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“The most dangerous among us come dressed as angels, and we learn too late they are the devil in disguise.” This quote by author Carlos Wallace can pretty much sum up the world we live in, especially for many women.
Day in and day out, they worry about potential dangers while going through their daily routines, which oftentimes aren’t readily noticeable. As a result, many of them have resorted to unorthodox, even “unhinged” methods to keep themselves safe.
We’ve collected these responses from a recent TikTok post. Ladies, feel free to chime in with your own tips!
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#1
My momma said you can always apologize for overreacting. You can’t apologize if you’re dead. Make a damn scene.
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#2
I heard someone say to teach your children an adult isn’t going to ask a child for help. They don’t need a child to find their lost dog or whatever.
#3
Thought a guy put something in my drink once I switched them when he wasn’t looking and he passed out 10 minutes later
#4
My friend in middle school realized she was being followed. She turned around to face the guy who had a smirk. Started twitching & cackling then sprinted dead on at him. grown dude ran away screaming
#5
Scream mom don’t scream help. You scream, Mom, every single mother in that vicinity is gonna look.
BrownEyedPanda 6 months ago
Some of those mothers will be bearing arms--and anything else that can damage man or beast.
#6
A cop came to my high school and told the girls “you have a better chance of surviving a gun shot than a man who takes you to a 2nd location” never let a man force you into his car even at gunpoint
#7
Tiny can of pink spray paint, impossible to get out of eyes, easy to get a description on someone with pink spray paint in their eyes walking into a hospital for help
#8
I tell my teen daughter and her friends that if an older guys can't get a girl his age, it's because there's something wrong with him.
#9
Keep a bat with a knee-high sock on the business end (not where you hold it)—that way, if/when the bat is grabbed mid-swing, they’ll grab the sock, bat slips out and you can keep on swinging
Kim Kermes 6 months ago
Or use a walking stick as a lance into their solar plexus. Less time to react.
#10
I heard someone once say when in dangerous situations for women, “Dont get scared, get angry.” It changed my entire way of thinking bc my gut reaction is to be scared
#11
use pepper gel not spray! spray can blow back in your face and it forms a cloud. gel shoots straight with no blow back and it's sticky the more they rub the worse it gets!
#12
you have NO obligation to open your door everytime someone knocks on it.
Bad Alchemy 6 months ago
Exactly! If you didn't call first or make plans with me, don't expect me to answer my door for you.
#13
LADIES! A man will NEVER ask you for help if he actually needs it, especially car related. He will ask another man. If he's asking you, LEAVE IMMEDIATELY (happens at gas stations or parking lots)
#14
to this day remind my adult child “if you are abducted…. Fight to the death. Either you die or they die, but someone dies.
#15
A hydroflask. Don’t ask- but it seriously SAVED MY LIFE one time. You a hit a mf in they’re head w all you got & it’ll knock them clean out.
#16
When you are anywhere and you sense or see a man staring at you, stop and stare at them back. With no emotion. Now you know what they look like and you look like less of a target to them. Stay aware
#17
I befriended the homeless men that would hang out outside my job. My boss would get mad at me. I told him I felt safer with them as my friends. One of them saved me from a guy trying to rob me
Rali Meyer 6 months ago
Good one. And buy coffee for the underpaid security hanging around (here in South Africa). They'll watch over you
#18
Never scream “leave me alone!” If some dude is following you, that makes people think it’s a lover’s spat. Scream “I don’t know you!” That activates people
#20
911 dispatcher here: No. Second. Location.
Depressed Lesbian(she/they/he) 6 months ago
If you get kidnapped, chances are, you’ll die if you’re taken to a second location. John Mulaney did a bit on this.
#21
Always trust ur gut feeling even if there is no logical reason to feel that way. Don’t feel like taking the stairs or parking somewhere then don’t. Get the ick from someone then steer clear of them
#22
Almost got trafficked driving home. call 911, don’t EVER STOP DRIVING NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS. Keep going even if they ram your car, do NOT stop, you are not overreacting, they aren’t drunk, DONT STOP
BrownEyedPanda 6 months ago
And whatever you do, do NOT lead them to your residence! Drive to the nearest police station or hospital emergency entrance.
