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50 Of The Most ‘Antisocial’ Memes From This Instagram Account Cleverly Titled ‘Fear Of Going Out’
Look, not everyone wants to spend Friday night partying. Some of us want to roll ourselves into a blanket burrito and watch a movie at home. Alone. And without having to justify ourselves for it.
We're not ungrateful if we want to avoid our friends for a day or two. Nor are we defective if our mind goes blank when we meet new people. We're just (a bit) antisocial.
If you're one of these people (or simply want to understand your introverted friend better), there's an Instagram account dedicated to portraying this life in memes.
It's called FOGO. The acronym stands for The Fear of Going Out, and the one running it says this feeling is completely normal.
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I was going to say, "Downvote Devil's Advocate all you want, but he's correct." But then I thought of the squirrel -- TRUE STORY -- in my neighborhood who would eat through a plastic trash bag at exactly the right spot to access the avocado remains -- twice a week, every week. Nice small hole in the bag. And he'd sit on the sidewalk nibbling away so prim and proper, you'd just want to buy him a China tea set.
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making someone feel bad for the one thing they find joy in says a lot about you more than the person
Sadly, for some people, being nasty about these things is their tiny shriveled flower of joy
I started playing D&D when I was 11. I'm over 50 now, still play and IDGAF what people think about my interests. It makes me happy. If it bothers you then YOU have the problem, not me.
You want people to stop being intrusive, judgmental, annoying jerks? Good luck...
I never thought of it from that angle before 🤔 it's actually changed my point of view. Thanks, I will no longer whinge about all the above but smile thinking someone is happy right now 💖👏👏
I like this summary we use with groups of kids: Don't Yuck someone else's Yum.
Yes! Yes! Yes! (says the woman who still has her Christmas decorations up in February). ETA: The indoors ones; I'm not cruel.
My Christmas decorations always stay up at very least until after Epiphany and usually for most of January. I don't criticize others for putting their's up too darn early so they shouldn't worry about mine being up for the actual Christmas season.
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The same goes for Christmas decorations. Let people put them up when they want. Not everyone is American with a Thanksgiving in November.
I have no problems letting people enjoy whatever it is they enjoy. So long as they don't try to shove it down my throat like I have to enjoy it as well. "You don't LOVE avocado toast?" No, I hate it. "But why?! It's so good! You should try it this way..."
Who the hell cares leave them alone, bet you who b***h about other people have weird quirks other people don't like (I know I do), but are not as ignorant as you who points it out!
I always feel bad for the people that get upset at others harmless joy. They must be so miserable if happiness upsets them. Or maybe they rather enjoy being upset... Never thought of that. Maybe they are not personally happy unless they are upset by others. Grumpy inturn is their Happy
Yes yes yes, I never share my fandoms with anybody because I’m afraid of being criticized
You might be surprised at how many people share your interests! But even if they don't, you're absolutely allowed to enjoy them anyway!
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I absolutely support your right to enjoy anything you like. But don't tell me I am wrong for not. I have not put up a holiday decoration in at least 15 years. I think the next person to tell me to get in the spirit, may find out that a throat punch can be festive.
Especially when you're poor, unemployed or in any way relying on social security services you have to justify every bit of fun, every purchase that's not a bare essential. I save up to enjoy a fancy cup of coffee once in a while, please let me have thar.
IF I WANT TO SIT IN MY ROOM WATCHING MR. ROGER'S NEIGHBORHOOD INSTEAD OF COOKING DINNER THAN SO BE IT!
As I drive down my back country roads I always think I should drop off a note of appreciation to that one drive that has wonderful Christmas decorations all year. Hear in the gray months of winter, it's so much fun to see what they've come up with next!
D&D!!!! I cannot tell you how many times people have judged me for playing it or keeping my dice on me
To each their own, if you have nothing nice to say don't say anything, mind yo business.
UNLESS it's a store. Then don't change your decorations MONTHS before the holiday. >:-(
Christmas lights are still up and on. And they will stay up and on as long as this long miserable northern hemisphere winter lasts. :P
I just shake my head. They are the same ones who take their decorations down on New Year's Day before Epiphany when Christmas isn't even over yet.
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Folks in my neighborhood still have holiday lights up on their houses, and it cheers me up every day.
But what about those folks whose whole purpose in life is to stomp out any joy they find anywhere? What about them?
I leave our outdoor Christmas lights up until Spring. I call them Winter Lights and I have been told they cheer people up. I love to see them during the dark evenings.
Yes! This! Life is hard and depressing, we need all the warm fuzzies we can collect!
Damn right!! My place is Halloween all year, it brings me great joy 👻😊
I can agree to this so long as we can cool it with the pumpkin spice?
