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“Yes, I’m Stupid”: 30 Men Reveal Things About Women They Had No Idea About Before Getting A GF
Sometimes, we might have no clue how other people live or what things they deal with on a daily basis, until we come in close contact with them.
That has recently been proven to be true by a thread started on Reddit that encouraged guys to share what they found out about women only after getting a girlfriend. Quite a few of them opened up about the lessons they learned, so, if you’re curious to read about them, scroll down to find their stories—ranging from funny to wholesome and beyond—on the list below, and make sure to upvote your favorites.
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#1
Women don't usually have pockets.. just imposters.
RedRangerRedemption:
Best gift I ever gave a partner was to take her favorite sun dress during the winter and have a tailor add pockets without her knowing! The sheer joy on her face the next spring when I gave her something small and asked her to "put this in your pocket" causing her to discover their existence!!! Worth every dollar.
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#2
I learned about the constant level of danger they are exposed to and a corresponding vigilance they have to exercise.
Breadcrumb. 9 months ago
Smile and try to brush things off. You dont want to offend him, or he might get violent. It gets exhausting, apologizing for his behavior.
#3
Their existence is pain. Menstrual cycles, big b***s hurting their back, ear piercings, clothes that hurt to wear, feet getting tired from heels, mammograms, IUD insertion, doctors not listening to women’s pain symptoms… it’s like society doesn’t prioritize women’s pain.
Also, diseases and conditions that primarily affect women are far under-researched. Endometriosis, ME/CFS, fibromyalgia, FND, dysautonomia, hypermobility, etc.
EDIT: For people that don't get it.
I'm not writing about pain that only women experience. Pain is a culmination of experiences together. Of course men get piercings too. Of course women don't have to wear painful clothing or heels. Of course they do. But more than 80% of women get piercings and only 10-15% of men do.
People, this isn't a game between "who hurts more men or women", it's that women have to deal with a lot of pain in their day to day lives. If you start with your whataboutisms, you're not getting it and in fact you're part of the problem. This post did not launch any attacks toward men and has nothing to say about men. You're coming in here to make this about yourselves when it shouldn't be here. Have some sympathy for how much pain women have to go through in their day to day lives and maybe I might have some sympathy for you too.
#4
How many women have faced s*xual a*sault.
I was massively fat for a long time, so I didn't date a lot between 22 and like 27, but I got in shape and started dating a lot and every woman I was with eventually opened up about how they'd been assaulted and I was flabbergasted.
It's disgusting and sad as f**k.
#5
When I was 16, my high school girlfriend (now wife) and I were having s*x while she was on her period. We'd started dating 3 months prior and just became sexually active so her period wasn't going to stop us. As we started to have s*x something felt off. I looked at her funny and she was like "oh s**t I forgot to take my tampon out." It's way the f**k up there. She can't get it out and starts panicking, how embarrassing it would be to have to go to the hospital to have it removed. So she tells me to fish it out. As I am like knuckle deep in her v*gina, she starts telling me about toxic shock syndrome. I'm really struggling to find it, also panicking after learning about that. Finally I get two fingers on the string and pull it out. My hand is covered in period blood. I have a very mild blood phobia so I'm on the verge of passing out. She starts laughing with panic tears in her eyes still. When I finally get ahold of myself, I start laughing at the absurdity of the situation as we clean ourselves up.
Anyway, I learned about TSS and a lot about v*gina anatomy that day.
#6
Clothing sizes are all over the place.
silverbellexo:
clothing sizes make no sense like she’ll be a small in one store and a large in another and somehow both fit her fine like what.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 9 months ago
Even actual numerical sizes can be nonsense from brand to brand. If I wear a size 12 jeans/pants in one brand, the size 12 of another brand will feel like it's toddler clothing when I try them on XD
#7
How much girls value little gestures and the intent behind doing them. Like my girlfriend would be sleeping, and I would get up to fix the curtains to make sure no sunlight gets to her face. Me getting a little sweet treat for her after I come back from work. These little gestures make her day. But one thing that I am realising only now is how important is the intent behind doing that as well. Did I do it because I had to or did I do it because I truly love and adore my lovely girlfriend makes the world of a difference for her.
#8
The time leading up to the period can sometimes be worse than the time on the period.
alc6179:
I wish more guys knew this! PMS is worse than the period emotionally for most women. I feel so relieved when my period finally comes. When the period starts, there’s a boost of estrogen that relieves a lot of the tension of the premenstrual days. So when guys say things like “she must be on her period” I’m always like “nah you’re just uninformed”.
Sky Render 9 months ago
I tend to count the start of my period at when I start feeling like I want the world to burn for every little inconvenience. That's usually a few days ahead of the main event.
