“What’s A Word Or Phrase That Makes You Lose Respect For Someone?”: 48 Brutally Honest Answers
We all have words or phrases that instantly rub us the wrong way. Sometimes it’s a cliché that feels fake, other times it’s a throwaway line that reveals a lot more about someone’s attitude than they realize. A single phrase can be enough to make you roll your eyes—or even lose a little respect for the person saying it.
So, I asked the Bored Panda community to share the words or expressions that immediately set off red flags for them. From cringey catchphrases to everyday sayings that just don’t sit right, these answers show how powerful language can be—and how quickly the wrong words can change your impression of someone.
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"It's just a (cat/dog/iguana…)" — said when someone loses a pet.
You'll know when it's time to do the right thing. Big hugs.
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"Everything happens for a reason."
Please tell me the reason why my mother died like a dog from dementia, genius. I'll wait.
Sounds similar to 'what doesn't k**l you makes you stronger'... yeah sure. someone losing his hand due to some stupid accident, sure, they are much stronger now...
The only time that line is okay is in a Final Destination movie.
Load More Replies...Technically everything does happen for a reason - but the reason has nothing to do with a diety or any cosmic plan. My coffee tastes bad because I didn't have enough creamer. My mother also died from Alzheimer's. The reasons are medical in some unknown manner. Not because any god wanted her with them, maybe to make blintzes. Emalyn, there is no good reason; his reasons were probably complex and might be only understandable by him at the time. I'm so sorry you lost him. No parent should go through that. My heart goes out to you. (edited to fix typos)
There's a cause, a reason explains the cause. A cause is the direct event, factor, or phenomenon that creates an effect, while a reason is the logical, rational explanation or justification for an action or event. Causes answer "how" something happened, often leading to an effect without intent, whereas reasons answer "why" and typically involve human motivation, purpose, or rational thought.
Load More Replies...I get it's hard to offer sympathy to someone who's recently had a loved one die. Personally, though, I'm of the opinion that if you think you can't, stick to "I'm sorry for your loss" and bring them food or something like that. Sounds generic, and I know everyone brings food. It *is* kind of generic (even if you do feel genuinely sorry), but at least it's better than actively offending the person, and they can freeze the food.
For me, it’s when someone says, “I’m just being honest,” right after saying something unnecessarily cruel. Honesty is great, but when it’s used as a shield for rudeness, it feels more like an excuse than a virtue.
That word - "just". It's so often either a verbal grovel, or an attempt to evade the blame. Avoid it yourself (as much as possible) and avoid those who use it regularly, as well.
If they do it in front of people, they want to shame you and build their ego. Get that person out of your life.
Load More Replies...A lot of people aren't able to be honest without being an arsehole
My family does this a lot whenever they bring up the fact that I’ve failed every single exam this year. And they’ll on top of that tell me that I will never make it to my dream college or that my capacity is only to score 70-80% on a test
Starting a sentence with "I'm not gonna lie." ..Yes. Yes you are. You just did.
That and "to be honest" - I tend to stop them right there and ask how much they were lying before that.
Load More Replies...But for them, you have to walk in eggshells of course. That's not the same obviously
No, they're just telling you their opinion. And there may be nothing at all honest about that opinion.
I hate when someone accuses me of being negative for stating a fact, just because that fact is inconvenient for them. Observations are not linked to your feelings.
"I don’t believe in mental illness."
From a close family member who knows I have severe depression, knows I am on medication, and knows I have tried to take my own life in the past!
Fluffbug, I would like to recommend a response to your nasty relative…….” I don’t believe people should be a55holes, but here we are.” Or some variation.
This is usually said by people who are too scared to admit they have undiagnosed issues that should be dealt with. We all need to find peace in this world some of us need help getting there. Finding a new life teacher and admitting you need help is a brave thing to do.
Why is this person being downvoted? They are saying they also have a mental illness?
Load More Replies...Good for you, buddy - maybe your brain is not evolved enough to understand.
Not believing in mental illness is a definite symptom of mental illness.
