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50 Pics Of Men That Personify The Idea Of Weaponized Incompetence (New Pics)
In most relationships, at a certain point it just becomes common sense to move in together. More time shared, lower rent and a sure sign that the relationship is being taken to the next level. However, as many women have learned, often this can mean becoming a truly surrogate mother for a partner who suddenly doesn’t know how to do basic tasks.
We’ve gathered some of the most egregious examples of “weaponized incompetence” shared by women across the world. So get comfortable as you scroll through, prepare to roll your eyes, upvote your favorites and be sure to share your thoughts and experiences in the comments below.
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Just Done My Business. *someone* Left This. And Yes, I’m Using This Sub Of 4 Million Users To Personally Call Out My Boyfriend
This Is How My Boyfriend Leaves The Sink After He Shaves
This would make me so mad. Its just plain dirty and lazy to do this
Boyfriend Put His Drink On My Brand New Notebook, Yesterday
I know it’s personnal but I love the scratches, stains and wear on a well loved notebook
I do too! I'd give a bit of side eye, but overall I tend to doodle, put stickers on, glue things to the outside of journals because it tells just as much of a "story" as writing in it. To me this would simply become "this is from where my silly partner put his drink on my new journal..." with an added bit of ribbing for fun 😉
Load More Replies...I'd work with it - maybe turn it into a ring of flowers, or a smiley face, like my Noel Gallagher HFBs hoodie.
Lol Katy, i thought of a smiley face too! That notebook, in my hands, wouldn't stay clean for long - it's screaming out "decorate me, decorate me, please 🤗"
Load More Replies...unless he spilled it, its fine. its just condensation. its water. it evaporates.
That looks like an unintentional dumb unless he went across the house or something to put his cup there.
For those who are unfamiliar with the concept of weaponized incompetence, it’s rather simple. Imagine a couple, living together. Perhaps they have just moved in together. It’s time to do the laundry. The man, either lying or entirely truthfully goes "I don’t know how to do it!" So now it’s the woman’s household task.
Now this suddenly becomes her regular routine chore. She asks him to learn, but he either insists it’s impossible or, even worse, he attempts to do it and does the laundry so poorly that she feels like she should do it next time. None of this to say that all women are saints, but this flavor of poor behavior is often male.
Sisters Boyfriend Lost His Wallet Before Leaving To Go To His Moms
My Boyfriend Puts The Butter Away Like This In The Fridge Door. Fully Exposed And Touching The Fridge I Haven’t Washed In Months
Boyfriend Leaves All His Trash In The Car
Remember, asking a grown adult to do a household task is a normal thing to do. If someone can work a job, even an entry-level one, they have the necessary skills to wash a plate, mop the floor or iron some clothes. It’s ok to not be good at it at first, although it’s really never that hard, unless the plates are truly piled sky-high.
Called My Boyfriend From The Supermarket To Check If I Needed To Grab More Pads, He Said ‘No There’s Loads Left’
This Can Has Been Directly In Front Of My Boyfriend's Sink Side For Two Weeks And I've Chosen Not To Toss It Just To See If He Would. He Still Hasn't
My Boyfriend Lovingly Insists On Cooking Dinner On Mondays, But Ends Up Leaving All Of His Dishes And Mess Behind Because He Has To Leave For His Weekly Chess Meet Up
My boyfriend does this too. He'll make a lovely elaborate dish and transform the kitchen into a warzone in the process (which he then leaves for me to deal with, because he thinks it's 'not that bad').
Unfortunately, some men seem to think that doing their share of manual labor is worse than openly admitting that they can’t figure out which end of a broom to use. This entire strategy relies on the fact that no one calls them out. After all, at some point, as the live-in partner of such a man, you will need some dishes, so you will end up cleaning them yourself.
Went To Get Some Ice Cream And My Boyfriend Left Me This. In Case I “Needed A Pick Me Up But Didn’t Want A Bunch Of Ice Cream.”
