People Who’ve Walked Out Of First Dates Share The Moment They Realized They Should Leave (40 Stories)
First dates are usually a bit weird and awkward. But when the person uses you to cover an expensive restaurant bill or tries to recruit you to a pyramid scheme, they're unbearable.
A few weeks ago, Redditor u/Eseohii posted a question to r/AskReddit, saying "Those who've walked out on first dates, what was your 'I'm out of here' moment?" and people instantly filled the comment section with crazy characters and surprising stories.
Here are some of them.
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Had a first date with a girl who insisted we go to a really expensive place, where she ordered a $25 dollar appetizer, $45 steak and a $15 drink. She wouldn't put down her phone, kept taking calls and answering texts. The waitress noticed and motioned for me from behind her. I excused myself, and the waitress had separate bills all made up and asked if I wanted to pay my share and leave her at the table. I said, "That would be wonderful!" So I did.
What wonderful waitress. I hope you gave her a big tip. Yo should have dated her instead.
Oh yeah this is an expert strategy by the waitress. She's gonna get $0 on $85 from the girl, but a huge tip from the guy she saved, instead of a mediocre tip on the full bill from what would have been a very unhappy guy leaving.
Load More Replies...It wasn't the first time this waitress detected this situstion there.
She may even have seen that exact same girl doing that before.
Load More Replies...I don't get why someone would go on a date with a a person they didn't like just for good food??
How can you even appreciate good food if you're staring at your phone constantly?
Load More Replies...Make that first date a coffee date. Low financial risk for both parties.
I realized that they were going to stick me with the entire bill. I went to the bathroom, and on the way out, I saw the server. I told her the what was happening and if I could pay only what I ate, not the dude I was with, nor his friends. The sweet lady let me pay just for me and I tipped her, she led me through the kitchen to the alley. I walked down the alley, hit the street, hopped on the train and went home. The guy I was dating was blowing my phone up, but who cares. He was a real piece of work and I was young and stupid. Some people are just asses.
Bad date, but kind waitress, overall it's not too lousy dinner.
Couldn't the girl be a bit more rude? I mean, if she's not interested in the guy, couldn't she have ended the date? On the other hand, the waitress is awesome. I hope he gave her a really good tip.
She sounds like an "influencer." Thinks she deserves the best of everything, free of course. Those are also the types who spend every second on their phone keeping track of how many followers they get.
Load More Replies...And so for the final course of the meal she got her just deserts.
omg I love this I would have done the exact same thing some people just think they are entitled to the world for free.
Why would you take someone to a place where they can get a $45 steak on a first date?
Think it's less about the price of the steak and more that she was rude as hell and obviously was there for a free meal. Dude would probably be ok with it if she had bothered to engage.
Load More Replies...Okay not my first date, but thought I would share. A long time ago (yeah I know) I was dating this guy I was really into. We made plans to hang out and while out I mentioned we should get something to eat. He said he was broke so I told him no big deal, I had his meal. I should mention I had payed for him before, and honestly looking back I should not have been doing it so often. Anyway on the way to the restaurant we run into 2 of his good friends. They kind of invited themselves, and I pulled him aside and told him, I'm paying for him and not them. He assured me that they had money. Okay. We all go to the restaurant and order. His friends ordered drinks, so did he a lot of food etc. The check comes and it's on one bill. I look at the check, gave the check to his friends, so they could see their portion. They would not look at the bill. I gently pull his arm, and whisper "what the hell is going on" He shrugs and goes right back to laughing with his friends. I was so pissed off.
WTG, good move, Hope he tipped the waitress well, she was worth it,
I would love a follow up to this story! Lol imagine the look on the girls face when she receives her end of the bill + notices her "date" already paid his portion and left
good !! you dont need to live your whole life with someone who cant be social.
Insisting on going to a really expensive restaurant is a red flag! And the waitress deserves a good tip! 👍🏻
Good for you! She was beyond rude, and just out to be pampered and get a free meal.
At least her "This will never work" signal was working in your favor ( :
That obnoxious woman will go home complaining that "there are no good men left."
If this really happened that waitress should have gotten a raise, a tip, or both.
I wish I'd thought of this when I was a waitress years ago. Maybe I'd have even gotten a date out of it!
Perfect! I wonder how long it took her to realize he was gone....lol
For that waitress to do that, she must have seen it a LOT in the past.
Wow, could she have been ruder! I would have loved to see the look on her face.
LOL..... Meet you on our first date at the Barnes and Noble café. I once picked up a "lady" and we went to a family restaurant. During the date she mentioned she was just looking for free meals, since her boyfriend was in prison.
I hope that you tipped that waitress well. She probably saved from a whole lot of grief.
Good for him! When you’re on a date with somebody, you’re supposed to have your attention on your date! She just wanted a free meal!
When I was still with my BF we'd often fly out to visit his sis and her husband. You might find the following, amusing. The LAST time we were there we didn't stay with them yet went out to dinner as always. She always ordered "top shelf Long Island Ice Teas...2 which coast $20 EACH followed by THE most expensive steak on the menu which, as per usual, she always sent back (control issues...hope they spit on it). The last time I let her order her "usual" (see above) and half way thru the meal I announced.... "Oh, this time it's gonna be 'Dutch' to which she was now freakin' out as she had no cash and gawd forbid no credit cards...her husband bailed her out, BTW....but can you imagine? Just was dying to tell about this as a "YOU SHOULD HAVE BEEN THERE" moment!!! It was hilarious e.g. after ordering about $75 just for her....he was nice and I think he knew I was tired of this and also he looked like he agreed I shouldn't have had to pay for it this time.
She probably knew she would get just one date and decided to live it up....
Yeah. Apparently it's a thing on Tinder to go on dates just for the free meal.
Could be a nontipping country, but even if it was in the US, don’t jump to conclusions. They might have assumed that part would be obvious.
Load More Replies...But... why didn't he just say something? You are on a date!! If she's on the phone the whole time why do you even continue with the date? I kind of feel like that if he's not saying anything when she orders expensive dishes and apparently is not even talking to him then the fault lies with him. He should have left way before. Stand up for yourself, don't force the waitress to do it for you!!!
Why do you people post this clutter on every story? Just move on if you think it's fake.
Load More Replies...Harassing the person being nice to you isn't the great move you think it is.
Load More Replies...Servers become people experts..... that is what makes the difference between good Servers and great Servers. This was obviously a high-end establishment and it's obvious that they staff it with professionals.
Load More Replies...$45 steak isn't cheap by any means but I don't think it's 3 star Michelin we're talking here either.
