From introverted and gentle to extroverted and eccentric, the human personality is a complex and colorful thing. It describes our distinctive patterns of thinking, feeling, and behaving and derives from a mix of innate dispositions and inclinations along with environmental factors and experiences.
But sometimes, people give the impression that they have a very narrow definition of self. Interested in such cases, Reddit user StandardGenre45 made a post on the platform, asking everyone "What's something that people turn into their whole personality?" And it blew up—so far, the post has 28.3K comments. Here are some of the most interesting ones.
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Being gay.
I'm myself gay but that's hardly something I communicate about unless being specifically asked about. Yet I've met a few who center their whole life and personality around that. They have to do ,"gay thing". All their behavior, taste and enjoyment and justified by "it's a gay thing".
Funny thing I've already been told something along the lines of "yeah it's pretty common among us gay people, you wouldn't know about it".
I don't understand, like if I were asked to describe myself it'd go along those lines
- french that grew up in Quebec Canada.
- love sciences and physics, studied that.
- into video games and phantasy
- big on family values n stuff
- I like languages, learned Japanese and German (although German is quite rusty now)
- my favorite food are sushi pizza and french sausage.
- I love beer 🍺 !
Then down down down the line
- I'm gay
But I dunno, I don't see people going around saying they're straight, I don't see why that should be something I say.
I just baffles me and I find it really sad... Are you so void of personality that "gay" is your number one trait ? The one thing describe you Is the type of hole you like to put your d@ck in?
Done with my rant xD
It's a type of sushi, where rice is given a fried breaded exterior and shaped into a circle. Salmon (usually) is then laid on top along with other "toppings" and cut into quarters to resemble a pizza made with sushi ingredients.
Load More Replies...I hear you, but I think it is something related to self-acceptance. If someone has been, for instance, rejected by their family for being gay, or of they hid it for a long time, they might point out the fact a lot because coming out cost them a lot
100% agree with this. Had someone tell me they were shocked when they found out I wasn't straight because I seemed so much more "masculine" than them. Not sure that makes a difference
My late gay brother certainly enjoyed activities that might be classed as gay (he lived in NYC for many years), but most people had no idea he was a gay man. Didn't hide it but also didn't think it was the most important thing about himself. What he was was a certified outdoor guide, a lover of dogs and canoe trips, of history and music, a kind person who stepped up over and over to help people. He had many friends, both gay and straight, and boy, do I miss him.
Yes being gay is just one aspect of who I am. However, I find that it is important to be open about my sexuality. Discrimination, harassment and homophobia are best confronted by being visible. Also it is easier to be open than to listen to comments by narrow minded people about issues like monkey pox, aids, marriage equality, drag story time. GSAs, or weird religious views. Strangely enough the world has changed and if you let people know you are gay, the keep their bigoted mouths shut.
I think bigots never keep their mouths shut because they are proud of being assholes.
Load More Replies...I have a nonprofit to help candidates get elected. I run into this a lot. I completely agree with you. They should stand on the merit of their character. Education/work background. Qualified for the job. What good they are going to do when elected. Orientation has to do with which partner you choose. It does not define who you are. I get that the more open they are in that regard the more socially accepted the LGBTQ community will become but still it is not the all about who you are.
I was just talking about it with a gay friend. She feels the same way. I agree, too. I find it tiresome
This is 100% true. I don't want to know about anyone's private sex life.
I love your perspective. And, no, our sexual preferences shouldn't define us as people/human beings. I, personally, am hetero. But, other than this particular thread, I would never have mentioned that to anyone. It's literally irrelevant to who I am & what I'm all about. I love Art History, old cars & airplanes. I work In the music industry. These are the things we can start a conversation with. I agree with you. Which hole shouldn't come up unless/until we're in the bedroom (or otherwise agreed upon place of "play") LMFAO
Yup. But you can't say that! Everyone gets so offended by everything.
It can be very exhausting dealing with gay guys that are like this, I’m also gay but that’s only important for dating and telling the family
I want to open "Dave's Sushi and Bait Shop, where today's sushi is tomorrow's bait."
Makes perfect sense. And is tomorrow's catch tomorrow's sushi?
Load More Replies...I'm a 46 year old gay woman who has been out for more than half of my life. I have lots of other important parts about my life too, but being gay is extremely important. It impacts every other facet of my life: job, friends, family, kids, hobbies, interests, etc. To say that it doesn't sort of reeks of privilege that not many lgtbq people have. Also, visibility is incredibly important, which is why I am always super out in all aspects of my life. If one kid seeing me live openly as a happy gay person positively impacts their life then it is worth it. We have seen generations of lgbtq people forced to live in the closet and live without positive role models. Imagine what these people could have been if they felt safe to be themselves.
Definitely I know a lot of people like this, im cool with you being gay but I honestly don't care who you attracted too🤷🏻
On this note I would say the same the about "pride parades." Claiming it is a stand against the prejudice of gay people and then have people turning up looking like they misread the invite as "BDSM parade" is only helping cement the stand by intolerant people you are trying to combat.
