A Centers for Disease Control and Prevention report found that the US birth rate fell by 4% from 2019 to 2020, the sharpest single-year decline in almost 50 years, and the lowest number of births since 1979. With more and more people passing on the prospect of having children, childfree people are still seen with a fair share of stigma by society.
With so much pressure to experience parenthood and the joys and challenges that come with it, people who consciously choose not to do so have to find ways to build resilience and inner strength to stand up for themselves.
One such way is not taking things too seriously to begin with. Just like this Facebook page titled “Childfree Humor” which is created “for people who don't care much for kids and want to have a laugh about it.”
The page is home to almost 94k followers and it even has a humorous Etsy shop with bold and sarcastic childfreedom-related shirts. Scroll down below through a selection of “Childfree Humor” posts that range from painfully hilarious to all too relatable.
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Bored Panda reached out to the creator behind the Childfree Humor Facebook page who said that she comes from a conservative, Asian family where girls were trained to be good wives and mothers. “Getting married as soon as possible and having children immediately after was pretty much the only option you had once you grew up,” the creator said and added that “This was suffocating for me, I knew from a very young age that that life was not for me, but I was surrounded by people who had those expectations of me.”
“This page, which I started in 2013, was a way to escape that and have a voice of my own. It was cathartic, still is. Knowing there are so many other people out there that are just like me, it made me realize I wasn't a freak or abnormal, and it was okay to not want children.”
The creator of Childfree Humor said that there is “a fairly large stigma” when it comes to childlessness in our society. “People think you're immature, selfish, or stupid for choosing to be childfree; usually all three,” she told us.
Moreover, apart from the social stigma, pressure from family members to reconsider this choice makes it all the more difficult, the creator of Childfree Humor said. “It's usually finding similar-minded people who you can connect with that's the biggest challenge. I don't really know any childfree people in real life but thanks to the internet, there are communities and groups you can be part of that make you feel less lonely.”
Most of Childfree Humor's followers are women, the creator said, “which isn't surprising because I am a woman too and most of what I post is the humor that helps you cope with the expectations that society places on women.”
“What surprised me was that my audience was global. I have followers not just from North America but also from Asia, Africa, etc. It tells you that the women from all over the world, irrespective of the culture they are from, face the same kind of pressure and stigma that comes from choosing to not procreate,” the creator concluded.
That’s what I was told when when I was 22, a single mom of two kids I adored but never wanted more, when I asked the doctor to do a tubal. He said, “Oh now, you’re young you’ll change your mind.” I said, “I have never wanted more than two children. I.DO.NOT. WANT.ANY.MORE. My age has nothing to do with it!” Doctor: “But what if you meet a nice man & fall in love but he wants a child of his own?” Me-pissed, “What am I? A brood mare? I have to put up with the dangers of birth control because he doesn’t have a child & why would he want me to be the mother if the first two I popped out weren’t good enough for him?Besides, his not having a child sounds a whole lot like his problem, not mine.” He said I was taking it wrong. LOL. Bet your a*s I was. The worst comment I ever got though was an older women who said, “But what if something happened to one of your children, then you’d want another.” I was shocked. One goes, just replace it! SMH.
Many childfree people hear that one annoying question way more often than they should. “When are you having a baby?” is the kind of question many people would do anything not to hear ever again. Previously Bored Panda spoke with Susan Petang, a certified divorce coach and the creator of “The Quiet Zone Coaching,” who teaches people how to stop feeling overwhelmed and start waking up happy in the morning again.
Petang said that it can indeed be super annoying when others (family or not!) continually ask when you’re going to have kids, get married, or something else that they think you should be doing. Referring to these questions, Petang said that “no, it’s none of their business.”
Don't forget the old "But what about your future husband?? Don't you dare about what HE will want??"
“Let me ask you this: Why are they asking in the first place? Is it because they know you want kids, and are concerned about your happiness? Is it because they’re just nosy? Is it because they don’t have the social skills to know that it’s an inappropriate question?”