No. Very rarely do people engage in these thing in pursuit of "joy" more often than not they're based in some form of underlying toxicity, whether that be their incessant need to try and force their "joy" on everyone around them, or simply because all of those things have a foundation in corporate greed, shameless marketing campaigns and the ever invasive "influencer" culture. Anything that rises to prominence on social media is automatically deserving of scorn, and everyone needs to get a lot more comfortable with shaming people who buy into ANYTHING popular on social media.
Give me some Camilo fanfics and some Pocky and I'll be good for about an hour or two
Yes, provided you learn to spell "avocado," and therefore demonstrate that you should be taken seriously.
IVe never seen someone criticize early Halloween decorations. Can we please get the people who put their Halloween stuff out in April to stop bitching about Christmas decorations being sold in mid-October, though??
I don't like the stores being filled with Christmas decorations mid-October but that's just my opinion. Only because I like to enjoy Halloween and Thanksgiving and it seems like these decorations are gone from the store to make room for Christmas. My Halloween stuff never goes up until October though.
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I think he's trying to tell everyone to leave him alone with his own tiny shriveled flower of joy. He deserves that.
F**k yeah, and I will ask them about it and engage with them, people like talking about the things they love and even if I know nothing of the subject, I will find a way to make a conversation about it.
Some people seem to really seem to enjoy critizing. That may be their only tiny shriveled flower of joy.
A goddamn tasty treat is what it is!! To answer your question tho, it's cooked bread...... with a guacamole ball on it....
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So long as it remains harmless. Once it becomes a personality trait, I'm telling them to shut up.
No. It's almost Valentines Day and my whole hood is lit up and displaying Christmas stuff. Hint: if you have to dust the ornaments before you put them away, they've been up too long.
The rest of us are just jealous. We have nothing and believe in Nothing. We are nihlists.
The term introversion was popularized by Carl Jung and describes an inwards orientation to one's own mental life rather than the outward orientation of extroverts to social life. Introverts gain energy from reflection and lose energy in social gatherings.
However, it's important to point out that most people are neither total introverts nor pure extroverts but display features of both—they are the so-called ambiverts. Almost everyone needs occasional solitude to replenish their energy.
But cultures differ in how they value certain personality traits, and America, for example, likes its extroverts. This society rewards assertiveness and encourages people to speak up.
Experts are guessing that the number of introverts as extroverts is the same, but the former is less visible and certainly less noisy so it's easy to think they're the minority.
Introverts are drained by too much social interaction and are the first to leave a party. Even as children, they usually observe first and act later.
If I'm ever in one of those horror movie/ thriller situations where my life depends on how quietly I can breath, I'd like donations to charity in lieu of flowers.
Some research claims that the inherent differences between introverts and extroverts lie within the dopamine system in the brain, which makes pleasurable rewards (including social interaction) more salient to extroverts. This suggests that extroverts may be more likely to experience positive emotions.
Even though introverts are generally likely to report lower levels of happiness than extroverts, this does not mean that they are destined to be miserable. The good news is that a consistent theme in happiness research claims our choices and behaviors (the ones that are in our control and changeable) have significant effects on our well-being.
Absolutely! It triggers my sarcastic teacher button and prepare to be subtly sabotaged wherever I can do so.
This is acceptable for adults too. I did this today to someone. I didn't scream it, but still.
According to Derrick Carpenter, a positive psychology coach at Happify, a helpful tip for those with introverted tendencies is to try to see their whole self. "It’s important to note that the scale on which introversion and extroversion are measured is just that: a scale," Carpenter wrote in VeryWell Mind. "Within each of us lies some tendency to recharge our batteries through social interaction and affiliation with others and another tendency to recharge on our own. Be honest with yourself about what you need in a given moment and allow yourself permission to have it."
In other words, when calling a friend to hang out feels right, make a lunch date. But if you’d rather curl up with a good book, go for it.
*Aggressively throws a pair of airplane headphones at the perpetrator*
Carpenter also thinks introverted behavior has an upside that often gets overlooked. "Introverts tend to be better problem solvers, perform better academically, exhibit stronger regulation of their behavior, and are less likely to take risks that may cause them harm," he said.
"Research shows that introverts may experience these benefits as a result of having more gray matter in their prefrontal cortex, the area at the front of the brain that controls complex and abstract thinking, emotion regulation, and decision making."
Teenagers are like the moles in your yard and raccoons in your trash can and ants in your kitchen and yeah, I'll just take the plants and pets, thank you.
Remember that in many classical and theological perspectives on happiness from Aristotle to the Buddha, spending time alone and contemplating the meaning and purpose of our lives is a necessity.