I understand where you are coming from, however this idea of pride needing to be a family friendly, conservative acceptable version of gays is a modern invention, and defeats the purpose of pride. Pride was meant to be a protest of free expression, and sexuality and kink were a core part of that from the beginning. For example, the leather community were involved in the stonewall riots, took part in the first protests and pride parades, and were one of the major fund raising groups for those parades. If you only representative the face of LGBTQ+ that's acceptable to conservatives, then what's the point in having pride
Load More Replies...So pretty conservative here in my personal life (not my beliefs). I am also over 50 and gay. "AIDS, it's killing all the right people." was a real thing years ago. That hatred has kind morphed into another current political movement. My life doesn't revolve around being gay. I am a Christian and a humanist too. But it's important to let people know who you are.
This is true, to be sure. Being a complex person is difficult. Being a one note person ("I'm a stud" "I'm a foxy lady" I'm a biker" "I'm a crazy cat person" "I'm into this or that") is much easier.
I've seen that more & more, Hi, I'm gay, lesbian, etc is as pervasive as HI I'm a vegetarian, vegan etc. Who cares? If I need sex I'll make sure before I dive in, if I'm cooking for you, I'll ask!
Interesting points, but I would also add that hypothetically, once someone feels they have the right to live out as a gay/lesbian/bi etc. (person), it seems easier to say that identifying a lot with being gay is “further down the list”. However, If you are wrestling with inner demons, other family members that disown you, and a society that shames you or worse, kills you/imprisons you, then belonging to the gay majority culture can become a refuge, an outlet, a sanctuary and a home. This is coming from a gay guy who didn’t relate with the gay community, but I know many amazing people who did… and for many reasons.
I have always wondered why sexual preference was not a personal issue. It shouldn’t be used to define a person. When you look at it, it’s no one’s darn business what happens between consenting adults
Ok I see your point, and if asked to describe myself I would say artist, baker, etc and not mention gay, but I do chill with mostly lgbtq people so I make a lot of gay jokes and some conversations and topic do circle back to/are about being gay. Like ur right I would not say gay is my one trait but I will wear my rainbow vans and cuff my jeans
I agree 100%! The only situation in which I need to know your sexual preference (or you need to know mine!) is if we are about to be intimate.
I personally used to like when men were early with mentioning that they were gay, I had an amazing gaydar in that I so often fell in love with gay men thinking they were straight. Now that I have a steady (bi) boyfriend I don't care.
This! I'm lgbtq but I don't say "raise your hand if you're gay" every other hour like SOME people I know....
While I get that, it's also really nice to be so open about it. I for one know that because I'm gay I'll never get the same childhood experiences as my straight sister, like being teased about boys by my mom. At school though, I get to be open about it, and make jokes, and exist. And I see it as a big part of my identity. So idk that's just my perspective. Also I don't like the implication in there that being gay is inherently sexual, because I'm Ace and it's still a big part of my identity, but not about who I like to f-ck, more about love (I'm also aro-spec, so I'm not just talking about romantic love either) . Straight people constantly talk about their partners, and no one bats an eye, but when gay people talk about things relating to being gay it's "their whole personality"
There are many bits to my personality, but I LOVE my queer identity and so yes, it is part of my personality. Not my WHOLE personality, but it's definitely part of it. Because I grew up not knowing who I was. I grew up with little to no interaction with LGBTQ+ people. So I embrace it and I'm loud and proud about it now at very nearly 30. Maybe I'll chill out about it when I'm 40+ but for right now? I'm happy to explode into rainbow confetti regularly.
*Michael Scott THANK YOU gif*. I’ve been thinking about this a lot this week. I didn’t realise I was bi, possibly gay until I was 35, because all the queer folk I saw on tv, and most that I knew irl made it their entire personality and I just don’t identify with that. I do understand for some people it’s really important, but for me, it’s just who I love and sleep with. It’s just another preference like good sense of humour, or respects art. It’s not *who* I am at all. I’ve been called out for not having it in my social media bios, but I also don’t list my favourite foods or that my feet get cold, y’know? There’s only a certain amount of characters to use! I already have a disability and can’t work because of it, (which some people also got mad at me for not putting in my bio), so I feel very separate from most of the world/society already. I don’t need to add another category of ‘othering’ to that.
This was long. I just needed to get it off my chest, and was glad that I wasn’t alone.
Load More Replies...I being a single woman who takes care of herself and doesn't need a man to help is perceived as gay all the time. I need to tell people I am straight.
But what’s funny is all the people who come out to family/friends, only to be told “we know”! Really, we can tell. I never understood why people feel the need to announce these things. Just let your actions tell the story, if others can’t figure it out, that’s their problem.
