35 Times People Forgot Their Privilege And Revealed They Don’t Get How The Real World Works
Interview With ExpertEveryone experiences the world differently, mainly because of how they have been raised. Some people are more fortunate than others and might see things around them through a rose-colored lens. It’s completely fine to do so, as long as the person is mindful of other people’s lived experiences and aware of how blessed they are.
Unfortunately, not everyone is like that. Some are utterly oblivious to their privilege, and this list contains all the instances where such folks have said or done really bizarre things.
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“I don’t get why poor people don’t just budget better.”
Ah yes, the CEO of life, right here.
You can divide it, multiple it, add it, subtract it, take the derivitive of it, and zero is still zero.
It amazes me that people here (US) that people think Medicaid covers people who don't 'want to work' when in reality, most recipients hold down full/near full time jobs and either have no available benefits, or the premium costs are too expensive.
Or people who cant. Knew someone who was mentally ill. Was put in hospital multiple times for multiple weeks due to mental illness. This person is incapable of holding a job. They do work, around the house, they make art/ jewelry to sell. Without medicaid , they would really suffer as their physical health is shot too.
Load More Replies...We do BUDGET EXTREMELY WELL !!well I do , and I can’t shop around for stuff as I’m housebound n miles from shops ,so it’s online for even food only ! N I live on not a lot at all , ,but even when we budget it ain’t gonna make us rich now is it 🤷♀️
I had a college roommate who thought that students on financial aid should have to go to the back of the line at the cafeteria. (I was on financial aid.).
newsflash, everyone goes to the back of the line. thats how you get into the line.
US politicians have said they don't want to fund free school lunches because that will just teach kids to be dependent on the government.
They compare it to feeding wild animals but get super b******t if someone doesn't want kids or gets an abortion.
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"there is no such thing as privilege, everybody has the same chances.".
It is a stupidity that could only come out of the mouth of a privileged person.
Load More Replies...The whole mindset of assuming strangers deserve their bad luck is sad.
Then please explain to me why my parents couldn't afford college without re-mortgaging the house? They didn't BTW, I didn't get to go.
Both my kids went to college , uk and worked thru it all to , lots of people here in uk go uni to and you know WORK to pay for it 🤷♀️no reason you couldn’t have done the same , mind u both my kids now 21-24 have worked from 16 n didnt want to go to uni. But still worked in college
Load More Replies...A person is considered more privileged if they have any special rights or advantages compared to others. Many people are uncomfortable thinking of themselves as being more fortunate than others because it might seem like they are living a better life.
This can be a difficult topic to process, which is why Bored Panda reached out to Martin Vidal to help simplify the topic. He is the author of ‘A Guide for Ambitious People’ and a frequent contributor to a wide swathe of publications. He writes on philosophical and psychological issues, as well as on political issues, in concert with his activism work in South Florida.
He mentioned that “the major reason that people refuse to acknowledge their privilege is because of the implication that whatever benefits they might be enjoying were not fully earned by them. It can undermine their conception of self to concede that they might have had things relatively easy. Let’s say, then, that the first barrier is ego and insecurity.”
“The second is that privilege falls under the general [shortsightedness] that clouds our awareness on all sides. It’s very hard to know what we don’t know and to recognize what might be outside of our lived experience. Our conception of reality is based on where we stand within it,” he added.
“It’s so easy to travel. Just save $100-300 every paycheck. I don’t know why people can’t do that”
This was right after college when I started paying back my loans while only making $18/hr. I told her “lady, I’m lucky if I have $20 left over.” She looked shocked.
