“What’s Something Subtle That Instantly Gives You Bad Vibes About Someone?” (40 Answers)
When someone or something gives off good vibes, you can immediately tell: a field full of vibrant sunflowers, a home cooked meal with your closest friends, an album that makes you want to move and groove. On the other hand, when a person is radiating bad vibes, it can be easy to tell as well.
Below, you’ll find some of the subtle traits that are immediate signs of bad vibes that Reddit users have recently been sharing online. Take note of any of these behaviors to look out for, and be sure to upvote the ones that make you wary of certain people too.
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How they treat/view animals.
Character is how you treat those who can do nothing for you!
When they try to push God on me and say that things happen because it's the plan from God and I am being strong for God and they will pray for me.
Just.... no. Don't f*****g do that s**t to me. Keep your religion to yourself.
How they treat someone in a service position, wait staff, etc.
Always respect EVERYBODY exactly the same, no matter what their status is.
If you're blasting music in public, I instantly hate you
Same. Who the fvck does that with zero regard for anybody else without being an idiot.
When they don’t like cats. And I don’t mean like “oh I’m just a dog person” I mean like “a cat is just a moving speed bump” kind of person. It gives me “I don’t like relationships I can’t control” and “I don’t respect living things that exist beyond my control” vibes.
I'm a dog person, but I love cats so much. But my love of dogs is immesurable. But I love cats so much that nobody here can comprehend how much. It's just that dogs are... well dogs are just YES YES YES YES YES. And cats are also YES YES YES YES YES but dogs are like, one YES more.
I'm gonna be downvoted for how confusing I made this
Load More Replies...an "I run over cats for fun," person is so far beyond an "I like other animals," person that I can hardly express it with words
Has anybody ever noticed how it seems to be perfectly socially acceptable to loudly state: 'I hate cats', but if anybody said 'I hate dogs' they move very close to being crucified (especially on the internet)? (Both are extremely s****y things to say btw., statements just for clarification). Case in point: Movies. Killing or hurting cats is played as an acceptable plot point, even for comedy - throwing them out of a window (Grand Budapest Hotel), using them as a hackysack (Zohan)... no car accident off-camera without a cat's scream of pain. On the other hand, there are even full websites dedicated to the question 'Does the dog die?' and a verrrry successful movie franchise about someone taking revenge on basically the whole world for killing their dog (John Wick). Double standard much?
Well, there are a couple of movies crossed off my list. I don't like ANY animal being killed just for some stupid plot device. Thank you. My dogs should actually be very grateful to the John Wick franchise!! The virtually constant shooting helps to cover up the fireworks that are overused come November in the UK which they both dislike.
Load More Replies...I love them both about equally. We're a multi species family. My cats are my best boys and my dog is my best girl. 🐈🐈⬛🐕🥰
Load More Replies...I'm a dog person ( I love them sooo much ❤️), but anybody who hurts animals ( dogs or cats who cares !?) deserves to rot in hell.
When I was sn ignorant young person I hated cats because I had been brought up around dogs and just could not conceive of a cat being loving or affectionate.as a level 7 crazy cat person,now, I cringe so hard remembering things I used to say.in conclusion, some cat-haters are just ignorant.it doesn't excuse nasty comments but they are not necessarily lost causes.
I get that. Pressure to fit into a box of some kind (dog person, cat person, political party, sports team) often makes a person pick up on phrases often repeated by the group. "Cats are just speed bumps" is definitely a die-hard dog person rhetoric, whether it's actually something they'd do or not. It's always cringe to remember sentiments we've blindly regurgitated without actually believing, and we've all done it.
Load More Replies...I am a cat person but I love dogs! I just personally think cats are a little easier to take care of at the moment
That is so true! As a new mom to both a puppy and kitten, the initial cat proofing is a bit harder because it's not just from the chair rail down, but litter boxes are so much easier than puppy training. Cats are way easier, because in a lot of ways, they are better at being self sufficient. Obviously they still need food, water, love, and play, but it's like the difference between having a toddler (dog) and an eight year old (cat). At least that's been my experience.
Load More Replies...I mean, cruelty to animals is actually a clinical diagnostic criteria for Conduct Disorder (essentially the childhood version of Antisocial Personality Disorder). It's okay to have an opinion on a favorite or least favorite animal, but wishing them harm is a yellow flag for potentially something more. So yes, if someone brags about disliking an animal that much, I'm definitely instantly suspicious.
