for being smart because I'm civil to everyone. If they misbehave, it's on THEM.
Someone who can understand someone’s opposing view without having to agree with it or get angry over it.
Only if there are reasons for their view. "Just because" is no valid reason. My father has some really dumb views but when I ask him to explain them he never can. Even worse, he's accusing me of belittling him and starting a fight.
You could start by accepting that, right or wrong, those are his views, he's allowed to have them and anything you say is unlikely to change them. Dumb people hold onto their opinions harder than anyone because they are incapable of thinking beyond them.
Load More Replies...This is what is missing in America right now. I can't have a conservation with either side of politics, without people getting angry. There is no middle line right now and it sucks.
I don't like it when someone is right for all the wrong reasons.
Try living in a retirement village with people with dementia. Say I feel unable to discuss this further. We should just agree to not agree and not agree . And talk about the weather. It does not work very well so according to person for eg colonists saved the Maori from eating each other by letting free rabbits. Or aged care workers only find the cost of living difficult cos they do not work hard enough. Got a bit titxhy at that one and said way out ws to marry a rich man
Another reason I wished the "Point of View" gun from the Hitchhikers guide movie existed
I understand why people voted for Trump. It's a stupid reason, backed by blind faith, fear and exploitation, but it makes sense. The people with money know what levers to pull.
They struggle with imposter syndrome. Dumb people always think they’re the tits.
That's called "The Dunning–Kruger effect": people with low ability in a specific area give overly positive assessments of this ability, and highly skilled people tend to underestimate their abilities.
"Wisdom is knowing how much you don't know." - Socrates
Load More Replies..."The tits"? I thought it was "the bee's knees" or "the cat's pyjamas".
Discussing the signs that indicate that a person is of high intelligence, Dr. Robert J. Sternberg noted that for him, intelligence is not about people’s score on a test or how much they impress others with their erudition. “It is about what you do in your life that makes a positive difference to the world at some level.”
How often they are confident in saying "I don't know".
Always believe someone who tells you they are seeking the truth. Never believe anyone who tells you they know it.
True, you can only improve if you accept there is room for improvement
Load More Replies...That was SOP when I worked IT. If you don't know, say you don't know, but follow through. As in, "I'll need to research that and get back to you" and then DO THAT. No reasonable customer should expect you to know the answer to every possible computer / network / hardware problem. We did know a lot, but not everything. There was one newer guy in my department who sat near me and I'd sometimes hear him BS'ing customers rather than admit he didn't know. He didn't last too long.
Reminds me of a wee joke: a specialist knows a lot about very little, an expert knows everything there is to know about nothing...
Load More Replies...When I switched careers into sales (briefly) a very successful sales manager told me if someone asks you a question and you don’t know the answer tell them you don’t know but you will find out, and then go find out! It makes you look honest and relatable. I buy our big ticket items, especially cars and I run into this often. I ask a question and they try to BS thru it. I tell them I’m not signing anything until I get an answer in writing. If they say I don’t know let me go ask so and so I am much more comfortable and trusting.
With my kids I say "I don't know" quite a lot -but I add "let's find out together!" And we google stuff or look in actual books or simply ask ppl who might know. I think it's OK to not know a lot of stuff... it's a way better skill, imo, to know where to find the info to answer your questions.
You will never hear those words uttered by the self-described "stable genius"
Correct. Never trust anyone that can’t admit to a mistake or apologize.I’m sorry if that sounds harsh. 😁
Load More Replies...I used that at work all the time. "I don't know, let's find out". As the boss, the employees respected the fact that I didn't act like some a$$hole know-it-all.
I think it takes a LOT more courage to admit there's somethings you DON'T know!
I consider someone intelligent if they're able to explain something incredibly complicated in simpler and more readily understood terms.
The KISS Principle, "Keep It Simple Stupid." (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/KISS_principle)
I have a theory that almost everything can be explained to a 5 year old, if only you understand the concept yourself.
Yes, this and yet so much academia is about taking relatively simple concepts and conflating them into something overly complicated, convoluted and very dry. I really appreciate someone who can explain something complex in layman's terms without talking down to people or coming across as pretentious.
I get to practise this a LOT with my kids. Just today I've had to explain why people with diabetes can't eat sugar (so much) and how burps and farts are made. My kids are 2.5, 5, and 7 yo. So I gotta explain things in super simple terms. Because I want to give my kids proper answers. Only a few times per year do I use the "I'll explain that when you're X years old"-answer.
The Feynman Principle: You don't know a subject well enough unless you can teach it to a child. Or was that Einstein...?
My son (IQ 143) was very good at that. His last career was writing Instruction books for new military equipment that could be understood and used by 9th grade educated soldiers.
In an interview with Bored Panda, Prof. Sternberg emphasized that “Intelligent people don’t have to talk about how smart they are, or try to use subtle signs to broadcast their superiority. Rather, they are out there making life better not just for themselves, but for others as well.”
Choosing not to argue with someone who's wrong and choosing their own peace of mind over being right.
Mark Twain said something along the lines of "Never argue publicly with a fool; onlookers may not be able to tell the difference.". (I'm too lazy to put down my phone and look up the exact quote.)
That reminds me of a similar quote. "“Never play chess with a pigeon. The pigeon just knocks all the pieces over, sh!ts all over the board, then struts around like it won.”