While I completely understand this view, I also don't like it. I used to be one of those people who would talk about their sexuality all of the time. I'm not proud of it, if I'm being honest. However, that was mostly because I didn't know what to do. I was raised religious and when I realized I wasn't straight, I hated myself. For some people they make being part of the LGBTQ+ Community a big part of their personality because they don't like that part of themselves and want to be okay with it. Some just need to say it until they're actually okay with it, or because they hated that part of themselves for so long that they want to tell people as a sign that they're finally okay with a part of them that a lot of people deem "unnatural" or "not okay". So I understand both sides of this and I wish more people looked at both sides.
THIS... Also a major reason that the stereotypes persist about gay men. It's become almost expected to be flamboyant and "prissy'. I just wish people would relaize that gays, like any other segment of society, come in all shapes and forms, personalities and interests. And that , no, it is not a way of life, merely an aspect of it. For those who want to live the stereotype, to each their own. But do NOT even pretend that you're the majority. And as for those of us eho don't live it, we will continue to be the fire extinguisher to all the famers out there giving us all bad names.
Hae you noticed an age limit to this? What I'm thinking of is the generations where it helped to act gay to actually find other LGBT+ people. Where the generations with half our social life online can just add a wee note to our profile and focus on other things. I supose what i mean is the harder for like to find like the bigger a flag you have to wave.
I think part of this is that, for centuries, you had to bury being gay. You. Could. Not. Let. Anyone. Know. And sexuality is part of people's personalities. And while it is not completely safe, even today, to be out & proud, it is a LOT safer than it was, just a decade, or so ago.
Apart of your personality? What? How does one act gay? I think you mean "Identity"
Load More Replies...For generations many people fought hard to not only be identified by one attribute of their whole self, but many currently make that their defining attribute. Thank god they aren’t defined as a sushi pizza eater 🤢
I’m stuck on the French sausage 😳. I’m a German sausage person myself🤣🤣👍🏼. Glad to see family values something people are working on. 🥰
This can be applied to any secondary "identity" characteristic. Gender/sexual orientation and of course Race. I've been beating this particular drum for awhile, but these things are literally (not f*cking figuratively) the LEAST interesting thing about you, because it says nothing about your character. It says nothing about who you are as a person. The annoying part of this, is that in people basing their entire personality around these things, it gives them the impression that anyone who criticizes, disagrees or simply plays a role in any outcome that they dislike, is discriminating against them. They act as if "who" they are, what they say, think and how they act isn't even something that should be considered. It's exhausting, and it's dangerous.
Because there some learned behavioural pattern for the straight genders to the opposite gender and same gender. When you see someone out of this, it is hard to make decision how to behave. For example, making a compliment for a straight person who has the same gender is friendly, however for a person who has straight opposite gender, a compliment can be flirty.
Agreed. Especially for those of us of a certain age who grew up having to hide our identities, the ability to be out and open is such a relief that it's no wonder some people might overdo it a little bit (depending on your point of view). I'm an introvert myself, but I'm all for folx being as flamboyantly queer as their heart desires.
I understand that to an extent, the whole "gay thing" is stupid and something I only joke about with my bf. However the part of never stating one's sexuality I kinda disagree. People will assume you're straight, that's just the reallity and while some people might not care other might not like stuff being assumed about themselves. I have a really hard time expressing due to not communicating verbally, people will often make wrong assumptions about me and see me as a person I'm not, and that really hurts when people see a distorted version of you and therefore treat you like what they see rather then who you are. It's even harder being queer in the sense of gender. I'd love to not have to tell people my gender just like cis people and "passable" trans people don't (I don't actually, I just suffer in silence every time I go out), I'd love to be able to refer to "my boyfriend" without people assuming I'm a girl dating a guy (he's non-binary) and that I like h@les at all
(while penetration to me is like slapping your partner might be to some people, something I don't even wanna be associated with), just in the same way I'd love if people looked at me and didn't decide to treat me like a child because I'm obviously disabled and they assume that must mean I'm r******d. But that's not the world we live in. Being disabled and LGBT+ will never be part of my personality but are part of who I'm and what I experience, and the empathy and passion to wanting to help others feel like they're not alone or wrong for being who they are, that is part of my very soul.
Load More Replies...Would have respected your opinion but then you said your favorite food is sushi pizza. WTH.
Being gay, and accepting yourself is an incredibly hard thing to do. It is a celebration to be openly queer, and people shouldn't be shut down for it.
But I mean, your cashier doesn't need to know. They most likely don't care. Some random person on the street doesn't need to know. Be queer and what not but telling the world every five seconds? Is it really that deep?
Load More Replies...Can I ask, is it okay to automatically like someone just because they're gay? I'm straight but I just love how you guys are being your real selves.
That's silly. Not every gay person is good or likable. Some of us aren't even are real selves (closeted bi speaking).
Load More Replies...yeah...why do gays act this way? sometimes you can look at a person and know they are gay without being so open and flamboyant about it.
Why is he ignoring gay women? It's the same for many of them too. Gay people means both men and women.