#9
My dad told me this story about his parents. A few months after they got married, my grandma was on her period and she was always in a lot of pain the first days. My grandpa grew really concerned and said he was taking her to a doctor, because she was having these pains every month so there must be something really wrong! My grandma started laughing and said it was just her period, nothing was wrong, and then had to explain what a period is, because even though my grandpa had 10 sisters he had no idea!
#10
Women are harassed far more often by men than you see because men don't tend to do it around other men. Most women who run outside have the experience of being honked or shouted at.
It's always important to listen to the perspectives of other people. You learn a lot.
Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 9 months ago
I was working as a barback and the women on staff kept asking me to walk them to their cars. I thought they were worried about being mugged. Nope, it was one of our managers who eventually did get fired for sexual harassment. I wasn't sad to see him go. Pathetic redheaded twerp with one of the worst cases of short man syndrome I ever saw. Of course because he's white and male he failed up and owned his own bar a couple years later.
#11
Bras are far more expensive than I realized.
Sky Render 9 months ago (edited)
And no matter how well you measure, anything in your size will only have a 50% chance at best of being actually comfortable. Once you find a bra that feels right, you never want to give it up and try to get as many of them as you can before they inevitably get pulled off shelves permanently for no reason.
#12
Skincare. I was a “put some water on my face in the morning” kind of guy. Now she’s got me using sunscreen, moisturizer, hair masks and cleanser. I’m radiant.
#13
When I was a bachelor I had an empty trash can in the bathroom for three years. After getting married I emptied that trash can almost weekly. I never realized how many tiny swabs, wrappers, and other things were needed to be disposed of in the bathroom.
#14
You dont have to give her suggestions and solutions to her problems. She just wants to rant.
EidolonRook:
This. I’ll just sit there and nod. Say something like “damn, that’s crazy” and let her continue.
It’s like she’s got great big coils of emotional s**t she’s built up over a time and she just needs to get it all out of her. She looks and feels lighter afterwards. In fact, if she’s angsty to you, and it’s not just hangryness, it might be she just need to take a hefty emotional s**t on you.
It’s a dirty job, but if she’s easy to love for you, it’s worth it.
The Doom Song 9 months ago
I think this goes both ways. I vent to my partner about random work c**p and customers. He vents to me about work and the s**t he has to deal with there.
#15
That one woman isn’t a stand-in for all women and that you can’t make sweeping generalizations about how women are or ever women want by knowing one woman intimately.
#16
Period pads are stuck to the underwear, not the body.
Not_Enough_Thyme_:
My now-husband used to think the same. He thought the adhesive was why women shaved around their bikini lines.
#17
How many s****y dads there were out there. The immaturity is mind boggling.
Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 9 months ago
Sh!tty dads make for sh!tty sons and that's how we got stuck with MAGA. Just a bunch of insecure men with massive daddy issues. Proof: Mel Gibson: "I’m glad Trump is here. It’s like daddy arrived and he’s taking his belt off".
#18
My boyfriend didn't know how tampons worked. I filled a glass with water and explained to him how to use the applicator. When it dropped into the water and expanded, his jaw dropped lol
Nicole Weymann 9 months ago
I've never seen a box of tampons with an applicator. I don't think they're sold here. But they DO explain how women can handle certain aspects of everyday life with two inch nails. They'd be a b***h and a half to clean, and I'd be afraid to wolverine myself inside out on every trip to the toilet!
#19
It’s sounds stupid but I learned that endometriosis is NO joke, my ex would sit in the shower and sob and I wouldn’t know what to do.
Pheebs 9 months ago
It wasn’t all that long ago that doctors were claiming endometriosis was made up, and that women suffering with it were being dramatic. I mean, like last 10-20 years recent. It’s literally something doctors have known about since the 1860s. https://medicine.yale.edu/news/yale-medicine-magazine/article/endometriosis/
#20
When they wear the towel on the head after the shower the hair is all up in the twisty thing sticking straight up on the top of their head. I discovered this when I tried to joke around and grab the towel by the twist off my gfs head and sent her flying. I felt so bad. And yes, I'm stupid.
#21
My boyfriend thought I was the only girl who wore hipster panties lol he thought girls only wore thongs.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 9 months ago
Ugh. I remember a phase when my ex wanted me to wear thong underwear only. Most uncomfortable sensation in the WORLD to be constantly feeling something between your buttcheeks XD and you can't pick it out - because that's how it's SUPPOSED to be. And the crotch part of thong underwear is usually pretty minimal as well - so have fun if you're a person with a vagina, because thong undies aren't going to provide any coverage if you have any kind of natural, normal discharge XD
#22
When women say “It’s FINE”
This is not, under any circumstances, an indication that things are fine.
#24
That there were different kinds of napkins, it baffled me. There's with wings, without wings, for heavy, for night, regular, like... crazy. I didn't even know what with wings or without wings meant until she actually showed me.