Load More Replies...Uh? First date? And if she's going to sit on her phone the whole time on a DATE, she can go screw herself as she obviously doesn't care about the date. The guy had every right to walk out and 'did the guy even ask her if they were spitting the bill?' really?? It's his money. Not hers. He is not a walking bank and shouldn't be expected to pay for her food. His, yes. Not hers. Only if he OFFERS to do (same goes if the roles were reversed/not taking into account gender).
Load More Replies... I drove us. Started to parallel park (been working/parking in SF for years by then) and he said, “I’ll park this for you, women don’t do well at parallel parking.” At dinner he was dismissive only to female wait staff.
I ran into these two hilariously drunk surfer dudes on my way from the bathroom, they told me my date was a jerk. We laughed about it and I went back to my table.
When leaving, the drunk dudes were also outside, I said bye to them and Assholio had the nerve to bark, “she’s with me!”
I told him to wait while I got in the car and unlocked the doors..except I didn’t. I drove off and left him standing there. The two drunk dudes whooped and yelled go, lady, go! Such an awesome finish to a terribly embarrassing date.
Bored Panda got in touch with u/Eseohii and they told us the idea for the post came from a real-life example. "My friend had been on a date but walked out because the guy had researched her whole life and was reading off facts about her to her," the Redditor told us. "I was curious what other crazy things people have encountered on a date that made them say 'nope.'"
All these comments under the post only strengthened u/Eseohii's belief that "even after agreeing to a date you're not obligated to follow through if it's not worth your time!"
Even if we disregard the extreme cases, they think it's not "rude" to abandon your first date. "Life is way too short to keep engaging in things you're not truly interested in," the Redditor said.
On a first date with a military guy. He spent a large portion of the date talking about why the strippers in Toronto were better than the strippers where we lived. To change the topic, I asked him if he did any volunteer work with the military overseas and he said "NO! I joined the military to kill people not help people!" I got my bill, chugged my beer, and left as fast as I could.
The fact that within 10 minutes of meeting him he started making sexual comments and "joking" about following me home so he could stalk me if I rejected him.
I got out with the help of a bartender who let me leave out the back door.
Having the usual get to know you conversation over drinks. I was telling how my car was stolen the night before and her response was.."Don't you just hate blacks?" I never said who stole it....I was out of there...
As more Americans turn to online dating and the #MeToo movement leaves its imprint on the dating scene, nearly half of U.S. adults – and a majority of women – say that dating has become harder in the last 10 years.
Since there are no guarantees whether or not a date will work out for you, you have to be emotionally prepared for pretty much everything that might happen. "Having the right level of expectation is really important to ensuring you both enjoy your date, and stay motivated for future ones," dating coach Hayley Quinn told Bored Panda.
"Dating is a process, so don't go on a first date expecting to meet 'The One'! A good level of expectation to have for a first date is that you're going to have fun and be curious about the other person. A first date isn't about anyone judging anyone else, it's just an opportunity to see if that level of connection between you could be there," Quinn explained.
Went to pick up my blind date. She opened the door and looked at me.
"Ew"
I looked at her and said "Yeah, I agree" and turned on my heel and left. Total date time Less than 5 minutes.
What a terrible woman. I think their response was warranted, based on her manners alone.
We were talking about out pets and I told her about my cat and she said if we were to continue dating I would have to get rid of him because she doesn't like cats. For a moment I thought she was kidding because who would ask that of a first date (or any date). It became clear she wasn't kidding and was mad I wasn't taking her suggestion seriously. I didn't end up leaving, I was in the middle of my fettuccine alfredo and I wasn't about to scoop it into some doggy bag like some caveman. She took an Uber.
I haven't had many memorably bad dates, but that was the worst. Im willing to make certain reasonable changes for the right person, but cats are non-negotiable.
My hero. You never have a relationship with someone who doesn't like your pets or children.
This guy and I were eating dinner after chatting for a couple of weeks, and unprompted (in the middle of something I was saying) and completely unrelated to what was being discussed he said something along the lines of, “So you know in order for this to work you’re gonna have to share yourself right? My friends and I like to pass girls around.”
I was pretty dumbfounded and after a bit of stuttering I told him I didn’t think it was going to work, asked for a to-go box and my portion of the check, and noped the f**k outta there.
Most of us have probably been in an awkward situation where the date isn't going well and we want to leave early but can't find a nice way to do it. According to Quinn, that's something we need to take care of before, not during the evening.
"Instead of thinking about ending a date early, I would try to avoid planning dates where you're going to end up feeling over-committed!" the dating coach said. "Skip dinner and keep it to casual drinks or a coffee in an area that's convenient to you."
However, if you get enough bad vibes to start feeling you need to hit the eject button, then Quinn advises to be candid and say something along the lines of, "I appreciate you meeting me, but although it's awkward I want to be upfront that I don't think we have that chemistry."
"If you feel too unsafe to do this, yes you can make an excuse to leave (the old phone a friend) or tell a member of staff at the venue that you're looking for Angela, this is a code word to let members of staff know you feel unsafe, and they should assist you into a taxi," the dating coach said.
Not me but this happened to a friend. Context: friend has a beard. So my friend picks up this girl and they’re on their way to dinner and she says “You do realize that if this is gonna work you have to shave that off right?” He didn’t say anything, just turned around and dropped her back off at her house
Good for him. If she was willing to make unreasonable demands before the first date even got under way, she was NOT a keeper.
We chatted online. At the time I was a smoker and told him. He said no big deal because he smokes too. Decided to meet up at Starbucks for coffee. First thing he said, "hi. By the way when I said I smoke, I was talking about meth."
I said "oh, bye". And turned around and left.
Great chats online, decided to meet in person.
He's got a blue tooth headset with a little LED light that shows it's on. He keeps it on during drinks. I work up the nerve to ask if he can take off the headset while we're eating dinner.
With pride and complete confidence he says, "Don't worry! You totally have my full attention. This isn't a phone headset, it's a camera."
I had invited a guy off a dating site to my house. When I opened the door, he said he could kill me if he wanted, and to never meet anyone off the internet again.
My two male roommates were in the kitchen because they knew this guy was coming, and heard him. They ran him out of the house pdq
He was 45 minutes late picking me up (weather was quite poor so I gave him a pass)
Get to the coffee shop, take off my jacket and immediately he says, “I see you brought your A game, or should I say, D game “ referring to my breasts. (I’m surprisingly busty for my frame)
Even the people 2 tables over just stopped and looked at him.
He told me I wasn’t pretty enough to be so confident. Like what??? I was shocked but the server came to my rescue and was like girl get outta here no charge for your drink!
I had to pick him up and he complained about everything. My car, the way I drove, my music taste, why was I being so quiet while carefully plotting my escape plan. Definitely the moment he said “My friends really want to meet you. I need them to know you’re real.” Annnnnnndddddd that’s when I bounced.
