“Let’s Hear It For The Man Of The Year”: Women Exposed Ridiculous Men With These 46 Texts
We welcome you, our dear Pandas, to an award show called “Man Of The Year,” where women are putting the most trashy and toxic behaviors men have exhibited in the spotlight for everyone to judge and shame. Now it’s up to you to decide which of these men wins the “Man Of The Year” title by upvoting those who, in your eyes, are the embodiment of a walking red flag.
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Yup. I think he was addressing himself most of the time. So who's the one who's potentially high maintenance, judgmental and afraid of commitment??
Load More Replies...“You’re high maintenance and judgmental” - it’s only Monday morning and I’m already out of WTAFs.
Not gonna lie, I did this to a guy once. Made it clear I was interested. It took him over a week to actually ask me out. We hung out once. Went well but he was very slow to ask me out again. I basically said the same sort of thing to him via text. I could foresee him wasting my time, so yes, after one hang out, I said goodbye. I think you can catch a general vibe and decide pretty early on how you want to proceed. Dude said a bit too much in the text, but I get it.
Yeah one of my early boyfriends didn't tell me about the other girl because he "didn't want to hurt my feelings". Like, bruh ...
"I didn't tell you about her because it would've ruined your day and I actually care about you. See how I protect your feelings but you don't appreciate that?"
Load More Replies...Smell that? That's the smell of a narcissist blaming his bad choices on his partner in an attempt to convince them that it's THEIR fault
* If my husband sent me a text with all those abbreviations, I’d have to ask him if he’d turned into a 12 year old girl‼️🤣
Didn’t it just lmao , keeping in the family ,oh boy 😂
Load More Replies...If I got a text like that, I'd assume it was a boyfriend test and reply with "I get it, he's pretty cute. How was it?"
"...how was it? I wanna know before *I* try." It's family, after all - doesn't count 😈
Load More Replies...This cathartic trend on TikTok, where women started sharing their experiences with men who did them dirty, screenshots and all, and titling them “Men Of The Year,” was inspired by a song by a popular artist, Lorde, called “Man Of The Year.”
While the song itself is about gender exploration, its lyrics, "Let's hear it for the man of the year," have been taken by Gen Z creators to ironically title the toxic men in their lives as “Men Of The Year” when in reality they’re anything but.
Find a guy that looks like him. Send him a message with a picture saying "don't worry babe. It's not cheating because he looks like you." Silence your phone and enjoy the freakout. Do not actually have s€x with him. At least not until you've broken up with the outdated version.
Then send a pic of a random baby because it doesn't count if the father looked like him.
Load More Replies...but what if the girl looks like her AND is his cousin? Does that mean it shouldn't count twice as much?
My ex-husband once told me while we were at the beach; you should be proud I look at other girls! I'm comparing them in front of you! I was 8 months pregnant, and I felt like a whale.... Oh, no! you didn't just go there! We're leaving!
Yeah, save the text. He just admitted it.
Load More Replies...NO ONE DESERVES TO BE HIT BY A MAN , 🤬n technically he ain’t man of the year !, REAL MEN DO NOT HIT WOMEN !! there for he is inhuman S*****G of the year !
Men have testicles for more than one reason, you know? Kick!!!!
Hitting/spanking your kids are illegal were I live, but I would sure be tempted if my future SIL or DIL forwarded this to me.
Load More Replies...--> thank you to confirm it by messaging. Let's now show this to the police.
This dude could become a professional gymnast because those mental gymnastics are impressive.
Load More Replies...Ah, the good ole "You're responsible for my behavior" argument. Always a crowd pleaser
The trend started on June 5th on TikTok, when user @violetaylaa posted a selfie video captioned, "My man of the year is my ex who got mad at me when he cheated on me." This is considered to be the earliest video, which used Lorde’s song to call out men for being toxic in relationships. At the time of writing, the video has over 3.2 million views.
Soon after, it inspired others to do the same, and now there are over 179.9K videos under the same sound.
The trend became so popular that even Lorde herself responded with a video reacting to it by rolling and widening her eyes and shaking her head, captioned “These messages...”
Wait, this is actually a thing? I thought it was only a bad plot for adult videos.
