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50 Times People Were Shocked By What Unhinged Things Their MIL Just Said To Them
As Dr. Judith Joseph, a board-certified psychiatrist and researcher, shared on Luke Coutinho's podcast, she sees the mother-in-law syndrome in clients not just from the United States, but also from Latin America, the Middle East, Europe, and Africa. Across cultures, the root cause is often the same—blurred boundaries, generational trauma, and unspoken expectations around control, respect, and hierarchy.
To get a better understanding of what this looks like in everyday life, Reddit user Magnoliabluebell_ asked everyone on the platform to share the most unhinged things their MILs have ever said. The replies they’ve received show that while the details may change from one family or culture to another, the emotional weather pattern is eerily familiar.
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#1
It has to be the time when she told us that she *will* be raising our baby and if I'm a good little girl, she may see her way into letting us visit
We were firmly in our 40s, this was going to be our one and only after 20 years and the baby was so very much wanted by my husband and I. There was no way on this green earth I was just going to blindly pass off my baby for someone else to raise.
The Other Guest 1 day ago
And that's how you lose all unsupervised visits with your grandchild. Or possibly all visits, period.
Michael Largey 15 hours ago
And very stupid strategy. If mil had cheerfully offered to help out with the child care when needed, she might have been welcomed with open arms, especially if both parents would be working. But she let them know right up front that this was all about her, not the baby.
Crystalwitch60 19 hours ago
If your both in your 40,s how bloody old is the monster in law 😳cos she’s deluded needs a nursing home FAST well away from your precious baby xx
Betsy S 14 hours ago
Grandma could be late 50's. Still very vital and energetic.
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#2
My first baby was a super preemie, 26 weeks. NICU for 116 days. Murphy’s law baby the entire stay. MIL called me one morning and said “stop going to the hospital! If you stop going, my son will stop going because he shouldn’t have to go through this with THAT baby!”
I cussed her so bad she showed up at NICU waiting area with food for us. I dumped it in the trash in front of her and walked away. DH told her to go home. Thirty two years later we are still VLC.
Glen Ellyn 1 day ago
MIL has been nominated for the Nobel Witch Prize. 🏆 That's witch with a capital B. 🧙🏼♀️
TACO Don's Authentic TexMex 1 day ago
I do not support violence. But sometimes violence is understandable
Lara Verne 12 hours ago
"That baby" did youmean yor son should be s**t father and not care for his son?
Kate Johnson 12 hours ago
Yes, seriously f off with that nonsense! No room in my life for that woman.
trevor horn 6 hours ago
MFB was a SP, 26 weeks. NICU for 116 days. MLB the entire time. MIL called... ISRAA* *if still readable - add abbreviations
Crystalwitch60 19 hours ago
Very low contact , ,s***m that would be no contact ,and hiring a hit man territory!! How evil is that mil ,
#3
Me in my early 40’s trying for a second child In the midst of my 8th failed IVF egg collection & two failed pregnancies, she tells me “having an only child is the cruelest thing a mother could do”. Then, when finally and amazingly pregnant, she tells me “most IVF children have neurological problems”.
Vile shrew.
Roxy222uk 15 hours ago
Witch isn’t an insult, it’s a spiritual path. I’m sure you didn’t know. We have friends that are literally the village witch.
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Stardrop 1 day ago
i'm an only child. while it does suck, it is by FAR the least cruel thing a parent could do.
BeesEelsAndPups 6 hours ago
My response: Huh. It's that why you're this way? I didn't know they were doing IVF in hell back in the 1890s.
Kate Johnson 11 hours ago
I'd say, "Maybe it's time for a trip to the neurologist. You're starting to sound senile."
g6fmzpp8d7 40 minutes ago
unfortunately there are many studies that support her on the increase in neurological issues in IVF babies, especially with geriatric parents (over 35- clinical term not mine!)
SchadenFreudian Psychology 10 hours ago
I have two fantastic cousins who were conceived by IVF. No neurological problems for either of them.
#4
My MIL was massively Bipolar and had separation anxiety. I acted as her caretaker off and on for over 8yrs. When my ex left me for another woman I began making arrangements to move back to my home state as the only people I knew in that state were my ex's family and his then best friend. I warned my FIL ahead of time so we could deal with her issues beforehand.
My MIL ended up finding out that I was leaving and broke my arm by throwing a chair at me. My ex's now former best friend helped me move out that same day. As we were taking out the last of my belongings she threatened to hurt herself with a pair of scissors. My FIL encouraged me to leave and told me that he'd take care of things. Both my MIL and FIL ended up having to go to the E.R. after she hurt herself and my FIL. Despite being blocked on everything and living over 3000 miles away she kept attempting to contact me for the next 2yrs. I still have nightmares about that woman.
M Whee 15 hours ago
She literally is, and should be getting professional help if she is this dangerous.
Load More Replies... Spencer's slave no longer 1 day ago
This is a dangerous situation for everyone and the poor woman really should be sectioned. Fatal injuries cannot be undone.