I was recently advised at how cheap air travel is to Europe, after I talked about wanting to visit Berlin someday, but probably won't be able to. I didn't correct them about taking vacation days from work is doable, but then I have to had saved money for rent when I'm not bringing in a paycheck, and saved money for the hotels/hostels, food, transportation, etc on vacation, along with paying for a passport. The Europe on $5 a day is gone
You don't get paid vacation days? I have 25 paid vacation days a year. It's mandatory you take a 2-week vacation. Any left-over days you can also spend on vacation, you can use them to take occasional paid days off, you can let them be paid or you can transfer them to the following year so you'll be able to travel for, say, a month, without losing too many days that year. Vacation days are to be spend on vacation or days off: they are not sick days. That is separate: they have no limit and are paid of course. If you're sick for more than 2 years, then you will be eligible for dismissal, retaining about 75% of your salary through unemployment benefits, but you will be expected to work with the unemployment people to find a job soon. If your income drops, through unemployment benefits, under a certain level, you are eligible for assistance when it comes to costs of health insurance and rent.
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Someone told me they thought poor people just “don’t try hard enough” and that “everyone has the same 24 hours.” It was wild how confidently they said it, like generational wealth, health, and safety weren’t even factors.
To address that "same 24 hours" remark: if you have people doing chores for you specifically (nanny, cook, cleaner chauffeur etc) you DON'T have the same 24 hours as someone who does them themselves. Time is money - if you have one of those you can use it to get the other. Too bad for people who have neither. Imagine a widow with three kids, caring for her bedridden father and no wealthy background: five people's worth of laundry, cooking, cleaning, helping kids with homework, possibly driving them to school or moving around via public transport, shopping for groceries, clothes, school stuff, medication, arranging appointments, and a million more things - and telling her she "needs to step up and get a job" (or even "another job"). Those 24 hour days are NOT the same as Claire McMoney's juggling weekly mani-pedi, hairdresser, polo, yacht/tennis/golf club, art gallery and "real estate business" (aka showing rich friends where to buy their next villa).
If you can't afford a washing machine, it takes more time to wash your clothes at the launderette. If you can't afford to buy and run a car, it takes more time to travel by public transport. Being less well off results in being very time poor.
Load More Replies...It's true, poor people didn't try hard enough to have rich parents. It's all their fault
Having to fly first class opposed to taking the private jet. Its a tough life for some.
The reason behind so many privileged people on this list saying and doing such out-of-touch things is that they truly might not realize how fortunate they are. It can be annoying for other people to hear them treat their blessings so casually, but it’s simply that they see it as typical for their life.
To understand this in greater depth, we also reached out to Michael Karson (Ph.D., J.D., A.B.P.P.). He said: “Think of walking into a store where you look like the kind of person who is welcome there, such as your local grocery store, perhaps. You don't think about whether you belong.”
“Now think of walking into a store in a very different neighborhood, and now you are self-conscious and situation-conscious. Not having to worry about whether you belong is a delight you don't even recognize,” he explained.
Michael also explained that the way to remedy this is to “read literature, go to the theater, listen to other people. More directly, we can ask ourselves how situations might have played out differently if the race, gender, or other traits of the participants were changed. Even more directly, we can do this even when the encounter seemed unremarkable to us.”
“Lets do a barbecue with your parents in my place tomorrow!”
“Tomorrow is Monday”
“Oh, right! Your parents work”.
I did private duty home health for an extremely wealthy woman who had round-the clock home care employees. I came to work one evening and was getting her ready for bed and I noticed that she had several new yoga pants and casual tops hanging in her closet with the tags still on. I commented how cute they were and she told me that her day shift worker had taken her shopping at Target, and asked me if I’d ever been there, followed by saying she “never knew stores like that existed”. (Of course she didn’t know because everything she owned came from Neiman Marcus, Saks, Gucci, Prada, etc.)
I laughed and said, “Sweetie, if Target excited you that much, Walmart will blow your mind. You can get new tires on your car while you grocery shop, or a get new tv and even patio furniture.” She said, “Are you kidding??! Well, then that’s where we’re going tomorrow!”.
I was thinking that to. Life hasn't taken in the direction of those stores, but she wasn't being snooty about it.
Load More Replies...Sometimes the rich getting a taste of the non-rich life can lead to new discoveries
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Nothing worse than the truly rich buying piles of the best from a thrift store tho.