Date one - seemed nice so invited him in for literal coffee... attempted rape, I broke his nose.
He texted the next day to ask if we could pick up where we left off.
He was a doctor in a women's psychiatric unit, and he knew where I lived. I moved 4 weeks later.
So where is the part where she called the police and his work and got him arrested and fired? Or did she just care for her own safety?
Blind date set up by my GRANDPARENTS. I love my grandad and he’s done so much for me so I went. We met at a bar where my best friend worked. We get drinks and I’m talking to my friend. He says “this homo trying to hook up with you?” 1. He’s not gay 2. It wouldn’t matter if he was 3. He was just checking in on me.
So I’m already done with him at this point but my ride is still over an hour away. His mate shows up at one point and starts trying to flirt with me. It was gross. My date then starts asking about “my hot friends” and if I can get them to come out. I said “I like my friends so… no” He starts being racist against Pacific Islanders. And was horribly rude to this German guy there drinking. when my ride gets there I said “I’m leaving.” He said “I’ve got a big d**k, you should come home with me” I said “thanks but I’d rather gouge out my eyes”
The next day he messaged me and said “you probably think I’m a bit of a c**t after last night but do you want to go out again” I had no intentions of ever seeing him again so I explained why his behaviour was unacceptable and suggested he try making friends who are girls so he sees them as something other than a hole to stick his d**k in.
I told my grandparents everything. They told his parents and apparently his dad was super embarrassed.
My grandparents were then informed to stay out of my love life and any time they brought it up I just say “I’ve got a big d**k, you should come home with me”
She wouldn't stop making fun of me. She was 26 and I was 36 (though if it matters, we were at the same place in our careers/income) and she kept making ageist jokes about how I was old and decrepit. Eventually, after telling her pretty directly to lay off, I just said "you know, I'm not enjoying this, I'm going to go," and paid for the table and left.
Later she said it was because she was overcompensating because she was self-conscious about how much younger she was, but that just means that when she's uncomfortable she goes straight to demeaning the other person.
I had a first date with a girl who told me, "Actually I'm engaged but I'm not 100% sure if he's the right one. So I'm going to go out on a few dates to see if I change my mind."
Check please!
She had 22 cats and would just randomly take in strays. Not give them any vet care and was planning on keeping a recent litter. I love cats... I paid the bartender when she went to the bathroom and hyper walked to the door. Forwarded her contact info and a summary of what she told me to the humane society.
First date we are at a Japanese restaurant. She asked me my star sign, I replied "Scorpio". She leaned over the table and slapped me clean & hard across the face. Naturally I was shocked and confused, I mouthed "What...?", she firmly says "I NEVER date Scorpios". I went to the bathroom, came back - she had gone, and paid for everything.
that‘s weird. but she paid for everything :). Somehow i find that story amusing. (Her slapping him is a No Go of course. Please don‘t take me wrong. I just find the circumstances amusing because it‘s so absurd.)
He was a friend of a friend. He went to a restaurant and ordered our food. While we waited he started to say things like “First I’ll eat this meal then I’ll eat you out”. I laughed cause I thought he’s just joking. I thought he’s just nervous and his mouth lost his filter.
Then when the waitress later asked if we want more to drink he was like “Yes, bring us something strong” I said not for me and that i have to drive later and just want a coke and he looked at me and was like “Don’t be stupid. You think I’ll f**k you once and let you leave? You’ll at least stay the night” The waitress looked at me with wide eyes like im crazy for even being there. After she left I told him that he has to stop with this that it was rude and that we’re on our first date.
He apologized and for 10 min it was okay. Then, as if a switch was turned on he said just like that (mid sentence without even ending his previous story) “You know what, I can’t control myself anymore. Either we go now or I’ll f**k you on this table” I told him I’ll go to the bathroom. He complained like a baby that we have to go now. I went anyway and went to the waitress, payed for the food and left without a word.
First date. Went bowling, turned around and he was going through my phone. A little soon, I think....
We met at the restaurant, I had arrived first to get a table, the server showed her over, we shook hands, I pushed her chair in. The server asked if we would like a drink or to hear the specials. She picked up the menu, asked the server for a wine list without even looking at them, looked intently at me and said "how much money do you make?" I said "excuse me?" In a confused tone somewhat taken aback. She stared at me and said very slowly and deliberately "how much money do you make in a year?" I looked over at the server who was still standing there with a really awkward look on their face, thanked them for their assistance so far. Turned to my "date" and said I was sorry but I had to leave, and I got up and walked out.
He brought two friends along which was unexpected. They were all drunk. I flagged down a waitress while one guy left to go do something. I ordered my food, the other two confessed they'd already eaten. Third guy walks back in to the restaurant, dripping blood from a horrific gash in his arm. In shock, I ran to my car & grabbed my first aid kit, cleaned & butterflied the wound, bandaged it, had the guy elevate his arm while the waitress called 911. Got cleaned up, returned to find the un-injured guys had just eaten my food. Grabbed my kit & my purse and walked out.
You deserve an award for behaving this calm and considerate, what an absolute nightmare.
Went to meet a guy for the first time at his house. There was a pile of toenail clippings on his coffee table. And it wasn’t one recent clipping. It was like, many clippings. Out the door I went.
He invited me and a friend to play dodgeball with a group of folks I’ve never met. We’re having an ok time, he’s paying more attention to his friends but that’s fine because I’ve got my friend to keep me occupied. We’re hanging out in the parking lot before the first game is about to start when out of nowhere he grabs a ball and throws it at my crotch as hard as he can. This motherf**ker screams “wham, bam, right in the clam!”
I immediately turn to my friend and ask her if she’s ready to leave. I say goodbye to him and his friends. Immediately come home to a grip of texts about how “immature” I was behaving.
She finally let it slip that she had a bf lol "but it was totally fine bc things had been going bad for a long time and she was going to break up with him." My thoughts were that if she would do that to him she'd do it to me. No thanks.
When he asked me to change my clothes because they were not sexy enough and told me what I had to order for food… he ended the date by talking about his gun collection…
Went first for a walk, he did not shut up for a like minute for one hour, complains about everything and everyone in his life, not even ask nor allow me to give a comment.
Set down, he orders food for me, without even asking; get's his drink, bartender mentions the caps are difficult to open, but he arrogantly and rudely brushes him off, tries to open them himself but ends up spilling juice all over himself. Yells like it was the staff's fault and how the country he is from is superior. No regard for people, just yelling. At that point, I wanted to get under the table because that was actually a restaurant I frequently visit (from a small town with just a handful of restaurants). Continues to talk about how superior and above all that "incompetence" he is, and when he becomes manager, he would fire people like that. Continues with complaints for another hour.
