Pretty people have it easier, that's just the way we think it is. Research can actually back up this claim. In 2021, scientists found that we perceive attractive individuals as having better morals than unattractive people. Other researchers discovered that we think attractive people are more trustworthy. Author of Beauty Pays: Why Attractive People Are More Successful economist Daniel S. Hamermesh even claimed that good-looking people get higher wages and better loan deals at the bank.
But what about those who stand next to them? The people who endure the disapproving looks, snickering, and demeaning comments? The partners of attractive individuals don't have it easy, and one netizen wanted to know what they had to say. So they asked, "Those who are dating very attractive people, what is it like?"
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Years ago, I brought my girlfriend (now wife) to Texas to meet my mom for the first time. Everything went normally.
The first time my mom and I were alone, she turned to me and said, “You must be really good in bed.”.
Men are constantly sending drinks to her, even if I’m standing next to her. And yes I drink it in front of them.
My wife is very pretty, and a few years younger than me. We were at a club pre covid and I whispered a bad joke in her ear, she rolled her eyes and walked away. Some other dudes saw it and thought I just got rejected, took pity on me and bought me some drinks while we talked about radiohead and D&D.
Her "friends" trying to get her to come to her senses and dump me. 15 years and 2 kids later, none of those friends are left.
My favourite memory was being at a bar with my partner but also with some friends. So we're all just hanging out. Not clear with who is with who.
This bloke sees my partner and is legit stunned by her. She isn't aware, but as he's watching. She comes up to me and gives me a kiss/cuddle.
He was half impressed, half bummed. Gave me an approving nod and moved on.
It's nice when they're respectful that way.
We’re a queer couple, which I think contributes to people assuming we CANNOT be together. I must be her weird friend she’s dragged out with her. And even when girls KNOW I’m her partner, they’ll hit on her, in front of me, side-eyeing me like I’m a symbol of her low self-esteem. We get offered a lot of three ways and group sex where the subtext is obviously “I want to sleep with her, and you can also be there.”
Fortunately she is obsessed with me which makes it easy not to get jealous. We’re best friends. I’m obsessed with her and while her looks are a big perk, the real reason is we just get each other. We’ll go to parties and spend the whole time giggling with each other in a corner.
It’s annoying. I know my husband is hot, and he gets more attractive with age. I’ve had two kids and been through some rough stuff mentally which has aged me. Kinda sucks. One night we were out at a bar and some drunk girl tries to flirt with him while I was in the bathroom. I walk up to him since he was holding my drink. She looked me up and down and goes “wait…he’s with YOU?!”. I’m not a violent person. I almost punched her in the throat.
My drill sergeant after seeing my wife pulled me out of ranks in front of 3 battalions and asked me who she was. When I replied she was my wife he said what is this? Be kind to animals week? Did I win the lottery?
I'm probably going to hell for it, but "be kind to animals week" made me laugh! :))
It can be tough because I see all the women staring at him all the time. He's in a profession where he deals with lots of women all day long, and I see the longing in their eyes because he is not only gorgeous, but brilliant and funny. He thinks I'm more attractive than him. I'm not.
It's great. People assume I'm rich. As soon as they realize I'm not, they assume I have a huge d**k.
People treat her very nicely and they also treat me nice but only when I’m with her lol.
People should treat other people in reaction to how they act, not how they look.
My significant other is WAY more attractive than me. Other girls fawn over him. It doesn’t bother me, because I know where his heart lies. We were out on a date one night, every time I walked away to go to the restroom or get a drink I would come back to some skinny little thot in my seat. He would be polite, but never flirtatious. Then calmly tell them to move so his girl could sit back down.
On a different night I had a bartender tell me I didn’t have a shot with the “grey eyed guy”. I was already living with the “ grey eyed guy”.
I’ve been standing at a bar talking to her and a random girl came up and did the body block/ initiate conversation thing to “save” her from me.
I get the motive... but me personally, I don't think we should try to butt into other people's business if we don't know the full story. Like if he was approaching her or something, then you can step in, if she looks intimidated or if she needs help but otherwise? I don't think you should try to "save" people who look ok. But as aforementioned, I do get why she might've decided to take this course of action.