Technically, gay has become something of an umbrella, but it really only refers to men who are attracted to other men. I believe the word you're looking for is lesbian. There's lots of other sexualities too, I myself am pansexual. My friend group consists of people who are bi, aro, ace, gay, pan, omni, and unlabeled.
Load More Replies...People who have been oppressed (usually by white, straight people) and have finally had a taste of freedom, tend to identify with the very trait that kept them persecuted. I respect OP's stance, but I understand those who use qualifiers in their introductions. Give it time. Eventually humanity will even out to the point where we are recognized as one race: Earthlings.
Now your own priviledge is showing. "Big on family values" is not synonymous with homophobia where I live. (Those people rather add the "traditional values" in their bio here...) Don't assume your own experience is valid everywhere. In fact, I know several gay couples who would say they are big on family values themselves. They are proud that they can be a real family! I cancelled out a downvote for you, though. Pandas, please don't downvote just because you disagree! It leads to people being banned and discouraged to speak their mind next time. Please let us maintain a community where everybody can express their thoughts (as long as they are not hateful, of course) without fear of being cancelled!
Load More Replies...Mental Health issues that they don't actually have. Being "uncomfortable" because some papers aren't straight isn't OCD Stacy. And having high energy doesn't make you Manic. Stop turning people's disabilities into something "quirky".
Person with Psychology degree here (and Sociology, too) This REALLY irritates me. Especially since 99% of the time, they haven't the slightest idea what the actual symptoms of the syndrome or disorder with which they claim to be be afflicted are...
Being American. Put that flag away. No one gives a s**t.
Flag, fine. Overly fake patriotic and "go back to your own country" kind of people can get f****d.
Their Faith or lack of faith. I've seen Christians become hyper religious and force their beliefs on everyone around them and alternatively I've seen Atheists become toxic and anyone who deters from their worldview even slightly is a complete moron.
Let YOUR beliefs be just that YOURS and not everyone else's.
Yes ! And stop knocking on my door on weekends and pushing your religion in my face.
Being bloody vegan.
It is fine if your sharing food and you tell them you can't eat it because your vegan. Right?
Being LGBTQ, especially the whole gender thing. Like, I consider myself non-binary but I also consider this aspect of mine fairly unimportant to be honest. It's a "nice to know" type of thing for myself but I don't ever feel the need to discuss it with other people. Because what are they going to say about it? "Cool...?" Being non-cis or non-het is not nearly as interesting as some LGBTQ people believe it is. It's just ONE random aspect of someone's personality. There are many other aspects. For example I'm probably a HSP (highly sensitive person). But again, I don't see a point in mentioning this to other people because people who already know aren't going to treat me differently because of a label. They are know how I am/act/talk etc. And people who don't know me (yet) either don't matter or they'll find out about me over time.
So is HSP a thing that it has an abbreviation? Not sure what it is but I feel old now.
I’m Bisexual. No one in my life that hasn’t *asked* knows I’m bisexual, because it’s not my f*****g personality. Most friends I have in the LGBTQ+ community are first and foremost, queer. They’re not introduced to me as doctors, teachers, Germans, Americans, activists, introverts…no, they’re introduced as Queer and often that will be the only thing I know about them for some time.
This is a present issue in the community.
Conspiracy theorist. "Open your eyes, do your own research"
The generation they're born in
I don't know what I am. I'm vaguely curious, but not enough to Google it.
Hair color. If I hear my co-worker talk about how ‘natural red heads’ are or how you shouldn’t mess with them use it as an excuse for a shitty character trait, I’m gonna lose it.
Personality traits have nothing to do with hair colour , blondes do not have more fun, red-heads are not hot tempered, brunettes are not brainy ...we are all different 😊
Guns
😔 I know many of these people. I know people with hundreds of guns. People who share pics of their preschool age kids posing with massive automatic weapons (AK whatever, I have no idea the names). I don’t understand it and I grew up around it. My elementary school was always closed on the first day of deer hunting season.
Their own perceived persecution/ victimization.
"Being suppressed and personally attacked is who I am."
This will get buried, but some of these things become a person's entire personality because it consumes a majority of their life. Typically at a young age.
Kids that saw active duty in Afghanistan, living that 24 hours a day, yeah, probably has a large influence on your personality.
Woman with 3 small kids, raising them while her partner is absent (could be a deadbeat, could be working 18 hrs a day to support them), is gonna have a lot of anecdotes about motherhood.
Point being, some individuals choose not to grow. Some just don't get the opportunity to.
Edit: Thanks for the awards.
It's funny, i saw a lot of violence and death growing up in a conflict zone. I only ever talk about it here. I don't talk about it to my wife or kids. Definitely not to friends. But it can be hard to "just get over it". I still wake up at night screaming. A single mom of three kids, that was my mom. My father was taken when i was little. She never talks about that either. I don't think it's what defines us as people though. My mother is a doctor and educator. I am an engineer and artist. My brothers are a scientist and an architect. We are all voracious readers. Nietzsche said, "to live is to suffer, to survive is to find some meaning in the suffering". I think he got it backwards. I think living is looking into the moments between the suffering. Living in the cracks will be joy, springing up like flowers in the sidewalk. You can can keep walking, or you can sprinkle a little water, and watch those flowers bloom. Just don't be too hard on yourself for feeling a little dry sometimes.
