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Groom-To-Be Rejects Mom’s Idea Of Her Sentimental Xmas Song For His Summer Wedding, She’s Upset
Do you remember which song you danced to at your wedding? For example, for me, it was ‘Save Room’ by John Legend. In any case, I’m almost sure that, for you, it was something incredibly beautiful and romantic. As they say, “Your personal song…” And which song did you dance to with your parents?
This is where, by the way, problems begin at some weddings. Because the choice of the older generation doesn’t always coincide with the newlyweds’ ideas about how their wedding should actually look and sound. And the user u/Much-Avocado-1391, the author of today’s story, faced a similar problem with his mom.
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The author of the post is going to marry in June and he’s planning to have a mother-son dance at the wedding
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The main problem is that his mom has a special song in mind—but it’s actually a Christmas song, so playing it in summer seems odd for the groom-to-be
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The mom, however, didn’t want to give up—since it’s the song she’d sung for her son when he was just a baby
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The author also doesn’t want to compromise—so the situation has reached an impasse
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The groom-to-be went online for support and advice as he doesn’t want to look like a weirdo at his own wedding
Well, the hero of our story today is going to get married next year, in June, but preparations for the wedding have already begun. And this is quite reasonable—after all, you need to think through and provide for everything, down to the smallest nuances. Otherwise, as we know, he’ll be fraught with completely unforeseen consequences near the altar or at the reception.
The Original poster (OP) is on good terms with his mom, and one of the elements of the upcoming ceremony will be a dance with the groom and his mother. However, when the groom-to-be asked Mom which song she would choose for the dance, he immediately regretted asking. And now, you will understand what caused this reaction.
The thing is that Mom has her own special song, which has a great, sentimental meaning for her. A song that she often sang to her baby son while rocking him years and years ago. And she would very much like, several decades later, to dance to this song at his wedding. So what’s the problem, you ask?
Well, here’s what it is. Firstly, it’s the song ‘Christmas Don’t Be Late’ by Alvin and the Chipmunks. Secondly, the wedding, as we have already noted, will be in June. Now, just imagine—at the height of summer, lush green trees, hot asphalt, guests in the lightest clothes… and on top of this, the voices of chipmunks with a cheerful song about Christmas plays!
In addition, the author himself doesn’t remember this song—he was simply too young then to remember anything at all. However, no matter how much he asked his mother to change her mind, she was stubborn and didn’t want to give up. So, our hero turned to netizens with a request for some advice. Or, to figure out how not to look like a weirdo, dancing to a Christmas song in June…
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Experts in organizing wedding ceremonies strongly recommend that the music played at the wedding have a special meaning for the newlyweds. For example, the song to which they kissed for the first time—why not? “No matter how long the two of you have been together, there’s bound to be a song, artist, or genre of music that you both really connect to,” this dedicated post on Brides.com claims, and it’s hard to disagree.
But what if the song is special to the groom’s mother? “I’ve actually heard a lot of songs at different weddings, from rock ballads to one-day hits from TikTok, and the most important thing is for the bride and groom and/or their family to feel the appropriateness of the song,” says Denis Tsikanovsky, a wedding host from Tel-Aviv, Israel, who Bored Panda asked for a comment here.
According to Denis, there are always the right words to explain to the audience why a particular song or music is about to be played. And if someone finds it funny—well, the bride and groom make their own rules at their wedding. “A good host can learn all the ins and outs of the family history and present the song in a way that’s very relevant,” he says.
In the end, you can always choose another arrangement or order a cover version that would sound more relevant—more suitable for the place and time of the wedding—our expert believes. And the commenters also agree completely with this. For example, one of the responders reminded OP that there’s also a version of this song sung by Norah Jones in a jazz style.
In general, the opinions of people in the comments on the original post were very divided. Some believe that the author shouldn’t give in to his mother—after all, it’s his wedding, not hers.