I remember the first time my ex asked me to buy her napkins, I thought it was a one type thing and I only had to choose between brands. But Jesus, when I asked the lady for napkins and she showed me a whole WALL of them and there were so many different types.. I just froze. She laughed and helped me sort it out, and I just got one of each. Thank you to that one lady who helped me, would've been the most stressful moment of my life lmao
#25
My bf said the main thing he noticed is how soft I am compared to him. He was baffled and I didn't know there was such a big difference either.
Sky Render 9 months ago
Estrogen is amazing like that. Our skin tends to retain moisture very well, among other benefits.
#26
I found out that there’s a difference between pantyhose, tights, and stockings. I had no idea that there was a difference. I thought there were 3 different names for the same thing. Ha
Erla Zwingle 9 months ago
"Stockings" are what I call the unattached sheer nylon pairs (like socks) reaching up to mid-thigh, and are usually held in place by a garter belt. It was a huge step on the path to womanhood when your mom allowed you to leave behind your little white ankle socks and wear stockings!
#27
How different our styles of communications can be.
#28
The acidity of v*ginal discharge. I learned so much the first couple times I did 'our' laundry .
Sky Render 9 months ago
Especially at certain times during the menstrual cycle. That stuff hurts if you let it sit on bare skin outside the vulva or vagina for long enough, and can absolutely cause the skin to break out.
#29
Guess where I'm taking you works better than where do you want to go.
Sky Render 9 months ago
The latter does suggest you put some actual thought into it. Just be ready if the answer is "go on, tell me".
#30
How expensive it is to look like you’re not wearing any makeup.
The Other Guest 9 months ago
That's one of the reasons why I don't wear any, unless it's for a cosplay/Halloween costume.
#31
I learnt that the “Hangry” is a real feeling.
Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 9 months ago (edited)
FWIW I've seen guys get this too. They tend to be louder and whinier though.
#32
Before I got a girlfriend I thought the only kinds of discharge were honorable and dishonorable. Boy was I wrong.
#33
They sometimes pee when they laugh to hard, or sneeze.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 9 months ago
"Sometimes"? XD Honey, when you reach a certain age, you start to pre-squeeze your thighs together when you feel a sneeze approach... XD
#34
Ovulation cycle things.... Things you have to do differently during different phases and how wild she can become just before the blood gates of hell open 😭... The first few days watching her take the pain like a champ really made me respect you ladies so much more 💪
#35
That periods are not just a thing that they have, but that it can have a really negative impact on their comfort. Not that I was ever dismissive about it, but after a while you learn how unfomfortable periods can be and how we’re (guys) lucky to no have them.
#36
Colors. Not from GF but wife 🤣
Surprised-Salamander:
Lol my husband didn’t know he was color blind till we started dating. Apparently my favorite colors are right in the spectrum he gets confused (all teals and some greens appear blue).
Sky Render 9 months ago
Funny story: I was starting to have issues seeing different shades of green a few years back, and the problem reversed itself after a few months of forcibly reducing testosterone levels. I don't know if that's what caused it, but sure as hell I was grateful! I hope I never get put into a situation where I have to test my hypothesis, testosterone does not do good things to me...
#37
How many towels can be used for one shower.
Crystalwitch60 9 months ago
All of them 😂well my 23 yr old daughter does lmao I even as a female use two one for hair one for body that’s all it takes 😂
#38
Women deal with more obstacles than men in their day to day life. It's a miracle they exist at all given all the hardship they deal with.
#39
The unpredictable start of menstruation. I almost always carry a small backpack when I am out so I started having a set of tampons in the bag just in case she needed any. She didn't but have had a friend need once and she was a bit surprised when I gave her some from my backpack. They stop nosebleeds well too.
#40
I need to stop cheating on her in her dreams.
#41
That I should still love them and stay with them forever even if they get turned into a slug/worm/some other kind of creature.
#42
I’ve found out they most of the times there is already a plan of what we will do, I just don’t know it yet.
#43
My first-time-dad friend came knocking at 1am. Said his daughter (1yo) wont stop crying after he gave her a bath. Turns out he used laundry back on her (including privates) because they ran out of bath gel for babies.
Yes, boys. That female privates are very sensitive, please DO NOT soap that place unless you are using a feminine wash. poor baby got rashes.
#44
That you don't owe your hoodies anymore and are only allowed to use them if they don't need them.
#45
They inhale toilet paper like it was a can of Pringles.
The Doom Song 9 months ago
Once a month it's like a f*****g crime scene down there. Of course I'm gonna need extra TP.
#46
Just tossing bras and panties in washer and dryer with other clothes is a big no-no.
#47
That women can grow hair around their nipples.
Sky Render 9 months ago
We can grow hair in many unexpected places. It always amuses me when a man is shocked to learn that we also get facial hair, just much softer and lighter!
#48
Period panties!