Harry Potter and I’m sick of pretending that a 45 year old woman running around saying she’s a f*****g Hufflepuff is normal.
Loving Disney.
I mean, it's good to know if you're going to join me if I bust out some "I'll Make a Man" in public, but you can have other dimensions too.
Being a youtuber
here, enjoy a thumbnail i made for such a time YOUTUBEGOB...dcb913.png
Born-again Evangelicals
My ex-husband became "born again" after we divorced. He hooked up with and married the woman he'd been having an affair with for years. Doesn't get more holy than that...
Having kids
My world does revolve around my son, but I don’t disagree with you. I may tell you a story about my kid but I promise I’ll pick a ridiculous one you will love (wanna hear about when he opened a penis store?) and I will happily listen to your story about your cat, car, job, shirt, whatever because that’s how conversation and relationships work. I will not expect anything because I’m a mama bear and I do not think I’m more important or better. Oh, and I will read you the first time I tell you a kid story and won’t do it again if you’re annoyed or bored. Regardless, I’m guilty of this.
Being overworked and barely sleeping.
Edit: To clarify, this isn’t meant to be an insult. I know exactly how it feels to work an ungodly amount of hours with little to no reprieve. It’s a routine that’s become ingrained in us and I think it’s important to remember being overworked, under slept, and having little to no time to ourselves is not healthy.
I hate when people tell me I look tired And I say "yeah, kinda tired from work" And someone else goes balistic saying they havent slept for X days, had so much work And Kids And husband.. Like ok? I dont have those but I still can feel tired from working 8 hours, 5 days of week, ok? I dont see any glorification in working till your early death
Faking Mental Disorders. Ideally DID and such.
I can understand those who do have these disorders and just want to spread awareness and the struggle in their lives. But be aware that not everybody tells the truth, especially internet influencers. Whether it's for views, money, popularity, or attention.
I get annoyed when people say, "I'm so OCD". I have a friend with OCD. He needs constant help. He's in therapy for stress related anxiety, he can't hold a job. He can't even leave his apartment. Wanting things to be neat and organized isn't a mental illness. Also, getting excited isn't ADHD. It is a serious effective emotional disorder that requires treatment. People with ADHD cannot regulate their emotions in the same way that others can. Being Hyper or lacking Attention is the tip of a much larger proverbial iceberg.
‘Girl bosses’/MLM cult engagers
And social media.
"HEY GIRL. Haven't heard from you since High School. Glad I found you. How have you been? Anyways, I wanted to reach out to invite you to a party. Just a small get-together with some AMAZING friends of mine. We'll have wine and catch up. Have you heard of Keto? When you come by I'll tell you all about it." That was the last I ever heard from her.
Alcohol. It’s so annoying. Constant posts of drink in their hand, every selfie is a drink in their hand. Or a random day during the week “I’m home from work, some one stop me from drinking 🤪”
middle aged woman: "it's WINE O CLOCK HAHAHAHA IM HILARIOUS AND SO QUIRKY gin GIN GIN PROSECCO LOLS" .... (im guilty of liking wine but i dont make it a joke or personality trait)
Pickup trucks. There are people that happen to own pickup trucks, then there are people who's pickup truck owns them.
We all know the type, flood lights, muddn tires, grill racks, lifted, spotless paint with a wax, and optionally a diesel stack coming out of the bed, truck muts, and a snorkel.
I get it, printing out business cards that tell people that you're a douche would be difficult to distribute on the highway at 70mph, but it might be more cost effective than your $100K Raptor.
We call these "Payment Princesses" where i live. I own a pickup truck with an all terrain package because i go backcountry a lot. The truck got detailed because i spilled something sticky inside so it was shiny and perfect. I came out of a store and found a bunch of guys standing around it checking it out. As i approahed, they started asking what other accessories i had or started suggesting some that would not improve my performance. I finally got mad and "It's a (boop) truck. It does truck things. She's not here to look pretty." They were so offended
Smoking weed
I'm a Cannabis-American and I take offense at your denial of my culture /s
being a 'dog mom' or having a 'fur baby'
Sex. I don't even mean sexuality I mean the coomers and the guys who stalk this sub and ask 11 NSFW questions a day about "Hey ladies what do men get wrong about your bods" and "Ladies, what's your sexiest sex sexual experience where sex was had and it was sexy?"
Lust controls some of these people man. They gotta go outside.
Coomers?Stalking subs? Is this in a BDSM club or something? God I feel so old lol
I’m in recovery and there are some people who make their entire personality being in the program. It’s their entire life. I understand it for people who are new because some have literally had to change everything and they NEED recovery to be their life for a while in order to stay clean and stay alive. That’s perfectly fine, but when you have 25 years clean and you still go to 6 meetings a week, go to every single event and your life entirely revolves around it, it might be time to maybe branch out a little.