I was in a long term relationship with a woman who looked like a super model. 6 foot tall, skinny, heart shaped face etc. She was the most beautiful woman I’ve ever seen. Not exaggerating in the slightest. I was in shock the first time we made out. I just stared at her for hours and kissed her like I was in a daze.
I soon figure out that when your with a woman like this literally every dude will hit on her constantly. When she was 9 months pregnant dudes were slipping her phone numbers. It was so insane.
She definitely had a personality flaw. She thought she was better than everybody else, but was really good at being pretend nice to people.
To make a long story short she completely destroyed me. Cheated on me 3 weeks before the wedding and was ‘appalled’ that I called it off. ln her words ‘no one breaks up with me, I break up with them’. She to this day thinks that I was the s****y person for calling it off. F**k, she was so impossible.
Hope you found someone to treat you the way you deserve to be treated!
I remember my engagement photos. Big, juiced up photographer, “YOU are the groom?”
Kinda fun.
I spend a lot of time wondering when he’ll realize he’s out of my league and leave me.
I mean, it’s nice when he meets friends of mine and they rave about him afterwards. Like, yes. I know he’s a snack.
He’s also the sweetest man in the world. So he’s the entire package and I consider myself extremely blessed to be the one to see him naked.
I know I'm not ugly by any means, if anything I am considered by those around me to be quite attractive myself, but every time I stand next to him I feel ugly. But I am not unhappy because he only has eyes for me and always makes sure I know how highly he thinks of me.
My wife is way out of my league. When we started dating and going places this is how interactions would go.
Staff - Hello there, what can I get for you?
My wife - I'll have such and such
Staff - And for her friend? (me).
Happened so many times lol.
I used to also be attractive. Now I’m not. It’s hard. Women will openly stare mouth agape and approach him. He doesn’t notice half the time.
The only rule is you can't get jealous. Not just on their behalf, but for your own sake. in general, being insecure is unattractive.
I am 6/10 on my best day and my wife wakes up at 8/10 and goes up from there. And that's at age 40. Especially when we first started dating, when she was the cute college girl, she couldn't get under 9/10 even if she tried. And here she was schlepping around with me.
It feels f*****g weird, dude. But she has reassured me enough, and I've seen her politely turn away a half dozen guys over the years, so I accept it these days. It was a hazard for a while sending her to pick up our pre-orders from GameStop because she'd get to talking with the guy behind the counter about her favorite games, then end up with him knocking on the car window to ask her out. She let him down easy and I don't get upset. I get it.
I just have to accept it as one of those things I can recognize as true without really understanding. It's like gravity I guess.
That understanding is such and important thing to have in ANY relationship!
I’ve only dated two women who most men would consider “10/10”. This happened before I got married, before everyone who is young started calling me “sir” to get my attention.
Both girls acted like they knew the whole room was staring at them, one of them in particular changed her whole vibe whenever we would go somewhere and go inside, like she would act like the cameras were rolling, and often times, I could tell she wasn’t even listening to what I had said, like she was trying to capture how many people were looking at her without being obvious (and pretending to be looking at me, except she was looking *through* me).
Sad to know for a fact that one day they'll loose their looks and realize they wasted their lives not developing a personality.
See if you aren't a good person and have a good personality...it's really just " congratulations on your face"
At first, took quite a long time to gain her full trust. More than once she have been being lied to or manipulated to try to get in her pants. And it is also hard for me sometimes. She is getting hit on regularly even if I'm there. I fully trust her, but on some days when I don't feel good due to work stress or fatigue or when our relationship is a bit down (like everything it has its up and downs), it adds a bit of stress, I have to relax and say to myself deep down that she loves me. As far as sex, yeah she is really cute and sexy, but sex is more than that when you love someone, does not change anything for me.
Such a sweet bond! And it's great how you can acknowledge the whole picture, not just the good stuff.
Everyone wants to be her friend, random people always talking to her, constantly dudes trying to buy her drinks if we go into together. I don't mind my wife is hot.
I used to date someone way more attractive than me back in the day, and I could recognize the look from other guys sometimes saying something like "What the f**k is she doing with him".