My Boyfriend, Who Doesn’t Buy Any Of The Groceries, Decided To Use Multiple Pounds Of Chicken In A Cooler Instead Of The Bag Of Ice We Have
Boyfriend Leaves His Used Dental Floss On The Side Table By The Couch
The causes are myriad, but it mostly comes down to the fact that these things simply have to be done. Most likely, growing up, these fellows had a parental figure, a maid or even a sibling who picked up the slack while they relaxed. They never mature into adults who take responsibility for the environment around them, to the detriment of their partners. Even worse, they can’t do the most simple things, like finally taking out the trash (themselves.)
Instead Of Rinsing His Cup Between Drinks, My Boyfriend Will Just Refill It With Whatever Since It “Mixes In His Stomach Anyway”. Pictured Is His Glass Of “Water” After Milk And Oreos
I thought it was a drowned insect, so at least it wasn't that.
My Boyfriend’s Solution To Me Being Mad That He Finishes Everything In The House Without Buying A Replacement
When My Boyfriend Leaves Empty Packages In The Fridge
Safari On My Boyfriend’s Phone
His phone, his tabs, his choice. This is not weaponised incompetence, this is none of your business.
My Boyfriend "Tastes Tests" All The Chocolates One By One Whenever I Buy Us A Box Of Chocolates To Share
Stayed The Night At My Boyfriend’s, Didn’t Bring Breakfast Because He Said I Can Cook There. Morning Comes, He Proceeds To Pull Out These Two Things. Out Of The Dishwasher No Less
Boyfriend Keeps A Graveyard Of Shower Gel With One Half-Squirt Left
My Boyfriend's Job Title Is Actually "Solutions Engineer." This Was His Solution
Well it _is_ a solution. Is it a good solution? No. Is it an annoying solution? Yes – but it is a solution.
How My Boyfriend Leaves His Coffee Cup Every Morning
Why Is My Boyfriend Doing This? ) ‘ :
Whenever I see those signs in public restrooms reminding people to only flush toilet paper, I wonder who could possibly still need to be told this? Now I know.
My Boyfriend : *does The Dishes* The Sink :
Every time, but I don't complain because he did the dishes.
According To My Boyfriend, His Toothbrush Does Not Need To Be Changed
The Amount Of Tea My Boyfriend Left In The Pitcher
Omg my son does this to avoid making more. Drives me nuts! At least he has the excuse of being a literal child but I've been putting my foot down so he doesn't become a grown man who does this b.s.
Came Home To A Smokey Apartment And A Boyfriend Asleep On The Couch. Not Even Sure What These Were
This Is How Much Ice Cream My Boyfriend Left In My Pint Of Ben & Jerry's 🙃
Asking My Boyfriend To Not Empty The Entire Can Of Pringles (My Fav Flavor)
I learned when I was married to my ex-husband that if there was a specific snack that I wanted to actually last, I kept it in my car (or hidden in the basement by the washing machine during the summer), otherwise it would be gone before I even got a bite of it. I still have a tendency to stash little snacks in hiding places around my house, which is actually fun when I forget about them and then suddenly find a "surprise" later on when doing chores.
My Boyfriend Ate All The Skin Off Our Rotisserie Chicken
Are These Really Still Ok? My Boyfriend Thinks That These Shoes Are Fine. Wears Them To Work, Around Town. “50% Of People Wear Their Shoes To This Point”
My Boyfriends Food Cupboard 😳 I Think He Must Upend His Shopping Bags Direct In The Cupboard Rather Than Unpack
Twinings English breakfast is the best tea so at least he has some class.