I’ve distanced myself from these people in the last few years. I stick to the few small meetings that these people don’t frequent, call my sponsor when I need too and have a handful of close friends. Other than that, I have an entire life outside of recovery. I have other friends, hobbies and goals to achieve and don’t really talk about recovery unless I’m asked about
It. I feel this is healthier.
Being a fan Elon musk
You ever see a police officers wife? It's crazy but they turn their entire existence into being a police spouse, it's very odd. I have two neighbors that are police, they younger the wife the more intense the alternate reality they create for themselves. The husbands never mention their profession but the wifes cant shut up about it and try and prove how much they know about local law enforcement.
Sounds like officers' wives in the military. No, your HUSBAND is a Colonel, YOU are the "missus"....not Mrs Colonel Airborne.
Being confidently incorrect.
Anime
I enjoy watching anime. But then I see other folks who spend a ton of money cosplaying Random characters. Going to conventions in those multilayered cosplays. They buy a f**k ton of figurines, posters, swords, flags, etc.
I don't really find that annoying at all. Cause I have a bunch of jerseys, go to professional sporting events and I have like three posters. And I also play Fantasy football in like 4 leagues. A league I've been in for a decade. Two money leagues and a charity league..... I'm sure Fantasy football will be listed here....so I get the passion
What I do find annoying is how they confuse their anime fanhood and convert it to Japan fanhood. Some go as far as thinking Japan is the greatest country and they want to move there. Like look man. Sushi, Ramen, and Tempura is great but Japan is as flawed as most countries and maybe even more flawed than others. Their Work Life Balance is stupid. You often hear about how people work 20 hr days sometimes and die of exhaustion. It's adding on to a declining population. Japan's population declined from 128 mil in early 2010s to 120 mil. There's also High rates of depression and a lack of mental health care in Japan. People aren't as opening as you think they are to. Not saying this is specific to Japan I'm just saying that in Japan isn't as open as you think it is like enjoy the anime
Music, I know some people who are so snobby about their music choices.
As a lifelong improviser, composer, and jazz pianist, I found that no religion can make a human feel the level of joy that music does. It becomes a passion. Should not criticize anyone for surrounding their life with something creative and uplifting!
Politicians they follow
Upon listening to every candidate during election question period, they all sound the same. They all waste time thanking everyone and every opportunity they've had in their life, reminiscing about something that happened in their family 20 years ago and then barely answer the question in the last 2 seconds, and usually going over the time limit. No matter the party, there's very, very little impacts I've noticed in my life that has been changed so dramatically that wouldn't have happened if different party was elected.
Driving a Tesla
When I see one on the road I watch out : a lot of them are driven by rich people without driving skills. Over here they are cheap to run (if you can afford the investment) because of tax write-offs.
Being in the military.
Here it's just a job. Granted : an interesting and sometimes risky one, but done by all kinds of people : straight/gay, morning/evening people, grumpy/friendly, right/left wing, rock/classical/techno lovers....
Their beard. As a guy with a beard it’s annoying. Although it’s not quite as bad as it was 5 years ago or so. We get it. You have a beard
Me : sometimes just too lazy or lacking the energy to shave more than once a week.
Wokeism
Counterpoint: using the word "woke" to mean anything you're having a hissy fit about at the time.
Here in the Netherlands people who live in Amsterdam base their personality on Amsterdam
Their job
I think this varies in different countries/cultures. In the US it’s the very first thing you seem to talk about. It’s how you describe someone briefly, he’s a plumber, lawyer, etc. It plays a role in why people will overwork and not have balanced lives. I think cultures that don’t do this are more rounded. More time with family, more time with friends, more time relaxing, more time for hobbies.
The thing/people/group/idea they hate. When people really don’t like something they center their dislike of it in their life. See e.g. skinheads, republicans, nimby neighbors, luddites, activists of almost any type (they fight what they are against more then they promote what they support because you don’t need to be an activist for the status quo), gangs, etc.
This should be much higher! This is in part what is tearing apart the US. We have a segment of our population that just lives to hate. It's so sad and I don't think there is a way out for now. The hate is constantly being fanned by members of a certain party and certain "news" personalities.
Spending too much time on the Internet. There's some people that every joke, every turn of phrase, every reference is just a f*****g meme. They're the equivalent of people that would quote lines from TV shows/movies but it's more widespread. Yes, I'm talking to most of you. Sorry.
Yeah memes integrated into my blood stream but sometimes it makes me connect with younger generation because they understand a meme better than wide explanation And it makes them smile seeing a 30yo who is fluent in memes
A tv show.😐
I have to admit I am a little tired of the first comment/highest-voted comment on some posts being something along the lines of "Sheldon!!!" or "He's totally Sheldon!" or "What a Jim, haha!" or "He's such a Dwight!" etc. (Characters from The Big Bang Theory and The Office, respectively). I've actually never seen either show, but I feel like I've absorbed a deep knowledge of the characters and I know them well, just due to the number of comments I see about them XD (And yes, I could just not read the comments if they bother me, but sometimes when they're the highest-voted comment, it's hard to NOT notice/see it.)