SchadenFreudian Psychology 10 hours ago
That MIL and her son are horrible people. I’m glad the FIL seemed to be a decent human being. And I’m glad OP was able to get back to their home state.
#5
She told me I was a terrible hostess when they visited and we didn’t take them out to make the most of their time. For context, we were stationed in Germany at the time, and her and my FIL bought tickets against our request to meet our newborn. They landed in country the day we were discharged from the hospital so my husband had to drop us off at home to drive 2 hours to pick them up from the airport.
I’m sorry my unplanned C-section was inconvenient for her plans to be a tourist /s
And no, they didn’t come to be helpful or all the nice things I hear family members doing for a post partum mom. lol.
Mel in Georgia 15 hours ago
Extremely narcissistic and selfish behavior. What's wrong with these people??
Science Nerd 14 hours ago
Husband did not have to drive to pick them up. They chose to fly in so they can also choose to find their own way for the last 2 hours.
Kate Johnson 11 hours ago
They were lucky it wasn't me, I would have told them to head right back home and told my husband not to pick them or or let them n the house. MY HOUSE MY RULES!!
#6
3 months after I had a stroke. I’m still using a walker to help me get around.
She told me to just get over it already.
Michael Largey 15 hours ago
Walkers are usually lightweight and easy to swing but quite sturdy. Just an observation.
Vinnie 5 hours ago (edited)
"Oooooops, I just got over it... your foot, I mean.... Oh stop your whining and just walk it off."
Load More Replies... Roxy222uk 15 hours ago
Having worked in care I’ve a few stories. One of my favourite ones about a mishap with walking frame (sadly I wasn’t a witness) was a resident of a care home chatting with a careworker in the corridor. The resident got very animated with their story, and somehow, while gesturing, managed to lift the walker right in the air and pin the careworker against the wall. Then the two of them were stuck, because the resident couldn’t take their weight off of the walker and the careworker couldn’t slide out because the spaces between the bars and the feet were two slim.
SchadenFreudian Psychology 10 hours ago
Since MIL is older than OP, she may need a walker herself in the future. I hope OP reminds her of this.
Chris Jones 9 hours ago
People do not, necessarily, reap what they sow. If only. If they did then rapists and murderers would all be locked up, but they're not. Many, many are never caught or punished and are happy with their lives. People need to stop being so bloody naive.
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Similar situation - I had made mention to my wife about having a second child and my MIL chimes in from across the room with “oh no. Y’all are not having a second one.” I was absolutely speechless that someone else thought they could tell me how many children I can have.
The Starsong Princess 1 day ago
That’s only valid if the rest of the sentence is “while you are living in my house and expecting me to support you and provide childcare.” I do know someone who said that to her daughter and son in law.
Shelli Aderman 1 day ago
The only sane response to all of these evil folks is clearly, “… And the horse you rode in on! 🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕
Crystalwitch60 19 hours ago
Ah hell to the no monster in law , get out my house !! N stay out !! Doors >>>>>>> that way don’t bloody slam it on way out ,
Crissy Newbury 9 hours ago
My MIL kinda did this. Because she only had the one, she thought I should only have the one. When I did have my second son, she barely acknowledged him.
#8
" my husband and I have been speaking about it the last few months, and I just wanted you to know that we have accepted it the best we can, and feel it's OK for you to have this baby "
Thank God i had her majesty's permission, holding her in with keegal exercises until she could walk out wanted by these people was presenting a challenge for me.
#9
This was said by fil, but mil said absolutely nothing!
My hubby is an only child. We went over to their house to tell them that he had cancer. His Dad said "well, you won't get any sympathy from me!".
Kate Johnson 11 hours ago
Cool, good to know. You can expect the same from us. We won't be contacting you again.
David Morgan 14 hours ago
Does the FIL think you can catch cancer? In the same way that you are more susceptible to catching a cold if you are cold and wet? Is this some sort of judgement on a lifestyle or just total misunderstanding of medical science?
Megalodon Meg 10 hours ago
If you knew anything about actual witchcraft you'd know Lucifer isn't cruel.
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When I had my 2nd baby, she told me that PPD was not a real thing. She was actually mad at me for being so emotional
It took her oldest son (my husband's brother) to have a long talk with her for her to be civil with me. She still doesn't believe it to this day... Even though I'm taking medication right now for severe PPD after having my 4th baby.
panther 1 day ago
Why keep having children if it keeps having a negative impact on your mental health?
Siege Rook 12 hours ago
Seriously. This. All day long. The effect pregnancy has on women - as well as PPD - should not be trvialized or underestimated... NOR SHOULD THE EFFECT THOSE HAVE ON THE SPOUSE. Hers must be a saint. One round of PPD coupled with PMDD was enough for us, and we guaranteed we'd never have a third.
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Michael Largey 15 hours ago
"How about BMILD (B***h Mother In Law Depression)? That's sure real!"
#11
I terminated a pregnancy after tests showed a fatal chromosome disorder. "Oh, that's too bad, I was looking forward to being a grandmother!"
