Guy Learns That His Girlfriend Is A Landlord, Demands Half Of Her Rental Income
Sharing details about yourself is a crucial part of romance. After all, how far would a relationship go if partners were unwilling to reveal their experiences, thoughts, and feelings to each other?
That being said, people don’t just unload everything to someone the moment they get involved. Becoming open happens progressively, and the tricky part for a couple is to adjust to the same timeframe.
As Reddit user CapableEmergency5154‘s recent case shows, this can be quite difficult. Talking to the ‘Am I the [Jerk]?’ community, the woman recalled the fight that broke out between her and her now-ex-boyfriend after he found out that she’s a landlord.
Financial incompatibility is a common problem among romantic partners
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But, sadly, this woman learned about it the hard way
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After her story went viral, the woman promised to share an update on the situation and joined the discussion in the comments
Eventually, she delivered on her promise
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You don’t become open with your partner overnight
Gabrielle Applebury, who is a licensed marriage and family therapist with specialties in areas such as trauma and communication, says that people usually start sharing more detailed personal information after they decide to stop dating others.
“This typically occurs after at least a few months of consistently dating each other when there is a high level of emotional closeness, openness to being vulnerable with each other, and support,” Applebury explains.
As with many things, there’s no one right formula, but couples in an exclusive relationship can take the initiative to have serious discussions about finances (things like salaries, debts, and whether they are a spender or a saver) when they begin to move forward to bigger milestones, such as a bigger vacation or even living together.
So the fact that the Redditor’s ex expected that she would have shared that she’s a landlord before finding out the way he did isn’t that unreasonable.
Plus, a 2020 survey found that 64% of couples admit to being “financially incompatible” with their partners, with different philosophies about spending, saving, and investing their money, which can lead to so-called financial infidelity (an act that 45% of committed adults admitted they’re guilty of).
But throwing accusations and then demanding half of her rental income is no way to deal with these disagreements.
Instead, a healthy way to kickstart such talks, according to Applebury, can be buying a shared item and discussing who will pay how much and why, planning and throwing a dinner party together, shopping for a friend’s wedding or birthday gift, and so on.
People started coming up with advice and suggestions for the woman
Psycho, controlling, manipulative. This is 6 months into a relationship. Imagine how he would be a year, 2 years, after getting married? Get out, stay out or you will end up a DV victim and trapped too deep to escape. She sounds too nice (I can relate) and that is exactly who these scumbags look for. He was expecting her to cave in and I am so happy she didn't. I can't believe he was just waiting there like a lunatic "are you ready to apologize?" I am really nice and tend to be a pushover until you push one of my "psycho b***h" buttons and this would have surely done it. I would have burst into hysterical hyena laughter and started screaming at him to get the f**k out and never come back again.
Not to condemn OP at all, because she’s young and was in love, and you don’t have the best judgement in that situation. But I really think it was foolish to let a boyfriend she’d been dating for only 3 months move in with her. I don’t care how in love you are, wait at least a year before bringing it up. Her boyfriend, who she didn’t know very well, turned out to be an abusive psycho, and I’m glad she’s now safe.
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Sounds like the kind of crazy I went through with my ex. When he found out I owned my trailer (still had to pay lot rent) he started trashing it. (And then me.) I was such a pathetic pushover, I couldn't get away from him. When I did, it took moving out for 3 months while I formally evicted him. And then he DESTROYED my place. Urinating on the carpet, the furniture, stealing the stuff I couldn't move with me. Police refused to help me. I can see this level of insanity in this woman's boyfriend as well. Glad she got out before the literal shịt hit the fan.
Never say to others nor think that you are a pathetic pushover. The things you wouldn’t say about your friends you shouldn’t say about yourself. You were in a nasty situation but you survived and learned from it so you will recognise this behaviour from a guy faster.
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Gonna be a shock when his next landlord won't give him half either.
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Psycho, controlling, manipulative. This is 6 months into a relationship. Imagine how he would be a year, 2 years, after getting married? Get out, stay out or you will end up a DV victim and trapped too deep to escape. She sounds too nice (I can relate) and that is exactly who these scumbags look for. He was expecting her to cave in and I am so happy she didn't. I can't believe he was just waiting there like a lunatic "are you ready to apologize?" I am really nice and tend to be a pushover until you push one of my "psycho b***h" buttons and this would have surely done it. I would have burst into hysterical hyena laughter and started screaming at him to get the f**k out and never come back again.
Not to condemn OP at all, because she’s young and was in love, and you don’t have the best judgement in that situation. But I really think it was foolish to let a boyfriend she’d been dating for only 3 months move in with her. I don’t care how in love you are, wait at least a year before bringing it up. Her boyfriend, who she didn’t know very well, turned out to be an abusive psycho, and I’m glad she’s now safe.
Load More Replies... Sounds like the kind of crazy I went through with my ex. When he found out I owned my trailer (still had to pay lot rent) he started trashing it. (And then me.) I was such a pathetic pushover, I couldn't get away from him. When I did, it took moving out for 3 months while I formally evicted him. And then he DESTROYED my place. Urinating on the carpet, the furniture, stealing the stuff I couldn't move with me. Police refused to help me. I can see this level of insanity in this woman's boyfriend as well. Glad she got out before the literal shịt hit the fan.
Never say to others nor think that you are a pathetic pushover. The things you wouldn’t say about your friends you shouldn’t say about yourself. You were in a nasty situation but you survived and learned from it so you will recognise this behaviour from a guy faster.
Load More Replies... Gonna be a shock when his next landlord won't give him half either.
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