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41 Things That A Close Person Said As A Joke But Not Everyone Around Was Actually Laughing
As you probably all know, good intentions are those bricks the road to hell is paved with. And how many times has it happened to us that we've paid someone a compliment, a simple witty remark, or tried to make a joke - only to end up with, at best, some awkward silence?
I don't know about you, but I've had this happen more than once, even though I sincerely consider myself a fairly polite and emotional person. So well, many netizens, wanting to please their interlocutors, have also sometimes stumbled with their words...
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#1
I was at a party and a girl asked me to pretend to be her date so another guy would leave her alone. We ended up having a fun time, so we went on a real date a couple days later. After the real date, she said, "you're a great fake boyfriend." She meant it as a joke to play off the fake-date experience, but it was still a terrible thing to hear at the end of a great date. (We've been married for years, and sometimes I call her a great fake-wife).
Jan Rosier 1 week ago
My wife had a row with her lifelong (+30 years) bff during covid about some stupid things the friend's daughter was posting (all organic antivaxxer, basically). Behind our backs, our marriage has been called a 'marriage of convenience' (although going on for 28 years now - and she's already been divorced twice and cannot keep a new relation together). So obviously, I often call her 'my dear convenient wife' - or vice versa.
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#2
Happens whenever someone new meets my wife. She is better looking than I am. Just kinda objectively true. There almost always is some joking comment about how she is too pretty to be with me, or that I must have some blackmail on her, or that I need to work on myself so she won't leave me (I've had a long unlucky streak with my health that this is usually a reference to). Always said with a smile. Never funny to me.
Alexandra 2 weeks ago
Comments like this are highly disrespectful towards your wife. They imply she is shallow and doesn't love you for who you are.
Katiuska Franco 1 week ago
I'm sorry. Those comments imply that she DOES love him for who he is (and maybe shouldn't)
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Crystalwitch60 1 week ago
That says far more about out them than it does you op, makes them shallow insensitive cruel n so far up their own a r s e s. They wouldn’t know a good person if they jumped up n hit erm !
#3
My favorite teacher in middle school was teaching a lesson on WWII and said “Do you guys know what Jews look like? They have dark hair and big noses, like [insert my name]”
I was never self conscious about my nose before that. FYI, I’m not Jewish.
Blue Bunny of Happiness 2 weeks ago (edited)
I’m guessing they were no longer OP’s favourite teacher. I’m also hoping that their antisemitic views mean they are no longer a teacher.
Katiuska Franco 1 week ago
I'm sorry, where was the anti-semitism? Is even describing some people PHYSICALLY forbidden?
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Chrissie Anit 1 week ago
apart from the insult to the student, I sincerely hope that the teacher was trying to be sarcastic and wanted to expose the lies the Nazis spread about Jews. If not, I hope they anti-Semite was fired.
Crystalwitch60 1 week ago
Coming from a freaking teacher that’s vile !, I hope you reported him ,
Sly Schlang 1 week ago
I just love expressive features with big beautiful noses. But that has nothing to do with this I know I know...
Zig Zag Wanderer 1 week ago
Monty Python: "But he has got a big nose!" "Your nose is going to be three foot wide across your face in a minute!"
A few days ago, in the AskMen community, the user u/austerbear posed the following question to netizens: "Fellas, what's something a loved one has said to you that was supposed to be funny or playful but actually stung a little?" As of today, the resulting thread has over 9.6K upvotes and around 1.8K various comments, so it will be quite interesting to see what we have there.
By the way, the thread contains stories not only of unfortunate remarks from significant others, but also from friends, acquaintances, colleagues, and even just random folks and kids. As it turns out, people's perceptions of humor, or even compliments, can vary greatly - so please feel free to check out this selection made for you by Bored Panda!
#4
This happens all the time. People will ask what I'm doing now that I've graduated high school and I'll say that I'm working on a construction crew. Then they'll say something like "well what do you want to be doing?" or "don't worry, you'll find something better." I just kinda ignore it but it really gets to me. I absolutely love my job but so many other people see it as a low level degrading position. I even got that kind of thing from my mom a few times.