Load More Replies...Glad to hear this point. Before I form a definitive opinion on something, I will read and listen to all points of view. I’m fine knowing what I conclude is most likely true ( I can change my mind with further information) but 100% will not try to convince someone spouting a narrative as they want so badly to be seen as right, they won’t let annoying facts get in the way.
That's also called a marriage. Sometimes it's better to keep the love instead of proving yourself right on a dumb argument. I have been happily married for 12 years to an extremely intelligent stubborn person.
They know that it is a total waste of their time and that there are better things to do.
YUP. I'm now just trying to learn how to ensure that the other person 'wrongness' is not making me suffer in the future, nor letting them run rampant suffering on others (as far as I can, anyhow) - and just giving the ol 'Yes. I see you think that. Okay! Bye.' aaaand just... done.
They mispronounce less common words.
It means they probably haven’t heard those words spoken much, and they learned the words by reading. They’re curious and self-educated.
Oh, that is an interesting one, and less obvious as the others, I really like that!
Spelt a word out today which was wraith . Thought everyone knew what it meant. Even after spelling it out had to explain what it meant.
Load More Replies...Thank you so much for this one! I am self- educated, and awful at pronouncing certain words or names. I have actually had educated people laugh at me. It makes me really self- conscious in conversation, and I really don't need help in that area.
If educated people laugh at you, they are the stupid ones not you.
Load More Replies...When we were first dating my husband said dissipatate instead of dissapate. I giggled. I tried to ignore it but he kept asking. I politely told him. Then as a joke…now I always say dissipatate.🤦🏻♀️ Also as a joke I started calling Rhinoceros rhinocecerous so when we go to zoos with rhinos people look at me weird when I talk about the rhinocecerouses. My husband calls them that now too. Yes, we are two grown a$$ adults with no children changing the names of animals at the zoo. Ok, mostly me.
I've definitely done this a lot. It helps to be able to read IPA so I can look up the pronunciations in the dictionary 😅
Yes! I had read the word ennuie in an older novel and then randomly saw the word a few other times and thought it was vocalized as 'Eh-New-E'. I late had a co worked tell me it was French in origin and was vocalized as 'On-Way'
could never spell that right, but I learned it from final fantasy sooooo
Load More Replies...This is me 100%. I mispronounce things I can easily spell and/or give the definition of. I was always told it was because I started reading young so everything I see is phonetic until I've been told otherwise.
When being taught to do something new, they care just as much, if not more, about why it should be done a certain way as they do about what needs to be done.
It really bothers me when I have to follow a rule that I genuinely don't understand and the people who make me follow the rule can't explain it either.
I completely agree. I need a 'why' as well as a 'what' in order to remember and be able to apply the rule/ process in other situations.
Load More Replies...This is one I absolutely agree with. I need to know why a certain rule or procedure is done the way it is.
Selfish really(no I'm not highly intelligent). The most efficient way, once learned, is usually the easiest.
I've gone by Bill Gates once saying that if two candidates are equally qualified, he will pick the lazy one as that is the person who will find the most efficient way of doing something. And I like to think he would hire me for this same reason. Work smart, not hard.
Load More Replies...Sometimes you have to tell the "pupil" how to do it even before you can tell them why to do it.
If you understand WHY, you can figure out a solution if something doesn't go according to plan. And don't ever tell me "because we've always done it that way". I will eat you for lunch.
I always try to find a simpler way to do it, not because I'm smart, it's because i'm lazy,
I have an approach to anything new that is "if you tell me I shouldn't do something because it is wrong, I will do it and see what happens. From that I will either understand why you shouldn't do it or learn that it isn't wrong". I always learn far more from my mistakes than my successes, so intentionally making a "mistake" can be hugely beneficial.
“There are a lot of high-IQ people whose main claim to fame is their high IQ or their impressive educational credentials, but they do little with their IQ,” Dr. Sternberg said. “High-IQ societies compete with each other to be more selective in allowing in people whose claim to membership is spending a lot of time solving meaningless puzzles irrelevant to real-world adaptation. It can become a test of narcissism, not intelligence – for bragging rights rather than the ability to adapt.”
They ask really good questions and listen more than they talk.
A guy I grew up with is a rocket scientist for JPL/NASA, and he always asks really good questions and listens more than he talks.
Yes... because they are actually listening with the intent to learn what the other person knows/thinks/feels ... not running a mental filter while the other person's talking that's solely focused on: "Okay, and how can I prove them wrong here? How can I look smarter than this person? How can I immediately argue all of this?"
Back in the Golden Age of Late Night Television, one of the things that always annoyed me about David Letterman is that when interviewing a guest, he would ask a question and then never listen to the answer--you could see that he was already setting up for his next joke. Jay Leno would not only listen to the answer, but if the situation was appropriate, he'd provide the set up to allow the guest to shine by making the joke.
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My freshman college roommate was a mechanical engineer. One of the first nights we were in the dorms, we had pizza delivered. We didn't eat it all, but the pizza box didn't fit inside the dorm fridge. He went all out origami and transformed the box into a smaller, perfectly square box that did fit inside the fridge...in about 12 seconds.
I'm pretty good at math, but not necessarily geometry. My mind was blown.
I spent 35 years in academia between my student/teacher years and he's still one of the three smartest people I've ever met. His ability to "just do it" is dumbfounding to me. His retirement project is transforming his father's 1963 Mercedes convertible into a "hybrid" that has a small diesel engine that runs on vegetable oil along with a totaled Tesla Model S battery pack.