Being from the country ! Like ok, we get it !
I grew up country but live in the suburbs. The only part that makes it really obvious is when I scream "cows!" on roadtrips because I don't expect them outside of my hometown.
Not "giving a f**k" I don't know why but in recently it's started to annoy me the number of people who seem to take "not giving a f**k" as a massive personality trait.
Being "child-free"
Also being a "mama bear"
im child free but thats no a choice its cause i got no money to raise a child and i have cried lakes of tears because of it
The word “introvert”
Hey guys, did you know I’m an introvert? Because yep, I sure am an introvert. Yep. Big time introvert right here. Hey, who has two thumbs and is an introvert? This guy! Oh boy, I sure am an introvert. Did I tell you I’m an introvert? Yep. Introvert here. Absolute introvert. Oh, and as a reminder, I am an introvert
How do you know when you meet an introvert? Same way you know when you meet a New Yorker. Don’t worry, they’ll tell you
Depression, unfortunately. I’m not shaming anyone who does. It’s easy to fall into and hard to get out of because it feels so “normal” that you don’t know how to be happy anymore and the thought of change is kinda scary, if that makes sense? I’ve been there and it sucks.
Using your mental or physical disorder as an identity sounds a bit manipulative, pulling it out to justify behavior/attitude that would be shut down otherwise.
Computers, and they're weirdly elitist about it
Linux users. I am an IT professional and still get frustrated with Linux users who rant about it being free and not "corporate" but fail to admit that it's harder for most non-tech people to install, setup and use because trying to find the instructions and help is like the film National Treasure.
coffee
Who identifies with coffee? Sure, the infinite memes and sayings can be annoying, but use it as their personality?
Being an SJW, we get it you view yourself as morally superior
Being a mom
If i see one more "Mama Bear" sticker or item of apparel, im going to puke.
Their partners
Liking The Office
I mean, it is a great show. How does one base their personality on it?
Being petite
i'm petite, but when i see girls thinking they can get the attention of anybody they want because they're "so small uwu" it's so annoying! BEING SHORT SUCKS.
Not drinking/being an ex alcoholic
Lifting
Liking mainstream childish s**t like those horrid Disney women, Harry Potter fans, like it's cute you never evolved from age 6
The really annoying people are those who hate things solely because they have decided it's not grown up enough and 'childish'. Fun fact: a huge part of being mature is not caring about other people's opinions concerning your preferences. If you need the constant approval of an imaginary crowd that what you like and do is approximate for (insert arbitrary trait here) all this shows is your insecurities about your own personality and lack of maturity. A real adult knows: liking something, no matter what it is, even if it's unicorns and pink sparkle, doesn't make a difference. If you're mature or not is not determined by your likes and dislikes, you're mature when you're ready to take responsibility for yourself and make your own decisions as well as accepting those of others and that they are allowed to differ from yours
Being pregnant
You are growing an actual human, you get some special treatment and recognition. It affects you emotionally (mood swings?), physically (do I really need to explain?), mentally (pregnancy brain anyone?). It’s also a temporary thing so let it briefly be part of their identity.
This may be an unpopular opinion but this post is rather ridiculous and judgy and nitpicky. Why does it matter? Is it getting in your way? At the end of the day everyone's personality is going to be associated with and deeply entangled with something external after all.
It is more than someone liking something, what this is about, imo, is people who become completely absorbed into things. That thing is the only thing they can talk about, or every topic somehow makes its way back to that one thing. Fanatics more than fans. They are all encompassed by it.
Load More Replies...ooh those are annoying, especially the elitist ones on unicycles
Load More Replies...BoredPanda used to be a website that focused on artwork quirky and feel good stories around the world. However, now I feel like so many of their listicles are negative and judgmental and just for click bait.
Load More Replies...A little bit concerned about how many people were quick to tell queer people to shut up about being queer. :/
I am a bit concerned that people think that if a gay person speaks their mind about something "controversial", it means that the opinion is now invalid or anti-queer. Yes, us queers can be rude, annoying and a-holes. And many do go over-board with making "being gay" their only trait.
Load More Replies...Well what a lovely list of self righteous twits giving there opinions- often clearly rooted in forms of misogyny or internalized homophobia.
I was gonna mention the internalized homophobia. Three of 'em in the first dozen posts. Sad. If people want to be out, loud, and proud, good for them! They may have spent their youth being told they were weirdos, perverts, and sinners. Maybe harassed and bullied on a regular basis. The freedom to finally be yourself is a big deal.
Load More Replies...Basically, anyone who creates their persona around a single obsession is boring. Whether it's collecting stamps or conspiracy theories, variety is the spice of life.