#23
Don't tell strangers your name. it's literally ok to lie to strangers
LakotaWolf (she/her) 6 months ago
Who's the biggest homophobe/transphobe/troll here on BP? I'm going to start using their username and telling strangers/creeps that it's my "real name" >:3 (am joking but hope y'all got a chuckle out of the concept!)
#24
coworker once told me not to keep a bat in my car, but a bat, glove, and a ball. going for a bat can be spun as a premeditated attack, but if you jave the whole set you can argue you were gonna play
#25
When you’re out in public look around. Stop being in them phones. Saved me a few times.
#26
Don’t post your kids or family on social media. And really limit what you share out there. The internet is full of everyone including bad people
BrownEyedPanda 6 months ago
Predators see the internet as a free-for-all marketplace; just pick and choose your next victims.
#27
I was approached and knew he was going to attack me..I said dont I know your mother from church...the confusion on his face gave me enough time to run away
#28
anytime an Uber driver asks if I have a man I say "I am one 🙂" quietest rides ever
#29
If someone is trying to kidnap you just lay down. It’s gonna take both hands of the attacker so you can scream. It will cause a scene. Best advice from a police officer!
LakotaWolf (she/her) 6 months ago
I understand the concept (you're now dead weight that they have to drag/pick up) but I'd be scared of being completely helpless and vulnerable to them kicking, punching, or attacking me with a weapon while just laying down D:
#30
I keep men’s shoes outside my front door so it looks like a big dude lives here.
#31
when driving, never go as soon as the light turns green. intersection collisions are more common than you think!
BrownEyedPanda 6 months ago
There's always at least one fool trying to "race" the solid red light. If you're a pedestrian, you're roadkill.
#32
Idk if it’s saved my life, but if someone starts acting funny in parking lots I pull out my phone and “answer” my “bf” and scream at him “YOU HAVE MY LOCATION WHERE TF DO YOU THINK I AM, MARCUS?”
Moonie Pinkslip 6 months ago
Uh...sorry, but you think screaming at an obviously "lost" or "absent" boyfriend gives a predator INFORMATION that he has time. Better to speak to your phone and say "HONEY, I'M TEN SECONDS AWAY FROM YOU, RIGHT HERE IN THE CAR PARK, NEXT TO THE BLUE CAR, CAN YOU SEE ME NOW??" and watch the suspicious person run.
#33
Stay off your cell phone in parking lots. You are distracted and aren’t paying attention. A lot of people with bad intentions park and wait for women
Lavern Defazio 6 months ago
Also, it could prevent you from being RUNOVER by a car as well. Sheesh.
#34
Never let them pick you up from your house. Never let anyone know where you live , till you know you can trust them.
#35
I bought a Purge clown mask balaclava that I wear when I have to walk alone in the dark. I look unhinged and no one messes with me
#36
If you're single & meeting a new guy, always arrive early, sit at the bar & tell the bartender "If I order a (insert whatever drink) he's making me uncomfortable!" For me it's a Dirty Martini
Bad Alchemy 6 months ago
I suppose this could work, but would you really want to rely on the bartender if the bar gets packed and busy? They aren't likely to be able to pay attention, and it's not their job. A better plan is to have someone call you 10-15 minutes into your planned date and check in on you. If you need to bail, you can pretend it's an emergency call and leave.
#37
Decide not to die when you’re attacked and don’t waiver on that decision
LakotaWolf (she/her) 6 months ago
While it should be "waver", ironically "waiver" still sort of works, grammatically speaking! XD
#38
I worked at a bar and I would carry my tips in a to go box so if I got robbed they would think it was just left overs.
Lavern Defazio 6 months ago
This. Sometimes I see restaurant workers leaving their shift and you know they have tips on them.