Nothing is more satisfying than watching someone who is really, really good at what they do.
Even more satisfying is if they can teach you how to do it, too.
Load More Replies...That is a true sign of high intelligence. That you can do things, to make things better.
They don't continually need to tell people how intelligent they are.
This is true for everything. The stupid one pretends to be clever, the stingy one pretends to be generous and the wicked one pretends to be a saint.
Yeah. Like when 'common' people do virtue signaling on social media. I get someone rich and famous being public about some large donation. Often they are helping to generate even more donations to whatever cause. But the average kind person who just does some small kindness for another human being doesn't feel the need to post about it on Facebook.
Load More Replies...I come off as an air head most of the time because I have so much bouncing around in my head.
A lot do though. Some intelligent people are prone to rubbish social skills.
The expert continued to point out that our society’s notion of intelligence seems to be somewhat twisted. “Just look at the stupidities uttered by some of our leaders who have degrees from the most prestigious universities in the world and choose to use their intelligence to show they are bozos, pretending to serve others while caring only about how their position leads them to power, resources, fame, or infamy. Unfortunately, many people fall for the show.”
They can adapt their communication style — vocabulary, tone, content, etc — to fit the situation and people they’re talking to, and it seems completely natural.
I disagree. Both my dad, my brother and my son have high functioning autism. All three are exceptional in terms of intelligence, but are useless at understanding social cues.
But it's still a trait that suggests a person is intelligent, even if not all intelligent people have it.
Load More Replies...As an intelligent person my self, this is so true. Very adaptable. I have shocked people when I used "more colorful metaphors" at times. I can be known to cuss a lot, but try my best to keep it clean depending on situation and the people present. It is not about social skills at all. I have no real social skills due to being an introvert (not shy as I say it how I see it when necessary).
Helps in sales when talking with people from different parts of the country. Didn't even realize I was doing it; but it sure works.
Intelligence is not limited to book smarts.
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They're very good at problem solving. Even if it's something they have no experience with they always approach the problem from the right angle.
As long as it's the correct one. And that was acute pun btw.
Load More Replies...I'm a "big picture" person. Boss would tell me "we're doing 'this'", and I'd ask "did you check 'that'? What about 'the other'? Doesn't 'this' also interact with 'something'. Oh, and did you talk to Bob about 'nothing'?" It would delay the project while they dealt with all the posdible issues I brought up that they had missed. My boss said I was being negative when I did that.
Looking at all the things can yes cause problems, but can also show where things can go wrong in the overall. It's not a matter of negativity, but acknowledgement of variables. I do that myself with a lot of stuff. I wind up taking a more neutral stance by hoping for the best, and expecting the worst, and landing somewhere in the middle.
Load More Replies...there are techniques to problem solving that cross platforms. I've done problem solving in IT, hydronic heating systems and power plants. Certain aspects remain the same such as a methodical approach. A simplistic example is not ruling out something basic just because it seems "obvious". I once spent an extra half hour troubleshooting a printer problem over the phone because the customer kept telling me the data cable was plugged into computer 'X'. He didn't actually check, he just told me he did because he "KNEW" it was plugged in there. Computer "X" had been removed for repair and data cable was just laying there not connected to anything. Simple example but also a practical one.
Also they look at things from multiple angles. From there they usually choose what seems the best starting point.
Dry humor. Pulling it off requires an observant, quick wit with a nonchalant delivery that almost downplays its own cleverness.
Like it means their immediate passing thoughts are often profound enough to be very funny without any real effort.
Sometimes people are not sure if I'm joking or if I'm serious. This is hilarious.
I LOVE dry humor in shows / movies. It rarely has the sort of heavy handed foreshadowing that "dumb" comedies have. Also, RIP Bob Newhart.
Upvoted for Bob Newhart. I didn't realize how old he was. We have all the seasons of his show on VHS. LOL.
Load More Replies...Worked as a weighbridge operator, 99% men, lorry drivers, mechanics, fitters, etc, but I could, sometimes, get in a good quip or response and I loved the laughter.
Some people look down on those types of workers, thinking they are not as smart, work menial jobs. But just because someone doesn't have a job sitting at a desk doesn't mean they're not intelligent, and they can be pretty damm funny.
Load More Replies...My mom was a high level genius and had a dark, extremely dry sense of humor. 13 years after she passed I still laugh at some of her comments, many of which I am just getting the joke for the first time. She graduated college at 19 with a bachelor’s in Criminal Psychology (graduated high school at 16). When I asked her why she went to college and got that degree and chose to be a stay at home mom, she said she only studied that to prepare herself for raising me.
Getting together with my husband's family last June for a great niece's graduation. Somehow, we got talking about insurance. Her Mom couldn't remember the word "liability" and was asking - oh, what's that insurance called, and without missing a beat I said "um, motive?"
I've been watching comedian Jimmy Carr on YouTube lately. He's like that.
Sadly, my comedic timing is awful... probably? I'm often ignored, so I don't know (or maybe I just have a hard time admitting I'm terribly unfunny - so their negligence is a polite blessing?). I always admire the comedians who are so quick.
Sometimes people take me seriously because it doesn't sound like a joke, I say it just in a normal tone. I laugh in my head. One time I was in a group of people, I made a joke just for my own amusement. Someone laughed, I looked over and told myself we would be good friends. And so we were. We had so much fun together. Until she moved away.