"Learn to embrace your unique introvert qualities and tap into the happiness they bring you, whether that’s teaching yourself something new, exploring nature on a solo trek, or cultivating your creative side," Carpenter said.
Hey that's how my family found half of its current living relatives!
But when you feel like leaving your safe little cave, own it. "Particularly when you are already going to be socializing, act the part of an extrovert," Carpenter suggested.
"This doesn't mean you should be inauthentic. Just bring more of your real self. Be an extroverted introvert. Harness that rich inner world of yours and jump into the conversation more, share your opinion, crack a joke, and take the spotlight every once in a while."
Kind of like the things we all should be doing right now, but here we are reading BoredPanda.
In fact, studies, where introverts were instructed to act like extroverts in a group of people, showed they ended up experiencing greater positive emotion than introverts acting normally (in fact, they rated their positive emotion higher than the naturally extroverted people, too) and reported feeling more authentic at the moment.
There are plenty of ways to go about it. "If you're not socializing much, encourage yourself to connect with others in the ways that work well for you," the psychology coach said.
"Join a group to take part in an activity you already love, like a choir, book club, or fitness class. Even though initiating these decisions may feel like an extra effort, the payoff should be noticeable. When you realize you acted more extroverted in a way that felt good, keep it up."
Whatever happens in these settings, you will always be able to retreat and find memes to scroll through instead!
I aspire to be this much of a character in my senior years.
When it comes to unknown parking situations I'm ALWAYS nervous. Especially in busy inner-city areas. That's why I love my bike...
Early on in the pandemic a woman (typical Karen-ish Anti-Masker) asked me why I moved so far out of her way while walking down the pavement towards her and I said "Oh it has nothing to do with COVID, I would've done it anyway"
Now you tell me! It's already the 10th! How can I plan for this without notice???
You know what is selfish? Bringing children into this mess of a world that we are destroying and doing nothing to help fix it just so they can suffer later on
It's only February and I have my doubts about 2022. I'd like a refund.
Just be a bleached almond like the rest of us, huh? Then people just comment on bare skin exposure instead of bare skin with ink.
When you were in school you didn't lose sleep over worrying about bills, employment, relationships and the world burning. That's why so many adults are exhausted from just walking to their car for the daily commute.
Those male authors have obviously never met a woman let alone seen one at rock bottom. This ain't it.
In my mind if a person compliments me then that means they aprove of what I did, so now I have the crushing weight of expectaion and trust on me. (Compliment = expectation = stress) (No compliment = indeffernece = no stress)
The container does, yes. The food, not so much. Don't ask me how I know this.
After I chose to stay uninformed about current events, my will to live has increased significantly.
It took me far too long to realize this wasn't some twisted form of poetry.
More likely, "take a picture of it' and send it to you, saying it is delivered. then stealing it lmao
Reminds me of the time between Christmas and New Years, where everyday is Sunday
Too easy for the other person to say; "No, no, I've got all the time in the World for you." What the hell do you do then?
Shower seat is underrated! Gonna just rest while I wash. And still be exhausted when I'm done...
I can relate to both sides. I'm an introvert when I'm sober, but extrovert when I had my first bottle of wine for the evening.
I just finished reading The Art of Rest. Honestly one of the hardest hitting sentences in it was along the lines of "it's not morally superior to get up early" and I felt so much tension leave my body. Also the other sentence: "rest is essential".
But I do use them. I am that kind of person. Errrr, well, clearly this message isn't for me. Moving on...
That's how life works too. If someone is talking bullshyte, you can compliment them on the absence of brain activity and move on.
I am up to like 7.9 billion people by age 40. Does that count?
I have only ever gone out on New Year's Eve one time. I really regretted not driving myself.
Yeah, I wouldn't have thought that either. Don't people usually ask for make and model? Edited:spelling
Can we please stop calling each other selfish? No matter if one decides to have or not have kids, saying this to each other is quite rude and not very respectful. You make your decisions and I make mine, and we can still be friends and thankful for each other.
Thank you. I'm sick of it. I love the f*****g hell out of my children. And being a actual antisocial person. They are included in my small group of people I trust.
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I'm really tired of "antisocial" being used incorrectly. As a psychologist in training, it really irks me to see that a rather serious diagnosis is still used jokingly.
As a former therapist, it irks me to see the DSM taken so seriously. It has previously listed things such as diabetes and homosexuality as mental disorders. Diagnoses are in and out with each edition. It's disheartening to realize that so many diagnoses have more to do with culture and current zeitgeist than actual mental impediments. It's good practice to view patients as people instead of labels. It reduces practitioner bias as well as stigmatization. It's best to strive for warmth, authenticity, and being present vs. rubber stamping an ICD-9 code like a label on on a Petrie dish. Always remember not to take the DSM or yourself too seriously. :)
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None of this was "antisocial" you remember the pandemic? And how this is about random things?