(I have had a much easier time dealing with my MIL since a therapist friend told me that her emotional development probably stalled out when she got pregnant with my husband as a teenager. Now I only expect the level of emotional maturity you'd get from a 17yo and our relationship has been much improved.).
#12
My husband (31M) and I (31F) eloped in October. We showed MIL photos from elopement on Christmas. Her only comment to us directed toward me : "You look like a witch." I'm done with her.
tameson 11 hours ago
Don't insult witches that way, The ones I know are all kind people.
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Binky Melnik 6 hours ago
I think MIL knows whereof she speaks, as she seems to be an expert in witchery.
Load More Replies... Crystalwitch60 19 hours ago
Oi leave us witches outta this !! we are lovely people , n look lovely to !! me thinks mil was hacked off at not being able to go ,
Lady Eowyn 11 hours ago
I don't believe you are a witch, any more than you're an empath or non-judgmental.
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"I just don't understand how she's getting any nutrients with that breast milk, you're so skinny."
About my 17-pound 4-month-old daughter.
Roxy222uk 11 hours ago
I rarely agree that something’s down to jealousy, but I suspect that might be an influence here.
Load More Replies... Roxy222uk 11 hours ago
That’s someone that has NO idea how breåst milk works. The whole point is that if food cannot be found instead of the baby dying (as with, for example, baby birds) the mother’s body can continue to support the baby until things look up again. Her body weight has nothing to do with anything.
Lara Verne 12 hours ago (edited)
My cousin has 4 years old daughter. Since kid was born, cousin's grandmother thinks that kid is fat and trying to get cousin to put her daughter on a diet. Kid is not overweight, and never had been.
Min 10 hours ago
My older brother was a shockingly skinny baby and toddler, like to the point that the doctor would interrogate my mom about what she was feeding him. I was normal-sized baby and my mom was quite worried about how "chubby" I was. When she brought her concerns to the doctor, he had to explain to her that that's what babies are supposed to look like. 🙄
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Ali 12 hours ago (edited)
My sister's MIL said all in one breath- "you don't know better than science, why do you think your breast milk is good enough to feed a baby, you should use formula or he will never grow. Why is the baby so overweight? He is growing too fast" Luckily when I couldn't help giggling, my BIL joined in , so my sister didn't feel too bad.
Daisydaisy 22 hours ago
... and science has proven that breast milk from thin women has no nutrients whatsoever
Crystalwitch60 19 hours ago
Ok body shaming is sick twisted and down right BULLYING !! words stick , ,despite that saying sticks n stones may break my bones but words can never harm me YES YES YES they very much to f kin burn ,n they cause a lot of harm to !!
Lady Eowyn 11 hours ago
Why do you always leave your punctuation marks - when you actually use them - floating in midair rather than next to a word? There is a word "and," you don't have to keep using the letter "n."
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“Why do you need her when you have me?” — said to my husband while gesturing to me and crying hysterically.
tresgatos72 13 hours ago
"Because A) she's my WIFE, which means I get to have śéx̌ with her, and B) EMOTIONAL INCEST IS GROSS!" Then go NC.
Crystalwitch60 19 hours ago
To get away from YOU !, to be my own man ,n to have a lovely HAPPY life !
#15
While I was nursing my 4-month old daughter:
“I hope she doesn’t turn out gay because she’ll go straight to hell. But she is beautiful.”
“I know she won’t take a bottle, but I go home and cry because I can’t bottle-feed her.”
I have soooo many of these.
Teutonic Disaster 10 hours ago
Oh, so that's how lesbians are made! I guess gay guys were bottle fed, then? What about bi people? Bit of both, huh? /s
Dragons Exist 9 hours ago
There's an infamous Quora post, about a guy asking if his daughter being breastfed will "make her a lesbian"
Load More Replies... Michael Largey 15 hours ago
People who threaten me with hell are just pointing me to a place where I will be eternally safe from them.
Anne Roberts 6 hours ago
If she "turns out gay" you'll love her regardless because she is your child. Grandma can get lost!
#16
I had just injured my shoulder and was facing potential need for surgery (we were waiting to find out). I also happened to be in between jobs. I was lightly searching for jobs, but being unable to move my arm, I wasn’t exactly too focused on finding a job, I was more focused on what I was going to do if I ended up needing serious surgery (in which case I wouldn’t be able to work a job anyways).
She comes over and asks how my job search is going, and just seemed pushy about the idea of me making sure I got a job. I asked her “don’t you understand why I might not be prioritizing a job right now? I might be needing a very serious surgery soon.” She literally says to me “well I guess it’s just a matter of how we grew up. I grew up on a farm where we just worked through our injuries.”.