“You mean not everyone has a trust fund?”.
No we bloody don’t !! n neither do my kids n none of us would have wanted them either , most def didn’t want jack of my father ,, got left a bit by my gran I grew up with , but not life changing at all
When people become aware of their privilege it might be difficult to go back to the old ways they used to think and act. This can actually be beneficial because it comes with more awareness about society and how different factors like age, religion, gender, race, and wealth play a role in our everyday lives.
Once this way of thinking kicks in, it’s very important to acknowledge how fortunate we are and work towards ensuring other people also get a chance to be so blessed. This also includes speaking up for minorities whenever possible and standing up for those who don’t have as much power as we do.
Friend in college, very nice Turkish fellow. We went to an art school.
"Langstarr, we go to art basel this weekend, you come?
"No. I have to work."
"Hm, call in sick."
"I need the money. For rent."
"Hm, why dont your parents pay?"
*deep unending sigh*
"If its about money, there's no need for tickets or hotel, we can take my dad's jet."
*rolls eyes to back of head*
"No thank you, next time maybe."
He was very sad and just couldn't wrap his head around the idea that I just couldn't go.
My wife and I have promised each other that, in the extremely unlikely event that we ever become rich, we will try very hard to live the same life we have now, and not tell our daughter about the money. The goal in that situation is to for her to have an unseen safety net, so we can raise her to be appreciative but be able to help her out when she needs it. None of the attitude this guy has. However, this all a perfect example of "easier said than done". Also, we'll never be rich, so it's an easy promise to make.
Oh my life would change a bit , for one I’d buy the house I live in now, the farmland behind it switch it to grazing from arable n get a few more fields to n go back to farming. even at 60 , but that is it ,I’d still be the same person I am now, just able to help animal charities more , n have horses again n a few more dogs
Load More Replies...Sounds ,ore like a part time job, with no benefits or PTO. Just a slightly higher hourly wage. Lots of places schedule people to receive just enough hours to not qualify for benefits.
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I had someone question me why I bother working when I'm indian, they thought that the government pays me to be indian.
This sounds like someone perhaps misinformed about welfare benefits the US government "provides" for Native Americans as opposed to a person with ties to the country of India.
The government does very little beyond provide basic subsistence level needs to Native Americans. The poverty on some reservations is startling. Some tribes are fortunate to be near major population centers and open casinos or engage in other business ventures that are very lucrative to that tribe. That wealth gets shared with members of the tribe. The Agua Caliente band of Cahuilla Indians in Palm Springs, California is one example. They own three casinos and much of the land the city is built on. They lease it out for residences, stores, even for the post office. Many very expensive homes are built on land that is owned by the tribe. The building belongs to the owner, the land to the tribe. When tribe members turn 18 they are entitled to a healthy 6-figure annual income as their share of the tribe's wealth. On the other hand, the Pine Ridge Reservation in South Dakota, home to the Oglala Lakota people has 90% unemployment and 90% of residents living below the poverty line.
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My friend’s sister attending medical school: did you know some people’s parents don’t pay for their school?
Like an exworkmate who used to gloate about her multiple degrees she never actually used professionally. It was so easy she'd say, she did it all with 5 children! What she failed to mention was she neglected and dumped her children on all her family members to bring up because she was far too busy for that b s. and never paid to do a single degree, they were all paid for by grants she got and government assistance. She had nothing but time to k**l because everyone else took care of all her responsibilities in life.
I hate all that. I remember reading about a young woman that started a business with a newborn baby. I couldn't understand how on earth that was possible until I read the article. Monday to Friday she dropped her baby off at her mum's during office hours. Fair does to the grandma for wanting to help her daughter to get on in life, but many of us don't have that kind of parents and it's not fair to make it sound as though it's doable with enough gumption.
Load More Replies..."Did you know some people's parents don't pay their workers enough to live on?"
