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Men Open Up About 34 Things No One Told Them About Women Until They Started Dating One
In 1992, John Gray published his best-selling book Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, where he explained to the general public in a popular (and often very simplified) way the differences in communication and relationships between men and women. He actually explained to ordinary people what psychologists had long known.
Of course, many of the book’s theses still remain rather controversial, and some simply haven’t stood the test of time, but the fact remains - when entering into a relationship, we often don’t really know anything about the person with whom we plan to spend the lion's share of our time. And perhaps the rest of our lives.
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#1
I have an easier life.
Periods are s**t, the way guys hit on them aggressively is s**t, the way they can't go to the places I would and feel safe is s**t, the way society treats them if they like having s*x is s**t, being pregnant is s**t, giving birth or having an abortion is beyond s**t.
Had no idea these things were as bad as they actually are until actually witnessing them.
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#2
The phrase 'do you want comfort or solutions' is going to save you a whoooole lot of headache.
Lost Panda 7 months ago
But know your audience first. This could send someone (regardless of who) down a further anger spiral.
#3
If she asks if you want ice cream, she wants ice cream and wants you to say yes so that she can get ice cream.
Moreover, what is interesting is that we don’t know much not only about a specific person, but also about the other gender in general. And the popularity of various online threads, where men and women exchange their own misconceptions, is further confirmation of this. For example, this thread in the AskReddit community, with 12K upvotes and nearly the same amount of comments in just two days.
The topic starter, the user u/MainDifficult2641, asked netizens: "Men, what did you find out about women when you got a girlfriend?" - and received a whole avalanche of confessions, from the completely banal to the incredibly funny and even awkward. And we, Bored Panda, offer you a selection of its most interesting stories.
#4
Most women choose sleep clothes by comfort vs s*x appeal. There's a lot of loose pajama pants, fuzzy socks and oversized hoodies.
The sheer, lace nighty you see women climb into bed on lots of TV shows and movies in isn't real life. Lol.
HardBoiledBlonde 8 months ago
I have bought boyfriends lots of g string underwear and the like so that they can understand this. Some people, tending to especially males, are experiential learners.
#5
That being a woman is way more expensive than being a man.
Sometimes we’re talking about some fundamental differences in physiology (and, accordingly, a different attitude to hygiene procedures, for example). Sometimes men are just surprised to find that even a standard women's grooming kit is way more expensive than one for men. (Sorry, what kind of men's grooming kit? You mean that 12-in-1 shampoo, soap, and a comb, right?)
And sometimes men, after moving in with their new girlfriends, learn a lot about themselves as well. For example, that they snore, sneeze loudly, constantly lose their socks, and, let's face it, well... pollute the air much worse than women.
#7
No matter how much of a macho you are, you need to do some girly s**t with your woman. It's not because she wants to emasculate you or bend your will or she expects you to enjoy it even, it's because she wants to share some of her daily life with you.
On the other hand, women don't mind doing some manly s**t with you, because, guess what, they are willing to share some of your daily life with you.
Sara Frazer 7 months ago (edited)
Exactly! My man is totally down to do facemasks a couple times a week, and I like to mow the lawn and use the weed eater and take care of my car's oil! Lol. Tho I think knowing how to use power tools and basic car maintenance are important skills for any person. Skin care is important too
#8
Never try to help her calm down by telling her to „calm down“ or „relax“.
FreeTheUnicorn 8 months ago
Cause this works great on men? This doesn't seem like a gendered issue.
#9
That they have no pockets.
Multa Nocte 8 months ago
WE WANT POCKETS! What do we want? POCKETS! When do we want them? WE WANT THEM NOW!
What can I say - I personally always considered myself a fairly neat and even pedantic person (and many of my male friends always said so). But when my future wife and I started living together, it turned out that either my friends were completely shamelessly flattering me, or their assessment was excessively inflated.
Although, damn it, I now catch myself thinking that I’ve become much neater in everyday life than I was years ago.
#12
Their shirts button on the other side. This blew my mind.
Doctor Strange 8 months ago
This is, honestly, nothing more than an outdated tradition. Men's buttons are designed for right handed men. Women's buttons are designed for right handed SERVANTS to button for the woman wearing it.
Well, of course, a separate category of stories is mentality. It turns out that if your wife or girlfriend comes to you with complaints about life in general or about some specific problem, then your logical and sometimes instant solution to this problem is often not at all what was actually required of you.
All you had to do was listen carefully and, depending on the situation, express sympathy, indignation, resentment... and, of course, just feel sorry for her. Hmm, even I myself, after twelve years of married life, knowing all that jazz very well, sometimes fall into the same trap, and start gushing with solutions to all these problems...
#13
I wouldn't say all women, but my girl needs quite a bit of reassurance. She has abandonment issues so when she's said I have to remind her I am not going anywhere. I don't mind it because she truly is a wonderful and caring woman. We're a team.
Stephanie Did It 8 months ago
My ex knew of my abandonment issues and exploited them by constantly threatening to leave or divorce me. After enough of this abuse, I left him and am contentedly single ever since.
#14
You realize how much you learn about yourself through her. Whether it’s how you react to situations, how much you value certain things, or even what you really need in life.