I offer to split the check considering that he talked about money issues and because I obviously did not want to see him ever again so did not want to feel like I "owe" him anything. He yells at me, I leave the money on the table, walk-off. He basically continues yelling at stuff for going after check again with the "in my country" talk about how they have it on the spot. Grabs my hand and says angrily to wait for him. Asked me literally 2 questions finally, I say I will grab a taxi but he forcefully insists to walk me home. To avoid him making another scene, I accept.
We walk in silence, I try to have him off and leave, he insists to follow me home how there are probably some "dangerous" people around, he tried to force himself on me on my front door (the one of the yard, fence or how it is called), even though I said I don't think it will work. Exact words, "you owe it to me, we went on a date, I did not waste my money for nothing". I literally pushed him off (he was skinnier) and threw another 20$ (besides the ones I already left for my meal in the restaurant) at his face, saying "here, we are done", got instantly in the yard, locked the fence, while hearing him yell, and sent him a text that I will call the police if he does not get the f**k out of there. He left.
The worst part is, his aunt was our neighbor, my mom knew his mom and were good friends, and the next day, on my way out she literally had the audacity to ask "how did it all went" (I am pretty sure she heard him screaming awful things since literally, their house is like 10m from mine, across the street, literally) and I told her just "you should have raised him better". They never spoke to me again. I am absolutely fine with that.
F**k politeness, if someone makes you that uncomfortable, leave. Your security trumps his discomfort. What a douchebag, glad you could escape.
She looked over my shoulder and said, “Oh, my other date is here.”
Guy wanted to meet a place I use to work at, I showed up and he was already there. I order vodka and we're glaring into the menu while his shots arrive and he's just pounding them. Base bartender is giving the stinkeye, I know him so I'm like WTF. The date steps out for the bathroom or vape and the bartender beelines to my table to warn me this guy is a raging alcoholic that "f**ked around" with his cousin a few months back. I noped right out of there.
What I get from most of the stories here is that bar and wait staff are the real heroes.
I sat down across from him and within 5 mins of meeting me he tried to slide his hand up my dress under the table. Yikes.
I met a girl in small bookstore, we seemed to hit it off so I asked her out. She took me to a nearby ATM to get some cash for dinner and she and her partner tries to rob me. They had been having some success with the setup over the summer, so the SFPD was watching ATMs in the area and arrested them both.
I spent the night at the police station being interviewed and writing my statement; No dinner, no first date sex, and the shop sold the book I wanted.
Blind date - she took to a fetish party - asked me if i wanted to pee on a guy with her- told her no thanks I'll use the urinal this time and split.
I'll admit - there was a point in my life when I would've thought "Oh, she's interesting..."
The first time I dated someone from Tinder, the date turned out to be a recruiting event for one of those Costa Coffee pyramid scams.
Apparently the guy was missing his quota so he used Tinder as a recruiting tool. Unfortunately for him, I realized quickly what it was and left ASAP. F**k that guy.
It multi level marketing- pyramid schemes are illegal 😂😂 this is a famous line all period schemes use
When I realized she was trying to get her ex get jealous of me. She chose the place and time and it was where her ex worked at that time.
Left and apologized to the ex.
Later she texted me saying that she'd forgive me for the faux pas if went to another date-she still picked the same time and place. I ghosted her.
Walked into a guy’s house and heard his mom yell out “Guy, who the hell is that? I told you I didn’t want no more girls in here!” Turned around and walked out.
On my very first date ever, I go to a movie with my girlfriend that I also had my first kiss with about a week earlier at a dance. She doesn't mention anything about this, but she ends up bringing her sister. Her IDENTICAL TWIN sister. I had no idea who was who all date long and didn't find a way to ask. She later tells my friend she thinks I am more into her sister than her.
Very awkward. Much confused.
A dude was under the impression that because I used an ice cream cone emoji I had consented to bathroom-at-bar-sex . I was like “hell no” and he looked at me like I told him I was a flat earther
I work in fine dining. A friend of mine showed up to my restaurant on a first date with a guy who arrived DRUNK as a f**king skunk. She's an absolutely beautiful, hilarious woman with a great career, truly a catch. Friday night, full restaurant, their table in the middle of the floor where everyone could see. He continued to burn through 3 bottles of wine, started making some bad "jokes" about her looking "loose." She suggested he stop drinking. He reached across the table and slapped her. We all ushered her out, a bunch of men at other tables were about to beat his ass but we held them back until he paid his bill. He didn't have enough money, said he was planning on making her split the $300 tab with him. We called the cops. Bye Patrick.
Another time, I helped a woman sneak out the back of our restaurant after eavesdropping on her horrible date. Their table was right by the service station. He had spent the entirety of the date complaining about his ex girlfriend's eating disorder. From the minute they sat down and ordered drinks, "oh wow, you're having wine? That's so refreshing. My ex was f**king anorexic, she had to count calories of f**king everything. Blah blah blah etc etc." The dude never stopped. Woman dipped out in between first and second course.
I honestly tried to be tactful, at each step, but it was the way it kept escalating.
First date over dinner she let slip that she had a 2 year old (us late 20s ish). OK fine, that’s a new element to this which I never heard before the date.
Then “his dad was a sugar daddy”, uhhhh OK? Well I am not to judge.
Oh and then “but he isn’t looking to be a dad, he just pays me child support.” Righto.
“I still get messages when he’s horny, but I promise to end it when we are exclusive.” Oh good.
“I definitely want more kids, but he is reluctant because he would be paying more, so he’s been pulling out.” Mhm…
“Do you want to come back to my place?” Say what now?
“Oh but I’m on birth control! You can cum in me babe it’s OK, don’t worry.” Yeah nah I’m good. I’m convinced I was about to become a donor for her next paycheck.
Scolded me for telling the waitress what I wanted instead of conferring. BC " you're in a relationship now. You need to think about "we" not "me"." Ah. Ok. Bye.
It seemed to be going alright for a while. We meet late afternoon and went for a stroll around town doing a little bit of a pub crawl with a drink at each followed by some food at a monthly food truck festival I knew about which was going to be followed by a local bar and dancing. I kept seeing the same guy at all the locations obviously following us. On a toilet break I mentioned something to one of the pub doormen who asked him to leave politely although that got a little heated. She ran over to the doorman and explained that it was her husband. They had a thing of watching each other go out with someone and maybe watching them have sex. I did drop in a question if they had ever done more like stealing from someone and she accidently said it had happened, but only a couple of times before trying to say that she didn't mean that. I left them with the doormen and reported them to the police.
Legitimately when she said she needed to take a wee as we walked down a back alley to the next bar. She pulled her jeans down, TOOK A S**T behind a bin, then searched in the bin and wiped with a sheet of newspaper.
