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“This Relationship Sounds Exhausting”: 50 Screenshots Of Relationships That Are Not So Great (New Pics)
While most people want to have a partner, almost everyone has gone through a relationship that has major issues but drags on for months or even years because no one wants to do the work of ending it. Indeed, in some long-term relationships, people get so used to their own toxicity that they overlook all the problems.
The “This relationship sounds exhausting” Facebook group is dedicated to sharing posts from people whose love life sounds, at best, tiresome and at worst, absolutely toxic. So get comfortable as you scroll through, upvote your favorites and be sure to share your own stories in the comments below.
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It's hard to see, when you are so immersed in a relationship, the ways in which it slowly erodes your sense of self. A sign is if your partner's teasing or jokes consistently leave you feeling diminished, what they call "just kidding" really takes away from your self-confidence over time. You attribute it to a sensitive mood or laugh it off at the time, never stopping to think that every jibe is reinforcing the perception that your feelings or thoughts aren't worth considering.
Another red flag is uneven affection. You'll catch yourself over and over again chasing the flattery and admiration that come in spurts, in one day, you're swimming in compliments and grand gestures, but the next, you're faced with cold silence or rebuke. This roller-coaster of acceptance sets you up to cling to the ups and suffer the downs, so emotional whiplash becomes normal until you've lost track of how bad things have become.
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Debbie Ryan (Deb) 2 weeks ago
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A toxic partner often remodels reality to suit their purposes. You catch yourself apologizing for something you had no part in, justifying your recollection of the facts, or doubting your own recollections because they say "that never happened" or "you're inventing things." This gaslighting is intended to turn your trust in your own judgment around and have you questioning it constantly, looking to them to provide you with the "true" version of what transpired.
Isolation may creep in under the guise of concern or loyalty. It might start out sounding innocent, "Why go out without me?" or "We're a team, why hang out with them?", but your world closes in over time as they tap into your family, friends, or activities. You are constantly canceling plans without knowing your world is getting smaller until one day you realize that you have lost sight of the people who used to build you up.
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Saint_Zipcodus 2 weeks ago
Not my personal relationship goal, but as long as everybody is consenting, I don't see a problem.
Boundary-violating pretensions of affection are another subtle symptom. Perhaps they need to know all that you're thinking or must review your phone "so they can be closer." It seems intimate at first, like a treat, but before long it becomes intrusive. You find yourself deleting texts, concealing certain conversations, and buying into the idea that openness means they can intrude upon your private life.
Small but persistent acts of power, like deciding where you'll eat, what you'll wear, or what you'll post to social media, might seem small when taken on their own, but in total they represent a small glimpse of a bigger war over control. You might brush it off as: "I'm just indecisive," or "They have really great taste," but the cumulative effect is that your own desires are swept under the rug and you end up questioning what you even want.
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Brier Random 2 weeks ago
But arguing isn’t inherently “toxic”. It can be healthy, open, and a great way for couples to work through their issues.
Finally, look at how conflicts are resolved. In a healthy relationship, disputes end with both parties consenting to understand or compromise. In a toxic one, battles always become circular, continually cycling back and forth to fault-finding, from the issue in front of you to your partner's flaws. You begin sidestepping safe subjects instead of speaking truthfully, and before long you stop speaking up altogether, because it's just easier to be quiet than to endure another iteration of blame.
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Lost Panda 2 weeks ago
Reminds me of the time that the Google Assistant or whatever it was before Gemini used to give those examples of things to say. It said: Try "Call Pamela". I don't know a Pamela, have never known a Pamela... Wife instantly starts accusing me of cheating with someone name Pamela... Because of stupid random suggestions made by a phone...
When you're repeating these patterns day after day, they become so normal. Noticing how you feel afterward, depleted rather than revitalized, uneasy rather than secure, can warn you that something is not right. A relationship should ground you, not have you wondering if you're losing your mind or your self-worth. Developing this awareness of these subtle cues is the first step back to recovering your voice and being an active participant in the type of partnership in which both people feel considered and free.
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JD 2 weeks ago
That's me, and I don't actually care, I never have. But I'm smart enough NOT to put that in my bio because nobody reads "non-drinker" without thinking "uptight, and no fun" along with it. But if they meet you first and find out you can be anywhere alcohol is served, you just won't be having any or caring who does, it tends to go better.