It seems that people say that actions speak louder than words for a reason, and this list is great proof of that. But the same seems to be true of people who, contrary to the ones described here, don’t possess the qualities characteristic of bright minds. For proof of that, move on to browse the times people at work showed just how stupid some individuals can be or check out the dumbest things these netizens have posted online next.
Understanding/appreciating nuance.
We are of the opinion that many more things should be purple!
Load More Replies...Yes, but this is also a social / EQ skill. I am an example of high intelligence but sadly crappy EQ. I don't always pick up on nuances. It's a mixed bag. I often get very obtuse or subtle jokes. But other times I'm clueless that someone is (pick one - annoyed with me, flirting with me, whatever) even though people with me can spot it.
A lot of it comes down to comfort with uncertainty - the less comfortable we are with holding space for the grey areas or unknowns, the more likely we are to cling to a narrative that provides more certainty and clearly defined black/white, even if it's not accurate. see: conspiracy theorists
When someone can admit a mistake and they know they don’t know everything.
Having been raised well is correlated with above-average gestalt intelligence in adults. There’s a lot more to intelligence than just IQ, and much of it is learned, not innate. Your maximum capacity may be set by genetics, but your experiences are what determines how well you can use it.
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Followed up by an indication that they're willing to learn from the mistake? Priceless. If it's just endless justification/entitlement for the mistake: "It's not my fault" ... and "I had no choice" - when the situation clearly shows that yes, they did have a choice... would point in the direction opposite of intelligent.
I actually got a raise for bringing to the attention of the owner that I had majorly screwed up a client account. I (bookkeeper) inadvertantly billed the customer twice for a $3000 invoice. One file was for the work performed and the other was for postage, but I billed them both since they had different job numbers. I had put her on credit hold and we went back and forth on the double invoice. When I finally realized my mistake, I called her and ate some serious humble pie. She was very gracious about it, but I immediately went and told the owner. He was pretty impressed I didn't lie about it (I guess the previous BK was kind of a nightmare), didn't try to hide it, I just owned up to my mistake and apologized.
Curiosity.
YES! I would much rather read a science magazine than "People" mazagine or other nonsense having to do with celebrities. But I also read Bored Panda, so there's that.
This suggests that you're putting limits around what it's "smart" to be curious about. Don't forget that the study of people and how they interact is of enormous benefit to mankind. People who are curious about that kind of thing should be encouraged just as much as you with your broadly-defined "science magazine."
Load More Replies...I gave my bf a subscription to a history magazine years ago. It is great! Only bad thing is that... I can't find other magazines that I'd like to subscribe to. But I really would looooove to have a magazine come in the post box and be for me. Instead of having to read my bf's magazine. Lol
They’re very observant, sometimes reserved.
It is also sensible, you learn a lot by watching (and I'm not talking about creepy stalker stuff) and observing body language, listening, noticing.
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They are ok with being perceived as "stupid" by asking questions - if we hold back in fear, we'll never truly learn. Plus it's a good way to show others it's ok to question things if you don't understand - better off if we're on the same page instead of hoping things work out without being informed.
Most "problems" that arise are due to someone intimidated into not asking questions/methods and doing it incorrectly.
Or thinking they're so smart they know everything already.
Load More Replies...It is endlessly frustrating when you ask a question... and they consistently will NOT answer. And then... it slowly dawns on you... oh wait - maybe they don't actually have an answer? Argh - just say so!
I would do this in school. I would ask the question everyone was thinking. I took the hot if it was a stupid question
People like to say that there are no stupid questions. I disagree, but i believe it is important to ask stupid questions because you don't know what you don't know. Ask it, learn from it and move on.
At work during staff meetings I'm the only one who asks clarifying questions. Everyone else sits there with a mouth full of teeth and then afterwards they whisper to each other to see who knows what to do. I straight up say, "So do you mean this, or that?" (But we had a narcissist for a boss and sometimes she would tell us vague things just to see everyone look confused. I would state what I thought and she didn't like that because then her little game wouldn't work.) Intelligent people question! (I'm objectively intelligent by means of IQ but trust me, that doesn't mean a person has social skills or emotional intelligence.)
I ask so - called stupid questions, because I like to verify information, and to fully understand a subject. Maybe something is being presented in an unclear manner. Why just assume you know when a couple of questions will clear everything up? Too often people make mistakes through a lack of information, or a failure to understand that information.
I found that out a long time ago (just for reference I am 71), so I started asking the stupid questions at meetings, because no one else would ask. It often turned out that no one knew the answer, proving it was a very necessary question.
They feel challenged rather than threatened by new things, problems, ideas...
But remember: if you think you are, you probably aren't ;-)
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They explain complex topics by using metaphors and analogies.
It's not always helpful. Some people really struggle with this. If you have autism, fir example, you might find it more difficult to have it explained this way.
Depends on the type of autism. If you have language-deficient autism, then yes, figurative language will be problematic. But if you don’t have linguistic difficulties as an autistic person (as is the case with Asperger’s Syndrome, for example), you may actually excel at understanding and using metaphors.
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If someone is actually intelligent, they don’t put down the intelligence of others or make others’ accomplishments seem small. I’ve never met a genuinely intelligent person who feels the need to directly (or even indirectly) hint that someone else is “not so smart.”.