Good Morning. Found My Boyfriends Glass Bottles In The Freezer. He’s At Work
The Way My Boyfriend Is Eating This Pie
My Boyfriend’s Toilet Paper Graveyard
Came To The Kitchen To Find Out That My Boyfriend Hung The Towel Like This 🤨
My Boyfriends Gaming Set Up
Can hardly call that a gaming setup without keyboard and mouse. 😇😁
My (Now Ex) Boyfriend Just Broke Up With Me Via Text Message Tonight :|
How My Boyfriend Packed Up A Moving Box With Kitchen Stuff While I Was At Work
Recently Moved In With My Boyfriend Who Has A Habit Of Leaving His Clothes On The Floor, I Asked Him To Put His Jeans Away In His Closet And This Is What I Found Later
My Boyfriend Insists On Storing Leftovers In Ziplock Bags Even Though We Have Plenty Of Tupperware. His Reasoning Is It “Saves A Dish”, Even Though They Have To Be Transferred To A Dish Later Anyway. In Reality He Just Makes A Huge Mess And Wastes A Bag
The Container My Boyfriend Picked To Put Away Leftover Pancakes
At least he DID pick a container (remembering the exposed bit of butter in the fridge further up?)
Hos Much Dishsoap My Boyfriend Think He Needs For One Pot
My Boyfriend 'Helpfully' Put My Expensive Indoor Plants Outside For "Fresh Air", And They Got Irreparably Sunburnt :(
My Boyfriend Forgot To Buy Shower Curtain Rings
My Boyfriend Made Croissants This Way.. Am I Dating A Serial K*ller?
My Boyfriend Puts Snacks In My Fruit Hanging Basket
My Boyfriend Took A Bite Out Of All Three Of My Hashbrowns
My Boyfriend's Single Bite Of My Apple
Boyfriend Always Buys A Bag At The Store
My Boyfriend Made Me Coffee The Other Day
My Boyfriend Refuses To Use The „wash As You Go“ Method When Cooking Dinner
My Boyfriend Always Opens The Bag Like This
HEATHEN!! That's what I shout at my fiancé every time he rips open a box of donuts or bag of whatever like this and makes it impossible to close neatly or even at all. It makes him laugh, but also reminds him that at 46, he should know better.
My Boyfriend Left A Smushed Up Soap Bar And A Leaf In The Drain After Taking A Shower
My Boyfriend Doesn't Use The Card Slots In His Wallet
What he needs is one of those minimal wallets rather than a trifold.
This Is My Boyfriends Car. I’ve Circled The Empty Trash Can For Fun
My Boyfriend Put My Nintendo Switch Through The Washing Machine
I went to Reddit and looked it up. They were in bed, she gave him the switch before falling asleep. He put it on top of the laundry basket next to the bed. The next morning he started a wash and just dumped the basket in the machine.
For The Past Month My Windshield Has Been Icing Up On Both The Inside And The Outside. It Is Extremely Difficult To Remove From The Inside Even With An Ice Scraper. My Boyfriend Was Trying To Be Sweet And Washed My Floor Mats In The Middle Of Winter, But Didn't Dry Them
Actual advice that works: Two socks filled with (clean) cat litter. Should absorb the moisture in a few days 😊 (Love from Iceland)
My Boyfriend Loves To Text Me And Then Completely Abandon His Phone. Note That I Responded No More Than A Minute After He First Texted Me, Its Been Over An Hour And Still Nothing. I Even Tried Calling Him And Surprise, No Answer. It’s More Than Mildly Infuriating But I Love Him Regardless
The Way My Boyfriend Brutalises The Butter :(
My Boyfriend Refuses To Throw Away These Jeans
My Boyfriend Took A Bite Of All The Chocolates To Find The Caramel One, There Wasn't Any
Sometimes, I Think About How Much I Love My Boyfriend. Then He Does Stuff Like This
My Boyfriend Uses An Absurd Amount Of Hand Lotion Before Bed Every Night
The Plate My Boyfriend Made Himself For Dinner. Needless To Say The Air In Our Apartment Was Unbreathable A Few Hours Later
My Boyfriend Insists We Hang Up The Banana Some How…
How My Boyfriend Eats His Jimmy Johns Sandwich
How My Stoned Boyfriend Cut Our Pizza
How My Boyfriend Uses Cheese... I-
That's not too bad. 🤷 Those slices are way to big for a bun or most bread-types. If the breaking-line is that disturbing - insist that bf needs to cut them.
