“What’s Something Subtle That Instantly Gives You Bad Vibes About Someone?” (40 Answers)
When someone or something gives off good vibes, you can immediately tell: a field full of vibrant sunflowers, a home cooked meal with your closest friends, an album that makes you want to move and groove. On the other hand, when a person is radiating bad vibes, it can be easy to tell as well.
Below, you’ll find some of the subtle traits that are immediate signs of bad vibes that Reddit users have recently been sharing online. Take note of any of these behaviors to look out for, and be sure to upvote the ones that make you wary of certain people too.
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How they treat/view animals.
Character is how you treat those who can do nothing for you!
When they try to push God on me and say that things happen because it's the plan from God and I am being strong for God and they will pray for me.
Just.... no. Don't f*****g do that s**t to me. Keep your religion to yourself.
How they treat someone in a service position, wait staff, etc.
Always respect EVERYBODY exactly the same, no matter what their status is.
If you're blasting music in public, I instantly hate you
Same. Who the fvck does that with zero regard for anybody else without being an idiot.
When they don’t like cats. And I don’t mean like “oh I’m just a dog person” I mean like “a cat is just a moving speed bump” kind of person. It gives me “I don’t like relationships I can’t control” and “I don’t respect living things that exist beyond my control” vibes.
I'm a dog person, but I love cats so much. But my love of dogs is immesurable. But I love cats so much that nobody here can comprehend how much. It's just that dogs are... well dogs are just YES YES YES YES YES. And cats are also YES YES YES YES YES but dogs are like, one YES more.
Littering
I littered once when I was small and I still feel very bad about it
The way they view pets.
If they pick up a pet who'll live 60+ years (like some parrots) and then randomly say "lol I'll give it away/abandon/release in the wild" after the poor thing is attached? Big red flag.
Pets can't live properly on the streets/in the wild after domestication. For birds, they would need readaptation to wild settings. And pets can die from heartbreak/depression.
They make jokes at other people's expense, but can't stand it when someone jokes about them.
Treating garbage collectors like they're trash. Mate their job is to literally pick up trash after you.
If the CEO is away for a couple of weeks, you probably wouldn't notice. If the cleaner is away for even half a day, you sure as heck notice. They keep the building from looking like a rubbish tip, and the toilets clean enough to use, and I appreciate the f*ck out of that.
People who incessantly refer to you by name in a conversation. It comes across like some weird sales / cult strategy to engineer fake rapport.
If you have just met each other I've heard it can be a good way to "lock" their name into the ol brain cells but only early on in the conversation not through the whole thing. But I will point out it has NEVER worked for me. I can't remember my own nieces or nephews names without difficulty let alone a stranger..🤣
If they quickly bring their religion into s conversation
Jesus never said, "Harass people into believing in Me." If I am going to mention my religion, I am careful never to start with the other person's spiritual condition and I'm hyper-aware of body language that tells me I shouldn't continue when, to be polite, their mouth might not say so. I think Christians forget that God gave human beings free will and we have to respect others' right to believe how they want (or don't want). I'll give you the Gospel if you want it, but otherwise, I'll find another way to connect with you that is more palatable to both of us.
Religion is like a penis. It's fine to have one. It's fine to be proud of it. It's not fine to wave it around in public or ram it down children's throats.
Whenever there's a large friends/family gathering at my house, there're three forbidden discussion topics: religion, politics and fútbol.
I immediately shut my ears off at the first mention. They can talk that talk with the other church people all they want. But they need to learn to temper it when they’re around a more diverse crowd, many of whom may take great offense at it, or like me, be instantly turned off by it.
This should be above the one of "when people say that they pray for me", this is annoying, the other post is just kindness in their own way and whoever don't see it isn't a better person of religious one
Someone once told me that I HAD to get married as I was living in sin. I told that person that I do not believe in any religion, their rules do not effect me. They countered with, You can't argue with God!. I replied, I can and I will! Present him....
Had to ghost and block someone because they invalidated my boundaries on this issue.
»Good afternoon, we would like to talk about our Lord and Savior.« ••• »You mean the Jenna Haze Gospel written with lube ink on kitchen paper with dried residues of a sticky liquid? Come in.«
When they’re far too pushy with questions and don’t leave you alone despite you making it super obvious that you don’t want to answer their questions.