I love all animals, even the dangerous and the icky ones. I may not want to pet them all, and the vast majority of the dangerous/icky ones I can actually peacefully coexist with as long as we leave each other strictly alone. I wish everyone could have respect for animals, whether domesticated or wild. They have purpose, they have feelings, they develop strong relationships, they may not be very demonstrative about it, but they have enough self-awareness to have a structure to their societies.
But like what is you had trauma.. like a cat with claws almost gauged your eyes out when you were. A kid. I might get downvoted, but it's okay.
It's an immediate red flag for me. Once I learn this about a person, I find ways to avoid them.
I don't like cats and there are plenty of living things that I do respect which exist beyond my control. I can go out for a hike and happily spot deer, birds, squirrels, lizards, etc. I can do that while acknowledging the fact that cats are a******s.
People, if you really love cats, please keep them indoors. I love birds and stray outside cats are the top killer of birds.
I used to be like that. I hated cats. Only good cat was a dead cat. Turns out I just had bad experiences with cats, and being involved with a cat lover showed me the truth. I'm still a dog person, but that I married that cat lover, and we've got two rescues now that are wonderful cats that I love. I'm not their human, but they will come sit on my lap and purr when I pet them. I regret the way I felt about cats now.
I'm not a cat person... but I have a 20 year old void. I'm still not a cat person.
My father sometimes try to reach for cats but instantly hate them when he sees how Independent they are, he's exactly the kind of a55hole that want to control others even if he's an underdog.
One of my colleagues at work casually told me she kicks cats that come too close to her, I thought she was nice up 'til then. :(
I am old, wear bifocals and am beginning to get cataracts. Cat we have now is much less of an obstacle than ones we have had in the past, but I am still of the opinion that I will die of tripping over a cat.
I have 10 cats of my own. It baffles me how some people don’t like them. How can you not love the tiny fluffy creatures that have their own personal engine?
Littering
I littered once when I was small and I still feel very bad about it
The way they view pets.
If they pick up a pet who'll live 60+ years (like some parrots) and then randomly say "lol I'll give it away/abandon/release in the wild" after the poor thing is attached? Big red flag.
Pets can't live properly on the streets/in the wild after domestication. For birds, they would need readaptation to wild settings. And pets can die from heartbreak/depression.
They make jokes at other people's expense, but can't stand it when someone jokes about them.
Treating garbage collectors like they're trash. Mate their job is to literally pick up trash after you.
If the CEO is away for a couple of weeks, you probably wouldn't notice. If the cleaner is away for even half a day, you sure as heck notice. They keep the building from looking like a rubbish tip, and the toilets clean enough to use, and I appreciate the f*ck out of that.
People who incessantly refer to you by name in a conversation. It comes across like some weird sales / cult strategy to engineer fake rapport.
If you have just met each other I've heard it can be a good way to "lock" their name into the ol brain cells but only early on in the conversation not through the whole thing. But I will point out it has NEVER worked for me. I can't remember my own nieces or nephews names without difficulty let alone a stranger..🤣
If they quickly bring their religion into s conversation
When they’re far too pushy with questions and don’t leave you alone despite you making it super obvious that you don’t want to answer their questions.
I just had a scary version of this happen. it's not ok. just respect the no, just respect the boundary
Someone who knocks on my bedroom door and opens it immediately instead of waiting for me to answer it
When they don’t acknowledge that you held the door open for them. Not even a small smile or head nod.
I just let go of the door. If it hits them, so be it. I'm not your doorman.
Small lies. It can be anything. What they ate the night before, when they came home, their favorite color. The smaller the lie is, the more suspicious the person becomes to me.
They ask you something and start talking over you before you are done or before you even have a chance to start.
I know this can happen for someone who is ADHD or ASD, but those cases it's usually pretty easy to tell that they are just distracted or overexcited and not intentionally dismissive of you. The red flag is for someone who just genuinely does not give a s**t what your answer was going to be in the first place.
I know someone like this. When they do it, I just walk away. They obviously only want to talk about themselves or push their opinion, not really interested in a conversation with you.