I was totally infatuated with her after working with her for a few months and in 30 seconds it disappeared, fast.
1pm lunch date and she was drunk as a skunk. She invited me back to her place, where she said her 2 year old son wouldn't even notice. I noped out and called her a cab home.
I still feel bad for the son years later.
Met a girl on Tinder, arranged to go to lunch, arrived at restaurant. So far, things are going well. She is late... I messaged her "hey, you still coming to lunch?". No response. I decide to wait 15 more minutes (30 minutes total). Just sitting at a table in my university's main dining spot. I leave. That sucked but it happens. She messages me a day later "Oh, sorry I didn't feel like going." I guess it's technically not a date but damn that sucked.
No, that was a date and she bailed without the consideration of telling you. Sorry man.
She says, "You'll just have to accept that I don't like black people."
It would be obvious enough that she was a piece of s**t, but I also have 3 kids who are mixed so, yeah she could f**k right off.
The whole date she wouldn't get off of her phone. She would only answer any of my questions with a "hmm" or "ok yeah" without even looking up. I finally gave up and said I was going to use the restroom and never saw her again.
He started making comments about my “puss” then took me to his house to use the bathroom before the next part of our date (we had lunch first, then were supposed to play mini golf). Didn’t know he lived with his parents so I had to meet them ON THE FIRST F**KING DATE. They were nice but I felt so uncomfortable because I already knew this wasn’t going to move beyond date #1 thanks to his puss remarks. He told me to wait in his room while he went to the bathroom and I noticed that his computer was on. Before our date he was chatting with a friend and he left it up on the screen. The last message he’d sent said “I hope I get to see internet_poser’s tits I bet they’re so perky and small.” The f**k? Why leave that up and send me in there to see it? I lied saying that my mom called with an emergency and needed me back home, noped the f**k out and never spoke to him again.
All in about 10 min: -Got to the bar after him. He had a glass of water on the table and slid it to me after I sat down. I said it’s okay, he could have it and I would get my own. He scoffed and told me I “don’t even know anything about being roofied” (I do)
She brought her pet rat with her that was hanging out in her bra, feeding it french fries. She casually mentioned she had warrants, so I just faked an emergency and bailed.
I was cool with her until the 'Warrants'. What's going to happen to the rat when she gets arrested?
For a while I had on my okcupid profile that I would accept any reasonably pitched invitation to a date. This led to many bad dates.
A notably bad one: guy invites me to a party. I ask a few questions but he's kinda vague. Tells me to dress nice. It ends up being a religious family holiday. He told his family I was his girlfriend.
I went with it.
First red flag should’ve been his age—turned out he’d fibbed on his dating profile and was actually my dad’s age—but I vowed to muddle thru. In our pre-date conversations, I’d mentioned I was into F1 racing and he said he’d attended the Canadian Gran Prix…and, 2nd red flag, he brought an ancient photo album to prove it. Before he got to the blurry Gran Prix photos, he flipped past yellowing boudoir photos of 1970s era girlfriends and an ex-wife or two (think Farrah Fawcet hair, turquoise eyeshadow, and cheap, nylon babydoll negligees), and a Polaroid of a lovely Irish Setter. I said something like, “what a pretty dog,” and he replied “yeah, I accidentally backed over him with my truck one Christmas morning.” Merry Christmas kids, dad flattened Rusty. I finished my drink and went home.
My first date ever in life: Took a guy out to lunch. His friend randomly shows up, sits down, and orders food. They start texting each other then randomly get up and leave, sticking me with the bill. I found out later that they went to have sex.
We were back at her place, she pulled out a giant glass jar that was full of what I thought was moonshine. She proceeded to explain to me that it’s 100% GHB and that her kink is to be drugged with it before sex. She went into the bathroom and I got the hell out of there so fast that my imprint on the couch probably wasn’t gone by the time I was driving.
Invited me inside while he finished getting ready, no biggie. Once inside he insisted that I let him show me his "dungeon". Dudes apartment was pretty empty, minus a t.v and couch, but his bedroom was kitted out. He then wanted now uncomfortable me to see if the shackles on his bed fit me. Thankfully, I had set up for a friend to call me within the first 30 mins of the date and I faked an emergency.
Told me that I should stop going to the gym bc he could barely get me as is and if I lost weight I’d be too hot and he’d have no chance
She claimed she could see angels in 3 different colors, and mentioned how one time a girl that was covered in dark scales and red glowing streaks between the scales came to her in the middle of the night and crawled to her bed. She claimed she placed her hand on the girl and an evil spirit left her. She then said that while I was in the bathroom, an angel came to her and told her when I would die, what age, and how.
I told her I'd be right back and that I left something in the bathroom. I left the place outright, completely creeped out and wondering wtf kind of person she was and what strange stuff she is getting into
This is meeting someone from an online dating app... He turned up with pupils the size of dinner plates, and super erratic. He said he'd forgotten his wallet so I got the first round. We were on the way to the second pub to meet his mates so they could lend him some money. For the walk there he spoke absolute garbage/nonsense non stop but ended with how he tried to drown his exes chihuahuas in a pool. Near the pub he said he had to answer whoever was calling him on the phone ( at this point we were 30 minutes into the date and already going to the next pub, he'd downed his drink in about 3 seconds) whilst he stood there on the phone I said I would meet him at the pub(everything was all in close proximity) but instead walked past it and ran all the way home.
Went to meet a woman in her 30's at a Starbucks. I show up to see a woman pushing 50 (maybe more) and much larger than she claimed to be. She immediately started talking about sex and asking me what positions were my favorite and all these "have you ever done...." type questions. This was in the middle of a crowded Starbucks with children around. She started reaching across the table and trying to grab my hand and touch me to which I told her that PDA makes me uncomfortable (this was a lie, but I didn't want to cause a scene or hurt her feelings). I told her that I wasn't feeling too well and that I should probably go. She followed me out and grabbed my ass and started trying to push herself against me and trying to kiss me. I told her again I was not comfortable with PDA and after several repeats of this she finally let me get in my car. Got the f**k out of there and took some time away from the dating scene after that encounter.
There were obviously witnesses and this sounds like assault
Hadn't even met the guy yet - we were still chatting online to set up the first date. We were going to be busy at different times that weekend, but I was interested and sincerely offered to meet a week later instead.
He proceeded to get drunk by himself and sent a ton of sad messages about how he couldn't get a date and he was unattractive and I was totally gonna bail on him. Which wasn't the plan before, but it certainly was now!
Asked me not to bull**it him and be honest: would I go on a second date with him. I said no. He stood up and screamed at me in the bar about how I’m the most shallow person he’d ever met and that the only possible reason I would say no is because he’s not good looking enough for me.