Brian Droste 1 week ago
Depends on what type of construction you do, it could pay pretty good money. What OP should do is find put what all other family members are doing and their salaries. If his salary is comparable to theirs. Say "You make this much money and I make this much money so I am making just as much as you are" hopefully that will shut them up.
Texan Girl 1 week ago
These people saying this to you s***e away in a small windowless office never know that people in construction make bank and get to be out in the open on different projects.
MotherRobinson 1 week ago
Same thing happened to me when I joined the Navy as cook. People kept apologizing to me but it wasn't that bad. I had great times and great memories.
Crystalwitch60 1 week ago
Always wanted to know why construction is see as a bad job ffs it’s bloody hard manual work outpatient in awful weather , it everyone can lay bricks properly ,my 21 yr old sons a builder ,along with landscaper it’s decent honest living , n someone’s gotta build new houses , extensions n schools offices n the like ffs anyone that looks down their noses at construction crews needs a smack n putting back in their place , cos u can bet your life they couldn’t do it !!
#5
My mates once bragged about how they went to a theme park and it was a ‘Craig free day’
I’m Craig.
Kinda funny I guess but it was still a bit... personal.
Michael Largey 2 weeks ago
If they had left out Ruth, just think of what their behavior would have been like.
#6
When my nephew guessed my age was 36.
I was 24 at the time.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 2 weeks ago
I know I had NO idea how to tell adults' ages when I was a kid (other than categorizing them as "young adult", "adult", and "old person", lol.) I remember telling my dad one time (after we'd visited his mom, my grandmother, in a nursing home) that I was planning on unaliving myself at 45, because people "got too old" after 45. I didn't even realize/think about the fact that my dad was 50 at the time XD so I was basically telling him I figured he was already 5 years past his "expiration date"... XD tl;dr don't take it too personally if a kid says they think you're 36 when you're 24. Kids are terrible at telling adults' ages.
Misha Writer 1 week ago
In my experience kids don't understand numbers in relation to age. They will say a parent is 10 or 100. All they know is the parent is older than them.
Brian Droste 1 week ago
One time I asked three young kids that I am friends with how old do you think I am. One guessed way younger than I was. Another one gussed me as much older. Another guessed somewhat close to my age.
Let's start with the fact that people have completely different ideas about what is funny (and what is not), what can be considered offensive, and what can genuinely be taken as a compliment. People have different cultural traditions, different temperaments, and, ultimately, different senses of humor.
Finally, people's emotional backgrounds can also vary. Some of us are able to read other people's body language and subconsciously notice the slightest changes in facial expressions - while others have no idea about any of this. Incidentally, with the development of modern technology, these skills are gradually becoming obsolete.
#7
Last night actually, at my close friends home he was trying to hook me up with this one girl. She's pretty and really nice, but he said "if it didn't work I understand, you aren't the most attractive one either."
It hit kinda hard since I broke up with my ex I have been questioning my own self-confidence. We did hook up so it felt a bit better, but it sting quite a bit still.
Edit: Ok now this blew up a bit more than I thought it would. I have some uppdate actually, so the girl have asked me to too out with her. And my friend called me today and apologized for what he said yesterday and that he didn't mean it in a bad way. So everything good. :).
Crystalwitch60 1 week ago
Beauty is only skin deep ! It’s what’s inside as counts give me a bloke who’s kind loving sensitive won’t gaslight u beat you , treat you like a pos any day over a so called drop dead gorgeous bloke with a vile personality !,
Zig Zag Wanderer 1 week ago
Sod physical attraction. The heart is where beauty and compatibility lie, every time. Chasing physical beauty will only cause problems.
Binky Melnik 1 week ago
And as Judge Judy usta say, “Beauty fades, but dumb is forever.” I’m gonna bore everyone and say this for the 1024th time, but the people we love become beautiful to us, even if they look like Shrek’s homelier brother. That’s what love does, so pursue that wonderful-but-homely gal or guy because once you love them, their face will become the most beautiful thing you see every day!
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After I broke up with my ex, best friend told me “I was hoping it would work out, you’re kind of un-datable”. Pretty sure he meant it in jest but it hit deep since the relationship ended because a lot of my personal flaws that I haven’t been able to fix.