I just had a scary version of this happen. it's not ok. just respect the no, just respect the boundary
Someone who knocks on my bedroom door and opens it immediately instead of waiting for me to answer it
When they don’t acknowledge that you held the door open for them. Not even a small smile or head nod.
I just let go of the door. If it hits them, so be it. I'm not your doorman.
Small lies. It can be anything. What they ate the night before, when they came home, their favorite color. The smaller the lie is, the more suspicious the person becomes to me.
They ask you something and start talking over you before you are done or before you even have a chance to start.
I know this can happen for someone who is ADHD or ASD, but those cases it's usually pretty easy to tell that they are just distracted or overexcited and not intentionally dismissive of you. The red flag is for someone who just genuinely does not give a s**t what your answer was going to be in the first place.
I know someone like this. When they do it, I just walk away. They obviously only want to talk about themselves or push their opinion, not really interested in a conversation with you.
That whole compliment but it’s an insult thing and then they laugh it off as a joke
Like wtf is your problem
If they don't treat people under their authority with respect.
You can delete the words "under their authority" and it should still be true.
In a conversation, never ask you a single thing about you or your opinion
Talking c**p or making fun of/nitpicking everyone that walks by.
I just met you. Don't call me honey, baby, darling, or anything like that.
If they're always the "good guy" when they tell stories about bad situations.
Head to toe screaming designer brands for some reason rub me the wrong way.
Sorry.....but if I'm gonna wear your rubbish items, you better pay me for being a walking billboard!!
Using their phone too much during group meals
Or at all. Shut the phone off and let everything go to voicemail. If there’s an important call you can’t miss, excuse yourself from the table to take the call in private, ffs!
“You can Trust me”
Nope, if you gotta TELL me that with words, nope.
Gossip about other people.
If they do it about others, they’ll do it about you.
Sense of Entitlement .
Standing too close. The definition of personal space varies by culture, but even so so, most people quickly pick up the correct distance for social interaction. Someone who does not either is not paying attention or is pervy.
Obsessing about how other people eat their food. Particularly getting annoyed at plain eaters. Like, eat your own food and mind your own damn business. How someone else eats isn't going to affect your food. I've never met someone who does that who didn't turn out to be a d**k
The only time I obsess about other people eating, is when they are loud chewers. It physically makes me wanna gag
When they don’t rerack their weights or wipe down the equipment at the gym.
no remark necessary, but pity the poor attendant that has to police them !
People who obviously know you are next to be served at the bar but order anyway. It can happen by accident, but sometimes you just think d**k.
When I worked in a bar, I pay attention to who's next in a queue and I would purposely serve them last.
The way they treat, or talk about, pets or animals is a good way to judge character.
And another is how they treat their belongings.
Example: Knew a guy who wouldn’t hang up his jacket. Just drop it on the floor or some furniture.
Same with his phone and stuff, he’d have a new phone every week because he kept dropping it or casually throwing it onto tables.
The disregard for the value of things just bugged me.
If you don’t value your own stuff, how can you value other people’s belongings. Ya know?
They call me "friend" right off. Pal, or buddy is almost as bad.
They're stood naked in my kitchen by the open fridge drinking my coconut milk straight from the carton.
I have a friend who's a psychiatrist, he says it's psychiatrist lore to always beware of men with yellow tinted glasses lenses.
When they take but never give. Personally I believe friendship should be as equal and balanced as possible but if a friend can't even meet you a quarter of the way? They ain't your friend.
How they drive especially on the highway.
Can’t stand people who weave in and out of lanes going 20 over thinking the interstate is their personal Indy 500
Saw one of those sorts on my way home yesterday. Going 75 in a 35, weaving between cars and taking dangerous blind turns. Naturally it was a red sports car that looked like it probably cost at least six digits to buy.
When they park in the fire lane to run into the grocery store or dry cleaners or whatever, especially if it's in a parking lot where only one car can get around them at a time.
We love to see that-- we break their windows, run deliberately drippy 2" hoses through, then have them cited, and impounded. Dont mess with FireFighters
When you share meaningless info about you or someone and they make it your or their defining quality. Basically they put you and other people in a box.
Another one is when they start “playfully” roasting you too early on in a connection. That’s for close people and we aren’t anywhere near that.
