This Online Group Is Dedicated To Shaming Insane Parents, And Here Are 30 Of Their Best Posts (New Pics)
Becoming a parent is a life changing experience. Suddenly, you are responsible for a whole other human being, and your new full-time job is to give them the best life you can. So you read stacks of books, attend parenting classes and try to soak up as much knowledge as possible to be a great parent. Maybe you even join a few Facebook groups to gain insight from other parents and to be part of a community. It’s nice to have other moms help you find the cutest and most affordable kids clothing without spending hours scouring the internet. Other parents can also provide some support when you just need to vent about the struggles of raising kids. There’s just one thing to be wary of in online parenting groups: they seem to be a breeding ground for crazy people.
Flooded with anti-vax posts and complaints about talentless toddlers, these parenting groups are painfully cringey. The silver lining, however, is that these groups have inspired the hilarious Mom Group Drama subreddit. r/Sh*tMomGroupsSay has 300k members, and shares countless screenshots of ridiculous posts on parenting groups. Their description says they’re “here to judge the ‘No Judge’ culture of the internet mom groups", and we can’t thank them enough for their service. Enjoy this list we’ve compiled of some of the best recent posts, then check out Bored Panda’s previous publications of crazy parenting posts here and here.
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I Don't Have A Problem With Extended Nursing, But Omg Still Using Months?
It’s important for new mothers to feel they have a safe space to ask questions and share their feelings. That place, however, does not need to be an online group. These controversial mommy groups have even sparked discussion from former members who have had enough. In 2020, Chelsy Theriault, creator of the blog Motherhood+Mayhem, published a piece on Filter Free Parents titled “6 Reasons I Hate Mom Facebook Groups”. She explained that at first glance, these groups seemed like a great community to be a part of. Over time, however, she realized that the groups “tended to be a crutch for mothers who either didn’t really want to deal with motherhood issues or didn’t want to (or have the courage or personal strength to) come up with their own solutions to parenting challenges”.
Breastmilk Isn’t Curing Her Son’s Leukaemia
You're killing your son already without giving him those chemicals
Chelsy went on to say that these Facebook groups invalidate mothering instincts. “It seems that many moms, instead of assessing a situation and formulating their own solution, immediately run to Facebook to seek advice.” Similarly to how Google seems to have killed many peoples’ critical thinking skills, these mothering groups have squashed some parents’ abilities to make decisions. Chelsy recommends that mothers follow their instincts and skip seeking out help for every minor question that pops into their heads. She also adds a bit of advice a good friend gave her following the birth of her daughter to reassure anxious mothers: “If you don’t drop them or sit on them, you’re doing great.”
I Want To Smack This Parent
I Feel So Bad For This Poor Boy
The next concerning reason Chelsy cited for disliking these groups is that moms seek medical advice in them, rather than going to a real doctor. “I know of a local mom Facebook group in my area that had to put a stop to mothers posting pictures of their children’s rashes and other visible physical ailments,” she noted. Even pregnant women post asking for health advice for themselves, but it’s unlikely many people in the group are actually medical professionals. And with only a Facebook post describing symptoms to go off of, they probably couldn't be of much help anyway. If you are concerned about your own health or your child’s health, please seek out someone with appropriate credentials. Don't just take the word of Cindy from Ohio who is spending 7 hours a day on Facebook during her maternity leave.
You Can't Even Count On Your Own Parents After You Have A Baby
Get The Hell Out With This Nonsense
Along the same lines, Chelsy points out that many mothers ask questions that could easily be solved with a quick Google search. “We’re moms. We’re busy. We don’t have time to do the Googling for other moms.” Next she notes her annoyance about posts that begin with “Okay, mamas, let’s talk [enter topic here]”. “Every time a post starts with this statement, all I can picture is some tacky infomercial tempting me to purchase some cheesy product,” Chelsy adds. Just cut to the chase. "For some reason, introducing a post with 'Let’s talk -' seems pushy and impersonal."
