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“This Relationship Sounds Exhausting”: 50 Screenshots Of Relationships That Are Not So Great (New Pics)
While most people want to have a partner, almost everyone has gone through a relationship that has major issues but drags on for months or even years because no one wants to do the work of ending it. Indeed, in some long-term relationships, people get so used to their own toxicity that they overlook all the problems.
The “This relationship sounds exhausting” Facebook group is dedicated to sharing posts from people whose love life sounds, at best, tiresome and at worst, absolutely toxic. So get comfortable as you scroll through, upvote your favorites and be sure to share your own stories in the comments below.
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LakotaWolf (she/her) 7 months ago
If you have an iPhone, you can create a custom Focus where you can have your phone auto-respond to all incoming texts with this message as well >:D
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Bewitched One 7 months ago
I think they mean the thing they are talking about (expecting 24/7 access to someone else) is toxic
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Debby Keir 7 months ago
I agree - I used to be on call nights and weekends through my work, so was used to being woken or having to stop cooking to answer a query etc. I retired 10 years ago, and refused to even buy a mobile (I do have a landline) and also refuse to put an extension into my bedroom. You had instant contact when I was working, now it's MY time, so drop me an email and we'll arrange a time to chat.....
Arek Šašil 7 months ago
Is this supposed to be toxic, or... what? It's absolutely healthy and right thing to do. Are you supposed to be a slave to someone, who wants to be unnecessarily in contact 24/7? The other one has the problem then.
Bewitched One 7 months ago
I think they mean the thing they are talking about (expecting 24/7 access to someone else) is
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Crystalwitch60 7 months ago
THIS !! just this , I refuse to jump when people call expecting me to , it don’t work like that does it lol
Learner Panda 2 months ago
If you need me now - call. If you want to ask a question that is NOT urgent - text. If you are wanting to check in, share your day - text.
Richard Henderson 6 months ago
iPhones have night time/do not disturb settings. I don’t see messages arriving after 10pm.
Celtic Pirate Queen 7 months ago
I have made it clear to pretty much EVERYONE who has my cell # - MY phone is for MY convenience, not so you can bother me in the bathroom. If you want a call back - LEAVE A F*CKING MESSAGE as my cell phone is also NOT an answering service.
Huddo's sister 7 months ago
I was shocked when I heard a statistic on the news a little while ago that said 90% of Australians with phones have some sort of tracking app installed, connected to parents, partners etc. It is so easy for this to become part of a toxic/a*****e relationship. You shouldn't need to be tracked everywhere you go.
Bacon Tentacles 7 months ago
I don't think you have to be dating or in a relationship to experience this one. 100%
April Pickett 7 months ago
If you're not on my contact list, or a call I've been expecting, I do not answer.
Arek Šašil 7 months ago
What if it was some sort of emergency? You never know who calls and what it might be. Not picking up calls is irresponsible and childish. I always pick up and when it's just some nonsense bothering me, I can hang up immediately. Better safe than sorry.
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Gunný Petersen 7 months ago
My ex just absolutely could not live with the thaught that I had a life without him before we met at 18! It was exhausting for 9.5 years and a baby! God he was so f*****g annoying!!
It's hard to see, when you are so immersed in a relationship, the ways in which it slowly erodes your sense of self. A sign is if your partner's teasing or jokes consistently leave you feeling diminished, what they call "just kidding" really takes away from your self-confidence over time. You attribute it to a sensitive mood or laugh it off at the time, never stopping to think that every jibe is reinforcing the perception that your feelings or thoughts aren't worth considering.
Another red flag is uneven affection. You'll catch yourself over and over again chasing the flattery and admiration that come in spurts, in one day, you're swimming in compliments and grand gestures, but the next, you're faced with cold silence or rebuke. This roller-coaster of acceptance sets you up to cling to the ups and suffer the downs, so emotional whiplash becomes normal until you've lost track of how bad things have become.
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Debbie Ryan (Deb) 7 months ago
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A toxic partner often remodels reality to suit their purposes. You catch yourself apologizing for something you had no part in, justifying your recollection of the facts, or doubting your own recollections because they say "that never happened" or "you're inventing things." This gaslighting is intended to turn your trust in your own judgment around and have you questioning it constantly, looking to them to provide you with the "true" version of what transpired.