"Influencer" or "content creator"—either of those words likely means you don’t know what you’re talking about when it comes to what you’re trying to get your followers to buy. So, I have no respect for you.
It also means "I'm an entitled idiot that wants you to give me stuff for free."
Let me subtly reword this: Manager. That word means that more than likely you don't know what you are talking about regarding what you are trying to get your employees to do. So, I have no respect for you. ;)
Because I'm a… [Insert Zodiac Sign]
No such thing as a star sign. They are signs of the zodiac, but because of precession they no longer correspond with the constellations they are named after.
Load More Replies...I do this but always in an extremely and obviously non-serious way.
When someone asks me what my sign is (which hasn't actually happened in about 20 years now, maybe folks are wising up), I either tell them what is is according to Chinese astrology, or if it's someon who's known me for a little bit I'll say, "You tell me - you should be able to figure it out by how I act." Only one person has ever guessed correctly on the first try, and it was someone I'd known for 9 months; since she knew I hadn't had a birthday in that amount of time, it changed the odds of a correct guess from 1 in 12 to 1 in 3, so not really a valid "test."
"God won't give you more than you can handle."
"And aren't you over that by now?"
I am an atheist. If God exists, why are there so many wrongs with the planet?
"My god it's been 2 weeks."~ my boss after my son died. F*** you Bridget.
I had a teacher write me up on a Monday in 9th grade because I missed Friday and didn't have a note - my mom died Thursday (two days after me birthday), so getting a note wasn't my first priority. My dad (divorced) had to fly back, get all of us kids, move us into his apartment, and arrange her funeral... we were busy. F**k you teacher whose name isn't even a memory. And f**k you too, Bridget!
Load More Replies...If God doesn't give us more than we can handle then how come the sui-cide rate is so high?
The Christian god allegedly created two humans that didn't know right from wrong and then punished them and their offspring for all of eternity for eating a forbidden fruit of knowledge. That god would definitely smite you and not give a fu<k.
That god clearly wasn't bright enough to avoid creating an accessible tree of knowledge and an evil talking serpent.
Load More Replies..."If God doesn't give me more than I can handle, when does He take take you back? Or are you a present from the other side?"
A word or phrase that makes me instantly lose respect for someone is anything dismissive of other people’s humanity—like when someone says, “I’m just being honest,” right after insulting someone, or, “That’s just how I was raised,” to excuse bigotry. Those kinds of phrases signal that the person isn’t interested in growth, empathy, or accountability, and that usually tells me everything I need to know.
Woke. It's just: "Things are more complicated than my simplistic worldview accounts for, and I don't want complexity making me question it."
More like: "I miss the days when I could pretend that gay people and people of color didn't exist, and now you guys are making it harder for me to live in that comfortable make-believe world I used to live in."
"Woke", "social justice warrior", "politically correct", "bleeding heart", .. have always meant the same thing - "I have nothing to support my pig-ignorant nasty bigotry, so I'll fill the air with a meaningless phrase instead and hope it distracts people."
I would have thought that social justice was a good thing, I'm not sure why it's used as an insult.
Load More Replies...I think this word needs to die. Because sometimes when people criticize things as "woke", I agree. I saw a video of some young adults doing skits about bigotry, stereotypes of other ethnicities, and racism. Most of it was fine, but then apparently it's racist to mention a sunburn around a black person! That's so ridiculous. That's the kind of "woke" that I object to. Or, teaching white kindergarden students that they are privileged because they are white. That's not the right age or way to go about that. But the word has been weaponized, like so many other things in the last 10 years. Best just to stay away from it completely now.
Black people can get sunburns. The person who didn't know that is ignorant, not woke. And your RW fear mongering about kids being taught reality doesn't move me.
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5G… chemtrails… antivax… All of these are the worst of the human condition. We are fully in Idiocracy mode now.
Nobody I have ever met believes any of this trope. I'm from Bay Area, California.
You're very lucky, I hope you never encounter one in the wild. Sadly I've met these people and they are horrible, mindbogglingly stupid. The kind of stupid that gives you a tension headache . I live in Manhattan, my family is from the Bay area, there are many of them in both places.