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Kristiina Männiste 2 weeks ago
ex: i still love you. me: you are skipping your meds again arent you??
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Dove Bradshaw 2 weeks ago
Leave, he wants his cake and cookies but doesn't want you to get any.
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LakotaWolf (she/her) 2 weeks ago
"My wife hates being surprised so I keep on doing it to her! Hilarious!"
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LakotaWolf (she/her) 2 weeks ago
I actually had a wonderful father, so I did the (weird) opposite even though I'm female. My mother was abus!ve to me for my entire childhood (in every way you can abuse a child) and is narcissistic, controlling, and is very "my way or the highway". I ended up dating a guy who is JUST like her. I was 18 when I met him and what I thought was attractively cool confidence was actually narcissistic self-centered a-hole-ism XD 24 years later I'm finally free...
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Kristiina Männiste 2 weeks ago
Well she discovered her ex bf was a cheater before he could bring a STI home for her so that is actually a win.😄
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Family's_disappointment 2 weeks ago
This sounds like my thing 🫣 Sorry. But please everyone don't take any offence
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LakotaWolf (she/her) 2 weeks ago
I'm not entirely sure what's going on here, but I'm assuming Gray Text is saying that Teal Text visited all those sites themselves in order to have them show up in Gray Text's phone history so that Teal Text could accuse Gray Text of cheating? (I'm not saying that's what actually happened as I don't know the situation, but I'm trying to interpret what Gray Text is saying.)
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Family's_disappointment 2 weeks ago (edited)
Airhead. Knucklehead. D|mw|t. Fused out Tubelight. Dumba$s. Moron. Imbe¢ile.
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Mel in Georgia 2 weeks ago
I had to stop reading these halfway through. I can't imagine dating in today's world. There are some messed up people with the weirdest, most destructive ideas out there ...
Boris Long-Johnson 2 weeks ago
I didn’t even make it that far but god I’m glad me and my partner have what I saw as a “normal” “boring” relationship where we actually care for each other and discuss any issues.
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Beak Hookage 2 weeks ago
Getting MAJOR "the straights are not okay" vibes off this one. I couldn't finish it.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 2 weeks ago
I know one straight who isn't okay (my ex, haha.) So many of these remind me of him and his borderline-abus!ve behaviors and attitudes. Sometimes I think back to how he used to demand ànal séx from me. That's all he wanted to have. He expected me to "practice" stretching myself so that I was "ready" for it and didn't give a sh!t that I did not want to have ànal, nor did I enjoy ànal, though I tried for years to endure it with no complaints because I knew HE wanted it. Yet if I wanted to do anything like touch his n!pples, his heiny (not insert anything into it, just TOUCH his patootie), or touch anything that wasn't his whing-dang-doodle, it was an instant NOPE with homophobic overtones. My dude, if your girlfriend touches your nips or your heineken, it won't make you gay XD
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Mel in Georgia 2 weeks ago
I had to stop reading these halfway through. I can't imagine dating in today's world. There are some messed up people with the weirdest, most destructive ideas out there ...
Boris Long-Johnson 2 weeks ago
I didn’t even make it that far but god I’m glad me and my partner have what I saw as a “normal” “boring” relationship where we actually care for each other and discuss any issues.
Load More Replies... Beak Hookage 2 weeks ago
Getting MAJOR "the straights are not okay" vibes off this one. I couldn't finish it.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 2 weeks ago
I know one straight who isn't okay (my ex, haha.) So many of these remind me of him and his borderline-abus!ve behaviors and attitudes. Sometimes I think back to how he used to demand ànal séx from me. That's all he wanted to have. He expected me to "practice" stretching myself so that I was "ready" for it and didn't give a sh!t that I did not want to have ànal, nor did I enjoy ànal, though I tried for years to endure it with no complaints because I knew HE wanted it. Yet if I wanted to do anything like touch his n!pples, his heiny (not insert anything into it, just TOUCH his patootie), or touch anything that wasn't his whing-dang-doodle, it was an instant NOPE with homophobic overtones. My dude, if your girlfriend touches your nips or your heineken, it won't make you gay XD
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