“We Are Not Pretending”: 50 Things Women Want Men To Finally Understand

My boyfriend has told me many times that "fat middle-aged white women" get their hair dyed blue because they're trying to make it "part of their personality" - as in, they only get their hair dyed outlandish colors because they don't have any personality besides "I'm a quirky woman!" I got my hair dyed blue when I was 40, purely because it's my favorite color and I've never dyed my hair before. So I guess I fulfilled my boyfriend's prophecy that fat, middle-aged white women dye their hair blue, since I'm a fat, middle-aged white woman who got her hair dyed blue! XD

I began to wore clothes that looks nice enough to go to a restaurant or theatre just because they feel good and if it's not totally over the top I feel good too. People asked me if I have plans but I just wanted to feel comfy (they are comfy clothes) and it would be a waste of they hang in the closet for years to wait for a special occasion. It felt weird in the beginning but also good. People like to see nice dressed people and see my point of I tell them.

When a man says something like this, smile, and say, "Oooh, thank goodness. It's sending out the right signals!", and walk away. :o)

I was watching a show (interviews in the library) and the male host was saying that - as a man - everything he did could be boiled down to wanting to be more attractive to women. Now, of course he can’t speak for all men everywhere, but it gave me a lot of perspective and understanding on this tendency to think that what women do revolves around what men want. In essence it’s because they themselves are basically obsessed with us and can’t understand that the obsession isn’t mutual ;).

I like to wear earrings because I like how they look on me, same with big metal finger rings.

When the girls lived at home, my hubs complained about how much tp we went thru.....I can't believe I had to sit a grown man down and explain why we went thru so much! Thankfully he backed off and apologised but had he not, I would have wiped up his remains with toilet paper!

Ok baby, I'll cut down on the toilet paper. I'll just leave my bloody pads in the bin, uncovered. You don't mind, do you?

As a man, I only found this out after I got married. My wife and I did not live together before marriage. As a single man living alone, I went through a standard 4-pack of toilet paper about every two weeks. When we got married, the toilet paper budget nearly tripled. Then, because the universe has a great sense of humor, we had two daughters. We've been buying 24 and 32-packs of toilet paper twice a month ever since!

Just like to make sure I'm clean.

The vast majority of men with a working brain in their head understand the important role of toilet paper in a woman's life.

To me, feminism is about breaking out of the societal norm that women are treated like property, so a woman could get out of the parents home, work, earn and keep her own money, make her own life, and not be "given away" to a husband to be abused and/or controlled. It's also about having the right to participate as an adult citizen of the country, the same way men are. It's not about functioning and trying to be like a man, while hating men.

I don't think the women I grew up with ever referred to themselves as feminists, at least not in my presence, but I think they were fantastic feminists. They were well-educated, intelligent, interesting, fiercely independent and self-reliant. I think I was very lucky to have my Mom, stepmom, grandmothers, and aunts. I learned a lot from all of them.

The entire Equal Rights Amendment is a whopping three sentences: "Equality of rights under the law shall not be denied or abridged by the United States or by any State on account of sex. The Congress shall have the power to enforce, by appropriate legislation, the provisions of this article. This amendment shall take effect two years after ratification." That's it. That's what all the hoopla and hatred is about.

Grew up in a home with a Mum who had to fight on so many fronts to be acknowledged as an intelligent, experienced and valuable person. She was feminist from the get go. I never thought it was hating men, it was valuing everyone equally. She’s knocking on the door of 80 now and whilst she picks her targets more carefully now, she’s only got so much energy to waste on fuckwits, her feminist values remain, long may they do so, underestimate her at your peril TBH.

There are misandrists who call themselves feminists, but just like in everything else, we should not allow the crazies to devalue the true meaning of a word. I consider myself a feminist, but it's hard to say that out loud when even my mother considers the word to mean "Man Hater". But the blame rests more with misogynistists than misandrists though, them being louder and more numerous than misandrists, and more likely to be in positions of power. I never understood the misogynist mindset. What do I stand to lose if women are my equal in all things? The ability to physically, mentally and financially manipulate someone I purport to love? F**k that. Yes we are on the whole stronger and more suited for muscle work, but should that translate to being inherently better at everything? No! I remember my cousin mocking me for losing to a girl at pick up basketball, and I pointed out to her that she practiced and grew her skill, which I did not. She earned her win. It started me thinking.

True. There *are* many other enjoyable sexual acts that aren't traditional intercourse that will lead to pregnancy. Perhaps people just need to open their minds to the great spectrum of sexual pleasure. I'm glad I found someone who does. If "penis in vagina" sex is all you're doing, you're truly missing out on some really nice orgasms.

I agree with this, but also, there's a lot of sex you can have that doesn't risk pregnancy. Stop perpetuating the PIV sex is the only sex. The danger of r4pe is much greater than the danger of getting pregnant.

As a man I applaud this !!

an old friend of mine was born despite her mom having her tubes tied AND using birth control

This is why women seek men with resources, too. All of the risk falls on us.

And always make sure you thank each other for doing household duties

We have a traditional division of labor in our house, but we also have a small farm. I don't do ANY outdoor chores, so I don't expect him to do indoor chores. He's pretty tidy anyway, so he doesn't add to the mess in any real way. But I would LOVE for someone to tell me what they'd like me to make for dinner. I don't care to cook it, but I'm sick to death of thinking up meal ideas.

Every day my husband is surprised and amazed that the dishwasher has clean dishes in it that need to be put away.

The same thing would happen in a house where multiple women were living or they would come up with a chore/task calendar, like most clean people, men and women alike, would do.

If some men didn't weaponise their perceived ignorance and fantastically fail wit even the smallest of household chores, there would hardly be any problem at all!