My Friends Are Also Pregnant And I Dont Feel Special. How Dare They Ruin My Experience
What is she going to feel like once the baby gets more attention than her? Maybe she should grow up THEN have a baby.
Seems, She Really Does Not Want A Boy...
This Might Be The Best-Worst Thing I’ve Ever Seen In Fundie-Crunchy Mom Group Hell
Next, Chelsy comments on the odd habit some mothers have of displaying their shortcomings to gain pity and attention. She gives an example of a mom asking if she’s the only one who forgets to leave money from the tooth fairy, followed by multiple “haha”s and a face palm emoji. Of course she’s not the only one. Moms are not perfect, and Chelsy empathizes with the pressure mothers often feel. “I think these moms are simply looking for pity or for someone to console them and convince them that they are not a horrid parent. Perhaps they are trying to displace their mom guilt or trying to make light of their mom fails.” “Either way,” Chelsy adds. “It drives me nuts.”
Lastly, Chelsy points out another popular post style on the page: "Pic for attention!" “This is annoying,” she says. “But at least they’re being honest.”
“My Doctor Says My 9mo Baby Is Normal, But He Clearly Has Bipolar!”
Saw This And Just Knew It Belonged Here
Err...what?
Luckily for moms everywhere, not every online community is full of infuriating posts and medical misinformation. In 2018, Alexis Barad-Cutler launched Not Safe for Mom Group (or nsfmg) after becoming fed up with the “curated Instagram feeds, filtered momfluencers, and holier-than-thou Facebook mom groups that made her feel worse about her parenting”. "Whenever I would go to my mom groups, it felt like I was having a completely different experience than what my peers were having," Barad-Cutler said in an interview with TODAY. "I was mired in postpartum anxiety, depression and psychosis, and my baby was really colicky. So it just felt like there was a cellophane between me and the rest of the world — like I was living on a different planet."
So she channeled her frustrations into writing. But media outlets were not always on board with publishing articles depicting less than picture-perfect realities of motherhood. “That's where it started — the idea that I couldn't say these things out loud," she said. "I wanted to create a community. I wanted a place for people to go and be able to say the things that they're feeling out loud."
That’s Not The School’s Problem
Oh dear lord. Have your kid get the boys parents' numbers and call/ text them. Or- give the boy your number to give the parents. Or- Facebook/ social media. It's not that hard.
5g Did It!
Won't Someone Please Think Of The Karma!?
Thus, the Not Safe for Mom Group was born. On their website, the group is described as “an online — and IRL— community that welcomes challenging topics around motherhood in a judgment-free setting”. Nsfmg seems like a breath of fresh air compared to the chaotic groups being ridiculed on reddit. Under “who we serve” the site says, “Our community is centered on mothers, those on the journey towards motherhood, those who identify as mothers, the mom-curious, and the folks who support and love moms.” And the reasoning listed for why the site exists is because “tremendous healing can occur when we share our experiences and stories with others. We created this space as a safe haven for messy, uncomfortable dialogue that enables us to to learn and grow from each other."
After This She Asks Which Essential Oils Works For Covid
F**k You And Your Privacy. I’m Gonna Show 53,000 People Your Picture And Tell Them You Got Your Period Today!
1: Don't get her the ultra-thin kind, that's b******t. 2: Pull your head out of your ass and take down the damn post, ya creep
Vacuum Salesman By Age 2!!!
While the website has been active since 2018, nsfmg recently began hosting a podcast as well. Episodes feature candid conversations such as “I Begged For Help and No One Listened: Mothering Through Mental Ilness” and “My Ex’s Sinister Secret: A New Mom’s Shocking Discovery”. Barad-Cutler welcomes these difficult topics on her site. “You don't have to preface anything by saying, 'I love my baby' — it is assumed that you love your child," she explains. "We invite you to curse — we love a good curse word. We welcome a difference of opinion, and we encourage people to use language like 'folks' or 'friends' — not heteronormative language, because we know that not everyone is married or cisgender."