Not currently, but have in the past. I mean, it’s cool? You gotta get used to a sh**ton of people glancing/staring at them anytime you go out. Also gotta get used to guys trying to hit on them the second you walk away. I never had an issue with either, so it worked for me. The underrated upside is that s**t is self-perpetuating: you immediately become more desirable if you’re with someone who (in this case) other girls realize is beautiful.
That isn't always an upside imo. If women see that your partner is someone very attractive, yes it may make them question why she's with you, but it also may attract the wrong type of woman. Many women who are used to get attention from others frequently, due to their looks, sometimes take this to their advantage, to manipulate and get their way. Those types assume she's with you for money or something superficial and when they find out you may or may not have one or either, they're done giving you any type of attention. I wouldn't want that, personally.
I once dated a guy "out of my league" and the reality is that I was very insecure and felt uncomfortable when we went out to places where there were many pretty girls because I felt that I wasn't enough for him and that he'd look at another girl who was really pretty. In the end that did happen, but my insecurity didn't make me enjoy the relationship. Thank God I am working on that in therapy.
I'm glad you got help, hope you find someone you feel more comfortable with!
I'm conventionally attractive, as is my husband. My husband is the first attractive person I've been with, as that's never been a priority for me. I just got lucky with him being perfect in every way. But god its awesome, truly. I can't keep my hands off of him, even 6 years into our relationship.. he's so gorgeous, it amazes me constantly.
"the first attractive person I've been with"? Personally I think there's a world of difference between good looking and attractive. Attraction is a feeling and someone can be highly attractive without being good looking. Or good looking but not attractive. If she's not been attracted to her boyfriends I think she got something wrong.
We argue over who is more attractive, but I'm convinced it's him. My SO gets called Thor /Chris Hemsworth by kids while walking down the street and in our friend circles. The only weird encounter we had was at a bar. This intoxicated older woman was visibly incredulous that we were together and kept trying to hit on him.
I had a supermodel bf before: it sucks! The number of girls openly hitting on him when I was right next to him, with him getting drinks for both of us, was astonishing. I would consider myself rather good looking, but in bars with him I felt like such a wallflower! However, he was also really sweet and smart and awesome, so I decided to put up with his ridiculously good looks :p
I don´t get the importance of ranking whatever/10 or something like that. If somebody attracts you (and vice versa) that´s it. Of course there are certain stereotypes, but to each his own. And beauty is so much ore than an outward appearance and has often to do with the actual situation and the cultural and historical context. I can be a 1/10 ( to stress this ranking further) in the morning and a 10/10 in the afternoon without changing my MakeUp. A big smile and a lovely attitude can do so much more to you as a stereotypical face.
It's not a personality ranking or a holistic ranking though. It's purely aesthetics. No harm in it unless it's your sole metric for a relationship. I think of it like who would you pick for for the role of Thor - Chris Hemsworth or Jack Black. Both seem like awesome dudes, but physically?
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I just want to know is it weird that I find German a sexy language my mother says nobut my friends say yes
If you think it is sexy for you, it is sexy for you! Ich wünsche Dir noch einen schönen 1. Mai, Liebe Grüße aus Hamburg ! (German is sexy!!)
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My husband is a beef cake with gorgeous baby blue eyes and thick curly hair. He has zero clue how incredibly handsome he is. Thankfully he only has eyes for me and never seems to notice all the girls, women and sometimes men that stare at him while we’re out and about.
I'm at that age where a lot of married friends have health issues get in the way of their sex lives. When they were young, they were always looking for sex, and getting involved just meant they count on sex with the same person whenever they want. Then one day, they start acting wierd; you say, "hey, we're in town" but you don't hear from them. Then you get the apologies, "Hey, I was in a wierd place... and I found myself overly attracted to your wife... I'd never do anything... I respect you both too much, and my wife, too!... so I just couldn't be around you" It's happened enough that we've kinda gotten blase about it. "That was Phil... he was apologizing for finding me attractive." "Tell him I understand; I do too!"
It's also a little embarrassing that people sometimes presume you're in the relationship for the sex.