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"Oh, just ChatGPT/Copilot/Gemini it." What happened to "Google it"? Why are we relying on a very inaccurate robot to give us our information?
Have asked AI twice about something then followed up by checking the result. Not only wrong but VERY wrong.
I ignore AI when looking up stuff. Particularly since I wanted the exact date [a celeb] died in 2016 and they said Xmas Eve 2024. Really? I was at their funeral.
Last year I had this complicated project for school that would account for 20% of my final grade so I went over the deadline to research things and exceeded the page limit by 30. I obviously lost marks for late submission so I asked everyone else how they managed to complete it on time and they all said that they used ChatGPT. -_-
"I asked Chat GPT.." Yeah, well I did actual reading with cited sources and followed up with in depth research. guess which one of us has a real understanding of the subject and who has a Quora answer.
I once asked the AI at work for references to back up something I was saying in the document I wrote. AI referred me to a document that doesn’t even exist.
"No offence."
It's so annoying—people just say it to try and get away with saying something terrible!
Or when someone starts a sentence with, "With all due respect..." They always follow it up with something rude and disrespectful.
My friends know that if I am saying that to someone, it's because there is no respect due - and it's usually not them on the receiving end.
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"Do you know how much I make a year?"
If they say more than a billion you can say "prove it. Give me 5 million right now, then I'll believe you. If you really earn that much, it won't be a big problem"
Well, "I'm an influencer" has already been covered, so let's just go with, "Do you know who I am/who my father is?"
I heard a cop say that to a suspect on a bodycam footage.
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"Be better." It's a passive-aggressive way of saying, "Align your views with mine because my thinking on this topic makes me a better person than you," and it marks the person as arrogant and condescending.
"Be better" is the same as "Do better"... it doesn't say "align your views with mine". It says "What you are doing isn't right, improve yourself."
No, it means 'what you are doing isn't what I think is right, improve yourself by doing as I do'. It is still an assumption that their way is the right way.
Load More Replies...I prefer “Go away.” That’s more honest, and gets right to the point.
I'm not, but…
If you start a sentence with that, then you most definitely are bigoted. It doesn't matter if it's about race, gender, or sexual orientation— as soon as those words are uttered, I lose respect.
Should say I'm not racist, homophobic or what ever your favourite bigotry is but fir some reason didn't post
"I don't mean to be rude, but…" means they're about to be rude.
The moment someone says that I already don't want to hear it. If they have to put a disclaimer then they shouldn't say it.
rude is in the eye of the beholder. One person's rude it another's compliment
"I am her father. You need to respect me." Lost respect immediately. You earn respect; you don't ask for it.
The number of times I've said this! I'll give people courtesy (unless they've been rude first) but respect gets earned.
Load More Replies...Sometimes when you do, it is not recognized. What do you do then?
Load More Replies...You are a s***m donor. Or... I'm guessing she respects you out of fear.
"So, I offer you respect, and it will take much for you to lose it. However, if you do, if you choose to see my respect as weakness and take advantage of it, well... perhaps then I'll let you speak with Guenhwyvar'. FYI the Guen he's talking about is a 600 lb magical black panther that does not suffer fools.
It's beginning to be "Prove me wrong."
Reminds me of something that happened a few days ago. I went outside to feed the stray cats, and when I wanted to go inside the door was locked. Had to knock on the door and call to my father to open the door. He denied it was him who locked it, even though there was noone else in the house. I said "well, I didn't walk through a closed door" and he passive aggressively answered that I should prove that. W*F?
I say, I don't have anything to prove to anyone. Take me at my word, look it up yourself, and I'm leaving now.
I know a person who puts a dollar amount on everything. Not, "Can you hand me my sunglasses?" But, "Can you hand me my $1,200 sunglasses?" Every time… every chance she gets. I wish I saw her less than every couple of years.
Hand them to her with the comment "Here's your buck ninety-eight sunglasses that you wildly overpaid for."
"Did you know these are all made in the same factory and cost about $7 to produce?"