Looking For Preschooler Appropriate Energy Drinks
Several cups of strong black coffee is the more natural, organic stimulant of choice for toddlers.
No Fatties Allowed!
It’s Gross Karen. I’m Also Pretty Certain It’s Illegal To Feed Unsuspecting People Your Bodily Fluids
In addition to the podcast, nsfmg’s website also includes a blog, resources for parents struggling with mental health issues or abusive relationships, virtual talking circles “for support in this sh*t-storm”, the opportunity to book private sessions with Barad-Cutler, and a shop (which features a tee shirt proudly saying “NO MORE MOTHERFU*KING MOM GROUPS).
For the ‘anti-mom group’ moms out there, nsfmg seems like an excellent alternative to the run-of-the-mill Facebook groups.
Two Opposing Cleaning Strategies
It Sounds Like You’ve Got A Pretty Smart Kid
Comments Are Filled With Moms Saying That Hygiene Is Non-Negotiable As This Will Lead To Health Problems
Another resource for moms interested in critiquing online mommy culture is the podcast "Under the Influence", hosted by journalist and mother Jo Piazza. "Under the Influence" is described as “a deep dive into the Mom Internet, a place haunted by aspirational marketing where it feels like every other mom is a social media influencer trying to sell you something… Jo Piazza looks at how we got here, what it all means and how the commodification of motherhood is driving mothers a little insane.”
On the topic of mommy blogging, Piazza told TODAY, "It's a multi-billion dollar industry that gets ignored because women are doing it and it's a 'mom thing'. But they're building these huge platforms and I say it all the time: If they were men, they'd be on the cover of Forbes because they're building mini media empires."
Woman Suggests Wrapping An Onion Around A Child's Ear Because It'll "Pull Out" The Infection, Just Like Tears!
Only Boys Are Supposed To Have Disgusting Habits?
This Is What The Admins To Mom Groups Drive
Well, this isn't horrible...except for the "co-sleeping" part. Scarier to me is what kind of person feels the need to advertise their parenting style on the rear window of their vehicle? NO ONE CARES!!!!
Despite how much wisdom raising children can bring, being a mother does not automatically make someone an authority on health, wellness or even parenting. Be cautious of what overbearing mothers are posting in online groups, and find a community where you actually feel safe to express your parenting concerns. But if no online group makes you feel at home or you’re simply not a parent, you might as well get a laugh out of the Mom Group Drama subreddit. We certainly did.
Be sure to upvote the photos you find most egregious and let us know in the comments if you've ever witnessed questionable parenting posts online!
What The Krap?!
How about "K,somymom'skindacrazyandshedoesn'treallycareifnoonecanspellournamesbecausesheneedslikesonFacebook"? Also, Loki is a Norse God
How Old?!
Actually, this might not be as odd as some people seem to think. Having your baby's hips checked soon after birth is standard hospital care where I live (but by a medical professional!) and neck misalignment can be quite commen if there were issues during the birth, as was the case with mine (suction). Again, this should all be done by a medical professional, but it can be an important check-up to have done.
I Can Weaponize Your Toddler, Dm?
It Can't Possibly Be Covid, Right??
Looks Like It Was Tailor Made For This Group
Homeschool Group Comforting A Mom Who Never Taught Her 14 Year Old The Months Of The Year Or His Tables
I'm Not Going To Listen To The Doctor Because There's Not Enough Evidence
This Was Posted To My Facebook By A Family Member, These Morons Are Getting So Exhausting
The Comments Are Filled With Her Explaining The Science Behind It
My Favorite Is The “Head Situation For Reference”
Have you tried cutting off your own hair and super-gluing it to their heads?
I Found This Gem Today
Moms Trying To One Up Each Other By Comparing The Size Of Their Babies’ Penises In Their Ultrasounds
Blood Transfusion, Or Death? Decisions, Decisions...