That whole compliment but it’s an insult thing and then they laugh it off as a joke
Like wtf is your problem
If they don't treat people under their authority with respect.
You can delete the words "under their authority" and it should still be true.
In a conversation, never ask you a single thing about you or your opinion
Talking c**p or making fun of/nitpicking everyone that walks by.
I just met you. Don't call me honey, baby, darling, or anything like that.
If they're always the "good guy" when they tell stories about bad situations.
Head to toe screaming designer brands for some reason rub me the wrong way.
Sorry.....but if I'm gonna wear your rubbish items, you better pay me for being a walking billboard!!
Using their phone too much during group meals
Or at all. Shut the phone off and let everything go to voicemail. If there’s an important call you can’t miss, excuse yourself from the table to take the call in private, ffs!
“You can Trust me”
Nope, if you gotta TELL me that with words, nope.
Gossip about other people.
If they do it about others, they’ll do it about you.
Sense of Entitlement .
Standing too close. The definition of personal space varies by culture, but even so so, most people quickly pick up the correct distance for social interaction. Someone who does not either is not paying attention or is pervy.
Obsessing about how other people eat their food. Particularly getting annoyed at plain eaters. Like, eat your own food and mind your own damn business. How someone else eats isn't going to affect your food. I've never met someone who does that who didn't turn out to be a d**k
The only time I obsess about other people eating, is when they are loud chewers. It physically makes me wanna gag
When they don’t rerack their weights or wipe down the equipment at the gym.
no remark necessary, but pity the poor attendant that has to police them !
People who obviously know you are next to be served at the bar but order anyway. It can happen by accident, but sometimes you just think d**k.
When I worked in a bar, I pay attention to who's next in a queue and I would purposely serve them last.
The way they treat, or talk about, pets or animals is a good way to judge character.
And another is how they treat their belongings.
Example: Knew a guy who wouldn’t hang up his jacket. Just drop it on the floor or some furniture.
Same with his phone and stuff, he’d have a new phone every week because he kept dropping it or casually throwing it onto tables.
The disregard for the value of things just bugged me.
If you don’t value your own stuff, how can you value other people’s belongings. Ya know?
They call me "friend" right off. Pal, or buddy is almost as bad.
They're stood naked in my kitchen by the open fridge drinking my coconut milk straight from the carton.
I have a friend who's a psychiatrist, he says it's psychiatrist lore to always beware of men with yellow tinted glasses lenses.
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I don't have anything that will add to this post. I just wanted to share a story. Yesterday, I noticed that a toad had dug himself a hole in a basket of wildflower seeds I had planted, underneath a bleached turtle shell that I found by the creek in the woods. I took some pictures and sent them to my Mom. This morning, I thought he had vacated, but then I saw the soil twitch. I saw him in his hole again this evening. It's after midnight and he's out now, but I hope he comes back.
Thank you!! I would like to see BP post 50 of these stories instead.
Load More Replies...I think we just saw this post in at least a couple of other lists, very recently.
If they proudly announce they support individuals known to be misogynistic/racist/divisive twatwaffles, I'm out.
Men who use a crushing grip when shaking hands. My dad never really imparted too much by way of practical advice before he died when I was 14, but on a strangely specific occasion, he taught how to deploy a firm, not crushing, handshake. He also noted that it was rude to use more force than absolutely necessary. I have found in my journey through life that men who employ a crushing grip are, generally speaking, not to be trusted.
im wondering if anyone that posted these has anyone significant/a partner in their life or friends or anything, cause literally they want to live in a bubble and have someone that is the most vanilla sim-like person to talk to, I feel like they would beat a lil old granny type lady to death for smiling and saying "morning sweetie, have a good day!"
A few of mine: Getting angry and belligerent with you because they don't like your favorite sports team. Waiting impatiently for the store to open then buying something minor like a quart of oil or an air freshener. Coming into the store 30 seconds before closing and saying "I made it". One more store one. Coming into the store on a holiday and asking how come I don't have the day off. Worse when you're buying something minor like a quart of oil or an air freshener.
OMG. I had the employee who had to comment on every single thing I ate, like #33. It drove me insane. I'm a Celiac so I have to eat a gluten free diet and his wife just happened to eat gluten free for other medical reasons, so he was constantly bringing that up. But even beyond that, he had to comment every single day on what I ate for lunch. It was to the point where I wanted to scream, "Donnie, why the f- do you care that I'm having tamales for lunch today? How does this affect your life? Why do you even notice? Leave me alone." Ugh, he was so incredibly annoying.