Someone—and there were many such people—believed that it was worth giving in to her, just to show his appreciation. “It might be nice to let her have this win?” one of the commenters wrote. And which side of the opinion do you, our dear readers, lean more toward?
People in the comments split their opinions, but many of them urged the author to give in to Mom—just to show his appreciation
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Ace 10 months ago
WTF is this mother-son dance thing? Is it normal in America? Not something I've ever seen at UK or European weddings. Traditionally, if there is dancing, then the bride and groom will start it off with the first dance, but then it's just open floor for anyone who wants to dance.
Orange Panda 10 months ago
Yes it's American. There's also the father-daughter dance. I personally think they should be done at the same time, but that's just me. I don't even remember if I did this at my wedding.
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Karl der Große 10 months ago
I used to sing "Too-ra-loo-ra-loo-ral" to my daughter when she couldn't get to sleep at night. I would walk around the house trying to getting her to relax. I doubt I'll dance with her to it at her wedding - I would collapse crying in front of everybody.
Nizumi 10 months ago
Have two songs to dance to. Start with Alvin, then dance to one you want to dance to. Father-daughter dance can do the same thing. Feel free to give it a lead up before the song, "The song my mum selected for the mother-son dance isn't what you might expect (no we won't come out break dancing!), but it's a song close to Mom's heart because she says she always sang it to me as a baby and always dreamed of dancing with me at my wedding to it. So - because I wouldn't be in the world at all if it weren't for Mom...." and cue music, start dance. It will be remembered as being incredibly sweet.
Mark Childers 10 months ago
Poor guy, but he needs to be clear with his mother. I don't think, if I were a guest at the wedding, I could sit through that song. The mother seems very sentimental, and it's clouding her judgment. Especially if the couple is paying for the wedding themselves, they need to put their collective foot down. I wonder what the bride thinks about this song.
Uncle Schmickle 10 months ago
The entire mother/son dance thing sounds weird to me ( an Aussie), but it's easily resolved. Whose wedding is it ? YOURS, not your mother's.
Schmebulock 10 months ago
Tell your mom you will do it but have the DJ play "I Like Big Butts" by Sir Mix-a-lot.
Ace 10 months ago
WTF is this mother-son dance thing? Is it normal in America? Not something I've ever seen at UK or European weddings. Traditionally, if there is dancing, then the bride and groom will start it off with the first dance, but then it's just open floor for anyone who wants to dance.
Orange Panda 10 months ago
Yes it's American. There's also the father-daughter dance. I personally think they should be done at the same time, but that's just me. I don't even remember if I did this at my wedding.
Load More Replies... Karl der Große 10 months ago
I used to sing "Too-ra-loo-ra-loo-ral" to my daughter when she couldn't get to sleep at night. I would walk around the house trying to getting her to relax. I doubt I'll dance with her to it at her wedding - I would collapse crying in front of everybody.
Nizumi 10 months ago
Have two songs to dance to. Start with Alvin, then dance to one you want to dance to. Father-daughter dance can do the same thing. Feel free to give it a lead up before the song, "The song my mum selected for the mother-son dance isn't what you might expect (no we won't come out break dancing!), but it's a song close to Mom's heart because she says she always sang it to me as a baby and always dreamed of dancing with me at my wedding to it. So - because I wouldn't be in the world at all if it weren't for Mom...." and cue music, start dance. It will be remembered as being incredibly sweet.
Mark Childers 10 months ago
Poor guy, but he needs to be clear with his mother. I don't think, if I were a guest at the wedding, I could sit through that song. The mother seems very sentimental, and it's clouding her judgment. Especially if the couple is paying for the wedding themselves, they need to put their collective foot down. I wonder what the bride thinks about this song.
Uncle Schmickle 10 months ago
The entire mother/son dance thing sounds weird to me ( an Aussie), but it's easily resolved. Whose wedding is it ? YOURS, not your mother's.
Schmebulock 10 months ago
Tell your mom you will do it but have the DJ play "I Like Big Butts" by Sir Mix-a-lot.
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