CalamityOne 1 day ago
*wonders why so many farmers have crippling, debilitating issues later in their lives* /s
Daisydaisy 22 hours ago
"Worked through our injuries" 😂😂😂 - and then, just like that, our missing limbs or digits grew back better than ever! It's all to do with attitude and hard work!
patricia patricia 22 hours ago
It was different in the past, because many people had no option. But nowadays, working through your injuries is just plain stupid. Injuries which are not taken care of properly will come back with a vengeance. Except if you live in a developed country and even so you can't afford basic health care and sick days, which is absolutely disgraceful.
Crystalwitch60 19 hours ago
Yes we did , but THATS NOT A REASON to suffer ffs ignorant biatch , I’m the worst for going to doc n hospitals over the years , n oh boy am I paying for that now !! , we make better farmers when we can like WALK !!
Upstaged75 10 hours ago
Who keeps upvoting the witch?? Come on people - we're trying to make her go away.
Load More Replies... SchadenFreudian Psychology 10 hours ago
Look, lady….I don’t really care what you did back on the farm 50 years ago.
#17
Whenever our families would meet and I wore makeup she’d say “oh you did your makeup? I’m barefaced today (slaps her own face) I’m too busy I don’t have time to wear makeup…you look nice though…” she’d repeat this until I or DH will acknowledge the comment.
I’ve always had my nails done with my natural nail length and just gel on top or dip powder and MIL went once to an apprentice to get hers done because it was cheaper. She went for acrylic to make them longer too. They didn’t last long on her and she commented “your nails always look lovely, mine didn’t last very long…I guess I work too hard and they just fell off”
When DH and I got engaged she’d repeatedly say how he wanted to marry her when he was a child and how his sister wants a man just like him and won’t settle for less.
During my maternity leave with my second child she’d have the habit of showing up unannounced and have coffee to “catch up”. Bare in mind I was recovering from a c section that had ripped open and infected because I pushed myself too hard and didn’t let my body heal properly. Well one of those times she came in with an Apple Watch and I was complementing her on it. She then said “oh I’ve taken 17000 steps today, I work so hard. I wonder how many steps you’re taking lately…”
Like that I have plenty of other examples. We are NC going on 2 years now.
Dragons Exist 9 hours ago
I did not expect for there to be so many incestuous things in this thread
#18
That would be when MIL started hinting about grandchildren about a week after the wedding. (We are both 47, and I got my tubes tied at age 35.) I just laughed.
Nancy Bania 13 hours ago
I finally told my MIL that I needed to have surgery several years before and as a result, I couldn't have children. I never said it was an elective tubal ligation.
Robyn Hill 6 hours ago
"Trust me, we're going to the shelter next week so we can come home with your new grandchildren. You prefer a tabby, a ginger, or a calico?"
#19
Me 38 weeks pregnant.
SMIL “I’m going to have to get a car seat base for my car. We’ll call you guys up and let you know which WEEKS we are going to take the baby”
Me; sputtering, dumbfounded, caught off guard: “umm I’ll be breast feeding. You can’t just take my baby”.
SMIL; continuing to be a dumb witch: “oh you can just pump!!”.
Jane Doe-Doe 1 day ago
So she thought you were going to share your baby with her? Unbelievable
Stardrop 1 day ago
people who think they are entitled to OTHER PEOPLE'S CHILDREN are a different breed of f****d
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Crystalwitch60 19 hours ago
And us witches ain’t dumb either !, unlike this monster in law , like w*f when we will TAKE the baby , I think not EVER ,
#20
My favorite was when MIL told me she won't be babysitting my child. I was pregnant at the time. She stated she was working full time and enjoyed her time off. This was while she was watching SIL's daughter, which she did for 5 hours every week while SIL & hubby went to dinner and bowling.
We made sure we never needed her to babysit, and she begged a few years later to take our kids overnight. The kids were old enough to say it wasn't fun spending the night there, so they never did again.
When our kids were teens, I was going with hubby on a work trip, so she did stay at our home to make sure the kids were fine. She was pissed I had the meals all planned out and they just needed to pull something out of the freezer and pop in the micro. She went ahead, bought and made the kids dinner one night and the kids suffered through her cooking.
She is probably turning in her grave that hubby and I have been married for 41 years now and still haven't had our marriage blessed by a Priest.
Razill 1 day ago
Rather be blessed by your cat. Its much more important to be loved by a cat.
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Lady Eowyn 11 hours ago
I'm an ordained minister in the Church of Gnome (google it) and give you my blessing.
Crystalwitch60 19 hours ago
So in her twisted mind lol anyone that gets married in a registry office I did all three times ,are really married 😳WHY DID NO ONE TELL ME THIS 😂would have saved my a lot of hassle when divorcing ,cos by her logic one wasn’t needed , pff religious lunatic 😂
Lady Eowyn 11 hours ago
Nowhere does it mention religion. An atheist can be a lunatic. So can a witch, as you so often demonstrate.
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Probably when she texted my husband at 3am threatening to call CPS on us because she felt like our twins had speech issues that needed to be tested. They were just barely 2.
patricia patricia 22 hours ago
Being evil is a personality trait, not a mental issue.