When she asked how much I made, then told me that her ex makes double and that she needed that type of money to survive and needed a place to live as well and asked if I was willing to work more to make that type of money for her.
I told her it had been something close to nice, and told her she can go back to her ex and saw her to the door. When she asked how to get out of the building, I just let the door close.
When it turned out that having no teeth (met online; all his pics were close-mouthed smiles) meant that he spewed gummed up food all over the table, and even into my drink. No.
When he hit me with, "you could totally be a model if you lost some weight."
He did a racist impression of his Asian professor while we were having dinner in a Vietnamese restaurant.
He picked me up and drove though so I didn't leave on the spot. When we got in his car after dinner he asked if I wanted to go back to his place. I made up an excuse as to why I couldn't. He made 2 calls on Bluetooth to hang out with other people while I was still in the car. It wasn't even while driving back, the car was still in park.
She is either very brave or silly to get in a stranger's car. I am glad she came out of it OK
Was talking to a guy who was a Maths professor, invited me on a date to an outdoor play where he was playing an "important role". I show up to see it's a church picnic and he was playing the devil. Introduced me to his family and all they talked about was Weird Al music, they didn't listen to anything BUT weird Al. Then his sister got on a loud tangent about why I went to a private school since unknownest to me he had told them everything about me and every conversation we had. Faked an emergency to get out of there, he wanted to take me to the state fair for a second date with his with his whole family
He stared at my chest the entire time and told me he was in love with me.
We had known each other three days.
The girl pointing a gun at the waitress
He refused to tell me how old he was and asked me out thinking I was "max 20 years old" (From our conversation, I gathered that he was in his late 30s/early 40s, I was 22). I faked an emergency and left.
Yeah. Guys usually have no problem revealing their age unless they're up to something.
He told me he had too many back issues of The Economist to read so he couldn’t read anything I might suggest ever.
I go to a bar and meet this cute girl and we get along pretty fine, she invites me back to her place but it turned out that she was with her friends at the bar and they were just giving her some space for us to talk. They were all drunk and her friend was insisting on driving home so she (her friend) agreed to let me drive them home because the friend was very set on not leaving her truck parked outside a bar overnight. We get all the way to their apartment complex and then getting into the parking spot was tricky so the drunk friend/truck owner insisted on parking (and pulled the "I legally own this vehicle" card). I was some guy her friend just met at a bar so I was like "...okay then". Within 5 seconds she backs the truck into a drainage ditch and gets it stuck. We all have to push the truck and get covered in mud. While we were doing that, the girl I met at the bar had lost her wallet so I dug through the mud water ditch at like 4am and didn't find her wallet. We get back to her place and the mood is definitely ruined, so we end up eating a random cheese and meat platter from Safeway on her kitchen floor at like 4am. I sleep on the couch and wake up early and I think "well, she was great it was just the whole truck thing that ruined it."
I look for a pen and paper to write down my number before leaving, all I can find is a piece of paper taped to the (inside of) the door. It was a court date notice for a domestic violence/abuse hearing. I just left and chalked it up as a strange night.
I would not have gone this far, I'd probably would have left at the bar scene
She talked about how much she missed her ex and how she used to stalk him. They got into a fight one time at the airport, he left to go home, she raced to his house, went up the balcony to sneak into his house just to wait for him when he got home.
Met up with a dude that I’d been talking to online in a different town. Met up at his house to make plans on what to do/where to go, and he said he needed to grab something and he’d meet me in the car. Heard coughing/hacking from the back room, went to see if he was okay and he was huffing duster and on the verge of blacking out. I noped the f**k out of there and went home.
Had to google "huffing duster" but anyway, I'd have felt uncomfortable just leaving him "blacking out" as he could end up dying. I might have called 911 or something similar (like a non-emergency number)
He kept saying things like ‘I hope people from school see us together so they stop calling me gay’ and then spoke about my friends (m) genitals, then asked if he could come to the toilet with me. It was valentine’s day, we never spoke again
First date over Chinese he begins to detail the hentai he watches… everyday of the week. I just got up and walked away.
Raving about anime, if you're a die hard fan? Maybe. I'd still call that dubious. Hentai? Right call, gtfo.
Only happened once, she kept talking about her ex, I asked if she wanted to get back with him , she said I dont know and showed me a picture of him.. couldn't leave fast enough
I get that she was torn and wanted help. But you should not be subjected to this, if you did not agree to it - so it's good that you left.
I once took this idiot on a date, she wanted me to pretend it was her birthday so she can get a free dessert. I thought it was a joke until dinner ended and she got up from the table and said "alrighty I'm going to the bathroom, call the waiter over and tell them it's my birthday."
I didn't and when she got back she legitimately got upset with me. She said it was free and I should of just done it, then said we would just order it instead....
I wanted that chocolate cake but out of spite I told her my stomach was hurting, paid for the bill, then jetted out to my buddies party.
He wouldn’t really talk. I tried asking him multiple questions but he just sat there staring at me. I finally gathered the courage and get up and leave after about 20 minutes. Glad I was at a local Timmys.
Bragged about how much money he had. Asked me how short I was on rent saying he’d give me the money right now. I was not short on rent, never said I was. Told me he could afford an Uber x but would buy me an Uber pool home bc he didn’t know me that well.
He told me his fiancé of 9 years had dumped him the week before.
Invited me to a bar which was apparently close to his apt, and kept wanting to "snuggle" at his apt with me. I left to a friend's party and met the man I've been with for 3+ years. The first guy later texted me a d**k pic on Easter Sunday.
Honestly, what is it with d**k-pics! How is this ok! And block the numbers you would not want to hear/read from.
The girl didn't know it was a date.
When they bring their boyfriends along, that's a clear indication.
More funny than bad. She opened the door, saw she was taller than me with her heels, says "OMG I have to change my shoes" and closes the door in my face.". That is OK I left my wallet in my car and she paid that night.
I guess this is a terrible first date you're describing; it's just that the person for whom it was terrible wasn't you.
My first ever date was in the library. I come from a conservative family and wasn't allowed to date. So, I asked this guy to come to the library. We studied for a couple of hours together. I was 17.
During covid I had a date with a girl that I met online. We had great conversation. We went for a 2 hours walk but it didn't work, at least for me. But the point of non return was me talking about dogs (I love dogs) and she said "huh, I hate dogs, I just want to kick them when I see one".
I once drove my cousin and his date to the movies and her door was on kiddie lock and she goes "oh somethings wrong with my door I can't open it" to which my cousin replies trying to be funny he has a dark sense of humour "nah I just set it to rape" I was like giving him the wtf bro are you serious look!? Needless to say I had to drop her straight home after that remark after she got out I quickly slapped the fool and gave him the run down
Hope he learned. There are topics you must NEVER joke about.