Susan argues that “trying to understand WHY someone is doing something annoying doesn’t justify their behavior, but putting yourself in someone else’s shoes for a moment helps YOU be less annoyed.” She added: “you can even think to yourself, ‘Wow, it’s really sad that they don’t understand how annoying that question is.’”
So many people just want cute babies and they have no idea what to do once the child starts developing a personality... that's why the world is full of totally messed up people.
Honestly, we should just call it something else in order to loophole this whole situation. That's what conservatives do when they find a tax law they don't like. They find loopholes. So let's rename abortion procedures as 'evacuating undocumented immigrants' that way when someone needs to go in for this procedure, they can say they aren't getting an abortion. And then these prolife (in name only because they don't care about life at all, really) people will have to carry signs saying they're against evacuating undocumented immigrants which will make their heads explode.
However, we need to remember that other people are going to do what they are going to do. This applies to all kind of things people talk about, whether it’s asking you “when are you having a baby?” or a whole other unrelated thing.
“We have no control over their behavior. You’re right, your Nosy Aunt Rosie shouldn’t be asking you these questions – but she just did,” the life coach said. However, Petang argues that “our expectations of others aren’t going to change the weather on Jupiter, so don’t get all bristly when people ask stupid or nosy questions – we can’t control them, but we can control ourselves and our responses.”
On the other hand, some people feel like they’re pushed into a corner. So in those cases, you may have no choice but to shut the nosy people down. It doesn’t need to be aggressive at all. “Address the intention rather than the question. For example, the woman in the story could say to her brother, ‘That’s something I love about you – you’re so concerned about my happiness!’ (Note that she hasn’t answered the nosy question.)”
Petang added that another great response would be, “You seem like you really want us to have a baby!” Then let them explain their question. “You can also come right out and ask, ‘Why do you want to know?’”
My mum whispered to me when I was 14 "you don't have to have kids. It's one option in a life where you're the first generation to live many options. If you choose to have kids it's a lifelong option even if they die before you. If you choose not to have kids it's a lifelong choice that opens up so many options, the possibilities are limitless." She also added that if she had her life over, and born in my generation, GenX, she would not have had kids. I took her advice. We're still very close :)
Tattoos can be removed, or changed into something you like better. Kids, not so much.
Me too! There's so much fun in other aisles with more interesting products to buy than wearable toilet paper.
Y'all could afford babies, uh, no. Raising kids is insanely expensive. It's already expensive even before the kid is born with all prenatal care and buying all sorts of things for the baby. And that's just for the baby stuff. Let alone the cost of giving birth and postnatal care for the mom.
It’s sadly true yet this is so funny that I am now going to animate this into a commercial. Here is the link to it: https://chinmayeekalghatgi.wixsite.com/starryskies/post/_kids. Apologies if there is any background noise since there was something going on in my house when recording
I'm in the second generation that was able to get birth control pills: never had kids and never regretted it.
lol "clones" im gonna say that to everyone who talks about their children now
This Be The Verse BY PHILIP LARKIN They f**k you up, your mum and dad. They may not mean to, but they do. They fill you with the faults they had And add some extra, just for you. But they were f****d up in their turn By fools in old-style hats and coats, Who half the time were soppy-stern And half at one another’s throats. Man hands on misery to man. It deepens like a coastal shelf. Get out as early as you can, And don’t have any kids yourself.
Lol! I often think something very similar to this. I know my nannas would have been very disappointed I never had kids. Sorry Nans!!
Is there some largess of people changing their minds? I think maybe, yes, occasionally someone might change their minds because their situation has changed or- more often than not- they are pressured into it by a partner or family. But most people who do not want children don't just magically change their minds. Why is this the response from so many people? It's like they just can't compute not wanting kids so it must only be a temporary situation and you're going to change your mind. And it happens a lot with people who are CLEARLY unhappy as parents. Yes they love their kids but they don't seem especially happy on a regular basis. But they pimp having children anyway. They aren't happy unless you are as unhappy as them.