I can actually picture the doctor's face when she comes back with this answer…
How Dare You Expose My Daughter To Grave Stones (Sticker) During Spooky Season!!! “Wow Ok” Has Me Dead
Maybe Because That’s Illegal
Parents Play Sneaky 'Hide The Sausage' In The Bedroom They Shared With A Toddler, 10 And 12 Year Old
Meanwhile the 12 year old walks in, sniffs the air and says, "It stinks of sex in here."
Raise A Prodigy Who Will Fail At Life As An Adult
Now We Have To Be Sexy After Giving Birth Too?
I Hope She Doesn’t Find Out You Can Adopt Dogs For Free From A Shelter
Insane People On Facebook
This Post Feels So First World
A really stable genius suggested ingesting bleach for something not long ago. That might work.
Thats More Than 3 Pagents A Month If They Start When She Was Born! Of Course The Poor Thing Doesn't Want To Out Her Sippy Cup Down Shes A Baby!
Unassisted Pregnancy Group- If Only There Was Some Building Where You Could Go For Help?
You’re So Close
Why do women in America die during childbirth. Answer that please.
Mom Actively Working Against Doctors To Save Her Preemies' Lives. Breasmilk Is Better Than Vax Right? Right?
Maybe try listening to the person who went to MEDICAL SCHOOL for starters.
I Don’t Know What An Appendix Does But I Do Know The Doctors That Are Trying To Save My Child Are Just Quacks
The appendix does very little, until it gets inflamed. Do you want your child dead with one, or alive without one? Choices, choices…
I Wonder Why She Can’t Find Another Baby Sitter
Walmart’s pay may be crappy, but even they pay more than $2.50 an hour…
And Only One Person Broke The Group Rules And Recommended The Er
“My 6 Y/O Nephew Is A Little Fatty And I Hate His Mom, So I’m Going To Buy Him A Thinly Veiled Insult Instead Of A Gift He Would Enjoy”
Hmmm, I wonder if the mom is part of OP's social media group? This post won't cause any issues. Social Media makes happy families even happier.
Gonna Go Out On A Limb Here And Guess She Didn’t Get The Tetanus Shot Either…
It's What They Came Out Of
I'm Sure The Hotel And Other Guests Would Appreciate That
Informing Me Of Medical Risks Is A Death Threat
Teen Wants A Second Baby But With No Baby Daddy Involved This Time
17? Honey, don't you have school to go to and colleges to apply to? You have the rest of your life to have children.
Toddlers Supporting A Home Birth Alone, Great Idea!
Sure, a one-year-olds tiny hands will be perfect for getting in there if there’s a problem!
Hearing Is Overrated
Found One In The Wild In A Bst Group
"Disappointing And Frustrating" Yikes
The Entire Room Was In Awe Of My Placenta!
Wow, I thought this post was weird when reading about the placenta. Then I came to 'Char Char Binks'...
Anyone Want A Playdate With My Adult Child?
This is some seriously messed up boy mom crap. Cut the dang cord, he's an adult and can find his own friends. If he can't maybe it's because of you.
Actual Question On A Sephora Product
"You Can Say You Are A Mom Or Dad"
I..just Have No Words….
Ouch!
Guess I Gotta Go Outside And Hug Trees
If Only There Was Some Kind Of Professional Trained For This
Y’all I Had To Log Off After This One
Op‘S 5 Year Old Child Has Covid, Ox Reads 91, Not In Hospital
All Of Our Shoes Stink, It's Just The Way It Is!
why not ditch pants and shirts too. Hell with it, just walk around naked all the time! imagine never having to do laundry again, (however it may come with the minor side effect of being cold all the time, and getting sick, but once more, think about the laundry). Wild idea: If you cannot mangage to care for your offspring's needs, maybe you should propagate so massively.
Found This One In The Wild....
These people look for things to be outraged at. Vile, racist, traitorous Trump trash. Btw, none of this is taught in schools.