How My Husband Leaves This
The Way My Boyfriend Eats Pizza
How My Boyfriend Eats Burgers
I would be so insulted if I found out my partner had shared my personal eating habits in a bid to embarrass me and label me as incompetent - a lot of these 'shamers' need to get a grip.
How My Boyfriend Wears His Socks. They Didn't Roll Down On Their Own, He Intentionally Does This
So what? I really see no hygienic malpractice or "Fremdschäm-Anlass"(opportunity for feeling embarrassed for someone else's behaviour) like in the other posts.
The Way My Boyfriend Wears Socks Around The House
I see no incompetence, weaponized or otherwise, just a guy being comfortable in his home while not even inconveniencing anyone.
This Is How My Boyfriend Eats His Burgers
The Way My Boyfriend Makes Ramen
How My Boyfriend Folds Socks Versus How They Should Be Folded
Instead of posting this insanity online, why not kick the toddler men to the curb? This stuff isn't cute, funny, or endearing.
THANK YOU! God, the amount of commenters going "we have to pick our battles" or "it's fine I just rewash the dishes/redo the laundry/etc" on here is insane. No way I'd just fall in line and clean up after this sort of person, regardless of gender. It's insanity.
Load More Replies...Honestly, these are no weaponized incompetent. These are men who's parents/family/caregivers failed to teach them the basics of self care. If their partners continue to carry on with allowing that then that is weaponized incompetence. You either tell him to pick up his act and insists he learn, or she leaves. Complaining and whinging about male incompetence is a choice
There were a handful that were deliberate (eg takeing a single bite of every piece of food) but there were quite a few innocent and often harmless ones as well like the guy who wore his socks wierdly
Load More Replies...These aren't pics from things MEN did. These are pics of what immature man-boys have done. Not sure why so many women love the immature man-boy, but ladies -- these are not men. They are little boys in men's bodies that are looking for a new mom to take care of them.
Yeah, because in addition to ridicule, name calling is an excellent behavior modification technique . . . .
Load More Replies...The worst are the ones who are SOOOO PROUD that they "gamed the system", aka leaving just a tiny bit left = "I didn't *finish* it". Why are women having relationships with mentally 8 year olds? Ladies, if he's too lazy and selfish to replace ice cream, what do you think he'll do if you need serious help?
Yeah, okay. So because he left a tablespoon of ice cream in the carton instead of throwing it out he is guaranteed to abandon you when you develop cancer . . . .
Load More Replies...It seems strange these are pointed at men, as I have seen more than my share of women who are equally bad at cleaning. Seems biased...
bored panda had this week an entire post where men pointed out "gross habits" of their female partners, so not so sure about the bias
Load More Replies...Who ARE these boys? The operative word being boys. These girls are a hell of a lot more tolerant than I'd be.
Tolerant? They are using ridicule, shaming, and name calling as behavior modification techniques. Immature maybe, but not tolerant.
Load More Replies...I'm a bit of a slob myself, bc I have ADHD and honestly don't even SEE the messes. This stuff wouldn't bother me (except eating my food.) Shaming the person who you love online because they don't value neatness as much as you... Well that's worse. Life is too short to make a big deal over toilet paper rolls.
And as per usual a non-controversial personal opinion is getting downvoted.
Load More Replies...I call BS on all of these. These aren't BF's they're clearly dating Racoons or some other feral animal.
Most of these are weird or annoying, or even incompetent... but I see very little evidence of *weaponized* incompetence.
I'm usually not the one to say 'not all men' but this is f'ing disgusting! These are gross trolls not humans. Nasty.