Ravenkbh 2 weeks ago
A friend told me i was "un-datable" so I spit on him continually until he ran away
Crystalwitch60 1 week ago (edited)
Oo if someone said that me to id go RESULT !! Finally someone’s got it lmao ,cos I do not wanna be dateable again. Been there done that still got the scars mentally and physically!! Not going there ever again. Havent in 14 yrs tomorrow (Sunday 23rd lol ) actually ,n ooo it’s bliss so I would take that as one of the best compliments ever .
#9
I was playing board games with some people last week and another Dave was playing with us. This girl jokingly called me the "evil" Dave, and I have no idea why. I even said something along the lines of "how am I the evil one?", but didn't get a response.
Like, it's not even about being compared to one other Dave, but I try to be a good dude overall and when someone calls you evil and doesn't explain why...I just felt hurt inside.
Brian Droste 1 week ago
I was maybe in my late teens. I had a cousin, I believe his mother, my aunt told him to call me meanie. I was never mean to him or treated him bad. So I don't know why she told him to call me that. It hurt my feelings.
Many researchers attribute the decline in people's emotional intelligence to the ever-increasing amount of time spent communicating on social media and instant messaging apps. Indeed, when you don't need to vary your voice to convey your emotions, when you don't need to "read" your interlocutor's facial expressions, emotional intelligence isn't really necessary.
And the interlocutor's face itself is often just a collection of pixels on a screen. But then, returning to the real world, people retain these communication patterns for real-life interactions, preferring, in fact, online communication.
For example, the authors of this study published back in 2018 claim that only 24% of teenagers surveyed considered people or human relationships as important in life, yet only 2.5% felt that community was important in life. So where, one wonders, would developed emotional intelligence skills come from in such situation?
#10
"You're not THAT ugly".
#11
My wife is not allowed to comment on my weight. I have always been too fat, lost a bunch over the last years but I'm still ~ 15kg away from my goal. I'm hyper-sensitive about this topic, though, and I can take insults from anybody else in the world by laughing it off but not from her. When she joked around with this a year or so ago, I almost completely lost it. "You're supposed to have my back. If you, of all people, make a joke of this, I can't deal with this anymore.".
Zig Zag Wanderer 1 week ago
Agree. I made a slightly similar mistake, although about both our weights. I'm not sensitive about it, my partner is and I didn't realise. I'll never do it again, obviously.
#12
"I'm not sure I can handle a whole weekend with you"
For context, this was said by my group of friends that I've gone through thick and thin with. Our friendship is one of those where we playfully antagonize each other from time to time. Whether it be poking fun at some new shoes or talking smack about a new job, it's always been for the sake of laughs.
One day we took a trip to the mountains since we rented a cabin and that's the first thing that's said as soon as we got in the car. We all laughed along and started ripping on each other, but dang did it sting a bit.
It didn't ruin the weekend by any means. Still had lots of fun chucking snowballs at my friends and whatnot. But those words hit a little different every time I think of em.
Zig Zag Wanderer 1 week ago
Try behaving more positively. See if it changes the dynamics. You may be surprised. I once complimented a friend in front of other friends. His surprise took me back. I realised I was always putting him down in company (and alone with him) humorously. He's an arrogant sod, so it's easy to do, but I wasn't doing him or me any favours.
But why do some people say something genuinely funny without offending anyone, while others, especially when trying to imitate them, seem completely weird and awkward? On the one hand, it may be a genuine natural talent and predisposition for humor.
"In addition to being skilled at toying with people's expectations, people who are funnier than most may exhibit qualities such as a willingness to take risks when making jokes and a sensitivity to how their attempts at humor are perceived," this dedicated article at Psychology Today claims reasonably.
Furthermore, experienced stand-up comedians have long since discovered a proven strategy for good humor that doesn't offend anyone. Simply laugh at yourself - and then it's unlikely anyone will take even the most offensive pun personally. At least you know exactly what's offensive to you and what isn't.
#13
Anything about my teeth... Couldn't afford braces growing up😔.
HangryHangryHippo 1 week ago
This one hits close to home, I totally get it. It took a lot of effort and saving and I was finally able to have them as an adult, wishing the same for OP 🤗
Biytemii 1 week ago
Same for me mine started breaking and falling out in my twenties I literally had my car searched by cops cuz they thought I was a cr@ckhead when it was just genetics both my parents had full false teeth by their 40s mine just happened faster. I was so so happy when I was able to get them all pulled and get dentures so I feel you
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I asked why my girlfriend wanted to be with me.