Load More Replies...I have had some really bad dates but one always stands out. I meet this guy who is educated, pleasant, friendly, professional, seems pretty open and honest. So we meet at a bar downtown. Conversation all seems fairly normal until he tells me that his kids are still mad at him for something that happened years before. He worked in government, brought important papers home. Left them in the open on the kitchen table. Their new puppy got hold of some and chewed them up. He got home. Normal story so far. Then he told me, all calm and smiling, that he saw what had happened, took the puppy out back and beat it to death with an iron bar. He didn't miss a beat. I was so scared, I didn't even leave. I tried to wander off to another part of the bar, and he just followed me, smiling. When I eventually managed to get out of his line of vision, I ran out of the bar, to my car and sped home, and bolted all the doors and blocked him. Most unsettling and horrific date ever.
No matter how much I’m into them … if they say they like Trump … they are history. I’m more of a ladder builder than a wall builder.
First there was there was the date who tried to kill me -- ordered an appetizer to share. It included raw fish which I told him I am allergic to. Another was angry because I wouldn't go to his favorite sushi place, the one where I had a terrible allergic reaction. Then there are the octopuses. Men who can't keep their hands off. One pinned me against a truck for a kiss. Then on Monday, met a man to take a long walk along the beach which ended up at his house. Suggested we watch TV, best TV in his bedroom - I was laying on top of his bed totally amazed. He said he didn't date much, but he had a plan and knew how to make it work. Thankfully he wasn't a creep and respected my refusal to snuggle.That night he wanted to visit after 11:00. Huh? No way! He was the person I thought he was, but was looking for a hook-up not a relationship. I really liked him, he had morals. Few men listen once you are alone, after refusing to be intimate twice he disappeared.
To be clear --- it is a terrible to end up at either person's home after an online meeting. Incredibly risky; you are at their mercy. I meet men during the day, some place public for lunch or for a long walk on a well traveled trail. Regardless of future plans I have.
Load More Replies...I went once on a date with a guy! It was for a coffee... the date goes well, the bill comes, he insists to pay, I try to protest and in the end i tell him OK next time the bill is mine! Second date he chooses the place and it's a restaurant! A fancy restaurant.... we have a great time, I'm not even thinking of the bill at this point and when it comes he straight tells to the waitress "oh she is paying, she insisted!" I would have paid even though it was unfair but he didn't even try to share the huge bill! There was no 3rd date!
First date guy. I was 35. He was 44. He told me I was at the top end of the age range he'd consider dating because "women lose their looks a lot earlier than men." Then he told me he'd be okay with me going back to work once the kids were old enough to go to school. All this before we had even ordered dinner. He looked really sad when I told him it wasn't going to work out, and I left.
Dating sucks. Period. That being said, I can't be the only one who's a little skeptical of some of these stories.
I went out on a date with a guy I met on a dating site. He asked about my kids(all grown). He asked if they were happily married and I said yes. He then said “so your okay that your daughter is “queer”? I told him to please not use that word that she is gay or bisexual and I don’t have a problem with that. A few minutes later he said I can’t believe that you’re OK with your daughter being a queer. I picked up my glass of ice water I got it from the table I poured it right in his lap and I said “I told you not to use that word this is the end of the date”! I walked out and as I was walking to the parking lot this lady came running up to me and said that is the best and date I’ve ever seen and I’m so proud of you for sticking up for your little girl. You can mess with me but don’t mess with my babies! Even if they were in their 30s! My daughter was 31 at the time. It doesn’t matter she’s still my baby And I respect them no matter what!
If you liked these stories there's a FB page called Bad dates of Melbourne.I guarrantee you hours of fun 😁
Three terrible dates come to mind. The first one never actually happened, he (thankfully) blurted out via text that he couldn't wait to see me on my knees that night....needless to say I told him to go hire someone, because I'm not playing that game, and never showed up. The second one was a blind date set up by a friend, and was awkward from the beginning. He got very drunk and told me to be grateful anyone would bother dating a single mother. I bailed quickly on that one as well. The third one my sister sent to my house, and he turned up randomly with flowers, takeaway food, and wine. He got very handsy, and...let's just say I had to be more forceful that I should have to get him out the door. He kept calling for weeks afterwards but I refused to pick up. Thank God I finally met a decent man, and have been married to him for over 10 years now.
I wonder if this sort of experience has become more common with people meeting on internet dating sites? I remember meeting some "socially challenged" weirdos years ago, but I rarely went on an actual date with them because I could already tell it wouldn't work. But meeting online, it's easier to hide one's true nature.
I think there have always been monsters and that we just hear more because communications have improved so much. Look at all the people whose stories I've just read here, I don't know any of them but have heard the stories now.
Load More Replies...Online dating 14 years ago & luckily only had 5 before I met my husband. I met one guy at my local because I felt safer, knowing the entire staff. I got there early & ordered a glass of wine. He comes in 15 minutes late and barks an order at the bartender. Hm, red flag, but I'll give it a minute. So I try the standard dating convo, what do you do, etc. "Oh, so you can figure out how much money I make? Maybe I should just show you my bank statement". "No thanks, I don't date assholes" - and I threw $5 on the table to pay for my wine. Another guy was very similar. Sat down at the table and barked his drink order and then proceeded to be incredibly rude & condescending to our waitperson. I didn't even bother saying anything to this one, I just got up and left.
He was a born evangelical Christian in the process of converting to orthodox Judaism. Showed up on our 1st date in a sports coat and button down fully done up. We go for coffee in a hippie place in Berkeley. When he goes to the bathroom, the cops at the next table come over to be sure that I am with him by choice. Our 2nd date, same tight-arsed look (he wasn't necessarily tight-arsed, he just didn't know how to relax in dress). He took me to Cafe Gratitude, a vegan raw-food cafe where every dish is something like "I am peaceful" and they have group tables where they seat strangers together. His appearance makes it impossible for them to find ANY other group willing to be seated with us. Last time I heard from him was after our... fifth or six, starting to consider exclusive, he popped up as a recco from a Jewish dating site. That listed him as having joined that day (I'd canceled my membership months earlier but kept getting 'come back! See what you're missing!' emails).
I was chatting to a guy online and we decided to meet for coffee. He told me it had to be on a weekend so his kids, aged 19 and 22, could come with him to see if they liked me. Nope.
What if someone else wrote, "I am married to an American and can only deal with so much positivity in one day."
Load More Replies...During covid I had a date with a girl that I met online. We had great conversation. We went for a 2 hours walk but it didn't work, at least for me. But the point of non return was me talking about dogs (I love dogs) and she said "huh, I hate dogs, I just want to kick them when I see one".