Misleading title! I came here expecting 50+ pictures of men... Only saw some hands and feet that might Nog even have been male..
Most of these are atrocious but several are complaints about not doing it your way or on your schedule.
There is nothing amongst these that doesn't pop up in lists of 'my worst roommate' or 'annoying things my partner does' - they are (nearly) all things that messy people do, both men and women. Some men are much cleaner and tidier than their female partners and vice versa. I'm fed up with men always being portrayed as the 'slob' and women as 'long-duffering saints'. It's just not true.
The thing men LOVE the most is a nag. So good luck with this. If you really can't handle your man's quirks become a lesbian. Problem solved.
Most of these aren't weaponized incompetence - just disrespectful d**chebaggery
I would NEVER live (well I wouldn´t date) with anybody from these boys. It is not fun, it is just disgusting. Like pigs. Lazy and without any respect. :-( :-( Sorry for that, my man is maybe an angel but he has been SO good for more than 20 years. I love his way.
My ex-husband shredded my VERY expensive, rare tarot deck that he found in my bedroom cupboard because he thinks they're evil. Never mind that he looked at porn and wrote to women on Craigslist all day...
Just no, no. Oh h*ll no. Why anyone would tolerate any of this behavior from ANY adult, male or female, is beyond me. I've had horses that kept their stalls neater and cleaner than these dudes!
Why is this article limited to men? There are plenty of girlfriends with dirty habits.
These women deserve praise for staying with awful boyfriends. I hope it's not just for free rent.
When they show you who they are believe them. Now dump them all and hope they never reproduce.
Really? Who do you imagine? Their mother's, who routinely did all these things for their precious son, of course.
Load More Replies...Married guy here, I'm amazed at what a woman puts up with. No matter how rude or stupid the guy is, there are multiple women willing to tolerate it. It's insane.
Oh nice BP, international mens day and you decide this is the perfect day to put an article aimed specifically at men and weaponized incompetence, out of 365 days a year we can't even get one day without it eh SMH
Trust me, it was intentional. BP has a long history of denigrating men.
Load More Replies...One perfect article demonstrating an author with no idea what "weaponised incompetence" actually means.
Just to be fair, try this title out exchanging women instead of men. Does it still sound okay or amusing? No. Then stop it.
Here you go, from two days ago. https://www.boredpanda.com/infuriating-wives-girlfriends/
Load More Replies...Well, THAT escalated quickly.... never looked at a pile of empty toilet paper rolls and wondered, "Huh, bet this guy is on some kind of registry. Abusive a*****e." But you do you, I guess.
Load More Replies...Instead of posting this insanity online, why not kick the toddler men to the curb? This stuff isn't cute, funny, or endearing.
THANK YOU! God, the amount of commenters going "we have to pick our battles" or "it's fine I just rewash the dishes/redo the laundry/etc" on here is insane. No way I'd just fall in line and clean up after this sort of person, regardless of gender. It's insanity.
Load More Replies...Honestly, these are no weaponized incompetent. These are men who's parents/family/caregivers failed to teach them the basics of self care. If their partners continue to carry on with allowing that then that is weaponized incompetence. You either tell him to pick up his act and insists he learn, or she leaves. Complaining and whinging about male incompetence is a choice
There were a handful that were deliberate (eg takeing a single bite of every piece of food) but there were quite a few innocent and often harmless ones as well like the guy who wore his socks wierdly
Load More Replies...These aren't pics from things MEN did. These are pics of what immature man-boys have done. Not sure why so many women love the immature man-boy, but ladies -- these are not men. They are little boys in men's bodies that are looking for a new mom to take care of them.
Yeah, because in addition to ridicule, name calling is an excellent behavior modification technique . . . .
Load More Replies...The worst are the ones who are SOOOO PROUD that they "gamed the system", aka leaving just a tiny bit left = "I didn't *finish* it". Why are women having relationships with mentally 8 year olds? Ladies, if he's too lazy and selfish to replace ice cream, what do you think he'll do if you need serious help?