She replied that’s she’s afraid of change.
I was hurt a little inside.
#15
One of my (former) best friends once recoiled and went, "UGH! GROSS!" when someone asked if we were dating.
UKGrandad 2 weeks ago
A couple of years ago a newish neighbour totally blanked me when I saw her in town. A couple of days later she stopped me when I was walking past her house, apologised for not speaking and explained that she hadn't wanted to make things awkward because the woman I had been walking arm-in-arm with wasn't my wife. Her face was a picture when I told her that the 'other woman' was in fact my daughter. My daughter found it hilarious when I told her.
UKGrandad 1 week ago
The level of insult depends on which one of you your mother said it to 😉
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Anyway, we're quite confident that reading this collection of stories, if it doesn't do you any favors in terms of developing your emotional intelligence, will at least make your time a tad bit more interesting. So now, please feel free to read this list to the very end, and maybe add your own related tales in the comments below - in case you have something to say of course.
#16
My dad got drunk one time and i know he was trying to be endearing but he said
"even though i know your never going to amount to anything, i will always love you"
and here i am at 32 with a s**t job living in his shithole house.
Betty Spaghetti 1 week ago
Which is worse: this or, “I know you’re going places, but I will still never love you”?
UKGrandad 2 weeks ago (edited)
At least HE'S got a house and loves you enough to let you keep living there, you ungrateful little shít. EDIT: I can only assume that my downvoter is also a thirty-something slacker still mooching off their parents. EDIT 2: Now there's two of them. Sort your lives out and let your parents have their homes to themselves.
#17
I get knocked everytime my girlfriend mentions that despite my success so far in life I am a University drop out. I mean it isnt a big one but everytime it gets brought up it stings a bit...
She works in a school and uses me as an example that you don't have to go to University to do well in life but it's not the kind of thing I like to be lauded for...
Devin Schmitt 2 weeks ago
Drop out? I flunked out, as I could not pass a math class to save my soul. I eventually became an auditor, go figure.
Spocks's Mom 1 week ago
I too consistency flunked math, but ended up spending years in accounting. ADHD plus being traumatized as a kid and always living inside of my own head didn't help.
Load More Replies... Zig Zag Wanderer 1 week ago
I dropped out. Went back as a mature student, got the first 1st class in our family! Nobody did put me down for dropping out, however.
#18
Friends have been calling me "Egg" for years now, because of my head shape. I'm over it at this point, but this started in the early stages of my depression and it was hard to kick those thoughts at first.
#19
I’d had a lot of trouble with toothaches and other dental issues.
At a family gathering we had all ordered Chinese with an assembly of foods to pick as you like. I went to grab a rib, to which one relative piped up, ‘you don’t want to bite into that, not with your bad teeth’.
That happened about 14 years ago and I still feel the upset. Glad to say my teeth were all repaired though and are in fine order! 😃.
#20
Whenever a close friend teases me for being mixed ethnicity. 'Half' this or that. It stings because I have a lot of trauma about it. I was treated differently by my extended family, othered and considered less than. my identity always questioned by people.
Crystalwitch60 1 week ago
Again op lovely it says far more about them than it does you x n they might think it’s funny but anything that hurts you IS BULLYING ! and cruel ,x
#21
I have an abnormally high metabolism. For years I’ve tried to gain weight with advice from various nutritionists and protein diets and I’m still 20 lbs underweight. My mother, father, step mother and step father always playfully say I’m “too skinny” or “Oh you really need to eat more”. It gets especially worse around the holidays. I tell myself that I’m used to it, but every time I hear it, it still hurts. The older I get and the (seemingly) less progress I seem to make, the more it hurts to be called “too skinny” as if I have an eating disorder.
I love myself for who I am and am always trying to become the best version of myself I can be, physically, emotionally, mentally. But hearing this from the people I love the most cuts deep.
Edit: a word.