People who are to nice or warm up to me too quickly. I'm a decent enough person, but if you're convinced that I'm the bestest person you've ever met and we're going to be best friends after talking to me for a few minutes, either you're playing me, you have boundary issues, or both. Not to be confused with outgoing, extroverted people who just want to hang out with everyone, but still keep a healthy emotional distance from strangers.
This makes me think of an exchange from the movie "Barfly:" Wanda: "I hate people. Do you hate people?" Henry: "No...but I seem to feel better when they're not around."
This list keeps reoccurring every few days under a different headline. I upvote only Jeremy James' story here. 😁🐸🐢💝
BP loves recycling content. this thread usually appears after their bash the USA thread.
Load More Replies...Let me introduce you to a little site called "Bored Panda".
Load More Replies...bruh, every BP thread is a repost. The internet is done, everything has already been said,. we're just reposting content until the world ends in a few months.
Load More Replies...When someone makes their sexuality their main "thing". I don't want to know what you do with other consenting adults.
I don't have anything that will add to this post. I just wanted to share a story. Yesterday, I noticed that a toad had dug himself a hole in a basket of wildflower seeds I had planted, underneath a bleached turtle shell that I found by the creek in the woods. I took some pictures and sent them to my Mom. This morning, I thought he had vacated, but then I saw the soil twitch. I saw him in his hole again this evening. It's after midnight and he's out now, but I hope he comes back.
Thank you!! I would like to see BP post 50 of these stories instead.
Load More Replies...I think we just saw this post in at least a couple of other lists, very recently.
If they proudly announce they support individuals known to be misogynistic/racist/divisive twatwaffles, I'm out.
Men who use a crushing grip when shaking hands. My dad never really imparted too much by way of practical advice before he died when I was 14, but on a strangely specific occasion, he taught how to deploy a firm, not crushing, handshake. He also noted that it was rude to use more force than absolutely necessary. I have found in my journey through life that men who employ a crushing grip are, generally speaking, not to be trusted.
im wondering if anyone that posted these has anyone significant/a partner in their life or friends or anything, cause literally they want to live in a bubble and have someone that is the most vanilla sim-like person to talk to, I feel like they would beat a lil old granny type lady to death for smiling and saying "morning sweetie, have a good day!"
A few of mine: Getting angry and belligerent with you because they don't like your favorite sports team. Waiting impatiently for the store to open then buying something minor like a quart of oil or an air freshener. Coming into the store 30 seconds before closing and saying "I made it". One more store one. Coming into the store on a holiday and asking how come I don't have the day off. Worse when you're buying something minor like a quart of oil or an air freshener.
OMG. I had the employee who had to comment on every single thing I ate, like #33. It drove me insane. I'm a Celiac so I have to eat a gluten free diet and his wife just happened to eat gluten free for other medical reasons, so he was constantly bringing that up. But even beyond that, he had to comment every single day on what I ate for lunch. It was to the point where I wanted to scream, "Donnie, why the f- do you care that I'm having tamales for lunch today? How does this affect your life? Why do you even notice? Leave me alone." Ugh, he was so incredibly annoying.
People who are to nice or warm up to me too quickly. I'm a decent enough person, but if you're convinced that I'm the bestest person you've ever met and we're going to be best friends after talking to me for a few minutes, either you're playing me, you have boundary issues, or both. Not to be confused with outgoing, extroverted people who just want to hang out with everyone, but still keep a healthy emotional distance from strangers.
This makes me think of an exchange from the movie "Barfly:" Wanda: "I hate people. Do you hate people?" Henry: "No...but I seem to feel better when they're not around."
This list keeps reoccurring every few days under a different headline. I upvote only Jeremy James' story here. 😁🐸🐢💝
BP loves recycling content. this thread usually appears after their bash the USA thread.
Load More Replies...Let me introduce you to a little site called "Bored Panda".
Load More Replies...bruh, every BP thread is a repost. The internet is done, everything has already been said,. we're just reposting content until the world ends in a few months.
Load More Replies...When someone makes their sexuality their main "thing". I don't want to know what you do with other consenting adults.