#39
Dude here. palm strikes hit harder than fists aim for eyes, throat or groin or whatever hes not covering up. learn how joints work make them bend the wrong way. Also you can break a pen15 look it up
Maggie Fulton 6 months ago
Hit a guy directly in the Adam’s apple. He’ll go down struggling to breathe. If you hit him hard enough, he will choke to death on his own blood. My aunt, a medical records manager, told me the weak spots on a guy’s body. The p***s bit is true—yank it forward hard, and it fill with blood (hemorrhage? ). At any rate, he will need to go to a hospital. Be fierce.
#40
Listen to me. ANYTHING that will fit into an ear canal can and should be used in an ear canal to save your life. No one ever thinks to protect their ears when you start swinging
Maggie Fulton 6 months ago
Also, if you hit both his ears with your fists, you may break his eardrums. Or hers, or whatever. Info from the same aunt.
#41
Women were given a heightened sense of intuition to offset the imbalance of physical strength with men. If your gut feels off- always listen. It’s your superpower.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 6 months ago
I don't think females were "given a heightened sense of intuition" to "offset the imbalance of physical strength" of males; I think the "intuition" of women is more of a thing we've all learned to develop and absorbed from other women, even if we have never been ássáulted/SAed ourselves.
#42
Post vacay pics when I make it home.
The_Nicest_Misanthrope 6 months ago
I solve this one by just not being on social media. Magic!
#43
Take a picture of where you parked and look at it bf you enter a parking garage so you aren't walking around confused and distracted when it's time to go
#44
if I have a male uber driver if he asks about my day I say I’m super happy because I got my conceal carry permit, if he asks about my job I say I’m not at liberty to discuss it with the general public
#45
If you’re a housewife, pay for everything with your debit card (grocery store etc) and take out $20 each time and put it in a secret bank account. He’s not going to look at your receipts.
Kim Kermes 6 months ago
Any woman who chooses to become a SAHW deserves 20% of his paycheck deposited in her own account. Try hiring a full time housekeeper and live in nanny for that.
#46
As 911 operator… if you don’t know where you are let’s say on a hike and you have your phone, the coordinates to your location are in the compass app as well as maps.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 6 months ago
Saw on one of the other entries that one should change their voicemail greeting to their location/etc. if they are lost or stuck or if their phone is about to die. I'm going to say that, if you are lost on a hike/outdoors and do not have cellphone reception, perhaps change your voicemail greeting to your coordinates! Even if you continue walking around to seek shelter, at least rescuers will have your general location.
#47
Everyone in my family has bracelets that have flint on them and can break car windows because one time I went into a body of water and almost couldn't get out
#48
My mom taught me to memorize how many steps to get anywhere in my house. Someone breaks in and you k*ll the power. I’d know how to get out, they’ll be lost
Original Kinkster 6 months ago
Not sure about this. I'd imagine that someone who breaks into homes to steal something valuable will carry a flashlight with them and keep the lights turned off. So, where's your advantage when it's dark, they got a flashlight and you don't?
#50
I have mirrors in every room, hallway, stairway. Strategically positioned to give me a quick view into ALL surrounding rooms… NO one will surprise me in my own home. Friend or foe.
Lavern Defazio 6 months ago
I also keep mirrors in corners of my house to reflect the good energy across my abode.
#51
My 3rd grade teacher, told us- if anyone is ever making you uncomfortable walking in a parking lot or to the car or anywhere- BE WEIRD. Be the crazy - she danced around and acted all crazy. Mrs.Seal’s
#52
Locking my doors as soon as I get inside my car! I almost got kidnap in downtown Portland, Oregon
#53
Take separate cars and meet up at the restaurant when dating someone new
#54
My mom and I came up with a “secret question” for when I am in trouble or need of help and she needs to come and get me basically “hey mom how is prince” prince is my dogs that died 5 years ago ago.
Cindy Brick 6 months ago
We have a "secret word:" if the adult knew the word, then the girlies knew it was safe to ride home with them, etc. (Nope, not telling you what it is. It's still active.)
#55
If a group of men are walking behind you. Stop step to side and let them walk ahead of u. Never have your back to them!
Maren Villadsen 6 months ago
If they are going to attack you, i really don't think they care if you step to the side. They are still going to attack you
#56
If there is an emergency, point at people and assign roles, don’t say “someone call 911!” Point at someone and say “YOU call 911”
Kim Kermes 6 months ago
And tell them what to say, starting with location, and what help is needed.
