“God has a plan for you”

I will fight your god and send that little parasite straight back to him express shipping.


Natti07:
I hate when people say that honestly. Im non religious, but i think that IF a God had a plan for my life, why would that plan have to include having children? Because there are plenty of people who are unable to have children, so if God has a plan, does that mean those people just don't get to be included? So annoying

wangyuzhi31:
You could say that God's plan for you is to be childless.

"Just have one so you don't feel alone."

But I like feeling alone. It's quiet, peaceful, I have space to think and feel and travel and write and read. Alone is not the same as lonely! Also, I have a dog.

imnotlouise:

My husband and I have been separated fir a few years, our kids are grown, and I now occasionally get to enjoy not having to do anything for anyone. I love my alone time!

“Who’s going to look after you when you’re old?” While we were at work in a care home.


KrystalOneTrueGem:
Me drinking a bottle of wine every weekend and surviving on top ramen 3 days in a row when I'm lazy: "when I'm what?"


diarrhea_fingerpaint:
Having children does not guarantee that they will care for you.


IceSeeker:
Exactly. Thinking that your kids will someday look after you is basically setting yourself up to disappointment. I've seen many old people who are so bitter and angry because their kids won't take care of them.

I’m chronically ill and a doctor told me if I had a baby it would distract me from my debilitating symptoms.


mihio94:
Similar one here, expect they said that getting a baby might fix some of my symptoms. I was 21, single and went to the doctor because of debilitating exhaustion and chronic pain so bad that I could barely take care of my basic needs.
Sure, adding a baby to that sounds like a great idea!
Later on I learned that with the combination of symptoms I had, it was actually more likely that a pregnancy would cause a severe flare up of my illness.


laarbor:
I have multiple female family members with reproductive illnesses who were told to have a child to cure or help “distract” them. My aunt has PCOS and was told she should get pregnant to get a year’s break from her body trying to ovulate. She ended up getting a hysterectomy after her last child.
My SIL was told that getting pregnant would cure her endometriosis or at least stop its spread and break up the lesions in her uterus? She ended up needing laparoscopic surgery that showed endometrium throughout her whole abdomen all the way up to her throat, which explained the cyclical vomiting every cycle. Somehow I don’t think pregnancy would’ve cured that.
On the other hand I had a heart arrhythmia that spontaneously cured during pregnancy and hasn’t come back so I got that going for me. My cardiologist was pretty sure it would either not change or get worse during pregnancy but here we are. If only we funded research to better understand physiological gender differences or cared about diseases that only affected women