Mother Nature Has A Plan For All Those Other Mothers To Die I Guess
I love how this goes from sentence to sentence like there’s a coherent follow-up. It’s a giant pile of insane non sequiturs.
Egg Fast Keto Mom Group
Given To My Daughter Through A Mom Group
I Wonder Why This Isn’t Working...
Mom Says What She Really Thinks About Her Teenager
Let's Paralyze The Baby Right After Birth!
Can you have any kinks to work out when you’re still soft out of the oven?
I Am At A Loss For Words Here. It’s Totally Believable That Your Pyramid Scheme Products Miraculously Cured Your Child’s Stomach Bug
This Seems Like The Worst Thing Ever
To Add Insult To Cringery, This Woman Is Due Any Day Now
Y.....yes???
Freebirther Goes Mask Off (A Mom Asked If She Should Birth In A Hospital Due To Baby Having Covid-Induced Myocarditis)
Adam Kay had a good one for this; home delivery is fine until something goes wrong. In a nutshell, home delivery is for pizzas.
I Don't Even Know Anymore
Not Sure If It's Been Posted. But What The F
3rd Grade Lunch? Better Pack That Breast Milk
I agree it's a gradual and natural experience, but for my son it was around age two. Not 10
Her Profile Says "Holistic Mama Bear No Incurable Diseases"
Jeez if you have to do that to all of your spelling in order to trick the censors you're violating policies. Just spew that stuff on parlr where you don't have to censor crap and leave the rest of us alone.
Her 3yo Can Count To Infinity And Is Smarter Than The Majority Of The Us
wow, how can someone count to infinity? I remember an old kids joke, that you start counting 1,2,3 .. 8 and then, because 8 is tired it lays down.
This Response To A Mom Asking For Speech Therapist Referrals
Have you tried applying essential oils to your crystal and sticking it up your butt yet? That should do something, right?
These Name Posts Are All So Ridiculous And Cringe. This Is The One That Made Me Leave The Group
…is This A Thing?
Common Core Is Definitely Part Of The Leftist Agenda
Haha I’m So Toxic
Huh????? I-
Probably Shouldn't Listen To The Voices
How Do I Detox My Baby?
Warning From Local Mom Group
$12-15 For 11 Hours/Day With 3 Children Under 5…
Found This Gem In My Local Mom Group…
I Can’t Believe Facebook Is Free
Don’t Take Your Baby To The Doctor In 3 Years. It’s Fine, And Pediatrician Recommended!
My Son’s Classmate Gave Him A Crystal. We Must Notify The School And Police
Translation: You’re Probably Dumb, Also I’m Not Asking For Much, Only To Completely Rely On You Every Single Morning While I Go To My Real Job. Also Why Can’t Helping Me Just Be Your Hobby You Spoilt Brat?? My Baby’s So Sweet Isn’t That Payment Enough? Ok I Guess I’ll Pay You “Side Money”
Can I Just Cross Out The Bits That Don't Fit My Version Of Reality?
You Don’t Breastfeed? Straight To Jail
My Mother-In-Law Is Making Me Gag A Little. For A Bonus, Her Current Husband Has No Biologic Children Of His Own
Local Mom Wants A High Schooler To Watch 3 Kids For A Week. For $2.97/Hr
This Was In A Disney Group.... And Yes She Continued To Argue About How Child Birth Isn't Gross
What the heck is a bacon, lettuce, and tomato birthday? Google only comes up with the sandwich or "bizarre love triangle".
Holier Than Thou Family Take On The Half Time Show. Either A) Your Under Age Ten Kid Didn't Actually Say That, Or B) You've Already Introduced Them To Strippers. Embarrassing For Mom Either Way
How does her little girl know what a stripper pole is and what strippers do?
So Now We Naming Kids After *checks Notes* Eyeshadow Palettes?