Upvote because Cheetolini just became my new term for him.
Load More Replies...I don't know about that one. Intelligence is just a metric, a number. For some people that number is higher, for some it is lower. Does not mean a less intelligent person is worth less, but you can acknowledge that their IQ is lower.
IQ is a measure of some sorts of intelligence, not a catch- all for how bright someone is
Load More Replies...When I was an honours math major I took classes with people that were frighteningly smart. If they did or saw something that was absolutely genius they referred to it as "clever" as if genius wasn't involved. I went to a lecture by Kip Thorne (won the Nobel for LIGO) where he explained what their plan was to detect gravity waves (35 years ago). One of the smartest men on the planet, as important as Galileo, and he described their idea as clever.
I was born different. I often forget how different until something that's simple for me confounds others. When that happens, I help them if I can, and silently wish that I could grant others the abilities I was born with so that they would never have to feel inferior. You aren't inferior just because you're not exceptional! Please remember that.
They are so aware of their own limitations; that there are always others who are smarter than them,
VERY quick wit.
Not at all interested in proving how smart they are.
Sometimes I respond so quickly with something funny. People have told me I should be a stand-up comedian. I could not do that, my humor is usually in response to something someone says, I can't just be funny for the sake of being funny. It's all responsive humor.
They talk only when they have something to say.
No. One of the smartest guys i know is talking the second he opens his eyes. Also he is jumping from topic to topic and it gets even worse when he is drunk because then he is talking even faster. It is mostly entertaining to listen to him because he has sometimes quite a strange approach on things but he anything else then quiet 🤣
I'm like this and the doctor says it's part of my ADHD/Autism. My husband has to stop me at some point to know which one of the 5 convos is the most important to finish.
Load More Replies...Many smart people are overflowing with things to say. In some cases it’s because they are communicative thinkers (that is, they think best when they try to convey their thoughts to another). In others it may be because they can’t shut off the spigot of thoughts.
Yes, I am often accused of being "too quiet", especially in an office setting. If I don't have something to say, I don't say it.
Don't agree here. It's dependent on the situation, conversation, and who is involved. Silence is an option if your own point of view will not be tolerated by those around you.
I swear, I think there are TOO MANY people who just like the sound of their own voice!
Honestly, after reading their work, debates, talks, podcasts, discussions, arguing, etc, I noticed they often use conditions in their sentences that's not absolute. There's also this saying "only a fool talks in absolute".
Tgey use: I think, many times, often times, usually, it's possible, it could be IF ...
So it appears they talk as if "I can be wrong" or "based on what we know".
If you compare sentences so known unintelligent people they lack these conditions and voices absolutes only.
Might also be a level of education thing. When I was at uni they taught us that we shouldn't use absolutes because new scientific facts might always be found that contradicts what we think we know.
Level of usable intelligence is correlated with quality of education (both formal and self-education). The part that’s genetic is one’s maximum capacity; operative intelligence depends on having it properly stimulated and nurtured. The only apparent exception is those whose baseline starts at a very high level (i.e. prodigies). There’s a certain level at which one becomes able to self-manage one’s own education.
Load More Replies...Unless you are the news. You want to watch out for News media that won't make concert statements or give reliable sources for their information. Any news outlets that can't or won't put their legal necks on the line with what they are saying are not trusting in what they are saying and you shouldn't either.
Load More Replies...I like to remember that the things people took for granted as beyond question a century ago were frequently completely wrong. And many the things we have more or less a consensus on today will turn out to be just as wrong. But we probably won't live to see our own certainties exploded.
I always use this just so that if I'm wrong then no one can make a big fuss about it because I never said I was definitely right
Some young people I've met have a very unnerving confidence to talk as if they are super sure of things.
... only a sith deals in absolutes? Am I remembering a Star Wars thing wrong? Dangit.
Facts can often be interpreted in different ways. And often we don't have all the facts or the facts we have turn out to be poorly sourced or misinterpreted. People had just as many facts in the middle ages. But they didn't necessarily draw useful conclusions from them.
Load More Replies...One thing I’ve noticed is that really intelligent people tend to be empathetic. They’ve quietly analyzed many situations and have thought critically about them.
There are more than one way to be empathetic. TO be able envision a situation they haven't been in but understand how they would feel in the same way can make it easy for them to understand a different viewpoint.
Load More Replies...They pause to think about a novel question instead of instantly blurting out an answer. Sometimes people think it means they've been "stumped" and claim victory. No, they're thinking, analyzing, and formulating a reply.
Sigh... yes... the claiming of victory: "Oh, you have nothing to say? That means I WON! I'm SUPERIOR!" - Not necessarily ... it could really mean... the other person has realized you refuse to entertain/comprehend any other POV/narrative than the one you've already crafted, so they've given up on you. They're just tired, and find you exhausting."
Quality of one’s answer is not correlated to the speed at which it was formulated.
Really funny and depressed.
This is me. I have fun making my therapist wonder if I'm joking or not.
When they take the time to filter through any possible misunderstandings in an argument by asking questions to help them better understand the idea that’s being presented, instead of immediately assuming their first interpretation of the argument is the correct one.
Something that’s always bugged me is when my argument gets misunderstood, and then attacked from angles where supposed “errors” exist, when those errors rose out of the listeners own misinterpretation.
"You're not mad about what I said, you're mad about what you *think* I said."