Eastendbird 1 week ago
I'm skinny, always have been. One time I was introduced to someone new while out. A friend made a comment about how I love my food but don't put on weight. New acquaintance then said "Oh god, couldn't you just slap her!" I was just 😲 😲 😮.
Zig Zag Wanderer 1 week ago
Both my children are skinny as f. They take after their mother. I tell em both that they'll love it when they hit 50 and everyone else is on diets!
Binky Melnik 1 week ago
Nope; I don’t love it. People have handed me money in the street (usually when I was checking out a restaurant’s menu) and told me to “Get something to eat,” people have pointed and laughed when I was standing at an angle where I cast a weirdly small shadow, men looove to put their hands around my waist to see whether their fingertips “meet,” strangers will grab me if a strong wind kicks up (“Don’t want you blowing away!” — only ONCE has anyone ACTUALLY saved me from blowing away), salesgirls have stopped me inside stores and said “We don’t carry anything that will fit you.” Maybe I was getting a gift for someone, but I’m sure as hell not gonna get it HERE. And on and on and on. I’m in my 60s, and no, I DON’T love it that everyone else is on a diet. I WOULD love it if people didn’t feel they have a right to comment on my body. One of these days I’m gonna crack and slap someone. I don’t comment on your fat; don’t comment on my skinny. It’s not funny, necessary, needed, or warranted.
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Mia Chapman 1 week ago
I am really skinny, but I was born that way, but my old “friends” used to make fun of me for it, and said I had an eating disorder (I do not) and my mom always makes me self conscious about it
#22
When I let out my real laugh it sounds like the Batman theme song, "Na Na Na Na Na Na Na Na." You get the gist, always happens when someone says a good joke and my Na Na's come out. One person always points out I have a weird laugh, and then I'm stifling myself the rest of the night.
Biytemii 1 week ago
This is one of those situations where you just have to own it! You'll feel a lot better if you just own up to it and love your laugh and love the fact that it'll make other people laugh I know it's harder than it sounds but get yourself used to loving your unique laugh because you'll always have that and you'll always be able to make other people laugh because of it
Ronja Oksanen 1 week ago
Apparently I sound like Bender from Futurama when I laugh at things that are not normally laughed about and I love the reference 😅
Lazy Panda 2 1 week ago
I'm a full on belly laugh, loud as anything. If someone chooses to be mean about me being happy they can get stuffed
#23
“You wouldn’t get it because you’re an immigrant”
I knew she meant it as a joke but I’ve always had trouble understanding who or what i exactly am. I feel dissociated from both cultures in some ways and that joke just kinda felt like a slap in the face to all of my efforts to assimilate.
Alexandra 2 weeks ago
Is it though? A joke? Why would being from another country mean you're stupid? As if your brain power diminished the moment you cross a national border.
Maya_D 1 week ago
I’m guessing it was referring to something that local people grew up with but someone who arrived in the last few years wouldn’t have experienced, or something along those lines.
Load More Replies... Zig Zag Wanderer 1 week ago
I've been a immigrant most of my life. France, Australia and Italy. Nobody expects me to understand everything, but I've never been challenged for being an immigrant I'm pleased to say. Sounds painful.
#24
My brother once jokingly said "good luck being painfully average. With you average looking wife, good but dead end job and locked into a mortgage for the rest of you life". Unbeknownst to him my biggest anxiety is being unremarkable/ average and just making up the numbers for the rest of my life. the comment rattles round my head daily.
Norfolk and good 1 week ago
Absolutely nothing wrong with being average and getting up to go to work everyday, paying your bills, looking after your family, shopping, cooking, cleaning etc. A lot of people have blown their whole life apart in a desperate attempt to be "remarkable" and ended up alone and miserable.
Zig Zag Wanderer 1 week ago
Sod him! Live the life YOU want, not what anyone else expects. It's YOUR life!
Petra D. 1 week ago (edited)
And what would be the problem? I feel a very big social pressure to "be" something or someone, but for who? Who are we suppose to live for that demands us to be someone we are not, doing things we don't like, and whatnot... why this necessity to impress someone who is not ourselfs? We can only live for ourselselves, no one else. Do what makes you happy, fulffiled, and if thats "average" for someone else, so what? You are the one who will live with the consequences of those choices... the person who dismissed your achivements will probably not even remeber the statement...