My parents COULDN'T pay for my med school, and I was completely fine with that. I took out the $180K in loans and paid them off myself. I plan on paying for my children's college. But grad school will be on them if they choose to go.
In case it becomes difficult to always check your privilege, there are certain simple ways of doing it that anyone can try. Martin Vidal mentioned that people can “think and listen! I’ve written a lot about critical moments in my past when I’ve had revelations about my privilege. They came in unserious ways at first because I wasn’t actively looking for them.”
“For example, one was from the Barbie movie: at the end, when I saw the Supreme Court with all women on it, I reflexively thought, ‘well, in a happy ending, couldn’t it have had some men on the court too?’ This was immediately followed up by the thought, ‘silly man, something like this has been women’s reality for ages!’” he added.
In a creative writing class many years ago, I'd written a scene which was almost a complete recreation of my stepfather berating my mother, using what he said word for word and his actions in belittling and putting hands on her.
Someone criticised it as being a caricature, and disbelieving that people behaved like that in real life.
Oh trust me men do treat women like this !, I had first had experience of being a beaten wife then a controlled one ,, n lots of men go thru it to so yes it happens way way to much
“My therapist said I have generational wealth anxiety.”.
I can help you fix that. No wealth = no anxiety. Want my bank data, or will you send the driver over with a couple of black suitcases?
'Generational wealth anxiety'. Does that mean you're afraid you lose all the money some day so that you feel obliged to get more or to spend as little as possible or does it mean that you feel guilty about having so much money you didn't do anything for? Or do you feel perhaps it's not even yours to do with what you want, because you're supposed to pass it on?
Said that to me on my dime. I would have been suffering from my fist to your face anxiety.
I understand generational trauma, so what is generational wealth anxiety? Is that being worried I won't have any money/property to give to my children when I die?
“Why don’t you just buy a house? This apartment is awfully small for the four of you.” I loved the person who said this very much, he was like family, but my ex and I couldn’t believe our ears when he said that. We both wanted to answer in a tone absolutely dripping with sarcasm, “Gee, we never thought of that! We’ll have to go shopping tomorrow. Would you like to write the check for the down payment since it’s such a great idea and we don’t have any money?”.
Yep had this comment from someone who lives off Daddy's money. She told us that it would be so much cheaper if we just got a mortgage and bought a house. We asked her for the $130k deposit to do so, she scoffed and replied she didn't have that type of money! Her Daddy bought her house and pays all her bills. He also paid her lawyers fees when she was caught dealing too. But apparently she's struggling, after scamming multiple people out of thousands of dollars. She's nearly 50 years old.
When my brother came to visit me in my one room apartment, he said "I like this, it's cosy". I found it incredibly patronising. When I brought it up years later he just said it wasn't patronising. Anyway, at the time he also took a massive dump before leaving, and when I got back later, I found he hadn't flushed.
"People like me don't have money because people like you do. That's why they call capitalism a system."
The best part about living in a society is that so many people with different lived experiences can come together and contribute to the collective good. Recognizing one’s privilege is the first step toward creating a more equal society like that where all people can enjoy a safe, comfortable, and happy life.
What do you think are some privileges that you might be taking for granted, like the people on this list? Do share your thoughts in the comments section below.
A former friend of mine had a fight with her parents about some boy she met on snapchat. The parents were 100% in the right. Guess what the punishment was.
She wasn´t allowed to wear her designer clothes for a week. A week.
She was so mad. It was so weird and a big reality check for me. I knew her parents were rich, but then i realised how different our lives were.
The punishment for what? Having an argument? Being wrong? How do you fight with your parents about a boy on Snapchat? (Ugh, I'm old!)
I'm imagining it may have been a discussion like "Look at this guy! He's got a surfing school in Ibiza! He wants to show me the island! I'll be back by Tuesday. Thursday at the latest" and her parents for some reason didn't agree with the plan.
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”Racism isn’t a problem. I’ve never seen it.”.