When you only know them for a minute and they already start getting super personal
Oh gosh, I have trouble knowing what the boundaries of conversation are sometimes and I tend to overshare. (I have less trouble in my native language, English.) I think part of me just wants to shock some Germans, who are usually a lot more formal until you get to know them.
If they talk bad about homeless people
if the puppers dislike them I listen
How they react to a line or a restaurant wait. Huffing, eye-rolling--they don't go full Karen, but you can tell they're REALLY annoyed that Their Specialness has to wait their turn like everyone else.
It appears that 80% of German women are called Karen! People really like to demonstrate their annoyance here, I find. In Britain we keep it in but complain about it afterwards!
Asking the race of the people in your story when you are talking about something that has absolutely nothing to do with race. Also saying things are racist when they aren’t and using racial slurs.
When someone doesn’t listen to you. As in actually HEAR what you’re saying. It’s one thing if they don’t understand how you’re feeling and you need to clarify. It’s another when they’re blatantly ignoring you because they’re being selfish or defensive.
Cut into the middle of a conversation, not even acknowledging you were talking or there.
when they have a weird hatred for kids, and im not talking about not wanting any. i mean straight up despising and in some cases threatening to harm children cause of their dislike for them.
Can’t give anyone a compliment without immediately s**t talking under their breath
Whenever I've met someone and we go out to eat or just eat snacks at home, and they don't clean up after themselves. Like I mean, just leaving trash on the table and going to bed without thinking about it. Those people are usually the last people to take responsibility for their actions.
Edit: I don't mean being forgetful, I mean like refusing to clean stuff up, sorry for the vague explanation.
Elevator eyes.
That's when someone looks you up and down. Like a woman looking at another woman's outfit/appearance from head to toe. Super judgmental.
And if it's a man, super creepy and gross.
Acting like only one half of a couple exists
Flip side: If a male friend includes your girlfriend in the conversation, he is not necessarily trying to get into her pants. (Unless maybe he's a transvestite.)
They enjoy making you feel uncomfortable or smile when asking awkward questions.
Some people smile or laugh in awkward situations. My sister and I burst out in hysterical laughter at our dad's funeral for example.
Not being a reliable narrator and believing your assumptions as facts.
Small exaggerations or telling stories from your perspective once in a while are fine but seemingly being unable to frame your perspective and feelings separate from the rest of the world is concerning. My sister will often state other people's thoughts or feelings she believes as if they are fact. Needless to say she can't be relied on for a trust worthy depiction of events, even in the most low stake scenerios
Intelligent people are happy to be better informed about things, however they will research/fact check first before correcting themselves. They will also freely admit, after they finish researching/fact checking, that their prior understanding was wrong. What they absolutely do NOT do is double down on their wrong information.
45 minutes until I'm scheduled to quit work, and you're stressing me about working faster.
thank you for the f**k ups I made from the stress, today I know better than yesterday.
A married male coworker who knows you are also married and yet keeps making random sexual comments towards you.
When this happens, it's called Sexual Harassment, and you need to go to HR.
They interrupt multiple times when it's your turn to tell a story, or explain something.
edit: I have aspergers and ADD. I'm quite aware of how difficult it may be to tame these urges to do so. My comment is more directed towards those who are narcissistic, fake, or micro-controlling as a behavior. Thank you for all the further comments, I hope I didn't offend anyone from any misunderstanding.
Anyone that knocks on my door with a clipboard or wearing a suit holding a book.
When they have a habit of telling other people what to do, usually disguised as a request, but it's framed in a way that makes it seem unreasonable to say no.
For some reason these same people are usually rolling in $$$
Their eyes, and before you say there's no possible way you can tell someone's character by just their eyes.
It hasn't failed me yet.
Lack of personal space or maintaining direct eye contact too long.
Honestly, some people are way too into themselves. Confidence is great, but at some point you gotta remember you're around other people. Gross.
Opening up too quickly. Like you see someone for a 2nd time in your life and they start sharing way too personal stuff out of the blue.
I can usually read people quite well, so it always freaks me out when I meet a person and there is... nothing. Just a blank slate with a smile painted on.
Sometimes they turn out to be great people, other times they end up being total pricks.
But it's strange and slightly worrying when they don't project anything.
When they talk about how people spoil their kids and they are strict.