When I lived in DC and went out to the clubs (goth/industrial clubs), I used to sit in my car and try to build up the energy to actually go into the club and socialize.
Why would you go to HR? There was a problem, you confronted them directly like an adult, now there is no problem. Maybe we don't always have to act like children and run to mom and dad any time anything is wrong?
I was raised by an interrogator. I learned to read people and see who they really were... I was also taught to be something other than what I am to the ends of such discovery. I am an introvert to the hilt. But I have been broken by needs and expectations to become a gregarious, helpful, self-sacrificing creature...who feels cold at her core because she isn't true to herself. I wonder sometimes--is it my nature to be so duplicitous? Does this help anyone for me to hide my true nature, to try to help them as I suffer? Do I have a proper perspective...?
I really wish people would agree on the correct meaning of words. Social, sociable, anti-social anti-sociable, non-social, introvert, extrovert, quiet, loud, depressed, unhappy, ... So many arguments where person #1 discusses pros and cons of A vs B with person #2 who thinks the argument is about C vs D, while the observer sees the argument as E vs F.
People that know them agree. It's people who throw the terms around without knowing the definitions that don't.
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I feel like there is a creature right behind me everywhere I go, and when I see someone in public who I know, the creature grabs my shoulders and steers me in another direction. I wish I wasn't so shy.
Oh, there is. It's called Kludde. Or sometimes Kledde-me-vel.
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I wish it was a problem that went away a yr ago. But it doesn't and posts like this can remind someone they're not the only one. I wish this stuff was as talked about in the 80s maybe it wouldn't have taken 30 yrs for me to get help
Load More Replies... Can we please stop calling each other selfish? No matter if one decides to have or not have kids, saying this to each other is quite rude and not very respectful. You make your decisions and I make mine, and we can still be friends and thankful for each other.
Thank you. I'm sick of it. I love the f*****g hell out of my children. And being a actual antisocial person. They are included in my small group of people I trust.
Load More Replies... I'm really tired of "antisocial" being used incorrectly. As a psychologist in training, it really irks me to see that a rather serious diagnosis is still used jokingly.
As a former therapist, it irks me to see the DSM taken so seriously. It has previously listed things such as diabetes and homosexuality as mental disorders. Diagnoses are in and out with each edition. It's disheartening to realize that so many diagnoses have more to do with culture and current zeitgeist than actual mental impediments. It's good practice to view patients as people instead of labels. It reduces practitioner bias as well as stigmatization. It's best to strive for warmth, authenticity, and being present vs. rubber stamping an ICD-9 code like a label on on a Petrie dish. Always remember not to take the DSM or yourself too seriously. :)
Load More Replies... None of this was "antisocial" you remember the pandemic? And how this is about random things?
When I lived in DC and went out to the clubs (goth/industrial clubs), I used to sit in my car and try to build up the energy to actually go into the club and socialize.
Why would you go to HR? There was a problem, you confronted them directly like an adult, now there is no problem. Maybe we don't always have to act like children and run to mom and dad any time anything is wrong?
I was raised by an interrogator. I learned to read people and see who they really were... I was also taught to be something other than what I am to the ends of such discovery. I am an introvert to the hilt. But I have been broken by needs and expectations to become a gregarious, helpful, self-sacrificing creature...who feels cold at her core because she isn't true to herself. I wonder sometimes--is it my nature to be so duplicitous? Does this help anyone for me to hide my true nature, to try to help them as I suffer? Do I have a proper perspective...?
I really wish people would agree on the correct meaning of words. Social, sociable, anti-social anti-sociable, non-social, introvert, extrovert, quiet, loud, depressed, unhappy, ... So many arguments where person #1 discusses pros and cons of A vs B with person #2 who thinks the argument is about C vs D, while the observer sees the argument as E vs F.
People that know them agree. It's people who throw the terms around without knowing the definitions that don't.
Load More Replies... I feel like there is a creature right behind me everywhere I go, and when I see someone in public who I know, the creature grabs my shoulders and steers me in another direction. I wish I wasn't so shy.
Oh, there is. It's called Kludde. Or sometimes Kledde-me-vel.
Load More Replies... I wish it was a problem that went away a yr ago. But it doesn't and posts like this can remind someone they're not the only one. I wish this stuff was as talked about in the 80s maybe it wouldn't have taken 30 yrs for me to get help
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