No it’s actually a thing lol , long as the step sibling isn’t bloody related at all , ie the new step mothers kid from a previous marriage , it happens way more often that you would think , and it’s not even illegal lol
Load More Replies...Wtf is wrong with you I mean seriously who hurt u ? Did his mom or dad never give him a hug or something
What is happening here? Do not keep dating anyone in this situation
Who are these people who think it's not somehow cheating if you sleep with a family member?!
I'm not in the mood for s3x with just anybody, it's gotta be I n c e s t.
Actually, Chandler. LOL! He's the one who told Ross sometimes his mom pops into his head and Ross told him "I said share! Not scare!" For three years Friends on DVD was all I had to watch, literally. :P
Load More Replies...Not sure the umbilical cord was ever cut on this one lol
Load More Replies...If he is talking to a female then Doesn't that make him being out her choice not his. Stalker in the making here
The videos under the “Man Of The Year” sound have quite a straightforward format. The majority of them are slideshow videos that begin with a selfie captioned "Let's hear it for the…" that changes to another slide with "Man Of The Year" written on it over a piece of evidence, usually a screenshotted message that shows how toxic a male ex was. In other videos, the evidence may come in the form of a video or even an EDM remix that an ex-boyfriend made out of a voice memo of an ex-girlfriend crying.
Geez, the human race is a wretched, nasty thing. Can't apologize enough for any of these., well... sometimes human just doesn't fit.
They the inhuman breed , n they appear to be taking over somewhat don’t they
Load More Replies...As a wise man once said, "He didn't just spell rapper and leave out a P did he?"
Load More Replies...🤬🤬please can I have 5 mins alone no cameras with this vile inhuman , I promise you will never find him !! ANY OF HIM !
My sisters joke that I'm soulless because I'm a redhead.
Load More Replies...She can't if she gets m******d because he wouldn't help.
Load More Replies...Loosing trust in your partner is the one thing that's the hardest to recover to save your couple. You can have ups and downs in love and attraction, but trust, once it's been down.. the person you let down will struggle to get over it even if they really want to.
My ex actually did this to me. She text at 3 am saying a guy she invited to hers wouldn't leave and wanted me to go to hers and make him. Turned out she was all over him at the club, slept with him, regretted it and wanted me, her fiance at the time to make him leave. She must have thought I was the dumbest guy walking
The women using this trend have revealed some truly shocking and heartbreaking things they’ve experienced while being in a toxic relationship. Like this one TikTok user who wrote, “Got me pregnant at freshly 20 yrs old. Promised me everything. Left me a month after finding out. Blocked me and everyone I know on everything. Got with a new girl. And still doesn’t care how it all affects me or his baby.”
For what? The police won't care about that. They barely care about r**e.
Load More Replies...This one doesn't belong in a list of shítty men, this one belongs in a list of sexual abusers.
B.... But you humiliated him by not agreeing?? 😔 Never mind his attempt at sexuâl a*****t 😡
I had a loser pull something like this after I lost my father. He Demanded I spend the weekend at his place because "it'll make me feel better and get my mind off of it". I blocked him immediately.
I’m so sorry you lost your father. He must have meant so much to you. X
Load More Replies...You have to have a strong relationship and very strong understanding of each others sense of humor to make the whole "let's celebrate life with smex" thing fly.
this one sucks. maybe he means taking her on the town. you dont know and neither do I.
The only thing he's deeply in love with is the idea of having a t*******e.
T.hreesome. It's wild the words that keep being added to the censor.
Load More Replies...I know right?! After I moved to Tennessee, I became friends with this boy. I accidentally let it slip that I was bi, and he told his parents. They only let him continue to be friends with me because they thought he could 'change me.' This is why I try not to associate with Christians (or were they Catholic...?)
Load More Replies...I knew this one bisexual girl who's boyfriend sugested that they should be both allowed to sleep with other girls. She agreed. She got to sleep with other girls. He didn't get any.
Plot twist: GF and Keira agree, realise they have something really special between them, dump the losers a*s like hot coals.
The trend invites women to share about the struggles they’ve experienced in their relationships and cope with them in a dark humor kind of way, which Gen Z has formed a tendency of doing quite a lot.
This generation of young people is more open about mental health than past generations, which can be attributed to the fact that Gen Z grew up with readily available technology and social media. Social media, in particular, gave them a platform from day one for their voices to be outspoken and heard.
What does that mean, run a train on me? I'm too scared to google it haha
It’s horrible- “a female has guy after guy with or without consent”
Load More Replies...Then again. They do bragg about trying to hit 1k a yr.