Mike F 1 week ago
Thank you! Most people were not "born" to change the world and many who decide that it's their mission to do just that seem to just fvck it up and fall flat on their face. There is no shame in providing for your family without wrecking yourself trying to be something you're not.
Load More Replies... Sly Schlang 1 week ago
Being average would already mean per definition smarter than half the people you meet 🧐☝️how frustrating must it be to be super clever? Idiots everywhere 😫 oh wait, is that what's going in? 🤔
kkrq2vk4tm 1 week ago
The point is we are all average, even the wealthy within their group they are all average, in a room full of talent they are all average in that group, it's ok to be average, embrace it
#25
I had a epileptic seizure and my girlfriend said she will leave me now, jokingly.
#26
I sing and play guitar. I’ve always been told I have a good voice. I myself think it’s okay, like you’d enjoy it around a campfire but I’m not gonna get a record deal or anything. My ex drunkenly told me she thought I was a bad singer. It ruined my confidence. That was about five years ago and I still think about it every now and then when I sing, even alone. She used to say a lot of hurtful things drunk without realizing it.
Brian Droste 1 week ago
People speak the truth of what is in their heart when they are drunk. Their inhibitions are lowerd.
Mike F 1 week ago
That's a really nice way of saying that people can become hateful when they're drunk.
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#27
My husband said I had big ears almost 30 years ago. I still think about them when I put my hair in a ponytail.
#28
My then partner, after explaining to me all their big plans and life goals and how they were going to change the world and wouldn't settle for less, ended with: "and then there's you. You just want to be loved." as though the grand summary of me is a lonely one half of a couple, and I'm that easily dismissed, and they were entirely right.
Nod along & save my existential crisis for later. Still not entirely sure if I'm some malfunctioning person for not having aspirations?
Edit:
I firmly believe that (as per the title of this thread) they meant no harm by it and were genuinely just trying to convey a difference in our life goals as they saw it. It just hit very close to home and stuck with me that perhaps having a small selfcentered aspiration made me a smaller more selfish person. After all, finding love and contentment isn't going to end government corruption or feed starving children.
I've been assured (thank you all) that this isn't the case.
To anyone else who relates to this: you're not less valuable if you don't need to change the world to feel complete. Chase your happiness and try not to hurt anyone. That's about all there is.
Brian Droste 1 week ago
As long as this system we are living under keeps on going, there are going to be corruption in government and starving children and people.
#29
Female here- I told my fiancé he looked like Woody from Toy Story. I could tell it stung after I said it but now he says “you’re lucky you get to be intimate with the sheriff for life” sooo he’s my Woody.
#30
My ex drunkenly said my roommate/good friend was very attractive. Normally that wouldn’t bother me, but the fact that she never gave me compliments hurt me for the entire night that night.
#31
“I think you’re going to go bald soon”. Now I think about it on a weekly base.
#32
Was called a little girl because of showing my soft side.
#33
My sister once said "whoever thought thatdude would be the bread winner out of us?" That was a little over a decade ago. Egg is on her face though, I'm still the least successful out of the three us! Oh wait..
#34
Anything about my nose at all, I learned to live with it but every once in a while someone pokes some fun about it and I feel the biggest oof inside.
#35
When I got Roasted by my teenaged son around a campfire while visiting an old family of friends. I grew up with this family and they knew my boy since forever. Hes always been shy until that night. I was proud that he opened up like he did but it was at my expense, although the things he was saying my friends already knew about me.... it just hit differently hearing my faults as a father And a person out loud from the boy I'm trying to raise Not to be me........
Jan 1 week ago
If your shy kid feels comfortable enough around you to roast you, you definitely did something right. Or extremely wrong. He’ll tell you when he has kids at the latest. Never really felt I had much complaints about my upbringing, until I had kids myself. Not saying my parents did everything wrong. Definitely not, but I do have a bunch of issues that seem to boil down to my childhood and those are feelings I sincerely hope my kids will never have to deal with.
Binky Melnik 1 week ago
Ouch! You were obviously sitting waaay too close to the fire if you were roasted! I hope the burns healed without need of grafts!