I live in New York, and I am not sure at times we exist
Load More Replies...Once heard someone say, 'Why don’t they just buy a house instead of renting?' — completely unaware that not everyone has family money, perfect credit, or a six-figure salary at 25. Privilege really does shape perspective.
My wife does work for high profile clients. Often youll see a $20,000+ food order barely touched and due to liability concerns, thrown away. I wish this was /s.
You can thank the department of agriculture for that. https://www.fourth.com/article/how-much-food-restaurants-waste
Load More Replies...If people earn a lot more money than you, it’s just because they work harder.
Yeah, I'm sure fElon works harder than all the people on the planet put together. /s
The highest paid people work the least amount. They like to brag that they Work Smarter, Not Harder, as if they actually do
In my industry, the more you make, the less work you actually do. It's the lower paid employees who work their backsides off.
That is annoyingly true. Pay for a job is not always related to the effort you have to put into it: sometimes it's related to educational level or just status.
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My roommate my freshman year of college asked me, "so when is the cleaning lady coming to collect our clothes to be washed?" Ummm...what now? She honestly thought that someone came around & picked up dirty laundry, washed & folded it then returned it back to us and thought that was part of our dorm fees.
I was at the store with my kids and a guy started chatting me up. He told me he had 4 kids under 5. And I said wow that’s a lot of diapers.
He just casually dropped this line on me like it was nothing.
“Oh I don’t do diapers”
That was it. My jaw must of been on the floor.
I probably change 90% of the diapers in our household. I’m a stay at home Mom and my husband travels a lot. But he’s not like that.
The phrase "That's a lot of diapers" could also mean lots to buy (unless you have cloth ones)
I tried to spin this charitably, and came up with: His kids are 3-year-old twins, 4, and 5. They are toilet trained. He meant he doesn't do diapers ANYMORE. But yeah, he's more likely just an a*****e.
Listening to an ex explain how her parents rented a spot in a s****y trailer park in some s****y area to use as an address to send financial aid despite the fact she comes from Virginia Beach money.
Friends that go on vacation to a private island..........and complain..........
It being a private island doesn't necessarily make for a good holiday. A private island can still have rain 24/7 too. So why are they less allowed to complain than others? If you don't allow your friends to complain to you about their holiday not being fun, then you have a chip on your shoulder.
Girl I knew in high school was whining about how her parents cancelled their annual ski trip to Switzerland and they had to settle for Jackson Hole instead. Poor girl, times were tough.
I’m planning a wedding and I’ve had MULTIPLE people tell me my wedding should be black tie because “what grown adult doesn’t own a tuxedo?”.
Well, I own one. But only because I had to buy it when I played in the orchestra in college. Still hangs in my closet. You couldn't fit me in it with a shoehorn and grease.
My friend messaged her dad asking for £10 and he sent her £690 as a joke. Wish my parents had that sense of humor
Edit incase you didn’t get the joke: 69 is a funny number hahaha.
It's a funny number if your 15 and also not funny from your dad (?!)
My ex once said before a date “I won’t wear my Rolex so you don’t feel poor.” ☠️.
My favorite response to someone having a Rolex was "my Timex shows the same time"
I love my £20 Casio. It tells the time. That's all I need from it. It's lasted 5yrs, and I also don't really care if it breaks. I'm quite poor, but I can afford another £20. A Rolex is just vulgar wealth. It's only purpose is to show you have wealth. They are expensive because people decided they are expensive.
Load More Replies...At least I am pretty confident I won't ever be mugged for my $10 watch from Big W
One up them. "Oh, you wear your money on your wrist? I keep mine in my hedge fund."
Even if had FU money, last thing would buy some sparkly overpriced watch that looks tacky as hell. Good way to get robbed too.
No, don't mind me, I would never distinguish a Rolex from a Casio or Timex.
My aunt is in Greece rn specifically just to get a tan. She is doing nothing else in one of the most beautiful places on earth. She went to Greece because she heard they have the best conditions for tanning.