I hate the argument "but you'll never have a family." A spouse is a family! A cat is a family!! You own dust bunnies are family. You can be a family without having to reproduce. Ridiculous.
Dad of one here, she’s 11, she’s awesome, wouldn’t change her for anything. I love being a Dad, I love my daughter. Now is that something I believe should be forced on anyone? Nope. Are there many ways to enjoy your life? Yep. Do all of those ways require you to procreate? Hell no. You do you, I’ll do me, we will get along just fine.
I’m only 12 and when I was younger I wanted 10 kids. Then I realized that’s f*****g insane and I said I wanted 4 children. Now I’m considering the fact that I don’t have to have children. I just always thought I did because my mom would always say “I’m proud of you as long as you bring me grandchildren” and I saw other women having children right after they get married. I still love children and I still babysit but I just don’t think I want kids of my own. To raise and be responsible for. I have dreams to travel the world and stuff. And I just don’t want kids. I know I’m young and I’ll probably change my mind so nothing is confirmed.
Don't people get tired of all this BS? Want kids? Good for you! Don't want kids? Good for you! Good God, there are posts about "the joys of not having kids" every. single. week.
When I was told by my doctor that I couldn't have children, it was like all my birthdays and christmases at once! :-D
I work at a school and my office is directly by the Grade 1 classrooms and playground (6/7 year olds). Listening to them is the best birth control - I could not handle a 6 year old. These kids stand outside - perfectly sunny summer afternoon - and sing “rain, rain, go away”. Whuuu?
I was in my early thirties and single, a new homeowner who wants to fix up her house and maybe do a little traveling. The last man I was even remotely interested in had been killed by cancer. A client at my home daycare says 'so when are you going to start having kids?' I just said erm...ah...not really in a rush, not interested.' She says "You might want to get a move on, we had ours so that we will still be young when the mothering ends at 18." I said...."Yah well, I'm 30, my parents are in their 70s and they just helped me through the house buying process and then spent two days helping me move in. So...mothering doesn't stop at 18." C says "What about when you're old? Who will take care of you? Who will visit you in the nursing home." I say "I've worked in hospice homes, those people rarely saw their families. Also - I have no intention of going to a nursing home ever, without a family there will be no one to make me." She still insists that eventually I'll be lonely.
This is … very odd. I really respect individual choices and I’m completely sure that the “you’ll change your mind” brigade gets very , very boring. But I don’t understand why the rationale has to revolve around the idea that children ruin your life. We have young children and we still travel, continue our education and have lots of fun. Having children has been the best thing that has ever happened to me. It isn’t going to be for everyone, and that’s truly fine of course, and those people should absolutely be empowered to take a different path. But pretending all parents are exhausted zombies who are regretful of their decision just isn’t true and I don’t know how helpful it is to young women especially who might still be asking themselves the question
I'm 41 and still don't regret it. Kids aren't for everyone and not every woman has maternal instincts. We shouldn't have to.
I am 33, a cat lady (2 furry beasts), with tattoos and a desire for video games, wine, and free time to lounge around and do nothing. And in ten years I want the same, but maybe with more cats and more tattoos. No spouses and no kids for me. To each their own. But the moment anyone tries to shove their propaganda down my throat, the gloves come off.
Every time I see a pregnant woman pushing one or two other babies in a stroller, my immediate thought is "Do you not read the news? Have you no idea what type of world you're bringing them into?"
I don't regret for a second not having kids. Turned out I have chronic fatigue and chronic pain since age 27. A few years later, several autoimmune conditions showed up. Kids would have been torture.
I was at my dad's funeral and my uncle told me I have to have a son or our family name will die out. First, I'm 55. Second, I wanted to say, look around this room. You really think there should be more of these?