Load More Replies...There are guys who'd be okay with this. Lots of women have put up with it since forever, for better or for worse. I feel it's becoming more of a two-way street sort of thing. But there are lots of reasons to leave or stay in a relationship. It'd be better to either make it an official open relationship or do the old French marriage thing: ask no questions, tell no stories, make sure you don't bring anything home. My parents' marriage worked that way, and their marriage had its strengths and weaknesses, but it lasted more than fifty years.
To each their own, ultimately, and if it's okay for both sides it's their business. BUT, since OP posted it with the "woman of the year" comment I suspect the agreement was unilaterally presupposed and NOT okay with OP.
Load More Replies...Is her face wet or is that a weird wet-look makeup thing that I don't understand?
It’s her makeup. People do this on purpose for a glowing/glossy/dewy/glass skin look, which always looks unnaturally shiny, but if you overdo it or use a product that is too shiny then it just looks wet and oily like this. Some makeup trends are stupid
Load More Replies...Ikr , like other women can’t have em , well I wear em I’m 60 , so I guess I’m safe as houses from idiot inhumans like him then phew !
Load More Replies...Can anyone translate “I don’t fw cancer kids” for me, please? I’ve not encountered “fw” yet. Thanks! (It doesn’t mean “eff with,” does it? Because I like to think he doesn’t eff with kids AT ALL, cancer or not! Eugh!)
It doesnt literally mean f with It means like I dont date/play around with and he didnt mean cancer kids he meant her
Load More Replies...Excuse me , what kinda inhuman low life is this ?? wtf is wrong with people having cancer ?? he needs to get educated FAST 🤦♀️🤬
Wow, I've seen dried up puddles that weren't this shallow!
Normalizing the conversation about mental health and traumatic past experiences is good, as it allows young people to deal with their issues and move on from them instead of being stuck. They don’t want to be held back by any mental health concerns, so they are often glad to get treatment for them, like choosing therapy or sharing their experiences in a dark humor kind of way online.
I think it’s the chicken bone he stole from the buffet table.
Load More Replies...Is that anatomically correct? Because I just looked it up, there are no bones in the p***s.
Yes you freakin ding-dong! It is both of those things why don’t you know that
One of the two (sic) political parties in the US has said that teaching kids the importance of consent is tantamount to grooming. (yeah, I realize that they wouldn't know what tantamount means)
Load More Replies...My ex told me that he likes me better when I'm high. Tried to tell him why it was hurtful that he said that. He replied with something I shared prior to try to justify his words. I requested again that he not say it. He said it at least two more times within the year. He wanted me high all the time for many reasons he'll never admit.
In fact, 53% of Gen Zers have sought professional mental health services at some point, and 87% report feeling comfortable discussing their mental health. In addition, 60% report being able to freely share their struggles, like the women participating in this trend did. However, we can’t discredit the previous generations, as they also had a part in paving the way for Gen Z’s openness by increasing awareness of mental health and helping to reduce the stigma.
Well obviously it was all your fault right lol , u go girl , he’s a t**t !
let me guess...if you'd been putting out more, he wouldn't have gone elsewhere?
I don’t understand the blue/gray swoosh on her face. That’s a thing now? It makes her lower lip look really swollen. Do the colors mean anything, like handkerchiefs in pockets? Like is there a color I wear to show that I’m single and ready (or not) to mingle, and is it done with eyeshadow? Given the heatwave we’re having now, I’m imagining it running down my chin and I mindlessly swipe the perspiration off and then I look like I’m ready for Halloween. Not my favorite fashion trend, that’s for sure. 😕 Luckily, I’m too old for this kinda nonsense anymore!
I thought it was just an unfortunate shadow. It's on purpose?!
Load More Replies...My first GF kissed a boy in front of me and told me it was OK because we were both girls. She was my GF, he was one of my closest friends. Neither of them got to say anything else before they were both told to sod straight off indefinitely. Admittedly this was more than 20 years ago and worse has happened since but it was a stupid argument from a 16 year old then and it's a stupid argument now from an adult
I hope you put it a lot less politely that sod off lol
Load More Replies...If you have agreed to monogamy, it’s cheating. The gender does not matter.
