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“The most dangerous among us come dressed as angels, and we learn too late they are the devil in disguise.” This quote by author Carlos Wallace can pretty much sum up the world we live in, especially for many women.
Day in and day out, they worry about potential dangers while going through their daily routines, which oftentimes aren’t readily noticeable. As a result, many of them have resorted to unorthodox, even “unhinged” methods to keep themselves safe.
We’ve collected these responses from a recent TikTok post. Ladies, feel free to chime in with your own tips!
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#1
My momma said you can always apologize for overreacting. You can’t apologize if you’re dead. Make a damn scene.
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#2
I heard someone say to teach your children an adult isn’t going to ask a child for help. They don’t need a child to find their lost dog or whatever.
#3
Thought a guy put something in my drink once I switched them when he wasn’t looking and he passed out 10 minutes later
#4
My friend in middle school realized she was being followed. She turned around to face the guy who had a smirk. Started twitching & cackling then sprinted dead on at him. grown dude ran away screaming
#5
Scream mom don’t scream help. You scream, Mom, every single mother in that vicinity is gonna look.
BrownEyedPanda 2 weeks ago
Some of those mothers will be bearing arms--and anything else that can damage man or beast.
#6
A cop came to my high school and told the girls “you have a better chance of surviving a gun shot than a man who takes you to a 2nd location” never let a man force you into his car even at gunpoint
#7
Tiny can of pink spray paint, impossible to get out of eyes, easy to get a description on someone with pink spray paint in their eyes walking into a hospital for help
#8
I tell my teen daughter and her friends that if an older guys can't get a girl his age, it's because there's something wrong with him.
#9
Keep a bat with a knee-high sock on the business end (not where you hold it)—that way, if/when the bat is grabbed mid-swing, they’ll grab the sock, bat slips out and you can keep on swinging
Kim Kermes 2 weeks ago
Or use a walking stick as a lance into their solar plexus. Less time to react.
#10
I heard someone once say when in dangerous situations for women, “Dont get scared, get angry.” It changed my entire way of thinking bc my gut reaction is to be scared
#11
use pepper gel not spray! spray can blow back in your face and it forms a cloud. gel shoots straight with no blow back and it's sticky the more they rub the worse it gets!
#12
you have NO obligation to open your door everytime someone knocks on it.
Bad Alchemy 2 weeks ago
Exactly! If you didn't call first or make plans with me, don't expect me to answer my door for you.
#13
LADIES! A man will NEVER ask you for help if he actually needs it, especially car related. He will ask another man. If he's asking you, LEAVE IMMEDIATELY (happens at gas stations or parking lots)
#14
to this day remind my adult child “if you are abducted…. Fight to the death. Either you die or they die, but someone dies.
#15
A hydroflask. Don’t ask- but it seriously SAVED MY LIFE one time. You a hit a mf in they’re head w all you got & it’ll knock them clean out.
#16
When you are anywhere and you sense or see a man staring at you, stop and stare at them back. With no emotion. Now you know what they look like and you look like less of a target to them. Stay aware
#17
I befriended the homeless men that would hang out outside my job. My boss would get mad at me. I told him I felt safer with them as my friends. One of them saved me from a guy trying to rob me
Rali Meyer 2 weeks ago
Good one. And buy coffee for the underpaid security hanging around (here in South Africa). They'll watch over you
#18
Never scream “leave me alone!” If some dude is following you, that makes people think it’s a lover’s spat. Scream “I don’t know you!” That activates people
#20
911 dispatcher here: No. Second. Location.
Depressed Lesbian(she/they/he) 2 weeks ago
If you get kidnapped, chances are, you’ll die if you’re taken to a second location. John Mulaney did a bit on this.
#21
Always trust ur gut feeling even if there is no logical reason to feel that way. Don’t feel like taking the stairs or parking somewhere then don’t. Get the ick from someone then steer clear of them
#22
Almost got trafficked driving home. call 911, don’t EVER STOP DRIVING NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS. Keep going even if they ram your car, do NOT stop, you are not overreacting, they aren’t drunk, DONT STOP
BrownEyedPanda 2 weeks ago
And whatever you do, do NOT lead them to your residence! Drive to the nearest police station or hospital emergency entrance.
#23
Don't tell strangers your name. it's literally ok to lie to strangers
LakotaWolf (she/her) 2 weeks ago
Who's the biggest homophobe/transphobe/troll here on BP? I'm going to start using their username and telling strangers/creeps that it's my "real name" >:3 (am joking but hope y'all got a chuckle out of the concept!)