I think to some, probably the majority, children are a blessing and I actually love children, but I can honestly say that rather than feeling blessed that I don't have them , I do feel blessed that I don't want them. Mainly because I don't think I would have made a great mother and I enjoy focussing on other aspirations. But this is a sensitive subject for some, for those that want children but cannot have them, I can only imagine the pain, I'm pretty sure it goes beyond anything I can relate it to, like being told by your landlord you cannot have a dog. F**k you Keith and your stupid rental agreement...I think I digress.
Both sides of this are pretty weird. Just live your life and don't pester people about stuff... Makes sense to me
Mmm, abortion jokes feel shouldn't been on the list, since it's kinda 50/50 terms of reasons to do so. Other than that, decisions on if to have a child or not.... I can wait a couple more years before deciding... maybe a little more... :3
as a 30f with autism ( i still live at home ) im glad ill never have kids. im technically 1 myself anyway ( due to having the mentally of a 14 yr old) id probably strave the kid, due to my 16 hr a day video game addiction. i don't have time for something that cant be fed and cleaned up after, in 15 min. (my cats are mostly low maintenance, and the oldest dosnt even play anymore. just food and lap time is good for her.)
I don’t want children. For the past 25 years I’ve been lying that I can’t… So casual strangers who question my decision stop pushing their opinion on me. I still get the «It will happen you’ll see» about 50% of the time. After telling them I never wanted them and can’t anyway. The most infuriating are the «What if your partner want kids?». Well, guess they won’t be my partner? Why am I defined as a female that should procreate. My doctor doesn’t even want my tubes tied. «What if you change your mind?». Love. It won’t happen. I’ve never been more sure of something in my life. Let me be.
Just in case someone needs to read this...I'll be 45 in a few months and at one time I wanted a child more than anything but trying and failing for over 10 years helped me realize that just isn't in the cards for me. I became very withdrawn and depressed until my husband got me a chihuahua...he helped me heal and find purpose. Now I rescue chihuahuas and responsibility breed my healthy dogs so I can share my joy with others who need them as well ;) sometimes in our darkest hours we find light in unexpected places!
The government needs to start realizing that women are people and not objects, I may not totally agree with what others say on abortion but I feel it's a woman's right to choose what she does with her body.
I think the majority of parents with children just want more people on the same team. Team misery because misery loves company.
There is really no need to rationalize your decisions. Just do you. People will talk. They will b***h and moan over things that have absolutely f*ck all to do with them. Best to just pay no heed.
I had two children. They're both dead (she at birth, her big brother in an accident when he was 31). No grands, and I don't mind that at all. I don't want any "replacements" for the two children I loved dearly, and at the age of 70 now, I most definitely don't want to be dealing with shrieking any agers at all. I have wonderful friends the same ages my son and my daughter would be, friends who have a very large number of children ranging in age from 21 down to 3. I see them once a week, and that's as much child interaction as I ever want in my life. I'm not responsible for any of them, though I'd protect fiercely if anyone tried to hurt them. I have no financial obligation toward any of them, and I most certainly don't have to worry about any of their futures. They're being raised by terrific parents, all of them becoming super people themselves. That's enough. I also don't have animals because I can't stand having them, but that's a whole different thing.