I feel that statement 2 b true. Has anyone ever been some place and the kid is pitching a fit while do nothing 2 correct them? I blame the parents! My kid ALWAYS behaved when in public.
Ignoring their kids because they are having fun. Not to the point of calling CPS.....just more like, they'll go running if the kid screams but won't be aware enough to stop it in the first place.
Boasting about themselves. Shows low self esteem.
And if they have low self-esteem that's their fault? Usually not! A bit of compassion is good.
Trying to stand in your blind spot
are you ok? because i don't think i have ever known where another person's blind spot is???
they’re “too nice”, apparently something people don’t really pick up on (hence the subtle) but i always have and i always end up being right about them in the end
There’s what I call a “nasty-nice” tone of voice and attitude. If you’ve ever been in the receiving end of it, you can recognize it at once.
Dirty hands/fingernails if they are not in a trade where that would be normal.
If they drive a Kia Soul. I’m not joking. I’ve been burned 3 times now by people who drive them.
Same vibe with Renault Clio owners. More than 5 times, they had a problematic personnality. I call it ''the car for people without imagination ''
Sounds cliche but their energy, and facial expressions, Ik facial expressions are not that great to go off but it's just something I've observed rolling eyes attitude face that's beneath Me face ugh I'm too good for this world face I've just seen this alot with other women in particular.
I’ve also noticed a lot of people with really hard and mean looks on their faces. I don’t mean resting b***h/bastard face (hey fellow Pandas, we can say bastard!). I mean someone who looks like they’d cut you for just looking in their direction. You know, if you have to look like that to survive in your neighborhood, fine. But when you go into other people’s neighborhoods, where you don’t have to look that way, just try to soften it a bit, or you’ll unnecessarily and unintentionally scare TF outta people.
Never share anything or are very hesitant to share, stingey
If they say their ex “is a f*****g psycho”
I don’t need to know, & you probably drove her *to that!
My ex is a psycho but I don’t rant about him, or mention it to others asides from my gf’s
Someone who smile and bubbly all the frigging time.
It’s always been a front and facade hiding the real true self behind, which is just a normal human being with flaws.
But the facade itself is also a sign that the person have a mental problem dealing with some form of negativity. Something like either wanting to please or have a false believe that no one likes a sad individual…etc.
Okay so now we have a problem with people smiling. Sometimes the only way to get through a rough patch is fake it till you make it. And even if the person has mental health issues doesn’t mean they don’t deserve a friend
I don't have anything that will add to this post. I just wanted to share a story. Yesterday, I noticed that a toad had dug himself a hole in a basket of wildflower seeds I had planted, underneath a bleached turtle shell that I found by the creek in the woods. I took some pictures and sent them to my Mom. This morning, I thought he had vacated, but then I saw the soil twitch. I saw him in his hole again this evening. It's after midnight and he's out now, but I hope he comes back.
Thank you!! I would like to see BP post 50 of these stories instead.
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I think we just saw this post in at least a couple of other lists, very recently.
If they proudly announce they support individuals known to be misogynistic/racist/divisive twatwaffles, I'm out.
Men who use a crushing grip when shaking hands. My dad never really imparted too much by way of practical advice before he died when I was 14, but on a strangely specific occasion, he taught how to deploy a firm, not crushing, handshake. He also noted that it was rude to use more force than absolutely necessary. I have found in my journey through life that men who employ a crushing grip are, generally speaking, not to be trusted.
im wondering if anyone that posted these has anyone significant/a partner in their life or friends or anything, cause literally they want to live in a bubble and have someone that is the most vanilla sim-like person to talk to, I feel like they would beat a lil old granny type lady to death for smiling and saying "morning sweetie, have a good day!"
A few of mine: Getting angry and belligerent with you because they don't like your favorite sports team. Waiting impatiently for the store to open then buying something minor like a quart of oil or an air freshener. Coming into the store 30 seconds before closing and saying "I made it". One more store one. Coming into the store on a holiday and asking how come I don't have the day off. Worse when you're buying something minor like a quart of oil or an air freshener.