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Oh lord, my wife is so many leagues above mine it's not even funny. She is gorgeous always. I'm not even saying that like hyperbole or being dramatic because I'm young and in love. We've been together almost 10 years at this point in total. I'm not naïve, we all have our moments, but even in her worst moments she's just captivating. I could talk about her forever.
Dated an Abercrombie and Fitch model during their heyday. It was great when we were alone, but no fun dealing with all his attention. It was pretty sweet being the nerd, and having a slam down model pick you up from school. (Age gap was only a year, before you get weirded out.)
Went out with a good-looking (as in, far above the average good-looking) guy ONCE. Just... because the opportunity was there and I was curious to see what it was like, after all, I was pretty sure it wouldn't happen again - you know... like an experience "What is it like to.......raise a puppy? What is it like to... date someone who is better looking than you by a WIDE margin?" - yeah... what got me wasn't others hitting on him - I expected that... it was the demeaning way I was treated... and that when HE realized how terribly I was treated, well, he started following suit - because now he 'knew' he was out of my league. Great. Fabulous. He behaved like a perfectly sweet-interesting-nice person before that.
my current has this problem and is arrogant about it. Probably 2 points above me. Lots of exes who still stalk her. It's nightmarish.
If she's arrogant towards YOU about it, run! Even a false modesty is still a form of modesty, but if she thinks she's doing you a favor by being hot, you'll never function as a team. Seriously: "sexy and she doesn't even know it" can be hot (watch for self-esteem or mental-health issues). "Sexy and she knows it" can also be hot and she might prefer a man being uniquely kind or understanding or funny or being a good father or talented more than materialistic sex-hounds, "Sexier than you but she's with you anyway" is a formula for (sorry for using this word, but it has certain connotations that make it hard to substitute for) acting like a "b!tch." As in: "I don't have to be nice, or contribute to the work or the finances, because I'm the hot one." If she thinks she's more valuable than you... watch out!
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My husband is stunning. He's ex-military and is now in law enforcement. He's super muscular, (he had an 8(!) pack when we first met). Gorgeous eyes. Sharp cheekbones and strong jaw. I could listen to him read a phone book, his voice is that sexy. However, he gives off the "don't f**k with me" vibe. I don't think he means to though, but I can see why he seems unapproachable. He's a real sweetheart, but I fortunately haven't had to fight off any women yet, lol.
My wife is a 10/10 knockout. She’s a 61 mother of 5, I’m 41 and we’ve been together going on 14 years. She gets carded if she’s tries to buy alcohol. I find it hilarious, walking down any main st, groups of woman glare at her, look her up to down and than cover their mouth to make snarky comments, we walk into a restaurant half the guys turn to stare at her while their significant others look on with death eyes. She gets hit on everywhere, all the time and just ignores it. All the while I’m completely invisible. We are one of the strongest, happiest couples I’ve ever seen.
This article reminded me of the Joe Jackson song "Is she really going out with him https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oDG6MQkzh1o
Reminded me of the Jimmy Soul song: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6EqFVWzOfN8
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I had a supermodel bf before: it sucks! The number of girls openly hitting on him when I was right next to him, with him getting drinks for both of us, was astonishing. I would consider myself rather good looking, but in bars with him I felt like such a wallflower! However, he was also really sweet and smart and awesome, so I decided to put up with his ridiculously good looks :p
I don´t get the importance of ranking whatever/10 or something like that. If somebody attracts you (and vice versa) that´s it. Of course there are certain stereotypes, but to each his own. And beauty is so much ore than an outward appearance and has often to do with the actual situation and the cultural and historical context. I can be a 1/10 ( to stress this ranking further) in the morning and a 10/10 in the afternoon without changing my MakeUp. A big smile and a lovely attitude can do so much more to you as a stereotypical face.
It's not a personality ranking or a holistic ranking though. It's purely aesthetics. No harm in it unless it's your sole metric for a relationship. I think of it like who would you pick for for the role of Thor - Chris Hemsworth or Jack Black. Both seem like awesome dudes, but physically?