Zig Zag Wanderer 1 week ago
I must say I'm used to my family pointing out my flaws. The ones I don't like hearing I'll try to change . The others I laugh about. I'm autistic (high functioning), so they sometimes have to point stuff out to me.
#36
My mother growing up was always going to school and trying to remake herself. When I was around 16 I realized she was always telling people and myself she never wanted to make the mistakes she did with me with my brothers. Like constantly to the point that I heard that line daily for years. If I told her to please stop saying it she wouldn’t. She couldn’t understand that it implies I was always a mistake.
To clarify for people. My mother was undiagnosed bi-polar disorder and went to rehab like 7 times . Money was never the issue except for over spending. She was and is a dr of pharmacy. Even with the rehabs bc she self reported when I was like 20. My brothers are 14 years age difference.
alchemilla vulgaris 1 week ago
I know this is from Reddit, and OP won't see my answer. But maybe the mistake their mother did when bringing them up was gritting her teeth and carrying on instead of asking for help, because "a good mother puts herself second"? Or try to impose a particular parenting style? Mistakes made when bringing up a kid aren't necessarily referred to the kid themselves
#37
Well I'm 19 skinny asf (~110lbs) and every one I've met always enclosed their fingers on my wrist and try to go up as far as they can. I'm not hurt about it, it's that I've had it happen so many times.
Zig Zag Wanderer 1 week ago
I've only recently understood that my hands are massive .I didn't really think about it before, because I'm a big chap. Now I do a lot, but in a good way. My daughter actually got cutlery made especially for me for my birthday. They're absolutely gorgeous !
Mike F 1 week ago
I don't know why folks are following you around and down voting you, but here's my upvote to even things out.
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Sofia 1 week ago
wrap your fingers to someone's wrist. Thinner people usually have thinner wrists so more part of finger is left out when you wrap thinner the person is
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Anything that's something they don't realize is important to me. For instance my dream is to be a racecar driver, but I still have a lot of doubt in my abilities. Whenever someone makes a joke about my driving I'm hurt a little because it brings out my own self doubt.
Zig Zag Wanderer 1 week ago
I'll tell you how to make a small fortune in racing: Start off with a large fortune!
Stardust she/her 1 week ago
When people make fun of my interest in astronomy it genuinely hurts my feelings as I’d say over 90% of my personality revolves around astronomy so when I’m told im too dumb for it or that I’m wasting my time I feel really awful
Binky Melnik 1 week ago
Stardust, you REALLY need to jettison from your life those people who say that. Do you *really* wanna listen to that and feel bad for the rest of your life? Punt ‘em! Then live your life the way YOU want to. Fυck those аssholes!
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In private she would praise my size and skill in the bedroom, with friends would make little remarks to the opposite.
at first I thought she didn't want her girls friends to hit on me, but that gets old and painful fast.
Sly Schlang 1 week ago
I would always be loyal but discreet. I mean really it's nobodys business, so... If someone asks how partner is in bed: In bed? Oh, we should try this, good Idea. Up to now, we never got there cause we just rip each others clothes off and so I can only say how much I love the Shower, kitchen table, living room carpet, window sill, ...
Sly Schlang 1 week ago
Never ever let your partner feel bad about such a thing in front of others. I mean if you love each others.
Load More Replies... Zig Zag Wanderer 1 week ago
I've never had any partner refer to my bedroom abilities in public. I don't know if that's good or bad, but I've only had compliments in private, so good I hope!
#40
"Oh you're a virgin, I have a lot I can teach you".
Binky Melnik 1 week ago (edited)
I would think ANYONE hearing this would absolutely light up and say “Let’s get started!” I can’t imagine ANY circumstance in which this is bad. I’m 100% with Sofia: How can be disappointed? Get BUSY, man! (The one time I said this to someone, I didn’t get the entire sentence out because he was on me like white on rice. And very, VERY grateful afterwards. There was no “Wait: I think I’m insulted.” I’m pretty sure it took a month to get the smile off his face.)
#41
I had been talking to this chick for a while, and things were fairly serious at times. I had to work a lot one day and she texted me saying she was bored and I needed to hurry home. I said "Aw, you missed me, huh?" And she said "I missed your c**k, after all, I'm just with you for really good s*x."