#24
coworker once told me not to keep a bat in my car, but a bat, glove, and a ball. going for a bat can be spun as a premeditated attack, but if you jave the whole set you can argue you were gonna play
#25
When you’re out in public look around. Stop being in them phones. Saved me a few times.
#26
Don’t post your kids or family on social media. And really limit what you share out there. The internet is full of everyone including bad people
BrownEyedPanda 2 weeks ago
Predators see the internet as a free-for-all marketplace; just pick and choose your next victims.
#27
I was approached and knew he was going to attack me..I said dont I know your mother from church...the confusion on his face gave me enough time to run away
#28
anytime an Uber driver asks if I have a man I say "I am one 🙂" quietest rides ever
#29
If someone is trying to kidnap you just lay down. It’s gonna take both hands of the attacker so you can scream. It will cause a scene. Best advice from a police officer!
LakotaWolf (she/her) 2 weeks ago
I understand the concept (you're now dead weight that they have to drag/pick up) but I'd be scared of being completely helpless and vulnerable to them kicking, punching, or attacking me with a weapon while just laying down D:
#30
I keep men’s shoes outside my front door so it looks like a big dude lives here.
#31
when driving, never go as soon as the light turns green. intersection collisions are more common than you think!
BrownEyedPanda 2 weeks ago
There's always at least one fool trying to "race" the solid red light. If you're a pedestrian, you're roadkill.
#32
Idk if it’s saved my life, but if someone starts acting funny in parking lots I pull out my phone and “answer” my “bf” and scream at him “YOU HAVE MY LOCATION WHERE TF DO YOU THINK I AM, MARCUS?”
Moonie Pinkslip 2 weeks ago
Uh...sorry, but you think screaming at an obviously "lost" or "absent" boyfriend gives a predator INFORMATION that he has time. Better to speak to your phone and say "HONEY, I'M TEN SECONDS AWAY FROM YOU, RIGHT HERE IN THE CAR PARK, NEXT TO THE BLUE CAR, CAN YOU SEE ME NOW??" and watch the suspicious person run.
#33
Stay off your cell phone in parking lots. You are distracted and aren’t paying attention. A lot of people with bad intentions park and wait for women
Lavern Defazio 2 weeks ago
Also, it could prevent you from being RUNOVER by a car as well. Sheesh.
#34
Never let them pick you up from your house. Never let anyone know where you live , till you know you can trust them.
#35
I bought a Purge clown mask balaclava that I wear when I have to walk alone in the dark. I look unhinged and no one messes with me
#36
If you're single & meeting a new guy, always arrive early, sit at the bar & tell the bartender "If I order a (insert whatever drink) he's making me uncomfortable!" For me it's a Dirty Martini
Bad Alchemy 2 weeks ago
I suppose this could work, but would you really want to rely on the bartender if the bar gets packed and busy? They aren't likely to be able to pay attention, and it's not their job. A better plan is to have someone call you 10-15 minutes into your planned date and check in on you. If you need to bail, you can pretend it's an emergency call and leave.
#37
Decide not to die when you’re attacked and don’t waiver on that decision
LakotaWolf (she/her) 2 weeks ago
While it should be "waver", ironically "waiver" still sort of works, grammatically speaking! XD
#38
I worked at a bar and I would carry my tips in a to go box so if I got robbed they would think it was just left overs.
Lavern Defazio 2 weeks ago
This. Sometimes I see restaurant workers leaving their shift and you know they have tips on them.
#39
Dude here. palm strikes hit harder than fists aim for eyes, throat or groin or whatever hes not covering up. learn how joints work make them bend the wrong way. Also you can break a pen15 look it up
Maggie Fulton 2 weeks ago
Hit a guy directly in the Adam’s apple. He’ll go down struggling to breathe. If you hit him hard enough, he will choke to death on his own blood. My aunt, a medical records manager, told me the weak spots on a guy’s body. The p***s bit is true—yank it forward hard, and it fill with blood (hemorrhage? ). At any rate, he will need to go to a hospital. Be fierce.
#40
Listen to me. ANYTHING that will fit into an ear canal can and should be used in an ear canal to save your life. No one ever thinks to protect their ears when you start swinging
Maggie Fulton 2 weeks ago
Also, if you hit both his ears with your fists, you may break his eardrums. Or hers, or whatever. Info from the same aunt.