Not a word or a phrase, but a conversational style: arguing with everything the other person says, insisting that they justify every statement or back up every assertion they make. Saying, “But what about [unlikely possibility],”—aka sealioning.
But if I'm going to argue with you, I must take up a contrary position.
I agree!! I'm always up for a healthy debate or good conversation but some people just HAVE to be contrary all of the time with everything and its exhausting.
Also...TIL about "sealioning" :: Sealioning is a type of harassment that involves a person relentlessly asking for evidence and sources under the guise of a polite, sincere inquiry, often for the purpose of wearing down and derailing the other person. This tactic is used to create an illusion of reasonable debate while actually aiming to exhaust the target's patience and portray them as unreasonable or uninformed. I'm 98% certain my family invented this LOL I just didn't know it had a name.
Load More Replies...Depends on the topic. It doesn't have to turn into an argument if both sides are able to see both perspectives, without trying to one-up, or compete who's right and wrong.
“I’m just playing devil’s advocate” — said when they are trying to justify being cruel.
When men do this to women, or white people do this to POC, it's a way to erase their own privilege, and play "just a fun little game" with other people's civil and human rights. Just don't.
This drives me crackers. Not every point needs a counter point. Plus the devils advocate is a *legal* argument designed to exhaust every possible outlying circumstance. When it's applied to personal feelings or circumstances, it's weaponised gaslighting. "I feel sad today because my mum spoke to me harshly" "Well devils advocate here, you're not sad, you're just hungry. Your mum wasn't *harsh*, she was treating you fairly..."
"Do you know who I am?"
If you're going to do that, at least do it correctly. "Art" is second person, etc.
Load More Replies..."So I was listening to Rogan," or "I read on InfoWars." May as well tell me you read it in the tabloids—at least you can read, but geez.
At least they have identified an actual source even a wackjob right wingding. I hate "they say that....". I ask who are they and get a shoulder shrug!
Using "irregardless."
"I voted for Trump. Twice."
"Not all men" and "Misandry!" — said when women talk about negative experiences with men.
Just for fairness sake, try this simple test; flip the genders. How would a woman respond to the same statement?
This is kind of random, but I remember watching a reality show where a contestant was getting kicked off and the judge said something like "I'm sorry to see you go because you're the cutest guy here!" And all I could think was...wow...if a male judge said that to a female contestant it would have been cut before airing (probably). I was quite disgusted by the comment as looks had nothing to do with the competition. (Steampunk'd - the name of the show)
Load More Replies...If you're getting that sort of response there's a fair chance you've been over-generalising and that you deserve it.
No, I disagree. Plenty of people love to say 'not all men' in response to a woman simply talking about something that actually happen.
Load More Replies...People have encounters with s****y people. When it comes to women, you have to just let us say it like all men are s****y based on the s****y things s****y men have done to us. (I'm only joking. I don't believe a thing I've said.)
Women cannot word it kindly enough for men not to come with that shyte. You know pretty well what OP talks about. Your bad faith reply just proves their point in a different way.
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When a man refers to his lovely spouse as "the wife."
In my personal opinion and from the people I've been around, men are more likely to say my wife and women are a little bit more likely to say whatever their spouses name is Bob Carroll Ted or Alice doesn't matter
I say my wife to people who don't know her and I use her name with people who do.
Load More Replies...I think a husband calling his wife 'the wife' *can* be cute -- on the proviso she also thinks it's cute. Otherwise it could come across as jerkish and condescending. As an aside -- I like it when people refer to their spouse as "their spouse" because, by default, it's no business of others as to what gender my spouse identifies. If I say it, that's different. If you're fishing for information, go away.
My grandad used to call my grandma (very affectionately) "Mrs Woman". Whenever they were about to leave somewhere, he'd say "Come on Mrs Woman".
Is this worse than "my old lady"? I was in my 20s and my now-ex kept referring me to his friends as his "old lady". Made me feel like I was 80 years old.
"We only want what's best for you."
You think I don't know what's best for me?