I've had a lot of one night stands.. and a lot of women that just wanted to be f**k buddies and nothing more. Not to mention I lost my virginity at 14 because a 25 year old chick d*****d my drink.
Being nothing more than a sexual object, especially to someone you really like, doesn't really feel all that fantastic.
Binky Melnik 1 week ago
I was thinking that given this is Reddit, it’s remarkable to me this wasn’t voted the number one response.
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reuben kift 1 week ago
Yeah, I've definetly gone through something like this. Quite a few of my "friends" would would say awful things in the frame of jokes. Like, if you don't like me, fine. We don't have to be friends. I'm cool with that. But don't insult me, jokingly or not, then try and act as though what you said wasn't insulting by trying to play it off as "just a joke".
jwm8h95dfj 1 week ago
I had a classmate tell me after an exam “oh I didn’t expect you to do so well, I was certain that you’d fail.” Still hurts even tho it’s was almost 3 years ago
Mreoww 2 weeks ago (edited)
My friends and I, when we were young teenagers, were talking and walking and just hanging out. They mentioned some tuition or coaching thing that I’ve never heard of, so I asked them about it, and they were quite surprised I didn’t know it. They could have left it there and just told me what it was, but instead they didn’t answer my question and joked about how art seemed to be the only thing I knew anything about. That hurt, especially because there are other things I’m good at besides art.
kkrq2vk4tm 1 week ago
Some how somewhere along the way people forgot the old adage "sticks and stones will break my bones but words will neverhurt me' and it's true, nobody has the power to make you feel anything if you chose not to let them, if a person says something and it hits home it's because you chose to let it
Binky Melnik 1 week ago (edited)
I gather you don’t read the “family” posts. Parents often beat the overloving hell out of their children with words. I was physically beaten, a LOT, but what sticks with me were the words. Decades of therapy and some things I will apparently NEVER get over or out of my head. (On a daily basis, I’ll drop something and say “You goddаmn fool!” because that’s what I heard when I did something entirely unworthy of comment and my brain seems to feel I need to remind myself that when I drop a fork, I’m a goddаmn fool, or I bump into something/one I’m a goddаmn fool, or if I overshoot when changing channels, I’m a goddаmn fool. I’ll take ALL the beatings; just please don’t remind me that I count for absolutely nothing in your life.
Load More Replies... reuben kift 1 week ago
Yeah, I've definetly gone through something like this. Quite a few of my "friends" would would say awful things in the frame of jokes. Like, if you don't like me, fine. We don't have to be friends. I'm cool with that. But don't insult me, jokingly or not, then try and act as though what you said wasn't insulting by trying to play it off as "just a joke".
jwm8h95dfj 1 week ago
I had a classmate tell me after an exam “oh I didn’t expect you to do so well, I was certain that you’d fail.” Still hurts even tho it’s was almost 3 years ago
Mreoww 2 weeks ago (edited)
My friends and I, when we were young teenagers, were talking and walking and just hanging out. They mentioned some tuition or coaching thing that I’ve never heard of, so I asked them about it, and they were quite surprised I didn’t know it. They could have left it there and just told me what it was, but instead they didn’t answer my question and joked about how art seemed to be the only thing I knew anything about. That hurt, especially because there are other things I’m good at besides art.
kkrq2vk4tm 1 week ago
Some how somewhere along the way people forgot the old adage "sticks and stones will break my bones but words will neverhurt me' and it's true, nobody has the power to make you feel anything if you chose not to let them, if a person says something and it hits home it's because you chose to let it
Binky Melnik 1 week ago (edited)
I gather you don’t read the “family” posts. Parents often beat the overloving hell out of their children with words. I was physically beaten, a LOT, but what sticks with me were the words. Decades of therapy and some things I will apparently NEVER get over or out of my head. (On a daily basis, I’ll drop something and say “You goddаmn fool!” because that’s what I heard when I did something entirely unworthy of comment and my brain seems to feel I need to remind myself that when I drop a fork, I’m a goddаmn fool, or I bump into something/one I’m a goddаmn fool, or if I overshoot when changing channels, I’m a goddаmn fool. I’ll take ALL the beatings; just please don’t remind me that I count for absolutely nothing in your life.
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