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Ladies Reveal 31 Things No One Actually Told Them About Men Until They Got A Boyfriend Themselves
The dating world is pretty challenging for us gals because finding someone you click with is not always easy. For instance, women can be clueless about men’s habits, but when they actually find a boyfriend, they end up knowing so many surprising things about the opposite gender.
When Reddit user Era of kittens asked, “Women, what did you find out about men when you got a boyfriend?” female netizens rushed to answer. If you have never dated someone yet, some of these facts might just astonish you, so just scroll down and check them out for yourself!
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#1
If I just want to vent I should preface my venting by letting them know I am not asking for a solution.
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#3
Sometimes they really do just be thinking about nothing.
First things are always interesting, whether it be dating someone or knowing their weird secrets. Especially when the opposite gender is a complete mystery to you, and you slowly uncover facts about them that you would have never guessed. As you scroll through the list, you might even be amused by some of the things that women have shared.
On the other hand, some of these are actually quite sad, if you think about it. For instance, one lady shared how much men can struggle mentally, yet never tell anyone about it. In fact, research has also proved that men are more likely than women to prefer to deal with mental illness on their own when it comes to treatment.
#4
They really think a 26-in-1 shampoo-conditioner-bodywash-facewash-dogwash-carwash-motoroil-laundrydetergent is good.
DennyS (denzoren) 7 months ago
I mean...26 things for the price of one...that's a hell of a deal.
#5
You can tell when they had a mom that did everything.
Remi (He/Him) 7 months ago
If he's celebrating how he used the vacuum for the first time and figured out everything (spoiler alert, he didn't).
#6
They would rather break both of their arms than bring the groceries in multiple trips.
I have no complaints, I’m just concerned sometimes.
Speaking about men's mental health, it has also been observed that men are less likely to access psychological therapies than women, as only 36% of referrals to NHS talking therapies are for men. A Pew Research Center survey also suggests that, as opposed to women, men are less likely to turn to their network for emotional support.
As we dig deeper into the issue, it's actually quite mournful to think that even in the 21st century, men are still made to brush their mental health under the carpet and adhere to the social norms of "masculinity." In fact, research suggests that it's this exact toxic masculinity that stops young men from seeking the mental health support that they need.
#7
How sassy they can be when they get comfortable with you, it really is like having a best friend.
#8
That they can be really smart yet still be SO DUMB.
#9
That they will sit on the juiciest piece of gossip but when you ask for details they know NOTHING. What do you mean you didn't ask every single little detail?!
Someone also spoke about how men's readiness to be in a relationship is based on their financial status, and how she has never faced this as a woman. The bitter truth is that it may even stem from deeply ingrained beliefs that men are still expected to be the sole "breadwinners" for their families.
A survey has revealed that 72% of men believe it’s important for the man in a relationship to be able to financially support his family in order to be a good partner. Women had similar expectations of the men in their lives, with 71% of women surveyed expecting their male partners to bring home the bacon to qualify as a good partner.
However, the American Sociological Association states that being the primary breadwinner is bad for men's psychological well-being and health.
#10
That men don't get complimented anywhere near enough and the best thing you can for him as a woman - even if you don't want to marry him - is say out loud to him all the nice things you're thinking about him.
Because why not tell him he's f*****g great if he is f*****g great?
#11
They give off so much heat, it's like having your own human radiator.
Mark Fergel 7 months ago
Nothing compared to women going through menopause. Man, I don't know how the female body goes through a +20 degree jump in 1 second flat.
#12
How strong they are. I knew men were stronger on average than women but I didn't really understand how big the gap was until I met my now husband. .
One Reddit user also mentioned how men receive way fewer compliments as opposed to women, and even research backs up this fact. However, we all love compliments, don't we? Psychology Today also states that compliments often make the receiver feel better than most people anticipate, and they also improve the mood of the compliment giver.
When we already live in a world where something as harmful as toxic masculinity exists, a simple compliment sounds like a small, graceful fighter against it. After all, men also deserve to be appreciated just as much as women.
#13
That at least some of them actually, like, *like* the manly side of gender role stuff. I always assumed my dad was just antiquated when he talked about how men love providing for women, feeling useful or needed, making them feel safe, that kind of thing. But no. I told my boyfriend I was thankful I could rely on him and he was on cloud nine for the day. He keeps track of any reported crime in the area and insists on driving me home if anything squirrelly is up. He's offered to change my oil???
I love it (and him)! But I wouldn't have guessed that he would. .
#14
That they think 'pretty privilege' is standard woman privilege. i.e. random people paying for your things, carrying stuff, getting invited everywhere, men just doing stuff for you, easier time dating etc. I don't know a single regular woman who gets any of these.
Michelle C 7 months ago
Correct; the flip side is that we may get harassed and expected to be “nice” just because some guys think we are pretty. I feel sorry for the men who both find certain women attractive and genuinely just want to be kind to all people.