Isolation may creep in under the guise of concern or loyalty. It might start out sounding innocent, "Why go out without me?" or "We're a team, why hang out with them?", but your world closes in over time as they tap into your family, friends, or activities. You are constantly canceling plans without knowing your world is getting smaller until one day you realize that you have lost sight of the people who used to build you up.
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Saint_Zipcodus 7 months ago
Not my personal relationship goal, but as long as everybody is consenting, I don't see a problem.
Boundary-violating pretensions of affection are another subtle symptom. Perhaps they need to know all that you're thinking or must review your phone "so they can be closer." It seems intimate at first, like a treat, but before long it becomes intrusive. You find yourself deleting texts, concealing certain conversations, and buying into the idea that openness means they can intrude upon your private life.
Small but persistent acts of power, like deciding where you'll eat, what you'll wear, or what you'll post to social media, might seem small when taken on their own, but in total they represent a small glimpse of a bigger war over control. You might brush it off as: "I'm just indecisive," or "They have really great taste," but the cumulative effect is that your own desires are swept under the rug and you end up questioning what you even want.
#16
Brier Random 7 months ago
But arguing isn’t inherently “toxic”. It can be healthy, open, and a great way for couples to work through their issues.
Finally, look at how conflicts are resolved. In a healthy relationship, disputes end with both parties consenting to understand or compromise. In a toxic one, battles always become circular, continually cycling back and forth to fault-finding, from the issue in front of you to your partner's flaws. You begin sidestepping safe subjects instead of speaking truthfully, and before long you stop speaking up altogether, because it's just easier to be quiet than to endure another iteration of blame.
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Lost Panda 7 months ago
Reminds me of the time that the Google Assistant or whatever it was before Gemini used to give those examples of things to say. It said: Try "Call Pamela". I don't know a Pamela, have never known a Pamela... Wife instantly starts accusing me of cheating with someone name Pamela... Because of stupid random suggestions made by a phone...
#20
When you're repeating these patterns day after day, they become so normal. Noticing how you feel afterward, depleted rather than revitalized, uneasy rather than secure, can warn you that something is not right. A relationship should ground you, not have you wondering if you're losing your mind or your self-worth. Developing this awareness of these subtle cues is the first step back to recovering your voice and being an active participant in the type of partnership in which both people feel considered and free.
#22
Wild Cream 7 months ago
As a sober person I really love meeting other sober friends :) no judgment to drinkers but it’s always a relief to know I have one more friend to do sober stuff with. (I’m definitely California sober haha I just don’t drink)
#23
Kristiina Männiste 7 months ago
ex: i still love you. me: you are skipping your meds again arent you??
#25
Lukas (he/him, it/its) 7 months ago
My partner and I would do something like that lol- actually let me send this to them
#29
Dove Bradshaw 7 months ago
Leave, he wants his cake and cookies but doesn't want you to get any.
#31
LakotaWolf (she/her) 7 months ago
"My wife hates being surprised so I keep on doing it to her! Hilarious!"
#33
LakotaWolf (she/her) 7 months ago
I actually had a wonderful father, so I did the (weird) opposite even though I'm female. My mother was abus!ve to me for my entire childhood (in every way you can abuse a child) and is narcissistic, controlling, and is very "my way or the highway". I ended up dating a guy who is JUST like her. I was 18 when I met him and what I thought was attractively cool confidence was actually narcissistic self-centered a-hole-ism XD 24 years later I'm finally free...
#34
Kristiina Männiste 7 months ago
Well she discovered her ex bf was a cheater before he could bring a STI home for her so that is actually a win.😄
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#40
Family's_disappointment 7 months ago
This sounds like my thing 🫣 Sorry. But please everyone don't take any offence
#43
LakotaWolf (she/her) 7 months ago
I'm not entirely sure what's going on here, but I'm assuming Gray Text is saying that Teal Text visited all those sites themselves in order to have them show up in Gray Text's phone history so that Teal Text could accuse Gray Text of cheating? (I'm not saying that's what actually happened as I don't know the situation, but I'm trying to interpret what Gray Text is saying.)
#49
Family's_disappointment 7 months ago (edited)
Airhead. Knucklehead. D|mw|t. Fused out Tubelight. Dumba$s. Moron. Imbe¢ile.
#54
Kristiina Männiste 7 months ago
Love seems like a stupid thing to have in this situation, where you support a b*m who has the gall to kick you out of your bedroom for cleaning.