OMG. I had the employee who had to comment on every single thing I ate, like #33. It drove me insane. I'm a Celiac so I have to eat a gluten free diet and his wife just happened to eat gluten free for other medical reasons, so he was constantly bringing that up. But even beyond that, he had to comment every single day on what I ate for lunch. It was to the point where I wanted to scream, "Donnie, why the f- do you care that I'm having tamales for lunch today? How does this affect your life? Why do you even notice? Leave me alone." Ugh, he was so incredibly annoying.
People who are to nice or warm up to me too quickly. I'm a decent enough person, but if you're convinced that I'm the bestest person you've ever met and we're going to be best friends after talking to me for a few minutes, either you're playing me, you have boundary issues, or both. Not to be confused with outgoing, extroverted people who just want to hang out with everyone, but still keep a healthy emotional distance from strangers.
This makes me think of an exchange from the movie "Barfly:" Wanda: "I hate people. Do you hate people?" Henry: "No...but I seem to feel better when they're not around."
This list keeps reoccurring every few days under a different headline. I upvote only Jeremy James' story here. 😁🐸🐢💝
BP loves recycling content. this thread usually appears after their bash the USA thread.
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bruh, every BP thread is a repost. The internet is done, everything has already been said,. we're just reposting content until the world ends in a few months.
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When someone makes their sexuality their main "thing". I don't want to know what you do with other consenting adults.
I don't have anything that will add to this post. I just wanted to share a story. Yesterday, I noticed that a toad had dug himself a hole in a basket of wildflower seeds I had planted, underneath a bleached turtle shell that I found by the creek in the woods. I took some pictures and sent them to my Mom. This morning, I thought he had vacated, but then I saw the soil twitch. I saw him in his hole again this evening. It's after midnight and he's out now, but I hope he comes back.
Thank you!! I would like to see BP post 50 of these stories instead.
Load More Replies... I think we just saw this post in at least a couple of other lists, very recently.
If they proudly announce they support individuals known to be misogynistic/racist/divisive twatwaffles, I'm out.
Men who use a crushing grip when shaking hands. My dad never really imparted too much by way of practical advice before he died when I was 14, but on a strangely specific occasion, he taught how to deploy a firm, not crushing, handshake. He also noted that it was rude to use more force than absolutely necessary. I have found in my journey through life that men who employ a crushing grip are, generally speaking, not to be trusted.
im wondering if anyone that posted these has anyone significant/a partner in their life or friends or anything, cause literally they want to live in a bubble and have someone that is the most vanilla sim-like person to talk to, I feel like they would beat a lil old granny type lady to death for smiling and saying "morning sweetie, have a good day!"
A few of mine: Getting angry and belligerent with you because they don't like your favorite sports team. Waiting impatiently for the store to open then buying something minor like a quart of oil or an air freshener. Coming into the store 30 seconds before closing and saying "I made it". One more store one. Coming into the store on a holiday and asking how come I don't have the day off. Worse when you're buying something minor like a quart of oil or an air freshener.
OMG. I had the employee who had to comment on every single thing I ate, like #33. It drove me insane. I'm a Celiac so I have to eat a gluten free diet and his wife just happened to eat gluten free for other medical reasons, so he was constantly bringing that up. But even beyond that, he had to comment every single day on what I ate for lunch. It was to the point where I wanted to scream, "Donnie, why the f- do you care that I'm having tamales for lunch today? How does this affect your life? Why do you even notice? Leave me alone." Ugh, he was so incredibly annoying.
People who are to nice or warm up to me too quickly. I'm a decent enough person, but if you're convinced that I'm the bestest person you've ever met and we're going to be best friends after talking to me for a few minutes, either you're playing me, you have boundary issues, or both. Not to be confused with outgoing, extroverted people who just want to hang out with everyone, but still keep a healthy emotional distance from strangers.
This makes me think of an exchange from the movie "Barfly:" Wanda: "I hate people. Do you hate people?" Henry: "No...but I seem to feel better when they're not around."
This list keeps reoccurring every few days under a different headline. I upvote only Jeremy James' story here. 😁🐸🐢💝
BP loves recycling content. this thread usually appears after their bash the USA thread.
Load More Replies... Let me introduce you to a little site called "Bored Panda".
Load More Replies... bruh, every BP thread is a repost. The internet is done, everything has already been said,. we're just reposting content until the world ends in a few months.
Load More Replies... When someone makes their sexuality their main "thing". I don't want to know what you do with other consenting adults.