The girlfriend owed him nothing. Just because someone tells you they love you doesn't mean that you have to say it back
Note to men , we do not have to say it back instantly !! it’s not a reason to cheat !! Oh n it works other way around to , for the s k a n k s out there lol
“Young people today are much more willing to talk about their mental health,” agrees Patrick Griswold, MSN, M.Ed., RN. “The stigma around mental health struggles has significantly decreased because it’s harder to stigmatize something that’s so widespread. Therapy is now seen as beneficial, and as more people engage with it and find it helpful, the stigma continues to fade.”
Reminds me of my ex "encouraging" me to stay in shape, so that, in his words, he'd still be attracted to me when we're older.
I've had two exes fat shame me, one called me chub chub (I was a UK size 8/10) and the other told me he wouldn't find me attractive if I put anymore weight on (UK size 10 at that point and I'd put on maybe half a stone?). Disgusting how some men think that they can comment on our bodies t like that!!!
Load More Replies...Dump his sorry butt and you'll have lost a nice chunk of weight right then and there!
And I'd love for you to learn an alternative to the word "genuine" and also study up a little on the female body and how easily weight can be gained/shifted, particularly as we age.
Sorry W a n k e r , your dumped problem solved !! I loath men like that , beauty is only skin deep , n dumping that thing is excess weight dropped in seconds 😋😋
It’s not what’s on the outside !! It’s who the person really is , n I do not call gaining a few pounds obese !! From a recovering anorexic, down to a man doing this !! it’s never ok to fat shame , oh n for the record I was a dinky size 8 uk size !! if that’s fat then I really am the queen of bloody Sheba !! ITS NEVER OK !
Load More Replies...She's the hottest one the pic. The friend hears that an she'd be on him.
Load More Replies...How about the 🤢 reaction to her photo?!!? I honestly cannot believe people actually behave this way.
Train GIRL !!! lol that one was woman of the yr
Load More Replies...Sweetheart, it was rubbish what he did and unforgivable that you’re getting no support, but you also played a leading role in bringing a new life into the world when it is easily prevented
Because it is also her baby and she wants to keep it ?
Load More Replies..."Got me pregnant?" Girl - use birth control. You are the one who pays the price if you get pregnant.
I'm sure we were able to contact people before "blocking" became a thing.
Stop letting a******s get you pregnant. FFS, wait until you're in a stable, long-term relationship and he's proven that he knows how to be an adult (i.e. does housework without being asked, knows how to grocery shop, pays bills on time, et cetera), and your career and finances are decent enough that having a baby isn't going to make your whole life go up in flames. Children are expensive and a lot of work!
“You just yapping was like everything I ever wanted in someone.” Lord, help me stay away from this SWEET TALKER because I’ll be a goner if a man tells me how much he loves my yappin’!
Lining up the next before dumping the poor woman , he’s with RED FLAG
have no idea about the story. Maybe it is better. You dont know and neither do i.
Kalevra, go away until you’ve learned some social skills.
Load More Replies...Funny how all the "woman of the year" ones are the same story, same design, same formatting... funny that, no?
This wasn’t a thing when I was a kid, thank cow. “I gave my body to every boy in junior class, but it’s okay because you have my heart and mind!” I guess kids are coming up with wilder excuses now.
Admitting he has no need for love & belongingness is not the flex he thinks it is.
Not caring that someone might be without basic needs and their significant other ignores their obvious cry for help isn't the flex you think it is.
Load More Replies...Okay I may be reading this wrong and I'm sorry if I am. He doesn't seem to be saying he needs her to provide the red or that he doesn't need the green, I don't think. He says he doesn't talk to people all day, and "rest" being in basic needs seems to be his reasoning. He's saying he needs rest more than he needs to talk to her, I think. I could be reading this wrong though, he's still a jerk for communicating it like that.
This guy being a jerk aside, I think asking a single person to meet all your needs is putting a lot of pressure on one relationship. It's okay to have a partner, but we have a circle of friends for a reason. Don't ignore one for the other.
Dunno, maybe a dude worried about his basic needs should not be dating at all...
I could never understand why ANYONE would pack up their lives and live with a bunch of strangers without a backup plan?
Call police. You were robbed. I am sure you have photos of you with those things.
Unpopular opinion: He "got me pregnant". Takes two to tango - if you didn't want to get pregnant, take the necessary precaution. OR this is a terrible way to say "we decided to have a baby together" Who knows.