Always annoying but particularly so when it's able-bodied people making decisions for people with disabilities; people make assumptions about our capabilities but we know best what our capabilities are. I'll tell you if I can or cannot do something.
I had a friend who said this to me whenever she was trying to coax me into going to college, in which I can't afford, only because I work at a store and don't earn as much as she does, and thinks the store I work at is embarrassing. I don't talk to her anymore.
Read the lyrics of S******l Tendencies "Institutionalized".
Or whats convenient for parents (et al.)? Though in hindsight I didn't know.
"No offence, but…" I just hate it when someone says that—they mean offence. I just lose my respect for them (which I probably didn't have in the first place).
I honestly don't know anyone who uses that phrase any more unless it's sarcasm.
wait, I din't add an image, HOW DID AN IMAGE GET HERE!?!?
Why not be honest and say I am demanding an argument on this topic because I think your opinion is wrong?
I love Donald Trump.
Whatever.
Hey, that’s THE word of GenX, and I’m not giving it up!
SAME! It's our battle cry! Along with ''Meh''. ;)
Load More Replies...I am not a n**i, but…
You're right, you're just a racist trash individual looking for like minded trash.
Like I already commented on another entry, anything before "but" is usually false
It really infuriates me when anyone uses a dog as a way to insult someone, especially in a really bad way.
Dogs are by far the most loving, caring, loyal, generous, patient, forgiving, and peaceful creatures on the planet. All they want to do is fill your life with happiness and unconditional love. They never cheat, treat you badly, or hurt you in any way. They just make your life better by simply being there.
People, on the other hand, can be the exact opposite—especially when they act in ways that lead others to call them a dog. They can be nasty, cruel; they start wars, they cheat, they kill, and their greed knows no bounds. If anything, dogs should be held up as a way to be, not as an insult, but as a compliment and as a model for how to live: kind, loving, caring, funny. The world would be a much better place if people were more like dogs.
Yeah, I never understood how "dog" came to be an insult. Calling a man a dog implies he's cruel or a player. Calling a woman a dog implies she's ugly. Ha! I wish I were a tenth as cute as my dog is!
It has been used for centuries to infer "a lower lifeform". Dog days, dog rose, dog's dinner.
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Load More Replies...To me this is true for any animal name. And I mean any. Even tapeworm. Tapeworms don't scam and suppress each other.
The man currently residing in the White House loves insulting people by calling them a dog.
"Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words may never harm me." Bull***t. Words hurt.
"I'm the victim here!"
The words like and literally.
my kid went though a phase where they would say "literally" but correctly. "I literally ate an apple." "I literally had math class". Trust me, even used correctly, it's super annoying.
Load More Replies...And "basically". Fine, but not in a sentence such as "and he was, like, basically, like, totally" etc!
YES - especially when like, in particular, is used repeatedly in a single conversation......I just can't listen as I am tempted to slap someone....
Like literally those words are fine *i'm doing this cause i'm evil*
When every sentence ends with the words "you know." No, I don't know. You didn't really explain the point you were trying to make.
Using slang or making up words that are already in the dictionary. I don't want to look up stuff just to understand the conversation.
Every other word is "bro" or something like it. I might be showing my age, but at least I'm educated enough to communicate with people.
'..making up words that are already in the dictionary'? If they're in the dictionary then the people can't be making them up. I also disagree with 'I don't want to look up stuff to understand the conversation.' How are people supposed to know which words you don't know? You're essentially criticising people who have a wider vocabulary than yours.
Maybe they meant making up new words when we already have a word for it. Sorry but I love language too much to leave it in the hands of the dictionary.
Load More Replies...I was talking about using hairspray to make a flamethrower (to k**l a brown recluse spider) and added "as one does". Apparently this is not something one normally does.
My husband always adds "as my grandmother used to say" after he says something utterly weird or ridiculous.
Load More Replies...The amount of times people use "like" in a sentence makes me want to razor cut them for each use.