What's worse is when you're trying to get clarification/another POV to help with understanding... and the other person decides that this means "OKAY, you wanna fight? Come at me bro!!!" and they start getting offended and snippy.
Load More Replies...This has dogged me for my entire life. So often I am misunderstood and accused of something that isn't even in the scope of what I said. When I clarify, often the assumed error is harped on instead of listening. It's... Infuriating, but not unexpected at this point.
This really is a sign of intelligence, but even for intelligent people, this can be difficult if the person is very impulsive or emotional. For example my husband, IQ higher than the Mensa test can measure (really), still jumping to very rash conclusions during arguments and needs to cool down before is able to acknowledge the misunderstanding. But, he also recognises this, and usually if things get heated, he just goes very quiet; not to give "the silent treatment" but because he knows this limitation. BUT, this also drives me mad if there's a misunderstanding that would be explained in seconds, and the argument/bad vibes continuing for hours because he has shut himself down..
Communication is more than a two-way street. It’s a complex cycle of feedback, interaction, and responses. Both parties in a conversation have responsibility in both understanding the message that you were intended to receive and verifying that the other person interpreted your message the way you intended it.
Ordinarily, absolutely. But sometimes it's impossible to do this, because some people just immediately jump to their own conclusions and reject any attempts to clarify. Worse, they think you're trying to inflame things, when you're only trying to explain. There are (were) two people in my life with whom I've given up trying to communicate, precisely because of this. It's exhausting.
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They're storytellers. They craft narratives for themselves and for others that are compelling, that make the world make sense, that invigorate and install a goal, a mission.
Mmm, storytelling... Every night I tell myself a new tale to go to sleep to. I've done that for so long, and I never really thought that was strange growing up.
I have a couple of fictional characters I do things with when I go to bed. Just made up stories of whatever. It's really just a form of medication (Edit MEDITATION. lol go my brain!) in a way. Focus my mind on the stories I am creating rather than on IRL stressors. Helps my brain relax and go to sleep.
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They don’t argue with stupid people.
An intelligent person will generally recognize stupid, which has little to do with an individuals IQ. Stupid is a state of mind and people that are habitually stupid can rarely be reasoned with. A closed mind is like a closed fist, it makes it hard, if not impossible, to catch anything
There's always a catch. Nobody is good (or bad) at everything. One person may be more intelligent and an excellent ball player, and have the worst singing voice ever. Someone else might be not terribly bright, but be an excellent cook.
The most intelligent thing about me is that I KNOW that I cannot sing.
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I usually find that creativity, humor, and verbal acuity are good signs of intelligence
I generally see lack of empathy, low open-ness, and seeing the world in absolutes as signs of low intelligence
Also, I notice many socially inept people tend to consider themselves intelligent almost just because they're socially inept and/or not good at sports. It's as if their ego needs something to value themselves on so they assume they must be smart
It's entirely possible that the "other" guy in your life who makes you insecure is taller, stronger, more charismatic, AND smarter. Such is life
Lastly, people (especially tech people) will often conflate technical/domain knowledge with intelligence which is absolutely not always the case. Yes there is a bare minimum intelligence required to be an engineer etc, but being an awkward senior engineer doesn't mean you're just too smart for normies to understand and lack of a specific domain knowledge has f**k all to do with intelligence.
There is a huge difference between a specific knowledge base and intelligence.
Intelligence is not a single-line-narrow thing. It covers a wide range of ... 'stuff' and much of that has to do with a basic "Are you willing to learn and think" - which can apply to well... everything. I will never deny that the guy I knew who could sleep through Calculus and still magically get an A+ (99% avg, btw) for a final grade is beyond intelligent - in that kind of thing (calculus, maybe analytics?) - but I will also firmly stand by ... that the same guy's absolute inability and unwillingness to understand/accept that breaking commitments/promises consistently is hurtful and inappropriate, makes him simultaneously an absolute idiot.
The ability to ask questions. They know what they know and are aware of what they don't. But they are not threatened by knowledge they don't have but rather excited about learning the new thing.
They have a nuanced perspective and are able to articulate it well. They understand that things tend not to be black-and-white, but shades of gray, and they listen intently to others during a conversation.
Oh, it’s the entire color wheel, plus a few we haven’t discovered yet.
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They get excited sharing their knowledge and talk to people instead of at them.
This probably isn't a 100% guarantee that someone is intelligent but it's something I've noticed more often in intelligent people than in people who are just knowledgeable.
I was sharing something I was excited about, a show on Public Television from the evening before. It was on Fractals and the Mandelbrot set. I was called a nerd, which I did not take as an insult.
I talk at people when it's a discussion of something I'm interested in. I forget to make it a conversation.
The ability to break things down simply.
I have the ability to simply break down, maybe we should team up!
Load More Replies... They understand that as you begin to learn more about a subject, you enter in to this situation where you believe you know far more than you really do. You realize that you know so much more than those who know nothing about that subject, but not that everything you are learning probably has 100 types of nuance and requires deeper understanding.
It's kind of related to the Dunning-Kruger effect - the less you know about a subject, the more you THINK you know, because you don't realize *how much there is to know that you don't.*
It's how you can get people who spend a few minutes on youtube or google, spout a bit of lingo they just learned, and don't realize that *there's a reason it takes 4 years just to get a bachelors in most topics, and many more to become a specialist*.