Parts of Greece are currently on fire so she may be getting more of a tan than she bargained for if she's still there.
Load More Replies...They do have some beautiful beaches there. At least she wasn't staying in her hotel room all day
Not the most, but when roe was overturned people would say, “well you live in a blue state who cares?” I care.
I care. The US federal government can overrule US state laws. Getting rid of Roe wasn't their last step.
"When, in the course of human events, it becomes necessary for one people to dissolve the political bands which have connected them with another, and to assume, among the powers of the earth, the separate and equal station to which the laws of nature and of nature’s God entitle them, a decent respect to the opinions of mankind requires that they should declare the causes which impel them to the separation."
A friend was craving this macaroon shop in Paris over breakfast, and cancelled her date that night to fly for a night to eat them.
Edit - Macaron*.
“How much do you think the city will make me pay to move this bus stop so I can replace my bottom unit with a garage?”
I dunno if that perfectly fits the prompt, but it was definitely a moment that underscored just how different my and my friend’s problems are.
Once saw a white girl on my college campus use her MacBook to protect her hair from the rain lmao.
Nope. It's apparently okay to label white people as such. But if I started a sentence with "once I saw a black girl *insert a stupid action*" it would be racist.
Load More Replies...I dunno, I've accidentally poured two cups of tea down the back vent of my macbook - to the point where I was shaking water out of it - and it still worked fine for several years after that. Yes, two separate occasions.
"If you don't like this town, then move."
As if coming up with thousands of dollars to relocate and start over are just readily available. Yes, Priscilla, I would love to just move. How about you slip me about 10 grand so I can, you clueless boomer?
Why throw in the word boomer? I will downvote anything that does this.
Just the cost and effort of changing your drivers license in the new place, even within your state, is alot.
Yeah, you clueless boomer. Source of all evil. Why don't you just DIE? /s
I don't do manual labor.
Maid service and maintenance workers handle my needs in the home. I pay for food delivery and meal-prep because it so tiring to plan a meal. And I send out my laundry every week. I'm very independent!
Minds me of Food Bank Phil - CEO of BT group when they setup a foodbank because staff were struggling whilst he got millions. https://www.bigissue.com/news/employment/bt-workers-label-ceo-philip-jansen-food-bank-phil/
The trouble with very large organisations is that if you want the people at the bottom to be earning a decent wage, the people at the top will be earning (or at least getting paid) a fortune.
Load More Replies...Scout group used to do bag packing at the local supermarket to raise money for charity. They always raised more money at the supermarket in the least affluent area. People from poverty know the challenges of life and where they can they help out. People with spare income don't understand, and therefore are less willing to donate
We have a Christmas charity giving tree at work where you take a name and buy a Christmas present for a local child. When the CEO asked how many presents the child received, on being told only one, he called the charity "cheap."
I had a good friend in elementary school. When my father was laid off in the early 90s, my friend did not understand what the problem was. "If you need cash, just sell some stocks or T-bills". Yeah, cause we have lots of those laying around.
Minds me of Food Bank Phil - CEO of BT group when they setup a foodbank because staff were struggling whilst he got millions. https://www.bigissue.com/news/employment/bt-workers-label-ceo-philip-jansen-food-bank-phil/
The trouble with very large organisations is that if you want the people at the bottom to be earning a decent wage, the people at the top will be earning (or at least getting paid) a fortune.
Load More Replies...Scout group used to do bag packing at the local supermarket to raise money for charity. They always raised more money at the supermarket in the least affluent area. People from poverty know the challenges of life and where they can they help out. People with spare income don't understand, and therefore are less willing to donate
We have a Christmas charity giving tree at work where you take a name and buy a Christmas present for a local child. When the CEO asked how many presents the child received, on being told only one, he called the charity "cheap."
I had a good friend in elementary school. When my father was laid off in the early 90s, my friend did not understand what the problem was. "If you need cash, just sell some stocks or T-bills". Yeah, cause we have lots of those laying around.