#57
Learn about angel shots. A lot of bartenders are aware if you ask for an angel shot in a certain way you are in need of help.
#58
I always leave a full car space ahead of me at every light. If something happens, I'm going, even if I have to ram my way out
#59
That "butterfly" feeling in your stomach is your intuition telling you to run
#60
I had a man point a gun at my head. I screamed in the most unhinged way *I WISH YOU WOULD, DO ME A FAVOR!* if they believe you are insane, or will draw too much attention-you may escape with your life
#61
I recently got a ✨Rottweiler ✨
LakotaWolf (she/her) 6 months ago
I have a Belgian Malinois! XD He's actually friendly af but most people see them as "police dogs" or "military dogs". He is trained to bark and growl on command. He only weighs about 65 lbs but he sounds like he's 300 lbs when he's barking and snarling XD
#63
GLITTER!!! And a lot of years in MMA. They won't pick a girl covered in glitter because it's evidence and extremely hard to get rid of if ever. MMA cause DONT PUT YOUR HANDS ON ME.
#64
A Stanley cup weighs about 4 lbs when full of water. Do with that as you must.
Kim Kermes 6 months ago
A big Yeti mug with a handle weighs a lot. Reminds me of having to work up to drinking out of a full liter beer mug with one hand, in Germany,
#65
Pepper gel, personal alarm, winter soldier walk, major rbf, and direct eye contact so they know I’m aware of their presence.
#66
when traveling alone stay close to a group or family & pretend you're not alone & if you have no choice then do the winter soldier walk fast paced w/ head h**h & fixated gaze in the distance.
#67
Getting a copy of my vehicle’s key and hiding it outside in a spot only where I can find it. So when I had to run, I could still leave even if he took my “only key”
#68
I buy and sell on Facebook marketplace. I use a man's name, an older birthday, etc. I'm a 35yr old man named Darrell who's 6'1. You don't need to know I'm a woman when I buy something
#69
No pepper spray. Have spray paint. Specially the color of your car. Is burns their eyes and makes them a target, and if someone gets suspicious of you having paint, say it’s to touch up your car.
Lady Eowyn 6 months ago
With as many dings as there are on my old car, that would be believable. I cover any dings that go down to the metal with clear nail polish to prevent rust.
#70
Contractors or anyone else unknown... You don't get to know my dog's name and she's not friendly either. My dog doesn't need to think they are familiar or that they can pet her.
#71
Keep your keys by your bedside. If you hear something outside or get scared in your home, set your alarm off.
#72
pee, vomit and rub it all over yourself. Leave it all over the walls, car, etc. Be as disgusting as you can be. You can wash it all off later. Alive.
#73
A guy demanded my phone one time & I flashed him a smile and said “ nah that’s weird then how ima text you later?” And somehow flirt my way outta getting robbed
#75
If your stuck or lost and low battery or shotty service, change your voicemail to date, time, location ETC
Jill Rhodry 6 months ago
if you can connect to voicemail don't waste service/battery just contact emergency services and stay put
#76
I take wallet with fake money on me just in case I ever got held up so I can simply give them the fake wallet
BrownEyedPanda 6 months ago
Be careful! When they discover that the money is fake, they could off you right then and there.
#78
Always take the elevators… stair wells hardly ever have cameras.
Tobias Reaper 6 months ago (edited)
and elevators have no way out so both not ideal at least stairs you have more of a chance to escape
#79
fingers are the consistency of carrots, eyes are the consistency of grapes
#80
I always say everyone should get in the habit of going for runs. at 30 mins a day so that in emergency situations you build up that stamina. I know Pilates and weight lifting are popular right now.
#81
Befriending large and intimidating g**g members in my neighborhood
#82
Eyes are vital organs. Foxglove are invasive in my area.
#84
Assume every man is a kidnapping r*pist…thanks for attending my Ted Talk
Bad Alchemy 6 months ago
Uh, no. Not helpful. Hypervigilance and seeing monsters everywhere guarantees that you are easily triggered and miss the actual threat. Situational awareness is better that constant paranoia.