#15
Men communicate better without 1:1 eye contact; they open up more when side-by-side doing an activity like fishing, playing pool, video games, etc.
Women are more tactile with each other and will look at each other in the eyes; read facial reactions, body language, etc.
GenuineJen 7 months ago
Honestly I prefer that too. That might be a personality trait, not just a gender thing.
Other women also mentioned some warm things about men, which was honestly quite endearing to read, especially little things about how men can be quite caring. Don't you think so, too? Let us know your thoughts in the comments. Also, dear women readers, if we have missed any such facts, do share them with us, and don't forget to upvote your favorite one on the list!
#16
I'll tell my husband a secret or something I'm not supposed to tell anyone. I know he won't say anything, cos he'll forget all about it!!
#17
A lot of them were never taught basic care. Like face washing, flossing, cleaning their bodies completely(not going to be graphic but you can imagine) and using lotion. Dated a guy who complained constantly about being itchy so I started putting lotion on him after his showers and he genuinely didn’t know dry skin was the cause of the discomfort or the purpose of lotion. He thought it just smelled good.
Auntriarch 7 months ago
Mr Auntriarch thought moisturiser was simply an affectation until recently. He kens the noo!
#18
They don’t really care how big or small your b***s are.
#19
That there is a huge societal pressure on men where their status and "readiness to be in a relationship" is financial. Never felt that type of pressure as a woman.
#20
So much burping and farting.
#21
How on edge and observant they are when you go out with them. I’d didn’t know how silently aware and consistently being protective of the women they are surrounded with.
StrangeOne 7 months ago
This makes so much more sense now. When I'm out with my bf, he's so much more tense than chilling in his flat.
#22
They can be more sensitive than women.
Amanda Reinstatler 7 months ago
They also do not seeme to realize that anger is also an emotion - while they yell and rant about "emotional women"
#23
How they treat their mother/sister(s) is very telling about how they view women.
Amanda Reinstatler 7 months ago
I also always pay very close attention to the way they treat servers, bartenders, customer service etc. That is always VERY telling
#25
The first thing I learned in my first relationship was that my mom was wrong. She told me all men will try to have s*x with you.
My ex said he wasn't ready to have s*x because we were only 18 and he was scared of possibly getting me pregnant. I was still religious, so that worked for me, too.
#26
How little they worry about their health.
I’m over here going to the doctor for every weird twinge or skin lesion, and then my husband over there was totally chill about not going to the doctor for the better part of a decade until I made him go. .
Stephanie Did It 7 months ago
Often it's one of two reasons: they're scared of doctors, shots, etc, or they don't like putting themselves in a position where others have the control. I've known quite a few men who were terrified of needles.
#28
That they’re all 12 mentally but not in a bad way. My bf goes out of his way to gross me out or get a reaction out me with his silent but deadlies 😂
#29
How open they are about what they do in the bathroom after you get close enough.
#30
When they're insecure and unsure, they will say things that have worked for them in the past.
#31
They never buy clothes, it’s your new job
Tango Wox 7 months ago
Its not that some of use don't persay. Its that we do not see a need when what we have is comfortable and still in good shape. Also I personally hate shopping for clothes as it can be very hard to find things that fit, are comfy and look good, so if i don't need to replace something I prefer to ignore it.
What do you think ?
God of Sarcasm 7 months ago
Thanks to this post, and a post about women from a while back, I now know everything about males and females and I can start slowly taking over the world.
joseph legatt 7 months ago
Men aren't great at picking up on a woman's signals. If women want something or have something they want to communicate they need to say so. Giving off unseen vibes usually won't get the job done.
Donna Peluda 7 months ago
My wife never wanted to hear why I was so miserable towards the end. I'm tired, tired of working, taking on extra work and she wasn't even making an effort to find a job and making my life a constant grind while she sat at home.
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CP 7 months ago (edited)
A lot of these posts could apply to how every human should behave not just men.
Avital Pilpel 7 months ago
Sure, but I think you're taking them a bit too seriously...
Load More Replies... God of Sarcasm 7 months ago
Thanks to this post, and a post about women from a while back, I now know everything about males and females and I can start slowly taking over the world.
joseph legatt 7 months ago
Men aren't great at picking up on a woman's signals. If women want something or have something they want to communicate they need to say so. Giving off unseen vibes usually won't get the job done.
Donna Peluda 7 months ago
My wife never wanted to hear why I was so miserable towards the end. I'm tired, tired of working, taking on extra work and she wasn't even making an effort to find a job and making my life a constant grind while she sat at home.
Load More Replies... CP 7 months ago (edited)
A lot of these posts could apply to how every human should behave not just men.
Avital Pilpel 7 months ago
Sure, but I think you're taking them a bit too seriously...
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