Load More Replies... Fungus John 9 hours ago
"oh MIL, it sounds like you're slurring your words. I'd better call APS for you"
#22
That my child only had her and Dh DNA. She was serious, for the next 2 decades so far. Still says it.
She trained as a teacher so no, she's not stupid, Nor a ignorant village girl, just a good actor when needed.
Siege Rook 12 hours ago
Plenty of ignorant "trained" teachers and other professionals. PLENTY. Passing a course and reciting knowledge learned by rote without any actual understanding does not make one "educated" or "intelligent". Someone is ALWAYS "the bottom of the class", and statistically speaking it's impossible for every individual class to have an even distribution that matches the average for the sample subset. Some will be average, some will have more high-performers than usual, and some will have more low-performers than usual. Regardless, there are a lot of people out there that have learned the skills to fake it through school, but not how to actually "make it" afterwards by actually *learning* and exercising critical thinking skills. There's a *lot* of ersatz "educated" people out there who are really quite ignorant.
Nikole 6 hours ago
I've had several teachers where, even as a child, I knew I was smarter than them.
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Midoribird Aoi 1 day ago
Why do some mil's only let their sons marry to get a baby? Like the woman is just a walking uterus to give Mommy and son a baby without resorting to the one line they won't cross.
SchadenFreudian Psychology 10 hours ago
Society in general thinks it’s OK to use women as breeding stock. 🤬
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#23
My mother in law blamed me for getting pregnant on purpose, our pregnancy was unplanned. She said don’t make another persons son a villain in your story. Then continually called my baby a sin.
Michael Largey 15 hours ago
Well, as a virtuous person she wants to be kept away from sin. See that she has no contact at all with this one.
Crystalwitch60 19 hours ago
A sin , what when your married 😳🤔see told u religious people are freaking lunatics 😂
ShutUpGrumpy 4 hours ago
You are being discourteous and judgmental again sweetheart.
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“Well if you don’t want kids I guess I’ll just have to work on convincing [him]” talking about her son - my partner of 8 years, who also has made it abundantly clear he doesn’t want kids either.
Bonus points because this was said at a family BBQ in front of her entire family.
Michael Largey 15 hours ago
Sometimes it's the duty of a good son to say "Oh, just shut your mouth, mom."
#25
Oooh so many to choose from!
1. I had really hoped my son would bring home a different kind of woman.
2. I know he loves you, but he could do so much better
3. When she met our son she said thank you three times. Not congratulations. Thank you.
4. It has always been my dream to be part of a birth. Awkward silence while she stared at me.
I was 23 at the time. She said this one on a yearly basis.
Kelly H. Wilder 1 day ago
Or she was hatched, after all, wasn't she part of her own birth?
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Finwie 14 hours ago
My. MIL said, whilst drunk, that she wished my husband had found someone with "more money". I didn't even know until my husband, also drunk, told it to me afterwards. I was devastated. When sober he brushed it off as "drunk talk". 7 years later and the only compliment I've ever gotten from her has been that I'm "good with kids". Otherwise she is polite but I still don't feel very accepted.
SchadenFreudian Psychology 10 hours ago
My mother was blonde. When my dad’s mother met her for the first time, she said, “I always liked dark-haired girls.”
Nikole 6 hours ago
Oh god, this sounds like something my paternal grandmother would have done.
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During my pregnancy before we found out the gender she said to me "hope it's not a girl, they always get SA'D" .... 4 days later we found out we were having a girl.
Brazen 1 day ago
For some reason this makes me wonder if MIL didn't go through that and was speaking from fear for the grandbaby.
Angela C 13 hours ago
Even if she did that's not something you say to a soon to be parent
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Emie N. 10 hours ago
It does! Not as often as it happens to girls though.
Load More Replies... Michael Largey 15 hours ago
I feel that women do have life tougher, but that was not the time, the place, or especially the way to discuss that.
Kelly H. Wilder 1 day ago
When I found out I was pregnant, I begged God to let my child be a boy. I had two reasons, and this was the first. As a child who had been trafficked, I was so overwhelmed with fear if my child would have been a girl. The second reason was a bit more practical; I was attending a Christian college that required students to attend chapel services multiple times a week. I thought it would be easier to dress a boy (cute suit) for this than a girl (frilly dress, socks, mini hair bow, etc). Of course, once my son was born we never returned to that college, so that second point was moot. Regardless, I am still incredibly thankful that he is a boy because the fear of raising a daughter is paralyzing to me.
patricia patricia 22 hours ago
Boys can be trafficked, too. Unfortunately, no kid is out of reach for paedophiles.
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Your dad is the ok kind of brown because your kids will look white....
Lilybdcsa 14 hours ago (edited)
It's amazing to me that so many people look down on darker skinned people and then go to tanning salons to get browner. Had one woman at our community pool talk about her brown granddaughter getting too dark in the sun. The child was adorable and sweet. I wanted to slap the stupid off granny's face.
#28
Today.
She called me sick in the head.
Because I refused to let her call an ambulance due to our baby’s boogies.