BeKind&Rewind 9 months ago
These were not a thing until after I hit menopause, but I really don't think I could wear them, it really sounds disturbing.
#50
That women grow armpit hair and just shave it off.
Mind blowing at the time.
#51
Women are f****n weird when they're comfortable with someone. (And it's the cutest goddamn thing)
#52
They have some incredible leg strength. My girlfriend/wife sent my a*s flying across the room a few times while we wrestled.
#54
How expensive their underwear is. That six pack of Hanes at Walmart for under $30 is a gift boys. Don’t take it for granted.
#55
They don't wash their hair everytime they wash their bodies. That s**t shook me.
#56
My first GF showed me that women usually always smell waaaaaaaaaaay better than us lol it’s insane.
#57
They fart just as much as guys, and they can smell just as rotten too lol.
#58
They can be gross. Like outright disgusting.
Anyone who thinks men are dirtier than women havent been in many women's dorm rooms/apartments.
Sky Render 9 months ago
Humans are humans, and humans are messy creatures. We don't magically become another species just because we have different bits between our legs.
#59
If they have long hair, they leave hair pins EVERYWHERE. I was still finding them 2 years after breakup.
EDIT: I just found one stuck to the bottom of my laptop. There hasn’t been a woman living here in *six years*!
#60
Apparently they discuss everything with their girl best friends AND also assume we do the same.
Nicole Weymann 9 months ago
That's a very individual thing - and I guess the same goes for close lipped or open mouthed men.
#61
They're going to paint picasso's starry night on the shower wall with shed hair. Just embrace it.
#62
CAMERA F*****G ANGLES. God knows how many times I had to retake the f*****g picture.
ArgumentClean2214:
After my break up, I thought about all the sweat and tears I invested while training my ex on how to take pictures and how useless it was now that we were broken up.
Well, at least his new girlfriend will appreciate it.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 9 months ago
Am I just bad at being female? This is how all my "selfies" turn out (see attached.) I have no idea how to get a "correct" camera angle XD me_n_my_pe...51c63d.jpg 
#63
Respecting boundaries understand each other needs, space and boundaries.
#64
It's called Micellar water, not my cellar water.
#65
Space in bed is not meant to be split 50/50. She needs at least 2/3rds of it.
#67
- some are horny as guys, sometimes even more.
- morning boner exist for some girls as well, some wake up super horny and ready.
#68
How common the same social pressures plague them, and how actually powerful my passive opinion which didn't need direct communication to be assumed, was when it mattered.
#69
That women don't all like each other.
Growing up, the girls in my school always put on a show of all being friends and allies united against the boys whenever boys were around.
It wasn't until I was dating a girl that she told me the truth. It was actually shocking to hear her speak negatively about other girls and talk about all the quiet fights and judgment.
#71
They never finish the shampoo or conditioner before they buy new shampoo or conditioner so eventually there’s 10 bottles that are all 1/4 - 1/2 full. And lotions and moisturizers too.
Crissy Newbury 8 months ago
Guilty as charged. Every so often I go around and fill up one bottle with all the remnants.
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zovjraar me 9 months ago
hubby found out how strong the interior muscles are when i sneezed while he was still inside. tell him to get out if you have to sneeze or it will hurt him!
Lyoness 9 months ago (edited)
One of the posts really addressed what they call "whataboutisms". It's the people who feel the need to point out all of these apply to men too. I thought this was a great reply: "People, this isn't a game between "who hurts more men or women", it's that women have to deal with a lot of pain in their day to day lives. If you start with your whataboutisms, you're not getting it and in fact you're part of the problem. This post did not launch any attacks toward men and has nothing to say about men. You're coming in here to make this about yourselves when it shouldn't be here. Have some sympathy for how much pain women have to go through in their day to day lives and maybe I might have some sympathy for you too." Edit for grammar.
Crissy Newbury 8 months ago
Women on the whole have much higher pain threshold. My husband is a wimp. 😛
Load More Replies... zovjraar me 9 months ago
hubby found out how strong the interior muscles are when i sneezed while he was still inside. tell him to get out if you have to sneeze or it will hurt him!
Lyoness 9 months ago (edited)
One of the posts really addressed what they call "whataboutisms". It's the people who feel the need to point out all of these apply to men too. I thought this was a great reply: "People, this isn't a game between "who hurts more men or women", it's that women have to deal with a lot of pain in their day to day lives. If you start with your whataboutisms, you're not getting it and in fact you're part of the problem. This post did not launch any attacks toward men and has nothing to say about men. You're coming in here to make this about yourselves when it shouldn't be here. Have some sympathy for how much pain women have to go through in their day to day lives and maybe I might have some sympathy for you too." Edit for grammar.
Crissy Newbury 8 months ago
Women on the whole have much higher pain threshold. My husband is a wimp. 😛
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