It's infuriating to those who actually HAVE put in the time of study and experience.
So yeah, a person who can show that they have *some* knowledge of a topic, yet remain humble because they realize that there is always more to know. The more you learn about a topic, eventually you realize just *how much MORE there is to know* and it's important to get through that initial arrogance.
I fell into this myself when I was in my late teens. I became fairly well read on sustainable horticulture and botany in general. I got a job that was pretty advanced, and I was pretty good at it. Yet after a while I realized that my boss... he was like a f*****g *plant wizard*. He could tell you what the weather was like - at night - a week ago - by looking at the way the flowers presented on the tomatoes we grew.
I learned some amazing s**t from him once I got over my ego.
I've worked in my field for 24years, and learn something new every day. When I don't know the answer to a question, I work hard to find it.
Goes hand in hand with - Admitting that you have limits, and being fair/accurate on what they are doesn't mean you're a quitter. It means you're self-aware.
The mark of expertise isn't to know everything there is to know about a subject. It's knowing how much of that is wrong.
Humility in their knowledge.
And when I say that I really mean three key things, first a willingness to not be right, second a lack of judgment when someone else is wrong, and third a willingness to sound dumb.
You'll very often see people get something wrong (or something that isn't wrong but other people think it is) or say something that sounds dumb and then get s**t on by other people for being wrong and then something like fight or flight kicks in and they either double down or just leave. Social media is the worst for this cause it's so easy to nit pick the smallest detail of something or invoke one of the scary logical fallacies on some rando, but the proper response when talking to someone should never be to put them down, and genuinely intelligent people are like this. Instead, they'll hand you the information you're missing so you can get to the right answer.
I have a friend who is a genius.
One thing where it is very clear is when we were learning automation software. (Siemens stuff. Tia Portal, etc.)
Dude taught himself pretty much the entire program in three days just by using the inbuild wiki.
Half of intelligence is critical/lateral thinking and the other half is comprehension. You need to identify what you already know, determine what you need to know, and then how to get there. Identifying the path to knowledge requires you to be attentive and ask the important questions. There is a desired outcome, whether or not you get there, you have intention which focuses your efforts.
With this in mind, I find a subtle sign someone's is very intelligent is when they ask questions and either specify why they are asking or word the question in a way that shows intent. You can clearly tell where they are going with their questions, or if they happen to be asking irrelevant questions, you both figure it out much faster. It helps them get the information they want, but also helps the person answering understand their train of thought and focus their answers.
... and then when you get impatiently cut-off when you're trying to explain the WHY you're asking... sigh.
I find that highly intelligent people have the ability to think in complex hypotheticals while being nuanced.
I find that Wise people have enough patience and forethought to consider longer term things and be considerate in ways that are hard to take into account.
Being able to read people very well. Adjust communication style to communicate most effectively. Also be able to read the room. Sense of humor is in there too.
Isn't that more social skills? A lot of intelligent people suffer from mental conditions like ocd and depression, which make them more introverted or even isolated. You also have those people who are very skilled at hiding their true natures. What you think you see, what you think you know, may be just a reflection on the surface of dark and deep waters.
You summed that up well. I don't feel comfortable in a lot of social situations, and I suffer with depression. I am very skilled at hiding how down and insecure I am.
Load More Replies..... and also understand that no matter how well you read someone and/or communicate - that sometimes, people will treat you poorly **just because** (possibly due to some subconscious thing they're not even aware of), and it's not necessarily anything you're doing. Not great, but... it happens.
Autistic people are not less intelligent. Like the rest of us there are savants, and those who are incapable of any learning. That is why it is a spectrum and not an absolute.
Load More Replies... I worked with a lad who was very like this. He could make any conversation really intriguing and thought provoking, often causing people to reconsider their perspective and position. He was a HR manager that could defuse any situation, helping people mend bridges and resolving issues because he could get both parties to compromise and put aside resentment.
He had IQ and EQ to go a lot further than the role he was in but he was happy and maybe that is another little tid bit of intelligence.
Efficiency and elegance in tasks. Other people are walking and the genius is doing ballet.
I had a job a couple of years ago. Once I got the hang of what I was doing (running a chop saw creating parts for vinyl doors/windows) I started treating it like I was dancing. Made the work much easier for me, and I got more done. Completed that days work, and did the next days stuff as well if possible. Depended on which saw I was working though. At the end I knew how to run most of the saws in the plant. From cutting frames to sashes, and accessories. Wound up working a department for specialty works. More or less alone by the way.
They are funny and can talk about a range of topics.
Yes they can talk about a lot of topics, but not all intelligent people are funny. We can have that dry sense of humor, but more often than not our humor can be taken as insulting or just not funny by others.
They ask good questions. .
I was going to use my vast vast intelligence to form the perfect answer but forgot what we’re talking about.
I’m scrolling through here to see how many of these I match with lol .
Giant head.
I've noticed that intelligent people have minds like working dogs or herding dogs: they have to have a job to do. If their mind doesn't have enough stimulation and structure, or if it lacks a creative outlet, it gets into all kinds of trouble. Some of the smartest people I've known have also been the most prone to anxiety, depression, OCD, etc. It's like the mind turns in on itself, like when a bored dog starts chewing its own fur out.
If I don't have something to do I start to obsessively watch TV shows or movies in foreign languages. I don't know why.