"Some experts claim that most women are dominated by the right hemisphere of the brain, which is ‘responsible’ for imagination, creativity, and imaginative thinking. At the same time, men, accordingly, are dominated by the left hemisphere - analysis, logic, rationality.”
“In fact, this isn’t entirely true - most brain functions are distributed quite symmetrically," says Irina Matveeva, a psychologist and certified NLP specialist, whom Bored Panda asked for a comment here. "The neural architecture of the female brain is designed in such a way that we, women, give many situations a more emotional coloring than men.”
#17
When you enter a relationship, you then somehow become much more likeable to women.
Jake Bertz 7 months ago
Because you've been pre-screened by another woman, so you're a "safe" man.
#18
Before you live with your girl, you may not realize that--like cats--they get the zoomies sometimes. How many of you been lying down to sleep and your partner gets all wiggly and silly?
Gracie Jay 7 months ago
Lol, this is funny:) I never realized I did this until I had my daughter and she does the same thing:) every night.
Aelin Wildfire 7 months ago
.... I did not realize until you said this, but I think I do this.... Or used to, anyway...
“That is, we first pass everything through the prism of emotions - and only then look for a logical solution. And when we are offered this solution right off the bat - we sometimes perceive it as some kind of ‘insensitiveness’ of our partner. Which, by the way, is also quite wrong."
"In addition, hormones in the male and female body act in completely different ways, which causes those differences in behavior, so glorified in culture, jokes and memes. But this is already a question, rather, of a separate study. Large-scale and detailed," Irina Matveeva sums up.
#19
Women biologically need a good bit more sleep than men.
#20
That when they’re hungry it’s the most frightened you’ll ever be in your life lol.
April Pickett 7 months ago
I have a friend; do not be late when going to dinner with her. She loses all sense of humor, and she's serious. Get her a margarita, some appetizers, and she'll be o.k. by the time dinner arrives.
#21
How much hair they shed.
Like, how does a woman shed so much hair and yet have so much hair?!
Ace 8 months ago
It's not male/female difference. You'd find the same thing if you shacked up with a long-haired dude. My wife had dark hair to my light/blond so hers was always more noticeable, especially when she didn't clear it out of the shower drain, but around the house, under the bed, all the other places it builds up between cleans, there was just as much of mine as hers.
Be that as it may, differences in the perception of the simplest things between men and women really exist, and sometimes we, men, are simply amazed, learning more and more new things about the person living under the same roof with us.
Well, more knowledge, in fact, means less conflict, so please feel free to read this list to the very end, and maybe it’ll be truly wholesome for you. Who actually knows?
#22
Throw pillows aren’t for throwing.
#23
They don't stick those pads to themselves. It sticks to their underpants. Mind blown 🤯.
#24
Most women need iron.
#25
Doing your own makeup is art. It's hard. Sometimes, I just sit there watching her do it.
#26
If they're upset, there is a 50/50 chance they're just hungry.
Sometimes I'd just say "Man, I could really go for some taco bell" and then her eyes would light up.
The Other Guest 7 months ago
My eyes lit up just reading this. Lunch seems like a long time ago...
#27
Having at least 1.5 bathrooms is indispensable.
Edda Kamphues 7 months ago
Currently there are two women and two bathrooms in the house. Go figure the dynamics...
#28
They aren't the pinnacles of tidiness the Internet makes them out to be.
#29
They talk to their close friends about everything. EVERYTHING.
#30
They don’t wash their hair every time they shower.
#31
Make up accessories are technically a gas, as they fill the space they are in.
#32
How much more toilet-paper they are using.
a standard pack would last me a year on my own, together we need one per month.
#33
I am an idiot.
Michael Largey 7 months ago
The most important thing to find out in a relationship is how much there is you need to find out.
#34
That they get super upset when you use their decorative towels and pillows :(.
What do you think ?
Aelin Wildfire 7 months ago
That's because the ones who don't know that, don't get dates with women.
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God of Sarcasm 7 months ago
I am God now. I know everything about women. Thanks to this list I am now unstoppable. No one is safe.
Boredandsomea 7 months ago
A lot of these seems like girlfriend 101, basic stuff that every boyfriend should know.... give us the professional knowledge. And the easter eggs =)
Boredandsomea 7 months ago
a girlfriend Easter egg is when she after 1 years together sits down at a piano and plays a song for you (no clue of her playing the piano)... or any extra that you didn´t think was in the perfect girlfriend package you already love.
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Gavin Johnson 7 months ago
If Bertazzoni interrupt my browsing as much as they have on this page again (9 times and counting) then I won’t be held responsible for my actions.
Aelin Wildfire 7 months ago
That's because the ones who don't know that, don't get dates with women.
Load More Replies... God of Sarcasm 7 months ago
I am God now. I know everything about women. Thanks to this list I am now unstoppable. No one is safe.
Boredandsomea 7 months ago
A lot of these seems like girlfriend 101, basic stuff that every boyfriend should know.... give us the professional knowledge. And the easter eggs =)
Boredandsomea 7 months ago
a girlfriend Easter egg is when she after 1 years together sits down at a piano and plays a song for you (no clue of her playing the piano)... or any extra that you didn´t think was in the perfect girlfriend package you already love.
Load More Replies... Gavin Johnson 7 months ago
If Bertazzoni interrupt my browsing as much as they have on this page again (9 times and counting) then I won’t be held responsible for my actions.
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