Yeah, okay. So because he left a tablespoon of ice cream in the carton instead of throwing it out he is guaranteed to abandon you when you develop cancer . . . .
Load More Replies...It seems strange these are pointed at men, as I have seen more than my share of women who are equally bad at cleaning. Seems biased...
bored panda had this week an entire post where men pointed out "gross habits" of their female partners, so not so sure about the bias
Load More Replies...Who ARE these boys? The operative word being boys. These girls are a hell of a lot more tolerant than I'd be.
Tolerant? They are using ridicule, shaming, and name calling as behavior modification techniques. Immature maybe, but not tolerant.
Load More Replies...I'm a bit of a slob myself, bc I have ADHD and honestly don't even SEE the messes. This stuff wouldn't bother me (except eating my food.) Shaming the person who you love online because they don't value neatness as much as you... Well that's worse. Life is too short to make a big deal over toilet paper rolls.
And as per usual a non-controversial personal opinion is getting downvoted.
Load More Replies...I call BS on all of these. These aren't BF's they're clearly dating Racoons or some other feral animal.
Most of these are weird or annoying, or even incompetent... but I see very little evidence of *weaponized* incompetence.
I'm usually not the one to say 'not all men' but this is f'ing disgusting! These are gross trolls not humans. Nasty.
Misleading title! I came here expecting 50+ pictures of men... Only saw some hands and feet that might Nog even have been male..
Most of these are atrocious but several are complaints about not doing it your way or on your schedule.
There is nothing amongst these that doesn't pop up in lists of 'my worst roommate' or 'annoying things my partner does' - they are (nearly) all things that messy people do, both men and women. Some men are much cleaner and tidier than their female partners and vice versa. I'm fed up with men always being portrayed as the 'slob' and women as 'long-duffering saints'. It's just not true.
The thing men LOVE the most is a nag. So good luck with this. If you really can't handle your man's quirks become a lesbian. Problem solved.
Most of these aren't weaponized incompetence - just disrespectful d**chebaggery
I would NEVER live (well I wouldn´t date) with anybody from these boys. It is not fun, it is just disgusting. Like pigs. Lazy and without any respect. :-( :-( Sorry for that, my man is maybe an angel but he has been SO good for more than 20 years. I love his way.
My ex-husband shredded my VERY expensive, rare tarot deck that he found in my bedroom cupboard because he thinks they're evil. Never mind that he looked at porn and wrote to women on Craigslist all day...
Just no, no. Oh h*ll no. Why anyone would tolerate any of this behavior from ANY adult, male or female, is beyond me. I've had horses that kept their stalls neater and cleaner than these dudes!
Why is this article limited to men? There are plenty of girlfriends with dirty habits.
These women deserve praise for staying with awful boyfriends. I hope it's not just for free rent.
When they show you who they are believe them. Now dump them all and hope they never reproduce.
Really? Who do you imagine? Their mother's, who routinely did all these things for their precious son, of course.
Load More Replies...Married guy here, I'm amazed at what a woman puts up with. No matter how rude or stupid the guy is, there are multiple women willing to tolerate it. It's insane.
Oh nice BP, international mens day and you decide this is the perfect day to put an article aimed specifically at men and weaponized incompetence, out of 365 days a year we can't even get one day without it eh SMH
Trust me, it was intentional. BP has a long history of denigrating men.
Load More Replies...One perfect article demonstrating an author with no idea what "weaponised incompetence" actually means.
Just to be fair, try this title out exchanging women instead of men. Does it still sound okay or amusing? No. Then stop it.
Here you go, from two days ago. https://www.boredpanda.com/infuriating-wives-girlfriends/
Load More Replies...Well, THAT escalated quickly.... never looked at a pile of empty toilet paper rolls and wondered, "Huh, bet this guy is on some kind of registry. Abusive a*****e." But you do you, I guess.
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