I once drove my cousin and his date to the movies and her door was on kiddie lock and she goes "oh somethings wrong with my door I can't open it" to which my cousin replies trying to be funny he has a dark sense of humour "nah I just set it to rape" I was like giving him the wtf bro are you serious look!? Needless to say I had to drop her straight home after that remark after she got out I quickly slapped the fool and gave him the run down
Hope he learned. There are topics you must NEVER joke about.
Load More Replies...I have had some really bad dates but one always stands out. I meet this guy who is educated, pleasant, friendly, professional, seems pretty open and honest. So we meet at a bar downtown. Conversation all seems fairly normal until he tells me that his kids are still mad at him for something that happened years before. He worked in government, brought important papers home. Left them in the open on the kitchen table. Their new puppy got hold of some and chewed them up. He got home. Normal story so far. Then he told me, all calm and smiling, that he saw what had happened, took the puppy out back and beat it to death with an iron bar. He didn't miss a beat. I was so scared, I didn't even leave. I tried to wander off to another part of the bar, and he just followed me, smiling. When I eventually managed to get out of his line of vision, I ran out of the bar, to my car and sped home, and bolted all the doors and blocked him. Most unsettling and horrific date ever.
No matter how much I’m into them … if they say they like Trump … they are history. I’m more of a ladder builder than a wall builder.
First there was there was the date who tried to kill me -- ordered an appetizer to share. It included raw fish which I told him I am allergic to. Another was angry because I wouldn't go to his favorite sushi place, the one where I had a terrible allergic reaction. Then there are the octopuses. Men who can't keep their hands off. One pinned me against a truck for a kiss. Then on Monday, met a man to take a long walk along the beach which ended up at his house. Suggested we watch TV, best TV in his bedroom - I was laying on top of his bed totally amazed. He said he didn't date much, but he had a plan and knew how to make it work. Thankfully he wasn't a creep and respected my refusal to snuggle.That night he wanted to visit after 11:00. Huh? No way! He was the person I thought he was, but was looking for a hook-up not a relationship. I really liked him, he had morals. Few men listen once you are alone, after refusing to be intimate twice he disappeared.
To be clear --- it is a terrible to end up at either person's home after an online meeting. Incredibly risky; you are at their mercy. I meet men during the day, some place public for lunch or for a long walk on a well traveled trail. Regardless of future plans I have.
Load More Replies...I went once on a date with a guy! It was for a coffee... the date goes well, the bill comes, he insists to pay, I try to protest and in the end i tell him OK next time the bill is mine! Second date he chooses the place and it's a restaurant! A fancy restaurant.... we have a great time, I'm not even thinking of the bill at this point and when it comes he straight tells to the waitress "oh she is paying, she insisted!" I would have paid even though it was unfair but he didn't even try to share the huge bill! There was no 3rd date!
First date guy. I was 35. He was 44. He told me I was at the top end of the age range he'd consider dating because "women lose their looks a lot earlier than men." Then he told me he'd be okay with me going back to work once the kids were old enough to go to school. All this before we had even ordered dinner. He looked really sad when I told him it wasn't going to work out, and I left.
Dating sucks. Period. That being said, I can't be the only one who's a little skeptical of some of these stories.
I went out on a date with a guy I met on a dating site. He asked about my kids(all grown). He asked if they were happily married and I said yes. He then said “so your okay that your daughter is “queer”? I told him to please not use that word that she is gay or bisexual and I don’t have a problem with that. A few minutes later he said I can’t believe that you’re OK with your daughter being a queer. I picked up my glass of ice water I got it from the table I poured it right in his lap and I said “I told you not to use that word this is the end of the date”! I walked out and as I was walking to the parking lot this lady came running up to me and said that is the best and date I’ve ever seen and I’m so proud of you for sticking up for your little girl. You can mess with me but don’t mess with my babies! Even if they were in their 30s! My daughter was 31 at the time. It doesn’t matter she’s still my baby And I respect them no matter what!
If you liked these stories there's a FB page called Bad dates of Melbourne.I guarrantee you hours of fun 😁
Three terrible dates come to mind. The first one never actually happened, he (thankfully) blurted out via text that he couldn't wait to see me on my knees that night....needless to say I told him to go hire someone, because I'm not playing that game, and never showed up. The second one was a blind date set up by a friend, and was awkward from the beginning. He got very drunk and told me to be grateful anyone would bother dating a single mother. I bailed quickly on that one as well. The third one my sister sent to my house, and he turned up randomly with flowers, takeaway food, and wine. He got very handsy, and...let's just say I had to be more forceful that I should have to get him out the door. He kept calling for weeks afterwards but I refused to pick up. Thank God I finally met a decent man, and have been married to him for over 10 years now.
I wonder if this sort of experience has become more common with people meeting on internet dating sites? I remember meeting some "socially challenged" weirdos years ago, but I rarely went on an actual date with them because I could already tell it wouldn't work. But meeting online, it's easier to hide one's true nature.
I think there have always been monsters and that we just hear more because communications have improved so much. Look at all the people whose stories I've just read here, I don't know any of them but have heard the stories now.
Load More Replies...Online dating 14 years ago & luckily only had 5 before I met my husband. I met one guy at my local because I felt safer, knowing the entire staff. I got there early & ordered a glass of wine. He comes in 15 minutes late and barks an order at the bartender. Hm, red flag, but I'll give it a minute. So I try the standard dating convo, what do you do, etc. "Oh, so you can figure out how much money I make? Maybe I should just show you my bank statement". "No thanks, I don't date assholes" - and I threw $5 on the table to pay for my wine. Another guy was very similar. Sat down at the table and barked his drink order and then proceeded to be incredibly rude & condescending to our waitperson. I didn't even bother saying anything to this one, I just got up and left.
He was a born evangelical Christian in the process of converting to orthodox Judaism. Showed up on our 1st date in a sports coat and button down fully done up. We go for coffee in a hippie place in Berkeley. When he goes to the bathroom, the cops at the next table come over to be sure that I am with him by choice. Our 2nd date, same tight-arsed look (he wasn't necessarily tight-arsed, he just didn't know how to relax in dress). He took me to Cafe Gratitude, a vegan raw-food cafe where every dish is something like "I am peaceful" and they have group tables where they seat strangers together. His appearance makes it impossible for them to find ANY other group willing to be seated with us. Last time I heard from him was after our... fifth or six, starting to consider exclusive, he popped up as a recco from a Jewish dating site. That listed him as having joined that day (I'd canceled my membership months earlier but kept getting 'come back! See what you're missing!' emails).
I was chatting to a guy online and we decided to meet for coffee. He told me it had to be on a weekend so his kids, aged 19 and 22, could come with him to see if they liked me. Nope.
What if someone else wrote, "I am married to an American and can only deal with so much positivity in one day."
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