There are ways to tamper with birth control- Poking holes in condoms for one- and also, while this doesn't seem to be the case, r*pe does not take "two to tango". I don't know more about this particular case, but no, it is not always a woman's choice to get pregnant.
Load More Replies...They robbed you of all your designer items?! 😳 That’s the kind of thing that can’t be forgiven!
Amazing how so many women claim to know so much and are right all the time yet can't get knocked up by a halfway okay guy for the life of them.
Why is the man who got you pregnant? Is it like you don't have a say in this?
Because that's how it works. S***m sŵim. She had a say an chose not to use the pill or a jacķet
Load More Replies...The way she says it makes it sound like she was just tipsy and is just using 'drunk' as an excuse. But if she actually was drunk, then yes. Drunk people cannot give consent. Having s*x with someone who is really drunk, is r**e.
Sometimes my wife and I like to get drunk. Just say'n.
Load More Replies...Run a train on me is such a male fantasy that keeps being the woman's format. Thinking a Mr cokx has been writing.
Her body her choice. It doesn't make her a s***k for having $ex with multiple men or women. However she can't use the fact that she was drunk to excuse her cheating.
Load More Replies...Eugh anyone as does this to a partner cruel !! it’s not funny or clever ! n if that’s being used as a I can’t live without u so I’m gonna off myself , is even more deluded , it will never work , it’s controlling , sorry but vile , oh n that’s off the internet 🤦♀️
Ok I’m with him on this one !! god squad lot are lunatics ! N yup they do spend to much time on fictional people !
Unless you're devoted to a religion, don't get involved with a religious fanatic.
“Pledge task”? Is that a typo or does it actually mean something? (And if so, what?) Why can’t I understand half of these?
College fraternity probably told him part of being accepted into the frat is to use his ex girlfriend's dead mom as a talking point to suggest getting back together even though neither probably want to get back together. Absolutely vile thing to do for laughs and to assert psychological domination over the pledge.
Load More Replies...But if it *had* fit in, then yeah, I’d have cheated in you, so you lucked out that he was overendowed!
I feel like trying to fit it in still counts as cheating
Load More Replies...It didn’t fit in? 😂😂😂 Now that’s an excuse I’ve never heard before.
I don’t understand a thing I’m looking at. Not the text, not the photo, and certainly not “kedah,” which I assume is misspelled but I can’t think what it was sposta be. D**n; people get dumber by the day, don’t they?
I think he's showing her a Pic of his wrecked car and insinuating it's her fault.
Load More Replies...Alright but there is context to this post. That woman was drunk in a bar and a few men saw her and they decided to r@pe her and filmed her while doing it. Her boyfriend (that posted this) saw it happen and he did nothing, then decided to post this on TikTok. He then added in the video description that he saw that she was being restrained and barely conscious, and yet he did nothing. He saw his girlfriend being r@ped, did nothing, and posted this atrocity on social media. He is the man of the year, not her.
But the pic doesnt tell us that story. In fact BP should double check what they are going to post.
Load More Replies...if the comments are true about the case, that dude needs to be ashamed of himself!
i think it entirely depends on what was in her message. if it was an unhinged rant then maybe that was the appropriate response 🤷🏼♀️
Even if it wasn't unhinged, unpunctuated would be enough for me not to read a wall of text.
Load More Replies...Stop writing paragraphs. Just call people if you have this much to say.
This is one of the dumbest lists I’ve seen on BP yet. Are this many people in the world really this stupid? Is this the world I get out of bed and go to work to keep running? WHY??
This list had no middle ground! Everyone on it was either hilariously delusional or flat out Satan's right hand.
Did you really post that and then come back 2 hours later to post it again? Or was there some sort of glitch of the site?
Load More Replies...guess you missed the women ones then... or did you even read it at all?
Load More Replies...There is also plenty of posts criticizing women for their behavior. Go read them.
Load More Replies...This is one of the dumbest lists I’ve seen on BP yet. Are this many people in the world really this stupid? Is this the world I get out of bed and go to work to keep running? WHY??
This list had no middle ground! Everyone on it was either hilariously delusional or flat out Satan's right hand.
Did you really post that and then come back 2 hours later to post it again? Or was there some sort of glitch of the site?
Load More Replies...guess you missed the women ones then... or did you even read it at all?
Load More Replies...There is also plenty of posts criticizing women for their behavior. Go read them.
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