I'm dissapointed by this post. I came here to find funny stuff, but instead I found a lot pro-abortion bullsh*t
Bruh, half of these aren't even childfree memes. It's an important topic, but damn, I came here to dunk on some kids, not debate the ethics of abortion 😮💨
I'm a dedicated loyal person, the marriage lasted way longer than it would have without my son. So now because it lasted 21 years I'm on the hook for way larger longer payments to my X, even with grown son out of the house. Payment for being responsible :/
I’m the oldest of 4. My youngest sister is 14 years younger than me and my parents are often not at home. If being a big sister and half raising my siblings has taught me anything, it’s that kids can be a blessing and a nightmare. I have no particularly strong desire one way or another. If my partner wants a kid or two, cool, we’ll have 2 max (non negotiable), if they don’t want any, that’s also cool, we can have a cat and a dog and spend our weekends watching TV and drinking wine. What I fail to comprehend is why some people want to force you to have kids. Or why some people want “kids of their own” like dude… you can have just as meaningful of a relationship with a kid that isn’t yours as with one that is. What’s important is that you try. When you meet someone with kids and then you want “one of your own” you basically say their kids aren’t good enough, you do t love them. Not the same way anyway. It’s kind of selfish and makes the kids feel like they aren’t good enough
If I ever have any kids, it's going to be through adoption. I have a few genes that future generations would be better off having less of. Asthma in a biological parent, for example, can make the child more likely to have it. Wouldn't wish that upon any child. Crooked toes, can be infuriating to run with because eventually they'll be rubbed raw and I happened to inherit that gene. Wouldn't want that for a child. Crooked teeth are thought to be genetic although they are a mild inconvenience at worst. Still impacts looks. Wouldn't want that for a child. I inherited ADHD from two family members who have it bad. That's probably going to pass to a kid through my genes if I become a biological father. That's just the genetic side of why I'm not having my own child.
I have never wanted children. As a man, I get less grief about it, but less is not none. After years of unwanted, "helpful" advice, here's my advice: don't engage. Walk away. They will not ever understand. They don't even want to. They want kids, so you must. They need to change your mind to validate their own decision. Accept that they will do this, and let it go. Otherwise, you get upset and the turkeys win. Don't let the turkeys win. :)
My concern here is what I call the idiocracy argument. Those of you familiar with that movie. I am convinced taht the dumb people are the ones who breed and the smart people are the ones who avoid it, with the result that we're breeding a stupider human race.
I have three kids.. Yep, they make a lot of mess.. Kick me a lot time for fun (which I encourage them to do, of course..) But they make me smile in a lot more times. Hear me friends, it is okay if you don't want it now... You can postpone it for a year or maybe a decade.. No problem.. Just don't hate all kids or bashing all parents like they are dumb for not enjoying freedom like yourself. Life is a present.. Your problem is also a present which you can enjoy somehow.. Ability to ride the storm is in many way great and enjoyable..
My mother has four daughters, no son's, and I'm a lesbian, but my three sisters are bi, and my mom said "I know (dead name) isn't going to give me grandchildren, so one you better do it." She said this completely serious, and my older sister goes, "but I don't want children", my younger sister didn't say anything, and my youngest sister said "why would I want to put a child in this world? We are about to crash and burn." But oh you know, as long as you get grandchildren.
I’ve NEVER been part of a conversation where people ask these questions. This is getting so played out. My friends constantly badger me about buying a new truck cause mine is 20 years old. Should I write a giant post about it? No, because I don’t give a s**t.
I've never not celebrated someone telling me they want to be child free. Mostly because they're all pretentious tw@ts and one of them was more than enough.
Why is it not possible to just not have kids without insulting everyone? Why have derogatory names for parents and children? Just do your thing.
I don't feel comfortable making out that kids are the bad thing. Have kids or don't. No need for all the drama and resentment.
I just love all these people who love declaring their hatred for people wanting them to have children without realizing these people had children and their lives are better because of it. It's like getting pissed off when someone tells you about the best ice cream shop in town and you get mad at them "who said I wanted ice cream?!" Even more ironic when it's their own parents encouraging them. They don't regret having you, look at the bright side! You actually brought them more purpose and love than anything in the world. But "no, I'd rather watch Netflix alone all day instead!" And then most of you lie to yourselves when you're dying alone in 40 years, holding back the tears even though no one is there to see it.
Don't want kids? Ok, that's your choice and you're welcome to it. I do have one pet peeve though. As some who has both kids and a dog. Your dog and/or cat is nowhere near the same thing as having a kid. It's not even close and it's a moronic comparison to make. Please, for the love of god, just stop.