#85
BPD rage has saved my life a few times… A man tried to strangle me, but then I looked at him with the craziest eyes and he backed away
Black Cat 6 months ago
All this advice about appearing crazy when statistically the mentally ill are more likely to be victims of crime including violent crime as thyre more vulnerable. Also if an attacker has been watching you for a while and you only act crazy when you feel threatened it's pretty obvious it's an act.
#86
I was home alone and started choking on a tomato, fell to ground and thought this is the end. My pit bull came out of nowhere and literally dropped all his weight on my middle, it dislodged it!
#87
I’m always strapped. Walking to my car. Strapped. Going on a walk. Strapped. Grocery shopping. Strapped. Taking my kids out. Strapped. Open the front door strapped. Period. Stay ready ladies
LakotaWolf (she/her) 6 months ago
I don't have a gun, but I have a pocketknife on me at all times (an absolutely gorgeous chroma-bladed Sarge) and I also have a "car knife". It is much larger than my pocketknife. It stays in the side pocket of my car door. If I drive somewhere at night and have to get out of my car, I grab my car knife, partially unsheathe it, and stick it into my pants (under my shirt) where I can easily grab it.
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Pixie T 6 months ago
When I was a kid, around 6 ish my grandad was teaching me my sister and cousins all about stranger danger. He told us what to do if a stranger approaches or tries to take us. He then quizzed us on the lesson he just gave. Instead of verbally answering I acted it out physically. My poor grandad dropped to the floor and with literal tears in his eyes manged a very hushed "good job". Poor sod was in pain for days.
Smeghead Tribble Down Under 6 months ago
My grandfather once told me ''Eyes, nose, groin (if the attacker has a p***s), toes''. Those places hurt the most when struck.
Little Bit 6 months ago
1. If you're being followed, walk into the nearest shop, restaurant, or public building (anywhere where there’s likely to be a lot of people). 2. When you’re leaving the house always shout "Goodbye" or "see you later". Even if you're locking up an empty house it gives the impression that someone's at home. (I learnt to do this when I lived in an area where burglary was rife and they would strike the second they knew the house was empty). 3. If you're walking alone, hold your keys in your pocket with one key between your fingers. It can be used as a weapon if you need to defend yourself. 4. I was once approached by a stranger who made me feel uncomfortable by trying to chat me up. I looked over his shoulder, pointed and said, "Oh look my husband's over there". He wasn't but it did the trick. The stranger walked away. 5. If you think you're going to be attacked in the street, point behind the attacker and shout "Police!" It will provide a distraction and you may be able to escape o
Pixie T 6 months ago
When I was a kid, around 6 ish my grandad was teaching me my sister and cousins all about stranger danger. He told us what to do if a stranger approaches or tries to take us. He then quizzed us on the lesson he just gave. Instead of verbally answering I acted it out physically. My poor grandad dropped to the floor and with literal tears in his eyes manged a very hushed "good job". Poor sod was in pain for days.
Smeghead Tribble Down Under 6 months ago
My grandfather once told me ''Eyes, nose, groin (if the attacker has a p***s), toes''. Those places hurt the most when struck.
Little Bit 6 months ago
1. If you're being followed, walk into the nearest shop, restaurant, or public building (anywhere where there’s likely to be a lot of people). 2. When you’re leaving the house always shout "Goodbye" or "see you later". Even if you're locking up an empty house it gives the impression that someone's at home. (I learnt to do this when I lived in an area where burglary was rife and they would strike the second they knew the house was empty). 3. If you're walking alone, hold your keys in your pocket with one key between your fingers. It can be used as a weapon if you need to defend yourself. 4. I was once approached by a stranger who made me feel uncomfortable by trying to chat me up. I looked over his shoulder, pointed and said, "Oh look my husband's over there". He wasn't but it did the trick. The stranger walked away. 5. If you think you're going to be attacked in the street, point behind the attacker and shout "Police!" It will provide a distraction and you may be able to escape o
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