Then called my family to tell them our son was suffering because I don’t take care of him. Told them I do nothing around the house. I am 4 months PP, FTM, c-section with A SICK BABY.
I responded to her calling me sick in the head “Okay you won’t see the baby anymore as I’m so sick in the head”.
patricia patricia 14 hours ago
It's not pettiness. It's called "setting limits", and it works wonders. Nobody should put up with being treated disrespectfully.
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#29
My MIL said we shouldn’t adopt as they wouldn’t be real grandchildren.
Brazen 1 day ago (edited)
I had one grandmother that treated me that way, and another one that said I was special because my parents chose me. Guess which one I loved more.
patricia patricia 22 hours ago
Im sure the stupid grandmother complained because you didn't visit her very often...
Load More Replies... Damned_Cat 1 day ago (edited)
As an adopted child, who has known many other adopted children, I can tell you that this is a very common attitude amongst families. Some relatives can be downright scornful of adopted kids. My MIL told my husband that it was a good thing we never had kids because "God only knows what their bloodlines would be".
patricia patricia 22 hours ago
Well, you are not real family, so I don't care about your opinions.
SchadenFreudian Psychology 10 hours ago
In that case, MIL would not be a real grandmother. 🤷🏻♀️
#30
My MIL wrapped her fingers around my oldest daughter’s wrist then says, ( to her oldest granddaughter) “you have big wrists! You must have inherited your mother’s peasant genes.” She did this in front of me. My daughter was 6. As if she gerself is descended for royalty. Her mother was a seamstress and her father was a stevedore.
Bi.Felicia 16 hours ago
For those of us who haven't heard of a stevedore- a person employed, or a contractor engaged, at a dock to load and unload cargo from ships.
patricia patricia 15 hours ago
Very hard work, but very well paid, too, at least in my country.
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#31
I can't remember them all, but here are some
1. Looked right at me before looking at her son and saying in the most cringe, disgusting way possible, "That's my baaabyyy," referring to our daughter. I half laughted, half puked in my mouth to myself. Looking back, I should have laughed out loud at the ridiculousness of it.
She's always wanted a fourth child but couldn't because her and her husband couldn't financially, so she's jealous and wants a do over as well.
2. After coming back from a stay cation, she said, "But it's not like you missed your daughter, I mean, you didn't miss her, did you?"
She wants to play mommy so badly!
3. (In the same day) "I wish I could raise her and then give her back when she's pre-teen because that's a nightmare age and I don't want to deal with that"
She loves my daughter so much!
patricia patricia 22 hours ago
Sorry to disagree. She doesn't love your daughter at all. She loves the idea of being a *mother*, knowing d**n well she can "return the product" the moment she gets bored of it. If she really loved your daughter she would respect you and be the loving granny, without being passive-aggressive. I don't think you should let your daughter stay with her unsupervised.
SueG 20 hours ago
I took the last sentence, "She loves my daughter so much!", as sarcasm.
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Those are so creepy! Especially the ones that look like monkeys!
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#32
‘I hope you don’t raise your kids like you train your dog’ the moment my husband left the room.
#33
She asked me to go to family therapy with her and then mid session she told me “I hope you’re enjoying your wedding present.” Lmfao.
#34
First time I met her, “so do you know DH’s ex girlfriend- I thought she was so so sweet”.
Janelle Collard 11 hours ago (edited)
"Is she the one who did 'run a train' with the whole football team?" 😁
patricia patricia 22 hours ago
My answer: well, tough luck. Now you have to deal with me, and I'm not sweet. And I won't put up with any nonsense.
#35
Not to me, but within my hearing. After 6+ yrs of infertility, i just found out I was finally pregnant with my 2nd. MIL decided to say that I should terminate it because we couldn't afford another kid (2002 combined income was over $170k/yr.).
Spencer's slave no longer 1 day ago
I would have slapped the ignorant bag in the face then permanently banned her.
SchadenFreudian Psychology 10 hours ago
You NEVER tell somebody who’s pregnant to terminate….or NOT to terminate. Ever. It’s their choice.
Moving Enigma 9 hours ago
I'd have replied that it's okay as we're cutting back and saving money going forward by not seeing her anymore..
#36
I had just given mine a 4 year old suv, paid off in full. My baby was 4-6 months ish. She told me if I thought more with my brain and less with my belly I would be thin by now… I had just opened my first business also and that’s what she was worried about… she also gifted me with diet pills…. Mind you post partum I was a size 6….
#37
Wow! If you keep dieting you might be smaller than me someday. I wore a size 2, she wore a size 14.
Mel in Georgia 15 hours ago
I am a really small person, and my MiL was slim, but in no way super small. She kept giving me her old clothes and was constantly surprised when they didn't fit. Like there was no way I could be smaller than her! She wasn't a terrible person, but very vain about her looks. RIP, Pat - you crazy lady!
#38
When I was pregnant for the second time my MIL POS told me that they didn’t need another grandchild as they already had one (my eldest) 🤯
She couldn’t have mine over night until they were out of nappy’s (so never had them). Once her daughter had kids they were staying overnight asap. Her loss. My boys are fantastic.