#59
Gunný Petersen 7 months ago
I would love to meet her in person and just a tiny bit mindfuck her with sentences she wouldn't like about something she would be extremely insecure about and loose my mind laughing my a*s of. What a world we live in 😅😅
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Beak Hookage 7 months ago
Misogynistic tripe. I was angry until I noticed the "goat lady" and "churns butter" part and then I just started laughing.
#67
Matt Blakeley 7 months ago
He wasn't mad about the lap dance. He was mad that his girlfriend was dumb and sleazy enough to go to a Chris Brown concert.
#74
Earonn - 7 months ago
Honestly, I would have found it very weird at age 7 if any parental figure had bitten my butt. But honestly, this is a s**t situation. How many girls got molested because the family believed the man? How many men (and women) lost their family although they had no evil intentions? That's the point - rapi*sts and child mole*sters hurt more than just their victims.
#75
Gunný Petersen 7 months ago
That would be my ex if he was a girl. Horrible. jelous and insecure man child. Not my fault you saw your mom cheating on your dad when you were a child. So not all females close to you are cheaters you fuckedyfuck!
#79
Kristiina Männiste 7 months ago
I recommend an o**y against the jealousy, every time your fiance stays out. Should fix the issue.
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#81
LakotaWolf (she/her) 7 months ago
I feel like this is actually some kind of disgusting semi-incel "categorization" of "females" created by a man, but ngl, the "Gamer Girl" archetype is pretty close to me :p
#84
Kristiina Männiste 7 months ago
Lol I do not even like sexting the guys I sleep with, no way Im going to do that just to get a free ride or help moving the furniture😂 My sexting skills are way more valuable than those basic, super easy jobs.
#85
LakotaWolf (she/her) 7 months ago
...why though? Serious question, trying to understand the logic of it.
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#91
LakotaWolf (she/her) 7 months ago
Yeah, that's definitely an exhausting-sounding relationship :x I'm adopted, but my mother has definitely used the "I wish we never adopted you" line on me more than a few times :p
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Mel in Georgia 7 months ago
I had to stop reading these halfway through. I can't imagine dating in today's world. There are some messed up people with the weirdest, most destructive ideas out there ...
Boris Long-Johnson 7 months ago
I didn’t even make it that far but god I’m glad me and my partner have what I saw as a “normal” “boring” relationship where we actually care for each other and discuss any issues.
Load More Replies... Beak Hookage 7 months ago
Getting MAJOR "the straights are not okay" vibes off this one. I couldn't finish it.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 7 months ago
I know one straight who isn't okay (my ex, haha.) So many of these remind me of him and his borderline-abus!ve behaviors and attitudes. Sometimes I think back to how he used to demand ànal séx from me. That's all he wanted to have. He expected me to "practice" stretching myself so that I was "ready" for it and didn't give a sh!t that I did not want to have ànal, nor did I enjoy ànal, though I tried for years to endure it with no complaints because I knew HE wanted it. Yet if I wanted to do anything like touch his n!pples, his heiny (not insert anything into it, just TOUCH his patootie), or touch anything that wasn't his whing-dang-doodle, it was an instant NOPE with homophobic overtones. My dude, if your girlfriend touches your nips or your heineken, it won't make you gay XD
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Mel in Georgia 7 months ago
I had to stop reading these halfway through. I can't imagine dating in today's world. There are some messed up people with the weirdest, most destructive ideas out there ...
Boris Long-Johnson 7 months ago
I didn’t even make it that far but god I’m glad me and my partner have what I saw as a “normal” “boring” relationship where we actually care for each other and discuss any issues.
Load More Replies... Beak Hookage 7 months ago
Getting MAJOR "the straights are not okay" vibes off this one. I couldn't finish it.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 7 months ago
I know one straight who isn't okay (my ex, haha.) So many of these remind me of him and his borderline-abus!ve behaviors and attitudes. Sometimes I think back to how he used to demand ànal séx from me. That's all he wanted to have. He expected me to "practice" stretching myself so that I was "ready" for it and didn't give a sh!t that I did not want to have ànal, nor did I enjoy ànal, though I tried for years to endure it with no complaints because I knew HE wanted it. Yet if I wanted to do anything like touch his n!pples, his heiny (not insert anything into it, just TOUCH his patootie), or touch anything that wasn't his whing-dang-doodle, it was an instant NOPE with homophobic overtones. My dude, if your girlfriend touches your nips or your heineken, it won't make you gay XD
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