I hate the argument "but you'll never have a family." A spouse is a family! A cat is a family!! You own dust bunnies are family. You can be a family without having to reproduce. Ridiculous.
Dad of one here, she’s 11, she’s awesome, wouldn’t change her for anything. I love being a Dad, I love my daughter. Now is that something I believe should be forced on anyone? Nope. Are there many ways to enjoy your life? Yep. Do all of those ways require you to procreate? Hell no. You do you, I’ll do me, we will get along just fine.
I’m only 12 and when I was younger I wanted 10 kids. Then I realized that’s f*****g insane and I said I wanted 4 children. Now I’m considering the fact that I don’t have to have children. I just always thought I did because my mom would always say “I’m proud of you as long as you bring me grandchildren” and I saw other women having children right after they get married. I still love children and I still babysit but I just don’t think I want kids of my own. To raise and be responsible for. I have dreams to travel the world and stuff. And I just don’t want kids. I know I’m young and I’ll probably change my mind so nothing is confirmed.
Don't people get tired of all this BS? Want kids? Good for you! Don't want kids? Good for you! Good God, there are posts about "the joys of not having kids" every. single. week.
When I was told by my doctor that I couldn't have children, it was like all my birthdays and christmases at once! :-D
I work at a school and my office is directly by the Grade 1 classrooms and playground (6/7 year olds). Listening to them is the best birth control - I could not handle a 6 year old. These kids stand outside - perfectly sunny summer afternoon - and sing “rain, rain, go away”. Whuuu?
I was in my early thirties and single, a new homeowner who wants to fix up her house and maybe do a little traveling. The last man I was even remotely interested in had been killed by cancer. A client at my home daycare says 'so when are you going to start having kids?' I just said erm...ah...not really in a rush, not interested.' She says "You might want to get a move on, we had ours so that we will still be young when the mothering ends at 18." I said...."Yah well, I'm 30, my parents are in their 70s and they just helped me through the house buying process and then spent two days helping me move in. So...mothering doesn't stop at 18." C says "What about when you're old? Who will take care of you? Who will visit you in the nursing home." I say "I've worked in hospice homes, those people rarely saw their families. Also - I have no intention of going to a nursing home ever, without a family there will be no one to make me." She still insists that eventually I'll be lonely.
This is … very odd. I really respect individual choices and I’m completely sure that the “you’ll change your mind” brigade gets very , very boring. But I don’t understand why the rationale has to revolve around the idea that children ruin your life. We have young children and we still travel, continue our education and have lots of fun. Having children has been the best thing that has ever happened to me. It isn’t going to be for everyone, and that’s truly fine of course, and those people should absolutely be empowered to take a different path. But pretending all parents are exhausted zombies who are regretful of their decision just isn’t true and I don’t know how helpful it is to young women especially who might still be asking themselves the question
I'm 41 and still don't regret it. Kids aren't for everyone and not every woman has maternal instincts. We shouldn't have to.
I am 33, a cat lady (2 furry beasts), with tattoos and a desire for video games, wine, and free time to lounge around and do nothing. And in ten years I want the same, but maybe with more cats and more tattoos. No spouses and no kids for me. To each their own. But the moment anyone tries to shove their propaganda down my throat, the gloves come off.
Every time I see a pregnant woman pushing one or two other babies in a stroller, my immediate thought is "Do you not read the news? Have you no idea what type of world you're bringing them into?"
I don't regret for a second not having kids. Turned out I have chronic fatigue and chronic pain since age 27. A few years later, several autoimmune conditions showed up. Kids would have been torture.
I was at my dad's funeral and my uncle told me I have to have a son or our family name will die out. First, I'm 55. Second, I wanted to say, look around this room. You really think there should be more of these?