#39
My MIL very aggressively asked me why I refer to my son, as “my son” (as a term of endearment) that he’s not just my son, he’s my partners too. I said of course he is, I never said he wasn’t partners. It’s said with no malicious intent, just a pet name I guess?
She lost it. Same women who would constantly bring up my partner ex of 11 years ago and was told to “get over it” once my discomfort was expressed. Lady, you’re the one who’s bringing her up!
I could go on for days honestly 😅.
Mel in Georgia 15 hours ago
It always depended on what our son was up to ... sometimes he's my son, sometimes our son, and oftentimes - YOUR son! 😉
#40
MIL said to me “your children are not as special to me as my daughter’s children. It just not the same. A DIL’s children are just not as special.” She said this about her son’s daughters.
Shark Lady 18 hours ago
My sister's MIL is like this, she was furious that sis had the first grandchild and ignored my sis for a year - until she needed something.
Zero Costa 22 hours ago (edited)
ahaha this is a lot like my ma. out of her four kids, my dad is her only son, so my mum always called us (her, myself, my brothers) the "outlaws". thankfully she's mellowed out into normal as she's gotten older... nowadays my mum is basically her favourite and also her caretaker. but my brothers and I definitely felt the difference as the "less loved" grandkids growing up
patricia patricia 15 hours ago
She didn't "mellow out into normal", she realised she was going need help. In her heart of hearts she is still the same POS she was when she was younger.
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#41
My MIL is a very strange individual. She doesn't think before she says anything. On numerous occasions she's called me fat but here are a few that seriously take the cake lol. She's said a ton of unhinged things to me but for me these are the two most memorable.
1) my husband took my last name as he has no ties to his father and his mother knows this. When naming our Son we chose to name him after my grandfather and to give him My (and now also my husbands) last name. When we told MIL the name of our baby her immediate response to my husband was "Oh, so nothing to tie him to you? That's sad."
2) When i was only 5 months postpartum I got pregnant again. Yes i know thats very very early but we are happy. I'm now 31 weeks with twins so that means we are having 3 under 2. When we told MIL she immediately told me "You need to get fixed." ..... FIXED!!???!?!
Nuku Nyara 17 hours ago
My sister and I are only 330 days apart, which is exactly 11 months, my mother didn't know she was pregnant with my sister until she was about 7 months along as she assumed she was just holding onto her baby weight after giving birth to me.
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shg stewart 9 hours ago
Well, she's not wrong, really. 14 months between babies is bad for your health, and 3 kids under 2 is probably 2 too many.
Crissy Newbury 8 hours ago
My second daughter should have been born 5 days before my first daughter’s first birthday. She, however, chose to be late and their birthdays are 11 days apart.
#42
"Why would you buy ....., you both will eventually split and then how will you share it?"
"Small people tend to have a different kind of body shape. It all just seems compressed.".
#43
As I was pouring milk in my 2 year old’s sippy cup…. “That’s a lot of milk there, mom.” It was literally a standard-sized sippy cup of milk. Meanwhile, when my kids are at her house, she lets my daughter have 3 cups of lemonade, overfeeds my kids, and loads them up with sweets. 🤦🏻♀️.
#44
Probably the worst one is:
"I tried therapy, but I couldn't find a therapist who is smarter than me, so therapy doesn't work on me. It's a good thing you are in therapy, though!".
Michael Largey 14 hours ago
I don't know if there is a therapist somewhere who is smarter than her. But I'm sure there aren't many who could match her intelligence.
Laserleader 4 hours ago
I would love therapy, because its just another person to talk to and get an outside perspective, not nessisarily a smarter one.
#45
I told my mother I was pregnant with our PLANNED pregnancy, my second. She said, with ice dripping off her voice, "Oh, I thought you were done.".
Kelly H. Wilder 1 day ago
The only appropriate answer: "Oh, I am done alright--done with you and your disdain."
Billie Jackson 20 hours ago
Similar situation...Husband and I were so happy to be pregnant a second time. We couldn't wait to tell people...our parents first. His mom said, "Oh, no."
#46
So, my SO and I have been together for 6 years, and I am in my mid 40’s. His mother and I have talked about the fact that my child bearing days are over. My SO has no biological children of his own and he is a few years younger than me. So a few weeks ago his mom came over and was saying that he should become a father and have some kids and how he would be such a great father… All I kept thinking was with who? Who should he have these kids with? Now she said this with a smile on her face but I knew exactly what she meant. When I talked to her about having another child (I have one grown child) she blatantly told me I was too old to even think about ever having another child. This is what I am dealing with….
#47
When I had my first baby, the day after she met her, she called me on the phone to say ‘when’s the next time we’re gonna see her, in a year?’ Because I assume she thought she was going to see her first thing next day. And ‘you remind me of the mother of my other grandkids.’ Because I didn’t want the whole house to come over. Oh, and ‘I’m gonna have to steal him and take a nap’ when I had my son.