We Love Us Some Obnoxiously Spelled Names And Unknown Acronyms
I Was Banned From This Group For Telling Her To Go Get Checked Out
Well, this one’s a toss up. If it’s really because this is in the US and she can’t afford an ambulance but is too embarrassed to admit it, it’s just very sad. If not, it’s very sad in a different way.
Trash Parent Using Her Kid To Pedal Her Own Political Views
What is up with the minimalist application of the space bar? I know we aren't really supposed to use two spaces after a period anymore, but using less than one seems a little stingy.
The Actual Fu..?
This List Of Diaper Themes From My Cloth Diaper Buy/Sell Group Is... A Lot...
Do you assume that diapers exist which are Smith & Wesson licensed merch?
The Mother Of The 8mo Who Can’t Lift His Head Up Posted *this* In The Freebirth Group Back In January
I "read it again" and took away that "70% of humans DO need to be born by surgery" How were you hoping I would understand that?
Tl;dr Can Anyone Lend Her Some Money So She Can Catch The Bus To Go Steal Gifts For Her Kid?
That’s Not How This Works, That’s Not How Any Of This Works...
Ah Texas…
Can everyone stop this thought process of kids reading these books will make them gay. I read quite a few books with these themes when I was young and it didn't turn me into something I'm not. Plus it keeps them from freekin out when they meet people how are lbgtq
When Extra Just Isn't Extra Enough, You Make Thing Up
I'm currently pregnant and with the amount of ultrasounds I've had so far, I can't imagine the doctor overlooking that there's another baby...
I will quote Michael Levine here; "Having children no more makes you a parent than having a piano makes you a pianist."
You should have to pass an IQ test to have kids... 😑
Load More Replies...I couldn't continue. This stuff is sickening. What parents are doing to their kids is obscene!
WHY?? WHY?? Do "parents" have to give their children impossible names to spell or pronounce? Like Oprah, who constantly insisted she was named after some African queen or whatever, until her mom revealed she made it up (her mom must have hallucinated during Marx brothers movies and thought he was named Oprah). The absolute worst name I had ever seen was someone who apparently was a drug addict and put a string of words together, over 20 words, as a name. I wouldn't tell you what it is but can you imagine something like this: Ilikemymomanddadbutiwillbeaworthlessdrugaddictwhenigrowupbecauseofthisnamemyparentsgavemeandihavetopaythreehundreddollarstogetthecourtstochangeitandthegovernmentmakesmewritethiswholethingasmyname Seriously people!! You are not creative! You are harming your child.
I couldn't read past the first 10. Too disturbing. These idiots are making the rest of us parents look bad.
There have always been people who just aren't fit to be parents, but there seems to be so many more of them these days...
I'm sure I speak for everyone when I express my gratitude for there being no mention of gender reveals here.
I will quote Michael Levine here; "Having children no more makes you a parent than having a piano makes you a pianist."
You should have to pass an IQ test to have kids... 😑
Load More Replies...I couldn't continue. This stuff is sickening. What parents are doing to their kids is obscene!
WHY?? WHY?? Do "parents" have to give their children impossible names to spell or pronounce? Like Oprah, who constantly insisted she was named after some African queen or whatever, until her mom revealed she made it up (her mom must have hallucinated during Marx brothers movies and thought he was named Oprah). The absolute worst name I had ever seen was someone who apparently was a drug addict and put a string of words together, over 20 words, as a name. I wouldn't tell you what it is but can you imagine something like this: Ilikemymomanddadbutiwillbeaworthlessdrugaddictwhenigrowupbecauseofthisnamemyparentsgavemeandihavetopaythreehundreddollarstogetthecourtstochangeitandthegovernmentmakesmewritethiswholethingasmyname Seriously people!! You are not creative! You are harming your child.
I couldn't read past the first 10. Too disturbing. These idiots are making the rest of us parents look bad.
There have always been people who just aren't fit to be parents, but there seems to be so many more of them these days...
I'm sure I speak for everyone when I express my gratitude for there being no mention of gender reveals here.