#41
Women were given a heightened sense of intuition to offset the imbalance of physical strength with men. If your gut feels off- always listen. It’s your superpower.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 2 weeks ago
I don't think females were "given a heightened sense of intuition" to "offset the imbalance of physical strength" of males; I think the "intuition" of women is more of a thing we've all learned to develop and absorbed from other women, even if we have never been ássáulted/SAed ourselves.
#43
Take a picture of where you parked and look at it bf you enter a parking garage so you aren't walking around confused and distracted when it's time to go
#44
if I have a male uber driver if he asks about my day I say I’m super happy because I got my conceal carry permit, if he asks about my job I say I’m not at liberty to discuss it with the general public
#45
If you’re a housewife, pay for everything with your debit card (grocery store etc) and take out $20 each time and put it in a secret bank account. He’s not going to look at your receipts.
Kim Kermes 2 weeks ago
Any woman who chooses to become a SAHW deserves 20% of his paycheck deposited in her own account. Try hiring a full time housekeeper and live in nanny for that.
#46
As 911 operator… if you don’t know where you are let’s say on a hike and you have your phone, the coordinates to your location are in the compass app as well as maps.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 2 weeks ago
Saw on one of the other entries that one should change their voicemail greeting to their location/etc. if they are lost or stuck or if their phone is about to die. I'm going to say that, if you are lost on a hike/outdoors and do not have cellphone reception, perhaps change your voicemail greeting to your coordinates! Even if you continue walking around to seek shelter, at least rescuers will have your general location.
#47
Everyone in my family has bracelets that have flint on them and can break car windows because one time I went into a body of water and almost couldn't get out
#48
My mom taught me to memorize how many steps to get anywhere in my house. Someone breaks in and you k*ll the power. I’d know how to get out, they’ll be lost
Original Kinkster 2 weeks ago
Not sure about this. I'd imagine that someone who breaks into homes to steal something valuable will carry a flashlight with them and keep the lights turned off. So, where's your advantage when it's dark, they got a flashlight and you don't?
#49
I have all my uber/doordash/lyft accounts under a male name
Mamie Van Boring 2 weeks ago
If getting a takeaway delivered when I am in the house by myself, I always shout something like "It's here >male name<!" as if I am calling for my partner to come and eat.
#50
I have mirrors in every room, hallway, stairway. Strategically positioned to give me a quick view into ALL surrounding rooms… NO one will surprise me in my own home. Friend or foe.
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Nathaniel He/Him Cis-Het 2 weeks ago (edited)
One tip I have heard is to carry a small, but powerful torch. Shine it in the eyes of any attacker, they are momentarily blinded, giving you a couple of vital seconds to run to a more public location.
BrownEyedPanda 2 weeks ago
A NEBO light works. $30 from Amazon or various UPS stores.
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Pixie T 2 weeks ago
When I was a kid, around 6 ish my grandad was teaching me my sister and cousins all about stranger danger. He told us what to do if a stranger approaches or tries to take us. He then quizzed us on the lesson he just gave. Instead of verbally answering I acted it out physically. My poor grandad dropped to the floor and with literal tears in his eyes manged a very hushed "good job". Poor sod was in pain for days.
Smeghead Tribble Down Under 2 weeks ago
My grandfather once told me ''Eyes, nose, groin (if the attacker has a p***s), toes''. Those places hurt the most when struck.
Nathaniel He/Him Cis-Het 2 weeks ago (edited)
One tip I have heard is to carry a small, but powerful torch. Shine it in the eyes of any attacker, they are momentarily blinded, giving you a couple of vital seconds to run to a more public location.
BrownEyedPanda 2 weeks ago
A NEBO light works. $30 from Amazon or various UPS stores.
Load More Replies... Pixie T 2 weeks ago
When I was a kid, around 6 ish my grandad was teaching me my sister and cousins all about stranger danger. He told us what to do if a stranger approaches or tries to take us. He then quizzed us on the lesson he just gave. Instead of verbally answering I acted it out physically. My poor grandad dropped to the floor and with literal tears in his eyes manged a very hushed "good job". Poor sod was in pain for days.
Smeghead Tribble Down Under 2 weeks ago
My grandfather once told me ''Eyes, nose, groin (if the attacker has a p***s), toes''. Those places hurt the most when struck.
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