#48
I’m British, in-laws are French.
MIL was reading an article about the Monster Raving Loony party in the UK. There was a typical quirky unflattering photo of a guy from the party playing the fool. My husband makes a comment on how ugly the guy looks and MIL immediately says “I guess it’s all the inbreeding on the island.”.
patricia patricia 21 hours ago
My answer: yeah, maybe. Inbreeding might be the reason. What's YOUR excuse?
#49
My MIL started crying at a family dinner when we announced we were pregnant with baby #3. She was hoping her daughter would get pregnant with her first baby, which happened soon thereafter. How dare we have a third?
God, I have so many stories.
#50
I feel like this is a boomer thing. My mom, my aunt, my MiL, my SiL’s mother are all obsessed with their weight. They all have some form of an eating disorder and constantly talk about their weight or other people’s weight. Without fail if we go out to eat, my mom will push her food around and say, “I used to be 95 lbs.” “I used to be smaller than you.” like no one cares? Literally, no one cares how small you are now or how small you used to be. You were unhealthy then and you’re unhealthy now. Eat some fkn food.
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What do you think ?
Stephanie 18 hours ago
My mother in law is the best. When I first met her she said "hi honey. So, is his di*k still crooked? Poor thing was curved like a little nanner as a baby, and he used to run around naked wiping his poopy b*m with my curtains. Just think of that when he ticks you off."
Shark Lady 18 hours ago
I'm so glad I'm single now, my ex's mother once called me a lazy b***h for not doing more around the house - I was 5 days post major abdominal surgery and could barely get myself to the bathroom.
Otto Katz 12 hours ago (edited)
I had 2 mothers-in-law, so you get 2 stories. 1st, husband was cheating on me. When I asked his mother for help she said "You made your bed, now lie in it" I had no idea what she meant, I had done nothing to deserve his cheating. I was a good wife to him, mother to his children. 2nd, on our wedding day, she went around to him,and the guests at the reception telling all I was pregnant, and tricked him into marrying. LOL I was 44, and had had my uterus out 3 years earlier. What a cûnt she was.
brittany 8 hours ago
well, not my MIL, it was my mom but shes my husband's MIL. anyway after finding out we were having a baby she told me 1) that she would be raising the baby for the first year since baby wouldnt even remember me at that age anyway and 2) she'd be contesting custody through the courts if i died in child birth and raising the baby indtead of my husband because no way was a man capable of raising a child. anyway we have been NC for 7 years now. she doesnt even know about her other two grandchildren. they arent missing out by not knowing her. they have plenty of family
Laserleader 3 hours ago (edited)
My own mother is NC/Low Contact for her narcissistic manipulations and lies. My MIL is kind and amazing and works hard and we feel spoiled being allowed to stay with her (we own our own business but we help around the house). My Grandmother In Law was the one I had to keep explaining to that I could not have kids and my husband/her grandson didn't want them anyway EVERY time we saw her. She tried to make me feel guilty for not giving her granddaughters (specifically), and would go through my purse if I left it unattended.
Stephanie 18 hours ago
My mother in law is the best. When I first met her she said "hi honey. So, is his di*k still crooked? Poor thing was curved like a little nanner as a baby, and he used to run around naked wiping his poopy b*m with my curtains. Just think of that when he ticks you off."
Shark Lady 18 hours ago
I'm so glad I'm single now, my ex's mother once called me a lazy b***h for not doing more around the house - I was 5 days post major abdominal surgery and could barely get myself to the bathroom.
Otto Katz 12 hours ago (edited)
I had 2 mothers-in-law, so you get 2 stories. 1st, husband was cheating on me. When I asked his mother for help she said "You made your bed, now lie in it" I had no idea what she meant, I had done nothing to deserve his cheating. I was a good wife to him, mother to his children. 2nd, on our wedding day, she went around to him,and the guests at the reception telling all I was pregnant, and tricked him into marrying. LOL I was 44, and had had my uterus out 3 years earlier. What a cûnt she was.
brittany 8 hours ago
well, not my MIL, it was my mom but shes my husband's MIL. anyway after finding out we were having a baby she told me 1) that she would be raising the baby for the first year since baby wouldnt even remember me at that age anyway and 2) she'd be contesting custody through the courts if i died in child birth and raising the baby indtead of my husband because no way was a man capable of raising a child. anyway we have been NC for 7 years now. she doesnt even know about her other two grandchildren. they arent missing out by not knowing her. they have plenty of family
Laserleader 3 hours ago (edited)
My own mother is NC/Low Contact for her narcissistic manipulations and lies. My MIL is kind and amazing and works hard and we feel spoiled being allowed to stay with her (we own our own business but we help around the house). My Grandmother In Law was the one I had to keep explaining to that I could not have kids and my husband/her grandson didn't want them anyway EVERY time we saw her. She tried to make me feel guilty for not giving her granddaughters (specifically), and would go through my purse if I left it unattended.
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