I think to some, probably the majority, children are a blessing and I actually love children, but I can honestly say that rather than feeling blessed that I don't have them , I do feel blessed that I don't want them. Mainly because I don't think I would have made a great mother and I enjoy focussing on other aspirations. But this is a sensitive subject for some, for those that want children but cannot have them, I can only imagine the pain, I'm pretty sure it goes beyond anything I can relate it to, like being told by your landlord you cannot have a dog. F**k you Keith and your stupid rental agreement...I think I digress.
Both sides of this are pretty weird. Just live your life and don't pester people about stuff... Makes sense to me
Mmm, abortion jokes feel shouldn't been on the list, since it's kinda 50/50 terms of reasons to do so. Other than that, decisions on if to have a child or not.... I can wait a couple more years before deciding... maybe a little more... :3
as a 30f with autism ( i still live at home ) im glad ill never have kids. im technically 1 myself anyway ( due to having the mentally of a 14 yr old) id probably strave the kid, due to my 16 hr a day video game addiction. i don't have time for something that cant be fed and cleaned up after, in 15 min. (my cats are mostly low maintenance, and the oldest dosnt even play anymore. just food and lap time is good for her.)
I don’t want children. For the past 25 years I’ve been lying that I can’t… So casual strangers who question my decision stop pushing their opinion on me. I still get the «It will happen you’ll see» about 50% of the time. After telling them I never wanted them and can’t anyway. The most infuriating are the «What if your partner want kids?». Well, guess they won’t be my partner? Why am I defined as a female that should procreate. My doctor doesn’t even want my tubes tied. «What if you change your mind?». Love. It won’t happen. I’ve never been more sure of something in my life. Let me be.
Just in case someone needs to read this...I'll be 45 in a few months and at one time I wanted a child more than anything but trying and failing for over 10 years helped me realize that just isn't in the cards for me. I became very withdrawn and depressed until my husband got me a chihuahua...he helped me heal and find purpose. Now I rescue chihuahuas and responsibility breed my healthy dogs so I can share my joy with others who need them as well ;) sometimes in our darkest hours we find light in unexpected places!
The government needs to start realizing that women are people and not objects, I may not totally agree with what others say on abortion but I feel it's a woman's right to choose what she does with her body.
I think the majority of parents with children just want more people on the same team. Team misery because misery loves company.
There is really no need to rationalize your decisions. Just do you. People will talk. They will b***h and moan over things that have absolutely f*ck all to do with them. Best to just pay no heed.
I had two children. They're both dead (she at birth, her big brother in an accident when he was 31). No grands, and I don't mind that at all. I don't want any "replacements" for the two children I loved dearly, and at the age of 70 now, I most definitely don't want to be dealing with shrieking any agers at all. I have wonderful friends the same ages my son and my daughter would be, friends who have a very large number of children ranging in age from 21 down to 3. I see them once a week, and that's as much child interaction as I ever want in my life. I'm not responsible for any of them, though I'd protect fiercely if anyone tried to hurt them. I have no financial obligation toward any of them, and I most certainly don't have to worry about any of their futures. They're being raised by terrific parents, all of them becoming super people themselves. That's enough. I also don't have animals because I can't stand having them, but that's a whole different thing.