Load More Replies...The most common trait amongst the intelligent is curiosity. The ignorant say, "I don't need to know about this," so they never read. The intelligent want to know about things, even when it has no value and no use for their life or their job.
Sometimes they can learn things for the transferrable skills that they can use in other parts of their life, but again it's understanding that these skills can be used elsewhere which proves their intelligence
Load More Replies...In most cases people just understood the main point of education: How to solve problems one is unfamiliar with. They trained their brains in collecting and filtering information and connecting the dots. This is why education is always of value, even if the topic at hand is "booooorrrriiiiiiinnnngggg".
Yes we do like our non-fiction, but can totally enjoy thought provoking sci-fi and fantasy as well. I love crime stories both true and fictional (Anne Rule, Kathy Reichs). Love fantasy and grew up with many authors works. My favorites are Piers Anthony, Mercedes Lackey, Ann McCaffrey, Kristin Brittain, Marion Zimmer-Bradley and many others.
Load More Replies...And an example from by brother - he was never good at school, struggled in about every subject, a teacher even questioned his mental abilities, and he called himself dumb. But he excelled in just about every strategy-based board game or computer game, and in everyday life, found quick solutions to so many problems etc. He was almost an adult when his dyslexia and adhd got recognised or even considered... (Now, years later, he is an extremely successful entrepreneur!)
A while back, there was a list here on bp about what happened to the smartest kids in people's classes. In so many of the answers, the kid is being described very sweet/nice to everyone. That got me thinking, I've never met an intelligent person that would be the "class bully". It's always the "kind" or "socially awkward" type. Secondly, sense of humour. Well yeah, people like to laugh no matter if smart or not, but I believe if you take a bunch of the most successful comedians, the average IQ among them would be very high. Everyone laughs, but not everyone can make an art form out of it.
Knowing that "being educated" and "being intelligent" are not the same thing.
In my opinion, intelligence means never being stuck in one place or state of opinion, so to speak. Being able to change and evolve alongside the world accompanied by an unquenchable thirst for knowledge is all that’s really required. Processing of information can be taught by parents, education centres etc.
Yeah, but, like, how can we know for sure these are true? Like… do we know if the people who wrote these have any valid way to recognise intelligence? Who was the first person to figure out someone else was more intelligent than them AND how do we know if they were right? And if all the intelligent people think they’re stupid, who the f are *we* to tell them they’re wrong? :p
Your comment with all those good thought provoking questions is a good sign of intelligence in an of itself.
Load More Replies...I've noticed that intelligent people have minds like working dogs or herding dogs: they have to have a job to do. If their mind doesn't have enough stimulation and structure, or if it lacks a creative outlet, it gets into all kinds of trouble. Some of the smartest people I've known have also been the most prone to anxiety, depression, OCD, etc. It's like the mind turns in on itself, like when a bored dog starts chewing its own fur out.
If I don't have something to do I start to obsessively watch TV shows or movies in foreign languages. I don't know why.
Load More Replies...The most common trait amongst the intelligent is curiosity. The ignorant say, "I don't need to know about this," so they never read. The intelligent want to know about things, even when it has no value and no use for their life or their job.
Sometimes they can learn things for the transferrable skills that they can use in other parts of their life, but again it's understanding that these skills can be used elsewhere which proves their intelligence
Load More Replies...In most cases people just understood the main point of education: How to solve problems one is unfamiliar with. They trained their brains in collecting and filtering information and connecting the dots. This is why education is always of value, even if the topic at hand is "booooorrrriiiiiiinnnngggg".
Yes we do like our non-fiction, but can totally enjoy thought provoking sci-fi and fantasy as well. I love crime stories both true and fictional (Anne Rule, Kathy Reichs). Love fantasy and grew up with many authors works. My favorites are Piers Anthony, Mercedes Lackey, Ann McCaffrey, Kristin Brittain, Marion Zimmer-Bradley and many others.
Load More Replies...And an example from by brother - he was never good at school, struggled in about every subject, a teacher even questioned his mental abilities, and he called himself dumb. But he excelled in just about every strategy-based board game or computer game, and in everyday life, found quick solutions to so many problems etc. He was almost an adult when his dyslexia and adhd got recognised or even considered... (Now, years later, he is an extremely successful entrepreneur!)
A while back, there was a list here on bp about what happened to the smartest kids in people's classes. In so many of the answers, the kid is being described very sweet/nice to everyone. That got me thinking, I've never met an intelligent person that would be the "class bully". It's always the "kind" or "socially awkward" type. Secondly, sense of humour. Well yeah, people like to laugh no matter if smart or not, but I believe if you take a bunch of the most successful comedians, the average IQ among them would be very high. Everyone laughs, but not everyone can make an art form out of it.
Knowing that "being educated" and "being intelligent" are not the same thing.
In my opinion, intelligence means never being stuck in one place or state of opinion, so to speak. Being able to change and evolve alongside the world accompanied by an unquenchable thirst for knowledge is all that’s really required. Processing of information can be taught by parents, education centres etc.
Yeah, but, like, how can we know for sure these are true? Like… do we know if the people who wrote these have any valid way to recognise intelligence? Who was the first person to figure out someone else was more intelligent than them AND how do we know if they were right? And if all the intelligent people think they’re stupid, who the f are *we* to tell them they’re wrong? :p
Your comment with all those good thought provoking questions is a good sign of intelligence in an of itself.
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