"You know" and "like" are often used as padding or thinking time, similar to "um" and "ah". They are used a lot in some regional dialects. They might be annoying if you don't use them yourself, but there's nothing inherently wrong with them. And again a lot of slang is dialect words that people from a region use all the time.
No offence... (sorry, could not resist :p ) but if having to look up words in a dictionary is too much for you, that's a you thing. Also tells me that you never bothered to learn a second language....
Maybe I wasn't clear. I meant shortening words or using certain words differently than intended. "rizz" for charisma, or "I haven't seen you in a minute", meaning a while.
Load More Replies...I was once involved with some one who ended every opinion with "You know", implying that either I agreed with her or was now enlightened on the matter. No third choice.
GAH My mom does that with a stern, cutting tone. It feels like a punch in the gut every time.
I'm not racist, but…
"Unthaw." I know—it's stupid. But I will DIE ON THIS HILL. Thaw is defrost. Unthaw is un-defrost. Unthaw is freeze. STOP SAYING UNTHAW!
"Gee, you're so pretty/handsome," said over and over.
¡Viva la libertad, carajo! (Milei's words after every speech.)
The "N word" and "w*****k."
one time someone called me the N word, when I told the teacher that person cursed at me, the teacher said "theN word is not a curse word" Like wtf
I've of my daughters got in trouble in school in Florida she refused to day the N while reading aloud in class. No idea why they were even reading a book with the weird in it in school but she says it was multiple times the word was used and she refused to say it. They called me about it and I can't repeat the conversation I had with them. Florida schools are extra special...
Load More Replies...I have two: the first is the word "schmiko"—drives me nuts… the second is the phrase "Live life to the full/fullest"—so trite and nonsensical…
The full saying is live like there's no tomorrow and learn as if you'll live forever
Load More Replies...People who say this diabolically don't want anyone having a day of rest EVER.
"Are you KIDDING ME? (Right now)"
"You're amazing." This was written on the sidewalk across from my store as part of a day when people write uplifting messages in chalk.
No, I'm not. You have to actually do something amazing to be amazing. You don't get to call yourself that just because you got out of bed this morning. I take it as an insult, frankly—like when a toddler does a little jump and you say, "Wow, buddy, that's amazing!" What am I supposed to say? "Yay, I'm amazing!" Any of those sorts of mindless platitudes annoy me to no end.
Well, to put it in a different light, someone woke up, got out of bed with a fresh view on life, and decided to spread some uplifting words for those who may need it in these turbulent, dark times. They didn't have to and they're not asking for anything out of it.
Seriously. OP is like "I am in a bad mood. DOn't you dare try to make me feel better!"
Load More Replies...This reminds me of those people who just want to feel like they are being kind and throw out the "Remember you are not alone" or "remember you are loved" to the general public when talking about things like severe depression, trauma, or s u i c i d a l thoughts. A lot of people going through those things are in fact absolutely alone and maybe have nobody who loves them. Are you just trying to rub that in?
Just as you become a hero by doing something heroic. Not by just putting on the uniform.
People who call anything they don't like woke. People who use the word woke without having any idea what it actually means
Apparently it originally meant aware. I have no idea what it's now used to mean.
Load More Replies...I once told a colleague "Women are people too, you know". His reply: "Mustn't generalize".
Load More Replies..."Do your own research". As in only read and believe the wildly inaccurate conspiracy s**t I send to you, that people pull right out of their behinds, but it is somehow to be believed because it is not "BIG somethingorother"
And for goodness sake, don't get your research from things like legitimate scientific journals -- the only reliable research is from Facebook. /s
Load More Replies...People who call anything they don't like woke. People who use the word woke without having any idea what it actually means
Apparently it originally meant aware. I have no idea what it's now used to mean.
Load More Replies...I once told a colleague "Women are people too, you know". His reply: "Mustn't generalize".
Load More Replies..."Do your own research". As in only read and believe the wildly inaccurate conspiracy s**t I send to you, that people pull right out of their behinds, but it is somehow to be believed because it is not "BIG somethingorother"
And for goodness sake, don't get your research from things like legitimate scientific journals -- the only reliable research is from Facebook. /s
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