I'm dissapointed by this post. I came here to find funny stuff, but instead I found a lot pro-abortion bullsh*t
Bruh, half of these aren't even childfree memes. It's an important topic, but damn, I came here to dunk on some kids, not debate the ethics of abortion 😮💨
I'm a dedicated loyal person, the marriage lasted way longer than it would have without my son. So now because it lasted 21 years I'm on the hook for way larger longer payments to my X, even with grown son out of the house. Payment for being responsible :/
I’m the oldest of 4. My youngest sister is 14 years younger than me and my parents are often not at home. If being a big sister and half raising my siblings has taught me anything, it’s that kids can be a blessing and a nightmare. I have no particularly strong desire one way or another. If my partner wants a kid or two, cool, we’ll have 2 max (non negotiable), if they don’t want any, that’s also cool, we can have a cat and a dog and spend our weekends watching TV and drinking wine. What I fail to comprehend is why some people want to force you to have kids. Or why some people want “kids of their own” like dude… you can have just as meaningful of a relationship with a kid that isn’t yours as with one that is. What’s important is that you try. When you meet someone with kids and then you want “one of your own” you basically say their kids aren’t good enough, you do t love them. Not the same way anyway. It’s kind of selfish and makes the kids feel like they aren’t good enough
If I ever have any kids, it's going to be through adoption. I have a few genes that future generations would be better off having less of. Asthma in a biological parent, for example, can make the child more likely to have it. Wouldn't wish that upon any child. Crooked toes, can be infuriating to run with because eventually they'll be rubbed raw and I happened to inherit that gene. Wouldn't want that for a child. Crooked teeth are thought to be genetic although they are a mild inconvenience at worst. Still impacts looks. Wouldn't want that for a child. I inherited ADHD from two family members who have it bad. That's probably going to pass to a kid through my genes if I become a biological father. That's just the genetic side of why I'm not having my own child.
I have never wanted children. As a man, I get less grief about it, but less is not none. After years of unwanted, "helpful" advice, here's my advice: don't engage. Walk away. They will not ever understand. They don't even want to. They want kids, so you must. They need to change your mind to validate their own decision. Accept that they will do this, and let it go. Otherwise, you get upset and the turkeys win. Don't let the turkeys win. :)
My concern here is what I call the idiocracy argument. Those of you familiar with that movie. I am convinced taht the dumb people are the ones who breed and the smart people are the ones who avoid it, with the result that we're breeding a stupider human race.
I have three kids.. Yep, they make a lot of mess.. Kick me a lot time for fun (which I encourage them to do, of course..) But they make me smile in a lot more times. Hear me friends, it is okay if you don't want it now... You can postpone it for a year or maybe a decade.. No problem.. Just don't hate all kids or bashing all parents like they are dumb for not enjoying freedom like yourself. Life is a present.. Your problem is also a present which you can enjoy somehow.. Ability to ride the storm is in many way great and enjoyable..
My mother has four daughters, no son's, and I'm a lesbian, but my three sisters are bi, and my mom said "I know (dead name) isn't going to give me grandchildren, so one you better do it." She said this completely serious, and my older sister goes, "but I don't want children", my younger sister didn't say anything, and my youngest sister said "why would I want to put a child in this world? We are about to crash and burn." But oh you know, as long as you get grandchildren.
I’ve NEVER been part of a conversation where people ask these questions. This is getting so played out. My friends constantly badger me about buying a new truck cause mine is 20 years old. Should I write a giant post about it? No, because I don’t give a s**t.
I've never not celebrated someone telling me they want to be child free. Mostly because they're all pretentious tw@ts and one of them was more than enough.
Why is it not possible to just not have kids without insulting everyone? Why have derogatory names for parents and children? Just do your thing.
I don't feel comfortable making out that kids are the bad thing. Have kids or don't. No need for all the drama and resentment.
I just love all these people who love declaring their hatred for people wanting them to have children without realizing these people had children and their lives are better because of it. It's like getting pissed off when someone tells you about the best ice cream shop in town and you get mad at them "who said I wanted ice cream?!" Even more ironic when it's their own parents encouraging them. They don't regret having you, look at the bright side! You actually brought them more purpose and love than anything in the world. But "no, I'd rather watch Netflix alone all day instead!" And then most of you lie to yourselves when you're dying alone in 40 years, holding back the tears even though no one is there to see it.
Don't want kids? Ok, that's your choice and you're welcome to it. I do have one pet peeve though. As some who has both kids and a dog. Your dog and/or cat is nowhere near the same thing as having a kid. It's not even close and it's a moronic comparison to make. Please, for the love of god, just stop.