Load More Replies... I just want to know is it weird that I find German a sexy language my mother says nobut my friends say yes
If you think it is sexy for you, it is sexy for you! Ich wünsche Dir noch einen schönen 1. Mai, Liebe Grüße aus Hamburg ! (German is sexy!!)
Load More Replies... My husband is a beef cake with gorgeous baby blue eyes and thick curly hair. He has zero clue how incredibly handsome he is. Thankfully he only has eyes for me and never seems to notice all the girls, women and sometimes men that stare at him while we’re out and about.
I'm at that age where a lot of married friends have health issues get in the way of their sex lives. When they were young, they were always looking for sex, and getting involved just meant they count on sex with the same person whenever they want. Then one day, they start acting wierd; you say, "hey, we're in town" but you don't hear from them. Then you get the apologies, "Hey, I was in a wierd place... and I found myself overly attracted to your wife... I'd never do anything... I respect you both too much, and my wife, too!... so I just couldn't be around you" It's happened enough that we've kinda gotten blase about it. "That was Phil... he was apologizing for finding me attractive." "Tell him I understand; I do too!"
It's also a little embarrassing that people sometimes presume you're in the relationship for the sex.
Load More Replies... Oh lord, my wife is so many leagues above mine it's not even funny. She is gorgeous always. I'm not even saying that like hyperbole or being dramatic because I'm young and in love. We've been together almost 10 years at this point in total. I'm not naïve, we all have our moments, but even in her worst moments she's just captivating. I could talk about her forever.
Dated an Abercrombie and Fitch model during their heyday. It was great when we were alone, but no fun dealing with all his attention. It was pretty sweet being the nerd, and having a slam down model pick you up from school. (Age gap was only a year, before you get weirded out.)
Went out with a good-looking (as in, far above the average good-looking) guy ONCE. Just... because the opportunity was there and I was curious to see what it was like, after all, I was pretty sure it wouldn't happen again - you know... like an experience "What is it like to.......raise a puppy? What is it like to... date someone who is better looking than you by a WIDE margin?" - yeah... what got me wasn't others hitting on him - I expected that... it was the demeaning way I was treated... and that when HE realized how terribly I was treated, well, he started following suit - because now he 'knew' he was out of my league. Great. Fabulous. He behaved like a perfectly sweet-interesting-nice person before that.
my current has this problem and is arrogant about it. Probably 2 points above me. Lots of exes who still stalk her. It's nightmarish.
If she's arrogant towards YOU about it, run! Even a false modesty is still a form of modesty, but if she thinks she's doing you a favor by being hot, you'll never function as a team. Seriously: "sexy and she doesn't even know it" can be hot (watch for self-esteem or mental-health issues). "Sexy and she knows it" can also be hot and she might prefer a man being uniquely kind or understanding or funny or being a good father or talented more than materialistic sex-hounds, "Sexier than you but she's with you anyway" is a formula for (sorry for using this word, but it has certain connotations that make it hard to substitute for) acting like a "b!tch." As in: "I don't have to be nice, or contribute to the work or the finances, because I'm the hot one." If she thinks she's more valuable than you... watch out!
Load More Replies... My husband is stunning. He's ex-military and is now in law enforcement. He's super muscular, (he had an 8(!) pack when we first met). Gorgeous eyes. Sharp cheekbones and strong jaw. I could listen to him read a phone book, his voice is that sexy. However, he gives off the "don't f**k with me" vibe. I don't think he means to though, but I can see why he seems unapproachable. He's a real sweetheart, but I fortunately haven't had to fight off any women yet, lol.
My wife is a 10/10 knockout. She’s a 61 mother of 5, I’m 41 and we’ve been together going on 14 years. She gets carded if she’s tries to buy alcohol. I find it hilarious, walking down any main st, groups of woman glare at her, look her up to down and than cover their mouth to make snarky comments, we walk into a restaurant half the guys turn to stare at her while their significant others look on with death eyes. She gets hit on everywhere, all the time and just ignores it. All the while I’m completely invisible. We are one of the strongest, happiest couples I’ve ever seen.
This article reminded me of the Joe Jackson song "Is she really going out with him https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oDG6MQkzh1o
Reminded me of the Jimmy Soul song: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6EqFVWzOfN8
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