Hunting, I drive for FedEx and I’m on the road all day. The biggest bumper sticker violators are the ones who need to let everyone know they hunt, and they ALWAYS have some item of woodland camouflage on at all times.
it's a mistake to base your personality on your job... are you living your own life story out, or somebody else's cliched expectations of how you should act in your job role?... Look to any group of licensed professionals for examples... These people do a metamorphosis when they get home after a long day, calm down, and turn back into their regular self.... Lawyers have got to be the worst at this...
This whole list was (mostly) a plea for people to have more than one interest and I'd say the vast majority of people do. It may have been dumb but it killed some time and that's the purpose of this site so I'm not mad about it.
Fat Activism, screeching 24/7 about diet culture, fat phobia, thin privilege and making Rebel Wilson’s weight loss all about them.
This is probably the most judgey, picky, b:tcy article I have seen on BP. Doesn't feel right.
Really, there shouldn’t be any one thing that defines you. That would be…one dimensional :D I don’t know anyone who taken one thing and made it their entire persona
After reading these and the comments all I can say is...just let people be who they are. If it's not for you, don't participate.
You ride a HONDA (snicker) My bikes outside, where's yours? The road is wet. It might rain, etc. (Went back to my beer)
I don't care what you ride. My only consideration is if you're a rider or a biker. With bikers it's all about the bike and its cult of personality. Riders just ride, sure, they love their bike but as a tool - a fantastic means to an end.
Load More Replies...Wow, this is not a good post..... Just because someone gives expression to an important part of their lives, doesn't mean they base their whole personality around that part. This seams more like an post about "what I feel uncomfortable seeing in other people about myself" and that's ok. Just don't express it like this, it makes you seem judgemental and petty.
This may be an unpopular opinion but this post is rather ridiculous and judgy and nitpicky. Why does it matter? Is it getting in your way? At the end of the day everyone's personality is going to be associated with and deeply entangled with something external after all.
It is more than someone liking something, what this is about, imo, is people who become completely absorbed into things. That thing is the only thing they can talk about, or every topic somehow makes its way back to that one thing. Fanatics more than fans. They are all encompassed by it.
Load More Replies...ooh those are annoying, especially the elitist ones on unicycles
Load More Replies...BoredPanda used to be a website that focused on artwork quirky and feel good stories around the world. However, now I feel like so many of their listicles are negative and judgmental and just for click bait.
Load More Replies...A little bit concerned about how many people were quick to tell queer people to shut up about being queer. :/
I am a bit concerned that people think that if a gay person speaks their mind about something "controversial", it means that the opinion is now invalid or anti-queer. Yes, us queers can be rude, annoying and a-holes. And many do go over-board with making "being gay" their only trait.
Load More Replies...Well what a lovely list of self righteous twits giving there opinions- often clearly rooted in forms of misogyny or internalized homophobia.
I was gonna mention the internalized homophobia. Three of 'em in the first dozen posts. Sad. If people want to be out, loud, and proud, good for them! They may have spent their youth being told they were weirdos, perverts, and sinners. Maybe harassed and bullied on a regular basis. The freedom to finally be yourself is a big deal.
Load More Replies...Basically, anyone who creates their persona around a single obsession is boring. Whether it's collecting stamps or conspiracy theories, variety is the spice of life.
Hunting, I drive for FedEx and I’m on the road all day. The biggest bumper sticker violators are the ones who need to let everyone know they hunt, and they ALWAYS have some item of woodland camouflage on at all times.
it's a mistake to base your personality on your job... are you living your own life story out, or somebody else's cliched expectations of how you should act in your job role?... Look to any group of licensed professionals for examples... These people do a metamorphosis when they get home after a long day, calm down, and turn back into their regular self.... Lawyers have got to be the worst at this...
This whole list was (mostly) a plea for people to have more than one interest and I'd say the vast majority of people do. It may have been dumb but it killed some time and that's the purpose of this site so I'm not mad about it.
Fat Activism, screeching 24/7 about diet culture, fat phobia, thin privilege and making Rebel Wilson’s weight loss all about them.
This is probably the most judgey, picky, b:tcy article I have seen on BP. Doesn't feel right.
Really, there shouldn’t be any one thing that defines you. That would be…one dimensional :D I don’t know anyone who taken one thing and made it their entire persona
After reading these and the comments all I can say is...just let people be who they are. If it's not for you, don't participate.
You ride a HONDA (snicker) My bikes outside, where's yours? The road is wet. It might rain, etc. (Went back to my beer)
I don't care what you ride. My only consideration is if you're a rider or a biker. With bikers it's all about the bike and its cult of personality. Riders just ride, sure, they love their bike but as a tool - a fantastic means to an end.
Load More Replies...Wow, this is not a good post..... Just because someone gives expression to an important part of their lives, doesn't mean they base their whole personality around that part. This seams more like an post about "what I feel uncomfortable seeing in other people about myself" and that's ok. Just don't express it like this, it makes you seem judgemental and petty.